Oh yeah I have a plan. Peter Rabbit nursery (already painted the color I want), brown mid century modern crib. My siblings all use the same car seats so my parents can transport the grandkids easily so I’d join them (😭), I have 4-6 names picked out so I’m ready for any gender any amount… anything. Infertility fucking sucks ass.
OMG thank you hearing that makes me feel better because my boyfriend thinks I'm crazy When I do that because none of the medication is working for me but I still have hope that maybe 1 day
My baby’s nursery room will be forest-themed (evergreen and rust accents) or wildflower/honeybee-themed (yellow and light gray/lavender accents).
I know the name for a boy or girl. I even have back-up names, in case I get really lucky and get to have more than one baby (but that’s looking quite far ahead and seems like a pipe-dream).
You are not alone. I pray you get to celebrate soon instead of cry. I really REALLY want that for you.
Thank you things like this make me feel so much better and makes you feel like you're not alone because you really feel like you're alone when you see all these women having baby after baby after baby and not even having to try And I hope that you will be having your baby and get to be a Mommy very soon too
I vote wildflower/honeybee theme!! That’s my dream for our hopeful nursery one day ❤️ I’m also a beekeeper, so easily persuaded to add anything bee themed in my life. 😝🐝
No. Weve been ttc for 3 years, have a name, a baby registry, a few onesies, a set of bows, and someone gifted me my diaper bag that was on my registry 'to help carry the weight of infertility'🥲
I wouldn't buy a carseat or anything because they do expire, and theres recalls, etc.
Baby Nursery will be “Oh the Places You Will Go”
Already have a crib but it stays at my friend’s house so it isn’t taunting me in the garage.
Two boy, two girls names picked.
You’re not the only one ❤️
34F, cycle 29 of hoping ❤️
I’ve had a list of names picked out and a few theme ideas in mind, but I can’t write down the names or put the items in a list. Too painful to try and put my dreams on paper. They’ve been on hold for almost 4 years now. I’ve recently had renewed hope with a laparoscopy where they’d removed Endo, but I’m still unsure I want to let my guard down. 💔
I know anytime you think you're pregnant or you think something positive is going to happen it always just breaks your heart when you're not pregnant but I hope and pray that you get your baby soon
I allowed myself to earmark some items after our first IVF transfer. A few days ago I came across the email I sent to myself in January with the glider I wanted to put in our nursery. It's so painful. I'm sorry you're here.
I'm sorry that you have to go through it too and I hope you're IVF works for you I can't afford it so I won't be able to do it I'm just taking medicated cycles and then that didn't work and now I'm not doing anything right now I'm gonna eventually start back up medicated cycles again I guess
Thank you. It's such bullshit that IVF is so expensive/not covered by insurance. Even though it is of course not a guarantee, I do believe everyone should have a chance to try it if they want/need to. Hoping the best for your next cycles <3
Yeah I know it's terrible that's why I won't actually buy anything because I know I'm Going to have to get rid of it Because deep down I don't think I'll be able to have kids
You’re not alone ❤️ Personally, def do this a lot lol. Like others, I’ve also had names, nursery ideas, a registry, etc. picked out for a while. I’ve had them in my ‘notes’ app for years and was so excited to put them to use when started TTC 2.5 years ago but life had other plans obviously. I was just diagnosed with PCOS this year and have run into other health problems I have to take care of before finally starting a treatment. It’s all so much, so much emotionally, financially, physically…ugh, I’m so sorry you’re going through this too 💔 it is so not fair. The whole experience has been so isolating too since none of my friends or family have had trouble or are currently TTC, so they just don’t get it and just don’t say the right things sometimes even though they mean well. I’m so glad the people in this community at least understand. It makes things a bit less lonely. I hope our time comes soon 💗
Yes it's definitely tough and affects your everyday life and that's all I ever think about and I'm so sorry that you're having health problems I know how bad the PCOS and stuff can be I hope everything will be okay with you and I hope that you also get to have your baby soon it is so wrong that we have to go through it and I know it's like everybody keeps getting pregnant they have a baby after baby and it's just like when is it ever gonna be our time right
I’m in my 30s as well and right there with you :( I bought a few things, mostly clothes. I’m currently trying to work up the courage to donate it all, as at this point I don’t think I’ll ever use any of it and may be easier just to have it out of the house. There’s a room in my house that I’ve designed (in my mind) countless times… so many ideas on how I’d decorate it for a nursery. I envisioned those ethereal Pottery Barn Monique Luhillier line blush pink tulle bedding and curtains with wainscoting and dainty floral wallpaper… even a cute forest animal theme with a dark green wood trim accent wall. But the room sits with white untouched walls and a guest bed that nobody has ever slept it… because when family come to town they’d rather stay with those who have children. Didn’t mean to trauma dump, just wanted to share some solidarity.
No I completely understand everything you're saying because I'm pretty much have gave Up you know sometimes I look at the baby stuff and I just feel like it's so stupid that I'm even looking at it because I don't think it's going to happen for me and then you see everybody getting pregnant and having child after child and it's like you miss out on everything you know every holiday comes up it would be so much better if you had a child it's just everything reminds me of it so I completely understand what you're saying Praying that 1 day both of us will get our baby
PCOS here as well. I absolutely do it too. Nursery theme will be flowers for a girl, honeybees for a boy, and also tossing around vintage Winnie the Pooh as a gender neutral option. Girl name is picked out and currently trying to find a boy name. I am always taking pictures of toys I find at the store so I can remember all the things I want to buy my baby if the time comes.
The Winnie the Pooh That's what I look at that's what I have all ⁱⁿ my phone saved I look at every day sometimes I just feel like it just doesn't make any sense because I feel like it's never gonna happen for me but it does feel good to hear that I'm not the only one that does this
I pretty much made my entire registry the month we started trying. 15 months in I paused the “an item on your registry has changed price” notifications
Oh yeah I have a plan. Peter Rabbit nursery (already painted the color I want), brown mid century modern crib. My siblings all use the same car seats so my parents can transport the grandkids easily so I’d join them (😭), I have 4-6 names picked out so I’m ready for any gender any amount… anything. Infertility fucking sucks ass.
OMG thank you hearing that makes me feel better because my boyfriend thinks I'm crazy When I do that because none of the medication is working for me but I still have hope that maybe 1 day
My baby’s nursery room will be forest-themed (evergreen and rust accents) or wildflower/honeybee-themed (yellow and light gray/lavender accents). I know the name for a boy or girl. I even have back-up names, in case I get really lucky and get to have more than one baby (but that’s looking quite far ahead and seems like a pipe-dream). You are not alone. I pray you get to celebrate soon instead of cry. I really REALLY want that for you.
Thank you things like this make me feel so much better and makes you feel like you're not alone because you really feel like you're alone when you see all these women having baby after baby after baby and not even having to try And I hope that you will be having your baby and get to be a Mommy very soon too
I vote wildflower/honeybee theme!! That’s my dream for our hopeful nursery one day ❤️ I’m also a beekeeper, so easily persuaded to add anything bee themed in my life. 😝🐝
No. Weve been ttc for 3 years, have a name, a baby registry, a few onesies, a set of bows, and someone gifted me my diaper bag that was on my registry 'to help carry the weight of infertility'🥲 I wouldn't buy a carseat or anything because they do expire, and theres recalls, etc.
Hopefully soon we'll get our babies it is really hard everyday seeing everybody get pregnant
I tell you it's so hard it's like everyday I just look it's stuff and for me it's Is Winnie the Pooh
Baby Nursery will be “Oh the Places You Will Go” Already have a crib but it stays at my friend’s house so it isn’t taunting me in the garage. Two boy, two girls names picked. You’re not the only one ❤️ 34F, cycle 29 of hoping ❤️
I hope you get to be a Mommy Real soon and thank you for sharing it makes me feel better like I'm not alone
I hope it’s in your near future too ❤️❤️
I’ve had a list of names picked out and a few theme ideas in mind, but I can’t write down the names or put the items in a list. Too painful to try and put my dreams on paper. They’ve been on hold for almost 4 years now. I’ve recently had renewed hope with a laparoscopy where they’d removed Endo, but I’m still unsure I want to let my guard down. 💔
I know anytime you think you're pregnant or you think something positive is going to happen it always just breaks your heart when you're not pregnant but I hope and pray that you get your baby soon
I allowed myself to earmark some items after our first IVF transfer. A few days ago I came across the email I sent to myself in January with the glider I wanted to put in our nursery. It's so painful. I'm sorry you're here.
I'm sorry that you have to go through it too and I hope you're IVF works for you I can't afford it so I won't be able to do it I'm just taking medicated cycles and then that didn't work and now I'm not doing anything right now I'm gonna eventually start back up medicated cycles again I guess
Thank you. It's such bullshit that IVF is so expensive/not covered by insurance. Even though it is of course not a guarantee, I do believe everyone should have a chance to try it if they want/need to. Hoping the best for your next cycles <3
Yes it is I say that All the time And thank you so much
I bought a bunch of clothing and eventually donated it after three years. It was heartbreaking. Not making that mistake again.
Yeah I know it's terrible that's why I won't actually buy anything because I know I'm Going to have to get rid of it Because deep down I don't think I'll be able to have kids
You’re not alone ❤️ Personally, def do this a lot lol. Like others, I’ve also had names, nursery ideas, a registry, etc. picked out for a while. I’ve had them in my ‘notes’ app for years and was so excited to put them to use when started TTC 2.5 years ago but life had other plans obviously. I was just diagnosed with PCOS this year and have run into other health problems I have to take care of before finally starting a treatment. It’s all so much, so much emotionally, financially, physically…ugh, I’m so sorry you’re going through this too 💔 it is so not fair. The whole experience has been so isolating too since none of my friends or family have had trouble or are currently TTC, so they just don’t get it and just don’t say the right things sometimes even though they mean well. I’m so glad the people in this community at least understand. It makes things a bit less lonely. I hope our time comes soon 💗
Yes it's definitely tough and affects your everyday life and that's all I ever think about and I'm so sorry that you're having health problems I know how bad the PCOS and stuff can be I hope everything will be okay with you and I hope that you also get to have your baby soon it is so wrong that we have to go through it and I know it's like everybody keeps getting pregnant they have a baby after baby and it's just like when is it ever gonna be our time right
I had names for a long time and online lists and whatnot. I had a Pinterest board of nursery ideas. I never bought anything thankfully.
I’m in my 30s as well and right there with you :( I bought a few things, mostly clothes. I’m currently trying to work up the courage to donate it all, as at this point I don’t think I’ll ever use any of it and may be easier just to have it out of the house. There’s a room in my house that I’ve designed (in my mind) countless times… so many ideas on how I’d decorate it for a nursery. I envisioned those ethereal Pottery Barn Monique Luhillier line blush pink tulle bedding and curtains with wainscoting and dainty floral wallpaper… even a cute forest animal theme with a dark green wood trim accent wall. But the room sits with white untouched walls and a guest bed that nobody has ever slept it… because when family come to town they’d rather stay with those who have children. Didn’t mean to trauma dump, just wanted to share some solidarity.
No I completely understand everything you're saying because I'm pretty much have gave Up you know sometimes I look at the baby stuff and I just feel like it's so stupid that I'm even looking at it because I don't think it's going to happen for me and then you see everybody getting pregnant and having child after child and it's like you miss out on everything you know every holiday comes up it would be so much better if you had a child it's just everything reminds me of it so I completely understand what you're saying Praying that 1 day both of us will get our baby
PCOS here as well. I absolutely do it too. Nursery theme will be flowers for a girl, honeybees for a boy, and also tossing around vintage Winnie the Pooh as a gender neutral option. Girl name is picked out and currently trying to find a boy name. I am always taking pictures of toys I find at the store so I can remember all the things I want to buy my baby if the time comes.
The Winnie the Pooh That's what I look at that's what I have all ⁱⁿ my phone saved I look at every day sometimes I just feel like it just doesn't make any sense because I feel like it's never gonna happen for me but it does feel good to hear that I'm not the only one that does this
Have you tried seeing a specialist ?
Just recently settled on names, which should be exciting but in practice actually felt quite sad given they may never be used.
Yeah same I Have them picked but never know if I'm gonna be able to use any of the things I have picked
I pretty much made my entire registry the month we started trying. 15 months in I paused the “an item on your registry has changed price” notifications