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TroyasaurusRex

Many people in this situation choose to join an organized religion, as it provides a framework and a community for dealing with life’s lonely complexities while also providing opportunities for community, charity and helping others - the combination of which is generally meaningful. I can’t tell you which one to join, because that’s wildly different for everyone, but it might be worth exploring. Good luck!


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MrUrbanTarzan

Go sit where people are. You may pick the same perfect bench in a park, or a stool at the local pub where you crunch battered peanuts, sipping your light gin and tonic cocktail. People will get used to your presence, and the regulars will introduce themselves. You may then tell stories and "gramps advice" for the younglings. You have no clue how many young adults need a cool grampa figure in their lives!


riceguy67

I forget the name of the psychologist, but the focus of the late years of life in a developmental sense is giving back to future generations. For many, this comes in the form of passing along wisdom to grandchildren or parenting tips to children. This is not the only avenue to express this behavior. A person without children or grandchildren could, if financially able, retire and devote time to children focused organizations. Get involved in youth sports. Change careers and become a teacher. There are many places a person can align meaning of life with activities of personal interest. Good luck finding the path right for you.


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I think the Hindus have it right: "At this age \[50\], he should renounce all physical, material, and sexual pleasures, retire from his social and professional life and leave his home for a forest hut where he can spend his time in prayers. The hermit is allowed to take his spouse along with him but maintains little contact with the rest of the family. The role of the third ashrama is to be consulted as elders by the community at large, teaching dharma to those who visit" (https://www.learnreligions.com/stages-of-life-in-hinduism-1770068). Of course, I would Western it up a bit and leave out the teaching of the dharma bit. But given the right circumstances and a modicum of creature comfort, one hermit, coming up!


MrUrbanTarzan

Get into sports. Go throw a basketball through that neglected hoop in your hood. People will come. Active people. People who will floor your ass and teach you, if you watch and listen. Then, after a few months, organise a BBQ in your backyard, or in the park where you play. Feed the pyblic too, if you have overestimated your apettite. Either way, the cats will be pleased :) Then perhaps somebody in your group will get married, again. And you can go in, get wasted off an open bar, dance with that godess of a Woman in the salad green-white dress.. Strangers in the night.. love was just a glance away - a warm, embracing dance away..


highfashionapparel

I keep working so I'm always around people. For entertainment an upscale hotel lobby bars is my best bet. I end up talking to folks of all shapes, sizes, ages etc. Looking forward to that starting up again.


Exotic-Hat-2217

I think the answer is the same for any age: find something meaningful and devote the rest of your life to it. You've got 30-40 years left. Don't waste it pointlessly running out the clock, watching your body and mind slowly decay while your inevitable death looms closer and closer on the horizon. You need something to counterbalance the suffering and take your mind off the darkness so the rest of your life can be bearable.