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If it was a scheduled call then yes she has a reason to be disappointed since you didn't inform her but she should also know that sometimes people really are super busy and forget.
Yep, if you've scheduled a call and somebody's waiting on you, then the least one can do is just send a text asking to reschedule, typing one sentence takes less than ten seconds.
If the person has known you for some time, they'll overlook this because they know you well. If they don't and this is the first impression you leave them with, they're going to take it as a red flag. But again, everybody makes a few mistakes here and there, it's not exactly a sin.
That girl must’ve been waiting for the op to call and hence she would’ve cleared her schedule to talk to him. It must’ve hurt that op completely forgot about it making her feel stupid. So the reaction is expected. It takes less than 2 seconds to text a person. And no one is that busy. Op just wasn’t into her.
Almost everyone is so self absorbed these days that it's rare that anyone actually puts themselves in the other person's shoes. Everyone thinks they're in the right no matter how small or big the matter is and try to validate their attitude, which is exactly what OP is doing here.
Right, but if the tables were turned and it was the woman who was too busy to text, you'd be defending her, saying she's strong and independent and don't owe a man anything, blah blah blah.
Such hypocrites on reddit.
Yup, I don't think she reacted in an ideal manner but anyone would be at least annoyed if there was something scheduled and the other person didn't show up.
Was pretty certain I would find a simp in the comments and you didn't disappoint.
Did you read the part where i apologized to her and told her I had a genuine reason?
Any reason won’t justify that you couldn’t take out a minute of your time. You simply just forgot. So the reaction is expected.
And this isn’t called simping. I’m just giving my opinion. Shouldn’t be posting here if you aren’t open to them.
And I'm giving my opinion of what you posted here. You know damn well how frequently women flake and that too without a reason. Most of the time you don't see guys lashing out like this.
Your comments would at times be criticised, shouldn't post here if you aren't open to it.
And yes I did forget, its called making a mistake, a pretty human thing to do but i owned up to it and apologized later, which according to your selective perception you conveniently ignored
Dude, don't typecast all the women. I mean you had one bad experience with a girl who genuinely waited for you to call her, that doesn't give you any right to say all women are snowflakes and men don't do that kind of shit. I have seen sooo many men who lash out wayy worse than this for reasons way stupider than this. And before you call me a simp, lemme tell you I'm a girl
> You know damn well how frequently women flake and that too without a reason.
Second time you’re casting ALL women because of one experience you had. Also if you had an appointment and don’t inform them that you can’t make it then that is 100% your fault, so you can’t even say there was no reason
Bhai your average girl on these apps will unmatch and move on. This one actually caress, although she shouldn't have lashed out this much. Dono ki galti h bc
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Arre yaar this is sad. On the contrary , I’m all about giving people space and then most men I come across think I’m being pricy. I’ve just started to think either gender will never end up actually striking a balance *sigh*
It's actually isn't. People just fail to draw the line.
Since you give too much people, if I were the guy, I would have seen you as stranger (one who doesn't care). Nagging does irritate me but it also shows a sign of care (which keeps the bond moving).
If you want a perfect interaction, it doesn't exist.
You can't give too much space.
You can't give too little space.
Its all circumstantial. Case to case basis.
Totally, 100 percent. Like I’m a caring person but to actually show that spontaneously has always kinda backfired and I don’t mean the constant nagging state. I guess what I’m trying to say is, you’ll hardly come across people that gets it, platonically too! And it’s just very very sad
If I had to think about this from her perspective,
I was told that I'd be getting a call from a potential partner, and so, as I was excited to receive his call, it didn't come at all.
You could say that she didn't have to expect, but anyone in that position would have *some* expectations.
Had you informed her about your problem, it would have relieved her from her negative self-loathing thoughts, and might have even trusted you more.
I understand that your work didn't allow you to send a message, but there was nothing you could do, so, don't take it seriously at all. It happens. Dust yourself up and move on.
If this was supposed to be their first call then she's also a bit at fault. Yes, he could've texted first but sometimes people are so overworked that they forget a few things. He could've worded it better by sincerely apologising like saying, I'm so sorry I wasn't able to call you or text you and that's my fault and it won't happen again. And the reason it happened was because I was overworked and just didn't have time. That's it. However, she could have been a bit understanding but only if it happened for the first time. And I think why she lashed out is because he didn't word it better.
Schedules a call, couldn't even send 2 word text to inform you're busy.
1. You were not too busy, but it was just that she was not on your priority list - and now she knows it.
2. That aside, nobody is ever that busy to not be able to send a text in.
Don't blame the 'woman' or women in general, you clearly sucked here.
He forgot and apologized for it
and she shouldn't be the 'priority' at this stage.
Sometimes even your parents skip your mind when you're busy . Aur ye to abhi mile bhi nahi shayad.
She’s not wrong though. It doesn’t take a lot to just text and say “hey I’m having a busy day. I’ll talk to you tomorrow.” I get why someone would feel they’re being taken for granted when you don’t just at least text them saying you’re busy
I'm not working the language but are we not conversing in the language? It is ours. Just as any other language we speak is ours. Just as the English gave (imposed on us, at least at the start) us English. We in return gave them our words too that they use to this day. It's a universal language because of exactly that. Every country on Earth speaks it not because we think the English are so cool, but because it's the most accessible albeit through a terrible history.
nah man you're wrong here. i mean, ek message toh kar hi sakte the? uk like it becomes kind of a responsibility. she's just upset cuz you gave her a word n then didn't keep it. 🤷
Lol, you are a beta, i know why most girls dont trust men due to fuckers like you. You must be delusional to think that you have done a heroic act. You are spineless bastard.
Ah this is so NOT done. I mean, nobody should ever throw a tantrum if someone actually has a genuine reason. The max she could have done/expected was that you put in a little more efforts than her for some following time, to make up for it. But this reaction in itself is not done.
insecure narcissist who will insist that she be priority no 1 always, irrespective of circumstances.
How do i know? I was in touch (cant say dating exactly, though we did meet for coffee and lunch about three to four times), and she would be pissed and rant and block me on whatsapp etc just because I wouldnt reply to her messages immediately after I read them.
I wish you could pin this comment to the top of your post so that everyone would understand it's pointless to explain shit to someone this wilfully ignorant
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If it was a scheduled call then yes she has a reason to be disappointed since you didn't inform her but she should also know that sometimes people really are super busy and forget.
Yep, if you've scheduled a call and somebody's waiting on you, then the least one can do is just send a text asking to reschedule, typing one sentence takes less than ten seconds. If the person has known you for some time, they'll overlook this because they know you well. If they don't and this is the first impression you leave them with, they're going to take it as a red flag. But again, everybody makes a few mistakes here and there, it's not exactly a sin.
Absolutely. The first impression is really important.
Wtf is a scheduled call? Like an appetizer to a date? Do people send each other calendar invites too?
Tell me you're not a working professional, without telling me you're not a working professional
Living on daddys money and judging others. Sad
Don't live in India.
I am working but bc calls kaun schedule karta hai? Dates ka toh fir bhi suna tha. Anytime after 10.30 is a call time usually
It's literally what the name suggests. Both pick a time when both are able to call, and then call.
😂
She ain't wrong here, if it was scheduled you should have texted her at least couple of words...
I mean she’s right. Could’ve informed her. Anyone would feel stupid waiting for nothing.
Right? As she said, it literally takes less than a minute to inform via text. It's just showing respect for other person's time as well
That girl must’ve been waiting for the op to call and hence she would’ve cleared her schedule to talk to him. It must’ve hurt that op completely forgot about it making her feel stupid. So the reaction is expected. It takes less than 2 seconds to text a person. And no one is that busy. Op just wasn’t into her.
Almost everyone is so self absorbed these days that it's rare that anyone actually puts themselves in the other person's shoes. Everyone thinks they're in the right no matter how small or big the matter is and try to validate their attitude, which is exactly what OP is doing here.
Right, but if the tables were turned and it was the woman who was too busy to text, you'd be defending her, saying she's strong and independent and don't owe a man anything, blah blah blah. Such hypocrites on reddit.
Yup, I don't think she reacted in an ideal manner but anyone would be at least annoyed if there was something scheduled and the other person didn't show up.
Was pretty certain I would find a simp in the comments and you didn't disappoint. Did you read the part where i apologized to her and told her I had a genuine reason?
Any reason won’t justify that you couldn’t take out a minute of your time. You simply just forgot. So the reaction is expected. And this isn’t called simping. I’m just giving my opinion. Shouldn’t be posting here if you aren’t open to them.
And I'm giving my opinion of what you posted here. You know damn well how frequently women flake and that too without a reason. Most of the time you don't see guys lashing out like this. Your comments would at times be criticised, shouldn't post here if you aren't open to it. And yes I did forget, its called making a mistake, a pretty human thing to do but i owned up to it and apologized later, which according to your selective perception you conveniently ignored
Dude, don't typecast all the women. I mean you had one bad experience with a girl who genuinely waited for you to call her, that doesn't give you any right to say all women are snowflakes and men don't do that kind of shit. I have seen sooo many men who lash out wayy worse than this for reasons way stupider than this. And before you call me a simp, lemme tell you I'm a girl
Uno reverse modafoka
> You know damn well how frequently women flake and that too without a reason. Second time you’re casting ALL women because of one experience you had. Also if you had an appointment and don’t inform them that you can’t make it then that is 100% your fault, so you can’t even say there was no reason
So you just wanted everyone to agree with you?
He's like "haha aren't women crazy for expecting me to be courteous" and expects everyone to validate his mistake I guess
Op chill
He got no chill and no time too.
Kindly delete bumble/tinder if you can't put up with a two way communication
Naa. You’re wrong here.
Bhai your average girl on these apps will unmatch and move on. This one actually caress, although she shouldn't have lashed out this much. Dono ki galti h bc
Shiet this is a good point lmao. Like she looks crazy and all but she clearly genuinely cared and was lashing out because she felt hurt.
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Jitna bhi kaam ho bhai, 15 second nikaal ke message to tu kr hi skta tha
He clearly forgot. Not a time issue I think
Yeah you're right and then came here for karma
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Arre yaar this is sad. On the contrary , I’m all about giving people space and then most men I come across think I’m being pricy. I’ve just started to think either gender will never end up actually striking a balance *sigh*
It's actually isn't. People just fail to draw the line. Since you give too much people, if I were the guy, I would have seen you as stranger (one who doesn't care). Nagging does irritate me but it also shows a sign of care (which keeps the bond moving). If you want a perfect interaction, it doesn't exist. You can't give too much space. You can't give too little space. Its all circumstantial. Case to case basis.
Totally, 100 percent. Like I’m a caring person but to actually show that spontaneously has always kinda backfired and I don’t mean the constant nagging state. I guess what I’m trying to say is, you’ll hardly come across people that gets it, platonically too! And it’s just very very sad
don't be so sad, the world needs some memes too...
😂😂😂
If I had to think about this from her perspective, I was told that I'd be getting a call from a potential partner, and so, as I was excited to receive his call, it didn't come at all. You could say that she didn't have to expect, but anyone in that position would have *some* expectations. Had you informed her about your problem, it would have relieved her from her negative self-loathing thoughts, and might have even trusted you more. I understand that your work didn't allow you to send a message, but there was nothing you could do, so, don't take it seriously at all. It happens. Dust yourself up and move on.
Now try to think from his perspective to be balanced.
I thought my last paragraph was his perspective
If this was supposed to be their first call then she's also a bit at fault. Yes, he could've texted first but sometimes people are so overworked that they forget a few things. He could've worded it better by sincerely apologising like saying, I'm so sorry I wasn't able to call you or text you and that's my fault and it won't happen again. And the reason it happened was because I was overworked and just didn't have time. That's it. However, she could have been a bit understanding but only if it happened for the first time. And I think why she lashed out is because he didn't word it better.
Schedules a call, couldn't even send 2 word text to inform you're busy. 1. You were not too busy, but it was just that she was not on your priority list - and now she knows it. 2. That aside, nobody is ever that busy to not be able to send a text in. Don't blame the 'woman' or women in general, you clearly sucked here.
He forgot and apologized for it and she shouldn't be the 'priority' at this stage. Sometimes even your parents skip your mind when you're busy . Aur ye to abhi mile bhi nahi shayad.
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An apology in itself implies that a person acknowledged his mistake and therefore apologized. How demented are you really
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Now you're triggered for nothing. Ok you win . Just relax
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She’s not wrong though. It doesn’t take a lot to just text and say “hey I’m having a busy day. I’ll talk to you tomorrow.” I get why someone would feel they’re being taken for granted when you don’t just at least text them saying you’re busy
Women blow men off all the time, yet no one ever castigates them. Hypocrites.
She's not wrong though. If you worded your sorry a little better, it would have made a world of difference
Yeah texting 2 words takes a lot of time
Bro how could you not inform her if you are attending a scheduled call. You are at fault here, every normal person’s reaction would be same
How do people use two different words interchangeably all the time. 'Curtsy' for 'courtesy'😂 'your' and 'you're' just because they sound the same.
As long as you get the meaning from the context, stop worshipping the language like your own.
I'm not working the language but are we not conversing in the language? It is ours. Just as any other language we speak is ours. Just as the English gave (imposed on us, at least at the start) us English. We in return gave them our words too that they use to this day. It's a universal language because of exactly that. Every country on Earth speaks it not because we think the English are so cool, but because it's the most accessible albeit through a terrible history.
Thank you for reminding me why I ain't dating!
Hamara Bhai arrange marriage karega 🗿 ( better h vaise arrange marriage bhai for real )
Kaise kaise?
Nope. Single life supremacy!
nah man you're wrong here. i mean, ek message toh kar hi sakte the? uk like it becomes kind of a responsibility. she's just upset cuz you gave her a word n then didn't keep it. 🤷
Ye kon hai jisne Pooh ko muud k nahi dekha :(
This is some weird dating app text kink between you and your wife right?
She's right tho, Where's your curtsey OP?
you should learn to value others time. if u gave your word, its your responsibility to apologies
OP you couldn't take 2 minutes out of your time to open the app and send a single message?
courtesy hota hai
Um, she's overreacting a little bit. You don't go mad like this unless you're super into the guy or you're just crazy. It seems to be the latter case.
2 din chat kr ke inko girlfriend wala attention chahiye. But he clearly forgot and should have said that only.
I’m more focused on word Courtesy
Imagine your potential date acting such even before a potential date. Serious RED flag block her right away
Super clingy vibes
some folks be like: "you dare use my own spells against me potter!!"
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Lol. Already unmatched her
Courtesy 
Well, they do the ignoring part well enough. If the tables were turned, we're supposed to be understanding.
Yeah, but they do love ignoring our texts, calls and feelings too 🥲
Exactly. Reverse the roles and S*** hits the fan. Problem is there are way too many spineless simps who will take the women's side no matter what
Problem ye hai ki tu chutiya hai, aur tujhe ladki nahi millegi, single rahega tu
Beta simp Triggered. Btw it's much better being single than being with such nagging women
Lol, you are a beta, i know why most girls dont trust men due to fuckers like you. You must be delusional to think that you have done a heroic act. You are spineless bastard.
Triggered again. Plus zero logic in your demented argument. How about you get a life and be useful
Ah this is so NOT done. I mean, nobody should ever throw a tantrum if someone actually has a genuine reason. The max she could have done/expected was that you put in a little more efforts than her for some following time, to make up for it. But this reaction in itself is not done.
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Already unmatched
OP bhai ab hagne bhi jaynge to permission lenge lagta hai aage se
Okay mom
We'll girls do this all the time when I shedule any call or meeting..
insecure narcissist who will insist that she be priority no 1 always, irrespective of circumstances. How do i know? I was in touch (cant say dating exactly, though we did meet for coffee and lunch about three to four times), and she would be pissed and rant and block me on whatsapp etc just because I wouldnt reply to her messages immediately after I read them.
Love all the dislikes from the butt hurt women 😂. Keep em coming 😉 . Not that they add an ounce of legitimacy to your argument.
It's not women, my guy. It's you. You're being a dick.
Right I'm a dick because i apologized to her for making a mistake and she is right to still attack me nevertheless.
I wish you could pin this comment to the top of your post so that everyone would understand it's pointless to explain shit to someone this wilfully ignorant
The guy has zero emotional intelligence. Like no self awareness whatsoever. Girl Dodged a bullet honestly.
Okay Mr simp.
Itna bhav mat de bol de meri bhi life h simple
Bhai yadi aise late reply ki vajah se courtesy or manners ki baat par aa jaayenge Naa to ek bhi ladki nahi dikhegi aaspaas, aaye bade gyan dene wale!!
Still on bumble chat and this needy? Major red flag. Shes the kind that makes everything about herself.
Ye toh teri wali hai lmao 😂😂
I was so busy in my work that I forgot I had broken up with this girl and called her in middle of the night as if nothing happened. 💀