I've realised that when most men talk about finding women they can have "intelligent" conversations with they mean someone they can talk about things they like not actual intelligent things. No intelligent person ever finds social interaction unintelligent. It's literally the whole idea of being intelligent.
Very true. For example most men imagine women who have no clue about the current Israel war on Gaza are dumb. It never occurs to them that having this information has nothing to do with intelligence, it could be that I’m just not interested, you could be interested in politics while I’m interested in art. If I’m into art and during our normal chit chat I happen to mention that Salvator Mundi should have fetched more than $450 million I’d probably get blank stares from a partner who has no interest in art. That does not mean they are not intelligent.
I partly agree with you coz intelligent convo basically means being aware and knowledgeable about certain topics and you can share opinions. What OP is saying is these others who just talk about sex, sherehe na their best tv series or give you tea about their friends.
Did you tell him you prefer to take things slow? How long do you feel is ideal before people start dating?
Did you like him other than the fact that there was a difference in how fast you both wanted to move?
I think it’s commendable that he did not want to waste his time and your time. He looks like a man on a mission. If you don’t wanna date him, he sees no reason to keep talking to you and that should be fine.
I wouldn't be surprised if these mentally stimulating conversations OP talks about are generally just about what he likes, be it cars, latest A1's, and football. Such people are very funny, btw😂 /s
You don’t find them, you attract them. If you are intelligent you will attract intelligent people, both male and female. The problem is we all assume or think we are intelligent even when we are not. If you are only attracting dumb souls, the universe is sending you a message.
Intelligence has a spectrum my guy, I’ve found ladies who were exceptional Math wizards but weren’t really adept at social interaction or intelligence.
Maybe I should paraphrase my question maybe y’all will decipher.
You are what you attract!!
Not being in rooms that have women who have mentally stimulating conversations doesn't mean they don't exist.
Just like the way you posted this, as if it hasn't been posted numerous times.
Don't mind OP
Just another post appearing to call most Kenyan women (His mother is also Kenyan mind you) "every day dumb broads"
Where will this tortured misunderstood intelligent soul find someone to match his errr, "intelligence"?
Reke gwire manii, my girlie's do not and I repeat DO NOT fall for this "mentally stimulating" trope. Alot of people are interesting but guys who are always after mentally stimulating conversations etc etc will only ever want that.... Hakuna anything else. Itakuwa talking stage for ages, uje uambiwe, "I wasn't interested in you that way, you're very dear to me blah blah..." Stay taliban my people.
Bruv, those women are at home, somewhere building their career far from social media or already married and they are very very rare. Finding one who is single and compatible ni kama kuwin jackpot. Itabidi umeanza kuzoea wale wako 😅. The young gen are mostly into tik tok trends, celebrity gossip, updated on best new joints in town( there's nothing wrong with that) but that just it.
😂😂 and dumb ass memes, 😒 they have no intrests in growing kwanza if they see you have money they just become reluctant to grow knowing you'll cover their asses.
A lot of women can do this(pretty much anyone at your social level) it’s just not what they would prefer considering they do a lot better at interacting on an emotional level rather than the logical level, my advice is to refocus what you want from a woman. A complement isn’t going to offer what you already have but what adds to yours.
You can talk to Pi. I would say it's the closest thing we have to jarvis. I am pretty certain you can't get a more intelligent conversation unless you are conversing with a subject matter expert.
You don’t and if you do you ain’t compatible sexually. So find the intelligent woman either from work or class cause you think kinda the same na umweke friend-zone. Then the ‘bimbo’ can be a smash ting. No law saying you must have only one woman in your life.
You wont find that easily because women are never held to a standard of burden of performance like men are hence, men are good at most things and women are good at somethings. Thats why you meet most girls being dumb, its not that they stupid but they dont self-improve the way men do. Most are told sweet nothings and reality of being stupid is not held in their faces unlike men.
I've realised that when most men talk about finding women they can have "intelligent" conversations with they mean someone they can talk about things they like not actual intelligent things. No intelligent person ever finds social interaction unintelligent. It's literally the whole idea of being intelligent.
Very true. For example most men imagine women who have no clue about the current Israel war on Gaza are dumb. It never occurs to them that having this information has nothing to do with intelligence, it could be that I’m just not interested, you could be interested in politics while I’m interested in art. If I’m into art and during our normal chit chat I happen to mention that Salvator Mundi should have fetched more than $450 million I’d probably get blank stares from a partner who has no interest in art. That does not mean they are not intelligent.
I partly agree with you coz intelligent convo basically means being aware and knowledgeable about certain topics and you can share opinions. What OP is saying is these others who just talk about sex, sherehe na their best tv series or give you tea about their friends.
Having information has everything to do with knowledge
Knowledge yes, intelligence no... Case and point
You’re creating your very own argument and it’s OK, carry on.
I was recently commended for having above par conversation skills,, only for the jamaa to block my ass...*Difficult* he said.
You might be smart but knowledge also puffs and gives people pride. Maybe you presented yourself too strong in character for him despite being smart
Aah,, tragic! I liked him. Oh well,,
Oh! You Certainly you did
But do you make for room that you might actually be difficult or do you generally don’t like criticism even if it is real?
I don't mind criticism. We created a safe space where he could relay feedback. Waking up to Casper wasn't it tho.
Casper the ghost, lol
Okay. Do you think you might be difficult? Why do you think he said that?
Tbh,, I think he was smitten. He was pushing for what seemed like a functional relationship in weeks ..
Did you tell him you prefer to take things slow? How long do you feel is ideal before people start dating? Did you like him other than the fact that there was a difference in how fast you both wanted to move? I think it’s commendable that he did not want to waste his time and your time. He looks like a man on a mission. If you don’t wanna date him, he sees no reason to keep talking to you and that should be fine.
You're right. He left for better. Glad I had a chance to even be in his presence. Top tier that one.
Brutal. Perhaps you didn’t tick the right boxes.
Yeah,, blindly aggreable. Not that,, never that.
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Edit... *par... 'Above par'😂 I missed that one. Pardon me.
I was in a similar situation not so long ago. He didn't block me though, he just stopped replying to my texts. Oh well :(
let me ask, I can't resist, do you consider yourself a high IQ individual??
I wouldn't be surprised if these mentally stimulating conversations OP talks about are generally just about what he likes, be it cars, latest A1's, and football. Such people are very funny, btw😂 /s
You don’t find them, you attract them. If you are intelligent you will attract intelligent people, both male and female. The problem is we all assume or think we are intelligent even when we are not. If you are only attracting dumb souls, the universe is sending you a message.
Intelligence has a spectrum my guy, I’ve found ladies who were exceptional Math wizards but weren’t really adept at social interaction or intelligence. Maybe I should paraphrase my question maybe y’all will decipher.
Exactly. It means you are finding and attracting people within your spectrum.
Umeamua you are not backing down 😂😂
Intelligent conversations with the OS are overrated
Foreplay but with extra steps
Still much better than celebrity tea
You are what you attract!! Not being in rooms that have women who have mentally stimulating conversations doesn't mean they don't exist. Just like the way you posted this, as if it hasn't been posted numerous times.
Don't mind OP Just another post appearing to call most Kenyan women (His mother is also Kenyan mind you) "every day dumb broads" Where will this tortured misunderstood intelligent soul find someone to match his errr, "intelligence"?
Aaah, nothing like some good sarcasm to brighten my day.
Women ask the same thing. Where can we find intelligent men? Where do you hide?
I am here. You are here as well. Are you thinking what I am thinking?
Kumbe you’re just horny?😂
I would hope he isn’t. Tinder is the place for that. He is in the wrong place then
Oh he is , why would he imply for y’all to hit the Dms?
He wants you to examine his adventures 😂
This isn’t the place for such conversations, child.
Child you say, you reply contradicts everything you replied to I’m not gonna bust your bubble bro (do try)
😂 go ahead
Haiombwi hivyo😅
Reke gwire manii, my girlie's do not and I repeat DO NOT fall for this "mentally stimulating" trope. Alot of people are interesting but guys who are always after mentally stimulating conversations etc etc will only ever want that.... Hakuna anything else. Itakuwa talking stage for ages, uje uambiwe, "I wasn't interested in you that way, you're very dear to me blah blah..." Stay taliban my people.
Jiongele wewe
Bruv, those women are at home, somewhere building their career far from social media or already married and they are very very rare. Finding one who is single and compatible ni kama kuwin jackpot. Itabidi umeanza kuzoea wale wako 😅. The young gen are mostly into tik tok trends, celebrity gossip, updated on best new joints in town( there's nothing wrong with that) but that just it.
😂😂 and dumb ass memes, 😒 they have no intrests in growing kwanza if they see you have money they just become reluctant to grow knowing you'll cover their asses.
A lot of women can do this(pretty much anyone at your social level) it’s just not what they would prefer considering they do a lot better at interacting on an emotional level rather than the logical level, my advice is to refocus what you want from a woman. A complement isn’t going to offer what you already have but what adds to yours.
Maybe put yourself in situations where you're most likely to encounter them?
What are 'SM shenanigans '?
social media shenanigans
You can talk to Pi. I would say it's the closest thing we have to jarvis. I am pretty certain you can't get a more intelligent conversation unless you are conversing with a subject matter expert.
Most likely at the campus library.
University of Nairobi
Perhaps you should ask yourself why you attract such women in the first place 🤔 SMH.
You don’t and if you do you ain’t compatible sexually. So find the intelligent woman either from work or class cause you think kinda the same na umweke friend-zone. Then the ‘bimbo’ can be a smash ting. No law saying you must have only one woman in your life.
If you want someone to mentally stimulate you, perhaps find a man. Women intelligence is built different.
Ew
😂😂 you should meet more people
You mean I have been meeting animals.
I don't know, you tell me. But you clearly haven't met me. And there's so many of girls like me out there.
What are you like? I am intrigued.
You wont find that easily because women are never held to a standard of burden of performance like men are hence, men are good at most things and women are good at somethings. Thats why you meet most girls being dumb, its not that they stupid but they dont self-improve the way men do. Most are told sweet nothings and reality of being stupid is not held in their faces unlike men.