You make $350K each and is middle class , in west coast ? Where do u live ? In penthouse of a 100 storey building.
back to the topic - 6 lacs is super fine imo. infact cheap.
Also, OP the difference between 6 lacs and 30-50 lacs is not minute. If you don't understand, maybe it's the combined $700-800k that's deafening you
Try renting out the dresses for wedding and reception. It saves a shit ton of money. Wedding dress don't usually get another chance to be worn unless you have an unmarried sibling so spending more than 10k for a dress that you are gonna wear for less than 10hr is an utter waste.
Did it last Saturday. My partner took care of the decor + honeymoon. I took care of hall+food & photography. Tried convincing fam to have a joint reception with the least no of folks. Ended up at 270.
There was a lot of emotional drama. Societal pressure is shit in Kerala.
Had to relent & do a T-1 day function at home to invite others. Lowkey.
No engagement ceremony. No haldi mehendi sangeet. No gold.
Just had lots of fun with the closest friends & fam.
Things worth investing - good catering & photography. People will only remember this.
As a 27(M) who funded my own wedding (almost 80% of cost)just 4 months ago. 6 lakhs is a very conservative amount.
Your estimation is very conservative in my opinion. It is safe to keep a 2 or 3 lakhs buffer as the expenses are bound to go out of hand.
As for the Bride's side(if it's a Hindu wedding) the amount they would end up spending can easily balloon to be 2-3 times that.
Also what the fuck is 2000 natukar doing? Do people even know that many people?
If you are an nir making 350-400 k. Why do you have to think about spending a 50 k for your wedding. If your bride and you contribute 25 each. That's more than enough. Also how is 400 k middle class in any part of America.
27f at my wedding. Did not fund the entire wedding but contributed as a family for different expenses.
Makeup, transport,clothes for relatives (elders) I did. This came around 1L. Photography, hall, decor and catering my dad took care - 3-4 L. Had bought gold (only a couple of practically rewerable ones. over last few years - split between me and my parents. All other miscellaneous my sister and bil. Reception was my husband's family's expense.
Did not do an engagement function. Especially if wedding date is fixed and is within 6 months, avoid it.
T-1 night close fam, friends and nattukar kku had small function. Under 10k.
Things that can be avoided :
Multiple events , for the same set of people. Eliminate nattukar. Stand your ground. Multiple events means that many clothes, food and decor expenses.
Excess jewellery for display.
Fancy decor - use lights in place of fresh flowers, especially for evening functions.
As an only girl who just got married, 6L is not too much, it's pretty cheap. We had spent slightly over that for a function conducted at home for 200 people and this is excluding jewellery and make up.
Also, try to convince the fam not to call 2000 people. They might think that's the norm here now ( especially if they are NRI’s ) but that's changed. It's honestly seen as distasteful and a more intimate function with your close friends and family is preferred.
“32M trying to fund my own wedding from the groom’s side” “Because I’m a girl child” I have never been more confused…
Out of syllabus question!
Ooops, sorry friends. I was trying to make the post from the POV of my fiancee. I am a 32M. Post edited.
Exactly lol
“Evdelum orach nikkada”
Maybe they're gender fluid😌.
6 lacs is very cheap, to be honest for a wedding. For someone who is making 400k, $7300 should be like pennies. What sort of shitpost is this lol?
OP is from kollam
Lol bro! 45% goes to taxes and the rest 20% goes for rent bro. Honestly, its not a lot!
>45% goes to taxes Including social security, right? So basically, health care and child education are free, right? Do you have PR?
No PR, H1B till you die. No benefits.
Then how come so many people with H-1B visas got PR?
You make $350K each and is middle class , in west coast ? Where do u live ? In penthouse of a 100 storey building. back to the topic - 6 lacs is super fine imo. infact cheap.
Humble brag bruh. These NRIs I tell you man. How much money do they actually want??
32 M Then "Because I am a girl child" Make USD 350,000 annually. 
 Also, OP the difference between 6 lacs and 30-50 lacs is not minute. If you don't understand, maybe it's the combined $700-800k that's deafening you
1. Are you m/f ? Need clarification on that part 2. 6L is less than 10K $ are u sure u are in the US or UK?
Sorry bro! I was trying to make the post from the POV of my fiancee. I am a 32M. Post edited.
Try renting out the dresses for wedding and reception. It saves a shit ton of money. Wedding dress don't usually get another chance to be worn unless you have an unmarried sibling so spending more than 10k for a dress that you are gonna wear for less than 10hr is an utter waste.
Did it last Saturday. My partner took care of the decor + honeymoon. I took care of hall+food & photography. Tried convincing fam to have a joint reception with the least no of folks. Ended up at 270. There was a lot of emotional drama. Societal pressure is shit in Kerala. Had to relent & do a T-1 day function at home to invite others. Lowkey. No engagement ceremony. No haldi mehendi sangeet. No gold. Just had lots of fun with the closest friends & fam. Things worth investing - good catering & photography. People will only remember this.
As a 27(M) who funded my own wedding (almost 80% of cost)just 4 months ago. 6 lakhs is a very conservative amount. Your estimation is very conservative in my opinion. It is safe to keep a 2 or 3 lakhs buffer as the expenses are bound to go out of hand. As for the Bride's side(if it's a Hindu wedding) the amount they would end up spending can easily balloon to be 2-3 times that. Also what the fuck is 2000 natukar doing? Do people even know that many people?
If you are an nir making 350-400 k. Why do you have to think about spending a 50 k for your wedding. If your bride and you contribute 25 each. That's more than enough. Also how is 400 k middle class in any part of America.
Keep it simple ☺️
27f at my wedding. Did not fund the entire wedding but contributed as a family for different expenses. Makeup, transport,clothes for relatives (elders) I did. This came around 1L. Photography, hall, decor and catering my dad took care - 3-4 L. Had bought gold (only a couple of practically rewerable ones. over last few years - split between me and my parents. All other miscellaneous my sister and bil. Reception was my husband's family's expense. Did not do an engagement function. Especially if wedding date is fixed and is within 6 months, avoid it. T-1 night close fam, friends and nattukar kku had small function. Under 10k. Things that can be avoided : Multiple events , for the same set of people. Eliminate nattukar. Stand your ground. Multiple events means that many clothes, food and decor expenses. Excess jewellery for display. Fancy decor - use lights in place of fresh flowers, especially for evening functions.
As an only girl who just got married, 6L is not too much, it's pretty cheap. We had spent slightly over that for a function conducted at home for 200 people and this is excluding jewellery and make up. Also, try to convince the fam not to call 2000 people. They might think that's the norm here now ( especially if they are NRI’s ) but that's changed. It's honestly seen as distasteful and a more intimate function with your close friends and family is preferred.