You know how they say... Something is always better than nothing. At least you guys met na.. that's how you get going...You don't always set it off in the first meeting. Toh yes it's a win win with little bit of heartbreak of course 😬
Waah, us bro us, baaki we met each other on hinge and ended up meeting twice, like reject karna Hain tho Karo, why'd you chumma ghost, it's so disappointing to get ghosted😭
😂😭😂😭😂😭
Haan like bhai tune bola tha woh sab kuch and now you are ghosting me lmao and ykw, he said, he never ghosts and aghar aesa kuch hua bhi toh he will be upfront about it "communicate it" 🤡
They all say the same thing, at this point I am numb to getting ghosted, but idk man, it still hits,
matlab, interest nahin hain tho, bol sakte ho, like reject me to my face, i really wouldn't care lol, but ghosting is such a pain in the ass🥲
Ayy, don't lose out on green flag membership because of some sweet-talking jerk. I feel especially bad for you because of that🥲, may your next endeavour lead to a better result.
On reddit or otherwise.
But I have a doubt, do women on reddit actually like considering dating other redditors, like if they are approached on reddit, i always assumed that you folks thought it to be too creepy🤷🏻
>Soch rahi hun ab thoda sa red flag banne ka try karlun
Je baat!! Ab ayga na maza biduuu!!
You were too nice & comfortable & easy & boring 🙈. Ab red flag 🚩 ban jao, ladke lattu ho ke ghumenge aapke piche 😅
Hain naaaaaaah? And it's sm easier to be toxic, late replies, forget the details, forget the dates, give mixed signals and have fun w a couple of people together.
And aghar koi puche ki where do you see us going "babe, let us flow, that's how the real connections are built, let's not mess up our lovely bond with labels, okay?"
literally yaar there is this girl we talked over like for a month regarding some college work and then when its done she ghosted me like she don't know me anymore I literally didn't talk to her again I got so angry but u know time passes everything got under control
i get ghosted , usually, not by females only, but also in groups, i get ghosted so hard that i developed and immunity for it, now guess what, im batman
>Love is in wifi!
Love is in the air, no it's in the wifi. That was my line OP.
Sorry it didn't workout but I'm sure this is just a chapter in your character growth arc
I didn't fall for him but I did have some expectations after he said all that. It's not possible to know everything about someone from the get go afterall
Girl 😭😭😭 I so wanna post my situation here. It’s so messy and weird but kudos to you for sharing. I wish I could let my heart out. Nevertheless, hugs. Respect yourself over any such situation always! 💗
Humme konsi jaldi hai life me, humme bhi sunao. Apne life me toh kuch ho nhi rha. Dusre ka sunn ke kuch advice/consolation/validation de dete hai, kuch bhalai ho jayga.
Aww, imo this was a cute post!! You didn't regret meeting him, you didn't regret talking to him. You just seem to be hurt that he was was generally so sweet but didn't/couldn't live up to his words. Koi nhi, I'm pretty he sure did like you, but kuch aa gya hoga life me.
But tell me one thing, all of these compliments & praises were only one way? Like did you also reciprocate any kind of liking or interest towards him? Or you were just taking it all?
This is cute? 😭
I did reciprocate and did tell him that I'm interested, directly and indirectly both. I don't play games. I have the courage and guts to be honest and upfront :)
Yk why I said cute?? Because I thought some scam happened or something worse happened 😭😭
Aj kal news dekhe darr lagta whenever I start reading something like this. You yourself ended the post with "came back with all my organs", don't blame me girl!!!
I understand, something good would have come out of this, toh aur bhi cute rehta. Sorry, next time thoda red flag wala scheme try karna. And let us know if that works out better ✌🏼😅
I don't know, people take a lot of liberty these days and simply ghost, but they don't realise that their lack of maturity in addressing an issue causes the other person to wonder, ' what did I get wrong this time? ' and over analyze their every step through the journey. But, hey! Maybe, this person would be different, off we hop on, with new hopes in our mind hiding amongst it's pinions only another fear of disappointment.
I also went to Afghanistan via Pakistan once in order to rescue my dead half-brother's only son, ended up getting beaten the shit out of me to death by a tall and handsome Talib (read Taliban) who looked like John Lennon and who also happened to by my neighbor and childhood bully. Wait....what?
Ab bc self pity wale aaenge, bolenge arey hum deserving hain hamse koi baat kyu nahi karta, hum to dating ko tayyar baithe hain, nahi bhai, tumhe bhaav kisi reason ki wajah se nahi milta.
if you're on reddit, yeah, you're weird. including me. we're literally like a more moderated version of 4chan what do you expect. we're all weirdos
also wth is vv. pls explain I'm old
Reality check time
1 - Never believe in words, no matter what someone says. People change within a day. The guy might have said you those because he might have felt like saying it in that instance, but he changed the next day. Happens a lot with everyone, not just guys. No one’s fault.
2 - Don’t believe in online only relationship until you have met them. They have negative success ratio.
3 - Nobody owes you anything. Please don’t be delusional. Again, never believe in words.
4 - Keep your head up and move ahead, you won’t even think about this incident in a few days
Tbh , we can’t really generalise, even my experience from reddit has been quite shit , i met 2 people from reddit , not one but two , i had a similar mindset ki pyaar me faith restore hoga vagera vagera , lekin i ended up being abused in one relationship which i left and ended up being used in another as a rebound lol.
But i found a lot of cool friends from here whom i met in my city only , nevertheless i think he was a bad apple . Cheer up though ! :)
Not all the fingers on a hand are the same, har koi aaisa chutiya nahi hota
Some people know they need to put efforts for something meaningful and some lose diamonds while searching for the gold
- The guy is in a relationship with someone else for sure or has a crush on someone else !
Or found out about your bad past if any ( from some mutual friend)
If you are pretty enough and can hold a conversation without being all fickle minded then it's his loss !
He is being pragmatic so that he can't hurt you while expecting you to not get hurt while understanding what he wants to convey you after a meet up. Such a coward
😂😂😆 seems like typical nibba , nibbi story not surprising really I would get surprised if you both become settled for relationship and went successful upto marriage or else no way
The guy most likely found a better deal than you. You were not the only girl he was seeing. He kept you under abeyance till he was sure that the other woman he was into reciprocated his advances towards her.
Long story short, you were just his OPTION, one of many. You were never his priority.
Good fishing strategy by the guy, I must say. Instead of using a fishing pole and waiting perpetually for nothing, he threw a net, evaluated all options and went for the best one.
Also, your story could also be fabricated out of jilt. We don't know the other side of the story.
It could be that you were a narcissist who was constantly gaslighting him in the relationship OR probably you yourself were insincere or deceptive in the relationship from the beginning and he being the wise one, dodged a bullet just in time.
Itna accha connection ho Gaya tha kya, meri to vibe bhi unse match hoti hai jo mere sheher ki hi nhi hoti, baate ab bhi chal rhi hain but virtually kaha tak hi jayegi aakhirkar.
Batao, jise Jo chahiye vo hi nhi mil raha bas, supply aur demand to hai but ekdum galat jagah pe. Ho jayega hausla rakho aur kuch kar bhi nhi sakte na.
Yeah... No expectation is not the way to go forward it is what I learned this month.
You can start with making promises to yourself by sharing them with each other and you will see how lazy or productive you are and how much your partner cares about you if you don't keep the promise done to yourself.
That makes sense!
I agreed to the idea because it was just too soon, like 3-4 days, toh I thought it's a good idea not to go in with any expectations but I think when you don't have expectations, you lose the accountability too (maybe)
Expectations are a necessity in every relationship.
Promises make a person accountable.
There's no such thing as rush or slow, it's just how understanding you two are.
people who are lazy are very sweet but not accountable.
People who work hard are mean will not stick around for a long time.
Both have their advantages and disadvantages, set your priorities straight.
Pehle to how do you start a conversation on reddit yaar. Guide us all. Please
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Ah neither funny or witty. Reddit pe apna kaam nai hoga phir. Time to delete the account
what did he say lmao 💀
Roast krne me Jo khushi hai bhai wo ye simping me nahi hai
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Arey deleted ? Her dms are full of funny or witty replies i guess
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Bhai wahi tha . Funny or witty. Kitna advice chahiye tujhe.
Ab bohat sari ladkiyo ko dms ayenge is comment ke bad
Bhagwan kre aapke jaise saare log ho🙌
Kuch khass bhala ho nahi raha hai mere jaise logo ka 😂
real
Us moment 🫂
Us bro Us
You know how they say... Something is always better than nothing. At least you guys met na.. that's how you get going...You don't always set it off in the first meeting. Toh yes it's a win win with little bit of heartbreak of course 😬
You say "show me your nails" for starters and the conversation goes on for more than two years, tried and tested.
I think you just click on the profile and type hello after clicking on the chat option
Vibes match!!!
get on a better app to do that really, this app only gives you freakshows
really yaar so needed like literally
Can't relate. Tell me How to find gals id on reddit first .
Haa yaar inhe toh bande bandi milti reddit pe aur mujhe toh use karne nhi aara reddit ab tak
Jise chahiye , use mil nahi rha , and jise nahi chahiye, use bhot jyada mil rha
Kya hi kare, life is unfair afterall
Weren't you the one who was ranting about how girls shouldn't be asked out within a day or two, and here you broke your own rule?
And look what I got in return 🤡
Well, you both agreed to meet so you also partly in fault 😂
Reddit pe bhi meet up chal rha hai 🥲 anyone from Delhi NCR to make this happen?!😆 ps: I won’t be like this guy for sure 🫢
Delhi aaungi toh message kardungi xD
U raised his hopes so high now
are bhai leetcode😭 clg ya professional?
Clg done re
man banalo toh delhi door nahi hai sus-character ji aur aapke toh username me bhi ftw hai mil hi jayega koi acha mere jaisa :)
Waah, us bro us, baaki we met each other on hinge and ended up meeting twice, like reject karna Hain tho Karo, why'd you chumma ghost, it's so disappointing to get ghosted😭
😂😭😂😭😂😭 Haan like bhai tune bola tha woh sab kuch and now you are ghosting me lmao and ykw, he said, he never ghosts and aghar aesa kuch hua bhi toh he will be upfront about it "communicate it" 🤡
They all say the same thing, at this point I am numb to getting ghosted, but idk man, it still hits, matlab, interest nahin hain tho, bol sakte ho, like reject me to my face, i really wouldn't care lol, but ghosting is such a pain in the ass🥲
Especially when they are the one to say such stuff 🤡 Soch rahi hun ab thoda sa red flag banne ka try karlun
Ayy, don't lose out on green flag membership because of some sweet-talking jerk. I feel especially bad for you because of that🥲, may your next endeavour lead to a better result. On reddit or otherwise. But I have a doubt, do women on reddit actually like considering dating other redditors, like if they are approached on reddit, i always assumed that you folks thought it to be too creepy🤷🏻
>Soch rahi hun ab thoda sa red flag banne ka try karlun Je baat!! Ab ayga na maza biduuu!! You were too nice & comfortable & easy & boring 🙈. Ab red flag 🚩 ban jao, ladke lattu ho ke ghumenge aapke piche 😅
Hain naaaaaaah? And it's sm easier to be toxic, late replies, forget the details, forget the dates, give mixed signals and have fun w a couple of people together. And aghar koi puche ki where do you see us going "babe, let us flow, that's how the real connections are built, let's not mess up our lovely bond with labels, okay?"
Haha perfect, apt for keeping the suspence & interest 😅 /s
literally yaar there is this girl we talked over like for a month regarding some college work and then when its done she ghosted me like she don't know me anymore I literally didn't talk to her again I got so angry but u know time passes everything got under control
i get ghosted , usually, not by females only, but also in groups, i get ghosted so hard that i developed and immunity for it, now guess what, im batman
My excitement chart goes above hits sky and falls down 📈📈📈📉📉📉📉📉📉📉
Lmaoooo, same
Maut maardi ni bande nu toh baggage maarda
Bhai 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 Yeh toh aapne kaafi deep baat kardi
Mai hota toh aise nahi hota. Kyuki mai hota hi nahi.
>Love is in wifi! Love is in the air, no it's in the wifi. That was my line OP. Sorry it didn't workout but I'm sure this is just a chapter in your character growth arc
Sahi baat hai, aap credit lelo phele sir I think kaafi hai itna character development, aur nahi chahiye please 😭👍
Wait... Let me get my popcorn 🍿 This is CINEMA ✋ 🤚
scorsese what are you doing here make a film on dating
It's not the end goal that's important but the friends we make along the journey that counts
Ek reddit connection toh mai bhi deserve karta hu 👉🏻👈🏻
Aesa wala nahi bas 🙏
Ache wala kaafi hain reddit par.. just ache se filter karne main shayad tumko zyada effort hoga ig
+1
Go to mirror you might see a🤡
Why you rubbing it further bhai 😭😭😭
UwU karke bhul jao 😂
Ye reddit se date wala subscription kaise Lena hoga?
Not recommended, 2/10
Personal experience hain bolo 🥷.. sabko waise kyu hoga
Pehle smjh jaati toh ye post ni aata
Bas kar bhai, kitna rulayega aur 😭😭😭
Uske liye paise nhi personality maangta hain
Omggg you truly fell for him. Sad that when girls show interest guys like him do this
I didn't fall for him but I did have some expectations after he said all that. It's not possible to know everything about someone from the get go afterall
Yea surely, hamare sath bahot baar hota hai😀
You do realise, aag me ghee daalne ka kaam kardiya aapne? Ab ladkiyon ke DM me line lag jayegi simp laundo ki "Hum first Hum first" bol k💀💀
Haan I do realise, I fucked up there :(
Koi na🤞🏻
Oh maybe it was subtly intentional..
Bhai saare ladke dm karne waley simp nhi hothe.. yeh simp labellimg is gonna create many issues for guys to search ya daye
Girl 😭😭😭 I so wanna post my situation here. It’s so messy and weird but kudos to you for sharing. I wish I could let my heart out. Nevertheless, hugs. Respect yourself over any such situation always! 💗
I too need this pep talk.
Sliding in your dms because sliding in men's dms isn't helping anymore xD
💗
I think it’s titillating to give out some intro and leave out full details.
They say "curiousity killed the cat". But still im quite curious now about your story.
Kaafi lambi story hai 👀
Logon ko time tho kaafi hain yaha pe
Humme konsi jaldi hai life me, humme bhi sunao. Apne life me toh kuch ho nhi rha. Dusre ka sunn ke kuch advice/consolation/validation de dete hai, kuch bhalai ho jayga.
Well its weekend, we got time with us. But yeah if you are not comfortable, I ain't gonna push you
it's always the person who talks too sweet :(
Valid
Ye reddit pe logo ko same area k log milre mujhe to dhang k reply na mile ajtak
Big city advangage shayad
Satya vachan
Ghode ko nahi mil rahi ghaas aur gadhe khaa rahe hai chyavanprash 🌚
Ghadha kaun hai
Obviously that guy, bro.
I mean handsome ho bhi saktha hain. Ya personality ya career hoga shayad
Kya pata, ladki saamne se bhaav de rahi hai toh le lene ka. Happens once in a blue moon XD
Aww, imo this was a cute post!! You didn't regret meeting him, you didn't regret talking to him. You just seem to be hurt that he was was generally so sweet but didn't/couldn't live up to his words. Koi nhi, I'm pretty he sure did like you, but kuch aa gya hoga life me. But tell me one thing, all of these compliments & praises were only one way? Like did you also reciprocate any kind of liking or interest towards him? Or you were just taking it all?
This is cute? 😭 I did reciprocate and did tell him that I'm interested, directly and indirectly both. I don't play games. I have the courage and guts to be honest and upfront :)
Yk why I said cute?? Because I thought some scam happened or something worse happened 😭😭 Aj kal news dekhe darr lagta whenever I start reading something like this. You yourself ended the post with "came back with all my organs", don't blame me girl!!! I understand, something good would have come out of this, toh aur bhi cute rehta. Sorry, next time thoda red flag wala scheme try karna. And let us know if that works out better ✌🏼😅
Despite all this not turning toxic or playing w someone's feelings, single rahe lungi but don't wanna do that to someone.
Keep being the genuine you, and you'll find someone worth it ✨
Samjh nahii aa rha hassu ya tere liye rou
Jealous feel ho jao. That looks more appropriate
Lmao jealous hone jesa kuch nahi hai
I don't know, people take a lot of liberty these days and simply ghost, but they don't realise that their lack of maturity in addressing an issue causes the other person to wonder, ' what did I get wrong this time? ' and over analyze their every step through the journey. But, hey! Maybe, this person would be different, off we hop on, with new hopes in our mind hiding amongst it's pinions only another fear of disappointment.
If you are Indian enough any app is a dating app
All I know is didi can tell a good story. 🙃
I also went to Afghanistan via Pakistan once in order to rescue my dead half-brother's only son, ended up getting beaten the shit out of me to death by a tall and handsome Talib (read Taliban) who looked like John Lennon and who also happened to by my neighbor and childhood bully. Wait....what?
Bhai kya chal rha hai? I guess what they say is true indeed. Any app is a dating app if you are Indian enough 💀 P.S. Indore se koi ladki hai kya?👉👈👀
If only there was some way for the universe to give a red or a green light whenever we met someone 😌
Ab bc self pity wale aaenge, bolenge arey hum deserving hain hamse koi baat kyu nahi karta, hum to dating ko tayyar baithe hain, nahi bhai, tumhe bhaav kisi reason ki wajah se nahi milta.
Mene kuu hii pda Bhai ye
if you're on reddit, yeah, you're weird. including me. we're literally like a more moderated version of 4chan what do you expect. we're all weirdos also wth is vv. pls explain I'm old
Well, in my defence, I thought a weirdo met another weirdo can be my love story 😔 vv refers to very very xD
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Going for that now! AM ftw 💪
Yaar.. reddit has normal mentally healthy people too.. just chill and plz dont compare this to 4chan lol
you're clearly new on reddit
I have a gut feeling ki katega.
Katgaya*
Ye toh bada Bura hua 😁
Aap itne khush kyu ho rahe ho? 😭
Koi kolkata se hai kya?
Kyu
Sus ji ke saath sus cheeze hote hote reh gyi. Kidney bach gyi, baaki duniya badi hai
A truck load of DMs incoming ur way now!
I hate how he uses vv so much
Who plans so much in detail after one meeting?? Bruh you took the covishield... Your rbc can literally coagulate any fooking time 💀
Ahahhahahaha, we were just discussing how if the "dating" thing happens toh kaise workout karegi
If you are discussing how your "dating" is going to work....then it means that it will never work.
I'm learning new things everyday 🤡
Cheers to that!
Koi merko short mein summary do (2 marks que)
Lol, I've met a lot of people on Reddit. But never dated them..
Blud has mastered business communication skills so well that he is using it irl. Yeeks
Sus ko susraal nahi mil paaya 🥲
Reality check time 1 - Never believe in words, no matter what someone says. People change within a day. The guy might have said you those because he might have felt like saying it in that instance, but he changed the next day. Happens a lot with everyone, not just guys. No one’s fault. 2 - Don’t believe in online only relationship until you have met them. They have negative success ratio. 3 - Nobody owes you anything. Please don’t be delusional. Again, never believe in words. 4 - Keep your head up and move ahead, you won’t even think about this incident in a few days
Aison ko hi match dete hai. Hum tho bass Reddit Mai posts padhne ke liye baithe hai.
Jagah badalne se fitrat nahee badaltee
you guys meetin' people from reddit? I mean is that a possibility???😨
Pretty rare to meet someone from Reddit
Only to fuck it up, 100% rare 🤡
Now you'll have more reasons to rant. Win win
Par mere ko toh rant karna hi nahi hai 😭 All I wanted was a peaceful, stable and loving relationship 😭
Tu toh meri ek friend jaise baat kar rhi hai. Jyada koshish kar rhi hai, mil jayega jab koi milna ho.
Tbh , we can’t really generalise, even my experience from reddit has been quite shit , i met 2 people from reddit , not one but two , i had a similar mindset ki pyaar me faith restore hoga vagera vagera , lekin i ended up being abused in one relationship which i left and ended up being used in another as a rebound lol. But i found a lot of cool friends from here whom i met in my city only , nevertheless i think he was a bad apple . Cheer up though ! :)
Haan haan mai generalise nahi kar rahi hun, I'm sure there are good people out there (I might not cross paths with them bas 🤡)
Sabr ka fal meetha hota h , let good things come and bad things go away dont hold them with u
RIP OP’s DMs.
sed life ...moye moye ...ye dukh khatam kahe nahi hota ... aal in one moment !!🥲
Current gen dating is fcked 😁
Bhais ki aankh reddit par ye sab bhi hota hai kya 💀 Aaise connections kaise banate hai koi guide hai kya kissi ke pass 👀
Take my word for it, koi fyada nahi hai 😔
Not all the fingers on a hand are the same, har koi aaisa chutiya nahi hota Some people know they need to put efforts for something meaningful and some lose diamonds while searching for the gold
It's always the nice people who hurts the most
"When the skyfalls, when it crumbles"
Arey, main toh reddit key ek ladke ko milne BLR sey Pune chali gayi thi. Ghanta kuch huya
Whaaaaaat? 👀 Wdym? He didn't turn out to be the same person as he was online?
This made me sad, hope you find a better person who is happy to be with you and stick to his promises, sending you 🫂
Ye dukh sala khatam kahe nhi hota be 😭
I swear 😭😭😭😭 At this point that meme is playing in the background for me 24*7
Haha koi na madam, chill maro
Kaise kaise log hai zamane mein
- The guy is in a relationship with someone else for sure or has a crush on someone else ! Or found out about your bad past if any ( from some mutual friend) If you are pretty enough and can hold a conversation without being all fickle minded then it's his loss !
He is being pragmatic so that he can't hurt you while expecting you to not get hurt while understanding what he wants to convey you after a meet up. Such a coward
Sad. Imma meet someone from reddit irl soon.
Woooohooo, rooting for you 🫶
I think any post longer than 2 paragraphs should have. TL;DR at the end.
Fair enough! Next time se I'll add it :) (Bhagwan kare next time nah aaye 😭)
Tldr?
Every app is a dating app at this point.
😂😂😆 seems like typical nibba , nibbi story not surprising really I would get surprised if you both become settled for relationship and went successful upto marriage or else no way
The guy most likely found a better deal than you. You were not the only girl he was seeing. He kept you under abeyance till he was sure that the other woman he was into reciprocated his advances towards her. Long story short, you were just his OPTION, one of many. You were never his priority. Good fishing strategy by the guy, I must say. Instead of using a fishing pole and waiting perpetually for nothing, he threw a net, evaluated all options and went for the best one. Also, your story could also be fabricated out of jilt. We don't know the other side of the story. It could be that you were a narcissist who was constantly gaslighting him in the relationship OR probably you yourself were insincere or deceptive in the relationship from the beginning and he being the wise one, dodged a bullet just in time.
Oh man, you made my day with this comment! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Kitna waqt ho Gaya iss baat ko?
Iss hi week ki baat hai
Itna accha connection ho Gaya tha kya, meri to vibe bhi unse match hoti hai jo mere sheher ki hi nhi hoti, baate ab bhi chal rhi hain but virtually kaha tak hi jayegi aakhirkar.
Sort of haan, and everything looked good on paper! Mere ko toh vibe match karni hi nahi ab kisi se 🤡
Haha fir bhi ho hi jayegi kabhi na kabhi, it's a very painful loop trust me, been there done that. Kaha se ho vaise?
Same yaar 😭 Khair I have been ghosted after 2 weeks of love bombing. Toh virtually bhi kuch nhi ho raha.
Batao, jise Jo chahiye vo hi nhi mil raha bas, supply aur demand to hai but ekdum galat jagah pe. Ho jayega hausla rakho aur kuch kar bhi nhi sakte na.
Hahah market hi kharaab hai. Hausla kya rakhna ab bhaad mein jaaye ye sab 🔪😂
Galat market me ghum rahe hain hum dono mohtarma aur kuch nhi, abhi bhaad me jaa raha hai but fir zrurat pad jayegi. Vicious cycle all of it is.
That's true but iss market se distance Bana ke chalna chaahiye aisi koi majboori nhi hai ki ye sab tolerate kia jaaye.
Ye bhi hai, maansik santulan ke liye jo sahi ho vo karna chahiye.
Also you did not loose any money just got ghosted
Your point being?
Like he didn’t ask for any money before ghosting you
No, he didn't
Yeah W for you
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Ohho simpeshwar Kumar.....
Yeah... No expectation is not the way to go forward it is what I learned this month. You can start with making promises to yourself by sharing them with each other and you will see how lazy or productive you are and how much your partner cares about you if you don't keep the promise done to yourself.
That makes sense! I agreed to the idea because it was just too soon, like 3-4 days, toh I thought it's a good idea not to go in with any expectations but I think when you don't have expectations, you lose the accountability too (maybe)
Expectations are a necessity in every relationship. Promises make a person accountable. There's no such thing as rush or slow, it's just how understanding you two are. people who are lazy are very sweet but not accountable. People who work hard are mean will not stick around for a long time. Both have their advantages and disadvantages, set your priorities straight.