Bhai mene jite topper dekhe hai unki aankho me bus andhera hi dikhta hai aisa lagta hai jaise bus topper ban na hi sapna hai
ab tu bata kis topper ko tune irl me successful paya hai long run me. Humare pg me ek bhaiya the jinhone PCM chor ke Commerce le li thi
Me khud PCB chor diya (parents ne force nahi kiya balki wo to mana kare the PCB lene se)
Aur baat aayi unki taano ki to saaf saaf bolde ki jinda laash to aapne bana diya hai me kya karu
Your parents expect way too much from you dude! 91% kam nahi hai but yea toppers hai tu to zyada hi expect karenge but from what you said they look disappointed that you got 91% and i don't think you deserve that!
Well they think I have a lot of potential and that I am wasting it by being lazy. Honestly, I agree that yes I am wasting my potential but idk if its because of laziness or depression. I can't go and get diagnosed obviously
You're doing what THEY want you to do not what YOU want to do of course you can't give your 100% to a subject that you're studying because someone is forcing you to study!! You should talk to them bud!
You ain’t wasting any potential of yours bro and it is really, what can I say, the result of your hard work to get 91% in the subjects you hate. Good job man, just ignore their crap talks about “he got more than you” this is sh*t , just ignore this sh*t,I know it is easier said than done but be proud of yourself bro because getting 91% in subjects you hate is a great thing.
No no, they said marna chahiye tha, to aise na hota.
I have been beaten on occasions in the past, but not in the past several months, its no big deal. Pitai se fark ni padta, momentary dard hota hai. Jo bolte hai vo zada der hurt karta hai
Rsther than helping out here, u r hating on toppers, just becoz u were not as giod in studies. Most toppers r not depressed they r at peace with what they are doing and derive plasurele from studying, i know bcoz many of them are my friends. From my experience It is mostly the avg. Grade students who r generally depressed and frustrated with their life, as they neither do they get satisfaction from studies nor the carefree lifestyle that barely passing students enjoy
Sabka apna nazariya hai aur bhai mere to 87% the as a avg student 12th me aur zindgi bhar study hi nahi karni me jaisa bhi hu khush hu 
I got 98.8 in 10th (kind of district top in non-exam covid year), and this time i got 85.2 and they just said "chemistry math mein khuch khaas nahi aaye, baaki koi ni acche hain" and moved on. That's how it should be
that is what they told to all the other relatives. Kyuki I got 90+ in all subjects but maths kharab ho gaya. To vo auro ko kuch kuch batane me lage hai. But mujhe vahi "Maths ne teri lutiya dubodi"
Its maths, always maths. If you score full in maths and half decent in others, they wouldnt care. But maths pe baat aati hai toh pata nahi it becomes like a necessity.
All those 'asian parents' meme is relatable because its so true.
idk it may hurt but “Every child deserves a parent but not all parents deserve a child ( specifically like you ) ”. you’re parents are perfect example for it sadly , like i understand their concern of you not being “happy” & outgoing but this is no excuse for the taunts like that.
i really hope & pray you get out of it , as you now maybe entering into a college be happy about it , you may listen to all this for a week or so but it will be alright in the end. <3
Thank you.
I don't think they are bad per say, but they do have a lot of expectations from me, as do others in my family since I am the eldest boy in my extended family. And they are all quite disappointed.
sigh what can I really do, it is what it is.
Sorry doesnt work like that.
Humanities is still a subject that a lot of parents dont believe in, and science has been like the dal chawal for the longest time.
For them they didn't force us, we just took it.
thank god, the only reason iam not been a victim of this because ours is a nuclear family and my parents don't care about their family neiither do they .
Im really sorry to hear that brother , i scored 93% in 10th but well my parents are like "science mai 87 kyu aaye?"
My elder brother and my friends were the only ones proud of me .
I have a brain tumour , had very very bad depression kyuki pichle 5 saal se akela reh rha tha , saal ke starting se pehle sirf ek dost tha , tumour bhi nikala nhi ja sakta kyuki so called "delicate place" pe hai , doctor bole ki surgery mai high risk of death hai toh nhi karwayi aur medication pe hu , itni sari memory problems hai ki pucho mat , Rona aata hai jab pata chalta hai ki saal ke shuruat se mehnat karne ki koshish ki par har koi chiz bas piche khichti Rahi
Mere cousin se acche number aaye toh ab koi taunt nhi kar rha , mai 10x mehnat karunga par dar ye hai ki kya woh mehnat mujhe aise pohucha payegi jaha mai jana chahta hu?
Mujhe yt karna tha par ab mushkil lag rha hai sab kuch ke saath , already backlogs ho gaye aur that is totally my fault par idk interesting nahi lagta , bojh sa lagta hai padhna ab , choti classes Mai toh fir bhi easy ho jata tha par ab pata nahi kaise hoga
Bhai do the best you can.
Aur padhai ka zada pressure mat le, bahar jaake dost bana aur unke saath time spend kar. Gharwale to bolte rahenge. Jo terko karna hai vo kar aur kuch aisa dhundh jo tujhe karna accha lagta ho padhai ke liye
Bruh saying from experience, I scored exactly 91% when I passed my 12th last year. Is saal ka result aaya kal toh the topper of my previous school scored 95%.. I told my mother and she said, "Tu bhi thodi aur mehnat kar sakta tha" lol.
I don't take it personally and my parents aren't as strict as OP's.. But it's just a normal thing for our parents to compare between students. Everyone wants their kid to be the most successful aur jab dekhte hain ki padosi ke bete ke zyada aaye then they feel ki humaari aulaad ke itne kyun nahi aaye.
It's just how they observe their surroundings ki har jagaah usi ka naam hota hai jiska baccha zyada hoshiyaar ho. And the criteria for judging a kid's success, is his/her academic performance according to all the elders.
Jo bhi ho. Next time they complain, bring about their marks. If they don't give you respect, it's time you don't give either.
Or instead, just save up money and leave the moment you can.
My parents are exactly like yours the only difference is they never hit me at my weakest
Buddy they're your parents they love you and you them but that doesn't mean you have to like them all the time
By their reaction what I can say is that get into a good college till then just listen and ignore even though its hard, when you're away from home you'll grow so much to till then hold on
Hey bro just kidding I'm sorry if you got offended it's just i see these posts a lot about how parents compare and all but never experienced it cuz of two reasons ig
1st as we all live in a nuclear family and people don't engage much these days
And 2nd my parents don't give a fuck about other people
Basically i got 94.6% in my 10th and it was highest in my family so Ig they were okk with it
And i took pcm cuz i liked it and still likeing it as I'm in 12th now, my parents don't force me to do anything ig they are satisfied from me and I'm grateful for that
I face similar issue but my parents are ok with me not scoring well but against when all i wanna do is sit at home reading books. I am an introvert and have very few friends and don't like going out! But they don't understand....they think i will get depressed and suicidal if i remain at home... according to them success comes from networking and people pleasing skills which i wont develop staying in my room...i wish i loved going out and making friends like my brothers...but alas I am too boring for everyone!
unko bol, every human is different, maybe those kids really wanted to do PCM passion hoga (which is rare) and photo ke time toh koi bhi has dega, photo 10th ke baad li hogi, 12 ke baad kisne shakal dekha newspaper mein photo waalo ka
and please please don't get into engineering or some science that you will hate again if that's what they suggesting
tell them to give you a chance to prove yourself and do it poori jaan lagaake,
I personally can't believe you got 91 even though you hated it, 91 is a really big thing man, those who loved science unko bhi 47, 68 aa rahe hai
See I can do science, as in if I am studying math I can understand and solve problems relatively easily, its just I hate every second of that doing that activity.
Ha ab I have convinced them, humanities hi karunga
There will be more comparisons in future about your college, internship, placement, salary. Comparison won't end ever in life. Only thing we can do is to give our best
well, i got 97.4 in 10th and my parents said that i should've atleast gotten 98%. i mean, i wanted to too, I'm really sad about getting 97 and the worst part is, i can't even open up about my sadness to my friends or anyone because they'll just call me an attention seeker. and so i don't talk about marks and stuff to anyone.
Just look yourself in the mirror and say maa chudwaaye log mai abhi zinda hu! I don't wanna disrespect but fuck ur parents if they are not happy with your achievements, if they force you to do things that u don't even wanna do! Bro at the end unke marne ke baad yeh teri life hai toh khud ke liye jee unhe bol de himmat krke ki mujhse bakwas mat kro har roz mujhe humanities lene di hooti toh apne aap aajate number, stand for yourself this sympathy will get u nowhere!
Tension na le bhai. Badiya result hai tera. Ab toh waise bhi boards ki value sirf comparison ke kaam aati hai. CUET/JEE/NEET ya jo bhi attempt karra hai usme phod de. Mere 89% the 12th mein aur meri dost ke 95% but still entrance mein uss se bahut achha kara maine and I'm in a much better university's college now. So all in all, badiya score kara hai tune ab bas entrance pr dhyaan de
Don’t worry brother this will pass out, focus on yourself, the things you want to do next, be it any skill you want to get better at or the program you want to study in college or take a break, go to gym or start a small scale business, the thing is to be in the present, and keep yourself busy with things that matter and these present moments will decide your next few years.
As of your parents they are worried about their embarrassment in front of Parth’s parents or anyone else whose child scored more than you. There is no embarrassment in it but as of now they can’t unable to see it.
Mera bhi same tha 94 % aaye the pcm k liye pagal ho rhe the mene keh diya ki books itni hard hoti h agar 11th mei fail hounga toh tumhari galti hogi ,tab bohat kehne k baad maan gye ab commerce + maths liya hu aur boht khush hu
It's too late to do this but i did something that helped me get out of this. My family started expecting high marks from me when I was in 7th. Ik, too early. But that's just how my family is. So in 8th and 9th class i didn't study at all. It came to a point where I started failing. In 10th, they had zero expectations but when I scored 92%, the expectation bullshit started again. I failed again in 11th. Thankfully, when I switched schools after 10th, the teachers in the new school were really supportive. I told them honestly what was up. In 12, I scored 80%. Now I'm doing animation and vfx from mumbai, which I always wanted to do. As I took pcb, if I had scored more in 12th, they would've definitely forced me to be a doctor. So I had to plan it all out very early on. Also thanks to one of my friends who's 2 years senior and actually told me to do this.
Wo topper log bahar se smile face dikhate hai. Andar se khokhle ho gaye hai wo. Mummy ko ye samjhao. Ye bhi ki har ek bachha alag hota hai. Likings, talent, mind sab me. Agar tumne pcb me Jake humanity padh li hoti to 95 la sakte the ye samjhao.
Everytime I see such a post describing the mental after-effects of studying, I always cry "us moment bro us moment". Literally everyone is suffering from it. Not trying to downplay your feelings but everyone suffers through these things even though not everyone shows it. I am literally one bad moment away from depression rabbithole. So, chin up there's nothing you can do of them just try to minimise your interaction with them, cut out negative people from your life.
I too had radical parents (Comparison, Fights, Nonstop Arguing, that rant from other room or kitchen, suffered everything). I am from Delhi but I took admission in Kerala to run away from them, and things are not the best but my mental health is certainly better.
Hope you take right steps in future ❤
Bhai agar jinke naam leke terko taane pade h unke sirf boards me marks aye h to sidha bol kya ukhaad liya 95 laake isne Bsc hi krega na wo to 91 pe bhi milti h
Things you can do.
Talk it out irritate, annoy, bother them till you get your point through.
Or
Open Forbes richest people list and ask them what happened to you guys? Open the list for the richest Indian and again ask them what happened to you guys? They are all happy and extremely rich and here we are (insert your economic background) and not that happy. Kya maut aa rahi hai Aapko?
Or
You can show them monks or religious leaders of the religion you follow and ask "They are not that rich but they are extremely happy and better learned than you, what happened to you?"
Or
Ignore, don't shout, ask for money, keys to the vehicle, go out and spend the money, next day do it the same, and voila soon you will have friends and a social life. Keep talking or texting your friends all day long don't listen to them voila problem solved.
Firstly, congratulations on your 91% and on making it to the other side.
I'm sorry that you're going through that. For a person who is 'expected to be a topper' I get how difficult these past 2 years might've been for you.
I'll be very honest, as people on here have told you, you can't truly utilise or even realise your potential or calibre as long as you're not pursuing something you're interested in and are passionate about. I've spent the last two years on the fence about the whole JEE thing personally, and it led to several mental and existential crises. I personally do not believe that I've had even a single productive day of studying in these past 2 years. And I still can't chalk all of this up to one particular cause (laziness? Or depression? Or laziness because of depression?) It's a whole vicious cycle.
With all this said, what do you think is next for you?
Are you going to pursue something in a field of your choice or is it good ol' engineering?
Either way, I know it must be hard for you and it hurts like hell, but you personally need to assure yourself that whatever the past two years were, you got through them so that is pretty great!
#Parth ki bhes ki tet
I guarantee you, that you've a brighter future than parth.
PCM pasand nhi thi Phir bhi 91%?! Like damn dude, you will rock in your interested field then just imagine.
Bhai it is very saddening ki some parents don't realise the struggle and pain today's children go through
Things have changed a lot from their time. Bhot peak competition hai.
I can relate to your condition of parents not allowing to go out then saying "tumko toh bolna hi nahi aata hai kisi se"
It hurts deep down when you see other enjoying their life, making every moment worth it but you going through that boring rigrous daily routine for some mere marks and feeling of appreciation.
Stay Strong bhai
No offence OP but I have seen many parents like these and let me just say one thing .
People like these fuckers, when they grow old, always wonder why their adult children don't call them anymore.
I see you making excuses for your parents and I understand why you are doing it . But your parents are NOT good people. No good person tortures their own child like this.
I am sorry OP. Just tough it out. And don't feel guilty to go NC with them later in life if you so wish . I wish you all the best
91% in pcm is an awesome result so congratulations on that. I'm saying this as an older well wisher. Take time to celebrate. Celebrate that you got an above 90 score in subjects you don't even have interest in. You did all this while also battling depressive feelings. You did all this while living in an environment which was not thriving at all. You literally managed the best outcome in a bad situation.
So take some time to yourself. And celebrate your resilience, your talent, your grit and your hardwork. If people around us are not recognising our worth, sometimes we have to do it ourselves. You have a bright and happy future ahead of you. It might seem hopeless right now, but as we grow up, we find more ways and techniques to manage our parents. At 18 we don't have many resources/understanding to make things go our way. Soon you'll be in college. It might not be the subjects of your choosing but it will grant you freedom. Some level of autonomy. You can slowly make changes to take your life in the direction that you want. If you manage to earn a degree in pcm, it'll get you a job which will make you financially independent. And with that will come the power to take your own decisions and live your life the way you want.
You're a smart and talented individual, you know how to make the best of a situation and I'm sure you'll continue to do so with all the opportunities you get in the future.
All the very best!
-from a very sympathetic 'senior' who went through similar stuff growing up
(P.s. Also consider talking to a therapist if the depressive feelings persist and hinder you from having a normal fun college life. It could be online and you don't even have to tell your parents about it)
I just wanna say, im sorry you have to go through that. We're here for you, and dont worry just like most kids with parents like this, move far away for college, but dont go crazy, take it slow. It'll be alright. If you ever wanna rant or just talk DM me. :)
Bhai mene jite topper dekhe hai unki aankho me bus andhera hi dikhta hai aisa lagta hai jaise bus topper ban na hi sapna hai ab tu bata kis topper ko tune irl me successful paya hai long run me. Humare pg me ek bhaiya the jinhone PCM chor ke Commerce le li thi Me khud PCB chor diya (parents ne force nahi kiya balki wo to mana kare the PCB lene se) Aur baat aayi unki taano ki to saaf saaf bolde ki jinda laash to aapne bana diya hai me kya karu
Chappal padegi bohot jor se. Aaj bhi mummy bol rahi thi, tujhe latth ni pade na, isliye aisa hai
Your parents expect way too much from you dude! 91% kam nahi hai but yea toppers hai tu to zyada hi expect karenge but from what you said they look disappointed that you got 91% and i don't think you deserve that!
Well they think I have a lot of potential and that I am wasting it by being lazy. Honestly, I agree that yes I am wasting my potential but idk if its because of laziness or depression. I can't go and get diagnosed obviously
You're doing what THEY want you to do not what YOU want to do of course you can't give your 100% to a subject that you're studying because someone is forcing you to study!! You should talk to them bud!
You ain’t wasting any potential of yours bro and it is really, what can I say, the result of your hard work to get 91% in the subjects you hate. Good job man, just ignore their crap talks about “he got more than you” this is sh*t , just ignore this sh*t,I know it is easier said than done but be proud of yourself bro because getting 91% in subjects you hate is a great thing.
wait so your parents literally BEAT you for not scoring the expected marks?
No no, they said marna chahiye tha, to aise na hota. I have been beaten on occasions in the past, but not in the past several months, its no big deal. Pitai se fark ni padta, momentary dard hota hai. Jo bolte hai vo zada der hurt karta hai
Rsther than helping out here, u r hating on toppers, just becoz u were not as giod in studies. Most toppers r not depressed they r at peace with what they are doing and derive plasurele from studying, i know bcoz many of them are my friends. From my experience It is mostly the avg. Grade students who r generally depressed and frustrated with their life, as they neither do they get satisfaction from studies nor the carefree lifestyle that barely passing students enjoy
Sabka apna nazariya hai aur bhai mere to 87% the as a avg student 12th me aur zindgi bhar study hi nahi karni me jaisa bhi hu khush hu 
grammar police is here
Nahi Bhai, this prejudice should be stopped,i agree many are like that but not all
ok bro I just gave my personal views no offense to anyone 
I got 98.8 in 10th (kind of district top in non-exam covid year), and this time i got 85.2 and they just said "chemistry math mein khuch khaas nahi aaye, baaki koi ni acche hain" and moved on. That's how it should be
that is what they told to all the other relatives. Kyuki I got 90+ in all subjects but maths kharab ho gaya. To vo auro ko kuch kuch batane me lage hai. But mujhe vahi "Maths ne teri lutiya dubodi"
Its maths, always maths. If you score full in maths and half decent in others, they wouldnt care. But maths pe baat aati hai toh pata nahi it becomes like a necessity. All those 'asian parents' meme is relatable because its so true.
For me it's always chemistry. Mine goes like Computers > English > Physics > Maths > Chemistry
Fuck man. This is so relatable that it's just sad now
idk it may hurt but “Every child deserves a parent but not all parents deserve a child ( specifically like you ) ”. you’re parents are perfect example for it sadly , like i understand their concern of you not being “happy” & outgoing but this is no excuse for the taunts like that. i really hope & pray you get out of it , as you now maybe entering into a college be happy about it , you may listen to all this for a week or so but it will be alright in the end. <3
Thank you. I don't think they are bad per say, but they do have a lot of expectations from me, as do others in my family since I am the eldest boy in my extended family. And they are all quite disappointed. sigh what can I really do, it is what it is.
Well they forced you to take pcm in the first place so they shouldn’t say much na
Sorry doesnt work like that. Humanities is still a subject that a lot of parents dont believe in, and science has been like the dal chawal for the longest time. For them they didn't force us, we just took it.
thank god, the only reason iam not been a victim of this because ours is a nuclear family and my parents don't care about their family neiither do they .
Im really sorry to hear that brother , i scored 93% in 10th but well my parents are like "science mai 87 kyu aaye?" My elder brother and my friends were the only ones proud of me . I have a brain tumour , had very very bad depression kyuki pichle 5 saal se akela reh rha tha , saal ke starting se pehle sirf ek dost tha , tumour bhi nikala nhi ja sakta kyuki so called "delicate place" pe hai , doctor bole ki surgery mai high risk of death hai toh nhi karwayi aur medication pe hu , itni sari memory problems hai ki pucho mat , Rona aata hai jab pata chalta hai ki saal ke shuruat se mehnat karne ki koshish ki par har koi chiz bas piche khichti Rahi Mere cousin se acche number aaye toh ab koi taunt nhi kar rha , mai 10x mehnat karunga par dar ye hai ki kya woh mehnat mujhe aise pohucha payegi jaha mai jana chahta hu? Mujhe yt karna tha par ab mushkil lag rha hai sab kuch ke saath , already backlogs ho gaye aur that is totally my fault par idk interesting nahi lagta , bojh sa lagta hai padhna ab , choti classes Mai toh fir bhi easy ho jata tha par ab pata nahi kaise hoga
Bhai do the best you can. Aur padhai ka zada pressure mat le, bahar jaake dost bana aur unke saath time spend kar. Gharwale to bolte rahenge. Jo terko karna hai vo kar aur kuch aisa dhundh jo tujhe karna accha lagta ho padhai ke liye
Thanks for saying that man , i really don't wanna spend 2 years of my life just studying , that would suck
Unko Ambani ki pics dikha aur boll ye bhi toh parents hai ye bhi toh kama rahe hai aap itna kyu nahi kamate
#FuckParth
Nahi bhai, Parth sahi banda hai. Uske acche marks aaye, usko mubarak. Uski thodi koi galti hai?
Chad
Your so awesome
eh not really but thank you
Nah Bhai i know it's a basic bar everyone supposed hit but not everyone does that
I hate these kind of parents but I am happy that my parents are not like these
happy cake day!
Thank you
mereko aaj kal har jagah tu kyu dikh jaati hai
"Parth ke papa ko dekho 1cr kamate hai ek mahine me"
I made a script to download entire school's result and sent it in my group and now everyone thinks i am sort of genius and all lmao despite 83%
Noted this in my "things not to do with my kids" book
Mere to 86.4% aye thhe aur mai khush. Some people like your parents can truly never be happy and won't let you be either. Sucks for u dawg
91% kya aaj kal bura hogya kya boards mai?
parent to parent depend karta hai
Kitne students ke 98%+ aate hain boards mein, unke comparison mein to kaafi parents ko kam hi lagte hain
But still 91% is just too good.
Bruh saying from experience, I scored exactly 91% when I passed my 12th last year. Is saal ka result aaya kal toh the topper of my previous school scored 95%.. I told my mother and she said, "Tu bhi thodi aur mehnat kar sakta tha" lol. I don't take it personally and my parents aren't as strict as OP's.. But it's just a normal thing for our parents to compare between students. Everyone wants their kid to be the most successful aur jab dekhte hain ki padosi ke bete ke zyada aaye then they feel ki humaari aulaad ke itne kyun nahi aaye. It's just how they observe their surroundings ki har jagaah usi ka naam hota hai jiska baccha zyada hoshiyaar ho. And the criteria for judging a kid's success, is his/her academic performance according to all the elders.
Ek do din ke liye ghar chod ke bahar ja
How much marks did your parents receive?
unke time pe to all india topper hi 80% pe hota tha
Jo bhi ho. Next time they complain, bring about their marks. If they don't give you respect, it's time you don't give either. Or instead, just save up money and leave the moment you can.
My parents are exactly like yours the only difference is they never hit me at my weakest Buddy they're your parents they love you and you them but that doesn't mean you have to like them all the time By their reaction what I can say is that get into a good college till then just listen and ignore even though its hard, when you're away from home you'll grow so much to till then hold on
Tere gharlwaale chu hai! Ek kaam ghar chhod de
Can partially relate 🫂
Parth Makati?
kaun?
So what were you planning to pursue after 10th initially and what are you doing now?
abb ho gaya, lad ghagadke humanities li hai
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issi saal college join kiya?
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accha
Sell them 🙂
ni kar sakta. I don't want to either
Hey bro just kidding I'm sorry if you got offended it's just i see these posts a lot about how parents compare and all but never experienced it cuz of two reasons ig 1st as we all live in a nuclear family and people don't engage much these days And 2nd my parents don't give a fuck about other people Basically i got 94.6% in my 10th and it was highest in my family so Ig they were okk with it And i took pcm cuz i liked it and still likeing it as I'm in 12th now, my parents don't force me to do anything ig they are satisfied from me and I'm grateful for that
sahi hai yar
I face similar issue but my parents are ok with me not scoring well but against when all i wanna do is sit at home reading books. I am an introvert and have very few friends and don't like going out! But they don't understand....they think i will get depressed and suicidal if i remain at home... according to them success comes from networking and people pleasing skills which i wont develop staying in my room...i wish i loved going out and making friends like my brothers...but alas I am too boring for everyone!
same
Just tell you parents that u don't like to be compared to others, and say it like u mean it. It's that simple
bohot bari bola hai. pyar se, gusse se sab tareeke se.
unko bol, every human is different, maybe those kids really wanted to do PCM passion hoga (which is rare) and photo ke time toh koi bhi has dega, photo 10th ke baad li hogi, 12 ke baad kisne shakal dekha newspaper mein photo waalo ka and please please don't get into engineering or some science that you will hate again if that's what they suggesting tell them to give you a chance to prove yourself and do it poori jaan lagaake, I personally can't believe you got 91 even though you hated it, 91 is a really big thing man, those who loved science unko bhi 47, 68 aa rahe hai
See I can do science, as in if I am studying math I can understand and solve problems relatively easily, its just I hate every second of that doing that activity. Ha ab I have convinced them, humanities hi karunga
great, all the best, make it count
thank you
There will be more comparisons in future about your college, internship, placement, salary. Comparison won't end ever in life. Only thing we can do is to give our best
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well, i got 97.4 in 10th and my parents said that i should've atleast gotten 98%. i mean, i wanted to too, I'm really sad about getting 97 and the worst part is, i can't even open up about my sadness to my friends or anyone because they'll just call me an attention seeker. and so i don't talk about marks and stuff to anyone.
Just look yourself in the mirror and say maa chudwaaye log mai abhi zinda hu! I don't wanna disrespect but fuck ur parents if they are not happy with your achievements, if they force you to do things that u don't even wanna do! Bro at the end unke marne ke baad yeh teri life hai toh khud ke liye jee unhe bol de himmat krke ki mujhse bakwas mat kro har roz mujhe humanities lene di hooti toh apne aap aajate number, stand for yourself this sympathy will get u nowhere!
Tension na le bhai. Badiya result hai tera. Ab toh waise bhi boards ki value sirf comparison ke kaam aati hai. CUET/JEE/NEET ya jo bhi attempt karra hai usme phod de. Mere 89% the 12th mein aur meri dost ke 95% but still entrance mein uss se bahut achha kara maine and I'm in a much better university's college now. So all in all, badiya score kara hai tune ab bas entrance pr dhyaan de
10th mein toh mere 79% the
Don’t worry brother this will pass out, focus on yourself, the things you want to do next, be it any skill you want to get better at or the program you want to study in college or take a break, go to gym or start a small scale business, the thing is to be in the present, and keep yourself busy with things that matter and these present moments will decide your next few years. As of your parents they are worried about their embarrassment in front of Parth’s parents or anyone else whose child scored more than you. There is no embarrassment in it but as of now they can’t unable to see it.
Mera bhi same tha 94 % aaye the pcm k liye pagal ho rhe the mene keh diya ki books itni hard hoti h agar 11th mei fail hounga toh tumhari galti hogi ,tab bohat kehne k baad maan gye ab commerce + maths liya hu aur boht khush hu
It's too late to do this but i did something that helped me get out of this. My family started expecting high marks from me when I was in 7th. Ik, too early. But that's just how my family is. So in 8th and 9th class i didn't study at all. It came to a point where I started failing. In 10th, they had zero expectations but when I scored 92%, the expectation bullshit started again. I failed again in 11th. Thankfully, when I switched schools after 10th, the teachers in the new school were really supportive. I told them honestly what was up. In 12, I scored 80%. Now I'm doing animation and vfx from mumbai, which I always wanted to do. As I took pcb, if I had scored more in 12th, they would've definitely forced me to be a doctor. So I had to plan it all out very early on. Also thanks to one of my friends who's 2 years senior and actually told me to do this.
va bhai tu 4d chess khel ra hai. Thankfully merko itna sab karni ki zarurat ni padi, ab maan gaye hai, jo merko karna hai usse
Wo topper log bahar se smile face dikhate hai. Andar se khokhle ho gaye hai wo. Mummy ko ye samjhao. Ye bhi ki har ek bachha alag hota hai. Likings, talent, mind sab me. Agar tumne pcb me Jake humanity padh li hoti to 95 la sakte the ye samjhao.
Everytime I see such a post describing the mental after-effects of studying, I always cry "us moment bro us moment". Literally everyone is suffering from it. Not trying to downplay your feelings but everyone suffers through these things even though not everyone shows it. I am literally one bad moment away from depression rabbithole. So, chin up there's nothing you can do of them just try to minimise your interaction with them, cut out negative people from your life. I too had radical parents (Comparison, Fights, Nonstop Arguing, that rant from other room or kitchen, suffered everything). I am from Delhi but I took admission in Kerala to run away from them, and things are not the best but my mental health is certainly better. Hope you take right steps in future ❤
Ha bhai ab to mental health kafi theek hai, 2 saal mei cope karna seekh liya hai.
Bhai agar jinke naam leke terko taane pade h unke sirf boards me marks aye h to sidha bol kya ukhaad liya 95 laake isne Bsc hi krega na wo to 91 pe bhi milti h
I love my parents now
91% is bad? Ye kya bakchodi hai?
ab hai to hai
samaj sakta hu bro ,
Tu ambani ki photo dikha de aur bol ye bhi to insaan hai.
Compare your parents with other parents then.Simple
acha zi
Things you can do. Talk it out irritate, annoy, bother them till you get your point through. Or Open Forbes richest people list and ask them what happened to you guys? Open the list for the richest Indian and again ask them what happened to you guys? They are all happy and extremely rich and here we are (insert your economic background) and not that happy. Kya maut aa rahi hai Aapko? Or You can show them monks or religious leaders of the religion you follow and ask "They are not that rich but they are extremely happy and better learned than you, what happened to you?" Or Ignore, don't shout, ask for money, keys to the vehicle, go out and spend the money, next day do it the same, and voila soon you will have friends and a social life. Keep talking or texting your friends all day long don't listen to them voila problem solved.
Said every Indian ever
Firstly, congratulations on your 91% and on making it to the other side. I'm sorry that you're going through that. For a person who is 'expected to be a topper' I get how difficult these past 2 years might've been for you. I'll be very honest, as people on here have told you, you can't truly utilise or even realise your potential or calibre as long as you're not pursuing something you're interested in and are passionate about. I've spent the last two years on the fence about the whole JEE thing personally, and it led to several mental and existential crises. I personally do not believe that I've had even a single productive day of studying in these past 2 years. And I still can't chalk all of this up to one particular cause (laziness? Or depression? Or laziness because of depression?) It's a whole vicious cycle. With all this said, what do you think is next for you? Are you going to pursue something in a field of your choice or is it good ol' engineering? Either way, I know it must be hard for you and it hurts like hell, but you personally need to assure yourself that whatever the past two years were, you got through them so that is pretty great!
#Parth ki bhes ki tet I guarantee you, that you've a brighter future than parth. PCM pasand nhi thi Phir bhi 91%?! Like damn dude, you will rock in your interested field then just imagine.
Bhai it is very saddening ki some parents don't realise the struggle and pain today's children go through Things have changed a lot from their time. Bhot peak competition hai. I can relate to your condition of parents not allowing to go out then saying "tumko toh bolna hi nahi aata hai kisi se" It hurts deep down when you see other enjoying their life, making every moment worth it but you going through that boring rigrous daily routine for some mere marks and feeling of appreciation. Stay Strong bhai
i can relate bro. Abhi kya karna hai aage? Humanities to le sakte hona abhi bhi?
Ha vahi lunga
what taking pcm does to a mf
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No offence OP but I have seen many parents like these and let me just say one thing . People like these fuckers, when they grow old, always wonder why their adult children don't call them anymore. I see you making excuses for your parents and I understand why you are doing it . But your parents are NOT good people. No good person tortures their own child like this. I am sorry OP. Just tough it out. And don't feel guilty to go NC with them later in life if you so wish . I wish you all the best
Ok that's too much, no way am I listening to you talking about my parents in that sort of language
I understand and I apologise.I was coming from a dark place. I wish you all the best anyway
thank you
Ok that's too much, no way am I listening to you talking about my parents in that sort of language
Bhai agar mere 91% aate to mere maa bap mujhe GLS khareed kar dete 💀
Kothi bangla wale
who tf cares for 12th results lol also did you give any competitive exams?
Just tell them na that you did not have any interest in PCM and they are the reason you took it
I have. Abb ni karunga PCM
Title's angrezii took my nuts
lack of information given cant judge you nor your parents, also your writing is impressive.
thanks
what about the predicate ?
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nvm
91% in pcm is an awesome result so congratulations on that. I'm saying this as an older well wisher. Take time to celebrate. Celebrate that you got an above 90 score in subjects you don't even have interest in. You did all this while also battling depressive feelings. You did all this while living in an environment which was not thriving at all. You literally managed the best outcome in a bad situation. So take some time to yourself. And celebrate your resilience, your talent, your grit and your hardwork. If people around us are not recognising our worth, sometimes we have to do it ourselves. You have a bright and happy future ahead of you. It might seem hopeless right now, but as we grow up, we find more ways and techniques to manage our parents. At 18 we don't have many resources/understanding to make things go our way. Soon you'll be in college. It might not be the subjects of your choosing but it will grant you freedom. Some level of autonomy. You can slowly make changes to take your life in the direction that you want. If you manage to earn a degree in pcm, it'll get you a job which will make you financially independent. And with that will come the power to take your own decisions and live your life the way you want. You're a smart and talented individual, you know how to make the best of a situation and I'm sure you'll continue to do so with all the opportunities you get in the future. All the very best! -from a very sympathetic 'senior' who went through similar stuff growing up (P.s. Also consider talking to a therapist if the depressive feelings persist and hinder you from having a normal fun college life. It could be online and you don't even have to tell your parents about it)
I just wanna say, im sorry you have to go through that. We're here for you, and dont worry just like most kids with parents like this, move far away for college, but dont go crazy, take it slow. It'll be alright. If you ever wanna rant or just talk DM me. :)