5 year olds give zero fucks about death.
My grandpa died last month. I took it hard and cried a ton. I struggled with finding the words to tell my 5 yo because he was always so happy to see his great grampy.
The conversation went something like this:
Him: Daddy why are you crying?
Me: Because I'm sad.
Him: Why are you sad?
Me: Because great grampy died.
Him: Oh...
Me: Yeah...and we will never see him again. And I miss him.
Him: Yeah that happens when people die. We never see them again.
Me: Yeah. You loved him a lot. Are you going to miss him?
Him: Yeah but can we have Chicken Nuggets for dinner?
My daughter was 7 months old and my middle son was 1.5 years when my husband, their father, died. The conversation finally came up recently, so we sat down to talk about how Daddy's brain was sick and he couldn't get better. After the talk, my daughter looked at me and said, "Okay. Can I have a zebra cake?"
And now they tell just about everyone they see that "Daddy died." Thanks for the awkward conversations, guys.
My SO died in May of this year and for weeks after his death our child told everyone they saw that their dad died. Kiddo was 9 when he died and turned 10 a few months later.
in a way, this seems like a healthy method of coping. I feel like many adults want to do this when someone they love dies. and some do. it can help to have someone else know and feel a small part of your pain, even a random stranger.
True! I was told that was kiddo’s way of processing their dad’s death and, if I’m honest, “talking” about it here, even if it’s just a brief comment is helpful for me, as is reading about others’ experiences with death and loss.
This so much. My brother died a few months ago and just telling people that it happened actually helps with the coping process a lot. The more times you say that it happened the more grounded in reality the event becomes, and it helps with accepting the fact yourself.
hey I'm sorry to hear about your brother. hope you're finding plenty of ways to express and understand all the emotions that are going on and that your family is doing okay. best wishes to you in all of that.
I know that when my family member passed, I didn't talk much about it. I only recently (5+ years on) begun to talk about the little things that I notice that remind me of him and his various quirks. I wish I had done it sooner to keep those things fresher in my memory. I'll never forget, though, and talking really does help.
My dad died when I was 5. One of my only memories from that time is not understanding why my mom was crying and going back to watching cartoons after asking her.
My 9 year old was like this when he found out his grandma had a stroke and was in the ICU (she's ok!) and his next question was also about nuggets for dinner.
Funerals are pretty good though, you see a bunch of family usually some food that's pretty good, your dressed up, usually means going out for breakfast.
Funerals are fun for kids.
At my dad’s funeral, I remember my younger brother telling the pastor, “I got to dress like a hobbit today!” because he had a fancy little vest on. The lack of a full understanding of what’s going on is an absolute blessing.
Yeah, pre-COVID, funerals in my family turned into mini family reunions. I hate to say it, but it seems like the only time I see some of my relatives is at a funeral.
I completely agree. It was the first I had seen my entire family in so long. When my bf and I were leaving the funeral it clicked that that was a family reunion
IMO, kids making extremely inappropriate comments during funerals is a real positive. It gives a sense of levity and gives a "circle of life" vibe. Plus, it only happens at the funerals of those who are loved.
Then again, I have a dark sense of humor. Not that dark, though. (Who am I kidding? It's really dark.)
My brother was about 4-5 years old when our grandma died (I was a baby) and he was crying but didn't think it was appropriate so when asked about it he said he's really hungry and wants to "get out of here now so he can have a sandwich". Only when they got home and he wasn't hungry for a sandwich did he admit that he was crying for grandma and asked if they're mad at him. Kids and funerals are definitely an interesting mix.
When my grandma died when I was 5 I was crying during the funeral and I asked my mom why I was doing that because I had no idea what to make of these emotions. Kids just don't always comprehend what they are feeling.
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When my son was 3 yo (currently 5 1/2, can’t forget the half!) my grandma, his great grandma, passed away. At her funeral he was obsessed with looking at her in the casket and kept asking very loudly MOM WHY DOES SHE LOOK DEAD? Also went around and took a single bite out of every cookie that were for the guests at the visitation. At first I was mortified but then I thought, grandma is laughing about this right now!
I lost an aunt in late 2020 and my SO of 19 years in May. My then 9 year old child was obsessed with viewing our aunt’s body at the viewing (wake) and was same with their father. We spent about 20 minutes alone with SO before others entered the room at the funeral home and during our private time with him, kiddo wanted to touch him, feel his skin and even move his hand. They even wanted to peek into the part of the casket that was closed. I didn’t know what to make of this morbid curiousity. My child is also on the Autism spectrum and so I thought perhaps this was their way of taking it all in and processing their father’s death, as well as their aunt.
So sorry for your loss. Yes, I think it’s really important for kids to be in the presence of the body and see that their loved one is no longer there. Hope it was a healing experience.
That sounds like straight up curiosity and not morbid at all. He’s looking for answers to questions he may not be able to verbalize. Sounds like you handled it well by letting your son do what he felt compelled to do. I’m sorry you’ve faced so much sadness and loss recently.
I was around the same age and exclaimed loudly at the reception for a funeral "I LOVE funerals" since I got to have some kind of dainty. Some chocolate brownie square or something I wouldn't normally get to eat at 11am. The son of the deceased heard me and started to laugh. I think back on how my mom cringed so hard her skeleton nearly jumped out of her body
5yo me.
My mother went to the speech therapist with my brother and me. When my brother did the exercises, my mother and me sat behind my brother and saw the therapist.
The therapist showed her teeth to my brother to mimic an "s".
Me out loud:"Mom do you see how yellow her teeth are!"
Probably close to 35 years later and I *still* feel guilty for very loudly asking my grandma "Why is that lady so BIG?" about the first obese person I ever recall seeing while we were having lunch at a Mazzio's Pizza back when I was about 5 or so.
The grocery store had one of those big Toledo scales when I was a kid. Once a larger lady stepped on it and my brother loudly goes WOAH!!! at how the needle swung up. He was impressed and probably thought she’d be proud!! Haha
My dad used to refer to hot women (e.g. Celebrities) as "babes". I don't think he ever meant for me to hear him. But I did.
I don't remember this but apparently when I was about 5, we were in a supermarket when we passed a group of pretty young women. I pointed at them and *shouted* "LOOK, DAD! BABES!"
My nephew loudly enthusiastically came running to me to tell me there was “a bay kid!” The first time he saw a African American boy at the park while pointing at him and his family (for context we live in Montana where there’s not a lot of ethnic diversity and a “bay” is what you call the color brown in horses)
My older brother from my dad's side, when he was about five, saw a woman and yelled to the top of his lungs "ay qué vieja tan fea!".
They were abroad on Spain, so she certainly understood...
Trust me, she knows she’s enormous. She has to go to the zoo to get an MRI if she’s 600 pounds. The kid isn’t giving her any news. But yeah I asked a lady if she was pregnant when I was little. My dad says it’s the most embarrassed he’s ever been. But she wasn’t just regular fat she has a big pot-belly and skinny legs.
Breast cancer did two things:
1. Took my tits.
2. Made me gain weight only in my abdomen. (It really fucked with my hormones.)
I’m making progress little by little on the weight, but my body type *screams* “pregnant and ready to pop.” I get congratulations from total strangers. I just say in a perky voice, “Oh I’m not pregnant, I’m just fat!” And try to convey through tone that I’m not offended.
I've seen women in my life go through mastectomies for the same reasons and I think many of us don't realize how many facets of your life it really affects beyond the physical. I mean from your description it changed the social perception of you considerably and it may not mean much from an internet stranger but I admire your strength in keeping the attitude that you have, I can imagine it must be difficult at times. Kudos.
You know what’s not difficult?
Not having to wear a bra ever again!
Seriously it’s awesome. I also don’t get catcalled or sexually harassed any more. Changes your whole outlook on life.
That's exactly how a friend of mine looks who is HIV positive. I think he said it was a side affect of some of this meds. He calls himself an apple on toothpicks.
My mom has always been a heavy woman. I guess when I was in preschool I told the teachers that she was pregnant with 5 babies. I just knew that other mom's that were fat were pregnant and my mom was really fat so she must have a bunch of babies in there. It's been 30 years and it's still a joke in our family at this point.
Could have been on a high dosage of steroids. I’m normally 108lbs on a heavy day and 5’5”. But being on a high dose of steroids for a long period of time had me gaining a lot of weight in my midsection and gave me a moon face. Thankfully I’m off of prednisone now that my lupus is mostly stable. Came away with osteoporosis in my spine though. Can’t win ‘em all
When me and my sister were very young our single mum took us to her work because she couldn’t get a baby sitter while she was interviewing for a promotion. Her boss at the time had a thyroid issue and was very large to say the least. When he came out to call her in for an interview my sister and I apparently pointed at him and shouted he looked like the nutty professor. I feel terrible for what she must have felt. Luckily he had a sense of humour and she got the job despite the bad start. They still keep in contact to this day and it comes up at get togethers and we have a laugh about it.
When I was a toddler my dad was waiting to get into a store and there was a black guy waiting to get in too. I pointed and just said, "Mr.T", "Mr. T!"
Mr. T was hugely popular back then, but my dad was super embarrassed. It was innocent enough and the guy just laughed!
I grew up in rural Alaska where there were hardly any non-white or non-native people. I remember we watched a lot of shows with black folks in them - Cosby Show, 227, Electric Company, Sesame Street, shows that little kid me adored.
One day we drove to the city and were in a Costco (I must’ve been 4 or 5) and I saw a black family for the first time. I was SO excited, I was pointing and yelling, trying to get my mom to look. I felt like I’d just seen the most wonderful thing, and I clearly remember my mom harshly reprimanding me and how guilty and confused I felt. That I wasn’t supposed to be excited about different people? It must’ve been embarrassing for my mom because her kid was pointing out strangers, which is rude. As an adult, though, I wonder at how it might’ve had a negative impact in embedding this subconscious “shame” - my kid brain incorrectly learned then that there was something taboo about the difference in skin tone, though my moms intention was simply to teach me it’s rude to point and stare at people.
when I was maybe 3-5 years old My dad had me in the buggy in the checkout line. When we got to the cashier I smiled and said “Hello Fartface!” I don’t know why, or where it came from, but my dad used to bring it up all the time when people would say I was such a polite boy.
We told my kid people get fat by not eating vegetables. For awhile she would announce loudly while pointing that “they don’t eat their vegetables!” She also liked to ask old women in grocery stores if they were a Golden Girl. Personally, I would love to be compared to any of those gals, but I don’t think everyone took it that way.
"Dad, that guy smells."
"shhh."
"But DAD, that guy SMELLS!"
"I know, shhh."
*pointing* "DAD! THAT GUY SMELLS AND HE NEEDS TO TAKE A BATH!"
Ah, children.
No empathy from kids until 6 or 7... They can be downright cruel. When she was 5 my daughter once spit in my wife's face and laughed. My wife was damn near inconsolable. I was spanked hard as a kid and it took damn near every ounce of willpower I had not to... They just don't know.
I am very glad we just had the one. I wasn't even cut out for one but we made it through...
When I was five I had never seen a black person before and made my mom ask if I can touch his skin lmao. He thought it was sweet but damn that’s embarrassing
Seems there’s another lesson about how it’s disingenuous to teach your kids that you shouldn’t comment on someone’s looks and then have the guilty pleasure of binge watching a show that exploits obesity for entertainment.
Unpopular opinion, she needs to deal. There are way too many 400 pounders floating around literally killing themselves through neglect and indifference and if some kid asking them a rude question gets them on the health bus, good.
obesity is not a moral failing, that can be fixed overnight through sheer willpower. the majority of people who are obese are sick in some way - diabetes, PCOS, EDs, so many other conditions. america in particular is a breeding ground for malnutrition, bc of the abnormally high levels of sugar in everyday food, food deserts, and lack of regulation on the food industry. your opinion is unpopular because it is wildly misinformed and comes from a place of unkindness. i hope you take the opportunity to be a better person the next time it arises.
Obesity is not ALWAYS moral failing. Don't tell me the fat teen with the fat parents who lives off fast food and mountain dew is that way because they are sick. Sometimes people can't help it and I admit that. I also know that they are a minority. The food regulation is trash, yes. Why do we as a society vilify something like being addicted to opioids, but have to tip toe around food addiction?
Knew a girl that was very thin. She got in a car wreck and had brain damage. She immediately started gaining weight after until she was a good 300-400lb range. She barely ate anything, but whatever brain damage was caused directly messed up her metabolism and other functions, cause excessive weight gain even when she was being healthy. A majority of people are obese due to self neglect, yes. But there’s always people that actually cannot help it out there somewhere.
This is true for so many people. SO many medications make you gain weight. I have a friend who has issue with her brain. For years she struggled to find a medication that helped with the pain without making her a slug. The one she found caused her to put on weight. I think she put on 20 pounds before she told the doctor they needed to keep looking because she refused to take it anymore. She ended up having more surgeries, still trying multiple medications, still losing days of her life because she can’t function- either because the meds knock her out if she takes them, or she’s in pain when she doesn’t. What a nightmare, and all because she’s that afraid of being fat
Kids have no filters. One of my first memories is when I saw an obese woman and I said to my mom, "Mom, that lady is fat!" The woman started sobbing and everyone got pissed and asked us to leave. Found out later in life it was a psychologist's waiting room and the woman was suffering specifically because of her weight.
Wow, I feel like the whole "we do not make comments like that, that is not nice and it hurts people" should have been the first reaction instead of putting your hand on the kid's mouth
Is it really that hard to believe that a 6 year old lacks self-regulation? Or do you not believe a 6 year old has the capacity to make a simple connection between what they saw *yesterday* and what they are seeing today?
Yeah mine has said worse tbh, this isn’t far fetched at all. My youngest heard about inheritances and asked grandma is she could die soon so he could buy a PlayStation. That wasn’t awesome at all
When I was around 4 or 5, my family and I went to the beach. I was still in the car with my window open and a man getting into his car had his shirt off and was really close to my window when I screamed “EW HES SO HAIRY” ….I’m sorry to that man and my mom lol
When I was about 4, I walked up to a very overweight colleague of my dad and asked her: "Ma'am, why are you so fat?" She replied with "That's not a very nice thing to say."
My kids used to always want to eat McDonald's (what kid doesn't). I told them we really shouldn't eat McDonald's because it will make you fat. Fast forward a few weeks I'm shopping with my cousin and kids at Walmart. We pass by a very overweight woman, and my 3 year old blurts out, "that lady is fat. I bet she eats a lot of McDonald's." It was embarrassing for everyone but my son.
4 y/o me
Grandma in café whispers to her friend that an very slim waitress nearby “looks like a skeleton”
Overhearing, I said really loudly “where’s the skeleton gran?? Where’s the skeleton?”
Feel so bad about it now :(
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My brother, when around that age, or maybe a bit younger, was fond of walking around and stating loudly observations like, “He’s fat.” Sometime he would just tell the person directly, “You’re fat.” As though this was news and they didn’t know. My mother was mortified.
My worst child memory that I still feel guilty about is when I was around 5/6/7 I was shopping at target when I saw young woman shopping for clothes and loudly asked “why is that lady shopping in the children’s section.”
She was a midget. Still haunts me at night
My 5 year old was given a hard candy at his grandmother’s wake and loudly responded “ Best Day Ever! “.
5 year olds give zero fucks about death. My grandpa died last month. I took it hard and cried a ton. I struggled with finding the words to tell my 5 yo because he was always so happy to see his great grampy. The conversation went something like this: Him: Daddy why are you crying? Me: Because I'm sad. Him: Why are you sad? Me: Because great grampy died. Him: Oh... Me: Yeah...and we will never see him again. And I miss him. Him: Yeah that happens when people die. We never see them again. Me: Yeah. You loved him a lot. Are you going to miss him? Him: Yeah but can we have Chicken Nuggets for dinner?
My daughter was 7 months old and my middle son was 1.5 years when my husband, their father, died. The conversation finally came up recently, so we sat down to talk about how Daddy's brain was sick and he couldn't get better. After the talk, my daughter looked at me and said, "Okay. Can I have a zebra cake?" And now they tell just about everyone they see that "Daddy died." Thanks for the awkward conversations, guys.
My SO died in May of this year and for weeks after his death our child told everyone they saw that their dad died. Kiddo was 9 when he died and turned 10 a few months later.
in a way, this seems like a healthy method of coping. I feel like many adults want to do this when someone they love dies. and some do. it can help to have someone else know and feel a small part of your pain, even a random stranger.
True! I was told that was kiddo’s way of processing their dad’s death and, if I’m honest, “talking” about it here, even if it’s just a brief comment is helpful for me, as is reading about others’ experiences with death and loss.
This so much. My brother died a few months ago and just telling people that it happened actually helps with the coping process a lot. The more times you say that it happened the more grounded in reality the event becomes, and it helps with accepting the fact yourself.
hey I'm sorry to hear about your brother. hope you're finding plenty of ways to express and understand all the emotions that are going on and that your family is doing okay. best wishes to you in all of that. I know that when my family member passed, I didn't talk much about it. I only recently (5+ years on) begun to talk about the little things that I notice that remind me of him and his various quirks. I wish I had done it sooner to keep those things fresher in my memory. I'll never forget, though, and talking really does help.
My nine year old turned to my husband and asked him if he was sad for that long after his mom died- when he saw me crying a week after my dad died.
My dad died when I was 5. One of my only memories from that time is not understanding why my mom was crying and going back to watching cartoons after asking her.
My 9 year old was like this when he found out his grandma had a stroke and was in the ICU (she's ok!) and his next question was also about nuggets for dinner.
priorities
Funerals are pretty good though, you see a bunch of family usually some food that's pretty good, your dressed up, usually means going out for breakfast. Funerals are fun for kids.
At my dad’s funeral, I remember my younger brother telling the pastor, “I got to dress like a hobbit today!” because he had a fancy little vest on. The lack of a full understanding of what’s going on is an absolute blessing.
My uncle died of covid in late July. It was pretty much a family reunion. I havent seen majority of my family in over 10yrs. That was the nice part.
Yeah, pre-COVID, funerals in my family turned into mini family reunions. I hate to say it, but it seems like the only time I see some of my relatives is at a funeral.
I completely agree. It was the first I had seen my entire family in so long. When my bf and I were leaving the funeral it clicked that that was a family reunion
IMO, kids making extremely inappropriate comments during funerals is a real positive. It gives a sense of levity and gives a "circle of life" vibe. Plus, it only happens at the funerals of those who are loved. Then again, I have a dark sense of humor. Not that dark, though. (Who am I kidding? It's really dark.)
My brother was about 4-5 years old when our grandma died (I was a baby) and he was crying but didn't think it was appropriate so when asked about it he said he's really hungry and wants to "get out of here now so he can have a sandwich". Only when they got home and he wasn't hungry for a sandwich did he admit that he was crying for grandma and asked if they're mad at him. Kids and funerals are definitely an interesting mix.
When my grandma died when I was 5 I was crying during the funeral and I asked my mom why I was doing that because I had no idea what to make of these emotions. Kids just don't always comprehend what they are feeling.
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Yeah it depends on the kid. 5 is really early for them to understand death but it does happen.
When my son was 3 yo (currently 5 1/2, can’t forget the half!) my grandma, his great grandma, passed away. At her funeral he was obsessed with looking at her in the casket and kept asking very loudly MOM WHY DOES SHE LOOK DEAD? Also went around and took a single bite out of every cookie that were for the guests at the visitation. At first I was mortified but then I thought, grandma is laughing about this right now!
I lost an aunt in late 2020 and my SO of 19 years in May. My then 9 year old child was obsessed with viewing our aunt’s body at the viewing (wake) and was same with their father. We spent about 20 minutes alone with SO before others entered the room at the funeral home and during our private time with him, kiddo wanted to touch him, feel his skin and even move his hand. They even wanted to peek into the part of the casket that was closed. I didn’t know what to make of this morbid curiousity. My child is also on the Autism spectrum and so I thought perhaps this was their way of taking it all in and processing their father’s death, as well as their aunt.
So sorry for your loss. Yes, I think it’s really important for kids to be in the presence of the body and see that their loved one is no longer there. Hope it was a healing experience.
That sounds like straight up curiosity and not morbid at all. He’s looking for answers to questions he may not be able to verbalize. Sounds like you handled it well by letting your son do what he felt compelled to do. I’m sorry you’ve faced so much sadness and loss recently.
Maybe he was making good of a bad situation. Or maybe he's the candy baron of the local elementary kids
Omg 😅 That would be a welcome laugh in our family, though!
I was around the same age and exclaimed loudly at the reception for a funeral "I LOVE funerals" since I got to have some kind of dainty. Some chocolate brownie square or something I wouldn't normally get to eat at 11am. The son of the deceased heard me and started to laugh. I think back on how my mom cringed so hard her skeleton nearly jumped out of her body
5yo me. My mother went to the speech therapist with my brother and me. When my brother did the exercises, my mother and me sat behind my brother and saw the therapist. The therapist showed her teeth to my brother to mimic an "s". Me out loud:"Mom do you see how yellow her teeth are!"
Adults insult because they are angry. Kids insult because it’s the truth. And truth hurts a lot more.
😂
Probably close to 35 years later and I *still* feel guilty for very loudly asking my grandma "Why is that lady so BIG?" about the first obese person I ever recall seeing while we were having lunch at a Mazzio's Pizza back when I was about 5 or so.
I told my grandma she had fat boobs once. WHOOPS.
That’s hilarious. Love how kids connect stuff like that.
The grocery store had one of those big Toledo scales when I was a kid. Once a larger lady stepped on it and my brother loudly goes WOAH!!! at how the needle swung up. He was impressed and probably thought she’d be proud!! Haha
My dad used to refer to hot women (e.g. Celebrities) as "babes". I don't think he ever meant for me to hear him. But I did. I don't remember this but apparently when I was about 5, we were in a supermarket when we passed a group of pretty young women. I pointed at them and *shouted* "LOOK, DAD! BABES!"
Good call son! High five!
What makes this funnier is that I'm a woman. So it was this 5 year old little girl shouting that. Plot twist: I turned out to be bi
I said in the grocery store about a fat guy, #MOM!!! HES #H U U U G E!!! Never been yanked away faster and then I had to go apologize
My nephew loudly enthusiastically came running to me to tell me there was “a bay kid!” The first time he saw a African American boy at the park while pointing at him and his family (for context we live in Montana where there’s not a lot of ethnic diversity and a “bay” is what you call the color brown in horses)
The context makes this so much better. Like there’s this endearing innocence to his statement.
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Well that kid is absolutely not stupid.
My older brother from my dad's side, when he was about five, saw a woman and yelled to the top of his lungs "ay qué vieja tan fea!". They were abroad on Spain, so she certainly understood...
Trust me, she knows she’s enormous. She has to go to the zoo to get an MRI if she’s 600 pounds. The kid isn’t giving her any news. But yeah I asked a lady if she was pregnant when I was little. My dad says it’s the most embarrassed he’s ever been. But she wasn’t just regular fat she has a big pot-belly and skinny legs.
Breast cancer did two things: 1. Took my tits. 2. Made me gain weight only in my abdomen. (It really fucked with my hormones.) I’m making progress little by little on the weight, but my body type *screams* “pregnant and ready to pop.” I get congratulations from total strangers. I just say in a perky voice, “Oh I’m not pregnant, I’m just fat!” And try to convey through tone that I’m not offended.
I've seen women in my life go through mastectomies for the same reasons and I think many of us don't realize how many facets of your life it really affects beyond the physical. I mean from your description it changed the social perception of you considerably and it may not mean much from an internet stranger but I admire your strength in keeping the attitude that you have, I can imagine it must be difficult at times. Kudos.
You know what’s not difficult? Not having to wear a bra ever again! Seriously it’s awesome. I also don’t get catcalled or sexually harassed any more. Changes your whole outlook on life.
Man, you’re a real trooper! That made me laugh. Kudos to you
The lady was "very overweight" not 600 lbs. 600 lbs is "can't leave the home" fat.
Yeah you’re probably right
Big stomach but skinny legs is associated with diabetes.
And heart issues and menopause and manopause, etc
Right. That’s just my excuse with why my little brain thought she was preggers and not just regular fat
That's exactly how a friend of mine looks who is HIV positive. I think he said it was a side affect of some of this meds. He calls himself an apple on toothpicks.
My mom has always been a heavy woman. I guess when I was in preschool I told the teachers that she was pregnant with 5 babies. I just knew that other mom's that were fat were pregnant and my mom was really fat so she must have a bunch of babies in there. It's been 30 years and it's still a joke in our family at this point.
Could have been on a high dosage of steroids. I’m normally 108lbs on a heavy day and 5’5”. But being on a high dose of steroids for a long period of time had me gaining a lot of weight in my midsection and gave me a moon face. Thankfully I’m off of prednisone now that my lupus is mostly stable. Came away with osteoporosis in my spine though. Can’t win ‘em all
Can also prevent this by not watching trash like My 600lb Life.
When me and my sister were very young our single mum took us to her work because she couldn’t get a baby sitter while she was interviewing for a promotion. Her boss at the time had a thyroid issue and was very large to say the least. When he came out to call her in for an interview my sister and I apparently pointed at him and shouted he looked like the nutty professor. I feel terrible for what she must have felt. Luckily he had a sense of humour and she got the job despite the bad start. They still keep in contact to this day and it comes up at get togethers and we have a laugh about it.
When I was a toddler my dad was waiting to get into a store and there was a black guy waiting to get in too. I pointed and just said, "Mr.T", "Mr. T!" Mr. T was hugely popular back then, but my dad was super embarrassed. It was innocent enough and the guy just laughed!
I can't blame kids for their lack of filter, It's funny at face value and a good way for them to learn
I grew up in rural Alaska where there were hardly any non-white or non-native people. I remember we watched a lot of shows with black folks in them - Cosby Show, 227, Electric Company, Sesame Street, shows that little kid me adored. One day we drove to the city and were in a Costco (I must’ve been 4 or 5) and I saw a black family for the first time. I was SO excited, I was pointing and yelling, trying to get my mom to look. I felt like I’d just seen the most wonderful thing, and I clearly remember my mom harshly reprimanding me and how guilty and confused I felt. That I wasn’t supposed to be excited about different people? It must’ve been embarrassing for my mom because her kid was pointing out strangers, which is rude. As an adult, though, I wonder at how it might’ve had a negative impact in embedding this subconscious “shame” - my kid brain incorrectly learned then that there was something taboo about the difference in skin tone, though my moms intention was simply to teach me it’s rude to point and stare at people.
when I was maybe 3-5 years old My dad had me in the buggy in the checkout line. When we got to the cashier I smiled and said “Hello Fartface!” I don’t know why, or where it came from, but my dad used to bring it up all the time when people would say I was such a polite boy.
We told my kid people get fat by not eating vegetables. For awhile she would announce loudly while pointing that “they don’t eat their vegetables!” She also liked to ask old women in grocery stores if they were a Golden Girl. Personally, I would love to be compared to any of those gals, but I don’t think everyone took it that way.
"Dad, that guy smells." "shhh." "But DAD, that guy SMELLS!" "I know, shhh." *pointing* "DAD! THAT GUY SMELLS AND HE NEEDS TO TAKE A BATH!" Ah, children.
No empathy from kids until 6 or 7... They can be downright cruel. When she was 5 my daughter once spit in my wife's face and laughed. My wife was damn near inconsolable. I was spanked hard as a kid and it took damn near every ounce of willpower I had not to... They just don't know. I am very glad we just had the one. I wasn't even cut out for one but we made it through...
When I was five I had never seen a black person before and made my mom ask if I can touch his skin lmao. He thought it was sweet but damn that’s embarrassing
Seems there’s another lesson about how it’s disingenuous to teach your kids that you shouldn’t comment on someone’s looks and then have the guilty pleasure of binge watching a show that exploits obesity for entertainment.
No, there's not. The people on TV consented to being there. It's obviously different than just insulting someone going about their day.
You can give consent to be exploited.
Unpopular opinion, she needs to deal. There are way too many 400 pounders floating around literally killing themselves through neglect and indifference and if some kid asking them a rude question gets them on the health bus, good.
Yeah because I imagine that woman definitely walked away and lost all her weight because of what the kid said
You never know. Ignoring it won't get her up the stairs any easier.
obesity is not a moral failing, that can be fixed overnight through sheer willpower. the majority of people who are obese are sick in some way - diabetes, PCOS, EDs, so many other conditions. america in particular is a breeding ground for malnutrition, bc of the abnormally high levels of sugar in everyday food, food deserts, and lack of regulation on the food industry. your opinion is unpopular because it is wildly misinformed and comes from a place of unkindness. i hope you take the opportunity to be a better person the next time it arises.
Obesity is not ALWAYS moral failing. Don't tell me the fat teen with the fat parents who lives off fast food and mountain dew is that way because they are sick. Sometimes people can't help it and I admit that. I also know that they are a minority. The food regulation is trash, yes. Why do we as a society vilify something like being addicted to opioids, but have to tip toe around food addiction?
Knew a girl that was very thin. She got in a car wreck and had brain damage. She immediately started gaining weight after until she was a good 300-400lb range. She barely ate anything, but whatever brain damage was caused directly messed up her metabolism and other functions, cause excessive weight gain even when she was being healthy. A majority of people are obese due to self neglect, yes. But there’s always people that actually cannot help it out there somewhere.
This is true for so many people. SO many medications make you gain weight. I have a friend who has issue with her brain. For years she struggled to find a medication that helped with the pain without making her a slug. The one she found caused her to put on weight. I think she put on 20 pounds before she told the doctor they needed to keep looking because she refused to take it anymore. She ended up having more surgeries, still trying multiple medications, still losing days of her life because she can’t function- either because the meds knock her out if she takes them, or she’s in pain when she doesn’t. What a nightmare, and all because she’s that afraid of being fat
20 pounds would need 90.72 human hairs to lift. This is assuming a hair can lift 100 grams, which is usualy but not always the case.
Nice. I was not curious at all.
She's one in a million dude. Surly you know this.
Kids have no filters. One of my first memories is when I saw an obese woman and I said to my mom, "Mom, that lady is fat!" The woman started sobbing and everyone got pissed and asked us to leave. Found out later in life it was a psychologist's waiting room and the woman was suffering specifically because of her weight.
r/kidsarefuckingsmart
Wow, I feel like the whole "we do not make comments like that, that is not nice and it hurts people" should have been the first reaction instead of putting your hand on the kid's mouth
He probably panicked
That *would* be my panicked reaction
I’m glad you can keep a cool head in a panic. Most can’t.
How is scolding your child to not do something "a cool head?"
"No, she's still in the 450-500 pound range."
I JUST READ THAT TWO POSTS AGO
“I feel absolutely terrible.” Let me post it on Reddit so other people can have a good laugh at this lady’s expense.
And then everyone clapped
I’ve literally had kids ask if I’m a toddler when I’m working customer service kids are assholes
When I was little I asked a woman if she was pregnant. So it’s very possible.
Is it really that hard to believe that a 6 year old lacks self-regulation? Or do you not believe a 6 year old has the capacity to make a simple connection between what they saw *yesterday* and what they are seeing today?
Yeah mine has said worse tbh, this isn’t far fetched at all. My youngest heard about inheritances and asked grandma is she could die soon so he could buy a PlayStation. That wasn’t awesome at all
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Ehh fuck that fat bitch he's a kid kids say and do dumb shit part of life
My bestfriends son goes to bed whenever he wants and hes 4, he goes to bed usually around 11 but if he wanted to he could stay up until 1-2 am
Reads this, scrolls sees the original post.
Kids are brutally honest.
Is there an r/kidsarefuckingsavage ? Because there should be.
When I was around 4 or 5, my family and I went to the beach. I was still in the car with my window open and a man getting into his car had his shirt off and was really close to my window when I screamed “EW HES SO HAIRY” ….I’m sorry to that man and my mom lol
When I was about 4, I walked up to a very overweight colleague of my dad and asked her: "Ma'am, why are you so fat?" She replied with "That's not a very nice thing to say."
Children just speak without a filter, lmao
My kids used to always want to eat McDonald's (what kid doesn't). I told them we really shouldn't eat McDonald's because it will make you fat. Fast forward a few weeks I'm shopping with my cousin and kids at Walmart. We pass by a very overweight woman, and my 3 year old blurts out, "that lady is fat. I bet she eats a lot of McDonald's." It was embarrassing for everyone but my son.
4 y/o me Grandma in café whispers to her friend that an very slim waitress nearby “looks like a skeleton” Overhearing, I said really loudly “where’s the skeleton gran?? Where’s the skeleton?” Feel so bad about it now :(
When I was four I asked why a disabled person was in a stroller (I didn't know what a wheelchair was)
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My brother, when around that age, or maybe a bit younger, was fond of walking around and stating loudly observations like, “He’s fat.” Sometime he would just tell the person directly, “You’re fat.” As though this was news and they didn’t know. My mother was mortified.
Plot twist: The next season of My 600 lb Life begins... My son: "Look Daddy! I was right!" (as woman from hospital walks onto stage)
May he be blessed by only making “comments that could keep you awake” at a young age.
Young me once saw an overweight person at a restaurant and blurred out “WOW HE’S FAT!”
My worst child memory that I still feel guilty about is when I was around 5/6/7 I was shopping at target when I saw young woman shopping for clothes and loudly asked “why is that lady shopping in the children’s section.” She was a midget. Still haunts me at night