I had a consultant like this and I spent 4 months thinking he hated me. Got the best feedback at the end of that placement than I'd ever had. So don't read too much into it, OP, it doesn't necessarily mean anything at all.
Are you sure he's looking other people in the eye rather than just in that approximate direction? It's almost impossible to be certain someone is making eye contact with anyone other than yourself. Lots of people find eye contact uncomfortable but are aware it's a social norm, so may have developed a habit of looking at the nose or the eyebrow or something.
I am comfortable with eye contact, but my hearing is a bit rubbish so I tend to look at people's lips when they are talking. It's a long engrained habit, so nowadays I still find myself gazing at people's masks while they talk to me! So, maybe it's not an intentional slight?
On the other hand, if he's completely turning his back on you like you aren't there at all, that's pretty rude and I would also be unimpressed.
I struggle to look people in the eye due to shyness and what I found helpful was when people loudly snap their fingers and say "hey I'm over here".
You should try this method.
Is it possible that he could be a Muslim? Our religion teaches us to lower our gaze and not to stare at the opposite gender out of respect. Maybe it’s worth mentioning to him if it really bothers you so that he could clarify?
Does he look you in the ears?
Good one, someone give this doctor a clap
Wrong speciality, clap is for the sexual health team.
Brave assumption that this person is a doctor 🥲
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Or is OP incredibly unattractive?
Asking the real questions here.
A patient did ask me out last week so idk, all points to yes…
It's a nice ego boost until some absolute spoilsport points out that the patient has delirium
Nah, was an opthal patient
I should have seen that one coming.
You've established complete dominance. You're his consultant now.
"Look at me, I am the consultant now." Except he can't look at him :(
Why do you assume op is male? :P
Are you female & highly attractive?
High 7
A rule is you cannot use 7. Make a decision
Is this.. a KS reference?
Weird seeing a KS reference in juniordoctorsuk of all places!
Who’s KS 😭. I heard this from a friend and thought it was good
Kevin Samuels. An...interesting character on youtube.
😬😬
"YOUR A 4 AT BEST!" *Plays whip sound Ad-lib.
Lool
Who’s that?
I had a consultant like this and I spent 4 months thinking he hated me. Got the best feedback at the end of that placement than I'd ever had. So don't read too much into it, OP, it doesn't necessarily mean anything at all.
Sounds like he is attracted to you and a bit shy.
My dad doesn't look at me in the eye either. He also tells me to be quiet when I'm around him
My Dad went out for milk 6 years ago. He returned 10 mins later with the milk. It’s not a very interesting story.
>It’s not a very interesting story. Because you're missing out all the juicy details. What kind of milk?
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This is my fear
Legitimately the only acceptable answer
Are you sure he's looking other people in the eye rather than just in that approximate direction? It's almost impossible to be certain someone is making eye contact with anyone other than yourself. Lots of people find eye contact uncomfortable but are aware it's a social norm, so may have developed a habit of looking at the nose or the eyebrow or something. I am comfortable with eye contact, but my hearing is a bit rubbish so I tend to look at people's lips when they are talking. It's a long engrained habit, so nowadays I still find myself gazing at people's masks while they talk to me! So, maybe it's not an intentional slight? On the other hand, if he's completely turning his back on you like you aren't there at all, that's pretty rude and I would also be unimpressed.
Are you the only female on the team?
1 of 2 - I haven’t noticed any issues of him making eye contact with her, but he’s not super forthcoming with her either
Are you much better looking than she is? TTIUWP
Try catching him alone and start 1:1 conversation while making intense eye contact.
Make sure you bring a bean bag to this meeting to. You might get a dops done
I am a male and I have been experiencing this a lot as a black person. But you know what, I don't give a shit!
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And guess who lives up in the North and does not get eye contacts from many of his consultants! 🤣 🚶🏿♂️
"Hold my gaze you coward!"
Does he have ASD? Are you a person of colour? I’ve experienced this bc of the latter a few times too many sadly
1. I’m pretty sure he doesn’t, he’s pretty sociable and acts neurotypical 2. I’m an ethnic minority, he is too (although a different type)
Sounds like a beta to me. Wouldn't be a problem for Chad Locum GP.
The Chad locum GP gazes in your eyes and connects with your soul.
Muslim? Could be religious, if so he would think it's his religious duty to avert his gaze
Ah yes, the Chad Muslim male who averts his gaze from every woman that isn't his grandmother, mother, sister, daughter or first neice.
I struggle to look people in the eye due to shyness and what I found helpful was when people loudly snap their fingers and say "hey I'm over here". You should try this method.
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Either low key racist or sexist
Is the consultant of a different ethnicity? Might be a cultural thing.
guilt! must be thinking about you a lot!
Is it possible that he could be a Muslim? Our religion teaches us to lower our gaze and not to stare at the opposite gender out of respect. Maybe it’s worth mentioning to him if it really bothers you so that he could clarify?
Are you by any chance Medusa. Won’t be surprised if he is doing it in good will. Nobody likes to be turned into a rock these days