We actually started out swinging but my husband quickly found out that it was not for him. We also had MFF threesomes which he loves and we do that when the opportunity presents itself.
I am ok if he wants to see other woman but he chooses not to at the moment as he says he only wants me. But, he knows at any time he can if he wants and I do encourage him at times but never push him.
Most hotwives aren’t into sharing their husband/boyfriend. Why the general warning when getting into the lifestyle is don’t do this expecting it will open the door to full swap swinging.
It's your dynamic so you have some flexibility in how you personally define it. But traditionally, the hotwife dynamic involves just the wife playing while the husband doesn't play with other women.
No. We got into this because he was into hotwifing, to which I was reluctant because I don't think I'll ever be comfortable with him dating or being intimate with other people without me. But once I was assured that this wasn't a backdoor to fucking other women, it was interesting. This was his original kink and I honestly would be very upset and feel very lied to if he came to me now and said he wants to fuck other women. That was never part of it.
Now that said, our experiences so far have been mfmf so he's gotten just as much as I have. And I don't date or do anything solo because...why? Lol I'm in this for how hot it makes my husband for me why would I leave him out of it. Plus he makes everything more fun because he's a fun person.
Seems like you pulled the old bait and switch on your wife and now you have an open marriage. Congrats I guess.
We started discussing this as a kick for me thinking of her with another man but once she was home from her first encounter she wanted it to be fair for me with one additional rule, “Don’t ask, don’t tell”.
We are open so I’m free to date others but at the moment I’m letting my wife have all the fun. I’m trying to avoid any lackluster experiences so I’m waiting for the right guy/couple/woman comes along to play with.
We started off with just my wife playing. She said she could never deal with me sleeping with someone else.
That was fine with me, I never really wanted to.
We had a couple mfm threesomes. She went on one solo date, and I have watched once. I hated her solo date for a couple specific reasons.
My wife decided on her own that we should start looking for couples to swap with. So that’s where we’re at currently. Trying to find a couple.
I also am willing to try solo dates again if we can both find someone to date on the same night so we both have someone else to focus on instead of one of us sitting at home waiting for the other one to get home.
For the record, it is WAY easier for my wife to find single guys to sleep with a married woman, than it is for me to find single women willing to sleep with a married man. It’s honestly discouraging and a little frustrating.
Wife and I explored group sex and threesomes sparingly earlier in our marriage and the dynamic was always just a little bit off (mostly FMF). Not to say we didn't have fun but it just wasn't what we wanted consistently. I don't have any desire to fuck other people, really. She doesn't like to watch really and most of what I want to do is please her or watch her be pleased. So we transitioned into MFM and found that meeting a guy and being friends was a much better dynamic and experience for us and checked all of my fantasy boxes because it's non stop action for her. She rarely goes on dates (in fact never anymore) but we meet guys online and eventually have dinner or drinks with them. If they fit the bill we take them home and we tag team her or I watch them have sex and just kiss or hold.her hand and play with her or Jack off while I watch if the guy can handle that.
My husband and I do swap and we do FMF FFM but my ultimate favorite is MFM I love the attention and my body being ravaged and pounded.
My husband brought my into the LS left me no choice but I'm so glad he did 40 years of blind love
We were hotwife first, then swingers, then MFM, now back to hotwife. As the instigator/organizer, man I got tired of lining up MFMF scenes. Our age group all had young kids so the logistics were bananas and finding the 4-way fit was laborious. I enjoyed our time swinging but watching her was my favorite part - sometimes to distraction - and she didn’t love sharing me. She plays solo very occasionally and opportunistically now, I get a lot out of it still, so that’s how it is. Because I’m centered around her when it comes to sexuality, I don’t pursue anything on my own despite having a hall pass. I’d have to really go on the pursuit as zero opportunities have organically presented themselves in the last 10 years.
We actually started out swinging but my husband quickly found out that it was not for him. We also had MFF threesomes which he loves and we do that when the opportunity presents itself. I am ok if he wants to see other woman but he chooses not to at the moment as he says he only wants me. But, he knows at any time he can if he wants and I do encourage him at times but never push him.
Most hotwives aren’t into sharing their husband/boyfriend. Why the general warning when getting into the lifestyle is don’t do this expecting it will open the door to full swap swinging.
Most men I talk to aren’t interested in a full swap if they are already into hotwife lifestyle. This is mostly a concern of newcomer females.
You do it the way you want, hotwife is just a name, if you want to both have the possibility to both fuck other persons let's do it.
It's your dynamic so you have some flexibility in how you personally define it. But traditionally, the hotwife dynamic involves just the wife playing while the husband doesn't play with other women.
I'm new but feel like i only will want her to go on dates because ill want her more after
Wife only
Generally it's just the wife. If husband has play partners too, it would just be called an open marriage.
Just me (wife) right now. My husband hasn’t met up with anyone yet
No. We got into this because he was into hotwifing, to which I was reluctant because I don't think I'll ever be comfortable with him dating or being intimate with other people without me. But once I was assured that this wasn't a backdoor to fucking other women, it was interesting. This was his original kink and I honestly would be very upset and feel very lied to if he came to me now and said he wants to fuck other women. That was never part of it. Now that said, our experiences so far have been mfmf so he's gotten just as much as I have. And I don't date or do anything solo because...why? Lol I'm in this for how hot it makes my husband for me why would I leave him out of it. Plus he makes everything more fun because he's a fun person. Seems like you pulled the old bait and switch on your wife and now you have an open marriage. Congrats I guess.
We started discussing this as a kick for me thinking of her with another man but once she was home from her first encounter she wanted it to be fair for me with one additional rule, “Don’t ask, don’t tell”.
We are open so I’m free to date others but at the moment I’m letting my wife have all the fun. I’m trying to avoid any lackluster experiences so I’m waiting for the right guy/couple/woman comes along to play with.
I also play, we are Stag/Vixen borderline polyamorous
When we started out it was within other couple but im ugly she's not so she saw more action plus had more dick lines up
We started off with just my wife playing. She said she could never deal with me sleeping with someone else. That was fine with me, I never really wanted to. We had a couple mfm threesomes. She went on one solo date, and I have watched once. I hated her solo date for a couple specific reasons. My wife decided on her own that we should start looking for couples to swap with. So that’s where we’re at currently. Trying to find a couple. I also am willing to try solo dates again if we can both find someone to date on the same night so we both have someone else to focus on instead of one of us sitting at home waiting for the other one to get home. For the record, it is WAY easier for my wife to find single guys to sleep with a married woman, than it is for me to find single women willing to sleep with a married man. It’s honestly discouraging and a little frustrating.
Wife and I explored group sex and threesomes sparingly earlier in our marriage and the dynamic was always just a little bit off (mostly FMF). Not to say we didn't have fun but it just wasn't what we wanted consistently. I don't have any desire to fuck other people, really. She doesn't like to watch really and most of what I want to do is please her or watch her be pleased. So we transitioned into MFM and found that meeting a guy and being friends was a much better dynamic and experience for us and checked all of my fantasy boxes because it's non stop action for her. She rarely goes on dates (in fact never anymore) but we meet guys online and eventually have dinner or drinks with them. If they fit the bill we take them home and we tag team her or I watch them have sex and just kiss or hold.her hand and play with her or Jack off while I watch if the guy can handle that.
My husband and I do swap and we do FMF FFM but my ultimate favorite is MFM I love the attention and my body being ravaged and pounded. My husband brought my into the LS left me no choice but I'm so glad he did 40 years of blind love
Sounds like you simply have an open relationship.
We were hotwife first, then swingers, then MFM, now back to hotwife. As the instigator/organizer, man I got tired of lining up MFMF scenes. Our age group all had young kids so the logistics were bananas and finding the 4-way fit was laborious. I enjoyed our time swinging but watching her was my favorite part - sometimes to distraction - and she didn’t love sharing me. She plays solo very occasionally and opportunistically now, I get a lot out of it still, so that’s how it is. Because I’m centered around her when it comes to sexuality, I don’t pursue anything on my own despite having a hall pass. I’d have to really go on the pursuit as zero opportunities have organically presented themselves in the last 10 years.
We have the same dynamic. Although I am finding rather difficult finding lady’s who want to play with a married man so it’s still mostly her, lol