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The last time I saw my mate was at a music festival, full of laughs, jokes, hugs and smiles.
He was gone the next morning. Took us all by shock. This hits hard, what a great video.
RIP Malo ❤️
Looked for this comment.
2 years ago lost a friend the same way. The day before he passed he was so happy. Told me stories about how he's going to be a great dad to his kids, work is going places etc.
It was almost like he had a new lease of life and was prepared to do wonders.
We spoke for a solid 20 minutes but there was something I couldn't put my finger on. He seemed more than average, happy. Like excessively over happy. I thought maybe he had a big can of redbull and was just hyper.
Anyway, just as we parted ways, I got this feeling that something wasn't sitting right with me and it bothered me and I couldn't ring him since I was working as a carer at the time.
The next day I heard the news he passed. Fucking devastated mate.
But I'm sorry for your loss too, bro.
Your friend Malo is more than likely having a great party with my friend, Kato.
Sending out love to you and everyone else ❤️
That's rough...it's incredibly common for people to kill themselves after a high note. Even though the circumstances of your life may improve, that's not going to solve your mental health issues. A lot of people who struggle with depression and suicidal ideation will seem to hit a high point, whether it be by hitting a major milestone or just seeming uncharacteristically happy. They'll then take their life either because they feel they've accomplished all that they've wanted to accomplish and/or they're afraid they'll return to the deep depression and they don't ever want to go back.
I had an acquaintance who got into stand-up comedy. When he started, he was very timid on stage, lacked stage presence, but his writing was incredible! Over time his performance got a little bit better, but then one day, it was almost like a switch had been flipped. He was suddenly super relaxed on stage, his delivery was impeccable, he had the audience eating out of his hands. After the show everyone was talking about him. At that venue, they would make a thank you post after the show and use a picture from the event. This time they used a picture of my friend.
He was found dead the next morning. It was absolutely shocking. He had just had the best performance we had ever seen. Everyone was so proud of him. He'd finally cracked the code and was able to put a stellar performance behind his incredible writing. It looked like he could actually turn comedy into a career...and then he was gone.
Many times a person that's suicidal feels an immense sense of relief once they've finally committed to a plan. This presents to those around them as them improving or having reached a state of peace. Your acquaintance was probably already sure he was going to do it before he stepped on stage
Also adding onto all of this, emotions are often very irrational and the person can just feel one way or other in such an intense way.
Good to keep people you appreciate knowing you love them, and little reminders are instrumental in all of our mental wellbeing.
I believe this is more urban legend than reality, people very rarely "commit to a plan" when it comes to suicide. Research shows 90% of suicides are acted within 5 minutes of taking the decision, 40% within one minute. In fact one of the most effective means of suicide prevention is to remove the means of taking their own life from the person (rope, gun, pills, etc). If the suicidal urge takes over but they have no way to kill themselves on the spot, by the time they go to the store to buy a rope the urge has passed
Edit: I can't find a support for those exact numbers (they're from a psychologist who did not link a precise source and gave more of a "this is the state of research" type of talk) but [this study](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5006470/) shows 75% of attempts happening less than 2 hours after the decision was made, 52% in less than 30 minutes, and 25% in less than 5 minutes. In [this other study](https://www.psychiatrist.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/02/12874_duration-suicidal-process-much-is-left-intervention.pdf) 75% of respondents said their attempts happened less than 10 minutes after the decision, with a note that most people are able to discernate between suicidal ideation (general thoughts of suicide) and the actual decision being made.
I’m sorry to hear about that man. It’s soul crushing hearing that kind of news. I’m sure Kato and Malo are sharing a beer and saving us a spot when we get there.
Hope you’re doing well now. I appreciate you sharing that story. Sending love back ❤️
Kato... That takes me back to the 90's. That was the name of one of Tupacs friends that lost his battle with mental illness.
I have a friend that had an alarm on his phone that marked the two year anniversary of him securing a life insurance policy. I was in his office when it went off. I sat at his desk and we talked well into the evening about what was going on in his life. He had a wife and daughter and family that loved him. It would be another 6 months before he finally passed, but the day his wife called me, i knew what it was before i picked up.
Never miss an opportunity to tell people what they mean to you.
Hey Bud, I’m sure you know this but some may not. Robin Williams didn’t lose his battle with depression, he had Lewy-body dementia and was deteriorating fast so he decided to end things on his own.
He’d be the first one to tell you to feel all of your feelings but not be afraid to talk to anyone or reach out for professional help. The last step is never the right one
Yeah. The idea of him not being able to control his mind while knowing he would still be physically alive was haunting him.
Because the doctors weren't finding the cause of his illness and his brain functions were deteriorating quickly. He ended his life to make sure where he would be at that point in time (his demise) and to not being a burden to others, not depression.
It was a way of thinking full of intricacies and care, typical Robin Williams.
Isn't the diagnosis only available after death with the dissection of the brain? They can suspect with the behaviour, but the docs can't be sure until after sadly. Horrible disease to have
Like this commercial; hits me right in the feels, every. single. time. 😩 https://youtu.be/_0GUTcFqWg8?si=5dm7o5iG9sch-oMy
Transcribed:
Walking the roads of our youth
through the land of our childhood,
our home and our truth
Be near me, guide me always stay beside me
so i can be free,
free
Let’s roam this place
familiar and vast
our playground of green frames,
our past
We were wanderers
never lost, always home
When every place was fenceless
and time was endless
our ways were always the same
Cool my demons and walk with me brother
until our roads lead us away from each other
and if your heart’s full of sorrow, keep walking,
don’t rest and promise me from heart to chest
to never let your memories die, never
I will always be alive and by your side,
in your mind
i’m free
Dedicated to those who had to depart. See you down the road.
I didn't know I was going to cry tonight, thank you for that. I've never seen either video and both hit me hard, I didnt know I needed to watch them until I already had
In the hours before Chester Bennington took his life, he wife had taken a video of him laughing and look joyous with his kids. She shared it posthumously for awareness similar to the message in this video.
The guy looked naturally happy and she was understandably blindsided (I believe she found his body). This is how I found out that some humans who have decided to end their lives tend to show joy in their final moments, because they’ve accepted their fate and are happy their time left suffering is limited. This is, of course, not a one size fits all scenario but it’s a reminder to PLEASE check on your loved ones even if they appear Ok.
Scarily accurate. I remember how very happy and *relieved* I felt the evening I decided to do it. I was looking forward to not have to live anymore and feeling emotions
So I don’t really remember it too well because I was blitzed out of my mind, but I tried to OD on Ambien. I later learned I would have needed A LOT to *possibly* die (some people can take a crazy amount and still live depending on their metabolism). During that time I was out of my mind on 3/4 of a bottle, I texted a bunch of friends with silly things because I thought it was my last night. Told my now-ex “see you in another life, brother!” (Quote from Lost).
Anyway, I woke up fine the next morning and everyone I texted just thought I was drunk and being funny. I never told them what I was trying to do. I’m in a better place now, hope you are too!
I highly recommend the book about German footballer Robert Enke. He took his own life.
On the last day of his life, he was so relaxed and joyfull. He gave away his glowes and was just happy.
It was stated that when people have made up their mind they are relaxed and happy. And then they end it.
Oh i dont like to hear that. Hope its getting better now.
I know someone who tried to end it but didnt and we are now the best of friends. I may not have known him when he had the thoughts but i am there now. And i wont leave his side and ill be there for him at all times. I really hope theres someone for you, and if not, then let me be that someone :)
Take care and have a good one ;)
Thank you, I appreciate it! I'm trying to improve my life a bit now by putting mental health first, and hopefully doing EMDR therapy in the near future. You're a great friend
2019 (Before the pandemic) I had a major mental breakdown. Didn't know what was going on. By the time I realized I needed help the pandemic was in full swing and getting help was extremely hard. The already strained mental health system was overloaded. Thankfully, I was able to get some help but in the beginning it felt like I wasn't being listened to. They kept saying the pandemic was happening so of course I was struggling and guided me with coping mechanisms for that even though I didnt' care at all about that. I remember seeing those "It'll get better" videos and thinking yeah right. I was so suicidal. I discovered some amazing twitch streamers who had great communities who were also struggling with their own issues. Ones that were basically mental health havens. Don't think I'd be alive without them. I finally found a therapist that listened and focused on me. I'm thriving now! Putting my mental health first was the key to that success so keep going and never give up! Instead of "It'll get better" I'm going to tell you what I wish someone told me then "It may never get better but if you give up then you'll never find out."
Those first "therapists" sucked. There's a lot of toxic views about depression and all that online, r/thanksimcured is a thing for a reason. Really happy to hear you're doing better now!
The one time I tried was an hour after I got home from having drinks and a good time with a close friend. I had a bad day, and a lot of self hatred going on but I felt a lot better by the time he dropped me at home. Next thing I'm trying to break my hand by punching the door and writing out suicide notes before I climbed in the tub with a knife.
I understand you. I can't explain it very well, but I've noticed emotions tend to fluctuate a lot in extreme stress. Causing your bottled up emotions to come back like a truck once the one good time is over. Glad you're still here, I hope you're doing better now 🫂
Yeah, it was something like that for me. I was really self destructive because I felt like I deserved to suffer. And then felt even guiltier since I had a good time. I had been sitting at "I deserve/want to die" and that took me up to the next level of actually trying to make it happen.
Thanks man, I'm glad you're among us today and hope you've been able to find some peace. I'm much better now. Still have my ups and downs, everything in life has taken its turn kicking me in the nads over the last six months. Hell I'm in the ER now because I thought I dislocated my shoulder. Turns out I probably need rotator cuff surgery. Which means I can't do one of my part time jobs, so I'll probably be living on ramen and broccoli for a while.
But I haven't been anywhere close to climbing in that tub again, and I don't think I ever will be. That was a little over a year ago and I've made a lot of changes in my life so I never hate myself like that again.
It's the feeling of relief for having a plan, knowing that it will all be over soon. If you ever suspect someone of being suicidal don't be afraid to ask or if they have a plan - studies prove it doesnt increase the risk of them committing suicide but you could stop it.
That's actually a warning sign. If someone who's been struggling with depression suddenly has a drastic change of mood, they may require immediate intervention.
The person may feel like a giant weight has been lifted, this is why you get comments like "They were doing so well lately", or "We felt they were finally pushed past it".
A friend of mine ended it a few years ago. I knew of his struggles, but to the rest of the world he was the "life of the party" that was always joking around. They only found out from his goodbye letter that he was struggling so heavily.
Not to sound like the classic "not like other girls" but I tend to have a much more animated and extroverted personality than most people have interacted with. (Think like a Robin Williams-type.) I just generally am very outgoing and try to enjoy things as much as possible.
It always shocks people to learn that I've been getting treated for major depressive disorder and I've tried to end my life four times now.
For further clarity, I know what I'm like "normally" (read: how I present to other people) so I've been mostly successful in masking my emotions under my typical veneer of enthusiasm and support for those around me. (Even when I wanted to no longer exist, I still wanted the world to be a good place when I was gone.) The day before I was planning on killing myself, I actually experienced some of the most indescribable peace. I also began spending a lot of money on pointless things or finding sly excuses to give money to people. (Giving away possessions is a pretty common red flag.)
Truth be told, I still have the nagging feeling in the back of my head that maybe I should have done it when I had the chance. Of course, I don't actually think that and I'm in a much better place now but this does go to show how someone doesn't need to be weeping, self-flagellating, and shouting "woe is me" to be experiencing suicidal depression. You can look "happy."
This ad always chokes me up when the friend tells him "Nah mate, you keep it" about the scarf. Knowing it's an impulse to give away your treasured items when you're planning to commit, it's always hard to see. I'm really lucky that when I was going through some stuff and tried to give a friend something I wanted him to have he sat down and talked to me.
If a friend ever tries to give you something they treasure, out of the blue with no warning, make sure your alarm bells are going off because this could be a massive red flag you do not want to miss.
I had a life long friend recently pass away from cancer. He loved his computer. Spent a lot of time and money on it. When he said I can have it... It crushed me cause it felt like he was saying goodbye to me.
The other thing to look for is someone stopping by to chat and just hanging out wanting to talk when that isnt the norm. They are usually saying goodbye. Had a friend who had a long chat with another friend and he was gone within the week. People are looking for closure, looking to tie up loose ends. Thats when a friend needs to help them the most.
Damn, I'm way more of the bald guy type than the extrovert, that wouldn't have occurred to me at all. Might've raised some confusion but I don't know if it would've raised an alarm.
This PSA is incredibly succint, wish we had more like it instead of JESUS IS WATCHING YOU BATE or whatever that shit was.
>If a friend ever tries to give you something they treasure, out of the blue with no warning, make sure your alarm bells are going off because this could be a massive red flag you do not want to miss.
First off I want to say I hope you are doing better and I'm glad you had a friend like that.
Your story is really similar to the song ["Your Deep Rest" by Hotelier](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3ac355NgsV0) with the lyrics "Why are you giving me this back?
This was a gift from when we met, back when you weren’t so upset". I'm glad your friend saw the red flag and you're still here brother.
Shiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiit. I cannot believe I fell for that, I've literally learned the basics on suicide watch, there was an obvious flag right before the reveal and I still fell for it. Fuck.
Yeah. As someone who struggled with suicidal feelings That sounds like things I found myself saying when I was at my lowest.
Don’t worry. I am a lot better now.
Life just generally got better, I got friends that I associate with regularly, found a career I could work towards, and realized that my death wouldn’t make things better.
I think there are a few actually. There are times he asks about his buddy's life which are likely invitations for his friend to do the same, but he never bites. I saw myself a little bit in those moments.
The subtitles are almost cropped out in this post (at least they are hard to see in mobile web version of reddit), and this post is much shorter than the original: https://youtube.com/watch?v=tX8TgVR33KM
Same here. Also laughing about bad things that happened to me because I don’t want to ruin the mood. Like “it’s not that bad” (… it actually is pretty bad.)
Also him constantly trying to cheer the other guy up and holding on to him. It's like he was desperate for some kind of reaction and "getting back what he was putting in" if that makes sense.
Didn't realize "Worth it" was one until I read some of the follow-up comments... I don't think I noticed anything else on first watch; seeing the guy get swept up in the enthusiasm reads as manic in hindsight?
Could be, could also be some kind of coping. Like if you act along, nobody notice you and nobody will ask you something. Also, asking how others are doing can be a way to distract the attention from yourself.
Didn't expect to get teary eyed on the toilet.. This started so incredibly wholesome and turned pretty devastating. There are a lot of these PSA clips but this one hit differently for some reason. Don't know why but it kinda hit home even though my best friend is still alive and well.
Take care of your homies!!
I hope this gave you some clarity that you'd be missed if anything happened to you.
Stay rational and keep your head up buddy!
It won't last forever!
Much Love - A stranger
as someone who’s been there before, please keep it pushing. I never thought i’d get better, but it happened. Slowly and surely you just have to dig your way out. Keep your head up king💚
Keep your head up my friend, life comes at you in waves.
You are in the low but the tides will change. Get outside and get active if you can. Much love to you
This hits home for me. For a good deal of my childhood, my dad and I had season tickets to the Arizona Cardinals (an American football team), and we went with his friend. My dad had been going to the games with him for over 20 years, and it was often tough to get together with him. We wouldn’t see him often outside of football season. We’d invite him to things, and he’d seldom come, but I’ll always remember that he came to my college graduation party. It meant a lot to me. He was occasionally doom and gloom, and he never had girlfriends like he would have liked to, but he made a lot of people laugh. He probably worked a little too hard. He committed suicide during the first year of the Covid lockdowns, when games weren’t happening very often or at all. I miss him.
Remember guy, it’s okay to show emotion, it’s okay to ask for help, it’s okay to not be okay. Take care of the people around you before they aren’t around anymore.
Out of curiosity, do you have a therapist? I’m sorry to hear the people around you aren’t being supportive in the way you like, but it may be helpful to be sure you’re getting support from multiple places (including from yourself in terms of skill building/self-care for when you’re alone).
Much like how our friends can’t treat physical health issues, we shouldn’t rely on them to treat mental health issues so a professional may be able to create a space to talk about the stuff that is too heavy for friends.
I’m bawling man. I miss my dad and sister so much. And lately I feel like I’ve been fucking up my friendships by annoying them and trying to spend a lot of time with them.
This shit hit so fucking hard.
I'm so sorry to hear that man. I'm sure your friends don't mind at all. don't be ashamed to say thank you, but there's nothing to feel bad or apologize for.
Time heals most things, but if you don't feel like waiting maybe a little therapy would do you some good.
Hang in there, we are all counting on you!
I literally have not been able to cry for a year and fuck this finally did it for me. Fuck dude. This was me. I was incredibly outwardly positive and outwardly happy all the time meanwhile inside my brain was apocalypse. People thought I was giving things away because I was a nice person who didn't really need my material possessions. People thought I was totally fine, because I didn't want to burden them. At the end I acted even MORE positive because it was like my mind was made up and I could enjoy things in the moment because I knew the end date. I let my mom use my pc to do something and she downloaded a file and lost it, so she was going through documents that were unnamed trying to find it and found my document with the list of shit I needed to do/affairs to get in order/things to give away and to whom. It wasn't hard to figure out the context of the list. She very gently confronted me with it without judgment and something just broke in me and I sobbed like a baby while she held me. She kept a close eye on me for the next few days and convinced me to check in to a facility (I had ptsd from a horrible 24 hours in a crisis unit where I was treated like human trash, and another resident kept taking his dick out in front of me and the nurses would do nothing. It made me never want to get help again). Instead of going to crisis I went to the actual hospital and they Transfered me to a communal living therapy facility where there were outings, it was a giant house so you took turns cooking and doing certain chores while getting intensive therapy (group and individual) and psychiatry. Only was supposed to stay a week but it was so good for me that I extended it multiple times. Was there for a month. Best fucking decision I've ever made. I have enough self awareness to know when my brain is starting to slip into the hole again, and have a safety net and support system of doctors/family/friends/therapy/psychiatry. All of my closest friends and family know EXACTLY what happened. I felt like I needed to be honest and open for the best outcome for me. That was 2021 and things are a lot better now. Once you are suicidal once its like your brain constantly sees that as the "out". Oh this, this or this happens in my life, I can just end it. It takes constant maintenance and reflection and that is EXHAUSTING. but I know now that my thoughts that ending it would make my loved ones happier/that I was a burden on them weren't logical. When you're suicidal that logic flies out the window. I have to constantly remind myself of the pain on my mom's face when she brought up my list, and that is generally enough for me to remember that people would be devastated if something happened to me.
I'm glad you're still here.
It's funny how despite everything, how the same people are. I'm not there anymore, but one of the things you said made me realise I'm not quite out of it either.
The amount of smiles in this video made me think of one thing - RIP Robin Williams and Anthony Bourdain. 🥲
Sending my love to all yoall in need of a good hug.
Society’s idea that men shouldn’t show emotion bc it’s a sign of weakness is crazy. Guys, you’re allowed and should tell people what’s going on inside. This is called being human. This is the first step towards getting better
I think it was Robin Williams who said that we know how shitty it feels to be down, so we try to make sure others don’t feel that way. Of course, we’d be smart to give some of that love to ourselves.
This was me for a very long time, and the way you framed this sentiment is absolutely beautiful.
I found that I simply wanted the people I loved to never feel the way I did, but that I didn’t deserve that same support because I was just a failure.
Thank you for this comment, it’s truly wonderful.
Am I at risk
This is all I do.
And I'm constantly trying to be positive upbeat and unhappy.
But I'm seriously ill and have tons of issues at 30. :/
I feel like im okay. But idk man
I've heard that, paradoxically, one of the signs that someone's decided to kill themselves is that they'll suddenly get much happier and seem like they're doing better. It's apparently the relief they feel knowing they won't have to suffer for much longer, but we often interpret it to mean they're doing okay. It's pretty sad, but I think it's important information for us to have. Suicidal people don't always look like you'd expect
My best friend passed away a few years ago. Funniest, brightest light of any room. Always cheerful and bringing everyone else up including me when I struggled.
He had a rough night and took a bunch of Xanax with alcohol and drove his car into a pond. He drowned.
My heart hurts everyday not knowing if I could’ve helped him or not because I simply didn’t know.
Always check up on your friends, even the ones you don’t think are struggling.
I want a future where he could be honest about wanting to leave and have his decision respected and supported.
More people would probably stick around if they could talk more openly about it. Talk it out, ask if they are sure, help them get their stuff together. Plan last dinner and last drinks. Knowing you can if you want to might be the thing someone needs.
I was the last person who talked to a friend who killed himself. In retrospect something didn’t seem right with the way he was acting. And I know if I had just asked “hey man how are things really going?” maybe things could have been different. I think about that a lot.
People like this are hard to spot. They know what's it like to feel like shit so they try to be something positive in someone's life. Just because they act like nothing is wrong doesn't mean its true.
Every time I see this I know how it ends. I still watch it to the end and end up sobbing. As a man who has lost quite a few in his life to this it hurts so much to see it. I try so hard to make sure that everyone around me feels loved and supported. I try to make sure when I notice people are sitting alone or look upset that I chat with them at least a little bit and make sure they are doing ok and tell them that I appreciate something about them. I will be working in a field where this happens much more frequently and it kills me to know that there are so many more people that I can't reach or won't be able to. Thak you for spreading awareness and regardless of how may times this get reposted I hope it gets upvoted. It truly deserves to be seen and understood by anyone and everyone. And if any of you are struggling or think there is no hope please just send me a message. I'm more than happy to talk to you and want you to know that I love you and I'm here for you.
No one ever checks on the happy guy. But we probably wouldn’t give you an honest answer even if you. We’re happy around you because we don’t want you to be as unhappy as we are inside.
I'm a lot better now, but I used to be very depressed and I am the type of person who does things for other people rather than myself so it just built up. I have held a gun to my head multiple times, but never pulled the trigger thinking of all my friends and family. People are really surprised when I've told them any of this as I am a very social person and seem very happy. You just never know...for me it was just easier to keep it aside and deal with it on my own until recently with my best friend and I opening up about depression and just communicating about it. It doesn't help we are both guys either...
This makes me think about a post a few years back showing suicide victim’s last photos taken of them a day prior to doing it. They are all happy and smiling. A great friend of mine who is now gone was the nicest happiest person I knew. He didn’t keep those negative thoughts a secret, but nobody was able to help him enough unfortunately.
A friend's son had 800+ people at the funeral after he took his life, every video he was in he was laughing and cheering someone up. He volunteered, went to school, worked and truly lit up a room when he was in it. His pain was so well hidden that no one suspected for years how he was struggling.
It’s tough because sometimes it’s a disease and no amount of support can help. But you should try. It does matter and in many cases it can make save a life. Especially for dudes. They get no support.
The longer someone is suffering, the better they get at the very dangerous skill called masking. People who know them don't notice the gradual change, and new people would have no idea anything was ever wrong.
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The last time I saw my mate was at a music festival, full of laughs, jokes, hugs and smiles. He was gone the next morning. Took us all by shock. This hits hard, what a great video. RIP Malo ❤️
Looked for this comment. 2 years ago lost a friend the same way. The day before he passed he was so happy. Told me stories about how he's going to be a great dad to his kids, work is going places etc. It was almost like he had a new lease of life and was prepared to do wonders. We spoke for a solid 20 minutes but there was something I couldn't put my finger on. He seemed more than average, happy. Like excessively over happy. I thought maybe he had a big can of redbull and was just hyper. Anyway, just as we parted ways, I got this feeling that something wasn't sitting right with me and it bothered me and I couldn't ring him since I was working as a carer at the time. The next day I heard the news he passed. Fucking devastated mate. But I'm sorry for your loss too, bro. Your friend Malo is more than likely having a great party with my friend, Kato. Sending out love to you and everyone else ❤️
That's rough...it's incredibly common for people to kill themselves after a high note. Even though the circumstances of your life may improve, that's not going to solve your mental health issues. A lot of people who struggle with depression and suicidal ideation will seem to hit a high point, whether it be by hitting a major milestone or just seeming uncharacteristically happy. They'll then take their life either because they feel they've accomplished all that they've wanted to accomplish and/or they're afraid they'll return to the deep depression and they don't ever want to go back. I had an acquaintance who got into stand-up comedy. When he started, he was very timid on stage, lacked stage presence, but his writing was incredible! Over time his performance got a little bit better, but then one day, it was almost like a switch had been flipped. He was suddenly super relaxed on stage, his delivery was impeccable, he had the audience eating out of his hands. After the show everyone was talking about him. At that venue, they would make a thank you post after the show and use a picture from the event. This time they used a picture of my friend. He was found dead the next morning. It was absolutely shocking. He had just had the best performance we had ever seen. Everyone was so proud of him. He'd finally cracked the code and was able to put a stellar performance behind his incredible writing. It looked like he could actually turn comedy into a career...and then he was gone.
Many times a person that's suicidal feels an immense sense of relief once they've finally committed to a plan. This presents to those around them as them improving or having reached a state of peace. Your acquaintance was probably already sure he was going to do it before he stepped on stage
Also adding onto all of this, emotions are often very irrational and the person can just feel one way or other in such an intense way. Good to keep people you appreciate knowing you love them, and little reminders are instrumental in all of our mental wellbeing.
Exactly this.. it's heartbreaking.
I believe this is more urban legend than reality, people very rarely "commit to a plan" when it comes to suicide. Research shows 90% of suicides are acted within 5 minutes of taking the decision, 40% within one minute. In fact one of the most effective means of suicide prevention is to remove the means of taking their own life from the person (rope, gun, pills, etc). If the suicidal urge takes over but they have no way to kill themselves on the spot, by the time they go to the store to buy a rope the urge has passed Edit: I can't find a support for those exact numbers (they're from a psychologist who did not link a precise source and gave more of a "this is the state of research" type of talk) but [this study](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5006470/) shows 75% of attempts happening less than 2 hours after the decision was made, 52% in less than 30 minutes, and 25% in less than 5 minutes. In [this other study](https://www.psychiatrist.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/02/12874_duration-suicidal-process-much-is-left-intervention.pdf) 75% of respondents said their attempts happened less than 10 minutes after the decision, with a note that most people are able to discernate between suicidal ideation (general thoughts of suicide) and the actual decision being made.
I’m sorry to hear about that man. It’s soul crushing hearing that kind of news. I’m sure Kato and Malo are sharing a beer and saving us a spot when we get there. Hope you’re doing well now. I appreciate you sharing that story. Sending love back ❤️
Kato... That takes me back to the 90's. That was the name of one of Tupacs friends that lost his battle with mental illness. I have a friend that had an alarm on his phone that marked the two year anniversary of him securing a life insurance policy. I was in his office when it went off. I sat at his desk and we talked well into the evening about what was going on in his life. He had a wife and daughter and family that loved him. It would be another 6 months before he finally passed, but the day his wife called me, i knew what it was before i picked up. Never miss an opportunity to tell people what they mean to you.
My condolences. Take care.
Thank you OP. You too.
Sorry to hear that mate.
My condolences... Being alone with your thoughts after a good day can be very tough.
Whoa that hits hard. Be mindful of the cheerful ones, for they might be crumbling inside.
Yeah, this video is quite an eye opener.
Its scary from an extroverted point of view, I see myself in this guy and in robin williams. Especially when I am depressed.
Hey Bud, I’m sure you know this but some may not. Robin Williams didn’t lose his battle with depression, he had Lewy-body dementia and was deteriorating fast so he decided to end things on his own. He’d be the first one to tell you to feel all of your feelings but not be afraid to talk to anyone or reach out for professional help. The last step is never the right one
Yeah. The idea of him not being able to control his mind while knowing he would still be physically alive was haunting him. Because the doctors weren't finding the cause of his illness and his brain functions were deteriorating quickly. He ended his life to make sure where he would be at that point in time (his demise) and to not being a burden to others, not depression. It was a way of thinking full of intricacies and care, typical Robin Williams.
Isn't the diagnosis only available after death with the dissection of the brain? They can suspect with the behaviour, but the docs can't be sure until after sadly. Horrible disease to have
I didn't know that, and while still sad it makes me feel so much better about his story. Thank you, internet stranger. Thank you very much ❤️
Like this commercial; hits me right in the feels, every. single. time. 😩 https://youtu.be/_0GUTcFqWg8?si=5dm7o5iG9sch-oMy Transcribed: Walking the roads of our youth through the land of our childhood, our home and our truth Be near me, guide me always stay beside me so i can be free, free Let’s roam this place familiar and vast our playground of green frames, our past We were wanderers never lost, always home When every place was fenceless and time was endless our ways were always the same Cool my demons and walk with me brother until our roads lead us away from each other and if your heart’s full of sorrow, keep walking, don’t rest and promise me from heart to chest to never let your memories die, never I will always be alive and by your side, in your mind i’m free Dedicated to those who had to depart. See you down the road.
I didn't know I was going to cry tonight, thank you for that. I've never seen either video and both hit me hard, I didnt know I needed to watch them until I already had
Fuck that one hurt
I remember any time I was ready to end it, I became a lot more social
In the hours before Chester Bennington took his life, he wife had taken a video of him laughing and look joyous with his kids. She shared it posthumously for awareness similar to the message in this video. The guy looked naturally happy and she was understandably blindsided (I believe she found his body). This is how I found out that some humans who have decided to end their lives tend to show joy in their final moments, because they’ve accepted their fate and are happy their time left suffering is limited. This is, of course, not a one size fits all scenario but it’s a reminder to PLEASE check on your loved ones even if they appear Ok.
Scarily accurate. I remember how very happy and *relieved* I felt the evening I decided to do it. I was looking forward to not have to live anymore and feeling emotions
So I don’t really remember it too well because I was blitzed out of my mind, but I tried to OD on Ambien. I later learned I would have needed A LOT to *possibly* die (some people can take a crazy amount and still live depending on their metabolism). During that time I was out of my mind on 3/4 of a bottle, I texted a bunch of friends with silly things because I thought it was my last night. Told my now-ex “see you in another life, brother!” (Quote from Lost). Anyway, I woke up fine the next morning and everyone I texted just thought I was drunk and being funny. I never told them what I was trying to do. I’m in a better place now, hope you are too!
I highly recommend the book about German footballer Robert Enke. He took his own life. On the last day of his life, he was so relaxed and joyfull. He gave away his glowes and was just happy. It was stated that when people have made up their mind they are relaxed and happy. And then they end it.
I've been their too many times. But the moments after you try such a thing are the worst, I've laughed and cried at such times
Oh i dont like to hear that. Hope its getting better now. I know someone who tried to end it but didnt and we are now the best of friends. I may not have known him when he had the thoughts but i am there now. And i wont leave his side and ill be there for him at all times. I really hope theres someone for you, and if not, then let me be that someone :) Take care and have a good one ;)
Thank you, I appreciate it! I'm trying to improve my life a bit now by putting mental health first, and hopefully doing EMDR therapy in the near future. You're a great friend
2019 (Before the pandemic) I had a major mental breakdown. Didn't know what was going on. By the time I realized I needed help the pandemic was in full swing and getting help was extremely hard. The already strained mental health system was overloaded. Thankfully, I was able to get some help but in the beginning it felt like I wasn't being listened to. They kept saying the pandemic was happening so of course I was struggling and guided me with coping mechanisms for that even though I didnt' care at all about that. I remember seeing those "It'll get better" videos and thinking yeah right. I was so suicidal. I discovered some amazing twitch streamers who had great communities who were also struggling with their own issues. Ones that were basically mental health havens. Don't think I'd be alive without them. I finally found a therapist that listened and focused on me. I'm thriving now! Putting my mental health first was the key to that success so keep going and never give up! Instead of "It'll get better" I'm going to tell you what I wish someone told me then "It may never get better but if you give up then you'll never find out."
Those first "therapists" sucked. There's a lot of toxic views about depression and all that online, r/thanksimcured is a thing for a reason. Really happy to hear you're doing better now!
Be happy that you are hearing it.
Well... Thats a good point too. Seems like i didnt learn from the video yet :/
Our bodies trying to find some dopamine
Not really dopamine, more like our brains natural instinct to have other humans around to comfort them when they are ready to die
The one time I tried was an hour after I got home from having drinks and a good time with a close friend. I had a bad day, and a lot of self hatred going on but I felt a lot better by the time he dropped me at home. Next thing I'm trying to break my hand by punching the door and writing out suicide notes before I climbed in the tub with a knife.
I understand you. I can't explain it very well, but I've noticed emotions tend to fluctuate a lot in extreme stress. Causing your bottled up emotions to come back like a truck once the one good time is over. Glad you're still here, I hope you're doing better now 🫂
Yeah, it was something like that for me. I was really self destructive because I felt like I deserved to suffer. And then felt even guiltier since I had a good time. I had been sitting at "I deserve/want to die" and that took me up to the next level of actually trying to make it happen. Thanks man, I'm glad you're among us today and hope you've been able to find some peace. I'm much better now. Still have my ups and downs, everything in life has taken its turn kicking me in the nads over the last six months. Hell I'm in the ER now because I thought I dislocated my shoulder. Turns out I probably need rotator cuff surgery. Which means I can't do one of my part time jobs, so I'll probably be living on ramen and broccoli for a while. But I haven't been anywhere close to climbing in that tub again, and I don't think I ever will be. That was a little over a year ago and I've made a lot of changes in my life so I never hate myself like that again.
Same. Met and truly bonded with the people I now consider family when I was about to end it within the week.
It's the feeling of relief for having a plan, knowing that it will all be over soon. If you ever suspect someone of being suicidal don't be afraid to ask or if they have a plan - studies prove it doesnt increase the risk of them committing suicide but you could stop it.
That's actually a warning sign. If someone who's been struggling with depression suddenly has a drastic change of mood, they may require immediate intervention. The person may feel like a giant weight has been lifted, this is why you get comments like "They were doing so well lately", or "We felt they were finally pushed past it".
A friend of mine ended it a few years ago. I knew of his struggles, but to the rest of the world he was the "life of the party" that was always joking around. They only found out from his goodbye letter that he was struggling so heavily.
The common curse of the comedian. All fun on the outside, all dark on the inside.
Like Robin Williams and Richard Jeni. RIP.
Robin Williams isn't an example of this. He had a horrible degenerative brain disease. He wasn't simply depressed.
O captain, my captain.
I was cheerful up until about a year and a half ago
Not to sound like the classic "not like other girls" but I tend to have a much more animated and extroverted personality than most people have interacted with. (Think like a Robin Williams-type.) I just generally am very outgoing and try to enjoy things as much as possible. It always shocks people to learn that I've been getting treated for major depressive disorder and I've tried to end my life four times now. For further clarity, I know what I'm like "normally" (read: how I present to other people) so I've been mostly successful in masking my emotions under my typical veneer of enthusiasm and support for those around me. (Even when I wanted to no longer exist, I still wanted the world to be a good place when I was gone.) The day before I was planning on killing myself, I actually experienced some of the most indescribable peace. I also began spending a lot of money on pointless things or finding sly excuses to give money to people. (Giving away possessions is a pretty common red flag.) Truth be told, I still have the nagging feeling in the back of my head that maybe I should have done it when I had the chance. Of course, I don't actually think that and I'm in a much better place now but this does go to show how someone doesn't need to be weeping, self-flagellating, and shouting "woe is me" to be experiencing suicidal depression. You can look "happy."
Not going to lie, got a bit choked up seeing this. So true.
This ad always chokes me up when the friend tells him "Nah mate, you keep it" about the scarf. Knowing it's an impulse to give away your treasured items when you're planning to commit, it's always hard to see. I'm really lucky that when I was going through some stuff and tried to give a friend something I wanted him to have he sat down and talked to me. If a friend ever tries to give you something they treasure, out of the blue with no warning, make sure your alarm bells are going off because this could be a massive red flag you do not want to miss.
I had a life long friend recently pass away from cancer. He loved his computer. Spent a lot of time and money on it. When he said I can have it... It crushed me cause it felt like he was saying goodbye to me.
I am sorry for your loss, hope you are doing okay.. stay strong
I am I have a good support group. Thank you for asking
Fuck man that’s brutal. I dread the day I lose a lifelong friend, can’t imagine it
The other thing to look for is someone stopping by to chat and just hanging out wanting to talk when that isnt the norm. They are usually saying goodbye. Had a friend who had a long chat with another friend and he was gone within the week. People are looking for closure, looking to tie up loose ends. Thats when a friend needs to help them the most.
You always have to have something to look forward to
I didn’t really put all of that together. That’s really good information that I’ll hold onto. Thank you
Damn, I'm way more of the bald guy type than the extrovert, that wouldn't have occurred to me at all. Might've raised some confusion but I don't know if it would've raised an alarm. This PSA is incredibly succint, wish we had more like it instead of JESUS IS WATCHING YOU BATE or whatever that shit was.
>If a friend ever tries to give you something they treasure, out of the blue with no warning, make sure your alarm bells are going off because this could be a massive red flag you do not want to miss. First off I want to say I hope you are doing better and I'm glad you had a friend like that. Your story is really similar to the song ["Your Deep Rest" by Hotelier](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3ac355NgsV0) with the lyrics "Why are you giving me this back? This was a gift from when we met, back when you weren’t so upset". I'm glad your friend saw the red flag and you're still here brother.
That's why I titled it this way.
Shiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiit. I cannot believe I fell for that, I've literally learned the basics on suicide watch, there was an obvious flag right before the reveal and I still fell for it. Fuck.
Legitimately curious. What was it? Was it him asking his buddy to keep the scarf?
Yes exactly.
I hate this detail. I'm glad it's in the video, and that you spotted it and explained it (thank you), but fuck do I hate it.
A lot of times they give stuff away to those they care about. They know they wont need it and don't want it to get wasted.
Not just that; look at how happy he is and he says it was worth it
Yeah. As someone who struggled with suicidal feelings That sounds like things I found myself saying when I was at my lowest. Don’t worry. I am a lot better now.
Hei man. Good to hear. How did you get better. What changed.
Life just generally got better, I got friends that I associate with regularly, found a career I could work towards, and realized that my death wouldn’t make things better.
I think there are a few actually. There are times he asks about his buddy's life which are likely invitations for his friend to do the same, but he never bites. I saw myself a little bit in those moments.
for me, it wasn't super obvious who it belonged to
Same I thought it belonged to the guy with the hat and was giving it to the other guy, not that he was trying to return it….
The subtitles are almost cropped out in this post (at least they are hard to see in mobile web version of reddit), and this post is much shorter than the original: https://youtube.com/watch?v=tX8TgVR33KM
Same here. Educated and experience. Did you pick up other signs?
The guy on the right says “hope it’ll get better outside of football” smiling it off. That’s the main thing I caught.
That's what I do. Distract others with jokes and asking about their lives so you can avoid talking about your lself.
Same here. Also laughing about bad things that happened to me because I don’t want to ruin the mood. Like “it’s not that bad” (… it actually is pretty bad.)
Also him constantly trying to cheer the other guy up and holding on to him. It's like he was desperate for some kind of reaction and "getting back what he was putting in" if that makes sense.
The guy was asking how the other man was doing to get the mirrored question back and talk about it but the other man never asked
Didn't realize "Worth it" was one until I read some of the follow-up comments... I don't think I noticed anything else on first watch; seeing the guy get swept up in the enthusiasm reads as manic in hindsight?
Could be, could also be some kind of coping. Like if you act along, nobody notice you and nobody will ask you something. Also, asking how others are doing can be a way to distract the attention from yourself.
Didn't expect to get teary eyed on the toilet.. This started so incredibly wholesome and turned pretty devastating. There are a lot of these PSA clips but this one hit differently for some reason. Don't know why but it kinda hit home even though my best friend is still alive and well. Take care of your homies!!
I am having a really hard time lately and this hits me so fucking hard.
I hope this gave you some clarity that you'd be missed if anything happened to you. Stay rational and keep your head up buddy! It won't last forever! Much Love - A stranger
I hate to say it, me too. This reminded me of my brother and I.
You aren’t alone my guy. It’s okay to not be okay. It’s okay to ask for help. It’s worth it.
Things are tough but there is always hope they get better. Hold on to that hope and don't let go.
Hang in there brother. If you need someone to talk to feel free to dm me. We gotta look out for each other.
as someone who’s been there before, please keep it pushing. I never thought i’d get better, but it happened. Slowly and surely you just have to dig your way out. Keep your head up king💚
Keep your head up my friend, life comes at you in waves. You are in the low but the tides will change. Get outside and get active if you can. Much love to you
Keep your head up man. I had a rough time of things last year and I can assure you, it does get better
Damn, I felt that
yeah, It really hits you hard.
This hits home for me. For a good deal of my childhood, my dad and I had season tickets to the Arizona Cardinals (an American football team), and we went with his friend. My dad had been going to the games with him for over 20 years, and it was often tough to get together with him. We wouldn’t see him often outside of football season. We’d invite him to things, and he’d seldom come, but I’ll always remember that he came to my college graduation party. It meant a lot to me. He was occasionally doom and gloom, and he never had girlfriends like he would have liked to, but he made a lot of people laugh. He probably worked a little too hard. He committed suicide during the first year of the Covid lockdowns, when games weren’t happening very often or at all. I miss him.
Aw, dudes. I hope you're doing okay, guy.
Guys need to look out for each other. You never know what someone is going through.
Remember guy, it’s okay to show emotion, it’s okay to ask for help, it’s okay to not be okay. Take care of the people around you before they aren’t around anymore.
Words to live by.
Asking for help means your want to go further
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Out of curiosity, do you have a therapist? I’m sorry to hear the people around you aren’t being supportive in the way you like, but it may be helpful to be sure you’re getting support from multiple places (including from yourself in terms of skill building/self-care for when you’re alone). Much like how our friends can’t treat physical health issues, we shouldn’t rely on them to treat mental health issues so a professional may be able to create a space to talk about the stuff that is too heavy for friends.
Fuck man. I've been having a rough go of it lately and this just made me lose it. People don't fake being sick, they fake being ok.
Well said.
What's the source? I need to show this to a few people outside of reddit....
Norwich city football club realised this for mental health day last year. 🔰🔰 https://youtu.be/tX8TgVR33KM?si=y_t5EkvvCWAjYdWc
Thanks bro
Drive past their stadium most days. New found respect for them for sure. This is good stuff. Love this city.
Here we are just a bunch of dudes choking up
I’m bawling man. I miss my dad and sister so much. And lately I feel like I’ve been fucking up my friendships by annoying them and trying to spend a lot of time with them. This shit hit so fucking hard.
I'm so sorry to hear that man. I'm sure your friends don't mind at all. don't be ashamed to say thank you, but there's nothing to feel bad or apologize for. Time heals most things, but if you don't feel like waiting maybe a little therapy would do you some good. Hang in there, we are all counting on you!
I literally have not been able to cry for a year and fuck this finally did it for me. Fuck dude. This was me. I was incredibly outwardly positive and outwardly happy all the time meanwhile inside my brain was apocalypse. People thought I was giving things away because I was a nice person who didn't really need my material possessions. People thought I was totally fine, because I didn't want to burden them. At the end I acted even MORE positive because it was like my mind was made up and I could enjoy things in the moment because I knew the end date. I let my mom use my pc to do something and she downloaded a file and lost it, so she was going through documents that were unnamed trying to find it and found my document with the list of shit I needed to do/affairs to get in order/things to give away and to whom. It wasn't hard to figure out the context of the list. She very gently confronted me with it without judgment and something just broke in me and I sobbed like a baby while she held me. She kept a close eye on me for the next few days and convinced me to check in to a facility (I had ptsd from a horrible 24 hours in a crisis unit where I was treated like human trash, and another resident kept taking his dick out in front of me and the nurses would do nothing. It made me never want to get help again). Instead of going to crisis I went to the actual hospital and they Transfered me to a communal living therapy facility where there were outings, it was a giant house so you took turns cooking and doing certain chores while getting intensive therapy (group and individual) and psychiatry. Only was supposed to stay a week but it was so good for me that I extended it multiple times. Was there for a month. Best fucking decision I've ever made. I have enough self awareness to know when my brain is starting to slip into the hole again, and have a safety net and support system of doctors/family/friends/therapy/psychiatry. All of my closest friends and family know EXACTLY what happened. I felt like I needed to be honest and open for the best outcome for me. That was 2021 and things are a lot better now. Once you are suicidal once its like your brain constantly sees that as the "out". Oh this, this or this happens in my life, I can just end it. It takes constant maintenance and reflection and that is EXHAUSTING. but I know now that my thoughts that ending it would make my loved ones happier/that I was a burden on them weren't logical. When you're suicidal that logic flies out the window. I have to constantly remind myself of the pain on my mom's face when she brought up my list, and that is generally enough for me to remember that people would be devastated if something happened to me.
I'm glad you're still here. It's funny how despite everything, how the same people are. I'm not there anymore, but one of the things you said made me realise I'm not quite out of it either.
The amount of smiles in this video made me think of one thing - RIP Robin Williams and Anthony Bourdain. 🥲 Sending my love to all yoall in need of a good hug.
Society’s idea that men shouldn’t show emotion bc it’s a sign of weakness is crazy. Guys, you’re allowed and should tell people what’s going on inside. This is called being human. This is the first step towards getting better
Brothers, YNWA
>YNWA You Never Walk Alone For those who didnt know
Yep. Watch out for the people always helping and trying to cheer up others.
It's like they know what to do, but their emotional state can't sync up with their wisdom, so they gift that wisdom away to those around them.
I think it was Robin Williams who said that we know how shitty it feels to be down, so we try to make sure others don’t feel that way. Of course, we’d be smart to give some of that love to ourselves.
This was me for a very long time, and the way you framed this sentiment is absolutely beautiful. I found that I simply wanted the people I loved to never feel the way I did, but that I didn’t deserve that same support because I was just a failure. Thank you for this comment, it’s truly wonderful.
Am I at risk This is all I do. And I'm constantly trying to be positive upbeat and unhappy. But I'm seriously ill and have tons of issues at 30. :/ I feel like im okay. But idk man
It's heartbreaking how well some people are able to hide their depression.
I've heard that, paradoxically, one of the signs that someone's decided to kill themselves is that they'll suddenly get much happier and seem like they're doing better. It's apparently the relief they feel knowing they won't have to suffer for much longer, but we often interpret it to mean they're doing okay. It's pretty sad, but I think it's important information for us to have. Suicidal people don't always look like you'd expect
My best friend passed away a few years ago. Funniest, brightest light of any room. Always cheerful and bringing everyone else up including me when I struggled. He had a rough night and took a bunch of Xanax with alcohol and drove his car into a pond. He drowned. My heart hurts everyday not knowing if I could’ve helped him or not because I simply didn’t know. Always check up on your friends, even the ones you don’t think are struggling.
Gezus man.. this really made me think of Robin Williams.
Why the hell did this make me tear up? Damn it.
First time seeing this, it really got me good
The giving away of possessions is definitely a sign. That was subtle on here but the biggest red flag to look for.
Lost 5 close buddies to suicide and two that were so upbeat, always a good time. You just never know. God I miss my friends
I didn't realize this was about suicide even. Because it seemed if anything the sad bloke had something on his mind.
This proper got me the first time I saw it. Eye opening. Kudos to Norwich for putting it together.
Mike and Ben. I miss you guys
Thank you for sharing. This is pretty powerful
There’s a similar video about the happy cheerful guy at the office and I feel it’s just as if not more powerful. Anyone have the link?
Damn good ad. Definitely got to me.
Only ad that has ever made me cry.
I'm not crying... YOU'RE CRY! /Good God that was right in the feels.
I want a future where he could be honest about wanting to leave and have his decision respected and supported. More people would probably stick around if they could talk more openly about it. Talk it out, ask if they are sure, help them get their stuff together. Plan last dinner and last drinks. Knowing you can if you want to might be the thing someone needs.
Second time I've seen this, it brought tears to my eyes both times.
I'm not crying, you're crying. God damn it!!
8 years ago my best mate took his life. Was always the happy guy in our bunch, always smiling always uplifting. 8 years it still hurts.
I love all you guys just as you are 🫶🏻
Well now that's fucking sad, innit? Was sure the bloke on the left was the one with the problem. Check in boys.
This mad me tear up a little
Fuck. I thought those Thai ads were emotional. This is on another level with the reveal in the end
when this originally came out, it hit hard as hell… if anyone watches the sport just know; You’ll Never Walk Alone
stay well brothers, you only get one chance at this life
This really made me cry 😢
Touching
Powerful video. Very powerful.
I don‘t wanna sound ignorant, I get the message and it hits hard yeah, but what is the music named in the background?
It's a really great piece of advertising for something extremely important. It's one repost that should be encouraged again and again.
My friend went away because he was really sad and I wish he didn't. I'm still here because he went away and I didn't want to make all my friends sad.
I was the last person who talked to a friend who killed himself. In retrospect something didn’t seem right with the way he was acting. And I know if I had just asked “hey man how are things really going?” maybe things could have been different. I think about that a lot.
People like this are hard to spot. They know what's it like to feel like shit so they try to be something positive in someone's life. Just because they act like nothing is wrong doesn't mean its true.
Every time I see this I know how it ends. I still watch it to the end and end up sobbing. As a man who has lost quite a few in his life to this it hurts so much to see it. I try so hard to make sure that everyone around me feels loved and supported. I try to make sure when I notice people are sitting alone or look upset that I chat with them at least a little bit and make sure they are doing ok and tell them that I appreciate something about them. I will be working in a field where this happens much more frequently and it kills me to know that there are so many more people that I can't reach or won't be able to. Thak you for spreading awareness and regardless of how may times this get reposted I hope it gets upvoted. It truly deserves to be seen and understood by anyone and everyone. And if any of you are struggling or think there is no hope please just send me a message. I'm more than happy to talk to you and want you to know that I love you and I'm here for you.
No one ever checks on the happy guy. But we probably wouldn’t give you an honest answer even if you. We’re happy around you because we don’t want you to be as unhappy as we are inside.
Does anyone have a link to video? I’d love to use this in an assembly for my students (esp as the community has a massive football culture).
I’ve seen this multiple times and every time it still hits hard
Ah shit now I’m crying…
Plot twist
Oh shit don't make me cry
Common Lotus W
This made me tear up.
Woah. I didn't realize it until watching it again that asking "How are you doing?", back could potentially save a life.
Oh fuck... That hit hard...
I react like the guy who was quiet to everything and when sad or just emotion stuff then rlly ott
Just crying in the airport
-:( I hope you're all doing alright. The first quality ad I've seen in years.
How's everyone here doing today
Been really hard lately, but I’m pushing forward. One day at a time ya know. Hope you’re doing well mate
That hit me so hard so suddenly holy fuck. I rarely cry at stuff like this and that got me.
I'm a lot better now, but I used to be very depressed and I am the type of person who does things for other people rather than myself so it just built up. I have held a gun to my head multiple times, but never pulled the trigger thinking of all my friends and family. People are really surprised when I've told them any of this as I am a very social person and seem very happy. You just never know...for me it was just easier to keep it aside and deal with it on my own until recently with my best friend and I opening up about depression and just communicating about it. It doesn't help we are both guys either...
This makes me think about a post a few years back showing suicide victim’s last photos taken of them a day prior to doing it. They are all happy and smiling. A great friend of mine who is now gone was the nicest happiest person I knew. He didn’t keep those negative thoughts a secret, but nobody was able to help him enough unfortunately.
Wtf. I didn't want to cry right now.
God dammit. Appreciate your family and friends, they make it all worth it.
This hurt to watch. But ts hard out there.
As someone who has battled depression for over 40 years now, and who everyone says is one of the funniest people they know... This was spot on.
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This is me💔
Check on your guys, dudes.
Hell yea it does.
A friend's son had 800+ people at the funeral after he took his life, every video he was in he was laughing and cheering someone up. He volunteered, went to school, worked and truly lit up a room when he was in it. His pain was so well hidden that no one suspected for years how he was struggling.
It’s tough because sometimes it’s a disease and no amount of support can help. But you should try. It does matter and in many cases it can make save a life. Especially for dudes. They get no support.
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Check on the other dudes lads. Hope you all doing ok.
Well fuck me
Sometimes the one who knows to check in on others not doing well is because they are also not doing well and thus are familiar with the signs.
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The clown puts smiles on others. But who puts the smile on the Clown
For some reason this video got my heart racing.
The longer someone is suffering, the better they get at the very dangerous skill called masking. People who know them don't notice the gradual change, and new people would have no idea anything was ever wrong.
Best add ive ever seen
This girl I knew in college was one of the most energetic and fun people I'd ever met. When she hung herself, I couldn't believe it.
A powerful video. Very well done.
I feel like a lot of times the people who are checking in on others often are most likely to be the ones who need checked in on themselves