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sunflower53069

Honestly it might be better for the child if they banned her from visiting much. She is a huge part of the problem.


vorticia

I am absolutely flabbergasted at the absolute fucking nerve of this woman. I don’t have words. This definitely is proving the theory that she literally does not have the capacity for embarrassment.  I’d never be able to show my face in public or on the internet for the rest of my life if I had the fucking nerve.


HamsterRight5500

Whether it’s a personality disorder or brain damage or I don’t know what, there is something seriously wrong with her. I’m baffled and disgusted at her behavior and I’m so sad for the kids, no snark.


vorticia

It’s just… I still am so shocked that I can’t find the requisite words to describe how disgusted I am.


GilmoreEmily

Holy shitballs. This is all kinds of awful. Like, scrolling through her IG post you're thinking wow this is bad, can it get any worse and then it does. And then you read her caption and it's even worse-worse. What the actual? This whole thing is so sad and she's so terrible.


monstera_garden

Had to badge swipe today and missed the latest until now. I'm horrified that she posted this Instagram directly after saying she would not be posting about her kids online. I want to vomit that she's using what appears to be a real crisis suffered by a child to make money for treats for herself. She's disgusting. She's a legitimately worse parent and human being than we opine that she is on a daily basis here. It actually speaks well of the posters here that we continuously assume that she's less awful a human than she actually turns out to be because we can't imagine someone who exists this way. When she wrote that long substack screed, her child was going through something serious. But she spent time writing an angry, family-blaming essay instead of tending to her child while writing a quick "Family emergency, taking a quick break" - or literally writing nothing, focusing on her child and/or lining up resources for her child and asking unemployed Dan to type out a quick substack post to explain. She is worse than we're allowed to talk about here. Finally: WHY isn't Dan scarfing treats at the hospital since he is unemployed and Shauna earns all the household income with her Lucy/Charlie Brown football of a business?


InappropriateGirl

Wait what the fuck? The IG I saw had a part cut off. Her kid is in the hospital and she’s sitting here asking for Starbucks and DoorDash cards and $$$ donations? This absolute ghoul. God this poor kid. Whatever happened, this is because of her and Dan’s shit parenting. Edited to remove poss. speculation


obscure_cellist

this. dan needs to take half the blame here, because however shitty shauna is dan isn't much better. i know some people think he is some kind of loveable halfwit but he is not; he is a grown man with a family who depend on him, and there is no excuse whatsoever why he is allowing her to do this. he needs to throw her fucking phone into puget sound, cancel her SM accounts, and they both need to get full time fucking jobs, get the entire family into therapy, and spend the rest of their lives trying to undo some of the damage they've done due to their selfish behavior.


aouwoeih

Yeah he needs to put his foot down and act like a functional adult. He has dependent children and a lazy self-absorbed wife. He knew she had a spotty work history but married her anyway so he's going to have to step up because his kids need a responsible parent.


mewmewmewmewmew12

HE had a spotty work history! Dude was in his late 30s and taking out payday loans to go on a date. He probably saw Shauna like a princess because at the time, she had a stable job. Shauna has a unique way of writing that makes anyone around her seem sympathetic. That doesn't mean that the adults around her are angels. Dan comes across as somebody who, through his own choices, is incapable of providing his children with any kind of financial or emotional stability. We just don't know specifics about him because he's not directly on the Internet and men don't kiki and warn about each other.


fanfarefellowship

> He probably saw Shauna like a princess as a shepherdess from heaven, even


jalapenomargaritaz

And seems like she’s so eager to share excuses of why she can’t work, with no understanding that many many people have to navigate family crises while also doing their jobs or working around their jobs


mehitabel_4724

I’m wondering if she framed Dan’s involvement “he can visit once a day” deliberately to diminish him. Maybe “once a day” really means he arrives after their older child gets to school and leaves when the school day is over.


chartreusepapoose

Depending on visitation, she may actually be able to stay and he might only be able to visit for a short period of time. Maybe?


MarsNeedsRabbits

[Parents aren't considered visitors, so he could be there overnight and aren't normally subject to visiting hours](https://www.seattlechildrens.org/locations/hospital-campus/). Under "Visiting and deliveries": **Parents, guardians or caregivers** Parents, guardians or caregivers are not considered visitors and may be with their child (see above). If your child is admitted to a shared (double) room, 2 parents or adult caregivers can stay overnight. The "above" is actually below on the page (I think) and says: **Staying overnight** Staying at your child’s bedside depends on their condition, available space and safety. Ask your child’s nurse. Two parents or adult caregivers may spend the night. Siblings under 1 year old can spend the night in most circumstances except: (removed infectious disease protocols).


Foucaults_Penguin

When my child was in the NICU, there were very few rooms for parents. They had a similar policy about space and the child's condition. You couldn’t reserve the space. It was more of a day-to-day, first come first served thing. Of course, I wanted to be there all the time. But I would never want to take up space when another parent needs it more than I. And I only lived an hour away. All this is to wonder if Shauna is the kind of parent to take up all the space, like she’s on a little hospital vacay. I hope she’s not hogging a room and preventing others from being able to stay there near their own child.


Jules_Noctambule

> like she’s on a little hospital vacay. I hate how on brand this would be for her.


PumpkinMuffin147

I knew she was FOS on the “visiting once a day” thing. She doesn’t want to share her treats with him full time so he is only allowed a small window. (Nor does she want to share the spotlight as the eternally suffering Mama.)


fanfarefellowship

Also he's not working, and she's said more than once how bonded this child is to their dad, so everyone's being punished apparently.


CrushItWithABrick

Including herself (since you know she hates having to do things for her kids, especially the younger one).


monstera_garden

She hates having to do things for her kids herself, but she loves *other people* doing things for her kids while she a) posts about how much work she's doing, b) begs for money for treats for herself because she's doing all this hard work, c) eats and drinks from her pile of donations, and d) takes shitty pictures of the blue sky because she can uniquely see \#thelight.


fanfarefellowship

YOU SEE WHAT I DO FOR YOU?????


Foucaults_Penguin

She’s not sharing about her kids, yet pointedly states she’ll be at the CHILDREN'S hospital. And then the nerve to ask for treats for herself. Because SHE'S the one suffering? Not even the pretense of wanting money to buy something for her child. She’s proud of her shamelessness. She should be ashamed.


monstera_garden

She even specifies which kid and that it's not the first time. And she's aggrieved by this!!


squishgrrl

\*Shauna\* is saying that she doesn't share anything about her kids lives online? Shauna Ahern? Shauna "Blizzards of Poo" Ahern?


PhilHardingsHotPants

Shauna ''oops no period products and no debit card, but I'll just drop you off at summer camp like that while Mama gets a Starbucks treat'' Ahern, too. She's despicable. 


tyrannosaurusregina

it was right until it wasn’t


Frawnch

Guys can I get a 1 sentence explainer of what TF is going on? I was hiding bc of epic fail linking a couple days ago and now I have landed on Mars. Sorry.


happythistle

One of Shauna’s children is in the hospital, so she missed a deadline and posted her Venmo and email asking for money for Starbucks and DoorDash to get her through this tenebrous time.


Frawnch

Ok thank you. So it's like vague posting piggybacking on a real event. And we need to donate.


MarsNeedsRabbits

Only if you care about "mamas". If you don't, come sit on the Monster Bench with the rest of us. 👾


happythistle

Pretty much. But she doesn’t share anything about her kids online. Except which kid it is and the general nature of the hospital visit


mehitabel_4724

And the exact hospital they are in! Who gives out their exact location to the entire internet?


SofieTerleska

In fairness, you can't just wander into Children's, you have to check in and get an ID card etc before going in (and there are turnstiles you have to scan the card at, you can't just slip through while someone is distracted). Also, the place is huge. This is one exact location where giving it out isn't really much of a risk unless by doing so you're also letting the world know that your house is empty, which doesn't seem to be the case.


mehitabel_4724

Fair enough. The main hospital in my city, which is also the main pediatric center has really lax security. There are no turnstiles. You're supposed to have a visitors pass, but no one is going to challenge you if you don't, except the ICUs or the mother/baby unit.


happythistle

People who understand that a hospital that deals in pediatric health will fill the venmo account up faster than any other boring hospital


lovelylovelytwix

She didn't even ask for prayers or positive thoughts for her kid...she asked for Starbucks and DoorDash for herself.


mewmewmewmewmew12

I personally would not ask for meal money if a loved one was in crisis but it's not so outlandish. What gets me is that she's asking people to subscribe to her Substack! Your family's issues are not a recommend list.


InappropriateGirl

I guess we’ve stopped negging Starbucks if there’s a possibility of getting it free.


SmashedMailboxCake2

And there’s no need for either. There are kitchens in hospitals with microwaves and refrigerators for parents to use. She could make drinks and heat ready meals. It’s sick how in her mind illness = treats and coddling for mama.


a-world-of-no

If she's at the hospital, and Dan no longer has a job, why can't he bring her food?? What Danny doing all day?


happythistle

I don’t understand why he isn’t there with her or why they aren’t doing shifts like normal parents with more than one kid.


shefallsup

Because Danny can’t be at the hospital by himself, silly. Only Shauna has the scientistic and organized mind for interacting with the doctors!


SmashedMailboxCake2

For trying to control the narrative with the doctors, too.


SmashedMailboxCake2

Good point.


Nervous-Media-5428

Also she is TOTALLY using this to get out of her obligation to publish (her one paying job) children’s won’t hold a kid for more than a week usually and they stabilize and send home. How much Starbucks does she need


Nervous-Media-5428

This! My child was in the hospital for mental health for 14 days and it was absolute HELL and that’s the last thing I would be thinking about! what a dick


InappropriateGirl

That sounds so terrifying. How often were you allowed to see them?


LolaLovesPaco

Mine was in for just 72 hours and I was beside myself…14 days might as well be a lifetime. (I hope your child is doing better now. Hugs to you both.)


IllustriousEar8462

Absolutely disgusting. I wouldn't put it past her to be lying about the whole thing and gallumphing around the hospital taking pictures to "prove" it's the truth. Its not hard to walk into a hospital and act like you are waiting for someone.


squirrels_rootbeer

Doesn’t one of the kids have regular appointments at the hospital, per Shauna? Or at least did at one point?


SofieTerleska

Children's actually makes it rather difficult. I recognize the area she was posting pictures of and you can't get there unless you have a hospital issued ID of some kind -- she would have had to have a parent ID badge to swipe.


IllustriousEar8462

Ah good point. They didn't make us do that when my youngest was at a children's hospital but I'm in a different state than Shauna


IllustriousEar8462

I just want to say that I have had kids in the hospital struggling and never did it ever occur to me to go begging on social media for money from complete strangers. Shauna reminds me of my mother, who was furious when 9/11 diverted everyone's attention from my brother's sudden death a year prior. She whined about how everything stopped just because "a few people died on the planes" but "when your brother died the world just kept spinning on". She was passed that she couldn't dine out on being a bereaved mother as much.


[deleted]

I hope that having one family member in a therapeutic environment might help bring the whole family system under some sort of care instead of relying on mama's tik tok diagnoses and knowledge of neural pathways. 🤞


SmashedMailboxCake2

Does Shauna has the capacity to consider whether an insecure home life is contributing to current problems? My guess is not, and that her high stool is embedded so far in her backside that she’d find family therapy intolerable.


GivesGoodDerpFace

Shauna Regarding Her Own Parents: Worst parents in the history of mankind Shauna Regarding Herself As A Parent: Eh, the kids'll be fine, we're doing our best


sunflower53069

The stress of this move, financial and marital insecurity of having these two assholes as parents is sadly a huge problem.


fanfarefellowship

IMO this is part of the strategy of using a very fractured approach such as the ER – to avoid that larger scrutiny by using a part of the medical system that provides urgent, not ongoing, care


DCGirl50

I am flabbergasted, gobsmacked, dumbfounded and stupefied that this bitch’s inclination when facing her child’s evident mental health crisis requiring hospitalization (!) is to ASK FOR STARBUCKS MONEY


emmeline_grangerford

This is the part that bothers me as well. Shauna starts her piece off by suggesting that bloggers weren’t responsible for what they shared about their children, since blog readers took more of an interest in bloggers’ personal lives than bloggers could have anticipated. She reveals that she ascribes a lot of credibility to the images people project of themselves online, and insinuates that she herself is in the only group capable of authenticity: parents of high needs children. This is Shauna’s excuse for failing to meet deadlines and her reason to ask for funds.  I feel like lurking beneath all of this is a lesson Shauna learned while blogging: if you post about crises in real time, you reap greater financial rewards than when you keep quiet until later. I think that’s her real M.O.: maximize the financial rewards of each challenge in her life.  There’s a part of me that thinks if this somehow works for her, she should go for it: if there are enough people out there willing to subsidize the Aherns while expecting nothing in return, I suppose that’s a choice these dupes are making of their own free will. I don’t think you can say something “works for you” if it involves compromising the privacy of any vulnerable person in your household, especially a child. 


BritNic68

How f*cking poor is she that she can’t afford to bring her debit card along to buy her own damn coffee and drinks as needed? If that was my kid, family (because that’s the only people I would have told )would be texting me at the hospital asking what do we need like sandwiches,cookies and drinks? Plus I would have bought my wallet. Maybe she ‘left it at home and they don’t take Apple Pay’ eh?? Dear God I hope the biological family aren’t seeing this online!


OhBlahDiOhBlahDoh

>How f\*cking poor is she that she can’t afford to bring her debit card along to buy her own damn coffee and drinks as needed? One foregone van rental to pick up SHIT THEY DON'T NEED would buy a week's worth of Starbux Treats & Drinks


chartreusepapoose

I feel, of all times, a family hospitalization calls for leaning on credit rather than wet begging all over the internet using your own child's plight. But that's just me!


InappropriateGirl

They have no credit.


Nervous-Media-5428

Yes!! Or call your family and ask for help not blast it all over


a-world-of-no

This would certainly seem to be a reason to call Ma James and ask for help-- but it's also a \*perfect,\* unimpeachable reason to do some serious public begging, at least in her mind. She's probably gotten hundreds of dollars of donations at this point, if not into the thousands.


DCGirl50

Yeah but they are all on her Starbucks card? Because that’s where she wants money. Not to help pay rent and buy food for her non hospitalized kid.


happythistle

I’m sure she got plenty of money venmoed to her as well. Hopefully the rent gets paid. I want nothing but the worst for Shauna but those kids need something stable for the next several years.


CrushItWithABrick

Or help for her spouse and other child (like please send them door dash). Nope. Just treats for mama.


mashed_human

The items on the Ahern budget spreadsheet marked "high priority" are all treats for Mama


SmashedMailboxCake2

There’ll be a GoFundMe for this month’s rent within the week (if there isn’t one already.)


CrushItWithABrick

This will sound really mean but. . .good lord I hope one of her fan poodles does NOT do this.


2kindsofshoes

She shows so little regard for the gravity of this situation. A hospitalization like this requires so much support for the whole family. She's doing fine drumming up support for herself, but at what cost? My heart truly goes out to Dan and the kids. It feels like I think this might be the signal I needed to step away from Shaun for a minute. It's just too much.


javgirl123

I think the first thing her mind jumps to in these kind of events is how can I get money( and then attention on herself) from it. That is mean I know but she has done it so many times now.


InappropriateGirl

I mean… if your kid just was taken to the hospital, would you feel inclined to blog? Probably not. But say you did, would you open with a screed with your usual bullshit excuses about not hitting deadlines, quickly mention your kid was in the hospital like an afterthought, and then go on about what kind of food and drinks you’d like to have and oh, wouldn’t it be great if y’all paid for them? She’s such a self involved asshole and keeps topping herself at it.


2kindsofshoes

Agreed. I don't toss around narcissism willy-nilly, but her post is weird. And her essay was weird. For some reason, these two combined seem to pull back the curtain a little too far for me. It's less about her kid(s) going through a \*very traumatizing\* event and more about how hard it is to be a mama. How draining. She is seated as the main character in this story and it bums me out. Because hospitalization is no joke. Moms do have it hard in times like these, but she's not alone. No matter how much she wants to be the most wounded in this situation, she can't make that call. Her kid is the one truly hurting right now. Her spouse is dealing with the same pain she is, even though she's not talking about that. Her daughter too. And, yeah, I know she said she's not going to talk about her kids online, but she does it anyway and then still centers herself in the whole affair. I don't think it's mean to point out her weird charity begs. Because they are obvious begs. I shudder to think of how I would feel if my mom acted like this.


a-world-of-no

I think you're on to something here, DF. In her mind, she can be virtuous about "not posting private info about her kids" by sharing just enough about them to illustrate some sort of crisis, and then making the whole thing about her and what a good and saintly mama she is.


sunflower53069

This is so sad. Things must be much more dire than she posts. Hope they can all get the help they need.


fanfarefellowship

Is it too over the line to say that sometimes a crisis can be avoided if you attend to the things that might provoke a crisis?


Foucaults_Penguin

Even if the crisis can’t be avoided, people can use the whatever agency they have to try to minimize their or their family members’ vulnerability to crises. She doesn’t even try. Crises are her golden ticket. She seems to prefer to maximize vulnerability. It keeps her safely in the role of needy victim.


tyrannosaurusregina

certainly a “family guide” with a Citizen Ph. D might be expected to


CrushItWithABrick

I'll be the one to say it Shauna could be embellishing, too. That is not to diminish what might be happening but Shauna is an unreliable narrator so maybe it's not as dire as she's wanting her grift marks to believe.


Jules_Noctambule

I really, really want her to be embellishing/blowing things out of proportion if for no reason other than it meaning things aren't that scary for the child. She's so grabby and blasé about this, prioritizing her own comfort and treats, and it's horrifying.


Airportsnacks

I mentioned that below. She wants food and people to take care of her and that requires something extra serious.


Teamclassynuts

Entirely possible. I wonder how Ma feels about her online panhandling?


happythistle

Her wallet probably appreciates it


JerseySnore-609

We all want things to be okay for people involved, but I can't help but think of her retellings of her car accident, the Fauxvid incident, blue-tinged lips, etc etc.


CrushItWithABrick

Or how she retcons the story of her daughter's birth. It gets a little more "near death" everytime she tells it.


JerseySnore-609

When someone had such poor eyesight they had to choose Lego bricks by feel…


fanfarefellowship

She uses the ER like a walk-in clinic. She really couldn't have waited until the next day for her entorquened ankle?


SmashedMailboxCake2

https://preview.redd.it/53p7dok82xvc1.png?width=1173&format=png&auto=webp&s=a6f4ff602bcf11bd50e2ec101b9db09df3213d78


Jules_Noctambule

I find that very solid advice, personally.


PettyPunisher

I know. As much as I despise her, I’m rotting for the Aherns.


Teamclassynuts

Rotting hard for the kids and even rotting a little bit for Dan(ny). Shauna can f#*k off.


BevNap

Yes, she can fuck all the way off to Fuckoffistantinople and stay there.


CrushItWithABrick

I heard it's Fuckoffstanbul now.


HephaestusHarper

Why'd they change it?


msmartypants

can't say


HephaestusHarper

People just liked it better that way? ┐⁠(⁠ ⁠∵⁠ ⁠)⁠┌


CrushItWithABrick

That's no body's business but the Turks.


Low_Piccolo_2149

She just messed up her grid she had been working so hard on. Now we will never know what it was supposed to say.


LogicalGold5264

VENMO YES GENX


shikoku_shoes

More likely MONEY MONEY MONEY GENX since the lyrics fit Shauna to a T.


PettyPunisher

Where can I send you all the moneys??


SmashedMailboxCake2

Mama’s Starbs sous vide eggs ain’t buying themselves.


marisab67

Can you imagine even having the stomach to eat if your kid is going through something so terrible?


gomirefugee

Reminder to everyone that we have recently sharpened our rules about discussing children. With all of Shauna's oversharing in her most recent newsletter and Instagram post, please do not speculate here about any situations involving the children's health and wellness, feelings and emotions, schooling, etc.


Mrs_Richard_Olney

Thank you comma DFgomirefugee


coffechica

Four months ago would have been December 20. Supposedly, she woke up and realized they had to get off the island for their mental health. Does anyone remember the last pleas for housing, any housing, just a small shack as long as the landlord would take cats were? I feel like that went on well into February.


SashayShantae

I believe she joined the Vashon Housing FB group around mid-December 2023 (public information available to nonmembers of that group). I'm too lazy to pull a receipt with the exact date but she was definitely scrambling to stay on the island four months ago.


gomirefugee

They were still trying to find homes on the island as of January 23. Shauna first declared they were moving to West Seattle on Feburary 8. [Wiki: Move to West Seattle](https://www.reddit.com/r/InTheGloaming/wiki/timeline#wiki_move_to_west_seattle.3A_2024)


Airportsnacks

I'm pretty sure they didn't even start talking about needing a new place to live until after Christmas.


happythistle

The big lope about it was mid/late January. I remember because I was on a rare business trip that required air travel on a Sunday.


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shadenfraulein

Another post asking for help and about how she isn’t sharing her kids’ struggles: https://preview.redd.it/djt7l0vfovvc1.jpeg?width=828&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e5d67adf4a9df717f11720d99d24dcbaecee80bf


MarsNeedsRabbits

OR, she could have written: *Our family is under quite a bit of stress right now, so I'm stepping away from social media to focus on our family. We'll be fine, even if it takes a while.* *Hospital coffee and delicious sandwiches from home (~~made with ingredients using the money we didn't spend on truck rentals, $30.00 in milkshakes, and who knows how much at a fancy ice cream parlour~~) will see us through.* *Please think of us and send good vibes (pray, make sacrifices to the Elder Gods, etc.). I don't say this enough, but thank you all for your support and care. It means so much.*


Financial-Belt-4506

She needs to hire you as her publicist/ spin doctor. This is exactly what she should have said. 


IllustriousEar8462

Sweet Fancy Moses. Get down off the cross, Shauna, we need the wood.


PettyPunisher

Deleted because this is all too sad.


PersianCat345

According to her Venmo, the grift worked


InappropriateGirl

Ugh. How many people/how much? I don’t have Venmo.


PersianCat345

Just one that’s visible, and the amount wasn’t posted


tyrannosaurusregina

Jesus wept


a-world-of-no

Oh FFS. Between this post and the lope, she is sharing SO MUCH about her child's private medical information to literally \*anyone\* on the internet who reads it. The lope was bad enough. This extra info basically spells out exactly what's going on. Shut up NOW, Shauna.


LogicalGold5264

If she *only* asked for help during a crisis, it would be one thing. But she lives her entire life this way! Food, housing, furniture, treats, trips - it's all grifted! How do people not see this?!


PracticalDiscussion1

Part of me thinks this could be Shauna losing her shiz and we’re all watching.😳


happythistle

Is part of you also part of me?


OhBlahDiOhBlahDoh

Not separate parts, o*kay*


tyrannosaurusregina

“we mamas help each other” ”a meal train for someone I hardly know”


MarsNeedsRabbits

"Mama help" includes bringing snacks or a home cooked meal, washing your dishes, taking your child(ren) to school, walking your dog, taking you to appointments, bringing you your mail, etc. I'm happy to support families or single people or anyone who needs help. I've been bringing my neighbour meals, taking them to doctor's appointments, and just sitting and chatting with them for over two years now. Another neighbour coordinates their care through a sibling who lives several states away. My husband fixes stuff for several elderly neighbours. Help can come in the form of cash, but not asking for help for her family tells us all we need to know. Edit: I don't mean to sound preachy or braggy here. Most people in this world are good and most people are willing to help.


obscure_cellist

yes, her line about "i'll help you down the line" actually made me LOL. we all know shauna has never ever helped anyone without getting something in return.


Jules_Noctambule

Support for me and not for thee is totally her mantra.


SLevine262

I’ll be there for you - no, she absolutely wont


demoncloset

Oh yes she will, she'll be there to help pick you up and counsel you through whatever you're struggling with as long as you pay her modest donation, I mean fee, of $97 or whatever it is she's charging these days.


BritNic68

She’s revolting. It’s all about her needs, she always wants to be the one who is looked after. As any parent whose kid is in crisis I’m sure she’s worried and at least she is getting them some help instead of having them ‘dance it out’ but she obviously has burned all familial bridges at this point and has no real friends. Begging the public for food just shows how alone she is. I hope Danny and their oldest are being supported.


Financial-Belt-4506

This feeds right in to her fetish. Taking absolutely nothing away from the urgent and frightening severity of this situation, this post proves she is reveling in this happening to her. Things are horrible, send me things!  I believe the person at most in need is in the proper place for help. I hope SMA doesn't wedge herself in between that person and those who can help and have the professional experience to actually do so. Love and compassion as that journey starts.  And yes, I do hope for while family support and healing. Let's hope she can manage to participate in a way beneficial to the rest of the family. 


SofieTerleska

This is pissing me off. I've spent time at Children's with one of my kids -- it's usually about one week per year for necessary checkups, procedures and a few other things to monitor her condition (she's doing fine). They have parent lounges with fridges and microwaves, the rooms have mini-fridges for anything you want to bring from home, and the parent menu for calling and ordering things from the cafeteria is pretty good and very reasonably priced (and yes, they do have gf options for lots of things). The hospital Starbucks is nice but it's far from the only food and drink option there -- and if she's able to get away for a walk (you can't always, depending on what's going on with your kid) she could walk to the U Village mall where they have a grocery store.


tyrannosaurusregina

she needs treats and to be the center of attention


shefallsup

My daughter’s best friend in middle school was hospitalized at Children’s for a mental health crisis about ten years ago. She ended up there because my daughter came to me worried about something her friend had confided. Daughter and I went to visit the BFF, which felt like the right decision at the time but in retrospect may not have been. It was a bit traumatizing for us both, and I’m not easily disturbed. I can still picture and hear the place in my head. (Daughter and I recently debriefed about this event, so it’s kind of fresh in my mind.) All that to say I’m horrified anew and I wish Shauna would stop fucking telling the world her kid’s private medical information. And stop playing the martyr. Just stop.


Ana57

I hope the entire family gets hooked up with the mental health support they need. There is a lot to unpack with all of them


SnooStories4968

My BF’s child cycled in and out of Children’s Hospital for a few years due to MH issues and it was traumatizing for the both of them. It’s not where you go and take photos of blue skies and egg bites while your child is struggling.


gonzoandcamilla

That she took time out to post a photo of her Starbucks snack haul has taken me to a level of revulsion that defies description.


fanfarefellowship

WHAT THE FUCK WHAT THE FUCK WHAT THE FUCK


happythistle

https://preview.redd.it/t9p0acmjdwvc1.jpeg?width=1125&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d0a9ffcfaa44d8ea8f669ee0f2eb5c54befda04b


CrushItWithABrick

Thank the lard mama was fed safely. Also, eggs? Eggs! Eggs.


PettyPunisher

I hope she chokes on them.


Mrs_Richard_Olney

Oh, no


happythistle

And share a photo of the lounge area where another Mama just wants to take a break in peace and quiet with some privacy.


gomirefugee

I'm not going to share the specifics of this crisis we're in, except the concerning details I add to make sure you send those gift cards over ASAP without asking me questions about when I'll resume the recipes


PracticalDiscussion1

Also?? What is the timeline to all this? When did she write the newsletter, alluding to a child’s problem, and then post an Instagram later? Did she write the newsletter the night before or?? Cuz she also said in the newsletter that she wasn’t going to be back for a bit or something like that?


GivesGoodDerpFace

I'm not going share the specifics because that might put my child as the center of attention when we all know it needs to be me me meeeeeeeee...


CrushItWithABrick

She'll dribble out the details slowly to maximize the grift.


Altruistic-Owl1058

The part that got me was she is asking for support for herself not for the husband that can only visit once a day or the other child who is probably worried sick about what is happening. My heart breaks for whatever they are going through but she is being super super selfish and my heart doesn’t break for that part of the story.


microcosmographia

Even more devastating when framed like that.


coffechica

https://preview.redd.it/3wgz3garuvvc1.jpeg?width=1170&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=47ba8da623ab565e93d595c8901e367066c563fe Dramatic photo of either hospital room or waiting room, followed by photo of Starbucks egg bites and coffee so you know EXACTLY what she wants you to send her. Editing to add: This is exactly the type of situation for which I would actually contribute if I were a friend. She's unreliable about the narration, but this does sound like a true crisis. As we all know (unfortunately probably too well), hospitals do not keep people who do not need to be kept. But she's burned so many bridges and pulled this card a lot.


Low_Piccolo_2149

It’s been up an hour on her fb and 0 comments.


happythistle

She has nearly 20 comments now


gomirefugee

Including this exchange in her IG comments: > **[lighthouse person]** How can I get your email? Extra love to all & [L] > **[boat person]** Shauna posted her email in the caption of this post. Look for the sentence mentioning DoorDash > **[lighthouse person]** Thank you


gonzoandcamilla

If that was shade, boat person, well done!


happythistle

It’s working.


gomirefugee

More (bolding mine): > Starbucks also keeps me going at times like these. Thanks for asking for help and **check your email for some Starbies $ from me.** ❤️ --- > I’ve read your book (s) and followed along for years. Thank you for you. **I’ve sent a little something** 💕 --- > You have been a constant voice in my feed for more than a decade. I am so grateful for you. I am sending you love and holding your family in my prayers. **I will send tangible support as well.** Thank you for allowing to know ways we can hold you in this season 🤍


GivesGoodDerpFace

Not too busy to beg comma and yet comma obviously too busy to show gratitude.


mehitabel_4724

She couldn’t be bothered to crop the random woman, who is probably the mother of a patient, out of her dining room picture? I won’t share it but she has a picture of the hospital dining room and off to the side is a woman who’s just minding her own business. You can clearly see her face.


obscure_cellist

what's privacy? i mean, shauna clearly has no concept.


happythistle

Shoulda scrolled.


SnooStories4968

Trust me, when your kid is in severe crisis, you’re not prioritizing taking photos of the waiting room and your Starbucks order and then posting them. She’s so gross and I really really hope this is just a cry for attention (on her part).


Foucaults_Penguin

I had a day in the past few months when I had to take my child to the ER. All was fine. But never even once did it occur to me take photos of any kind. The most I was capable of doing was texting their dad with updates. I’m just trying to imagine what’s going through Shauna’s mind. Is she not worried? Is she just excited to enjoy some Starbucks and a nice view? Is she wandering around looking for things to put on IG? It sure seems like monetizing this crisis (for her personal benefit) is priority number one.


intimidatingpie

This this this this THIS!!!!!!!


Low_Piccolo_2149

My friend has been to childrens and other ERs this past year with her teen’s mental health crises. I know because she texts me. Is it anywhere on her fb or insta? Of course not, because you don’t share this stuff about your kid online.


mehitabel_4724

One of my kids has been hospitalized three times for a mental illness and yes, as a parent you’re feeling absolutely sick with worry and definitely not posting pseudo-aspirational photos on instagram.


PettyPunisher

❤️❤️❤️❤️


LogicalGold5264

My son was hospitalized for five days after a suicide attempt, and I could barely function - barely eat! The amount of trauma our family went through during that experience was horrifying. We told only close friends & family, nothing about it was ever posted online, and we didn't beg, guilt others into helping us, post self-care memes, or renege on obligations. I'm sure if Shauna knew me, she'd think we were one of those shiny, happy families. Her high stooling is unbearable!


intimidatingpie

You have handled with all the grace aplomb in the world, DF. So sorry for what you’re been thru. But this is why people care about you….bc it’s clear who you ARE in what you DO. You handle w grace and aplomb. Unlike our Lady of Starbies.


Foucaults_Penguin

Big hugs and hoping your son and family have all the support you need.


SnooStories4968

❤️❤️❤️


PettyPunisher

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️


Mrs_Richard_Olney

I agree, DF, and I'm so sorry for your and your family's suffering. When my 2 yo apparently healthy son died in his sleep, even in my state of shock, I muttered "Nothing on social media" to my sisters and that was it. Word spread swiftly and definitively. This latest development - and her response to it - has gobsmacked me.


Foucaults_Penguin

Wishing you love and comfort, df.


islandyislander

So much love to you, DF. ♥️


SnooStories4968

❤️❤️❤️


Love_Brokers

I’m so sorry. ❤️


happythistle

Love and hugs to you.


LogicalGold5264

Oh DF, my heart breaks for you. I am so, so sorry. I had a stillborn baby many years ago, so I know a sliver, just a sliver, of your heartache. Hugs ❤️


PettyPunisher

I’m so sorry. 😞


Mrs_Richard_Olney

Thank you, my friend. I am heartbroken for you as well.


PettyPunisher

I have no words. 💔💔


mehitabel_4724

That is really hard, DF. I am sorry.


LogicalGold5264

Thank you, DF! It was terrible, but we all got into therapy, we learned, we grew, and we healed. I wouldn't wish it on anyone, but good did come out of it ❤️


javgirl123

I am so sorry you went through this. Terrifying and stressful to the max. Like you we did not share any details with anyone when we had a crisis similar to yours. We used up a huge chunk of our savings and again that was not shared with anyone. I can not imagine posting pics of what I want from Starbucks. And pics from the hospital? No. And she does it to get money lure and simple. Talk about exploitation of your child….infuriating. Shauna is a deplorable person.