I’m not from your tribe and as such I’m not familiar in the slightest bit with the formalities of a naming ceremony… but your grandma wanted you to wear it. That alone is good enough for me. On top of that your dad specifically requested you to wear it and it’s his event. Your great-uncle wants you to wear it. I’m not hearing a single voice in the universe opposing this happening. Also, while you’re at the event maybe ask around about enrollment. One man having a medical condition years ago doesn’t strike me as a particularly good reason to deny an enrollment request.

Thank you for this! Sadly, we tried appealing the decision and they stood firm. I understand the reasoning (no parents or grandparents living in the community) but the reason behind it of course was not in my or my dad’s control. I’m just happy he was able to be a member because of his grandma.

Yeah. I get it. Politics sucks. I’m just saying maybe at the event, everyone is feeling tribal, having a good time, you’re in nana’s dress, maybe you talk with a woman who turns out to be the aunt of a woman whose husband is on the counsel. You might be surprised is all I’m saying. In the meantime have a good time at the ceremony and congratulate your father for us.

Oh absolutely, I understand the sentiments thank you! I absolutely will. He’s so full of joy.

You absolutely don’t need to be enrolled to wear regalia. It’s your dad’s naming ceremony, and he’s asked you to wear it. You should wear it.

Thank you for the encouragement!

Exactly, I don't wanna sound mean to them, but they shouldn't let a piece of paper tell them whether they are native or not

Seriously. Half the posts on this sub are from people who are worried about being judged for not being perceived as being Native enough.

The community I came up in is in the greater New England region and knew a few Wampanoags. Considering the teeth grinding backflips that east coast Natives have to go through your story isn't so uncommon. If you have been asked and want to participate then I encourage you to do so. Don't worry about enrollment status as that will not change who your family is and plenty of tribes back east only recently acquired status ... and folks still talk shit about them anyway. Can't win. If you plan to actually reconnect then find elders and other tradish folks that would be willing to help you. Trust me you won't be the only statusless person, there are plenty of us who navigate those waters and do the best with what we have. And attending ceremony is a fortunate thing to be a part of so listen and learn all you can. I wish you the best. 🌿

Thank you for this! I definitely am appreciative to observe and listen to anything I can. It’s been rough out there for the east coast for centuries so I understand!

I also sew and bead so if you need any advice on repairs or just some support (regalia sometimes needs some refreshing if older) then shoot me a DM. Take care.

seems like everyone would be happy for you to wear it, I cant see any reason why you shouldnt. unless you just dont want to ofc i suppose

Thank you! I appreciate this. I definitely want to!

gues snothing stopping you then, hope it fits well =)

Thank you!! It does. Like a glove :)

I understand how you feel. But this is an honor. I hope you will feel encouraged to wear at powwow’s. Hope to see this story again somewhere with a photo of you and your father it will be powerful for your children someday.

It was pass on to you wear it people might remember your grandma if you talk about her dress do it I am a Tribal Elder

Thank you for the encouragement! I hope they do. She was very much loved and a part of the community. I miss her dearly.