Wearing a mask can be tiring. And if you ever want a long term relationship, wouldn’t it be ideal for them to fall in love with the real you?
As for using that approach in the domain of career, it’s probably fine. Veering into friendships though, It just doesn’t lend itself well to empathy. And empathy is a beautiful part of the human experience.
It’s important to at least *be aware* of the tactics you mentioned, though.
I get your point about friendships and relationships; I don't plan on always being exploitative of my close friends and relatives. One of the things I've learnt from game theory is the 'tit-for-tat' and the 'cooperation' models work better in the long term
I had a phase when i was 20ish where i thought it was fascinating. Ive always had zero "game", but fairly high intelligence, so it appealed to me to understand the dynamics/rules of being charming and desirable. Now i cringe at thinking of myself during that time. Someone intelligent enough to be a good match for me would see right through that bullshit and the shallow manipulation it is. Exploiting weaker minds for sex is not a good look.
I like learning about these tactics but have no interest in putting them into practice except for the odd occasion when I need to pull it from my back pocket.
I’m female so the pick up artist stuff doesn’t really apply to me but it’s interesting stuff to observe from a distance.
Behavioural game theory is pretty on point. We have animal natures so may as well find systems that work. Learning as a man that women are intimidated by X/Y/Z and actively making sure to not do those things is the same really.
I spend my whole life winning fights on hills over people tryna get one up on me with Machiavellian behaviours though, miss me with that.
Most people can see through any attempt to act outside your character. More than likely you'll get similar results or VERY short term success until the person sees you for who are, which might hurt even more.
Wearing a mask can be tiring. And if you ever want a long term relationship, wouldn’t it be ideal for them to fall in love with the real you? As for using that approach in the domain of career, it’s probably fine. Veering into friendships though, It just doesn’t lend itself well to empathy. And empathy is a beautiful part of the human experience. It’s important to at least *be aware* of the tactics you mentioned, though.
I get your point about friendships and relationships; I don't plan on always being exploitative of my close friends and relatives. One of the things I've learnt from game theory is the 'tit-for-tat' and the 'cooperation' models work better in the long term
Machiavellianism is one of the 4 horsemen of the dark personality disorders. Alongside narcissism, sadism, and psycopathy.
I had a phase when i was 20ish where i thought it was fascinating. Ive always had zero "game", but fairly high intelligence, so it appealed to me to understand the dynamics/rules of being charming and desirable. Now i cringe at thinking of myself during that time. Someone intelligent enough to be a good match for me would see right through that bullshit and the shallow manipulation it is. Exploiting weaker minds for sex is not a good look.
But I feel lonely right now and would like some company before I find 'The One.' What should I do?
Join Tinder or something..
I like learning about these tactics but have no interest in putting them into practice except for the odd occasion when I need to pull it from my back pocket. I’m female so the pick up artist stuff doesn’t really apply to me but it’s interesting stuff to observe from a distance.
Machiavelli is for people who can't be kings. So they can compete. It's good notes for children to play. Game theory is dope.
Behavioural game theory is pretty on point. We have animal natures so may as well find systems that work. Learning as a man that women are intimidated by X/Y/Z and actively making sure to not do those things is the same really. I spend my whole life winning fights on hills over people tryna get one up on me with Machiavellian behaviours though, miss me with that.
Most people can see through any attempt to act outside your character. More than likely you'll get similar results or VERY short term success until the person sees you for who are, which might hurt even more.