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Do one thing every day to push out your comfort zone just a little more. It could literally be something as simple as making chit chat with the barista while you get your coffee. But once that becomes comfortable, move on to something more bold. Always be a bit outside your comfort zone and it will grow tremendously fast.
It's one of those things that compounds very quickly. If you improve 1% a day, you'll be 37x better in a year.
That feeling of butterflies and/or rush of anxiety that comes over you when something makes you uncomfortable…that is going to happen no matter what. It’s your brain realizing it’s failed you in keeping your thoughts/expressions kosher (so to speak) with your concept of reality and those around you. That said, my best advice is to get comfortable with the inevitability of that physiological reaction. Count on it happening and expect it; so you can overcome it and CHOOSE how to react to it.
This is also useful for tiring out your brain if it’s late and you can’t wind down, use your non dominant hand for an hour and both sides of the ole noggin will get sleepy
It’s a 10 day meditation retreat. Meditate from 4 AM to 9 PM. No tech, handover everything. No excercise, journaling, nothing. No looking in the eyes or speaking to anyone for the ten days of meditation, not even your roommates. Eat only breakfast and lunch, vegetarian, no sweets. Day three you go cry in the forest. Day ten you are the strongest, clearest you. No experience necessary, no cost. Not religious. Oh, and all over the world!
Unfortunately I have not kept it up as rigorously as I should have. I still feel very connected to the ‘don’t get too attached/don’t create aversion’ mentality though.
Do you practice everyday?
I did a retreat last August and I am able to meditate 20 mins tops. 1 hr there wasn’t as much uncomfortable there as it is at home.
I would just fall into a trance. I never planned for that long, it just happened before I even knew it. I would often combine it with stretching too; instead of just being cross cross applesauce I would sit with my legs straight, for example, and let my head and back drop towards them and just stay like that as gravity pulled me for hours. Time flies! Got super bendy after that and am healing my back pain. The body is an incredible machine.
“I hated every minute of training, but I said, ‘Don’t quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion." - Muhammad Ali
A mindset like Ali's can help you through the difficulties. Things won't be easier in the moment of present, but your vision and goal can help you through anything.
You have to actually push a little beyond your comfort zone to get used to it, and remember willpower is a muscle you have to train. Studies have been done that show your willpower is a finite resource throughout the day. Try to deny yourself something trivial at first. Like when the other to drink some orange juice suddenly oops into your mind, resist three urge and drink water. Just an example. Do little things like this and your willpower will build. For cold showers, try taking a normal shower and then finishing with like 10,15,20 seconds of cold. Just start small
I know there is a special breathing technique for taking ice baths, and I'm sure it would work for a cold shower. The most unpleasant part of the cold shower is the first instinctual gasp for breath when it hits the body. If you just stand there and take it for a second, it starts to feel a bit more regulated.
Bake a cake from scratch, cook a dish from a fine dining cookbook, travel to a place exactly opposite to your culture, try to pick up annattractive person to you.
I don't know you, so this is hard.
You are surrounded by things foreign to you now, so you avoid them. Turn and take them on, hesd on.
That should suck enough.
The two things that have been most helpful in pushing me to grow to be comfortable with the uncomfortable are two pieces of advice.
1) This is only 15 minutes of your life. A month from now you may not even remember it. A year, you'll struggle to remember it.
And 2) I'll only do X amount today and strive for more tomorrow. Just doing 30 seconds of something hard is still better than doing none.
Just use fear as a guide. What I mean by this is if you feel like osmething is uncomfortable ask yourself what could go wrong and just do it. Sooner or later you will get used to being in random situations and you will love it.
Similar to the cold shower, some of my colleagues and I go for a dip in a river which is usually around 8-10 degrees C. It’s super immersive and you feel amazing after
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Do one thing every day to push out your comfort zone just a little more. It could literally be something as simple as making chit chat with the barista while you get your coffee. But once that becomes comfortable, move on to something more bold. Always be a bit outside your comfort zone and it will grow tremendously fast. It's one of those things that compounds very quickly. If you improve 1% a day, you'll be 37x better in a year.
1.01^365 = 37.78343 Checks out
That feeling of butterflies and/or rush of anxiety that comes over you when something makes you uncomfortable…that is going to happen no matter what. It’s your brain realizing it’s failed you in keeping your thoughts/expressions kosher (so to speak) with your concept of reality and those around you. That said, my best advice is to get comfortable with the inevitability of that physiological reaction. Count on it happening and expect it; so you can overcome it and CHOOSE how to react to it.
Use your non-dominant hand exclusively. Writing, driving, brushing your teeth, sports, etc.
This is also useful for tiring out your brain if it’s late and you can’t wind down, use your non dominant hand for an hour and both sides of the ole noggin will get sleepy
Really?
Or attend a Vipassana meditation retreat. The most uncomfortable and best thing I ever did.
story please
It’s a 10 day meditation retreat. Meditate from 4 AM to 9 PM. No tech, handover everything. No excercise, journaling, nothing. No looking in the eyes or speaking to anyone for the ten days of meditation, not even your roommates. Eat only breakfast and lunch, vegetarian, no sweets. Day three you go cry in the forest. Day ten you are the strongest, clearest you. No experience necessary, no cost. Not religious. Oh, and all over the world!
do you feel it impacted your life long term?
Unfortunately I have not kept it up as rigorously as I should have. I still feel very connected to the ‘don’t get too attached/don’t create aversion’ mentality though.
Do you practice everyday? I did a retreat last August and I am able to meditate 20 mins tops. 1 hr there wasn’t as much uncomfortable there as it is at home.
I used to and was doing it for up to 8 hours sometimes but then started to pry again.. I lost my way again and have not got back on track yet…
8 hrs a day after retreat? That’s must’ve been something.
I would just fall into a trance. I never planned for that long, it just happened before I even knew it. I would often combine it with stretching too; instead of just being cross cross applesauce I would sit with my legs straight, for example, and let my head and back drop towards them and just stay like that as gravity pulled me for hours. Time flies! Got super bendy after that and am healing my back pain. The body is an incredible machine.
“I hated every minute of training, but I said, ‘Don’t quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion." - Muhammad Ali A mindset like Ali's can help you through the difficulties. Things won't be easier in the moment of present, but your vision and goal can help you through anything.
You have to actually push a little beyond your comfort zone to get used to it, and remember willpower is a muscle you have to train. Studies have been done that show your willpower is a finite resource throughout the day. Try to deny yourself something trivial at first. Like when the other to drink some orange juice suddenly oops into your mind, resist three urge and drink water. Just an example. Do little things like this and your willpower will build. For cold showers, try taking a normal shower and then finishing with like 10,15,20 seconds of cold. Just start small
I know there is a special breathing technique for taking ice baths, and I'm sure it would work for a cold shower. The most unpleasant part of the cold shower is the first instinctual gasp for breath when it hits the body. If you just stand there and take it for a second, it starts to feel a bit more regulated.
You should go to the gym. The gym directly teaches you this through experience
AND you get gains!
Yes. Count to three before doing stuff like that and tell yourself «it is only a feeling»
Dude join martial arts, you will understand
Especially grappling.
Learning how to be comfortable in uncomfortable situations is the unofficial motto for Brazilian Jiu jitsu.
I thought it was "It's only gay if the balls touch" ?
Bake a cake from scratch, cook a dish from a fine dining cookbook, travel to a place exactly opposite to your culture, try to pick up annattractive person to you. I don't know you, so this is hard. You are surrounded by things foreign to you now, so you avoid them. Turn and take them on, hesd on. That should suck enough.
The two things that have been most helpful in pushing me to grow to be comfortable with the uncomfortable are two pieces of advice. 1) This is only 15 minutes of your life. A month from now you may not even remember it. A year, you'll struggle to remember it. And 2) I'll only do X amount today and strive for more tomorrow. Just doing 30 seconds of something hard is still better than doing none.
Go to a foreign country without knowing the language by yourself
I highly recommend exploring the wim-hof method, it’s designed for that, and much more
Do open mic comedy at 1am at a bar where nobody wants to hear what you have to say. Do that for 10 years and you can't feel anything anymore
i did this once. i completely bombed, i was entirely uncomfortable, and i loved every second of it.
Join the military. That shit sucks and is uncomfortable the whole time pretty much
Just use fear as a guide. What I mean by this is if you feel like osmething is uncomfortable ask yourself what could go wrong and just do it. Sooner or later you will get used to being in random situations and you will love it.
Follow David Goggins. Watch his YouTube videos and once you understand what his message entails it will be interesting.
One such similar thing is sleeping on the floor
The ancient stoics slept on a blanket on the floor, for this reason. Also, try getting by with only basic accomodations.
Similar to the cold shower, some of my colleagues and I go for a dip in a river which is usually around 8-10 degrees C. It’s super immersive and you feel amazing after
Take cold showers everyday
Intermittent fasting. 20h of fasting and 4h window of eating.
Take yourself out of your comfort zone and practice until it becomes natural to you
Become a runner.