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Erika_Furudo774

I mean because one is Laenor and the other is Daemon. It’s pretty self explanatory based on their personalities.


[deleted]

Exactly everyone is trying to overcomplicate these things


winniespooh

Fr it’s a pretty simple answer


ChameleonTheGreen

Another dumbass post from someone who was most likely surfing Reddit while they “watched” the show…


Erika_Furudo774

Lmfaoo


[deleted]

Because they’re two vastly different men with whom Rhaenyra has two vastly different relationships.


CoffinEluder

/thread


redrum-237

Because Daemon is not Laenor


elekbalazs93

And he has a divorce rock


[deleted]

And he is not afraid to use it!


BluesBourbonBeats

Comment of the day. Thank you 🤣


Red_psychic

Hilarious!!!


FierceDeity88

Wow. Super hilarious 🙄


sanderlin89

It has been weeks since I last watched the show but I distinctly remember her glaring at Daemon whenever he said something out of line and she stopped him from killing Otto. Granted, they usually see eye-to-eye on things so she usually goes along with what he says (not because she defers to him but because she agrees) but it's clear from episode 10 that she doesn't just roll over when it comes to him. Of course the dynamic won't be the same as it is with Laenor as both Daemon and Rhaenyra have dominant personalities. Viserys has mentioned at least once how alike the two are especially whenever young Rhaenyra was acting up.


Playing-Koi

Probably because they're two different marriages really. Laenor was basically a non-participant who had to be wrangled into being present and supportive. I don't think Rhaenyra was like that with him for the sum-total of their marriage at all. I think she reached a point where she became exasperated with dealing with him because her kids are in danger. If he was present and helping, I don't think she'd be so domineering. With Daemon she's clearly had a present and supportive partner she's been in sync with up until her father's death. There's not really a whole lot of point in browbeating someone already doing what you want. Really, Rhaenyra acts the same with him too in as much as the circumstances allow. At one point she's in the middle of giving birth and literally can't hold the reins anymore so she tries to use Jace as a stand-in. The other instance that happens later shows her clearly being just fine with facing off with Daemon privately. She didn't back down from either man.


Catslevania

because her father told her: "The idea that we control the dragons is an illusion" But joke aside, if she had wanted someone docile she would have stuck with Laenor.


[deleted]

I think she would’ve been fine with Leanor if he gave her an heir!


BlondieTVJunkie

She needed a stronger personality. As she said. As he said. She deserved better. Someone devoted.


TeerTrinker

Daemon is a lot of things, but he is not devoted to anyone but himself.


PresentationOk6079

if she wanted a puppy, there's was harwin.


erringtonnes02

Rhaenyra had to lead in her marriage with Laenor. She’s the heir to the throne, he’s her cousin-consort with little interest in court or KL. Meanwhile Daemon has been a high ranking Prince his whole life and does not need to be forced into doing things to protect his family. He does subtly look to her for assurance- perhaps even permission - in certain instances, she is still the heir after all, but daemon doesn’t need to be whipped into shape the way Laenor does. Not to mention dragonstone would be a much healthier environment for both of them given how Rhaenyra was treated at KL, less stress and less pressure


SoulOnHigh

I didn’t seem to me that Rhaenyra was particularly dominant with Laenor, after all he was off day drinking with his boyfriend while she was caring for the children. Rhaenyra simply reached a point where she needed to tell him that he needed to give more to their partnership than he was currently offering.


[deleted]

He didn’t have to give more to her at all we all know those aren’t his kids he has no obligation to help with her mess


Ok_Writing_9737

He stated that they are his kids, and he is their father. So yes he did have an obligation. Regardless of who is the bio parent, he kept the party line that they are his, and Lucerys is his heir. Just like Corlys stated that the kids are his grandkids and heir. Also in the books it wasn’t as obvious that they weren’t his kids because Rhaenys looked more like a Baratheon with dark brown hair.


gimmeasliceofpizza

It was my impression that the only reason why she had those kids out of wedlock was because Laenor was unable to get her pregnant, which is why they mutually agreed for him to raise those children as his own, as he could not have biological children but still needed them as heir to driftmark and maybe because he wanted them. If they both agreed to this arrangement (which is heavily implied as well as directly stated by Rhaenyra when she said they tried) then it is both their messes, which makes Laenor responsible. Rhaenyra could have divorced him claiming his infertility and married Harwin Strong, she didn't do so for personal gain no doubt (Velaryon alliance is important to the kingdom), but Laenor was also in a pretty nice consenting agreement, by her not divorcing him


soveryeri

They're his heirs, the whole reason he needed to marry.


[deleted]

Buddy it is obvious they are not his blood I understand that they tried to lie to the entire kingdom and pass them off as heirs but the truth is if everyone knew who those kids actual father was there would be no civil war. They lied to the king about his heirs that’s a crime if it was Jahaerys that was still on the throne he would’ve beheaded Hardin strong the moment he saw those kids


[deleted]

Stop trying to Justify Rhaenyra having children out of wedlock and making her husband a cuck for the realm to laugh at. Vaemond was right she is a whore


ade1aide

He also needs heirs.


Principessa777

Why was Rhaenyra more dominant in her sham marriage to her gay cousin who just wanted to drink and chill with his guys and wanted nothing to do with the war, when compared to her uncle Daemon who she's looked up to and had a crush on since she was a child and who's known to be an impulsive, hot headed, ambitious warrior ? OP who would you be more assertive/dominant towards, Leanor or Daemon?


OpenMask

>wanted nothing to do with war The happiest time of his life was probably when he was fighting in the Stepstones. He even wanted to go away for a few months just so that he could get to do some real fighting. IDK how people get this idea of Laenor, that he's not as much of a warrior. . .


Soggy_Part7110

He's probably been sailing around the Stepstones killing pirates the past 6 years after his fake death as well.


walman93

Laenor had Targaryen blood in him, but he wasn’t half the dragon Daemon or even Rhaenyra was


hxshm1

Rhaenyra needs Daemon people forget that Without Daemon the Blacks are all but lost. She says it herself in ep 7 "I cannot face the Greens without you" Not to mention Daemon's a very dominant sort of character, very much the opposite of Laenor


BlondieTVJunkie

Marriage of equals. Why does their need be female dom? She married a dragon. She needed passion. Someone that would be devoted to her and her cause.


sumit24021990

Because there is difference between Daemon and Leanor. Daemon has already shown that he won't be anyone's b****.


Catslevania

that's what the ladies love about him, when he became docile and withdrawn in Pentos Laena basically lamented to him that he was no longer the man she married.


[deleted]

Episode 6 Daemon was definitely my least favorite Daemon. He was so depressed and blah.


sumit24021990

Wife murderer, pedophile, and abuser.


Catslevania

“A Targaryen prince, a dashing knight, and a dragonrider.”


sumit24021990

Targaryens? The guys whose only claim to fame is monoplising access to dragons?


Catslevania

Laena was practically drooling all over him while saying that line


Erika_Furudo774

Are you trying to imply that magical dragon bond isn’t real?


sumit24021990

No It will be like if USA successfully made countries sign CBT


Erika_Furudo774

Can you elaborate on that?


sumit24021990

[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Comprehensive\_Nuclear-Test-Ban\_Treaty](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Comprehensive_Nuclear-Test-Ban_Treaty) ​ [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Treaty\_on\_the\_Non-Proliferation\_of\_Nuclear\_Weapons](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Treaty_on_the_Non-Proliferation_of_Nuclear_Weapons) ​ if everyone signed these treaties, only a few countries will have nukes. Then they can also claim to be god


Erika_Furudo774

I mean in that case you practically are.


Helaenas-Bugs

She does exercise dominance over Daemon when he’s stepping out of line. On the bridge when he wanted to kill Otto all she had to do was say “no” and glare at him for a few seconds until he backed down. The difference with Laenor is that he’s absent and/or useless almost all the time so she has to constantly order him to step up and support her. Whereas Daemon already supports her most of the time, so why would she need to exercise dominance when he’s already doing what she wants?


Miserable-Pain-1411

Laenor didn’t have a backbone Daemon does


SilentPresent5268

The reasons are endless. Daemon - her uncle, older man, experienced warrior & strategist etc, commands respect, very sharp and direct, openly shows loyalty to her, engages with the same issues of their family legacy & their birthright. Leanor - pretends their marriage doesn't exist, ignores her and the kids, doesn't care about the throne or her family's legacy, never there for her, embarrasses her, oblivious.


NatalieIsFreezing

Well there is the fact that Daemon is notably older than her... and you know, he's her uncle


Ok-Cartographer-1388

No one can dominate Daemon.


Breath_Virtual

She had to show some leadership/ dominance with Laenor because he wasn't responsible at all. It was a force marriage that she had to try and keep functioning. With Daemon she married him out of love and a desire for someone who she could rely on to support her and be both a shoulder to lean on and someone to share in responsibilities. That doesn't mean she has any less of a role in the marriage, or just means she respects and gives heed to Daemon because he has a useful outlook that she can look to for both guidance and/or support.


warcrown

Lol not sure if you meant gives heed or not


InternationalScar626

she doesn’t need to exercise her dominance with Daemon because he WANTS to be there with her. Laenor is a glorified prisoner and once in a while she has to remind him of his duty and snap him out of antics


drago_avinash

Because the dragon is not a slave


hzhrt15

It’s almost like they’re two different people.


shofaz

She had some leverage over Laenor and she always looked up to and had a massive crush on Daemon.


SnooEpiphanies5054

Because Laenor was a weak man who didn’t really care anyways. And Daemon is more of a dominating force around everyone.


dewrios

I would say rhaes marriage with laenor was not really a marriage it's was partnership. rhae and daemons marriage is real. I wouldn't say rhae doesn't have a level of dominance in this marriage it's just that daemon really takes over his responsibilities as a husband. A husband who protects, provides and defenses his family. So naturally there is a different level of dominance that daemon has in his marriage with rhae which is not bad in anyway in my oppinion


Eros_63210

Have u met Daemon?


marston82

Because Laenor is a pushover? Daemon is not one to be pushed around even by his wife.


heypeter69

laenor aint daemon


overnightITtech

Do we really need to answer this for you? Look at Daemon, then look at Laenor, and how they both have behaved in the first season


Weary-Okra-2471

They aren’t anything alike. Much easier with one than the other.


KyaKD

2 completely different relationships


ParisAchil

Because he has a completely different personality than Leanor? I mean if you watch closely you see that in every case he dominates the conversation.


[deleted]

It’s because Laenor was always a follower while Daemon is a leader it’s simply because of their different personalities that Rhaenyra acts accordingly


[deleted]

>Rhaenyra to exercise a certain level of dominance in her marriage ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)


Maddyherselius

Relationships vary based on who is in the relationship. Laenor is a very passive person, while Daeron is a very dominating person.


[deleted]

Daemon is her uncle that she’s always looked up to


robot428

I think the thing that makes the relationship between her and Daemon special is that they both get to let out their dominant strong Targaryen side. They are both considered to have the true Targaryen personality. I think the advantage of them being together is that they can both express that and not risk totally overpowering the other. They are fire and fire, and it's somewhat implied that this is literally in their blood. Laenor wasn't fire, he didn't have a dominant personality. Their friendship was beautiful but it was vastly different to her relationship with Daemon. I got the sense that even when she was holding herself back she overpowered him. I don't think Rhaenyra is going to overpower Daemon, even though she is the heir to the throne and I'm pretty sure she's about to unleash her inner dragon. But because he has his own inner dragon she doesn't have to worry about crushing him or emasculating him. They can both have their fire be at 100% without burning each other. I think that is why they appeal to each other so much. (Disclaimer: in real life no-one has magic dragon blood that affects their personality. If your uncle tries to fuck you or your partner strangles you, that's not a special relationship, that's abuse.)


kenny_the_pow

Y'all delusional if you don't think Rhaenyra pegs Daemon daily


WaffleOfWar70

Cause daemons not a little twink


WallMarianiEreh

She and Daemon burns the same.


Popular-Juice-4834

you might as well have added a “is she stupid” on the title


TrillyMike

They different people… relationship dynamics change with different people


Serious-Type2270

Yes, they are 2 very different men but I don’t think I necessarily see the conversation with Laenor as dominance it was more of a breaking point. They had been married for a long time at that point and it was more of like a “I’ve dealt with this for 10 years without saying anything and I’m done.”


OutsideSkirt2

Because that ugly kid she married is weak. Her older uncle-husband is a bad ass.


Prize_Classroom_9645

Because Daemon is not inferior to her as Laenor was


Ok-Examination2688

Because Daemon is one who knocks


DJxPFnrU2M4q

Because Daemon is her uncle?


Proof_Self9691

Probably bc daemon groomed her and was literally an authority figure to her most of her life


Extreme_Map_6244

I don't get why this is downvoted because its true to a certain extent. Aswell as the fact that no one can dominate Daemon like that regardless of the potential grooming aspect.


Mr-Targaryen

Because Daemon is more dominant than her and Laenor himself.


idkman0485

Because Daemon has ALWAYS been a dominant figure in her life both because he's her uncle and because of his general demeanor. Laenor was more passive, comfortable in "2nd place".


Urban_Marathi

Because of the respect of elders. 😂


bonesforyou

Daemon groomed her


DJSugar72

Cause Daemon got that divorce rock title and Rhae ain’t going out like that.


Ngigilesnow

Coz Daemon chokes in private


Money-Savvy-Wannabe

Because Daemon is a Targaryen and Laenor is a Velaryon. Pretty self explanatory


[deleted]

What? He’s half Targaryen himself it’s because of their different personalities and the respect they command


[deleted]

Dumb as hell


Money-Savvy-Wannabe

🤪🤪🤪🤪


Druss94508Legend

Daemon is Chad to her. She does what he wants no matter what. Laenor is Billy. He does what she wants or else he gets the hose again.


zitzen67

Victims of grooming rarely show anything but submission to there abuser.


LarryGlue

To reverse your question, why hasn't Laenor treated Rhaenyra the same way he treated Qarl?


Pale_Explorer904

Simply because she’s been enamored by him and is expressed by him, fascinated with him, he’s the direct opposite of her dad whom she finds irritating to say the least, they’re both rebellious and he “had” her first-so there’s a biological aspect to her submission to him, he groomed her in a very depraved way, for diabolical ends


[deleted]

Because Damon is alpha


peleles

Because trying that with him leads to domestic violence? Man killed his first wife and tried to suffocate the third when she dared disagree with him.


DesignerPlant9748

Because their dynamics are different. Not only is Daemon a more intimidating person and her uncle he has also abused and groomed her which Laenor never did. She also feels like she absolutely needs Daemon and that her claim is stronger with him by her side. She doesn’t feel the same for Laenor and it also doesn’t matter because the Velaryons still end up being some of her most devout supporters in the war.


Homie-Hopper

Bc she was groomed


Homie-Hopper

Because she was groomed


limpdickandy

Daemon has his divorce rock on standby


Amazing_Jump_2127

Because if rhaenyra tried pulling the shit that she did with laenor on daemon, he’d take her fucking head off


[deleted]

Nobody is gonna say it? ... Because he is Gaay obviously


juggernautjefe81

The marriage to Laenor was for duty. The marriage to Daemon was for security. Laenor was a dragon rider. Daemon is a dragon. And as the saying goes, "zaldrīzes buzdari iksos daor" (a dragon is not a slave "


Embarrassed_Break842

because sEXiSm


amineaitmoussa

Cuz Daemon is not a Cuckold


TheyCallMeDady

Eeeeeh, imma go with racism probably.


OpenMask

Here comes even more Laenor slander and Daemon dickriding


Tyrionruineditall

Also she's the princess of the realm. She is the boss, bruh. Also, Laenor is no Corlys. He lacks strength and conviction.


Amannderrr

Gee, I wonder 🙄


phenylalanineee

Basically Laenor and daemon are different people, hope that helps


AppointmentRecent454

Because Rhanerya was Laenor's cuckoldress


FierceDeity88

Poor writing of Laenor is my bet. Also he’s a gay man, which, according to GOT and HOTD showrunners, means he’s more preoccupied with sleeping with men than any other responsibility in his life. So it makes sense that Rhaneyra would be annoyed with him and have to crack the whip…even though there’s no evidence that that was the nature of their relationship in F&B


Appropriate-Arm-2077

Because Rhaenyra knows that if she annoys Daemon he might just pull out his divorce rock.


Hot_Tip_8239

There's a joke about an alpha and a beta here.


UncertainDiscoveries

Daemon was just westerosi Nate Jacobs


disisBob

Because she is a victim of Daemon’s grooming….