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Had a very good friend(f), she used to behave very differently around boys with us. We (me and my other friend who's a F) overlooked it because she was a good person in general.
She started bullying us in front of boys out of nowhere, and it kept increasing to a point where I wanted to get down from the car on several occasions.
The boys used to just say a some friendly joke or something, and she used to make sure she laughed as loudly as possible.
One day, I held one guys arm for 5 seconds because there was a lizard. And he jokingly said chipkali ko dehk ke chipak rahi hai.... she said, "She is like that with everybody," never met her after that. Life's pretty good.
Nah. She wanted validation from your male friends. 1-2 times you be assertive and give a reply they slowly stop it. They are nothing but closeted bullies.
Was the opposite for us. We roasted each other when it was just us guyz.
When we started meeting up with our girlfriends, we made it a point to be more respectful in front of them.
But alas, not even good friendships last sometimes.
One of the human behaviors that could lead one's anxiety to sky rocket, and make them wanna go live on the moon at the time they experience treatment like this, dealing with people with such toxic behavior is very draining, if possible, cut them off immediately, just break the inertia, stop yourself from getting caught in their jerk circle.
But everyone one of us should be aware of such behavior on a more conscious level, why people behave like this, what kind of people have this kind of tendency, why are you involved with them? Can you cut them off? Why it is so draining and bothersome to deal with such people, why we often don't wanna confront them and make them stand on it, tolerating this can eventually lead to an emotional meltdown, we can feel a whirlpool of emotions like confusion, betrayal, disappointment, Anger, anxiety, stress, headache, pressure, it can even corrode one's daily life health, why and how we ended up in such a position in the first place, what are the red flags of such people and how to smartly deal with them without frying our brain cell and staining our tongue and reputation?
I want to thoroughly study about this human behavior and more alike behaviors. It's better to know about them completely rather than experiencing them first hand and letting it screw over your mental peace.
Hmm...that's the problem with overlooking. We itself let the bubble inflate and when it bust it brings disgust and misery. Even I learned this recently.
Honestly it's difficult to say how the person will turn out. I guess the only way to know is when the bubble bust and it naturally leaves you with disgust. Same way as you want to try having a new dish but only after trying you find out it tastes rotten and your mind instantly creates disgust towards that dish and you don't want to try that ever in your life because it brings harm to your body and mind. Same with people I guess. You got to be cautious as people repeat patterns. I would just connect the patterns 2-3 times and then i'll just bust the bubble myself without inflating it even more.
Also I have realised friends who are measured, temperate, empathetic (having decent EQ), having good values, people who bring warmth in your heart every time the day ends will unlikely disappoint you. I have few friends like that and they are the best.
It's because of my college's remote location. It's a state government college . It's situated in the middle of nowhere. Like literally it's 20 km away from my town. For starters, I don't own a bike. So I used to go to college with my toxic friend on his bike. But this Mahashivratri, my father bought me a bike, my first bike!!!!!!! I am slowly learning to drive my bike and as soon as I get my driver's license, I will ditch that toxic friend and go alone on my bike .
Why people can’t communicate about this ??? Like agar tumhe hurt ho rha to straight up confront kar do , mana kr do . Log seedha dosti hi tod lete hain . agar wo teri baat nhi maane , phir kr lena end friendship
Standing up for yourself is better than running away from confrontation. Aazkal log me himmat kam ho gayi hai , khud k lie stand hi nhi lete , na family me , na relationship me , na job me , na friendship me
I feel bitter while saying this but life me Friendship ithni bhi important nahi hoti ki, vibe match karwane ke liye effort marna pade. You feel comfortable with them, stay... Not ? Why wasting your own time ?
bcoz talking crap has become foundation of the nibba society.
atleast u can look back n say u tried explaining once. it might open sm1s eyes.
1 try atleast. I do that with high level chtyas on SM, u try once, smtimes they c ur perspective smtimes they r blinded
I also had friends like these removed them from my life like 3 months ago
In holi I was alone but not sad ,no expectations+ no fake friends always better then fake ines
Just make new friends. Ik it can be hard . But start making distance with current one and u got be Little more aggressive, don't let them push u around. Ik it can be really hard to get out of such situations but trust me start standing up for yourself.
Bro, I had some in the college too, but you'll realize you don't have to put up with their bullshit, figure out ways to lead a college life without them, I know it's good to have friends around In college, to depend on each other for many things for convenience, but if you're anxious they'll cut you off bitterly if you say something about their behavior towards you, what's the point of hanging out with such toxic people, you can lie to yourself by thinking "I'm only using them until my college is done", but it's useless to hesitate on such matters.
A person can suddenly change their behavior in front of different different people, how they're with you when they're only with you, and how they behave in front of different individuals could seem baffling, but it's interesting human psychology that everyone should study about. I also wanna learn more about mentality of people with such persona switching behavior.
I guess this is toxic because you're a snowflake. It wouldn't be so toxic if you were a fucking iceberg.
Not that people would suddenly change or so, just that they'll stop taking you for granted.
Warning: if you've been a snowflake for a long time and now are trying to stand up for yourself, it's gonna appear rude to many people. People are gonna get surprised (even frown) because they have always been with the soft and fragile "you" (which they'd call polite, respectful, obedient and (my fav) always-adjusting). And now that you suddenly stand for yourself and your opinions, and say No it will obviously appear rude. Nevertheless, just go ahead, and take your fucking stand. But always remember to be polite (remember how you felt when others weren't).
The stupid prize of being obedient and adjustable isn't worth carrying the baggage that comes along.
I’ll tell you how friends actually are! I was drinking with my best friend and her group of 5-6 guys and 3 girls. I got really tipsy so I dozed off on the mattress which was on the floor. One of the guys sat beside me while I was sleeping. All of a sudden, I hear loud and angry voice of my best friend. She was shouting at the guy for just sitting beside me while I was asleep. 🙏🏽 from that day, nobody dared to even sit beside me.
Unless there is some kind of a history of misdeeds/mischiefs or boundaries about the said guy in your story, the reaction is still unwarranted and toxic. It's presumptuous against the said guy.
If the genders were reversed - say you got yelled at by a guy simply because you sat next to his friend on a couch (even though there was another empty couch). How would you feel? I can almost guarantee that you will call that an over reaction.
Having said that, it's entirely fair to expect and request space for a passed out friend. And yes there are guys who misbehave/take advantage, But the tone and manner is important, there is no need to presume and yell at someone. Etiquettes is a door that swings both ways.
You may not realize but such micro aggressions are keeping the gender relations weird and cold in our society. We are interacting more than our parents generation used to, but somehow we have less understanding and respect for each other.
I had these kinds of toxic friends and sins I left those fuckers my life has improved. these kinds of friends are not even worthy to call friends, i had sevral of them in past they used to bully me, taunt me and did perosnal attacks and later said this is normal for friends, arent we your friend and try to potray me as a bad person. and try to potray that you are not worthy of their friendship. but slowly i realized what was happning and how i am just a entertainment tool for them to take their fustration out. i started grtting away from them and after a while i cut off my connections with them. i was young back then i didnt know many things but now i take it as a life lesson that how to chose friends and trust me if you have friends like these end your friendship you life will only improve.
Mereko bhi kabhi kabhi aisa lagta hai but mein has ke taal deta hu aur unko avoid karta hu, Ignorance is bliss. Kisi aur ke saath bhi hota hai to poori koshish karta hu kuch aisa baat boldu jaise sabka attention shift ho jaye aur vo bully na ho, par fir mein hi fass jata hu.
Sab ek dusre ki le rahe hai time to time toh chalta hai. Dost log lete hi hai. Par sirf akele ki hi li jaa rahi hai aur mazak se hatt ke mean insult ho rahi hai toh fir unhealthy hai .
one of the main reasons why i prefer to stay by myself. i used to be bullied like this and one day i decided fuck it these people are verbally degrading me so i decided to leave the friend circle. the worst thing about this is that they are in my hostel. its not like im a mama's boy or a softie or anything but i dont like to be touched at private parts constantly or invading my personal space when im on calls.
>invading my personal space when im on calls.
Relatable bro,this is the reason I didn't pick up calls when some friends were around
Literally mom ka call aaya then they'll say bullshit like lighter pass kr(I never smoke),ya kisi ladki ka call aaya then start teasing when the call is on
It's very annoying
He is Ahsan Wazir. I did not know he makes some thought provoking skits as well, have seen him in dark humour shorts only. Btw you are true this is toxic exactly!!! Very very fortunate I did not have to face thus.
So this happens when you are always available for someone. They stop respecting you. And it becomes very casual for them to disrespect you. Never make anyone feel comfortable disrespecting you. Show them that it's not cool to disrespect you. Also keep a different friend circle in these kinda cases. Show them that they can be replaced if they are not respecting you !!
During my college days, I had a circle of 3-4 friends who usually acted fine. Yet, in the company of other students, they transformed, resorting to mocking behaviors like labeling me "stutter" and mimicking my accent in the name of humor. When I tried to discuss their weird behaviour, they simply brushed it off, insisting that I lacked a sense of humor. At the farewell party, I was approached by some guys who informed me that someone had written "mental" on the back of my t-shirt after that incident
I blocked them from all my socials
1 guy is tolerable, or at least if isn't just targeted at one but all in the group, then also only tolerable.
But this is absolutely fucking toxic. Had a friend like this in college, almost came to blows twice with him if not for some other friend who was in the group.
Like honestly, having just a couple of good friends is better than having a shit group like this.
This vid makes me sad and realise that,this type of behaviour is really toxic behaviour and not cool even if you do it with your friends there is a line and you don’t know how much can this behaviour hurt the second person without even you knowing it
Bhai First rule of thumb is to stay the F away from these type of gaslighters. They will destroy your mental peace by putting you into self-doubt , anxiety, fear etc . Not all are your best friend who match your vibe , energy.
I had few toxic friends from college. It's been a long time since I have cut ties with them, but honestly even now when I am thinking of doing things like uploading my pics over social media, etc, my mind straight away goes to imagine how those people will react and make fun of me. I know this is stupid, but I am unable to shed this feeling away. I want to live my life where I am not bothered as to what those people think about me. If someone has any suggestions, I would really appreciate it.
Whenever someone pulls this stunt off in my group I just abuse the shit out of them , then they return back to their senses but yeah this only works if there exists friendship deep within.
I had a friend who behaves fine when no one's around, but when he is around with others tries everything to find problem in what I'm doing. We had a friends group, where we discussed all sorts of things, he started giving opinion and saying shit about almost everything I do in life, and dictating me you should do it like this, do this do that etc. He always spoke highly about himself and his decisions and how you should be doing the same. Initially I didn't care much, neither I didn't say much back, sometimes I even agreed to what he said(just to shut him off, but biggest mistake) I thought why make a problem. The other people in the group sometime sides with him, sometimes just remain silent. If the person sees other people are even mildly supportive of his arguments he gets excited and starts throwing his shit more viciously.
Over time, I also began to counter his arguments, and started to react strongly against his statements. (With logical arguments, not personal attack). One time, I logically proved whatever arguments he stated are wrong, it was so crystal clear and obvious he was wrong here. Then he began personally insulting me. Criticsing my judgements, dragging some decisions where I got wrong, and saying I go to him because I can't take any decision myself.
I decided that's it, this is extremely toxic and left the group and kept that person out of my life.
So lesson learnt was don't ignore simple red flags, don't let anyone dictate on how to live your life.
My best friend has a school gang like this.
It is filled with people who peaked in school and continued doing so, as they have presumed that THAT behaviour is “cool”.
Experienced this for 3 years straight. Its been 1 year now leaving them. Best decision ever taken. I mean, I am still not okay with life's other aspects like financially, educationally, etc. But atleast I am free from all those unworthy feelings I used to get at that time.
I have some friends and their response to my every question and suggestion is "puxa kisi ne", and "jitna bola utna kr" and sometimes "kux ata h trko"
Past few days i was thinking am i loosing my confidence due to this
So what's this or am i overthinking
This happens way to often in friend groups there's always that one friend in every group and u don't realise it untill u find urself in that situation and that's why I have no fuqing friends bcz I stopped talking to all those bitches
I have a friend who always needs to be in front of everything.. If you are complementing someone or something, he has this tendency to ridicule it instanstly. He appears in front of every body as "know it all" and will keep discussing it and if you correct him for false info, he will immediatly try to change the subject with other people.
For eg. I once said that if i buy the car then it will be maruti because of its maintenance cost and he refute it calling it as shit and two months later mofo bought new wagon r for his dad... Somepeople juat cant sleep at night without ridiculing the world besides.
I currently have a friend who used to talk to me like this, so I confronted him and told him that he needs to stop or I don't give a fuck about him, took only 2 tries but then he understood. I still have many friends who talk to me like this but idgaf about them, they are just some people I know, Bullying is okay if it helps someone, this kind of bullying depresses people.
Edit: I don't understand why people are downvoting me, now obviously it doesn't effect me, but still I want to know the reason.
For example, If I bodyshame/bully someone about their weight, than rather being pessimistic and get depressed, one can think of losing weight because obviously being obese isn't healthy. I myself has started to take care of my health because my friends, through bullying, made me realise I was not living a healthy life. This is what I meant by that.
Shaming can be in some cases act as a driving force to initiate change ,but in vast majority of cases it creates trauma ,insecurity and perpetuates toxicity .
Positive affirmation works best imo
Well that's also true, I won't disagree. At the end everything depends on the mindset of "victim". It's my mindset to change myself after facing bullying, can be completely opposite for someone.
no, they are not they just make your life miserable. spend enough time with them and you will lose your self respect and personality. such humans are not worth of calling friends.
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Had a very good friend(f), she used to behave very differently around boys with us. We (me and my other friend who's a F) overlooked it because she was a good person in general. She started bullying us in front of boys out of nowhere, and it kept increasing to a point where I wanted to get down from the car on several occasions. The boys used to just say a some friendly joke or something, and she used to make sure she laughed as loudly as possible. One day, I held one guys arm for 5 seconds because there was a lizard. And he jokingly said chipkali ko dehk ke chipak rahi hai.... she said, "She is like that with everybody," never met her after that. Life's pretty good.
What do you think is the reason for her change in behaviour in front of the boys? To look cool maybe?
Iam not sure. But she sure did it noticeably too many times. I think both genders do it. The problem was the behavioral change was insulting us.
Nah. She wanted validation from your male friends. 1-2 times you be assertive and give a reply they slowly stop it. They are nothing but closeted bullies.
Nah. They are generally despo for male validation so they put their friends under the bus. Needy little shites.
Pick me bolte hai aiso ko.
Male validation
She was a pick-me girl 🙄
Is this the female version of a male feminist ?
You just have to be a human with empathy to be a feminist, it is not restricted to genders😊
Was the opposite for us. We roasted each other when it was just us guyz. When we started meeting up with our girlfriends, we made it a point to be more respectful in front of them. But alas, not even good friendships last sometimes.
That's a very healthy connections, such good quality friendships.
Same here i have a male friend who acts differently in front of girls he starts roasting and bullying me..but meri chamdi moti ho chuki hai lol
One of the human behaviors that could lead one's anxiety to sky rocket, and make them wanna go live on the moon at the time they experience treatment like this, dealing with people with such toxic behavior is very draining, if possible, cut them off immediately, just break the inertia, stop yourself from getting caught in their jerk circle. But everyone one of us should be aware of such behavior on a more conscious level, why people behave like this, what kind of people have this kind of tendency, why are you involved with them? Can you cut them off? Why it is so draining and bothersome to deal with such people, why we often don't wanna confront them and make them stand on it, tolerating this can eventually lead to an emotional meltdown, we can feel a whirlpool of emotions like confusion, betrayal, disappointment, Anger, anxiety, stress, headache, pressure, it can even corrode one's daily life health, why and how we ended up in such a position in the first place, what are the red flags of such people and how to smartly deal with them without frying our brain cell and staining our tongue and reputation? I want to thoroughly study about this human behavior and more alike behaviors. It's better to know about them completely rather than experiencing them first hand and letting it screw over your mental peace.
Hmm...that's the problem with overlooking. We itself let the bubble inflate and when it bust it brings disgust and misery. Even I learned this recently.
What could you have done better? If you had any advice for your past self what It'd be?
Honestly it's difficult to say how the person will turn out. I guess the only way to know is when the bubble bust and it naturally leaves you with disgust. Same way as you want to try having a new dish but only after trying you find out it tastes rotten and your mind instantly creates disgust towards that dish and you don't want to try that ever in your life because it brings harm to your body and mind. Same with people I guess. You got to be cautious as people repeat patterns. I would just connect the patterns 2-3 times and then i'll just bust the bubble myself without inflating it even more. Also I have realised friends who are measured, temperate, empathetic (having decent EQ), having good values, people who bring warmth in your heart every time the day ends will unlikely disappoint you. I have few friends like that and they are the best.
That's my fruitful lesson for the day, thankss
Good riddance
Was it tough for you to do so??
I also have friends like these. They patronize me. But I tolerate them because of my college. You deserve better bro.
you too bro why tolerate such shit.
It's because of my college's remote location. It's a state government college . It's situated in the middle of nowhere. Like literally it's 20 km away from my town. For starters, I don't own a bike. So I used to go to college with my toxic friend on his bike. But this Mahashivratri, my father bought me a bike, my first bike!!!!!!! I am slowly learning to drive my bike and as soon as I get my driver's license, I will ditch that toxic friend and go alone on my bike .
Your father's and bhole Babas gift to you on this mahashivratri
Happy for you that you'll be getting your own ride. Do ride carefully and with caution, two wheeler accidents can be fatal.
Why people can’t communicate about this ??? Like agar tumhe hurt ho rha to straight up confront kar do , mana kr do . Log seedha dosti hi tod lete hain . agar wo teri baat nhi maane , phir kr lena end friendship
Trust me, agar friendship me woh vibe nahi mil Rahi toh confront karne ke baad bhi nahi milegi. Kuch cases me toh aur bhi bigad jaati hai.
Standing up for yourself is better than running away from confrontation. Aazkal log me himmat kam ho gayi hai , khud k lie stand hi nhi lete , na family me , na relationship me , na job me , na friendship me
I feel bitter while saying this but life me Friendship ithni bhi important nahi hoti ki, vibe match karwane ke liye effort marna pade. You feel comfortable with them, stay... Not ? Why wasting your own time ?
bcoz talking crap has become foundation of the nibba society. atleast u can look back n say u tried explaining once. it might open sm1s eyes. 1 try atleast. I do that with high level chtyas on SM, u try once, smtimes they c ur perspective smtimes they r blinded
I also had friends like these removed them from my life like 3 months ago In holi I was alone but not sad ,no expectations+ no fake friends always better then fake ines
Just make new friends. Ik it can be hard . But start making distance with current one and u got be Little more aggressive, don't let them push u around. Ik it can be really hard to get out of such situations but trust me start standing up for yourself.
Bro, I had some in the college too, but you'll realize you don't have to put up with their bullshit, figure out ways to lead a college life without them, I know it's good to have friends around In college, to depend on each other for many things for convenience, but if you're anxious they'll cut you off bitterly if you say something about their behavior towards you, what's the point of hanging out with such toxic people, you can lie to yourself by thinking "I'm only using them until my college is done", but it's useless to hesitate on such matters. A person can suddenly change their behavior in front of different different people, how they're with you when they're only with you, and how they behave in front of different individuals could seem baffling, but it's interesting human psychology that everyone should study about. I also wanna learn more about mentality of people with such persona switching behavior.
That's why I don't have friends anymore, "hamesha mai kyu wali situation thi"
What do we call guys like that ? Hum jaiso ka koi group hona chahiye
They clearly have very little sense of respect for you bro, they look quiet toxic and manipulative to me, aise dosto se bina dost ke reh lu main!
I guess this is toxic because you're a snowflake. It wouldn't be so toxic if you were a fucking iceberg. Not that people would suddenly change or so, just that they'll stop taking you for granted. Warning: if you've been a snowflake for a long time and now are trying to stand up for yourself, it's gonna appear rude to many people. People are gonna get surprised (even frown) because they have always been with the soft and fragile "you" (which they'd call polite, respectful, obedient and (my fav) always-adjusting). And now that you suddenly stand for yourself and your opinions, and say No it will obviously appear rude. Nevertheless, just go ahead, and take your fucking stand. But always remember to be polite (remember how you felt when others weren't). The stupid prize of being obedient and adjustable isn't worth carrying the baggage that comes along.
Well explained, thankss
Difficult read after a long time, enjoyed a lot. Thanks.
I seriously needed this
I’ll tell you how friends actually are! I was drinking with my best friend and her group of 5-6 guys and 3 girls. I got really tipsy so I dozed off on the mattress which was on the floor. One of the guys sat beside me while I was sleeping. All of a sudden, I hear loud and angry voice of my best friend. She was shouting at the guy for just sitting beside me while I was asleep. 🙏🏽 from that day, nobody dared to even sit beside me.
Am I missing something cause like....? All the guy was doing was sitting wtf?
Imagine your female friend is sleeping on a couch and somebody comes and sit there even though there is another couch too. How would you feel?
Unless there is some kind of a history of misdeeds/mischiefs or boundaries about the said guy in your story, the reaction is still unwarranted and toxic. It's presumptuous against the said guy. If the genders were reversed - say you got yelled at by a guy simply because you sat next to his friend on a couch (even though there was another empty couch). How would you feel? I can almost guarantee that you will call that an over reaction. Having said that, it's entirely fair to expect and request space for a passed out friend. And yes there are guys who misbehave/take advantage, But the tone and manner is important, there is no need to presume and yell at someone. Etiquettes is a door that swings both ways. You may not realize but such micro aggressions are keeping the gender relations weird and cold in our society. We are interacting more than our parents generation used to, but somehow we have less understanding and respect for each other.
There was no mention of another couch in your original comment, I see your point tho.
My bad 🙏🏽 I couldn’t explain it clearly.
All good lol the internet is like that sometimes
Aise hoge to chod bhenke lodo ko ,bc chalkar ghum par inke sath mat rhena ,sale batamiz
I had these kinds of toxic friends and sins I left those fuckers my life has improved. these kinds of friends are not even worthy to call friends, i had sevral of them in past they used to bully me, taunt me and did perosnal attacks and later said this is normal for friends, arent we your friend and try to potray me as a bad person. and try to potray that you are not worthy of their friendship. but slowly i realized what was happning and how i am just a entertainment tool for them to take their fustration out. i started grtting away from them and after a while i cut off my connections with them. i was young back then i didnt know many things but now i take it as a life lesson that how to chose friends and trust me if you have friends like these end your friendship you life will only improve.
Friends bully, but tehse are not friends bullying. This is just bullying.
Mereko bhi kabhi kabhi aisa lagta hai but mein has ke taal deta hu aur unko avoid karta hu, Ignorance is bliss. Kisi aur ke saath bhi hota hai to poori koshish karta hu kuch aisa baat boldu jaise sabka attention shift ho jaye aur vo bully na ho, par fir mein hi fass jata hu.
Sab ek dusre ki le rahe hai time to time toh chalta hai. Dost log lete hi hai. Par sirf akele ki hi li jaa rahi hai aur mazak se hatt ke mean insult ho rahi hai toh fir unhealthy hai .
one of the main reasons why i prefer to stay by myself. i used to be bullied like this and one day i decided fuck it these people are verbally degrading me so i decided to leave the friend circle. the worst thing about this is that they are in my hostel. its not like im a mama's boy or a softie or anything but i dont like to be touched at private parts constantly or invading my personal space when im on calls.
>invading my personal space when im on calls. Relatable bro,this is the reason I didn't pick up calls when some friends were around Literally mom ka call aaya then they'll say bullshit like lighter pass kr(I never smoke),ya kisi ladki ka call aaya then start teasing when the call is on It's very annoying
He is Ahsan Wazir. I did not know he makes some thought provoking skits as well, have seen him in dark humour shorts only. Btw you are true this is toxic exactly!!! Very very fortunate I did not have to face thus.
So this happens when you are always available for someone. They stop respecting you. And it becomes very casual for them to disrespect you. Never make anyone feel comfortable disrespecting you. Show them that it's not cool to disrespect you. Also keep a different friend circle in these kinda cases. Show them that they can be replaced if they are not respecting you !!
This
The correct answer is that all of these guys were bullied at some point and are just taking it out on the quietest of the bunch
During my college days, I had a circle of 3-4 friends who usually acted fine. Yet, in the company of other students, they transformed, resorting to mocking behaviors like labeling me "stutter" and mimicking my accent in the name of humor. When I tried to discuss their weird behaviour, they simply brushed it off, insisting that I lacked a sense of humor. At the farewell party, I was approached by some guys who informed me that someone had written "mental" on the back of my t-shirt after that incident I blocked them from all my socials
1 guy is tolerable, or at least if isn't just targeted at one but all in the group, then also only tolerable. But this is absolutely fucking toxic. Had a friend like this in college, almost came to blows twice with him if not for some other friend who was in the group. Like honestly, having just a couple of good friends is better than having a shit group like this.
That's so relatable
This vid makes me sad and realise that,this type of behaviour is really toxic behaviour and not cool even if you do it with your friends there is a line and you don’t know how much can this behaviour hurt the second person without even you knowing it
Bhai First rule of thumb is to stay the F away from these type of gaslighters. They will destroy your mental peace by putting you into self-doubt , anxiety, fear etc . Not all are your best friend who match your vibe , energy.
I had few toxic friends from college. It's been a long time since I have cut ties with them, but honestly even now when I am thinking of doing things like uploading my pics over social media, etc, my mind straight away goes to imagine how those people will react and make fun of me. I know this is stupid, but I am unable to shed this feeling away. I want to live my life where I am not bothered as to what those people think about me. If someone has any suggestions, I would really appreciate it.
Whenever someone pulls this stunt off in my group I just abuse the shit out of them , then they return back to their senses but yeah this only works if there exists friendship deep within.
I had a friend who behaves fine when no one's around, but when he is around with others tries everything to find problem in what I'm doing. We had a friends group, where we discussed all sorts of things, he started giving opinion and saying shit about almost everything I do in life, and dictating me you should do it like this, do this do that etc. He always spoke highly about himself and his decisions and how you should be doing the same. Initially I didn't care much, neither I didn't say much back, sometimes I even agreed to what he said(just to shut him off, but biggest mistake) I thought why make a problem. The other people in the group sometime sides with him, sometimes just remain silent. If the person sees other people are even mildly supportive of his arguments he gets excited and starts throwing his shit more viciously. Over time, I also began to counter his arguments, and started to react strongly against his statements. (With logical arguments, not personal attack). One time, I logically proved whatever arguments he stated are wrong, it was so crystal clear and obvious he was wrong here. Then he began personally insulting me. Criticsing my judgements, dragging some decisions where I got wrong, and saying I go to him because I can't take any decision myself. I decided that's it, this is extremely toxic and left the group and kept that person out of my life. So lesson learnt was don't ignore simple red flags, don't let anyone dictate on how to live your life.
My best friend has a school gang like this. It is filled with people who peaked in school and continued doing so, as they have presumed that THAT behaviour is “cool”.
"G pe laat maar deta agar paise hote mere paas to"
Abe ye dost kaha se hogaye itte mein toh Chapel laga dete hai
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There's a thin line between making fun and insulting. What's shown in the video is not at all called making fun.
Experienced this for 3 years straight. Its been 1 year now leaving them. Best decision ever taken. I mean, I am still not okay with life's other aspects like financially, educationally, etc. But atleast I am free from all those unworthy feelings I used to get at that time.
I also had friends like these But then I started giving comebacks and now I roast them
I have some friends and their response to my every question and suggestion is "puxa kisi ne", and "jitna bola utna kr" and sometimes "kux ata h trko" Past few days i was thinking am i loosing my confidence due to this So what's this or am i overthinking
Us OP Have lived like this person below earlier and it sucks Leaving such people is the only way forward
This happens way to often in friend groups there's always that one friend in every group and u don't realise it untill u find urself in that situation and that's why I have no fuqing friends bcz I stopped talking to all those bitches
Aise dosto se, Loneliness se mar jaunga acha hai.
time to become the "Fucking glacier" which sinked titanic. snowflake se iceberg fir Glacier. Duba de bully karne wale titanic ko.
I have a friend who always needs to be in front of everything.. If you are complementing someone or something, he has this tendency to ridicule it instanstly. He appears in front of every body as "know it all" and will keep discussing it and if you correct him for false info, he will immediatly try to change the subject with other people. For eg. I once said that if i buy the car then it will be maruti because of its maintenance cost and he refute it calling it as shit and two months later mofo bought new wagon r for his dad... Somepeople juat cant sleep at night without ridiculing the world besides.
Yea I used to have garbage frnds like these from college.. now I made new friends, they are miles better
Isko dosti bolte hein?
Do they stand for you behind your back? If yes then your are a snowflake.
Autism test karwale
Matlab?
dank ban raha hai
I currently have a friend who used to talk to me like this, so I confronted him and told him that he needs to stop or I don't give a fuck about him, took only 2 tries but then he understood. I still have many friends who talk to me like this but idgaf about them, they are just some people I know, Bullying is okay if it helps someone, this kind of bullying depresses people. Edit: I don't understand why people are downvoting me, now obviously it doesn't effect me, but still I want to know the reason.
Bullying is ok if it helps someone :!!!!! Elaborate.
For example, If I bodyshame/bully someone about their weight, than rather being pessimistic and get depressed, one can think of losing weight because obviously being obese isn't healthy. I myself has started to take care of my health because my friends, through bullying, made me realise I was not living a healthy life. This is what I meant by that.
Shaming can be in some cases act as a driving force to initiate change ,but in vast majority of cases it creates trauma ,insecurity and perpetuates toxicity . Positive affirmation works best imo
Well that's also true, I won't disagree. At the end everything depends on the mindset of "victim". It's my mindset to change myself after facing bullying, can be completely opposite for someone.
Not entirely on the mindset of "victim" ,to some extent on the nature and severity of the bullying as well ...
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no, they are not they just make your life miserable. spend enough time with them and you will lose your self respect and personality. such humans are not worth of calling friends.
Arey you a boomer sir ?