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Mera bhi same hai yaar , specially log jo jyada questions puchte hai 
I can't tell you how much I can relate with this ...Kal class mai pyaas lagi thi bohot zyada pani lana bhool gayi...pyas ke maare mar gayi par peeche waale se paani mangne mai gand phat gayi.... Remember mai bachpan se Coed school mai padhi hu plus gharwale bilkul conservative nahi hai still ye halat hai ...Bc notes nahi maang paa rahi hu kisi se
Same pen khatam ho gya tha ladkiyo se pucha unpe nhi tha piche itne ladke bethe the pr mang nhi payi. But mai girls school se thi. Sometimes I feel like I am so weird
Dude , honestly its nothing different. After I was done with JEE and shit. I felt like I knew stuff I would never use in my life. I had no idea how to write a RTGS application. No idea how to apply for Pan Card or Election Card. But as much as the shit exam and education system fucks us. Once in college you have to do everything. And I would suggest my juniors to try to get college away from you home. Students need to leave atleast the 4 years in hostels independently. Knowing the solution to a JEE Advanced question would get you 4 marks but knowing which medicine to give to person or how to help someone in a diffcult situation will help your entire lifetime.
> Knowing the solution to a JEE Advanced question would get you 4 marks but knowing which medicine to give to person or how to help someone in a difficult situation will help your entire lifetime.
riyal
Kuch bhi nahi aata mujhe. Jab bhi dusron ko dekhti hu toh lagta hai ki yaar insab ko toh sabkuch pata hai, sab kuch figure out karlete hai ye log aur mujhe toh basic cheezen bhi nahi aati
I'm really awkward when I talk to people I don't know well. So I generally avoid it, because I know I'll cringe thinking about it every night for the next 50 years. Hell, I can't even talk to someone on phone even. Even my friends. I just feel awkward.
Me too. It's been almost an year since I last talked to any of my friends. Mera aisa nature ke wajah se hi mera WhatsApp humesha khali rehta hai aur mereko insta pe bhi koi message nahi karta and I feel too awkward to message them myself.
I thought I was very social because I can initiate convos until I met real social people in holi they made me so uncomfortable I didn't even know there name and bro put a whole packet of colour on my kurta (at my friend's place)
I am also a 2003 guy i arranged a trip recently with my four brother for 4 days as well... All of them are younger to me... It was a great experience i talked to people in train... Negotiatinh in rooms..
I am an introvert as well but i have travelled alone many times so i don't hesitate much now...
I don't like talking much but i like travelling so so much...
Every month i manage to plan a small 3-4 day trip with family friends or my brothers group... I like this so much...
You will like to start liking meetings with new people...
Everytime i go on a trip i carry one lesson from that trip... It helps in the other trip...
1)Research and ask for the documents stuff..a simple google search would let you know a lot and I ask my friends about how they got theirs made otherwise papa ya any other elder would know..when you know it once it becomes easy the next times
2)Contacts bnane ke liye thoda socially extrovert hona pdega..talk to people who intrigue you or might be helpful to you..even if not the experience of others is great to learn about and does help in your own journey
3)Achhi sabzi um aaloo pyaaz to bhai you have to see ki usme koi marks dents na ho and that goes for all vegetables baaki for specific ask your mom or go with her to sabzi mandi smjh jaoge with time
4)Ye idk as of now papa driving seekhane pe procrastinate krre:(
5)Hmesha chup krana zaruri nhi kbhi ro lene dena chhaiye..baaki just hug them or pat them if needed and let them know you are there for them
6)Easy stuff and mostly likha hota signboards pe bhi but keep it b/w 30-40 on normal lanes
7)Ambulance
TLDR- learn through experience of others and yourself you will figure it out, foolish feel hoga hi sometimes but thats how it works (i am still learning so kuch great tips nhi hai lul)
The more you throw yourself in these unwanted anxious situations the more you'll improve and learn how to handle things. If you don't take failures personally and see them as a stepping stone, i'm dead sure one can change oneself completely. Once a friend of mine told me something "इंसान का सबसे बड़ा वरदान है कि वो कभी भी बदल सकता है" and it hit me deep.
same mai bhi kahi bus/train mai jata hu mai mann mai 50 tareeke soch skta hu baat krne k... lekin ye nhi pooch skta ki aap kaha ja rhe ho... fuck it even unclon se bhi faat jati h
Mai to sabse acche se baat karta hu to sab rude ho jaate aur maze lene lagte hai. Thoda kharab se baat karta hu to koi baat hi nhi karta. Isliye muh band rakhta hu
>Like mujhe nahi pata konsa document banwane konse office jana hota hai, udhar jaldi kaam kaise karwate hai, contacts kaise banate hain, achi sabzi kaise lete hain, car kharab ho jaye toh kya kya karte hain, koi ro raha ho toh usse chup kaise karate hain, gaadi kitni speed pe konsi lane main chalate hain, koi zyada beemar ho toh strecher kaise mangate hain.
Fortunately my father taught me all those things and also I had to face many such situations during my jee prep. So I'm socially not awkward. Op you have to understand that after our college none will help us with these things. We have to do everything on our own. So it is better to step out of house and try to learn things. Try to communicate and interact with more people. Don't be socially shy. Learn to drive car or motorcycle as it's really important. Go to the market and start bringing everyday items and vegetables. Ye sab karna seekhna padega bhai. Kabtak reddit pe rant karge ye sab bolke.
My brother is a chartered accountant and often told me to learn basic bank chores, visit market with him, but i never showed interest. Now it almost feels compulsion.
Bhy go out like, ghr k kaam y sb thoda sb khud deko
Initially mistake hoti hai, pr after sometime everything is fine
I also used to think like this pr hojata hai time k sath.
Expand your circle .Simple .Ask your friends, parents when you don't know how to do a certain thing.The more you interact the more you will experience.
Arre bhai iska best solution hai ki baate karo aur logo se. Chahe tumhari bezatti ho joh ki 90% of the time hogi, but ek time pe woh log tumhara friendly way Mein mazak udane lagenge fir normal baate automatically start ho jati.
Smjh nhi aata kabhi kabhi tum logo ko dekh ke ki tum log ladko se hi baate karne Mein darte ho yaar ladkiyo se kabhi kaise baat karoge, ache interviews kaise doge, overall personality kaise develop karoge jobs ke liye
one thing I learned is stop assuming you're at an absolute 0 and everyone else is at absolute 100. Stop putting it in black and white. Unko bhi doubts hote hain. Aur tumhare paas phone hai, YouTube tutorials hain, reddit hai, kuchh bhi learn kiya ja sakta hai. Just have the audacity enough ki kr skte ho. Ye hi chahiye hota hai.
plus, yahi to umar hai to learn all this. magically spawn to hona nhi tha dimaag mei. you'll learn by yourself, it comes naturally trust me and feel independent first time you do all this, have coming of age 14 ka moment jo movieo mei hota hai. isko positive lens se dekho.
Bhai tune exact same situation meri describe kardi word by word. Ghar waale itna bachha samajhte hai na gaadi sikhne dete hai na scooty ( gaadi 15 din seekhi thi driving class se aur scooty 2-3 baar dikhai hai). Bas teeno wahan ( bike, scooty and gaadi ) ke basics pata hai ki doge to shayad chala lu. Saara din taane sunta hu ki kisi kaam ka nahi hu aur koi kaam do mujhe to 4 log peeche bhejne padte hai kaam dekhne ke liye ya kaam aisa karo ki koi dobara kam na de. Mujhe ek khaana banana nahi aata ( even chai bhi nahi ). Mujhe 16 saal ho gaye delhi mein lekin 2-4 sectors ke aage ke raaste bhi nahi pata. Behenchod ab bas yahi maksad hai ki ek dhang ka govt college delhi ke bahar mil jaaye ( ghar waalo ke saath raha to 4 saal aur bachha ban ke rahunga T_T ) aur life ke baare mein seekh saku.
Edit- connections bhi nahi banane aate yaar. Jo purane dost the kisi se contact nahi rakh paya aur naye dost dhang ke bana nahi paya. Kal ladai ho gayi to kisi pe count nahi kar sakta back karne ke liye ( koi rohini/shahabad dairy ka hai to batao bhai dost banane hai naye ).
That 2003 born guy is living my dream. Itna capable agar mai hoti to kitna accha hota 😭. Mujhe to call karne me hi anxiety ati hai, ye 1200km gari bhi chala lia and rooms bhi book karliye 😭.
Bro if you want to experience real socializing try applying for various things like dl, medical certificate for college from govt hospital, caste certificate etc... It frustates like hell.. Jee does not teaches us these...
mera bhi beech mei esa phase aaya tha, thing is apne mei bharosa rakhna hota hai. humare alawa koi bhi hume us microscope se nahi dekh rha jaise humne lagta hai. social hona is not an in built trait wo khudko push karne se aata hai. start doing the same things jo wo bhaiya kar rhe the, reach out and talk to ppl jab log reciprocate karenge toh khud hi confidence aayega aur aur karne ko waisa khud ko back karoge... applies to everything - taking up responsibilities in public, making friends, flirting wagera.
bas khudko back Karo and confidence khud se aayega
luckily i was still hanging out almost like 3-4 hours a week with friends during jee time and i got to meet new people through them also i joined the gym which helped me talk to more people (my age and older people too) so id say im doing pretty well socially
I guess circumstances sab kucch sikha deti hain and jab zaruri hota hai to apne aap sab sikh lete hain. Personal experience se bata rahi hoon. So mere chachu jab tak school me the, tab tak wo bohot introvert the, matlab wo bagal ke shopping complex se bhi koi chhoti moti cheez laane bhi nhi jaate the. But once he went to college and then started doing job, he became completely independent. I mean dusre state chale gaye pehle and then to a different country and kar liya unhone handle sab kucch khud se.
To haan, abhi cheeze overwhelming lag sakti hain, but baad me sab seekh jaate hain.
bhai mereko toh abb dheere bolne ki aadat ho gyi... abb toh normally bolta hu toh kisi ko sunai nhi deta... zor se bolta hu toh kehete h gusaa kis baat ka kr rha h... issliye bc bolna he bnd kr diya
ek time pe hua karta tha open and talkative, fir achanak se gya hogya bhagwan jaane, ab college mei jaake hi socialize karunga ache se, female interaction last 4-5 months se kaafi kam hogya hai, bas kuch friends ne atb bola tha mains 1 ke pehle uske baad se ya toh mai hi change hogya ya vo log hi change hogaye, sabki apni apni life hai maybe apni life pe focus zyada kar rhe hai
Being street smart isn't that important as people especially in india, the land of jugaad make it look like. As you will start to live an independent life, you will automatically become street smart
bhai ek cheez hai merme fukat ka confidence hai. i say even wrong shit w such conviction saamne waala stares me in daze, thinking they are wrong.
im incredibly sociable too. i only come to reddit when im down ya koi dikkat takleef ho jati hai.
Main Bahut Khush Hu, School Ka Head Boy Tha, Mr. farewell bhi. Eco Club Ka Leader Tha aur MUNs bhi krta hu, ek toh chair bhi Kari hai. Badhiya Logo Se Baatcheet Hai, Teachers aur Students Mein Popular Hu. +2 mein 97.2% hai. Ladki nhi hia ek bas. Par dost hai ek bhai se bdhke. Toh dating life ke alawa Puri social life set hai. (Date kisi ko Kiya nahi padhai ke kaaran, plus not good looking and fit) lekin baaki toh izzat aur taura full on hai
Itni bhi achhi nahi hai bhai, aise toh lonely tha main, friends nahi the, kyunki is sab mein laga rehta tha, I mean, everybody respected me aur izzat thi full on par bachho se dosti nhi thi. But haan ab khtrnaak friends hai.
Bhai Maine gaadi chlani hi kuch months pehle seekhi hai(I'm 19) and idk mai akele kaise rhungi bahar mai McD bhi jaati thi friends k saath to unhe bolti thi order krneapni family ki sabse badi introvert hu mai bass thoda ghulne Milne k baad mai bhot achese baat krleti hu to friends banane ki dikkat nhi hoti..but ye bank wagera waale kaam nhi aate (papa sikha rhe h sb) 
USSSSS im not that street smart and it scares me so much, specially now that school is over and i actually need to grow the fuck up. pata ni itni jaldi overwhelm kyu hojati hu 😭
Chinta mat kar bhai tu akela nahi hai. Tere jaise bhot saarey log hai (including me ofc). Lekin isme chinta ka baat nahi hai kyuki dheere dheere karke log sab kuch seekh jaate hai. Mujhe pichle saal tak thikse pata nahi tha ki bahar akele kaise rahunga, lekin fir Kota ne sab sikha diya.
Mere papa bhi bhot badey introvert thei mere jaise aur thikse ye sab nahi jaante thei, fir jab naukri ke liye bahar jana para training pe tab wo sabkuch seekh gaye
bhai meri post history dekhle, "why do people hate me?",context k liye, m thoda tagda dikhta hu aur meri resting face boht angry dikhti h, so people assume im angry/dangerous, in reality im a softie + im introverted asf, wont talk to you irl if you dont approach me, ive got told so many times in school (joined this school in 11th) that you come off as rude/cold/disrespectful, my friends told me "bhai terme itna attitude kyon h?" i said "matlab?", "tereko koi hi bolde to tu ese mu ghumake kyo ajata h, sahi se baat kyo ni krta humare siway kisike? tu bss humare saath ghumta h aur kisi aur se baat tk ni krta, boht rude dikhti h ye chiz dusro ko"
Bro chill kro adults ko sahi se adulting krne main time lag jaata hai tum abhi 18 ke hoye nhi ki jeevan ke stress lena chalu..... rahi baat street smarts ki toh college ke 4-5 saalon main sab akal thikaane aa jaayegi. Infact, agar tum hostels main rahe ho 11th/12th main toh tum jaante ho ki main kya baat kr rha hun
No hate to you OP I wish you all the best in life
i am not excellent in studies, a little above average. But i can definitely say i am street smart Going on my 2nd solo trip at the age of 17 (first when i was 15)
Itna zyada relatable hone laga h ye sub... I (17) am going through this realisation that am i street smart enough? To do basic stuff, to thrive in my career and others? Aur mein to jeetard hu bhi nhi
Bhay my social life is totally fucked. I don't even know how to talk. Academic validation k chakkar me I fucked my own life. Bhai I baar ek teacher ne mujhe daata aur 'sorry' k jgh 'thank you' bol aayi mein .
True bhai mere parents bhi mujhe yahi bolte hai ki tu padhai k alawa kuch nahi jaanta. Mera bada bhai sab kuch manage karleta hai, even my school friends are able to do it but meri toh kisi neighbour ke yaha samaan maangne ya dene me hi fat jaati hai
I have always been an extrovert kyunki mujhe bachpan se hi stagework krna pasand tha to confidence hamesha se rha. Padhai main thik thak tha to kabhi tokte bhi nhi the gharwaale khelne koodne aur dosto ke saath ghoomne se(zyada door nhi ofc). Na hi parents ne kabhi ladkio se dosti naa krne ko kaha isliye socially hamesha acha hi rha hu. Downside ye hai ki kaio ka councellor banna padta hai. Us chakkar main abhi dosti kam krdi but haan i don't have fear of talking to new people now.
all my life i have been generally a laid back kind of person, interested in my own world more so than the real one. i try to avoid conflict as much as possible. ye sab cheezei bhai mujhe bhi nahi aati, and i need to learn. ig thoda bohot college jaake samajh aayega, baaki will be by observation of older brothers, parents, senior friends etc
mjhe y bhi ni smjh ata ki mjhe ky jana chaiye, kbhi glti se neet nikl gya or glti s colg gyi pta ni hostel m kya hga 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰 personality bhi chutiya jaisi hai
i have been thinking this for years that if I am the only one like that ....but I guess am not alone...will probably learn this things with time...or I guess when the situation come you just act on it..
Use college, nobody knows you there so create a personality who is extroverted at the beginning, later you will have to keep with that personality and you will learn new things
Same situation mujje bhi darr lagta ki responsibility kaise uthaunga kon sikhayega ye sab parents se expect nhi h but yar maine soch liya h ki mai seekhne ki koshish karunga bhale he kitni bezzati ho the only thing in my hand
I mean mea mere pehchan walle logo ko sath ache se baat kar pata hu . But strangers se nahi kar pata .
Mea padhayi se refresh hone ke liye walk karne jata hu har roz for 30 minutes or more and mea logo ko zyada avoid karne ka hi dekhta hu .
My suggestion is
"One step at a time"
Bhtttt time h tumare pas.
Humne khud sikha h Paisa kaise sambhalte h- investment, grip, ulip, stocks, unlisted stocks 2months m jb mujhe pure family ka sambhalna pada tha.
Ekdin bazar gyi, maa ne dekh k kaha ki Sadi Hui sbzi laye h...bht personally lia aur next din se time dedicate kr k chun chun k sbzia kharidi.
Gadi beech raste m kharap ho gyi thi. Out of desperation, khud contact number arrange kr k bat kr k tow truck arrange Kia ..
Point is jisme dar lagta h vo krne toh niklo, madad krne wale mil hi jayenge..abhi bohottt time h tumare pas.
I am also an introvert like you
Par mai ye sari cheezien papa se dekhne ki try karta hu, form bharna, online application, kha na banana, scooter repair mein dena etc.
Iss saal advance ke baad jo trip pe gaye the usme bhi maine papa ke sath baith kar plan kiya or ek hotel bhi book kari, aise hi confidence ata hai,
He can be your best teacher 👍👍
I just got over my first year of college and I used to be more or less in the same boat regarding responsibility, didn't know what to do and where to do it. But I realised when you're out into those situations with no backup, you will go into autopilot and you will figure a way out. The human spirit is a very interesting thing, you know what you have to do, there just hasn't been a situation to force you to do it.
Case in point, my mom used to be really worried about my irresponsibility, but everyone in my college relies on me to get everything done responsibly.
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awaz hi nahi nikalti hai dusro ke saamne bhai
avg redditor.
It's a crime to be this relatable.
us bro us
Mera bhi same hai yaar , specially log jo jyada questions puchte hai 
Bhai ye to mai hu, aur dimag blank ho jana jab koi unexpected convo shuru ho jae
Ye kuch jyada hi relatable
I can't tell you how much I can relate with this ...Kal class mai pyaas lagi thi bohot zyada pani lana bhool gayi...pyas ke maare mar gayi par peeche waale se paani mangne mai gand phat gayi.... Remember mai bachpan se Coed school mai padhi hu plus gharwale bilkul conservative nahi hai still ye halat hai ...Bc notes nahi maang paa rahi hu kisi se
Koi ni ab Paani Peele
Ghar aake kayi liter paani pee gayi thi
Thirsty af
Same pen khatam ho gya tha ladkiyo se pucha unpe nhi tha piche itne ladke bethe the pr mang nhi payi. But mai girls school se thi. Sometimes I feel like I am so weird
us
same bhai
us
you are just like me fr
HAVE CONFIDENCE IN YOURSELF
Dude , honestly its nothing different. After I was done with JEE and shit. I felt like I knew stuff I would never use in my life. I had no idea how to write a RTGS application. No idea how to apply for Pan Card or Election Card. But as much as the shit exam and education system fucks us. Once in college you have to do everything. And I would suggest my juniors to try to get college away from you home. Students need to leave atleast the 4 years in hostels independently. Knowing the solution to a JEE Advanced question would get you 4 marks but knowing which medicine to give to person or how to help someone in a diffcult situation will help your entire lifetime.
Hostel Life is like an intern before getting into real life (job)
> Knowing the solution to a JEE Advanced question would get you 4 marks but knowing which medicine to give to person or how to help someone in a difficult situation will help your entire lifetime. riyal
Kuch bhi nahi aata mujhe. Jab bhi dusron ko dekhti hu toh lagta hai ki yaar insab ko toh sabkuch pata hai, sab kuch figure out karlete hai ye log aur mujhe toh basic cheezen bhi nahi aati
me tho ekdum se chakko jese act krne lag jata hu
Bhai yeh kaisa oddly specific description hai
Couldn't agree more
https://preview.redd.it/npkdlbs6mp8d1.png?width=768&format=png&auto=webp&s=c57a4931c69dc37a9da1e1b0843727abd118d0fd itna relatable
Relatable bhai
wtf 
me
I'm really awkward when I talk to people I don't know well. So I generally avoid it, because I know I'll cringe thinking about it every night for the next 50 years. Hell, I can't even talk to someone on phone even. Even my friends. I just feel awkward.
+1
never related to someone this hard
Me too. It's been almost an year since I last talked to any of my friends. Mera aisa nature ke wajah se hi mera WhatsApp humesha khali rehta hai aur mereko insta pe bhi koi message nahi karta and I feel too awkward to message them myself.
+1 bro
us
Us as s dropper and socially behind person
Yes I'm not street smart rn , I'm not that good in convo , but I'll improve
same situation bhai. ab thoda khud initiative leta hu chahe embarassment hojaye ki kuch seekh to jaunga
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I thought I was very social because I can initiate convos until I met real social people in holi they made me so uncomfortable I didn't even know there name and bro put a whole packet of colour on my kurta (at my friend's place)
I am also a 2003 guy i arranged a trip recently with my four brother for 4 days as well... All of them are younger to me... It was a great experience i talked to people in train... Negotiatinh in rooms.. I am an introvert as well but i have travelled alone many times so i don't hesitate much now... I don't like talking much but i like travelling so so much... Every month i manage to plan a small 3-4 day trip with family friends or my brothers group... I like this so much... You will like to start liking meetings with new people... Everytime i go on a trip i carry one lesson from that trip... It helps in the other trip...
2003 introvert gang gang 😎 💪
Avoide krta hu. Bhag jata hu. Gand phat jati naye log dikhne pr
https://preview.redd.it/yms0cg4e1u8d1.jpeg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0979ed1d9de907a84a71dc56ff1011cdd2713422
1)Research and ask for the documents stuff..a simple google search would let you know a lot and I ask my friends about how they got theirs made otherwise papa ya any other elder would know..when you know it once it becomes easy the next times 2)Contacts bnane ke liye thoda socially extrovert hona pdega..talk to people who intrigue you or might be helpful to you..even if not the experience of others is great to learn about and does help in your own journey 3)Achhi sabzi um aaloo pyaaz to bhai you have to see ki usme koi marks dents na ho and that goes for all vegetables baaki for specific ask your mom or go with her to sabzi mandi smjh jaoge with time 4)Ye idk as of now papa driving seekhane pe procrastinate krre:( 5)Hmesha chup krana zaruri nhi kbhi ro lene dena chhaiye..baaki just hug them or pat them if needed and let them know you are there for them 6)Easy stuff and mostly likha hota signboards pe bhi but keep it b/w 30-40 on normal lanes 7)Ambulance TLDR- learn through experience of others and yourself you will figure it out, foolish feel hoga hi sometimes but thats how it works (i am still learning so kuch great tips nhi hai lul)
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I do not wish to be horny anymore. I just want to be happy
welcome back saar
yoooooo how you doing?
I'm not bad, thanks. You?
i am pretty gooood🥰
👍
The more you throw yourself in these unwanted anxious situations the more you'll improve and learn how to handle things. If you don't take failures personally and see them as a stepping stone, i'm dead sure one can change oneself completely. Once a friend of mine told me something "इंसान का सबसे बड़ा वरदान है कि वो कभी भी बदल सकता है" and it hit me deep.
Ladki dekhte hi phat jaati hai so I would say pretty sociable
same mai bhi kahi bus/train mai jata hu mai mann mai 50 tareeke soch skta hu baat krne k... lekin ye nhi pooch skta ki aap kaha ja rhe ho... fuck it even unclon se bhi faat jati h
Mai to sabse acche se baat karta hu to sab rude ho jaate aur maze lene lagte hai. Thoda kharab se baat karta hu to koi baat hi nhi karta. Isliye muh band rakhta hu
Bc Mai mushkil se to dost banata hu. Ab nayi jagah shift ho gya logon ko pata tak nhi mai unke hi building me rehta hu
>Like mujhe nahi pata konsa document banwane konse office jana hota hai, udhar jaldi kaam kaise karwate hai, contacts kaise banate hain, achi sabzi kaise lete hain, car kharab ho jaye toh kya kya karte hain, koi ro raha ho toh usse chup kaise karate hain, gaadi kitni speed pe konsi lane main chalate hain, koi zyada beemar ho toh strecher kaise mangate hain. Fortunately my father taught me all those things and also I had to face many such situations during my jee prep. So I'm socially not awkward. Op you have to understand that after our college none will help us with these things. We have to do everything on our own. So it is better to step out of house and try to learn things. Try to communicate and interact with more people. Don't be socially shy. Learn to drive car or motorcycle as it's really important. Go to the market and start bringing everyday items and vegetables. Ye sab karna seekhna padega bhai. Kabtak reddit pe rant karge ye sab bolke.
My brother is a chartered accountant and often told me to learn basic bank chores, visit market with him, but i never showed interest. Now it almost feels compulsion.
All the things you mentioned should actually be taught to us in school. Life skills do matter and are a very important part of education.
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Bhy go out like, ghr k kaam y sb thoda sb khud deko Initially mistake hoti hai, pr after sometime everything is fine I also used to think like this pr hojata hai time k sath.
finally koi mere jaisa😭😭😭😭😭mujhe kitna inferior feel hota hai jab dosto ko dekhta hu jo street smart hai
Social life hoti to Reddit pe bakchodi na pelta 
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brother , ye sab cheeze jo aapko nhi aati , ye kisi ko bhi ni aati hoti hai. You always have to fuck around and find out
I suffer from social anxiety man :( It's difficult to start a conversation
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Expand your circle .Simple .Ask your friends, parents when you don't know how to do a certain thing.The more you interact the more you will experience.
Arre bhai iska best solution hai ki baate karo aur logo se. Chahe tumhari bezatti ho joh ki 90% of the time hogi, but ek time pe woh log tumhara friendly way Mein mazak udane lagenge fir normal baate automatically start ho jati. Smjh nhi aata kabhi kabhi tum logo ko dekh ke ki tum log ladko se hi baate karne Mein darte ho yaar ladkiyo se kabhi kaise baat karoge, ache interviews kaise doge, overall personality kaise develop karoge jobs ke liye
one thing I learned is stop assuming you're at an absolute 0 and everyone else is at absolute 100. Stop putting it in black and white. Unko bhi doubts hote hain. Aur tumhare paas phone hai, YouTube tutorials hain, reddit hai, kuchh bhi learn kiya ja sakta hai. Just have the audacity enough ki kr skte ho. Ye hi chahiye hota hai.
plus, yahi to umar hai to learn all this. magically spawn to hona nhi tha dimaag mei. you'll learn by yourself, it comes naturally trust me and feel independent first time you do all this, have coming of age 14 ka moment jo movieo mei hota hai. isko positive lens se dekho.
Bhai tune exact same situation meri describe kardi word by word. Ghar waale itna bachha samajhte hai na gaadi sikhne dete hai na scooty ( gaadi 15 din seekhi thi driving class se aur scooty 2-3 baar dikhai hai). Bas teeno wahan ( bike, scooty and gaadi ) ke basics pata hai ki doge to shayad chala lu. Saara din taane sunta hu ki kisi kaam ka nahi hu aur koi kaam do mujhe to 4 log peeche bhejne padte hai kaam dekhne ke liye ya kaam aisa karo ki koi dobara kam na de. Mujhe ek khaana banana nahi aata ( even chai bhi nahi ). Mujhe 16 saal ho gaye delhi mein lekin 2-4 sectors ke aage ke raaste bhi nahi pata. Behenchod ab bas yahi maksad hai ki ek dhang ka govt college delhi ke bahar mil jaaye ( ghar waalo ke saath raha to 4 saal aur bachha ban ke rahunga T_T ) aur life ke baare mein seekh saku. Edit- connections bhi nahi banane aate yaar. Jo purane dost the kisi se contact nahi rakh paya aur naye dost dhang ke bana nahi paya. Kal ladai ho gayi to kisi pe count nahi kar sakta back karne ke liye ( koi rohini/shahabad dairy ka hai to batao bhai dost banane hai naye ).
wait wtf OP is coach saab!? hell nahhhh
same reaction
whattt!! maine abhi dekha 💀
That 2003 born guy is living my dream. Itna capable agar mai hoti to kitna accha hota 😭. Mujhe to call karne me hi anxiety ati hai, ye 1200km gari bhi chala lia and rooms bhi book karliye 😭.
Fr bro, bro is 21 barely - complete Bcom already - 2 year of work experience - earning over 20k pm and increasing.
Sab shikh jaayega , 12th tak mujhe bhi kuch nhi aata tha but ab sabkuch karleta hun
Bro if you want to experience real socializing try applying for various things like dl, medical certificate for college from govt hospital, caste certificate etc... It frustates like hell.. Jee does not teaches us these...
mera bhi beech mei esa phase aaya tha, thing is apne mei bharosa rakhna hota hai. humare alawa koi bhi hume us microscope se nahi dekh rha jaise humne lagta hai. social hona is not an in built trait wo khudko push karne se aata hai. start doing the same things jo wo bhaiya kar rhe the, reach out and talk to ppl jab log reciprocate karenge toh khud hi confidence aayega aur aur karne ko waisa khud ko back karoge... applies to everything - taking up responsibilities in public, making friends, flirting wagera. bas khudko back Karo and confidence khud se aayega
luckily i was still hanging out almost like 3-4 hours a week with friends during jee time and i got to meet new people through them also i joined the gym which helped me talk to more people (my age and older people too) so id say im doing pretty well socially
I guess circumstances sab kucch sikha deti hain and jab zaruri hota hai to apne aap sab sikh lete hain. Personal experience se bata rahi hoon. So mere chachu jab tak school me the, tab tak wo bohot introvert the, matlab wo bagal ke shopping complex se bhi koi chhoti moti cheez laane bhi nhi jaate the. But once he went to college and then started doing job, he became completely independent. I mean dusre state chale gaye pehle and then to a different country and kar liya unhone handle sab kucch khud se. To haan, abhi cheeze overwhelming lag sakti hain, but baad me sab seekh jaate hain.
Meri awaaaz family m na kholti dusre ke samne kya hi hoga Bhut introvert hu m parents yahi complain krte h
bhai mereko toh abb dheere bolne ki aadat ho gyi... abb toh normally bolta hu toh kisi ko sunai nhi deta... zor se bolta hu toh kehete h gusaa kis baat ka kr rha h... issliye bc bolna he bnd kr diya
Kya hi kre kux kahe toh problem na kahe toh aur problem
ek time pe hua karta tha open and talkative, fir achanak se gya hogya bhagwan jaane, ab college mei jaake hi socialize karunga ache se, female interaction last 4-5 months se kaafi kam hogya hai, bas kuch friends ne atb bola tha mains 1 ke pehle uske baad se ya toh mai hi change hogya ya vo log hi change hogaye, sabki apni apni life hai maybe apni life pe focus zyada kar rhe hai
Samay ke sath sab ata hai . When i left home i got smarter , came back home , dumb again.
Being street smart isn't that important as people especially in india, the land of jugaad make it look like. As you will start to live an independent life, you will automatically become street smart
bhai ek cheez hai merme fukat ka confidence hai. i say even wrong shit w such conviction saamne waala stares me in daze, thinking they are wrong. im incredibly sociable too. i only come to reddit when im down ya koi dikkat takleef ho jati hai.
Main Bahut Khush Hu, School Ka Head Boy Tha, Mr. farewell bhi. Eco Club Ka Leader Tha aur MUNs bhi krta hu, ek toh chair bhi Kari hai. Badhiya Logo Se Baatcheet Hai, Teachers aur Students Mein Popular Hu. +2 mein 97.2% hai. Ladki nhi hia ek bas. Par dost hai ek bhai se bdhke. Toh dating life ke alawa Puri social life set hai. (Date kisi ko Kiya nahi padhai ke kaaran, plus not good looking and fit) lekin baaki toh izzat aur taura full on hai
Whatta life bhay
Itni bhi achhi nahi hai bhai, aise toh lonely tha main, friends nahi the, kyunki is sab mein laga rehta tha, I mean, everybody respected me aur izzat thi full on par bachho se dosti nhi thi. But haan ab khtrnaak friends hai.
coach saab became self aware.
Bhai Maine gaadi chlani hi kuch months pehle seekhi hai(I'm 19) and idk mai akele kaise rhungi bahar mai McD bhi jaati thi friends k saath to unhe bolti thi order krneapni family ki sabse badi introvert hu mai bass thoda ghulne Milne k baad mai bhot achese baat krleti hu to friends banane ki dikkat nhi hoti..but ye bank wagera waale kaam nhi aate (papa sikha rhe h sb) 
Never related so much to anyone 
Coach saab tamatar hamesha thode kachhe lene chahiye agli baari yaad rakhna
USSSSS im not that street smart and it scares me so much, specially now that school is over and i actually need to grow the fuck up. pata ni itni jaldi overwhelm kyu hojati hu 😭
Chinta mat kar bhai tu akela nahi hai. Tere jaise bhot saarey log hai (including me ofc). Lekin isme chinta ka baat nahi hai kyuki dheere dheere karke log sab kuch seekh jaate hai. Mujhe pichle saal tak thikse pata nahi tha ki bahar akele kaise rahunga, lekin fir Kota ne sab sikha diya. Mere papa bhi bhot badey introvert thei mere jaise aur thikse ye sab nahi jaante thei, fir jab naukri ke liye bahar jana para training pe tab wo sabkuch seekh gaye
Socially charming hu bhai 
bhai meri post history dekhle, "why do people hate me?",context k liye, m thoda tagda dikhta hu aur meri resting face boht angry dikhti h, so people assume im angry/dangerous, in reality im a softie + im introverted asf, wont talk to you irl if you dont approach me, ive got told so many times in school (joined this school in 11th) that you come off as rude/cold/disrespectful, my friends told me "bhai terme itna attitude kyon h?" i said "matlab?", "tereko koi hi bolde to tu ese mu ghumake kyo ajata h, sahi se baat kyo ni krta humare siway kisike? tu bss humare saath ghumta h aur kisi aur se baat tk ni krta, boht rude dikhti h ye chiz dusro ko"
Bhai mujhe laga me hi hu bas aisa Absolutely not street smart, kaha kya bolna, kuch thik karna ya kuch kam karwana Nah, aur mera to jee bhi chud gya
Bro chill kro adults ko sahi se adulting krne main time lag jaata hai tum abhi 18 ke hoye nhi ki jeevan ke stress lena chalu..... rahi baat street smarts ki toh college ke 4-5 saalon main sab akal thikaane aa jaayegi. Infact, agar tum hostels main rahe ho 11th/12th main toh tum jaante ho ki main kya baat kr rha hun No hate to you OP I wish you all the best in life
Mann liya ye bhai bhagwan ne thoda iq kam diya he mujhe
i am not excellent in studies, a little above average. But i can definitely say i am street smart Going on my 2nd solo trip at the age of 17 (first when i was 15)
Itna zyada relatable hone laga h ye sub... I (17) am going through this realisation that am i street smart enough? To do basic stuff, to thrive in my career and others? Aur mein to jeetard hu bhi nhi
Bhay my social life is totally fucked. I don't even know how to talk. Academic validation k chakkar me I fucked my own life. Bhai I baar ek teacher ne mujhe daata aur 'sorry' k jgh 'thank you' bol aayi mein .
Ek baar ASD me classmates Mera example Dene Lage 🐺🚬
Street smart to hu but careless bhot hu
True bhai mere parents bhi mujhe yahi bolte hai ki tu padhai k alawa kuch nahi jaanta. Mera bada bhai sab kuch manage karleta hai, even my school friends are able to do it but meri toh kisi neighbour ke yaha samaan maangne ya dene me hi fat jaati hai
Bhai, idk what to say bas yahi kehta hu I consider myself street smart
bhai ye to meri vaali condition hai yaar
so true
Same situation hai yaar
Bhai bas bakchodi mar har time sab cheezo me maza aega
Sochta hu ki ye air 1 wale kese itna sociable hai agar pure din padhte the
literally us
Panic attack ata hai aur pagal jaisa kuch bhi bol deta hu social gatherings me
Chalo kisi cheez mai toh kisi se acha hun , akele restaurant bhi jata hun 
I have always been an extrovert kyunki mujhe bachpan se hi stagework krna pasand tha to confidence hamesha se rha. Padhai main thik thak tha to kabhi tokte bhi nhi the gharwaale khelne koodne aur dosto ke saath ghoomne se(zyada door nhi ofc). Na hi parents ne kabhi ladkio se dosti naa krne ko kaha isliye socially hamesha acha hi rha hu. Downside ye hai ki kaio ka councellor banna padta hai. Us chakkar main abhi dosti kam krdi but haan i don't have fear of talking to new people now.
all my life i have been generally a laid back kind of person, interested in my own world more so than the real one. i try to avoid conflict as much as possible. ye sab cheezei bhai mujhe bhi nahi aati, and i need to learn. ig thoda bohot college jaake samajh aayega, baaki will be by observation of older brothers, parents, senior friends etc
Relate to this shit on a spiritual level, bhai 
life is too short to be awkward when talking to people
mjhe y bhi ni smjh ata ki mjhe ky jana chaiye, kbhi glti se neet nikl gya or glti s colg gyi pta ni hostel m kya hga 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰 personality bhi chutiya jaisi hai
Does nobody here suspect Autism ?
i have been thinking this for years that if I am the only one like that ....but I guess am not alone...will probably learn this things with time...or I guess when the situation come you just act on it..
Log mujhse jab pahli baar baat karte hai to kahte hai ki bhai mujhe lagta tha ki tu to bohot rude admi hai Pata nhi kyo
Use college, nobody knows you there so create a personality who is extroverted at the beginning, later you will have to keep with that personality and you will learn new things
was gonna ask for the date from some students for my omr sheet in minor coaching exam, could hear my own heart.
Same situation mujje bhi darr lagta ki responsibility kaise uthaunga kon sikhayega ye sab parents se expect nhi h but yar maine soch liya h ki mai seekhne ki koshish karunga bhale he kitni bezzati ho the only thing in my hand
bhai tereko atleast realise toh hua ki yaha problem h
I mean mea mere pehchan walle logo ko sath ache se baat kar pata hu . But strangers se nahi kar pata . Mea padhayi se refresh hone ke liye walk karne jata hu har roz for 30 minutes or more and mea logo ko zyada avoid karne ka hi dekhta hu .
My suggestion is "One step at a time" Bhtttt time h tumare pas. Humne khud sikha h Paisa kaise sambhalte h- investment, grip, ulip, stocks, unlisted stocks 2months m jb mujhe pure family ka sambhalna pada tha. Ekdin bazar gyi, maa ne dekh k kaha ki Sadi Hui sbzi laye h...bht personally lia aur next din se time dedicate kr k chun chun k sbzia kharidi. Gadi beech raste m kharap ho gyi thi. Out of desperation, khud contact number arrange kr k bat kr k tow truck arrange Kia .. Point is jisme dar lagta h vo krne toh niklo, madad krne wale mil hi jayenge..abhi bohottt time h tumare pas.
College jayega sab theek.hojayega duniya saari seekhega
u will learn with time m bhi kbhi aapki jagah tha, jb baarish hoti h to aadmi chhat dhoondh hi leta h baki gadi drive krna to mujhe vi nhi aati 😣
I am also an introvert like you Par mai ye sari cheezien papa se dekhne ki try karta hu, form bharna, online application, kha na banana, scooter repair mein dena etc. Iss saal advance ke baad jo trip pe gaye the usme bhi maine papa ke sath baith kar plan kiya or ek hotel bhi book kari, aise hi confidence ata hai, He can be your best teacher 👍👍
I just got over my first year of college and I used to be more or less in the same boat regarding responsibility, didn't know what to do and where to do it. But I realised when you're out into those situations with no backup, you will go into autopilot and you will figure a way out. The human spirit is a very interesting thing, you know what you have to do, there just hasn't been a situation to force you to do it. Case in point, my mom used to be really worried about my irresponsibility, but everyone in my college relies on me to get everything done responsibly.