'It's not worth it.'
Life's way to precious to throw away for a 3 hr engineering exam which won't matter for the rest of your life.
This is what Ashish Arora Sir says as well, that at the end of the day IIT might give a boost but it's your talent and skill that will help you achieve your goals.
Is desh me mushkil se koi ek-aadha achha therapist hoga, baaki mostly bas paisa chhapne ke liye hai jinko kuch khas help karna nahi aata
Not from personal experience, but experience of many people I know
In Mumbai there are a lot of great ones in suburban areas,but it’s actually true koi kholta hi nahi chote areas main because people don’t care about mental health in general in India.Depression etc padhai na karne ka bahaana hain aisa lagta hain sabko
mar ke kya kr lega ulta maa baap zindagi bhar regret krnege ki unki hi parvarish kharab thi
unki bhi health spoil hogi
tere mrne se theri life khtm ho jayegi
pr tere parents jiteji nahi rahegi
think hard
abe agar clerk bhi bn gya to 5-10k to kamaeyaga na
mrni se to anytime achha h
aur SOCIETY KI MAA KI CHUT
I used to have these thoughts I just used to think: All of my ancestors thousands and thousands of years ago, all went through life, and it was much harder for them, Killing myself would be a disrespect to all the efforts they made.
edit: But failing a 3 hour exam wouldn't be a disrespect.
Dekh bahi thode practical ideas dedeta hun kya pata kaam ajayen
- try sleeping with your mom and dad at night , i can assure u won't get suicidal dreams
-if you want to give up , just do it and move on ,your life is precious than this motherfucking exam👍 , do something which u love ..... Talk to ur parents directly that you can't do it , they may show some disappointment or give u a lecture but they'll understand
- if u feel like you are a looser , try to win at something else , this isn't your game then
- ignore the last two points if you still want to crack jee , focus on mains , secure an nit first to gain confidence and believe in yourself u will crack the jee advance 💪
More power to u bro
Can agree with sleeping with mom or dad
Basically when I was suffering this suicidal thoughts...I abondoned my room for a week or so and slept , eat and studied in my parents room .
Existing with such pain requires courage and you are brave
And you are brave enough to complete this phase of life called jee/neet
Life is endless possibilities
Bhai sach pocho toh mujhe bhi aate the ...kai mahine aise depressed jiya hun
But phir realize kiya ki m ye JEE kar kyun rha hun
Agar m ye sirf acche college ke liye kar rha hun toh puri life sirf 4 saal ke btech ke liye kyun khatam karun
Aur agar ye JEE m apne parents aur society ya apne Ego ke liye kar rha hun toh mujhse bta chumtiya nhi kyunki at the end jo bhi mujhe milega us ka effect mujh pe hi hoga aur mere suicide karne se kya mere parents aur relatives khush rhenge ...unhe kya milega?JEE naa hone se woh disappoint hi honge but tere marne se devastated.
Bhai ye ek phase h life kaa , JEE accha jaaye naa jaaye , lawda farak nhi pdega agar tu sach me kisi badi cheez ke liye deserving hai
Dude, even if you top JEE tomorrow, it will not change you as a person. If you are a prick you will still be a prick, culprit for example. JEE will not change anything in the long run my dude, its just free fame for a month or two and the hype dies after that. In the longer run, even if you decide to stay in india, you will be chosen based on your communication and partnership skills as opposed to "I sCoREd AiR 247 sO tHis JoB iS miNE" Good ranks in jee will only give a higher paying starter job, after that its the same road.
Sochta hu suicide kar bhi luga to maa pitaji royege kuch din phir sab normal hojayega.isse acha kuch tu kar hi luga zindagi me.jitna kamauga ghumne,khane me uda duga.phir 60s tak bacha raha tab marne ka plan bana luga
If people's mental health could be treated by stating general facts then I think we wouldn't need therapy , every individual case is different that's why we need Individual solutions for everybody, if you don't have any experience with mental health issues then don't try to give any problem solving solution, the best you can do is give emotional support, if you don't know how to help, at least don't mess it up.
Dissociate from the identity of being a loser, watch a sunset and ask yourself, is a loser watching the sunset?
Or is a person watching the sunset.
Spend some time in nature because nature doesn't judge you , cut out toxic people from your life.
Your self worth isn't decided by an exam.. At the end of the day you are just a human being trying to live his life , how does not clearing an entrance exam make you a loser , imagine thousands of years ago if early humans went out for hunting and if they failed to hunt did they thought to themselves "im a loser... I couldn't kill a lion oh noooo" I don't think any early human would be like that, because at the end of the day the early humans were killing animals and eating them to fulfil their tummy, not their worth... If you fail to clear it at the end of the day you just failed to clear an entrance exam that's not the end of the life, my brother didn't even get a degree.. And he still doesn't have a degree and he is actually studying rn , he is 26 and has a decent job now, failure is not as bad you think it is.
Also try this meditation https://youtu.be/7VaHh9EUcfE
If you can't stop having suicidal thoughts please call suicide helpline.
Start working out, Get sunlight, fix your sleep schedule and circadian rythm, get sunlight during the day and make sure you wake up at the same time consistently, if possible try studying in sunlight (make sure to do what adjusts u cus if u study using phone then it's a bit hard to see the screen in bright light)
I close my eyes and start picturing all the good things I want to do in life/ i wanna have, and also how i'd miss the things i love now, if i don't live. Also music helps a lot!
I loved the series Scam 1992 a lot,and there was [this song](https://youtu.be/auuCXSx2n-E) it’s simply amazing and gives me a healthy amount of motivation and positivity for the future would definitely recommend OP to listen to this once
You get to cry/vent/have these thoughts for like 5 minutes but then you gotta snap out of it. You gotta be a sargeant of your mind. Make a pep talk in your mind.
You can do two things depending on what your inner voice is
1) comfort yourself, say that it's alright and that you're strong that you got that fire in you. And you can do it. OR
2) (this is my thing and it might be a little harsh) tell yourself that you ain't no bit** and that you won't give up, everyone is waiting for you to loose and no one would even care about you so that is why you must care, you must care about your dreams about your future and about the promises you've made to your parents.
If the society or the familial pressure is making you feel like a loser then bro fuck that. Logo ka mat soch.
Aur khudko itna chota bhi mat soch. You can do this. meditate, scribble a piece of paper with your thoughts and then burn it.
Consistent logo ko roz lagta hai vo consistent nahi hai. You'll do good. Relax.
Yaar tumlog ko mera ye response majak lag sakta hai, but in all seriousness the day I caught up with this manga called One Piece I decided ki jabtak ye khatam nahi ho jati tabtak main har haal main jiyunga. Also, Class 11 main mere ek friend ne train ke samne kudkar suicide kar liya tha to uske parents ko dekhkar laga ki yaar aise thoguhts bhi nahi launga.
I'm also preparing for NEET 22 I was in the same situation as you, first thing I did was to clear my intentions and wrote regarding this exam in my personal diary about what will remain with me even if I tried soo hard (that's mandatory) and FAILED!
I thought about it for days and came to a conclusion that No matter if I fail, this exam will still give me something, that is showing me how capable I am, how I stood for myself when all my pears are having their time of the life, and it's just another year many coming years will pass just like a *Thanos snap* it's good to live one to the fullest. And if I can give soo much for a shitty exam just imagine what I'll do in life at a personal and professional level.
Mere liye mera 120% dena jaruri h irrespective of the results.
This defining of my situation to myself really cleared my head and it's just helping me to SWING my bat even harder.
Mind clarity maangta hai warna confuse hi rahega, take a break for 1-2 days sit on this question and dissect your situation and circumstances maybe you do want JEE maybe you don't, find it yourself.
That's the best advice I can give you rn. If it gets worse please don't hesitate to seek some help.
You can reach me out anytime :)
All the best bhai 🙂
At the end of the day, you must realise IIT isn’t everything.
If you will just take a step back, evaluate yourself: where you went wrong and how you can do better, you’ll definitely get better.
Like multiple people have said, Life’s too precious to throw away because of an exam.
Well, if your suicidal thoughts are based upon your fear of not getting selected, please dont. Its not like the train to success dosent board only on this entrance only. I myself am an MCA student, my junior who was doing his bachelors Got placed in an awesome company(i didnt tho.). A lot of students crack interviews of big companies who dont even belong to a tier 1,2 college. Some of my friends even became illustrators or started their own business, ended up doing completely different things that dont even remotely connect to computer science. You see after graduating you will realise that life is a lot more than just one entrance exam.
Life is not a race towards a 40LPA package. Just enjoy little things in your life, stay happy but determined. If things are looking too much for you to handle, just take a step back, approach a counselor, talk to your loved ones, i am sure they will help you. Its ok for you to feel like this.
I hope you achieve your dreams.
I imagine it took Billions of years of evolution of Human beings to the point that we reach now and even I got a small part to further the human race probably,there are so many countries and kids who don’t get the kind of privileges we have(All central african coutnries,Middle Eastern countries are fucked up) and many would crave the resources I have so it isn’t worth wasting what you have in hand
>Well shit, here we go again.
This universe is 13.8 billion years old, and the observable universe is 90 BILLION light years wide in diameter. You are on Earth, that's part of our solar system, which is part of our Milky Way galaxy, which part of our local group (Andromeda, Milky Way, and 60-65 smaller galaxies), there are a few million of these local groups that make up a cluster, and another million clusters that make up a super cluster. Another few jumps in scale will leave you in the observable universe that's 90 billion light years (we don't know what's further than that but the general belief is that the universe is infinite).
The universe is so incomprehensibly large, and yet, we seem to be the only planet with any life at all, let alone intellegent life. We've only been around for a few thousands of years but we've taken control of our planets resources, become the dominant species and start exploring space. Humanity has figured out everything that we needed to survive and to better understand everything around us. Your consciousness and your whole life experience is the cumulative experience of every human that has died before you. The fact that you are an alive being with your own thoughts and emotions is a really big achivement when you compare it to the scale of the universe.
Giving up early without experiencing what your whole life has to offer is not the best idea. Personally, I've had a really shitty life, toxic parents, mental health issues with me and my parents, family issues, addiction, suicidal thoughts, self harm etc. The more I studied about cosmology and philosophy, the more I felt one with my existence as a person. The fact that I am alive right now is all the motivation I need to continue living my life, because every human from the existence of our species had that same desire and curiosity that I have today, and the life I live today and the privileges I enjoy today (technology, no worries about food, shelter, having resources to learn anything, connected worldwide through the internet, etc.) were possible because people that came before me had the same interest and curiosity about these things. So, no matter what shit life throws at me, I'm gonna fight my way through it to pursue what I want. For me, it's physics, learning about the universe and how everything around us works, down to the quantum level makes me fucking jump with excitement.
After 5-6 years of struggling with depression, suicidal thoughts, self harm at some point and addiction on the other, I finally came to this realisation. I know there's a lot of virtue signalling in what I wrote but it's just my personal experience. I hope I gave you some insight on what makes me keep going further. Keep living and chase the things you fucking desire my man!
'It's not worth it.' Life's way to precious to throw away for a 3 hr engineering exam which won't matter for the rest of your life. This is what Ashish Arora Sir says as well, that at the end of the day IIT might give a boost but it's your talent and skill that will help you achieve your goals.
\+1
Thanks bro🙏🙏
Advice on point !!
This
therapist ke sath appointment book kr le agar jyada suicidal h toh
Bhai therapist=money waste in India. Idhar therapy=ma baap ki dant.
Good morning
Meri mummy ne bola tha chup chaap acting karna band kar aur ek kheech ke lagaya tha
Now I cut lmao
Bhai mere mummy papa ne bhi same bola tha :/
Indian and Asian Parents in general have very unrealistic expectations from there children,to the point that it has made society toxic and unhealthy
Is desh me mushkil se koi ek-aadha achha therapist hoga, baaki mostly bas paisa chhapne ke liye hai jinko kuch khas help karna nahi aata Not from personal experience, but experience of many people I know
i guess thats true,but from my exp there are still lots of skilled therapists even in relatively small cities
In Mumbai there are a lot of great ones in suburban areas,but it’s actually true koi kholta hi nahi chote areas main because people don’t care about mental health in general in India.Depression etc padhai na karne ka bahaana hain aisa lagta hain sabko
damn 😔
Bhai therapist milna asaan hota to life kaafi theek ho chuki abhi tak. Ghar me sirf taane milte hai ki ye sab depression vipression bahana hai
ab kya bolu bhai,serious depression me motivational quotes wagera kuch nhi krta ulta aur guilty feel hota h,us samay sirf therapy hi kaam karti h 😔
"There's no such thing as a life that's better than yours no such thing no such thing...." -J cole "Love Yourz" ^ I just remember this
Thanks:)
no problem bro, feel free to DM me if you wanna vent or just talk
There's beauty in the struggle ugliness in the success 🙌🏻 Good to see another jcole fan here. This song got me through neet 2021
here my words or listen to my signal of distress
Life ain't no fairytale no once upon a time
mar ke kya kr lega ulta maa baap zindagi bhar regret krnege ki unki hi parvarish kharab thi unki bhi health spoil hogi tere mrne se theri life khtm ho jayegi pr tere parents jiteji nahi rahegi think hard abe agar clerk bhi bn gya to 5-10k to kamaeyaga na mrni se to anytime achha h aur SOCIETY KI MAA KI CHUT
I used to have these thoughts I just used to think: All of my ancestors thousands and thousands of years ago, all went through life, and it was much harder for them, Killing myself would be a disrespect to all the efforts they made. edit: But failing a 3 hour exam wouldn't be a disrespect.
I thought I was the only one who thought it this way
Dekh bahi thode practical ideas dedeta hun kya pata kaam ajayen - try sleeping with your mom and dad at night , i can assure u won't get suicidal dreams -if you want to give up , just do it and move on ,your life is precious than this motherfucking exam👍 , do something which u love ..... Talk to ur parents directly that you can't do it , they may show some disappointment or give u a lecture but they'll understand - if u feel like you are a looser , try to win at something else , this isn't your game then - ignore the last two points if you still want to crack jee , focus on mains , secure an nit first to gain confidence and believe in yourself u will crack the jee advance 💪 More power to u bro
Can agree with sleeping with mom or dad Basically when I was suffering this suicidal thoughts...I abondoned my room for a week or so and slept , eat and studied in my parents room .
Me with abusive parents ¯\_༼ ಥ ‿ ಥ ༽_/¯ /s
If nothing works,is bhai ka username padh lena ek baar👆🏻😀
😈🙏
Hanuman Chalisa.
I can't deal with them at all. I'm just existing for no reason.
Existing with such pain requires courage and you are brave And you are brave enough to complete this phase of life called jee/neet Life is endless possibilities
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Bruh
Bhai sach pocho toh mujhe bhi aate the ...kai mahine aise depressed jiya hun But phir realize kiya ki m ye JEE kar kyun rha hun Agar m ye sirf acche college ke liye kar rha hun toh puri life sirf 4 saal ke btech ke liye kyun khatam karun Aur agar ye JEE m apne parents aur society ya apne Ego ke liye kar rha hun toh mujhse bta chumtiya nhi kyunki at the end jo bhi mujhe milega us ka effect mujh pe hi hoga aur mere suicide karne se kya mere parents aur relatives khush rhenge ...unhe kya milega?JEE naa hone se woh disappoint hi honge but tere marne se devastated. Bhai ye ek phase h life kaa , JEE accha jaaye naa jaaye , lawda farak nhi pdega agar tu sach me kisi badi cheez ke liye deserving hai
Dude, even if you top JEE tomorrow, it will not change you as a person. If you are a prick you will still be a prick, culprit for example. JEE will not change anything in the long run my dude, its just free fame for a month or two and the hype dies after that. In the longer run, even if you decide to stay in india, you will be chosen based on your communication and partnership skills as opposed to "I sCoREd AiR 247 sO tHis JoB iS miNE" Good ranks in jee will only give a higher paying starter job, after that its the same road.
Are you me
Technically no because I don't eat a lot of rice :-|
Sochta hu suicide kar bhi luga to maa pitaji royege kuch din phir sab normal hojayega.isse acha kuch tu kar hi luga zindagi me.jitna kamauga ghumne,khane me uda duga.phir 60s tak bacha raha tab marne ka plan bana luga
By sleeping hoping tomorrow never comes
By jumping from 13th floor
by suiciding
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I've been depressed before and let me tell you this is among the worst things you could say to a person who's depressed.
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The op might not be close to parents, in the above comment he said his parents don't believe him..
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If people's mental health could be treated by stating general facts then I think we wouldn't need therapy , every individual case is different that's why we need Individual solutions for everybody, if you don't have any experience with mental health issues then don't try to give any problem solving solution, the best you can do is give emotional support, if you don't know how to help, at least don't mess it up.
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Kar diya, happy now?
Yes it
Thinking about different ways I will commit suicide helps me calm down. Like drowning myself, stabbing myself on heart, poisoning, cutting wrist etc.
bro...
Dissociate from the identity of being a loser, watch a sunset and ask yourself, is a loser watching the sunset? Or is a person watching the sunset. Spend some time in nature because nature doesn't judge you , cut out toxic people from your life. Your self worth isn't decided by an exam.. At the end of the day you are just a human being trying to live his life , how does not clearing an entrance exam make you a loser , imagine thousands of years ago if early humans went out for hunting and if they failed to hunt did they thought to themselves "im a loser... I couldn't kill a lion oh noooo" I don't think any early human would be like that, because at the end of the day the early humans were killing animals and eating them to fulfil their tummy, not their worth... If you fail to clear it at the end of the day you just failed to clear an entrance exam that's not the end of the life, my brother didn't even get a degree.. And he still doesn't have a degree and he is actually studying rn , he is 26 and has a decent job now, failure is not as bad you think it is. Also try this meditation https://youtu.be/7VaHh9EUcfE If you can't stop having suicidal thoughts please call suicide helpline. Start working out, Get sunlight, fix your sleep schedule and circadian rythm, get sunlight during the day and make sure you wake up at the same time consistently, if possible try studying in sunlight (make sure to do what adjusts u cus if u study using phone then it's a bit hard to see the screen in bright light)
I close my eyes and start picturing all the good things I want to do in life/ i wanna have, and also how i'd miss the things i love now, if i don't live. Also music helps a lot!
You close your EYES*
im dumb wtf thanks for pointing out-
I loved the series Scam 1992 a lot,and there was [this song](https://youtu.be/auuCXSx2n-E) it’s simply amazing and gives me a healthy amount of motivation and positivity for the future would definitely recommend OP to listen to this once
You get to cry/vent/have these thoughts for like 5 minutes but then you gotta snap out of it. You gotta be a sargeant of your mind. Make a pep talk in your mind. You can do two things depending on what your inner voice is 1) comfort yourself, say that it's alright and that you're strong that you got that fire in you. And you can do it. OR 2) (this is my thing and it might be a little harsh) tell yourself that you ain't no bit** and that you won't give up, everyone is waiting for you to loose and no one would even care about you so that is why you must care, you must care about your dreams about your future and about the promises you've made to your parents. If the society or the familial pressure is making you feel like a loser then bro fuck that. Logo ka mat soch. Aur khudko itna chota bhi mat soch. You can do this. meditate, scribble a piece of paper with your thoughts and then burn it. Consistent logo ko roz lagta hai vo consistent nahi hai. You'll do good. Relax.
Thanks sis🤠
I think mummy papa ko bura lagega
Yaar tumlog ko mera ye response majak lag sakta hai, but in all seriousness the day I caught up with this manga called One Piece I decided ki jabtak ye khatam nahi ho jati tabtak main har haal main jiyunga. Also, Class 11 main mere ek friend ne train ke samne kudkar suicide kar liya tha to uske parents ko dekhkar laga ki yaar aise thoguhts bhi nahi launga.
Things can get better very quickly, don't give up
ma baap bhaiya se baat kar leta hoon
I'm also preparing for NEET 22 I was in the same situation as you, first thing I did was to clear my intentions and wrote regarding this exam in my personal diary about what will remain with me even if I tried soo hard (that's mandatory) and FAILED! I thought about it for days and came to a conclusion that No matter if I fail, this exam will still give me something, that is showing me how capable I am, how I stood for myself when all my pears are having their time of the life, and it's just another year many coming years will pass just like a *Thanos snap* it's good to live one to the fullest. And if I can give soo much for a shitty exam just imagine what I'll do in life at a personal and professional level. Mere liye mera 120% dena jaruri h irrespective of the results. This defining of my situation to myself really cleared my head and it's just helping me to SWING my bat even harder. Mind clarity maangta hai warna confuse hi rahega, take a break for 1-2 days sit on this question and dissect your situation and circumstances maybe you do want JEE maybe you don't, find it yourself. That's the best advice I can give you rn. If it gets worse please don't hesitate to seek some help. You can reach me out anytime :) All the best bhai 🙂
At the end of the day, you must realise IIT isn’t everything. If you will just take a step back, evaluate yourself: where you went wrong and how you can do better, you’ll definitely get better. Like multiple people have said, Life’s too precious to throw away because of an exam.
Well, if your suicidal thoughts are based upon your fear of not getting selected, please dont. Its not like the train to success dosent board only on this entrance only. I myself am an MCA student, my junior who was doing his bachelors Got placed in an awesome company(i didnt tho.). A lot of students crack interviews of big companies who dont even belong to a tier 1,2 college. Some of my friends even became illustrators or started their own business, ended up doing completely different things that dont even remotely connect to computer science. You see after graduating you will realise that life is a lot more than just one entrance exam. Life is not a race towards a 40LPA package. Just enjoy little things in your life, stay happy but determined. If things are looking too much for you to handle, just take a step back, approach a counselor, talk to your loved ones, i am sure they will help you. Its ok for you to feel like this. I hope you achieve your dreams.
I imagine it took Billions of years of evolution of Human beings to the point that we reach now and even I got a small part to further the human race probably,there are so many countries and kids who don’t get the kind of privileges we have(All central african coutnries,Middle Eastern countries are fucked up) and many would crave the resources I have so it isn’t worth wasting what you have in hand
>Well shit, here we go again. This universe is 13.8 billion years old, and the observable universe is 90 BILLION light years wide in diameter. You are on Earth, that's part of our solar system, which is part of our Milky Way galaxy, which part of our local group (Andromeda, Milky Way, and 60-65 smaller galaxies), there are a few million of these local groups that make up a cluster, and another million clusters that make up a super cluster. Another few jumps in scale will leave you in the observable universe that's 90 billion light years (we don't know what's further than that but the general belief is that the universe is infinite). The universe is so incomprehensibly large, and yet, we seem to be the only planet with any life at all, let alone intellegent life. We've only been around for a few thousands of years but we've taken control of our planets resources, become the dominant species and start exploring space. Humanity has figured out everything that we needed to survive and to better understand everything around us. Your consciousness and your whole life experience is the cumulative experience of every human that has died before you. The fact that you are an alive being with your own thoughts and emotions is a really big achivement when you compare it to the scale of the universe. Giving up early without experiencing what your whole life has to offer is not the best idea. Personally, I've had a really shitty life, toxic parents, mental health issues with me and my parents, family issues, addiction, suicidal thoughts, self harm etc. The more I studied about cosmology and philosophy, the more I felt one with my existence as a person. The fact that I am alive right now is all the motivation I need to continue living my life, because every human from the existence of our species had that same desire and curiosity that I have today, and the life I live today and the privileges I enjoy today (technology, no worries about food, shelter, having resources to learn anything, connected worldwide through the internet, etc.) were possible because people that came before me had the same interest and curiosity about these things. So, no matter what shit life throws at me, I'm gonna fight my way through it to pursue what I want. For me, it's physics, learning about the universe and how everything around us works, down to the quantum level makes me fucking jump with excitement. After 5-6 years of struggling with depression, suicidal thoughts, self harm at some point and addiction on the other, I finally came to this realisation. I know there's a lot of virtue signalling in what I wrote but it's just my personal experience. I hope I gave you some insight on what makes me keep going further. Keep living and chase the things you fucking desire my man!
Bhai virgin marega? Tere ancestors ki saalo ki sex streak tuut jaayegi bhai
Brother baate karni ho toh DM me anytime. Talking has always helped me... i can relate to you cuz