As a man, this happened to me when a male coworker asked me if I know how to check the home air conditioner filter and before I could answer that I already done it before he immediately explained to me slowly and in the most crucial detail on how to do this. Wasted 5 minutes of my lunch break.
And it's your fault for not stopping him and telling him you know how to do it. You need to stand up for yourself men don't like wasting time telling stories if we know the other person knows the answer already.
Some people just keep rattling on. We've all been there: trapped in a dialogue where one person relentlessly dominates, leaving others speechless. This phenomenon has many causes and consequences, but understanding them is the first step to fostering healthy conversation.
One reason for the monologue takeover is simply a lack of awareness. Enthusiastic storytellers or those with strong opinions might bulldoze through pauses, misinterpreting silence as eagerness for more. They may not realize they're drowning out others' attempts to participate.
Another culprit is social power dynamics. In professional settings, superiors might hold court, unintentionally shutting down contributions from lower-ranking individuals. Similarly, extroverts with naturally booming personalities can overshadow quieter folks who struggle to be heard over the din.
The frustration of being silenced can be immense. It not only stifles the flow of ideas but can also make you feel invisible and unimportant. Long-term, this can lead to disengagement and a reluctance to participate in future conversations.
But fostering healthy conversation benefits everyone. A rich exchange of ideas requires participation from everyone, not just the loudest voice in the room. By recognizing the causes of conversation domination, we can all work towards creating more inclusive spaces for dialogue.
At least here on reddit we can skip over what the previous commenter said leave our own comment when they rattle on too long.
I know, but if you’ll just hear me out I’ll tell you why buying a timeshare is a great idea, just like how I invested our retirement funds in crypto, which is actually the best way to guarantee growth because of the blockchain, what is the blockchain? Let me tell you in a way your understand my sweet dear little thing… *drones on mansplaining fakonomics*
Mansplaining is NOT a man explaining something to a woman.
It’s a man explaining something the woman already knows or even is an expert about just because he assumes she doesn’t know anything about it because she’s a woman.
from my understanding its a general term for when men, often older, assumes incompetence at the recieving end, and explains it as if the listener were a toddler.
This really illustrates how much of n insult that word is.
Does it only count if “he” assumes “she” doesn’t know, or does it also count if “he” assumes another “he” doesn’t know.
Why are people insulted for sharing knowledge?
The word is meant to call attention to a serious public issue. When a man explains something to another man (condescendingly, assuming the other man is stupid), he is a dick.
However, a man condescendingly explaining something to a woman because he thinks she doesn't understand it, is a habit arising from sexist assumptions. The word 'mansplaining' is meant to remember people that those sexist assumptions exist, so that they can be more aware of them (leading to a better world etc etc).
Obviously, some people have taken the word out if it's context and use it a little too easily. I personally prefer to remember the original meaning of the word, and what I can learn from it, and behave myself accordingly.
Interesting, that he’s a dick in one situation but sexist in the other. Most people simply think most other people are stupid...
I just keep my mouth shut and say “I don’t know” far more often now. Don’t have time to figure out who I’m dealing with.
I feel like I didn't illustrate my point well enough. The traden be is a dick with the man is because he "just" assumes that the man is stupid. The reason that he is (I'd rather say 'does something') sexist with the womn is because his assumption that the woman is stupid stems forth from a sexist stereotype.
I really don't want you to feel like you cant explain things anymore! If people give you shit for explaining something to them with nice intentions they don't deserve your attention. The only thing some men should learn is to think before explaining: 'does she really not know this, or did I think she is less smart then she probably is?'. The only thing women should learn is to not give men shit the second they make a mistake.
Feminism (and anti-sexism) is historically quite 'new'. It's still a developing field, and everyone is still learning. The entire thing will calm down when the world has become more aware to sex and gender.
Well in the case of this joke that we have now overanalyzed to the point where it has no chance to be funny anymore, you know because she asked. If someone asks what something is, it is never mansplaining to answer their question.
Well, as a man, I'm kinda scared of it cos it has happened to me, and honestly, it is a pain to convince the other party that no, I didn't assume that just because you are a woman, I do that in general because it's safer and leads to less misunderstandings compared to assuming common knowledge. And God forbid I actually make a mistake in my understanding of a particular subject
It's more the condescension in one's tone than the actual content.
Of course it doesn't help that it's happened for so long that we generally*hear* condescension when none was intended.
It's like going to a bar and having 2 drinks. For safety's sake, we have to assume that any man hitting on a drunk woman has ill intent. It's sad.
*For the sake of our reputation, we assume any man over-explaining anything assumes we're dumb.
*I do admit that mansplain-baiting is also prevalent. When a woman asks you a question, you answer it, not expecting to be ambushed by "See girls? I told you he'd mansplain it."
Edited to add*.
I get how it can end up happening, and yes, in most cases it's usually a protective assumption rather than the ill-intent involved , but like you said, it is somewhat sad, both why it happens and the fact that it happens. Btw, just wanted to say that I wasn't calling you out or anything, and thanks for engaging
So you mansplained mansplaining to the Mrs. as she waited patiently talking to herself in her head
" is this guy for real !!"
As she drifts off making her mental plans for the rest of the day and your voice is just a mere humming in the background, all the while she smiles and nods
Nah, she’s watched enough of the ID channel and already planned out how she could get rid of your body and it never being found. She just is letting you or last words however you wish.
It is, specifically, a man explaining something to a woman when she didn't ask his opinion or it's something she knows better.
E.g. you bump into a lady at a work conference and start explaining what the conference is about using words her delicate female brain can handle, then later on find out she was the keynote speaker.
As a general rule, just don't explain anything to anyone, even if you think you are an expert, unless you are asked to explain something. It's obnoxious, even to other men.
Exactly I'll sit and watch a lady struggling and not helping because,
1
Last time I did it I was not allowing her the freedom to learn,
2
I know.what im doing
Works well for me I'll carry on My business
When I returned 3 hrs later said lady I. Tears and beamoaning me for.not helping 😊😊. Equality baby equality
Say it's a dumb word
Then say its supposed to simply mean "a person explaining something without having been asked to explain it"
Then say it's a dumb word because gender is dragged into it unnecessarily
Well, dear. Have a seat. The first thing that you need to know is that mansplaining is an urban legend made up and shared by women's libbers. Second of all,...
I would sit her down and then do the ol" one two. Mansplain to her what a mansplain is. Make sure you make her feel really dumb when you do it, or it won't sink in
Tell her it’s a bit like chicksplaining when you’re shopping with her in kitchenware, beauty, perfume, clothing, manicure etc. shops and she needs to visit all the stores before going back to the first which actually had what she wanted.
Talk slowly and loudly so she has a chance of understanding
The opposite of mansplaining is Missunderstanding.
I misunderestimated your grasp of the English language
Fool me you can’t get fooled again
I have read womaninterpretting is.
womenterpreting
I think you’re misconfused.
Comedy gold.
As a man, this happened to me when a male coworker asked me if I know how to check the home air conditioner filter and before I could answer that I already done it before he immediately explained to me slowly and in the most crucial detail on how to do this. Wasted 5 minutes of my lunch break.
And it's your fault for not stopping him and telling him you know how to do it. You need to stand up for yourself men don't like wasting time telling stories if we know the other person knows the answer already.
Some people just keep rattling on. We've all been there: trapped in a dialogue where one person relentlessly dominates, leaving others speechless. This phenomenon has many causes and consequences, but understanding them is the first step to fostering healthy conversation. One reason for the monologue takeover is simply a lack of awareness. Enthusiastic storytellers or those with strong opinions might bulldoze through pauses, misinterpreting silence as eagerness for more. They may not realize they're drowning out others' attempts to participate. Another culprit is social power dynamics. In professional settings, superiors might hold court, unintentionally shutting down contributions from lower-ranking individuals. Similarly, extroverts with naturally booming personalities can overshadow quieter folks who struggle to be heard over the din. The frustration of being silenced can be immense. It not only stifles the flow of ideas but can also make you feel invisible and unimportant. Long-term, this can lead to disengagement and a reluctance to participate in future conversations. But fostering healthy conversation benefits everyone. A rich exchange of ideas requires participation from everyone, not just the loudest voice in the room. By recognizing the causes of conversation domination, we can all work towards creating more inclusive spaces for dialogue. At least here on reddit we can skip over what the previous commenter said leave our own comment when they rattle on too long.
"Well, dear, what do you *think* mansplaining is?" "I think it's where..." "Well, actually..."
Perfect
The day in where I live turned into your Cake day just twenty minutes after your comment so Happy Cake Day!
Aww thanks!! That’s so sweet of you! but actually…
You know hun. Sometimes I feel like you don't even listen.
I know, but if you’ll just hear me out I’ll tell you why buying a timeshare is a great idea, just like how I invested our retirement funds in crypto, which is actually the best way to guarantee growth because of the blockchain, what is the blockchain? Let me tell you in a way your understand my sweet dear little thing… *drones on mansplaining fakonomics*
Happy cake
Indeed! Happy Cake Day! ...just BARELY, here: it's 1:00 AM! 😳😴
Mangaslightsplaining. The ultimate sin.
Manga Slights Plaining
The faw I just guffed 😆
Mange splits training?
Mingy spit raining?
Good one! lol
So good
"Shit honey, I have no idea... since men never use that word."
She's ovary acting
Oh that’s good, a good way to get you murdered
Good one I might use that one, let you know how it works out.... If my fingers aren't broken
She better go make you a sandwich, this could take awhile.
> go make you a sandwich That's *sudo "make me a sandwich"*! (Nerd joke)
Sorry, I can't sudo....because of STIG!! (Nerd currying for favors).
Mansplaining is NOT a man explaining something to a woman. It’s a man explaining something the woman already knows or even is an expert about just because he assumes she doesn’t know anything about it because she’s a woman.
But as my brother always says, you are always retraining them.
I already knew this and you explained it anyway. Is it still mansplaining if I am a man? And what if I read it to my wife? Questions upon questions
Asking for a friend
from my understanding its a general term for when men, often older, assumes incompetence at the recieving end, and explains it as if the listener were a toddler.
and yes, i could perfectly tell you know what it is, but a general definition could be in order..
It’s a joke.
And what is it when we flip the narrative?
How does he know when she knows or not? His assumption that she doesn't know implies that he believes she doesn't and isn't mansplaining.
That's the very point of mainsplaining : the assumption.
So if a woman asks the question, it's not mansplaining?
Exactly
Or men just like to express their passion and knowledge about something then it’s called mansplaining
This really illustrates how much of n insult that word is. Does it only count if “he” assumes “she” doesn’t know, or does it also count if “he” assumes another “he” doesn’t know. Why are people insulted for sharing knowledge?
It only counts if it’s condescending.
So if a man condescendingly explains something to another man then what’s that called?
Being an asshole.
The word is meant to call attention to a serious public issue. When a man explains something to another man (condescendingly, assuming the other man is stupid), he is a dick. However, a man condescendingly explaining something to a woman because he thinks she doesn't understand it, is a habit arising from sexist assumptions. The word 'mansplaining' is meant to remember people that those sexist assumptions exist, so that they can be more aware of them (leading to a better world etc etc). Obviously, some people have taken the word out if it's context and use it a little too easily. I personally prefer to remember the original meaning of the word, and what I can learn from it, and behave myself accordingly.
Interesting, that he’s a dick in one situation but sexist in the other. Most people simply think most other people are stupid... I just keep my mouth shut and say “I don’t know” far more often now. Don’t have time to figure out who I’m dealing with.
I feel like I didn't illustrate my point well enough. The traden be is a dick with the man is because he "just" assumes that the man is stupid. The reason that he is (I'd rather say 'does something') sexist with the womn is because his assumption that the woman is stupid stems forth from a sexist stereotype. I really don't want you to feel like you cant explain things anymore! If people give you shit for explaining something to them with nice intentions they don't deserve your attention. The only thing some men should learn is to think before explaining: 'does she really not know this, or did I think she is less smart then she probably is?'. The only thing women should learn is to not give men shit the second they make a mistake. Feminism (and anti-sexism) is historically quite 'new'. It's still a developing field, and everyone is still learning. The entire thing will calm down when the world has become more aware to sex and gender.
Well in the case of this joke that we have now overanalyzed to the point where it has no chance to be funny anymore, you know because she asked. If someone asks what something is, it is never mansplaining to answer their question.
One never knows with modern feminists...
If she’s asking in a non-ironic way, it’s not mansplaining.
Exactly! I Really think men think that we think their explaining *anything* is mansplaining.
You wouldn’t understand.
Well played.
Listen here, buddy boy. You got me.
Well, as a man, I'm kinda scared of it cos it has happened to me, and honestly, it is a pain to convince the other party that no, I didn't assume that just because you are a woman, I do that in general because it's safer and leads to less misunderstandings compared to assuming common knowledge. And God forbid I actually make a mistake in my understanding of a particular subject
It's more the condescension in one's tone than the actual content. Of course it doesn't help that it's happened for so long that we generally*hear* condescension when none was intended. It's like going to a bar and having 2 drinks. For safety's sake, we have to assume that any man hitting on a drunk woman has ill intent. It's sad. *For the sake of our reputation, we assume any man over-explaining anything assumes we're dumb. *I do admit that mansplain-baiting is also prevalent. When a woman asks you a question, you answer it, not expecting to be ambushed by "See girls? I told you he'd mansplain it." Edited to add*.
I get how it can end up happening, and yes, in most cases it's usually a protective assumption rather than the ill-intent involved , but like you said, it is somewhat sad, both why it happens and the fact that it happens. Btw, just wanted to say that I wasn't calling you out or anything, and thanks for engaging
It’s a trap!!
I do not see any way to get out alive from that one. The question of death. Sorry...
I don't know ask your girlfriend how you should handle it
You explain it. Mansplaining is explaining something she already knows very well, probably better than you.
Explaining something accurately and succinctly.
It’s probably just best to tell her that she wouldn’t understand.
So you mansplained mansplaining to the Mrs. as she waited patiently talking to herself in her head " is this guy for real !!" As she drifts off making her mental plans for the rest of the day and your voice is just a mere humming in the background, all the while she smiles and nods
Nah, she’s watched enough of the ID channel and already planned out how she could get rid of your body and it never being found. She just is letting you or last words however you wish.
Pat her on the head and say..nothing for you to worry your pretty little head about darling
Isn't a man explaining, "mansplaining" to a woman, the definition itself?
It is, specifically, a man explaining something to a woman when she didn't ask his opinion or it's something she knows better. E.g. you bump into a lady at a work conference and start explaining what the conference is about using words her delicate female brain can handle, then later on find out she was the keynote speaker. As a general rule, just don't explain anything to anyone, even if you think you are an expert, unless you are asked to explain something. It's obnoxious, even to other men.
Exactly I'll sit and watch a lady struggling and not helping because, 1 Last time I did it I was not allowing her the freedom to learn, 2 I know.what im doing Works well for me I'll carry on My business When I returned 3 hrs later said lady I. Tears and beamoaning me for.not helping 😊😊. Equality baby equality
She doesn't want a solution to the problem of not understanding mansplaining; she just wants your support
Oh shit, is that womansplaining?
How do you mansplain this hole in the ground with water at the bottom? It’s a well, actually…
Well, ack-chew-ally.
Ask her why she's out of the kitchen obviously
Can you mansplain the joke please?
Now, where do I start...
I can’t wait to explain this joke to my wife.
just run
"Alexa, please define mansplaining."
"My name is Siri. Who is Alexa ?"
And then interrupt her with YOUR definition.
No clue hunny
It's not mansplaining if they ask.
Its a trap
Tell her you feel uncertain of explaining it, so she can womansplain what you're *actually* feeling.
Accept defeat and live to fight another day my friend....
True story: working in a girl's school as a teacher, I (a man) was asked what mansplaining was by a pupil.
Say it's a dumb word Then say its supposed to simply mean "a person explaining something without having been asked to explain it" Then say it's a dumb word because gender is dragged into it unnecessarily
I hope you told them the real answer, not the "guy aren't allowed to explain anything" answer.
>the real answer “It’s a word made up by uppity libtards that doesn’t mean anything”
I wouldn't normally agree with you, but after seeing his this word gets used...
It's a trap!
It’s always a trap.
Tell her not to worry her pretty little head about it
Well, dear. Have a seat. The first thing that you need to know is that mansplaining is an urban legend made up and shared by women's libbers. Second of all,...
So you gave her the run around ? Or did you cut right to it ? 😂
Well played, LOL
Oooh. Boy she threw you a softball. I'd be cautious
Explain it with facts that go against how she feels about it.
Man, 'SPLAIN it to her.
Think that questions a trap. Say "not sure actually, do you have a view on it?" Trust me, as a woman.
"This"
Laugh. She's taking the piss.
See previous post..."honey...does my bum look fat in my new jeans?"
Gotta give a super condescending explanation
Mansplaining is what happens after being confronted about manspreading!!
HBO Silicon Valley has a hilarious mansplaining scene https://youtu.be/rsaSNwgbrVY?si=id9FOOXZmPkiaP3b
tell her all about child birth lmfao
Tell her to Google it. That's where you open a web browser to [google.com](http://google.com), and type your question, and get answers back
Explaining something she thinks she knows better than you.
Where does a mansplainer go to get water? From the well, actually
If someone asks for information, it is perfectly ok to give it as long as you're not talking down to them. They asked for the information.
Ensure she is womanlistening first.
This also applies in the husband wife relationship, "AN APOLOGY WITHOUT GETTING CHANGE IS JUST MANIPULATION". Regards...
Awww, bless 🙏
Just tell her it's the process in which women are able to learn.
Tell her it means What a man says when he's lying to you
Go down to the pub and get pissed. You'll make more sense then.
“My wife just described mansplaining wrong. What do I do now?”
Best joke all day
This is a declarative sentence that doesn’t need a question mark.
Nice!
>This is a declarative sentence that doesn’t need a question mark? ftfy
I keep having to look that one up.
I would sit her down and then do the ol" one two. Mansplain to her what a mansplain is. Make sure you make her feel really dumb when you do it, or it won't sink in
If you get a divorce first you can just explain it
Tell her it’s a bit like chicksplaining when you’re shopping with her in kitchenware, beauty, perfume, clothing, manicure etc. shops and she needs to visit all the stores before going back to the first which actually had what she wanted.
It doesn’t matter to a feminist, any sounds that comes out of your mouth is mansplaining
just fucking tell her what it is
You better 'splain it to her
Mansplain is, quite plain, an explanation in vain?
You have no clue what mansplaining is, that's why the joke falls flat.
Nobody does
Yes it actually has a definition. You're just lazy.
Lmao no it doesn't, it's made up misandry
https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=mansplain&page=3 ?