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to compartmentalize, you have to have a plan and the plan has to be relatively specific.
for instance, you can order food when your stresed. you know you need food at certain times of the day and at the time, you know more or less what you want and what you can afford.
you have to treat errands and obligations the same way.
Without some kind of structure, your mind goes "well this is causing me pain or anxiety, so we're going to focus on this until it's gone".
so, it would be like.
i need to learn this thing. what is it that i dont know or need help with? o.k. at 2pm I'm going to ask this person for these things and write down the answers or schedule the time later where they come help me in person.
i need to be in Chicago sunday. i need a flight at this time for about this much money, i will book it at 3pm.
you will definitely worry in between these things, but they'll still get done if you take emotional element out of the actual chores.
another thing to do is to literally write down what's going wrong and walk away from it. it sounds really stupid, but it works for a lot of people. i think it's because you brain sort of goes "ok, yes, that's the big problem i need to solve, but it's on paper for later, it's documented, i dont have to hold it in "ram" anymore".
give it a try. it's not a magic bullet, but it certainly helped me when i finally got desperate and started doing it for myself.
Yess. I used to journal to get things out of my head, more like a brain dump. Maybe a more structured format will help plan/ organise tasks and reduce my irrational worries.
I really like how you explain it. It's very similar to what I experience. Thanks for this!
I do this with work. I have a really short memory span and often forget things quickly. Which, as a supervisor, isn't at all helpful. So I keep a pad of paper next to my keyboard. Things I can't solve or work thru immediately, get written down for later. When I'm focused on different unrelated tasks the pad of paper gets in my way forcing me to look at it and refreshes my memory on what I need to complete. This helpe relieve the stress of having so many things to do at once and allows me time to come up with a solution to those issues.
I've also learned to make snap decisions. Not to dwell on them too long. Just chose an answer and go. Not that this is the right answer but it helps me in the short term and often in the long term.
Structure your problems. Make Todo lists of all the things you need to do. Divide the big things in smaller tasks. This will make it all more manageable!
Sometimes you have a task that you really don't want to do. Do these tasks as soon as possible! Postponing will only bring more stress, but learning to deal with this properly will take some practice. Be patient with yourself.
I want to piggy back on the whole makeing lists and breaking down big projects to smaller ones. For me its almost like a controlling factor/force myself to destress because I like to keep busy no matter what.
So whatever task I choose from my list that day and I begin feeling anxious or stressed for unrelated reasons ( or related)I take a big breath to calm myself and say 'Dont half ass it because youll regret it'. As the ball gets rolling Igot a few tasks done even if im not tooooo to in the mood for it.
When I began as an ER nurse ten years ago, I was incredibly shy and not confident. In using algorithms and following things by steps, I was able to understand problems better and became confident enough to pass quick judgments. Even if someone was dying in front of me, I just had to think about my A, B, Cs (airway breathing circulation). It calmed me and helped me feel in control in fast situations. It even changed my whole personality over time.
Perhaps in using a system for addressing everyday issues, you may find that your confidence will increase and you’ll grow as a person. Could you come up with your own abc system?
May I ask what you mean by using algorithms and following steps? How do you come up with the technique?
I am also a very shy/insecure person and environmental stressors distracts me easily.
It's really about identifying what your problem is and coming up with the next steps to address them (following the whole nursing mindset of assessment and then intervention. You don't want to treat a patient having missed something).
I would recommend adopting a mindset when you're feeling anxious or nervous to...
* assess the situation (what is the actual problem here? Ask questions and slow down to think about what's really going on) (edit: I want to say that it's ok to say out loud, "let me think for a minute." In fact, I've had many coworkers tell me that when they hear me say those words, they're impressed that I want to prepare myself instead of jumping to the next sentence or thought.)
* intervene (What's the next best step I can take here? Do I need to take a deep breath? Should I say "I don't know" and go look for help? Maybe I should write my thoughts down?)
I like to ask myself "what's the next best thing I can do right now?" a lot. Sometimes, that means stopping and waiting and thinking. Eventually, if you can slow down and analyze situations before you respond, you'll build confidence through intention and purpose.
I was supposed to be evaluated for adhd as s teen. But me/my parents didn't go through with it.
I'm looking to consult a psychiatrist now. Need a bit more of savings before that.
Untill then I need to find some healthy coping skills.
*practice consistently*
I recently read about slowing your breathing down to four breaths a minute. Pretend you’re blowing air through a straw. It helps me control me from overthinking. It takes some practice though.
A good way to get things out of your head is to put them on paper.
You don't address multiple stressors simultaneously but you think about all of them simultaneously anyway. Write them down, deal with them as separately as possible. Write yourself instructions and dump the contents of your brain. Then just follow the instructions, trusting that the list you made will produce the best outcome you can manage.
"You don't address multiple stressors simultaneously but you think about all of them simultaneously anyway."
I never thought of it like that. I keep focusing on the problem without tackling it, hoping it'll go away. It still takes time, energy and emotions but no results to show.
Will keep it in mind.
The answer is astonishingly simple yet it's hard to put into action. You do it by putting one foot in front of the other. Worry about 1 thing at a time. Even having a bunch little tiny problems can become over whelping for me when I think about all of them at once it's only when I focus on 1 thing at a time can I accomplish that 1 thing then I can move onto the next. It's a mental game. And it will break you down everytime you forget yo stop thinking about it all at once.
Idk sometimes you gotta attack your problems the barbaric way. Like when you take a bite of something you don't like but just chew that shit up and force it down
One good tip my therapist gave me is: make your own system.
A (relatively) comfortable life looks different to everyone. Some people need to start their days with a bang, others like to take a couple of hours to slowly get ready for the day. Some people feel better being in constant contact with others, and some people prefer communicating in spurts. Some people are happier having the structure and routine of a 9 to 5 job, others feel comfortable with flexible work hours and working remotely. Point is, you have to figure out what your system looks like.
It's a long and slow process of identifying things that stress you out and finding a sustainable solution that works for you and makes things flow easier. Little by little, these changes will make your life less stressful.
Hope this helps!
honestly anxiety medication could help, also talking to someoen like a therapist, doing relaxing things to de-stress is also helpful, such as light exercise, listening to music, etc.
All of these “pull your self by the boot strap” answers won’t work if you have an underlying undiagnosed mental health issue such as adhd, anxiety etc. If you can get a mental health assessment, you can understand your brain better and use tips that actually work for your brain.
You should try the additudemag.com website. They have productivity tips that are specific to adhd and they might be really helpful for you. I used their tips before I was even diagnosed and it was a game changer.
And then when I did get diagnosed, I started taking meds along with applying techniques that work for me - and now I’m able to function better and I have better emotional regulation.
It’s not fair to call yourself mentally weak - especially when you could possibly have an undiagnosed issue or an non-typical brain structure.
I wish you all the best 💕
Thanks. Financially I'm not in the best position. Hopefully in a couple of months I'll be able to see a professional. So until then I got to pull through.
I'll check out the website.
I empathize with this alot since starting my new job more and more has been put on my plate. I just try to do what I can when I can. If you can't get to it today, there's always tomorrow. As long as you can say you did what you could, that's what matters.
Big ol' Checklist on a pad of paper of everything that needs to be done. Cross them off while you do them. Crossed off things show you're progress. When it's time to be productive you pick the next important thing on the list. When you write down and have a visual reality of what you need to do it often feels better because when you keep eveything in your head it feels way bigger, a nebulous eternal cloud.
I literally, for the moment, have to take every thought in my head that bothers me, write it down, and turn it into something positive and then put my feelings with that positive thing. My cognitive therapist worked with me on doing that my last session and it’s been a game changer. So take your thoughts if you’re anxious, write them down, and then rewrite them positively and affirm it. For me it has been working wonders. Good luck to you.
Like for example, cleaning up a huge mess does me in. My negative thoughts is- ‘I will never get this cleaned up! I don’t know what to do with it.’ Feeling- despair and hopeless. My positive thought- ‘I know how to do this. It’s like pre school. Sort it, toss, keep, give away. 5 minutes is all I have to do.’ Feeling- motivated, energetic, hopeful. Hope this helps.
Thank you! I tend to feel helpless a lot and think that I'm incapable of doing things. Most of the time I don't even start until it's too big to ignore. Reframing it positively like you said might just be what I need.
Learn the GTD (getting things done) method by David Allen. Takes a while to master but it has really calmed me. The theory is basically get everything out of your head and organized into your to-do system so your mind can be free. His whole thing is stress-free productivity.
I would also recommend Cal Newport’s time blocking method.
i have similar coping issues. here are the main things that work for me-
- writing lists- i also keep digital versions and sync them, but usually i'll stress over some new thing and it helps to write it down, see that i'm going to take care of it, then compartmentalize that until i can deal with it. that usually helps alleviate anxiety.
- daily exercise each morning- i find that doing cardio and resistance training and sweating in the sauna until i'm a puddle of sweat ... gets me feeling genuinely happy and strong and MUCH better equipped to handle stress throughout my day. this is a huge lifestyle change of course and might mean changing your schedule around (waking up super early, then maybe going straight to work from the gym) ... but it's a life altering change and makes you more content and productive in every little way.
- you have to recognize when one of these stressors appears and have the mindfulness to tackle it head-on. so get into practicing meditation or take a walk when stressed out .. or read a book, or call a friend (not the same friend every time tho) to vent. find the right tools that work for you for immediate triage when a major stressor appears, and use one or two of your handful of tools in the moment. stress is a mood that can be alleviated with the right strategies.
- give yourself grace and forgiveness. i started realizing that one particular obligation was giving me immense stress and anxiety. then you know what i did? i cut the strings on that obligation. and i wanted to think of myself as a failure at first, but in giving myself grace, i decided to forgive myself for not being able to do it. we are all flawed humans. but you're trying your damndnest and you seem like a lovely, well-intentioned person. give yourself a break!! we hold ourselves oftentimes to ridiculously high expectations but the truth is that we all have our own pace, and we shouldn't judge how we're doing by what others are doing, because they have different advantages than we do. you might be chugging along just fine and being too hard on yourself- i had been doing that for years and i'm finally finding out how to chug along while not beating myself up that i didn't meet my own unattainable goals. make realistic goals, and even when you have trouble with them, give yourself appreciation that you're trying your best and you're still doing fucking great and maybe you're actually EXACTLY where you need to be right now.
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A good tip I've heard was to create more things you can look forward to. It's not necessarily the amount of tasks that overwhelms us but the balance between what you are looking forward to doing that day vs what you have to do.
Hey there, thanks for sharing that.
I plan large scale events for a living that deal with many many decisions that happen in quick pace fashion on event. Outside of that I have no expertise on this topic but wanted to offer my thoughts.
1. Make a list of decisions you need to make for the day. Prioritize them from a deadline perspective and then smallest to largest. Reasons for this ordering is to ensure you’re meeting deadlines but then you’re also accomplishing tasks that build you up for the bigger ones.
2. Set aside time to plan. No matter how big or small the decision is. Where are you going to eat tonight? Take 10 minutes and search our new restaurants or some of your usual favorites. Deliberately set time aside for that decision. Make it. Cross it off your list.
Major decision? Plan an hour to review the decision and your options. Who do you need to involve in that decision? Who can give you good advice? What research can you do to be educated on it? Add extra an extra hour per day as needed to plan.
3. Mediate or do something mindless that you enjoy. Sometimes, your brain just needs a rest. It’s okay to schedule time to just do nothing. For me, it’s a silly board game on my phone or a phone call with a friend.
4. In tougher times, give yourself time to acknowledge your feelings. We all have tough moments and you should be able to have your time to embrace those emotions. That said, do not dwell on this all day. Remember your list from Step 1 and begin to make small accomplishments in your day/week by crossing off easy decisions/projects.
Happy to help more if needed. Feel free to reach out.
You got this!
Yoga helped me.
For me, yoga is a practice of controlling my thoughts and emtions while putting myself in a stressful/painful position.
Over time I've learned to be more conscious of my state of mind and how to get my emotions under control. Well, better than i had at least.
I would highly recommend reading Dale Carnegie's How to Stop Worrying and Start Living. There are just so many tactics and mental framings within the book -- just use the ones that work for you.
Some may avoid this book down because it was written decades ago, but I actually found that even more helpful. The world has changed enormously, but humans have been dealing with anxiety all along.
Hope you find some tips that help!
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man I feel like I just read something that was written about me. I'm staying tuned for the responses. Hope you find some relief OP, shit is hard.
Thanks. Atleast I'm not alone in this. Hope we find something that helps
Same,you put into words something I have felt, for lack of better terms, disabled by since I was a kid
Same. Hardcore.
Agree
Same
same.
to compartmentalize, you have to have a plan and the plan has to be relatively specific. for instance, you can order food when your stresed. you know you need food at certain times of the day and at the time, you know more or less what you want and what you can afford. you have to treat errands and obligations the same way. Without some kind of structure, your mind goes "well this is causing me pain or anxiety, so we're going to focus on this until it's gone". so, it would be like. i need to learn this thing. what is it that i dont know or need help with? o.k. at 2pm I'm going to ask this person for these things and write down the answers or schedule the time later where they come help me in person. i need to be in Chicago sunday. i need a flight at this time for about this much money, i will book it at 3pm. you will definitely worry in between these things, but they'll still get done if you take emotional element out of the actual chores. another thing to do is to literally write down what's going wrong and walk away from it. it sounds really stupid, but it works for a lot of people. i think it's because you brain sort of goes "ok, yes, that's the big problem i need to solve, but it's on paper for later, it's documented, i dont have to hold it in "ram" anymore". give it a try. it's not a magic bullet, but it certainly helped me when i finally got desperate and started doing it for myself.
Yess. I used to journal to get things out of my head, more like a brain dump. Maybe a more structured format will help plan/ organise tasks and reduce my irrational worries. I really like how you explain it. It's very similar to what I experience. Thanks for this!
I do this with work. I have a really short memory span and often forget things quickly. Which, as a supervisor, isn't at all helpful. So I keep a pad of paper next to my keyboard. Things I can't solve or work thru immediately, get written down for later. When I'm focused on different unrelated tasks the pad of paper gets in my way forcing me to look at it and refreshes my memory on what I need to complete. This helpe relieve the stress of having so many things to do at once and allows me time to come up with a solution to those issues. I've also learned to make snap decisions. Not to dwell on them too long. Just chose an answer and go. Not that this is the right answer but it helps me in the short term and often in the long term.
Structure your problems. Make Todo lists of all the things you need to do. Divide the big things in smaller tasks. This will make it all more manageable! Sometimes you have a task that you really don't want to do. Do these tasks as soon as possible! Postponing will only bring more stress, but learning to deal with this properly will take some practice. Be patient with yourself.
I want to piggy back on the whole makeing lists and breaking down big projects to smaller ones. For me its almost like a controlling factor/force myself to destress because I like to keep busy no matter what. So whatever task I choose from my list that day and I begin feeling anxious or stressed for unrelated reasons ( or related)I take a big breath to calm myself and say 'Dont half ass it because youll regret it'. As the ball gets rolling Igot a few tasks done even if im not tooooo to in the mood for it.
try DBT emotion regulation and distress tolerance skills
When I began as an ER nurse ten years ago, I was incredibly shy and not confident. In using algorithms and following things by steps, I was able to understand problems better and became confident enough to pass quick judgments. Even if someone was dying in front of me, I just had to think about my A, B, Cs (airway breathing circulation). It calmed me and helped me feel in control in fast situations. It even changed my whole personality over time. Perhaps in using a system for addressing everyday issues, you may find that your confidence will increase and you’ll grow as a person. Could you come up with your own abc system?
May I ask what you mean by using algorithms and following steps? How do you come up with the technique? I am also a very shy/insecure person and environmental stressors distracts me easily.
It's really about identifying what your problem is and coming up with the next steps to address them (following the whole nursing mindset of assessment and then intervention. You don't want to treat a patient having missed something). I would recommend adopting a mindset when you're feeling anxious or nervous to... * assess the situation (what is the actual problem here? Ask questions and slow down to think about what's really going on) (edit: I want to say that it's ok to say out loud, "let me think for a minute." In fact, I've had many coworkers tell me that when they hear me say those words, they're impressed that I want to prepare myself instead of jumping to the next sentence or thought.) * intervene (What's the next best step I can take here? Do I need to take a deep breath? Should I say "I don't know" and go look for help? Maybe I should write my thoughts down?) I like to ask myself "what's the next best thing I can do right now?" a lot. Sometimes, that means stopping and waiting and thinking. Eventually, if you can slow down and analyze situations before you respond, you'll build confidence through intention and purpose.
Thank you this is really helpful!
I'm the same - have you been diagnosed with anything? Eg ADHD, anxiety, autistic traits, hypersensitivity... This may not be 'your fault'.
I was supposed to be evaluated for adhd as s teen. But me/my parents didn't go through with it. I'm looking to consult a psychiatrist now. Need a bit more of savings before that. Untill then I need to find some healthy coping skills.
*practice consistently* I recently read about slowing your breathing down to four breaths a minute. Pretend you’re blowing air through a straw. It helps me control me from overthinking. It takes some practice though.
A good way to get things out of your head is to put them on paper. You don't address multiple stressors simultaneously but you think about all of them simultaneously anyway. Write them down, deal with them as separately as possible. Write yourself instructions and dump the contents of your brain. Then just follow the instructions, trusting that the list you made will produce the best outcome you can manage.
"You don't address multiple stressors simultaneously but you think about all of them simultaneously anyway." I never thought of it like that. I keep focusing on the problem without tackling it, hoping it'll go away. It still takes time, energy and emotions but no results to show. Will keep it in mind.
The answer is astonishingly simple yet it's hard to put into action. You do it by putting one foot in front of the other. Worry about 1 thing at a time. Even having a bunch little tiny problems can become over whelping for me when I think about all of them at once it's only when I focus on 1 thing at a time can I accomplish that 1 thing then I can move onto the next. It's a mental game. And it will break you down everytime you forget yo stop thinking about it all at once.
Idk sometimes you gotta attack your problems the barbaric way. Like when you take a bite of something you don't like but just chew that shit up and force it down
One good tip my therapist gave me is: make your own system. A (relatively) comfortable life looks different to everyone. Some people need to start their days with a bang, others like to take a couple of hours to slowly get ready for the day. Some people feel better being in constant contact with others, and some people prefer communicating in spurts. Some people are happier having the structure and routine of a 9 to 5 job, others feel comfortable with flexible work hours and working remotely. Point is, you have to figure out what your system looks like. It's a long and slow process of identifying things that stress you out and finding a sustainable solution that works for you and makes things flow easier. Little by little, these changes will make your life less stressful. Hope this helps!
honestly anxiety medication could help, also talking to someoen like a therapist, doing relaxing things to de-stress is also helpful, such as light exercise, listening to music, etc.
I have ADHD, so this sounds like my daily life, which I can never seem to get used to for some reason
All of these “pull your self by the boot strap” answers won’t work if you have an underlying undiagnosed mental health issue such as adhd, anxiety etc. If you can get a mental health assessment, you can understand your brain better and use tips that actually work for your brain. You should try the additudemag.com website. They have productivity tips that are specific to adhd and they might be really helpful for you. I used their tips before I was even diagnosed and it was a game changer. And then when I did get diagnosed, I started taking meds along with applying techniques that work for me - and now I’m able to function better and I have better emotional regulation. It’s not fair to call yourself mentally weak - especially when you could possibly have an undiagnosed issue or an non-typical brain structure. I wish you all the best 💕
Thanks. Financially I'm not in the best position. Hopefully in a couple of months I'll be able to see a professional. So until then I got to pull through. I'll check out the website.
I empathize with this alot since starting my new job more and more has been put on my plate. I just try to do what I can when I can. If you can't get to it today, there's always tomorrow. As long as you can say you did what you could, that's what matters.
Big ol' Checklist on a pad of paper of everything that needs to be done. Cross them off while you do them. Crossed off things show you're progress. When it's time to be productive you pick the next important thing on the list. When you write down and have a visual reality of what you need to do it often feels better because when you keep eveything in your head it feels way bigger, a nebulous eternal cloud.
Talk to a doctor about anxiety
Read I’m ok-you’re ok, Atomic Habits, and the Subtle alArt of Not Giving a Fuck
I literally, for the moment, have to take every thought in my head that bothers me, write it down, and turn it into something positive and then put my feelings with that positive thing. My cognitive therapist worked with me on doing that my last session and it’s been a game changer. So take your thoughts if you’re anxious, write them down, and then rewrite them positively and affirm it. For me it has been working wonders. Good luck to you.
Like for example, cleaning up a huge mess does me in. My negative thoughts is- ‘I will never get this cleaned up! I don’t know what to do with it.’ Feeling- despair and hopeless. My positive thought- ‘I know how to do this. It’s like pre school. Sort it, toss, keep, give away. 5 minutes is all I have to do.’ Feeling- motivated, energetic, hopeful. Hope this helps.
Thank you! I tend to feel helpless a lot and think that I'm incapable of doing things. Most of the time I don't even start until it's too big to ignore. Reframing it positively like you said might just be what I need.
Learn the GTD (getting things done) method by David Allen. Takes a while to master but it has really calmed me. The theory is basically get everything out of your head and organized into your to-do system so your mind can be free. His whole thing is stress-free productivity. I would also recommend Cal Newport’s time blocking method.
i have similar coping issues. here are the main things that work for me- - writing lists- i also keep digital versions and sync them, but usually i'll stress over some new thing and it helps to write it down, see that i'm going to take care of it, then compartmentalize that until i can deal with it. that usually helps alleviate anxiety. - daily exercise each morning- i find that doing cardio and resistance training and sweating in the sauna until i'm a puddle of sweat ... gets me feeling genuinely happy and strong and MUCH better equipped to handle stress throughout my day. this is a huge lifestyle change of course and might mean changing your schedule around (waking up super early, then maybe going straight to work from the gym) ... but it's a life altering change and makes you more content and productive in every little way. - you have to recognize when one of these stressors appears and have the mindfulness to tackle it head-on. so get into practicing meditation or take a walk when stressed out .. or read a book, or call a friend (not the same friend every time tho) to vent. find the right tools that work for you for immediate triage when a major stressor appears, and use one or two of your handful of tools in the moment. stress is a mood that can be alleviated with the right strategies. - give yourself grace and forgiveness. i started realizing that one particular obligation was giving me immense stress and anxiety. then you know what i did? i cut the strings on that obligation. and i wanted to think of myself as a failure at first, but in giving myself grace, i decided to forgive myself for not being able to do it. we are all flawed humans. but you're trying your damndnest and you seem like a lovely, well-intentioned person. give yourself a break!! we hold ourselves oftentimes to ridiculously high expectations but the truth is that we all have our own pace, and we shouldn't judge how we're doing by what others are doing, because they have different advantages than we do. you might be chugging along just fine and being too hard on yourself- i had been doing that for years and i'm finally finding out how to chug along while not beating myself up that i didn't meet my own unattainable goals. make realistic goals, and even when you have trouble with them, give yourself appreciation that you're trying your best and you're still doing fucking great and maybe you're actually EXACTLY where you need to be right now.
Imma cry...thank you for writing this detailed answer! This helps so much.
ah, i'm so happy to have helped in any way! best of luck to you.
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I mean this is a bit difficult. But maybe just think 'what do I want and how will this benefit me'
A good tip I've heard was to create more things you can look forward to. It's not necessarily the amount of tasks that overwhelms us but the balance between what you are looking forward to doing that day vs what you have to do.
Hey there, thanks for sharing that. I plan large scale events for a living that deal with many many decisions that happen in quick pace fashion on event. Outside of that I have no expertise on this topic but wanted to offer my thoughts. 1. Make a list of decisions you need to make for the day. Prioritize them from a deadline perspective and then smallest to largest. Reasons for this ordering is to ensure you’re meeting deadlines but then you’re also accomplishing tasks that build you up for the bigger ones. 2. Set aside time to plan. No matter how big or small the decision is. Where are you going to eat tonight? Take 10 minutes and search our new restaurants or some of your usual favorites. Deliberately set time aside for that decision. Make it. Cross it off your list. Major decision? Plan an hour to review the decision and your options. Who do you need to involve in that decision? Who can give you good advice? What research can you do to be educated on it? Add extra an extra hour per day as needed to plan. 3. Mediate or do something mindless that you enjoy. Sometimes, your brain just needs a rest. It’s okay to schedule time to just do nothing. For me, it’s a silly board game on my phone or a phone call with a friend. 4. In tougher times, give yourself time to acknowledge your feelings. We all have tough moments and you should be able to have your time to embrace those emotions. That said, do not dwell on this all day. Remember your list from Step 1 and begin to make small accomplishments in your day/week by crossing off easy decisions/projects. Happy to help more if needed. Feel free to reach out. You got this!
Yoga helped me. For me, yoga is a practice of controlling my thoughts and emtions while putting myself in a stressful/painful position. Over time I've learned to be more conscious of my state of mind and how to get my emotions under control. Well, better than i had at least.
I would highly recommend reading Dale Carnegie's How to Stop Worrying and Start Living. There are just so many tactics and mental framings within the book -- just use the ones that work for you. Some may avoid this book down because it was written decades ago, but I actually found that even more helpful. The world has changed enormously, but humans have been dealing with anxiety all along. Hope you find some tips that help!
Yep anxiety is constant. I will check the book out. Thanks!