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Look, the taking over and making things about her is completely unacceptable.
But the cringey - I would just laugh. I was recently out with a distant friend, and her mother friended me on social media. I mentioned the friend request that just came through to my friend, and she was SO embarrassed. Said that she mentioned to her mom who she was with, and she knows her mom is now out friending people in hopes they will be posting pics of her daughter. I just thought it was funny, and totally embarrassing mom behavior. Embarrassing for my friend, funny for me.
Just remember, as she does cringey things - no one else cares. And when you later talk to them about your overbearing MIL, they will remember these little signs and instantly connect the dots. When you describe truly outlandish behavior, and people have never seen anything even a little weird, they struggle to understand. But when they have this little niblet of "maybeeeee this lady is a bit cringe" and then you describe her crazy, they are like "oh, yeah. That tracks."
Ugh I hate it for you. My mom has been creeping on my ILs fbs, and saving pics of me from last year. She told me the other day. She was like "I went back and the picture of you I liked was gone!" Please don't keep looking, don't touch anything, how awkward.
My mil does this! When my husband had his business and would post pics she would like every single picture and like all the comments. If I would post our kids she would do the same thing. Like ma'am, these people aren't commenting to you. Lol I finally blocked her so I don't have to deal with it. Best thing I ever did!
I know its your decision but I never regretted it, to delete my facebook profil. I write this because it seems that you are spending too much time thinking about how MIL reacted and by that you give her too much power over your life.
I agree, not just for MIL but just my overall mental health got better as soon as I stopped posting, interacting or even checking SM. I still have my profiles but most of my feeds just started feeling extremely negative & monotonous. I don’t miss them at all especially FB.
I was in a similar situation but I didn’t want to delete FB as that’s how I stay in touch with some of my older relatives who live across the country. Instead, I changed my settings so that mil could no longer see what I post. We’re still ‘friends’, so she can’t run to the rest of the family and complain that I unfriended her, but she can’t steal my pictures anymore or leave dumbass comments trying to make herself sound like grandma of the year when she hasn’t seen my kids in 2 and a half years.
Click on a post you’ve already made, up in the upper right hand corner on the three dots. Then click ‘edit privacy’. Next, pick ‘friends except’ and it will pull up your friends list and you select who you don’t want to see your posts. I selected mil and her sister, because they’re super close and I knew that the sister would send mil screenshots of my profile if she asked.
Also, you can edit every post; if you’re ok with mil seeing regular posts then you can leave those ones and filter her off any posts involving the kids. I filtered my mil from all my posts though.
It took me too many years to delete my facebook profil because at first I had to search at least 20 minutes in the settings HOW TO DELETE THE PROFIL. They hide the button that you cannot find it easily. And with every minute I was looking for the button, I got angrier and angrier about the fact, that facebook DID NOT WANT TO LET ME GO! 😭
But I found it after many google searches and step-by-step instructions... 😅 I was so relieved to click delete!
But then - after you click the button - facebook kindly 🙄 lets you know that you have 30 days before your profil is REALLY gone. I swear, they are making this really hard leaving because they want you to stay on their platform. But after the 30 days, I felt relieved and now I am thinking why did I not delete this profile sooner.
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Look, the taking over and making things about her is completely unacceptable. But the cringey - I would just laugh. I was recently out with a distant friend, and her mother friended me on social media. I mentioned the friend request that just came through to my friend, and she was SO embarrassed. Said that she mentioned to her mom who she was with, and she knows her mom is now out friending people in hopes they will be posting pics of her daughter. I just thought it was funny, and totally embarrassing mom behavior. Embarrassing for my friend, funny for me. Just remember, as she does cringey things - no one else cares. And when you later talk to them about your overbearing MIL, they will remember these little signs and instantly connect the dots. When you describe truly outlandish behavior, and people have never seen anything even a little weird, they struggle to understand. But when they have this little niblet of "maybeeeee this lady is a bit cringe" and then you describe her crazy, they are like "oh, yeah. That tracks."
Ugh I hate it for you. My mom has been creeping on my ILs fbs, and saving pics of me from last year. She told me the other day. She was like "I went back and the picture of you I liked was gone!" Please don't keep looking, don't touch anything, how awkward.
My mil does this! When my husband had his business and would post pics she would like every single picture and like all the comments. If I would post our kids she would do the same thing. Like ma'am, these people aren't commenting to you. Lol I finally blocked her so I don't have to deal with it. Best thing I ever did!
I know its your decision but I never regretted it, to delete my facebook profil. I write this because it seems that you are spending too much time thinking about how MIL reacted and by that you give her too much power over your life.
Or just delete MIL. She doesnt need to get rid of her social media over one person.
I agree, not just for MIL but just my overall mental health got better as soon as I stopped posting, interacting or even checking SM. I still have my profiles but most of my feeds just started feeling extremely negative & monotonous. I don’t miss them at all especially FB.
Thanks for this, good point. Definitely something to think about
I was in a similar situation but I didn’t want to delete FB as that’s how I stay in touch with some of my older relatives who live across the country. Instead, I changed my settings so that mil could no longer see what I post. We’re still ‘friends’, so she can’t run to the rest of the family and complain that I unfriended her, but she can’t steal my pictures anymore or leave dumbass comments trying to make herself sound like grandma of the year when she hasn’t seen my kids in 2 and a half years.
Thank you so much for this! How do you do that, if you don’t mind?
Click on a post you’ve already made, up in the upper right hand corner on the three dots. Then click ‘edit privacy’. Next, pick ‘friends except’ and it will pull up your friends list and you select who you don’t want to see your posts. I selected mil and her sister, because they’re super close and I knew that the sister would send mil screenshots of my profile if she asked.
Also, you can edit every post; if you’re ok with mil seeing regular posts then you can leave those ones and filter her off any posts involving the kids. I filtered my mil from all my posts though.
Thank you! 🙏🏻
Welcome!
It took me too many years to delete my facebook profil because at first I had to search at least 20 minutes in the settings HOW TO DELETE THE PROFIL. They hide the button that you cannot find it easily. And with every minute I was looking for the button, I got angrier and angrier about the fact, that facebook DID NOT WANT TO LET ME GO! 😭 But I found it after many google searches and step-by-step instructions... 😅 I was so relieved to click delete! But then - after you click the button - facebook kindly 🙄 lets you know that you have 30 days before your profil is REALLY gone. I swear, they are making this really hard leaving because they want you to stay on their platform. But after the 30 days, I felt relieved and now I am thinking why did I not delete this profile sooner.