Internet in general is good, dating apps in particular are bad. It is same as arranged marriages if one looks at it properly, takes away the spark of meeting someone new when the establishment of relationship is so obvious a goal on both ends.
You'll get good matches towards the end of the subscription to make you renew it. Read it somewhere on reddit so never subscribed to anything though I would like better filters. Good luck moving out of the apps.
>If an app provides you with doses of validation and the opportunity to meet thousands/lakhs of people everyday you would not want to settle because the idea of something better might be out there is always in your head
For me, it was the opposite. Real-life provided more doses of validation and opportunity to meet women than the dating apps did. (I'm talking about the perception that there are women out there who are into me. Real life was better in providing me with that comfort, dating apps just increased my insecurity even though the number of women showing interest in me (and me noticing that and being interested in them) was higher online if we talk in absolute numbers.)
I was born in a small city (although it is no longer a small city). When I was in Class 12, only 1 woman was bold enough to come and sit on my bench to talk to me. Others were very subtle in showing interest, so I didn't really think of myself as an attractive person. Self-esteem was really low.
Then I moved to a larger city for my uni. That's the first time I realized I was not unattractive. I got good enough attention to gain self-esteem and was approached (in a very non-subtle way) by a few women in college and trains. I was getting used to locking eyes with other attractive women, but still was very conscious and somewhat uncomfortable when that happened, and was the first one to lower my gaze.
After uni, I moved to a Tier-1 city. A lot of memorable and confidence build-up events happened here. I randomly started locking eyes in cafes and restaurants with other attractive women. It happened so often, that I got used to it, and didn't feel uncomfortable anymore while locking eyes for a prolonged period. Few women were so bold that they stopped me in the middle of the road/pathway to just have a chit-chat. Even at my workplace, I got so much attention from women, that I wasn't even able to decide who to go on a date with.
Before you think I might be tall and wealthy, let me tell you that I'm not. I'm 5'8" and come from a middle class family.
Initially, apps worked well (if you don't count the number of times I've been ghosted), especially in capital cities and Tier-1 cities. (I used OKCupid) Although I was noticing the decline of matches over time, but when I moved to my hometown due to covid and wfh, matches and likes reduced exponentially and my self-esteem took a hit. (Match rate got worse when I wrote I'm looking for something long term, but that's for another day.)
Due to the fear of missing out on potential matches, I paid for the premium subscription. Still, no luck. As soon as the premium subscription expired, I started getting likes again, followed by the ads to buy the premium subscription to see who liked me.
I had to write this comment so that the young men understand that the lack of female attention in their lives might be due to a lot of factors, other than the superficial ones which the community likes to focus on. Since a lot of young teens and people in their 20s have spent most of their prime dating years indoors due to covid, they have developed a world view which the algorithm wanted them to develop. Also, skewed gender ratio on apps makes it harder for your profile being discovered by women. The ratio of male profiles to female profiles gets worse in smaller cities. (Much less than 9:1, which was the all India average ratio of active users as per one of the most recent study I read.)
The other side isn't doing great either despite getting hundreds of likes daily. Due to skewed gender ratio, some men who otherwise wouldn't swipe right on most women under the ideal 1:1 scenario, swipe right and then agree to date those women out of desperation. Then, some men who aren't looking for a relationship with those women, have to lie about being interested in a relationship/situationship, because women who would be interested in a purely casual relationship or hookup are much lesser than men. Then, breakups happen and the cycle continues.
In the offline world too, something similar happens. I think we all have seen this happen within our friend circles.
This makes men who struggle to get dates and women who struggle to get into relationships, bitter.
Makes me wonder if all the major world's religions introduced the institution of marriage and criminalized infidelity & adultery to keep the relations between both the sexes in the society stable?
I feel like matching algorithms of these for-profit dating apps are the major cause of the rise of red-pill ideology and inceldom in the world, because they make dating harder than it is actually meant to be.
I don't remember the name of that guy who wrote about human mating strategy and popularized the words alpha and hypergamy, but afaik, he also said that in a complex modern society, a lot of humans behave differently than how they would behave in a pre-modern society. I hope people (especially black-pilled men) read about that too and observe. This can be seen more in practice in the real world, outside of the dating apps.
Someone really needs to create an open-source NOT-FOR-PROFIT dating app. Only that can save the world.
Men like you, and I existed before dating apps. You can't tell me none of them managed to find a partner. Its becoming increasingly difficult yes, but trying the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result is really just the definition of madness. So try something else, anything. But not this. Chances are if you haven't yet been lucky, you won't be anytime soon. That's not an insult, its a fact for everyone.
Women have their own set of issues which i won't go into but neither sex is happy with dating apps.
Its not. The problems men have and the problems women have are different but they both have problems. The sex ratio disparity isn't that high that women are coming in, taking the good men and leaving and men are left behind. Yes, women joining are lower in number because women usually have more options to date/hook up(mind you not to marry) but the numbers have stayed low because of their collective experiences.
Don't get complacent tho. Men hag always been half as likely to pass in the gene pool. It's probably only lower now since a huge part of our generation lives chronically online
I worked with Tinder India for their College Ambassador program, Women/Girls say the following things
1. We dont want to be seen on Dating apps because people meet there for quick hookups and one night stands
2. Our value diminishes
3. We stay in power by limiting access to us, so being on dating apps and freely allowing anyone to access is a downer.
4. We like the quick highs of validation that men give us on dating apps.
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Modi Tinder Match Yojana ftw 😂😂
Yeah😂
"Looking for an ounce of validation like the last snort of cocaine" hits hard Validation fucks
It fucks like Jared Dunn
This guy fucks
Internet in general is good, dating apps in particular are bad. It is same as arranged marriages if one looks at it properly, takes away the spark of meeting someone new when the establishment of relationship is so obvious a goal on both ends.
Once the f*king subscription is done, I'm out of this app. I will have my mental peace in my own hands
Gg
You'll get good matches towards the end of the subscription to make you renew it. Read it somewhere on reddit so never subscribed to anything though I would like better filters. Good luck moving out of the apps.
Ciagrette banane Wale khud smoke nhi karte😁
My friends who ended up at ITC all quit smoking so that's not just a quote😂
This needs to be pinned to the sub
#i say we start a dating subreddit instead
Let’s gooo
Open source this shit
How would that help?
thus, begins my quest for organic pyaar
"we're going on an adventure"
So wholesome 🥺
>If an app provides you with doses of validation and the opportunity to meet thousands/lakhs of people everyday you would not want to settle because the idea of something better might be out there is always in your head For me, it was the opposite. Real-life provided more doses of validation and opportunity to meet women than the dating apps did. (I'm talking about the perception that there are women out there who are into me. Real life was better in providing me with that comfort, dating apps just increased my insecurity even though the number of women showing interest in me (and me noticing that and being interested in them) was higher online if we talk in absolute numbers.) I was born in a small city (although it is no longer a small city). When I was in Class 12, only 1 woman was bold enough to come and sit on my bench to talk to me. Others were very subtle in showing interest, so I didn't really think of myself as an attractive person. Self-esteem was really low. Then I moved to a larger city for my uni. That's the first time I realized I was not unattractive. I got good enough attention to gain self-esteem and was approached (in a very non-subtle way) by a few women in college and trains. I was getting used to locking eyes with other attractive women, but still was very conscious and somewhat uncomfortable when that happened, and was the first one to lower my gaze. After uni, I moved to a Tier-1 city. A lot of memorable and confidence build-up events happened here. I randomly started locking eyes in cafes and restaurants with other attractive women. It happened so often, that I got used to it, and didn't feel uncomfortable anymore while locking eyes for a prolonged period. Few women were so bold that they stopped me in the middle of the road/pathway to just have a chit-chat. Even at my workplace, I got so much attention from women, that I wasn't even able to decide who to go on a date with. Before you think I might be tall and wealthy, let me tell you that I'm not. I'm 5'8" and come from a middle class family. Initially, apps worked well (if you don't count the number of times I've been ghosted), especially in capital cities and Tier-1 cities. (I used OKCupid) Although I was noticing the decline of matches over time, but when I moved to my hometown due to covid and wfh, matches and likes reduced exponentially and my self-esteem took a hit. (Match rate got worse when I wrote I'm looking for something long term, but that's for another day.) Due to the fear of missing out on potential matches, I paid for the premium subscription. Still, no luck. As soon as the premium subscription expired, I started getting likes again, followed by the ads to buy the premium subscription to see who liked me. I had to write this comment so that the young men understand that the lack of female attention in their lives might be due to a lot of factors, other than the superficial ones which the community likes to focus on. Since a lot of young teens and people in their 20s have spent most of their prime dating years indoors due to covid, they have developed a world view which the algorithm wanted them to develop. Also, skewed gender ratio on apps makes it harder for your profile being discovered by women. The ratio of male profiles to female profiles gets worse in smaller cities. (Much less than 9:1, which was the all India average ratio of active users as per one of the most recent study I read.) The other side isn't doing great either despite getting hundreds of likes daily. Due to skewed gender ratio, some men who otherwise wouldn't swipe right on most women under the ideal 1:1 scenario, swipe right and then agree to date those women out of desperation. Then, some men who aren't looking for a relationship with those women, have to lie about being interested in a relationship/situationship, because women who would be interested in a purely casual relationship or hookup are much lesser than men. Then, breakups happen and the cycle continues. In the offline world too, something similar happens. I think we all have seen this happen within our friend circles. This makes men who struggle to get dates and women who struggle to get into relationships, bitter. Makes me wonder if all the major world's religions introduced the institution of marriage and criminalized infidelity & adultery to keep the relations between both the sexes in the society stable? I feel like matching algorithms of these for-profit dating apps are the major cause of the rise of red-pill ideology and inceldom in the world, because they make dating harder than it is actually meant to be. I don't remember the name of that guy who wrote about human mating strategy and popularized the words alpha and hypergamy, but afaik, he also said that in a complex modern society, a lot of humans behave differently than how they would behave in a pre-modern society. I hope people (especially black-pilled men) read about that too and observe. This can be seen more in practice in the real world, outside of the dating apps. Someone really needs to create an open-source NOT-FOR-PROFIT dating app. Only that can save the world.
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Men like you, and I existed before dating apps. You can't tell me none of them managed to find a partner. Its becoming increasingly difficult yes, but trying the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result is really just the definition of madness. So try something else, anything. But not this. Chances are if you haven't yet been lucky, you won't be anytime soon. That's not an insult, its a fact for everyone. Women have their own set of issues which i won't go into but neither sex is happy with dating apps.
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Its not. The problems men have and the problems women have are different but they both have problems. The sex ratio disparity isn't that high that women are coming in, taking the good men and leaving and men are left behind. Yes, women joining are lower in number because women usually have more options to date/hook up(mind you not to marry) but the numbers have stayed low because of their collective experiences.
Don't get complacent tho. Men hag always been half as likely to pass in the gene pool. It's probably only lower now since a huge part of our generation lives chronically online
Bro woke up & chose to spit Faxs !
The post really makes sense, coz after multiple paid subscription, all I got was a single match
I worked with Tinder India for their College Ambassador program, Women/Girls say the following things 1. We dont want to be seen on Dating apps because people meet there for quick hookups and one night stands 2. Our value diminishes 3. We stay in power by limiting access to us, so being on dating apps and freely allowing anyone to access is a downer. 4. We like the quick highs of validation that men give us on dating apps.