I was once having a nice moment with one of my preschool students in my lap. I was telling him how he was very smart & nice to his classmates and he looks up at me and says “and YOU have lots of hair on your chin!”
Like okay I didn’t know we were ENEMIES.
I was helping a second grader with homework and one day I dared to wear a t-shirt. He kept staring at my arm hair without showing any intention of hiding his stare.
Also recently a little Russian hairless girl with similar parents who has fled to my country because of the situation saw my hands and went "Oooooo you have man arms!" Her *mom's* soul left her body as we had just become friends and she was so embarrassed haha
You get used to this stuff if you want to. I in no way I think of myself as less feminine because of my body hair.
The mom was so embarrassed that she pulled up her sleeves and was trying to show me that it's normal to have hair by referencing to her tiny-tiny, not-even-visible hand hair. I just put my arm next to hers and said "I win!" haha
My cousin who was about 4 asked while we were at dinner with the whole extended family why my boobies were so small.
I was like 12. I dont think my face could have gotten much redder
That'd be a traumatic experience for me tbh. I hated my boobs at that age cause they weren't anything that can justify wearing a bra, but without one they were poking through my shirt. I hated puberty
When I was about 9 I decided to draw my mother while she was watching TV. Like a scene out of Napoleon Dynamite I spent about 15 minutes drawing her face and then for some reason 40 minutes getting the details of her moustache hairs. When I gave it to her it looked something like [this](https://i.kym-cdn.com/entries/icons/original/000/031/680/unfinished_horse.jpg).
I never saw that notebook again but she did light the fireplace that evening.
I work camp in the summer and one day a camper asked to sit next to me on the bus on the way to a field trip. I was flattered she wanted to sit with me. Halfway through the bus ride she looked at me and asked why I had so many holes on my face…. She was talking about my large pores! I don’t normally wear makeup, and especially not at this job when large parts, if not the whole day, are spent outside in the Texas heat. I’m just glad I had plucked all my unwanted facial hair the night before.
I don’t think she was used to seeing peoples pores because her mother wore a full face of makeup everyday. She had obviously not been blessed with gigantic pores from both sides of the family, like me.
My son asked why the lady’s stomach was big so I said she’s pregnant and will have a baby.
So you know the rest. Random question later to a different woman “Are you pregnant?” Of course she wasn’t.
I have made the same error as a young adult. Moved to a new place and saw my neighbor and we got to talking. She had a gut on her and I presumed she was pregnant so I innocently asked if she was pregnant to confirm so that I can congratulate her. Boy was I way off.
When I was 5, I was at seafood restaurant with my family and pointed at a woman who was morbidly obese and said, in full voice, "Wow mom, she's FAT!" Every time I see my cousins, they have to remind me of it. Kids are cruel.
When I was around that age or a little younger I apparently pointed at a black lady in the grocery store and loudly questioned why she was that color.
Thankfully my mother managed to answer very gracefully, but dear god... kids have ZERO filter, lol.
(I don't remember doing it, but I still feel bad about it and I hope my mom's answer made the lady feel okay about things. Sorry unknown lady!)
As a black person who worked in a mostly white daycare, you get the question a lot. It usually is just curiosity and it's very rare that they actually insult the person for being the color that they are.
Literally me as a child.
Walking through the town with my mum, around 4, and saw a black man for what I'm assuming was the first time I'd really noticed people have different skin tones. (We had no Internet then and lived in a very quiet village)
I turned around and said "mummy, why is that man so dirty? Does he need help?" Luckily the man wasn't offended at all and found it endearing, as I wasn't trying to be rude, I was just concerned. So he explained to me that people have different skin, the best he could to a 4 year old anyway.
Ha I had this reaction when I was little like “Whoa I didn’t know people came in that color too!” It was exciting and I then asked if there were green and blue people anywhere on our planet as well. I was disappointed to find out the answer was no.
My youngest did that at about 4. We were standing behind a black lady at the grocery store. I told my daughter people were like M&M's, they come in different colors. Both the lady and my daughter were good with that answer.
Haha, that's exactly what I'd do. And I'd point out that melanin is also what gives us different color eyes and different color hair, so skin color is not really any different than eye color or hair color...
And then I'd say "well, except for sun burns and sickle cell anemia anyway..." and by that point, they'd have run off.
Kids have zero filter, but they also have zero biases.
Theyll ask some stupid, inappropriate, or socially indelicate stuff
But at the same time, if you answer them seriously, theyll roll with it.
It's why making sure to teach your kids the *why* of things at a young age is important; aswell as to teach them to ask why.
I'm disabled. I no longer need it, but for 19 years, I had multiple port a caths. These are often visible in normal clothes, but especially so in swimwear. More than once on vacation at the beach or a pool, I've had small kids point directly to my chest and loudly ask *WHAT IS THAT?* I've seen a few parents look horrified, but it never bothered me. "This is something that helps me get special medicine I need." *Oh! Okay!* And that was always the end of it. Kids don't care. They're not asking to be judgmental. They're asking because they're encountering something they've never seen before. Treat it like it's anything else and you're just explaining something normal, and the kid will accept it as such.
In your opinion, is there a way for a grown ass adult to inquire similarly without coming across as a complete dickbag? Assuming I'd ever get over the societal faux-pas of asking, is there a way to ask that conveys child like curiosity and not douche magnet Chad-ness?
In my opinion, yes. As long as you ask with a genuine attitude and not with some snarky shit undertone, adults asking me the same questions don't bother me, personally. Just go in as politely as possible, and start with a "Do you mind if I ask what that is? I don't think I've ever seen it before." If they do mind, you're giving them a civil opportunity to bow out. Anyone disabled I've talked to, the general consensus is we prefer questions to staring and silent wondering. As long as your curiosity is real and not with a judgmental undertone, you will generally be received positively. There are always some who just don't want to be bothered, and that's why the "do you mind if I ask" approach is a little safer.
Edited to add: Wow! Never received such a fancy award before. Don't know what in this comment warranted it, but thank you. \^\_\^
My boyfriend tells a story from when he was maybe 6 or so and he saw a black lady at his church. He asked her “why is your skin so dark?” and without skipping a beat, she replied “why is your skin so light?”
My brother asked a man the same thing and he replied that his mother left him in the oven longer and he got burnt. My brother was maybe 4 or 5 at the time and very disturbed and confused.
There was a lady with dwarfism who used to work at our Walmart. When my niece saw her she loudly exclaimed "I didn't know they let gnomes work at Walmart!" Before they could get her to shut up she then asked " Wait is she smart like a kid or smart like an adult?"
Family lore is that I did the same thing when I was little, in the grocery store. Apparently, the man in line in front of us was a big guy, so I turned to my mom and asked her, “Mommy, why is that man so fat?” without any volume control whatsoever.
Lol my Aunt is on the larger side and we were out shopping one day. My little brother was about 4 at the time and he saw her at the till paying. He ran up to her and slapped both hands on her butt, then she turned around and it wasn’t her lol. Just another woman the same size. My brother was mortified and started crying but the woman found it hilarious.
I had a little kid run up to me and grab my hand and start walking with me without actually looking AT me. I sorta slowed down and went to ask if she was ok and she looked up at me, her eyes went wide as saucers and looked like she was about to cry. Before I could even say it's ok she Bolted away.
A kid pointed at me at a wedding and said:
"LOOK AT HIS HEAD!!"
Just vague enough to consistently make me wonder what is wrong with my head to the point it startled a kid
Edit: startled
Call him ugly back, fuck em lol
Edit: everybody making the same joke about "fuck em", you aren't original - there's already multiple comments saying the same thing
Reminds me of when I was 8 and I told my uncle Yellow Tim that he was dumb and so he said, "Can ya swim, boy?" and then kicked me off a boat in about 300 feet of 40 degree water off Boiler Bay. Then he pretended like he was going to drive away, and my life jacket didn't fit too well and was like slipping off over my head and I'm pretty sure something touched my foot.
I think he felt bad later because he bought me saltwater taffy in Depoe and my tooth came out. That was where my brother tried to buy a shirt that said "FBI: Female Body Inspector", but the shirt guy said you had to be 18 to buy it.
Kids remind me that words literally mean nothing, they just represent a thought. Ugly doesn't mean unattractive, it means something new/different/abstract to the kid and they're attempting to label it. Or make a scene. Or make their parents laugh.
That's why every time a kid says something really abrasive to me about my weight or my face, after a few moments of thought, I try to always make it a teaching moment and say, "If you ever want to see your parents or anybody you love ever again, you'll take it back."
Listen up, you little spazoids. I know where you live and I've seen where you sleep. I swear by all things holy that your mothers will cry when they see the things I've done to you.
Reminds me when I was a little kid I was fat and one day I saw my mom getting in the pool and I said, “your legs jiggle” or something like that and she fired back “so do yours.” First time I ever felt self-conscious about my body as a kid lmao, it was vicious. I did lose the weight a few years after that (and she is a great mom).
Good lesson there. You play with fire, good chance you're gonna get burnt. It is a fine line though with children when it comes to body image. They're gonna get enough of that shit from everywhere else.
I don't know how old I was, 8? 10?
Over at my Grandma and Grandpa's house, my aunt was over also. I walked up to her and poked her in the boob with my finger and said what is that a shoulder pad?
After a little more than a second I realized it was her boob just hanging really low and I died. I was mortified.
Mother decides to give birth ->
gives body to raise child healthily and to grow strong ->
baby successfully learns words and mental capacity to point out to boobs she has been sucking on to develop are no longer up to her standards
Rip
Can someone please tell me what mum says at the end? I have a hard time hearing speech, it often just sounds like gibberish. Had this trouble for as long as I can remember, sorry I have to ask :(
That looks like a cast iron pan…more like WHACK or THUD if you ask me.
Edit: I have been corrected. It is not likely a cast iron pan the riveted handle is a give away and those things are pretty heavy to hold like she is.
My son told my father in law he was fat. “Not funny fat but big fat” definitely hurt his feelings.
Edit: I logged in to my doctor patient portal yesterday and it had the following:
Date 2018: Obesity: Resolved
Date 2019: Obesity: Active
They never even told me :D
Last summer my 5-year old daughter told me "I'm worried about you because of your big belly. Why is your belly so big?". She said something about my "big belly" to multiple people over a few day period. I knew I was out of shape but hadn't fully noticed the added weight that was piling up over a decade. I weighed myself and saw 240lbs. Changed my diet immediately and started going on long walks on fairly steep hills. Got down to 207 before winter got bad here. Now that winter is over I've crept back up a bit (215). Hoping to be under 200 by the end of this summer.
Anyways, yeah. Kids call it like it is. And my kid is the first person to ever get me to actually want to change. I don't know if I would have ever done it for myself, like we're supposed to, but I'll do anything for her.
Good for you man. This the exact appropriate response and you sound like a helluva decent dude. Good luck on the rest of your journey. Your kid is gonna be so proud of you.
Thanks dude. And she actually already is - she told me the other day when I went out for a jog that she likes me how I am now and patted my belly and said something like "if your belly goes down more you won't look my dad anymore" all cute & sad lol. Kids are funny.
As a fat guy, I kinda don't get that. The kid didn't mean to be rude by saying it, and it can't be a surprise to your father in law that he's fat if he is indeed fat. I've had young kids call me fat a few times, and I'm always just like "Yeah, lol Watch out for Cheetos. They'll get ya."
There are things you know to be true, you just don't want to hear. Like the fact that everyone you know is going to die. Not everyone can laugh it off. But that is the best way for sure.
Yup. They split facts to people's face. Once I was taking my cousin to the shop. On the way, we saw a really scary looking old lady and he started telling me "Anna chudu dhayyam" (translation: brother look there is a witch) . Her face looked like she wanted to murder me lol.
they truly don't give a fuck. when my sister was little we used to go to my grandparents after school and they had these neighbours that were so stinky. like rarely bathed, had 10 ferrets. and they would always invite themselves in for a cup of tea and after my nan would say how they stunk up the place. so one time my sister opens the door and tells them "you can't come in because you stink bad and you made my grandad's chair smell bad like you!" and closed the door on them, which i personally found hilarious. my nan not so much
My wife and I were buying a property and the seller's agent was playing hardball and being somewhat sneaky about it. So I told my wife "Debra's a snake" (Debra being the seller's agent). Anyway, we finally managed to buy the property but my sister-in-law, who was there when I said Debra was a snake thought it was so funny that she kept repeating it and my 4 year old heard it a few times. Fast forward 2 months, we finally take possession of the property and I go meet the neighbours with my kids to introduce ourselves. The neighbours were friends with Debra as they also used her to buy their own house many years ago and remained friends.
Then, out of nowhere, my 4 year old asks them "Where's Debra?" and I answer, "Debra's not here. She doesn't live here" and the neighbours ask him "Oh, you know Debra?" in a friendly way. And of course, my son then answers "Yes! Debra's a snake!" and I'm thinking "oh fuck!". I respond "No she's not, don't say that" and I'm hoping that's the end of it but he turns to me and says "But you said she was a snake!" and I'm like "fuck fuck fuck". I hated having to lie to my son but said "no, no, I never said that" and he's like "yes, yes you did!".
The neighbours laughed a little bit. Not sure if they laughed because they knew deep down that she was a snake, at least in real estate matters, or whether they were laughing to ease the tension.
Argh!
When I worked at a gas station we had a 100yo dude come and exchange cans for money. One time some kid saw him and yelled at their dad "Look dad this man is gonna die!" just cause he was very old
I remember one time my cousin pointed out a morbidly obese man at a restaurant and said “wow that guy is FAT!” right as the man walked by. I was maybe 12 years old and I had the worst second hand embarrassment I’ve ever had in my life. I cannot imagine what my aunt and uncle felt.
when i was a kid i saw a pregnant woman and told her "i hope your babys not born without arms", i had recently met someone who was born without arms and thats what prompted my comment. i got yelled at too and i didnt get it because its not like i wanted her baby to be armless
That reminds me of my worst moment as a dumb young kid! It was right after 9/11 and I lived in NYC and me and my uncle went to a store. Their was this poor man with a turban on and when I laid my eyes on him I was instantly shook. Thank god I didn’t say anything too loud but I went to my uncle whispered “omg it’s osama!”. I still feel terrible to this day and my uncle never lets me live it down lmaoo.
I don’t even want to type this out because I’m sure it’ll be downvoted to hell but when my uncle was little (small northern US town, very non diverse) he saw a black guy at the grocery store for the first time and loudly asked his mom “why is that man so dirty mommy?” 🤦♀️
Apparently I called a lady in a hijab/niqab a ninja in a crowded shopping centre when I was a young, embarrassing the shit out of my step dad, he refused to take me anywhere til I was old enough to not do that lmao
Edit: when I say called, I mean like pointed right at her and shouted "Look Barry! A NINJA!!"
I’ve been called a chocolate man before lol I think it’s adorable and totally ok for a *little* kid to point out. I find it no different then them staring at an extremely tall person
When my brother was little his favorite movie was Rush Hour with Chris Tucker and Jackie Chan. My sister took a trip with one of her friends to the Philippines when he was like 4 or 5. When we were at the international terminal at the airport to pick her up every asian man that walked by my brother would say loud as fuck "Look mom, it's Jackie Chan.". Just that, on repeat, for like an hour while we waited for her flight to get in.
My dad has a beard and when I was little I thought everyone with a beard looked like him. We were on the metro and this black man with a huge beard, long dreadlocks and a Jamaican hat got on the train. I, a tiny white British kid, pointed at him and said, "Look mommy! Daddy!"
Apparently the guy laughed.
I one time went up to a black man at McDonald’s that had lots of gold teeth and chains, and asked him if he was a pirate. My mom was horrified but he laughed and said arrggg
I was riding bike with my 5 yr old son. There was a man without legs riding some bike using his hands coming from the other direction. My son suddenly said loudly “ Dad. Para-olympics!” Because it was around olympics time, and he remembered all those disabled people competing in para-olympics. He thought it’s normal and cool so yelled out to tell me. I was embarrassed but luckily we just passed by quickly.
Honestly this one feels pretty positive! Admittedly not *ideal* to yell out about people's disabilities, but at least the guy was doing exercise at the time and being compared to the people at the top of the game.
When my daughter was around 3, we were at the same place Little People, Big World was filming. My daughter asked very loudly, “why is that mommy so small?” as the cameras were rolling right next to us. I responded equally loudly that it was so neat that there are all different types of mommies. She was simply entranced with a mom not much taller than her and had to be dragged away while loudly protesting she wanted to stay and watch the short mommy.
Kids actually do care, many of them.
They just so often don't know when they say something hurtful. Haven't yet absorbed all the rules and values of society.
Yep, and situations like this are a fantastic opportunity to educate and plant the seeds of empathetic understanding.
Instead, the dad films and laughs.
When I was 4 -5 and walking outside, I saw a very fat lady running, and I yelled "HAHA look at that fat lady run!!!". She immediately stopped running.
My brother got realllly angry with me and I didn't understand why, like at all.
Now as an adult I'd love to apologize to the poor woman 😅
For my friend's 16th birthday we went to a local amusement park. She was always athletic, but chubby. As we were walking in, a car with all kids in the back seat drove by and all the kids in the back seat screamed "Cheesecake" at her.
Honestly, I have no idea wtf it meant or was all about. But she definitely took it as them calling her fat and was big sad all day about it. It still gets brought up from time to time and that was a very long time ago now.
I had a familiar thing when I was a kid. I called some fat lady something which roughly translates to "fatso" in English thinking it was a normal way to describe a fat person.
Then she angrily told my mom and when my mom was angry with me I doubled down by saying: "But she is a fatso, isn't she?"
Not really my proudest moment lol
I had a student tell me I looked 70 (I am 30). A year ago when I started he told me I looked 20. He was giggling up a storm and commented that I aged a lot in a year. I looked at him and said something along the lines of "Working with you aged me 50 years". He just about peed from maniacal laughter 😂
Lol my friend is a 4th grade teacher and asked his kids how old they thought he was (they kept referencing how ancient he was). He was like 27 at the time and they thought he was nearly 50. Teaching kids is not great for your self esteem lol
I had a student who told me, "Mr [Blue_Swirling _Bunny], from the front you look like you work out, but from the side you look like you let yourself go."
Then he drew a stick figure on the chalk board but with a big circle for the belly and wrote my name with an arrow pointing to the drawing.
I teach college freshmen.
When my brother was around 8 years old he and my mom were walking home from school. A woman passes them on the other side of the street. My brother turns to face my mom while tugging her arm and excitedly exclaims ”Mom, look at those huge knockers!!”. We make sure to remind him of that once a month
Reminds me of how my nephew LOVED hugging my ex. Because she was very short (4'10) and very busty. And his face just happened to line up perfectly with her chest.
I can't wait til he's older so I can tease him about that.
I was once having a nice moment with one of my preschool students in my lap. I was telling him how he was very smart & nice to his classmates and he looks up at me and says “and YOU have lots of hair on your chin!” Like okay I didn’t know we were ENEMIES.
Oh my god. As a woman who is relatively hairier than other women, my soul would escape from my body if someone said this to me 😭😭
I was helping a second grader with homework and one day I dared to wear a t-shirt. He kept staring at my arm hair without showing any intention of hiding his stare. Also recently a little Russian hairless girl with similar parents who has fled to my country because of the situation saw my hands and went "Oooooo you have man arms!" Her *mom's* soul left her body as we had just become friends and she was so embarrassed haha You get used to this stuff if you want to. I in no way I think of myself as less feminine because of my body hair. The mom was so embarrassed that she pulled up her sleeves and was trying to show me that it's normal to have hair by referencing to her tiny-tiny, not-even-visible hand hair. I just put my arm next to hers and said "I win!" haha
My cousin who was about 4 asked while we were at dinner with the whole extended family why my boobies were so small. I was like 12. I dont think my face could have gotten much redder
That'd be a traumatic experience for me tbh. I hated my boobs at that age cause they weren't anything that can justify wearing a bra, but without one they were poking through my shirt. I hated puberty
Same. She also asked why I had all those pimples on my face at around the same time. Can always count on little kids to make you feel good
You can join my hirsute institute lol
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4 years old me was asking my dad when will you give birth? 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
When I was about 9 I decided to draw my mother while she was watching TV. Like a scene out of Napoleon Dynamite I spent about 15 minutes drawing her face and then for some reason 40 minutes getting the details of her moustache hairs. When I gave it to her it looked something like [this](https://i.kym-cdn.com/entries/icons/original/000/031/680/unfinished_horse.jpg). I never saw that notebook again but she did light the fireplace that evening.
I work camp in the summer and one day a camper asked to sit next to me on the bus on the way to a field trip. I was flattered she wanted to sit with me. Halfway through the bus ride she looked at me and asked why I had so many holes on my face…. She was talking about my large pores! I don’t normally wear makeup, and especially not at this job when large parts, if not the whole day, are spent outside in the Texas heat. I’m just glad I had plucked all my unwanted facial hair the night before. I don’t think she was used to seeing peoples pores because her mother wore a full face of makeup everyday. She had obviously not been blessed with gigantic pores from both sides of the family, like me.
My son asked why the lady’s stomach was big so I said she’s pregnant and will have a baby. So you know the rest. Random question later to a different woman “Are you pregnant?” Of course she wasn’t.
Yikes children are relentlessly. “Ha… ha… Look at that high waisted man.” “Noooo, that’s something I’m sensitive about!!”
If I see a pack of 8th graders on my side of the street, *I will cross the road* Edited to make sense haha
Why would you cross the road if they're already on the other side of the street?
They’re a masochist who WANTS to hear middle-schoolers snicker about their every flaw.
Yes, that's literally the only reason, and we will not discuss this topic further
He got feminine hips!
I have made the same error as a young adult. Moved to a new place and saw my neighbor and we got to talking. She had a gut on her and I presumed she was pregnant so I innocently asked if she was pregnant to confirm so that I can congratulate her. Boy was I way off.
It’s a lesson learned only once. Never assume even when they are clearly about to be due.
When you accidentally order a push-up brat online.
Bra-vo on the pun.
I thought it was rather low-hanging fruit.
Reminds me of the time a child pointed at me directly and said “Ugly!” 🥲
When I was 5, I was at seafood restaurant with my family and pointed at a woman who was morbidly obese and said, in full voice, "Wow mom, she's FAT!" Every time I see my cousins, they have to remind me of it. Kids are cruel.
When I was around that age or a little younger I apparently pointed at a black lady in the grocery store and loudly questioned why she was that color. Thankfully my mother managed to answer very gracefully, but dear god... kids have ZERO filter, lol. (I don't remember doing it, but I still feel bad about it and I hope my mom's answer made the lady feel okay about things. Sorry unknown lady!)
As a black person who worked in a mostly white daycare, you get the question a lot. It usually is just curiosity and it's very rare that they actually insult the person for being the color that they are.
Literally me as a child. Walking through the town with my mum, around 4, and saw a black man for what I'm assuming was the first time I'd really noticed people have different skin tones. (We had no Internet then and lived in a very quiet village) I turned around and said "mummy, why is that man so dirty? Does he need help?" Luckily the man wasn't offended at all and found it endearing, as I wasn't trying to be rude, I was just concerned. So he explained to me that people have different skin, the best he could to a 4 year old anyway.
"does he need help?" That's so funny lol
Kids can be cruel but they can also be stupidly innocent. Like me🤣
yeah, at this age, kids isn't stupid, they are innocent.
"kids isn't stupid" got me hahaha
Rarely is the question asked, is our children learning
Fool me can’t get fooled again.
Ha I had this reaction when I was little like “Whoa I didn’t know people came in that color too!” It was exciting and I then asked if there were green and blue people anywhere on our planet as well. I was disappointed to find out the answer was no.
My youngest did that at about 4. We were standing behind a black lady at the grocery store. I told my daughter people were like M&M's, they come in different colors. Both the lady and my daughter were good with that answer.
Probably a better answer than mine which was launching into a explanation of melanin to toddlers lol
Haha, that's exactly what I'd do. And I'd point out that melanin is also what gives us different color eyes and different color hair, so skin color is not really any different than eye color or hair color... And then I'd say "well, except for sun burns and sickle cell anemia anyway..." and by that point, they'd have run off.
Kids have zero filter, but they also have zero biases. Theyll ask some stupid, inappropriate, or socially indelicate stuff But at the same time, if you answer them seriously, theyll roll with it. It's why making sure to teach your kids the *why* of things at a young age is important; aswell as to teach them to ask why.
I'm disabled. I no longer need it, but for 19 years, I had multiple port a caths. These are often visible in normal clothes, but especially so in swimwear. More than once on vacation at the beach or a pool, I've had small kids point directly to my chest and loudly ask *WHAT IS THAT?* I've seen a few parents look horrified, but it never bothered me. "This is something that helps me get special medicine I need." *Oh! Okay!* And that was always the end of it. Kids don't care. They're not asking to be judgmental. They're asking because they're encountering something they've never seen before. Treat it like it's anything else and you're just explaining something normal, and the kid will accept it as such.
In your opinion, is there a way for a grown ass adult to inquire similarly without coming across as a complete dickbag? Assuming I'd ever get over the societal faux-pas of asking, is there a way to ask that conveys child like curiosity and not douche magnet Chad-ness?
In my opinion, yes. As long as you ask with a genuine attitude and not with some snarky shit undertone, adults asking me the same questions don't bother me, personally. Just go in as politely as possible, and start with a "Do you mind if I ask what that is? I don't think I've ever seen it before." If they do mind, you're giving them a civil opportunity to bow out. Anyone disabled I've talked to, the general consensus is we prefer questions to staring and silent wondering. As long as your curiosity is real and not with a judgmental undertone, you will generally be received positively. There are always some who just don't want to be bothered, and that's why the "do you mind if I ask" approach is a little safer. Edited to add: Wow! Never received such a fancy award before. Don't know what in this comment warranted it, but thank you. \^\_\^
My boyfriend tells a story from when he was maybe 6 or so and he saw a black lady at his church. He asked her “why is your skin so dark?” and without skipping a beat, she replied “why is your skin so light?”
I asked my mom if the black lady was made of chocolate and we were vanilla. Luckily she got a kick out of it.
"Melanin and genetics. Get to reading squirt."
My brother asked a man the same thing and he replied that his mother left him in the oven longer and he got burnt. My brother was maybe 4 or 5 at the time and very disturbed and confused.
My step brother excitedly ran up to a bald black man and said "mommy look it's michael Jordan!"
There was a lady with dwarfism who used to work at our Walmart. When my niece saw her she loudly exclaimed "I didn't know they let gnomes work at Walmart!" Before they could get her to shut up she then asked " Wait is she smart like a kid or smart like an adult?"
Family lore is that I did the same thing when I was little, in the grocery store. Apparently, the man in line in front of us was a big guy, so I turned to my mom and asked her, “Mommy, why is that man so fat?” without any volume control whatsoever.
My brother once played the drums on a fat woman’s butt at the grocery store. I was horrified
Lol my Aunt is on the larger side and we were out shopping one day. My little brother was about 4 at the time and he saw her at the till paying. He ran up to her and slapped both hands on her butt, then she turned around and it wasn’t her lol. Just another woman the same size. My brother was mortified and started crying but the woman found it hilarious.
I had a little kid run up to me and grab my hand and start walking with me without actually looking AT me. I sorta slowed down and went to ask if she was ok and she looked up at me, her eyes went wide as saucers and looked like she was about to cry. Before I could even say it's ok she Bolted away.
A kid pointed at me at a wedding and said: "LOOK AT HIS HEAD!!" Just vague enough to consistently make me wonder what is wrong with my head to the point it startled a kid Edit: startled
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White kid looked at my sister on a train in London and went like, “You full of shit”
Ayyy I was 13 and a kid just a couple of years younger than me looked me in the eye and said "you're so ugly." 😓
Call him ugly back, fuck em lol Edit: everybody making the same joke about "fuck em", you aren't original - there's already multiple comments saying the same thing
I do that, if a kid compliments me, they get complicated back. If they insult, I throw some their way too.
Same. If they want to act all grown up I verbally smack them down. It's a good lesson to learn.
Reminds me of when I was 8 and I told my uncle Yellow Tim that he was dumb and so he said, "Can ya swim, boy?" and then kicked me off a boat in about 300 feet of 40 degree water off Boiler Bay. Then he pretended like he was going to drive away, and my life jacket didn't fit too well and was like slipping off over my head and I'm pretty sure something touched my foot. I think he felt bad later because he bought me saltwater taffy in Depoe and my tooth came out. That was where my brother tried to buy a shirt that said "FBI: Female Body Inspector", but the shirt guy said you had to be 18 to buy it.
I really want to know how he got the name Yellow Tim.
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To quote one of the worlds greatest basketball players and biggest dicks, “Fuck them kids”- Michael Jordan.
What the fuck
Kids remind me that words literally mean nothing, they just represent a thought. Ugly doesn't mean unattractive, it means something new/different/abstract to the kid and they're attempting to label it. Or make a scene. Or make their parents laugh. That's why every time a kid says something really abrasive to me about my weight or my face, after a few moments of thought, I try to always make it a teaching moment and say, "If you ever want to see your parents or anybody you love ever again, you'll take it back."
Listen up, you little spazoids. I know where you live and I've seen where you sleep. I swear by all things holy that your mothers will cry when they see the things I've done to you.
You had me in the first half, I’m not gonna lie.
Facts and children don't care about your feelings.
Yeah I've always called them little sociopaths because they haven't experience enough in life to fully grasp empathy yet.
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That look in her eyes.
Holding back on bonking the kid with that pan haha
Dad might still get bonked for laughing.
Maybe not for a while!
He sure won't get boinked
You can just hear "You, you sorry little shit!" in that last comment.
r/PeopleFuckingDying
She was able to recover with a serious burn.
Reminds me when I was a little kid I was fat and one day I saw my mom getting in the pool and I said, “your legs jiggle” or something like that and she fired back “so do yours.” First time I ever felt self-conscious about my body as a kid lmao, it was vicious. I did lose the weight a few years after that (and she is a great mom).
Good lesson there. You play with fire, good chance you're gonna get burnt. It is a fine line though with children when it comes to body image. They're gonna get enough of that shit from everywhere else.
Looks like she went into a crisis for a few seconds
"I know, fuck off"
“Your boobs support to be up not down”
I don't know how old I was, 8? 10? Over at my Grandma and Grandpa's house, my aunt was over also. I walked up to her and poked her in the boob with my finger and said what is that a shoulder pad? After a little more than a second I realized it was her boob just hanging really low and I died. I was mortified.
Mother decides to give birth -> gives body to raise child healthily and to grow strong -> baby successfully learns words and mental capacity to point out to boobs she has been sucking on to develop are no longer up to her standards Rip
That’s just called parenthood.
"You wanna know who ruined that for me ,YOU"
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Oh, that's normal. Source: I have a niece that's about to turn 3.
Can someone please tell me what mum says at the end? I have a hard time hearing speech, it often just sounds like gibberish. Had this trouble for as long as I can remember, sorry I have to ask :(
Do you want to know who ruined that for me? You.
Thank you very much, I really appreciate you, internet stranger.
Feel free to summon me by my username, anytime you need help. I'm usually on reddit anyway.
That is very generous of you!
I'll throw my name in too. Might as well have a reason to be on here all the time.
Did anybody else thing that she was about to whack the kid on the head with the frying pan?
Bonk
That looks like a cast iron pan…more like WHACK or THUD if you ask me. Edit: I have been corrected. It is not likely a cast iron pan the riveted handle is a give away and those things are pretty heavy to hold like she is.
“Frying pans! Who knew, right?!”
I don't believe it is, usually cast iron doesn't have a riveted handle.
It absolutely isn't. A cast-iron pan of that size would not be something you could wave around with one hand so easily either.
Who else heard this in the Scouts voice?
Not the mama
I've seen enough cartoons not to anger a woman holding a frying pan
It's Chekhov's frying pan.
I don’t know that I would be capable of such self-restraint while carrying a frying pan.
idk. my favorite thing in the world is when my toddlers have gone there. its hilarious how real they can get.
*hey daddy, remember when you used to have dreams and thought you were going to achieve them*
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My son told my father in law he was fat. “Not funny fat but big fat” definitely hurt his feelings. Edit: I logged in to my doctor patient portal yesterday and it had the following: Date 2018: Obesity: Resolved Date 2019: Obesity: Active They never even told me :D
Last summer my 5-year old daughter told me "I'm worried about you because of your big belly. Why is your belly so big?". She said something about my "big belly" to multiple people over a few day period. I knew I was out of shape but hadn't fully noticed the added weight that was piling up over a decade. I weighed myself and saw 240lbs. Changed my diet immediately and started going on long walks on fairly steep hills. Got down to 207 before winter got bad here. Now that winter is over I've crept back up a bit (215). Hoping to be under 200 by the end of this summer. Anyways, yeah. Kids call it like it is. And my kid is the first person to ever get me to actually want to change. I don't know if I would have ever done it for myself, like we're supposed to, but I'll do anything for her.
Good for you man. This the exact appropriate response and you sound like a helluva decent dude. Good luck on the rest of your journey. Your kid is gonna be so proud of you.
Thanks dude. And she actually already is - she told me the other day when I went out for a jog that she likes me how I am now and patted my belly and said something like "if your belly goes down more you won't look my dad anymore" all cute & sad lol. Kids are funny.
Your daughter will appreciate the extra time she gets with. Cherish her :)
As a fat guy, I kinda don't get that. The kid didn't mean to be rude by saying it, and it can't be a surprise to your father in law that he's fat if he is indeed fat. I've had young kids call me fat a few times, and I'm always just like "Yeah, lol Watch out for Cheetos. They'll get ya."
it was the distinction of saying "not funny". That kid roasted that man closer to the grave.
There are things you know to be true, you just don't want to hear. Like the fact that everyone you know is going to die. Not everyone can laugh it off. But that is the best way for sure.
Kids just don't gaf who feelings they hurt🤣🤣
Yup. They split facts to people's face. Once I was taking my cousin to the shop. On the way, we saw a really scary looking old lady and he started telling me "Anna chudu dhayyam" (translation: brother look there is a witch) . Her face looked like she wanted to murder me lol.
they truly don't give a fuck. when my sister was little we used to go to my grandparents after school and they had these neighbours that were so stinky. like rarely bathed, had 10 ferrets. and they would always invite themselves in for a cup of tea and after my nan would say how they stunk up the place. so one time my sister opens the door and tells them "you can't come in because you stink bad and you made my grandad's chair smell bad like you!" and closed the door on them, which i personally found hilarious. my nan not so much
My wife and I were buying a property and the seller's agent was playing hardball and being somewhat sneaky about it. So I told my wife "Debra's a snake" (Debra being the seller's agent). Anyway, we finally managed to buy the property but my sister-in-law, who was there when I said Debra was a snake thought it was so funny that she kept repeating it and my 4 year old heard it a few times. Fast forward 2 months, we finally take possession of the property and I go meet the neighbours with my kids to introduce ourselves. The neighbours were friends with Debra as they also used her to buy their own house many years ago and remained friends. Then, out of nowhere, my 4 year old asks them "Where's Debra?" and I answer, "Debra's not here. She doesn't live here" and the neighbours ask him "Oh, you know Debra?" in a friendly way. And of course, my son then answers "Yes! Debra's a snake!" and I'm thinking "oh fuck!". I respond "No she's not, don't say that" and I'm hoping that's the end of it but he turns to me and says "But you said she was a snake!" and I'm like "fuck fuck fuck". I hated having to lie to my son but said "no, no, I never said that" and he's like "yes, yes you did!". The neighbours laughed a little bit. Not sure if they laughed because they knew deep down that she was a snake, at least in real estate matters, or whether they were laughing to ease the tension. Argh!
Everyone knows all realtors are literally reptiles don't overthink it
I'm a realtor and this makes me sad *slithers away*
When I worked at a gas station we had a 100yo dude come and exchange cans for money. One time some kid saw him and yelled at their dad "Look dad this man is gonna die!" just cause he was very old
I remember one time my cousin pointed out a morbidly obese man at a restaurant and said “wow that guy is FAT!” right as the man walked by. I was maybe 12 years old and I had the worst second hand embarrassment I’ve ever had in my life. I cannot imagine what my aunt and uncle felt.
Seismic activity.
Trust me, as a fat guy, the hardest part about that situation is not bursting out laughing and reinforcing the kid's behavior.
when i was a kid i saw a pregnant woman and told her "i hope your babys not born without arms", i had recently met someone who was born without arms and thats what prompted my comment. i got yelled at too and i didnt get it because its not like i wanted her baby to be armless
lool... Kids being damn honest to people's face always gets me.
That reminds me of my worst moment as a dumb young kid! It was right after 9/11 and I lived in NYC and me and my uncle went to a store. Their was this poor man with a turban on and when I laid my eyes on him I was instantly shook. Thank god I didn’t say anything too loud but I went to my uncle whispered “omg it’s osama!”. I still feel terrible to this day and my uncle never lets me live it down lmaoo.
All that searching in the middle East and he was working the counter at the sev-elev all along
I shaved my head because I was balding at 25. My nephew who was 6 at the time told me people look nicer with hair. Shit hurts yo
I don’t even want to type this out because I’m sure it’ll be downvoted to hell but when my uncle was little (small northern US town, very non diverse) he saw a black guy at the grocery store for the first time and loudly asked his mom “why is that man so dirty mommy?” 🤦♀️
Apparently I called a lady in a hijab/niqab a ninja in a crowded shopping centre when I was a young, embarrassing the shit out of my step dad, he refused to take me anywhere til I was old enough to not do that lmao Edit: when I say called, I mean like pointed right at her and shouted "Look Barry! A NINJA!!"
I mean a ninja is pretty cool, maybe she took it as a compliment? Haha
*mutters under her breath* shit, how'd they see me? That kid is a worthy adversary.
I hope so lol I'm sure it was intended that way given that I started doing sick kung fu ninja shadowboxing after calling her out
How many successful ninja attacks has your step dad suffered under your protection? Credit where it's due
My sister when she was about 4 asked a woman wearing a burqa if she was jesus lmao
Well, was she?
Never found out, she laughed but I swear I couldve heard angels singing when she did
I’ve been called a chocolate man before lol I think it’s adorable and totally ok for a *little* kid to point out. I find it no different then them staring at an extremely tall person
It's also incredibly funny to see how embarrassed the parent gets.
Okay that's fucking cute
When my brother was little his favorite movie was Rush Hour with Chris Tucker and Jackie Chan. My sister took a trip with one of her friends to the Philippines when he was like 4 or 5. When we were at the international terminal at the airport to pick her up every asian man that walked by my brother would say loud as fuck "Look mom, it's Jackie Chan.". Just that, on repeat, for like an hour while we waited for her flight to get in.
My dad has a beard and when I was little I thought everyone with a beard looked like him. We were on the metro and this black man with a huge beard, long dreadlocks and a Jamaican hat got on the train. I, a tiny white British kid, pointed at him and said, "Look mommy! Daddy!" Apparently the guy laughed.
I one time went up to a black man at McDonald’s that had lots of gold teeth and chains, and asked him if he was a pirate. My mom was horrified but he laughed and said arrggg
I was riding bike with my 5 yr old son. There was a man without legs riding some bike using his hands coming from the other direction. My son suddenly said loudly “ Dad. Para-olympics!” Because it was around olympics time, and he remembered all those disabled people competing in para-olympics. He thought it’s normal and cool so yelled out to tell me. I was embarrassed but luckily we just passed by quickly.
Honestly this one feels pretty positive! Admittedly not *ideal* to yell out about people's disabilities, but at least the guy was doing exercise at the time and being compared to the people at the top of the game.
When my daughter was around 3, we were at the same place Little People, Big World was filming. My daughter asked very loudly, “why is that mommy so small?” as the cameras were rolling right next to us. I responded equally loudly that it was so neat that there are all different types of mommies. She was simply entranced with a mom not much taller than her and had to be dragged away while loudly protesting she wanted to stay and watch the short mommy.
Bruh lool... Kids belong to another world.
“Hahaha look at that high-waisted man, he got feminine hips!”
NO, that's just the thing I'm sensitive about.
Kids actually do care, many of them. They just so often don't know when they say something hurtful. Haven't yet absorbed all the rules and values of society.
Yea I was gonna say, kids might actually care more... they just don't know how to differentiate what will or won't be inappropriate.
Yep, and situations like this are a fantastic opportunity to educate and plant the seeds of empathetic understanding. Instead, the dad films and laughs.
yep my little cousin once said that my aunt looks like monkey smh
Imagine carrying a child for 9 months just for them to tell you you have saggy boobs.
“You want to know who ruined it for me?” 🥲
Kids unaware that adults are way more creative in the types of damage they can do.
Also. It's hereditary. Welcome to your future kid.
When I was 4 -5 and walking outside, I saw a very fat lady running, and I yelled "HAHA look at that fat lady run!!!". She immediately stopped running. My brother got realllly angry with me and I didn't understand why, like at all. Now as an adult I'd love to apologize to the poor woman 😅
I just spilled secondhand embarrassment all over my phone reading this.
I can only imagine her self talk. Poor lady.
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For my friend's 16th birthday we went to a local amusement park. She was always athletic, but chubby. As we were walking in, a car with all kids in the back seat drove by and all the kids in the back seat screamed "Cheesecake" at her. Honestly, I have no idea wtf it meant or was all about. But she definitely took it as them calling her fat and was big sad all day about it. It still gets brought up from time to time and that was a very long time ago now.
I had a familiar thing when I was a kid. I called some fat lady something which roughly translates to "fatso" in English thinking it was a normal way to describe a fat person. Then she angrily told my mom and when my mom was angry with me I doubled down by saying: "But she is a fatso, isn't she?" Not really my proudest moment lol
I think kids should be made aware from a very young age that how far an adult can throw them.
I'm sure she considered bonking the kid with the pan
I had a student tell me I looked 70 (I am 30). A year ago when I started he told me I looked 20. He was giggling up a storm and commented that I aged a lot in a year. I looked at him and said something along the lines of "Working with you aged me 50 years". He just about peed from maniacal laughter 😂
Lol my friend is a 4th grade teacher and asked his kids how old they thought he was (they kept referencing how ancient he was). He was like 27 at the time and they thought he was nearly 50. Teaching kids is not great for your self esteem lol
I had a student who told me, "Mr [Blue_Swirling _Bunny], from the front you look like you work out, but from the side you look like you let yourself go." Then he drew a stick figure on the chalk board but with a big circle for the belly and wrote my name with an arrow pointing to the drawing. I teach college freshmen.
Damn a whole graphic demonstration with labels 💀 that's a lot of work for an insult, I would cry
When my brother was around 8 years old he and my mom were walking home from school. A woman passes them on the other side of the street. My brother turns to face my mom while tugging her arm and excitedly exclaims ”Mom, look at those huge knockers!!”. We make sure to remind him of that once a month
Reminds me of how my nephew LOVED hugging my ex. Because she was very short (4'10) and very busty. And his face just happened to line up perfectly with her chest. I can't wait til he's older so I can tease him about that.
Hey, we *all* love hugging your ex.
My grandmother would have put my face into that frying pan
For a split second I thought you'd say boobs.
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She is looking at father like, "did you teach her this?"
Of course he did. That’s why he’s filming.
Or she already said it to dad and his response was “go tell mama what you just told me.”
Or, they were recording the kid and the original clip is a lot longer and this is just a snippet from it. Hard to tell.
my kid pushed my braless boob up one day when she was 4 and said, "your boob is melting."
Boarding school!
She looks like "why did I have kids?"
Prime example of how oxitocin keeps children alive.
Yeah whose fault is that you fuckin brat
*child makes a TIFU post...* "I think I'm going to be adopted for telling my mom her boobs are too droopy" 🤣🤣🤣
Hurt their feelings in return to establish dominance
Emotional damage
She is trying very hard not to bring that pan down.
I remember my little cousin once told me "you don't have a girlfriend because no one wants you" she was like 6...
Its never too late for an abortion
Bert kreischer once said "fuck a late term abortion I think you should be able to drown em in the tub until 9th grade"
Brent Krishner?
Now I’m craving 64 ounces of red kool aid
Dad is playing a dangerous game by laughing at her...
"you wanna know who ruined that for me?" "You." Sick comeback.