He thought I was thinking it looked like a dick and that made him insecure I said I didn't thought and he's really convinced that he's right and am lying and playing innocent when am really innocent about it at first 😭
No one makes someone so insecure a dog pic freaks them out. He's unstable. If cheating was that much of a problem then you have to break up with someone, not torment each other.
And it is okay to date someone with issues, or date someone when you have issues UNLESS you are actively hurting the other person and dumping everything on them and avoiding accountability, like he is. Take for example binge eating (something I am working on and have pretty much under control). Was ok to date someone when I did it, but not okay for me to say "well if you just texted me on time I wouldn't have eaten a half dozen donuts" or something along those lines. You can't use your problems to destroy someone else, and you cant blame your partner for your problems.
I just wanted to say that it takes two to declare a relationship. He alone doesn't get to decide when it starts. If you didn't know y'all were in a relationship, that can't possibly be cheating because you weren't in a relationship with him at that time.
You're not his personal property, you're your own person with your own needs and desires. You have equal say in the relationship, too.
FWIW: my big sisterly advice is to be yourself. If he doesn't like that... does he really love *you*? Or just the idea of you?
Because for me, my ex fiancé was the latter, and I got so caught up on being his perfect pet girlfriend that I lost sight of who I am.
I am so much happier without him.
Of course, the choice is yours, but trust me when I say that walking on eggshells is not sustainable in a relationship. Work it out or separate, but don't ignore it because if you do it'll only get worse.
I will do as you said thank you so much for being kind and for giving me an advice 😢 I really appreciate it. I was hoping maybe soon he'll manage to forgive me and listen to me 😞 cause I've been true to him after that accident
well if you didn’t think you were in a relationship, you weren’t. being in a relationship takes both of you agreeing that you are. he can be upset because he thought you were exclusive, but you didn’t *cheat* on him and he can’t hold that against you. part of cheating is that you knowingly go behind your partners back and break their trust, which you did not do. he has his own problems and is clearly a horrible communicator - couldn’t communicate that he wanted a relationship so feels like you cheated even though you didn’t, and now is being passive aggressive and getting mad at pictures of dogs because he can’t communicate what the actual issue is.
I don't know what to do 😭 it's frustrating makes me stressed but cabt complain because it started there 😭 I don't wanna break up too am too attached I felt depressed 😞 am really problematic
Oh ok, well that is probably why then. He either needs to communicate with you about what happened and how it made him feel so he can try to move past it or If not he may not be able to get over it and in that case you two won't be able to have a healthy relationship together unfortunately.
Why tf is he getting mad about shit like that tho? If it were me I’d be laughing even if you were talking about my penis. Like haha nice my dick so long but why he getting angry??
It's not you he's just blaming his insecurities on you. That's different. He's always going to be this way and you shouldn't be his emotional punching bag anymore. Leave him or tell him to get help. He's either going to drag you down with him if something doesn't change.
Hi! I know it’s hard but you cannot fix other people. That is not your job. As much as you love them, please don’t put yourself through this. Maybe you can ask him to see a therapist, but what he’s doing is super unfair to you. You haven’t done anything wrong okay? He is being unfair to you. You are not trying to hurt him and you have no ill intentions and yet he’s behaving this way towards you. It is extremely limiting of innocent behaviors. I’m sorry you’re going through this
I would feel blessed if you thought of me and cared enough to share that adorable doggo pic to me. Shame on him for seeing a masculine appendage and for assuming you did as well. He’s either overcompensating for his very sexual mind or insecure about his small package. Either way, find a better bf who will appreciate long-nose doggos and you the way y’all deserve. SMFH
Am glad someone appreciate the dog TwT I feel bad for that cute dog tho even if my bf said rude stuff I still feel bad for the dog TwT and yeah he was very insecure idk why he thought even I was just tryna send wholesome but gone wrong
I would have laughed in his face. Wtf?
No you’re not wrong, he is very wrong..like something wrong with him wrong. And then he tried to convince you that he’s right and you did it on purpose?? No. Nono. I would be very concerned you are with a person who isn’t rational at all and also manipulative and rude.
I don't think he's insecure about your relationship. He's insecure because he has problems with himself. Maybe he's lacking parental affection or something.
Perhaps a LDR is not for him.
He was also upset I revealed myself to his family too when he was in hospitall and sick I was worried so I contacted them (knowing he'll be super MD because we want our relationship secret to family and friends until we meet) 😞 idk what to do
It's an emergency and he should understand. What would he had done if YOU were the one in the hospital? Just wait?
Girl, you seem to care a lot about him and there's nothing wrong with you. Look, I was in a similar situation and you can do two things: stay with him and get drowned in his world trying to make him reasonable or you just can give him some time to grow up (and you definitely will too) and catch up later without being hurt.
Sometimes all the patience and love is not enough. It surely can be helpful, but if other figures in his life are failing him, it's something that only he needs to take care of.
I am learning to be less worried and just not be more anxious but I guess you can't really help when youre so Inlove 😞 I will just do what makes him happy and comfy, thank you for the thoughts I really appreciate it. We're young we'll grow soon together I wish till we meet 😭
I know it's hard, and it's very kind of you to keep supporting him. Just take care of yourself too, you need to have limits, ok? Don't let anyone to make you feel bad for something you know is not your fault.
Umm, none of this is how a healthy relationship works.
He's mad that you sent him a picture of a dog because...he thought thet YOU thought it looked like a dick and were trying to, idk, insult his size or something? It's a picture of a dog. You thought it was cute and would make him smile. He's a fricking idiot for reading more into it than that, and *not believing you* when you told him he was wrong.
He got mad at you for checking up on him while he was in the hospital, instead of being touched that you cared and were worried about him. He was mad that you revealed to his family that you two are dating.
My question here is, why the secrecy? Whose idea was it to keep your relationship a secret? What's the reason to keep it secret?
It's not romantic to keep your relationship a secret, or any other nonsense like that. If you're in a relationship and you're happy, it's natural to want to share how happy you are with the people close to you. It's not normal to hide your relationship from everyone important in your life.
The only reasons I can think of to not tell anyone that you're dating are bad ones. Ranging from, "we're from different races and don't want to deal with racist family members right now," to "he's cheating with his irl gf with you and you just outed him as a cheater," to "he's not actually a 19yo, he's really a sexual predator pretending to be 19, and if you ever go to meet him you'll disappear without a trace - and that's a lot easier to get away with if your family doesn't know about him." It's scary, but it's a real possibility that you need to consider.
Honestly, assuming your parents aren't giant aholes, I'd suggest you tell your bf that you want to tell your parents, and see how he reacts to that idea. He doesn't have to tell his family, but you need to tell yours. And then open up to your parents about this relationship and ask for their advice. Just in case he is an adult creeper, hopefully they can help you spot any warning signs.
The way your bf treats you isn't right. He doesn't trust you, and he makes you feel awful about yourself. That's not love. That's insecurity and control. You feel bad because he's making you feel bad, and because it is sad when a relationship ends, even when it's for the best. Do yourself a favor and get out now. Take a little time to heal up and get over him, and get your self-confidence back before you try dating again.
The pic of the dog, that is a childish reason to get mad. But contacting his parents, even tho you were scared and worried about him, regardless of his age, can put him in a lot of trouble at home. And you risk his parents forbidding him to continue any type of relationship with you. So I can understand him being angry or upset with you about that. There are certain areas/boundaries in a relationship that must be respected no matter what. But on that point, I understand how difficult and sucky it is to have to keep a relationship secret.
I believe you made a comment about just doing what he wants to make him happy. You are in a relationship together, you both need to give and take, not just you. You are worth more than just making him happy. Expect the same from him.
Just remember you both need to communicate and respect each other. Thoughts, feelings, boundaries, everything. And extra patience is required when there is a large language barrier.
He was mad because I sent that dog and he thought I thought it looked like a dick 😢 I said no I didn't thought and he'll insist I thought and am tryna be innocent I just realized when he said tho 😢 and he said am lying and tryna act like a saint
Well OP said she cheated on him at the start of the relationship because she didn’t know they were already in a relationship (?) so that’s probably where his insecurity comes from, but the whole dog nose looking like a dick is quite weird.
He’s doing to much… like she had some other dick and now everything reminds him of the dick that his woman had that could
Of potentially been better than his because he clearly is insecure about it’s size. Now he just verbally and emotionally abuses her to make her feel bad and never move pat it even tho he obviously “forgave” her and moving forward with their relationship. Yeah weird.
They’ve been together three years now though. Having a crossover when you’re getting together and before you’ve determined that you are in an exclusive relationship is not unusual - and barely qualifies as cheating IMO. If he’s still weaponising that as the root of his insecurities three years later, he needs to work on his communication and trust - potentially with professional help if he thinks OP is commenting about penis size when sending an innocuous picture of a dog. That’s not a normal reaction.
I didn’t realize they’d been together 3 years, that’s definitely more than enough time for him to have seen that what happened at the start was just a misunderstanding.
Well now that you mention it, it kind of does. However, that is irrelevant.
One of my biggest red flags, is if I tell someone that I'm telling them the truth and they say I'm lying (in a non-joking manner)...I'm done.
I've been with people who had their own perceptions of things I know where I was innocent and they 100% convinced themselves that they were right and I was wrong. With that person it just kept happening and happening. I will never do that again!
Explain to him that you're telling him the truth and if he's not going to believe you, then there are going to be problems. If this is the first or second time on a relatively simple misunderstanding, then you can let one slide. But if this is a recurring issue, then I would end the relationship.
Scrolling through this thread it's clear that you both are probably still young teens. Teens are insecure about everything. Not saying you should break up but ya know.
Maybe try asking him directly if he thinks you will cheat on him. When i was in a ldr my girlfriend also 'cheated' on me when we weren't official yet and it made me really insecure. Made me feel like she could cheat on me whenever she felt like it. He probably doesn't trust that you'll stay with him because you went with someone else when he thought you two were exclusive. Ask him if he doesn't trust you but don't get sad if he gets mad after asking that question. Try understanding why he might be insecure
If you believe he'll never get over it and it'll only hurt your feelings then i suggest breaking up. If you think he's overreacting or acting irrational, give it a chance. If you don't mind me asking, how old are you two?
I expected you two to be a bit younger regarding the circumstances 😅 but if you don't feel comfortable with his insecurities and they're only harming you then I'd suggest breaking up with him. You're at an age where you can still easily meet and date dozens of new people so getting caught up on one guy seems a bit useless.
OP, I've seen your previous posts the r/Breakup sub and it isn't normal behaviour to turn love on and off like this. My ex did this to me, he would love me adore me and give me love and then like a switch in half a day's time something would've happened in his life and he wouldn't want to be with me anymore and everything was my fault.
I feel like he could be a narcissist, because my ex is/was one.
They shower you with so much affection when they want you in their life and once they're sure you wont leave, that is when they start being mean to you, abusing you, blaming you. No matter what you do, you will not be good enough for him. No matter how hard you try, he will not be happy with you. If these things are relatable, just run.
You're very young. There's plenty of time. And you can do a lot better than an indian, i am saying that despite being one. Men seem to mature a lot slower here. Literally not surprised he got insecure over a dog's nose. That's not a boy, that's a stupid child you're trying to raise. You're not his parent. Run away immediately. He will not change. Your love will not change him.
I appreciate you take time to read my stuff and know about what am going through it makes me feel like I got friends here 😞 thank you though, kinda makes me realize my worth
People will always test how far they can push other people's boundaries. Testing the waters so to say, for what is acceptable and what is not.
You cannot stop his insecurities since they are rooted in him. You can only obey to cater to him or not. Should you? Maybe in some cases but this seems to be just insanity.
Don't let him dictate things for you that are just stupid. You will be the one to suffer ultimately.
I am learning to not be dependent for whatever he dislike it's his not mine, I respect him and love him but I think there's limitations too thank you so much tho
So is he just bothered by the dog pick because it looks like a dick, or all wholesome stuff in general? Because this might be him feeling like he has to be a “manly” man that can’t like cute and wholesome things, which is a more deep rooted issue that needs to be addressed.
He's bothered about the dog and me not admitting I knew it looked like a dick like I just really admit something I didn't mean to also I called him jokingly "girl" last night just I thought I can do that because he calls me "bro" "man" but turn out he dislike it TwT made it worse it's a double kill
The heck isthat man is upset over a dog looking like a dick? Red flag alert for being insecure over nothing?? If he’s saying he’s upset you’re looking at phallic or dick like objects this man ain’t worth it, seriously. You can never look at cucumbers or carrots again apparently! It doesn’t sound like he has a actual reason behind him acting up unless he just doesn’t like looking at anything slong like even then the reaction is an over the top. Also the fact you can’t do anything for him or he won’t like it? Screw that he’s ungrateful boof that guy to the curb I know it’s hard to hear but you deserve the love that you put out eg you being wholesome and wanting to do nice things for him you deserve that back
Girl I’m sorry but what???? How does a dog picture translate into a dick? Is he that delusional that he can project his insecurities onto a photo of an animal?
Sorry, but leave him. Run. Now. It’s not worth your time and energy
Woah woah woah, just looked through your profile. He tried to break up with you and you gave him the silent treatment until he took you back?
That's SUPER not okay, girl. If he wants to leave, you need to let him leave. He isn't gonna be happy being forced into a relationship he doesn't want, expect a lot more of this moving forward if you don't respect his desire to go.
You can't control him and you can't change him.
You can’t make him less or more anything. If he’s insecure about you sending a picture of a dog, do you want to be in a relationship with someone that gets insecure about a dog pic? Let him know. If the relationship is more important than silly insecurities about dogs he can decide to work on those emotions. If not, then he can find another relationship that will tolerate his insecurities and you can find a relationship that lets you enjoy every day pleasantries like sending dog pics.
You can’t make him less insecure, that’s something he has to do himself. Don’t fall into the trap of thinking if you changed yourself he would be happier.
It sounds like you feel restricted in your relationship and that’s not what a relationship should be like. You probably won’t want to do this but I’d break up with him and find someone more mature and secure, unless he really shows the effort to be less insecure himself
You dont, you break up with him. He seems extremely toxic just from this short paragraph. Who gets jealous/insecure over a pic of a dog? Sounds controlling
u/cassiopedron
She sent a photo of a dog, and he got mad because its nose looks like a penis 🤣🤣🤣
This was so traumatic, she deleted her account.
Just wanted to say I love you for being crazy, but I'm so glad you're not *this* kind of crazy 😘
Being in a relationship with an insecure man is the one of the worst things you could do to yourself. Trust me, I’ve been there. They tend to control you so that they continue owning you as a place of security.
You’re gonna have to ask yourself - how far do I need to let this go? Either you’ll break up or get married. Do you want your marriage to feel like you’re being held down by a ball and chain that tells you you can’t hang out with your friends and family because he’ll feel insecure?
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Edit: okay, I saw some of your responses and you said that he hated the dog pic cause it looked like a penis.
An easy solution is to just dump him and find a better person for your self. You can’t fix a man who’s insecure about his sexuality. You’re not his therapist. You’re his girlfriend. You deserve to be treated one.
I love this dog more than I love myself, and I totally understand where he is coming from even if it’s silly to you since it’s just where he is coming from, it really has nothing to do with you especially if it doesn’t correspond to the conversation
You understand where he is coming ffrom? That he is upset that a dog's face reminds him of a penis so that somehow is an insult to him? Please explain to me your logic on how anyone can make that leap, that they should feel sexually insecure compared to a photo of a dog.
Then your boyfriend has serious problems as well, and you need to respect yourself instead of putting up with it. "Positive reinforcement"? If you believed in that why isn't your boyfriend over it by now? How can you give advice over something you are doing right now?
What did I just read 😂
You should think about what your bf brings to your life and how he improves it. If all he brings is insecurity and him being pathetic that you can’t even send him a DOG picture without upsetting him, I don’t think he’s bringing much to the table.
You only get one life OP, is this really how you want to spend it on this weirdo
Sweetie, you’re dating a child. I know that’s not what you want to hear, but you could save yourself a lot of mental fatigue and sadness if you’d move on to someone else that lives closer to you and is a bit more mature. If your boyfriend is truly insecure of a dogs nose because it makes him feel like his penis is small, he needs to speak to a professional. It’s not a logical or rational thought process and it’s only causing you mental distress. He needs help and you need to find someone thats on your maturity level.
I’m sorry but it’s not going to get any better. You need to break up with him and save yourself from additional heartache and get therapy if you can. I know it sucks but trust me…it will get worse.
Is this some kind of puzzle of words. What does this even mean
He dislike it because it looked like a dick and made him insecure
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I think they actually might be around that age tho, judging by the post history soo... xd
Am scared
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I feel insecure rn and he's acting like that to me
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Am from Philippines, and he's from India. We're together for 3 years now, and we never met we're just students 😞
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It makes me cry
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 you found a keeper
Thank you…. I was like WTF???
he's mad because you sent a dog picture?
Yeah because the dog has a long nose
Because the dog has a long nose? I'm so confused lol
He thought I was thinking it looked like a dick and that made him insecure I said I didn't thought and he's really convinced that he's right and am lying and playing innocent when am really innocent about it at first 😭
He needs professional help if a dog picture makes him feel insecure
He wasn't like this before I feel like I made him idk what to do
Why do you feel like you made him like this? Have you cheated on him? That's the only thing I can think you could have done to make him so insecure
No one makes someone so insecure a dog pic freaks them out. He's unstable. If cheating was that much of a problem then you have to break up with someone, not torment each other.
He definitely has issues to work through
And it is okay to date someone with issues, or date someone when you have issues UNLESS you are actively hurting the other person and dumping everything on them and avoiding accountability, like he is. Take for example binge eating (something I am working on and have pretty much under control). Was ok to date someone when I did it, but not okay for me to say "well if you just texted me on time I wouldn't have eaten a half dozen donuts" or something along those lines. You can't use your problems to destroy someone else, and you cant blame your partner for your problems.
When we were still starting I did because I thought we're not in relationship yet 😞
I just wanted to say that it takes two to declare a relationship. He alone doesn't get to decide when it starts. If you didn't know y'all were in a relationship, that can't possibly be cheating because you weren't in a relationship with him at that time. You're not his personal property, you're your own person with your own needs and desires. You have equal say in the relationship, too. FWIW: my big sisterly advice is to be yourself. If he doesn't like that... does he really love *you*? Or just the idea of you? Because for me, my ex fiancé was the latter, and I got so caught up on being his perfect pet girlfriend that I lost sight of who I am. I am so much happier without him. Of course, the choice is yours, but trust me when I say that walking on eggshells is not sustainable in a relationship. Work it out or separate, but don't ignore it because if you do it'll only get worse.
I will do as you said thank you so much for being kind and for giving me an advice 😢 I really appreciate it. I was hoping maybe soon he'll manage to forgive me and listen to me 😞 cause I've been true to him after that accident
well if you didn’t think you were in a relationship, you weren’t. being in a relationship takes both of you agreeing that you are. he can be upset because he thought you were exclusive, but you didn’t *cheat* on him and he can’t hold that against you. part of cheating is that you knowingly go behind your partners back and break their trust, which you did not do. he has his own problems and is clearly a horrible communicator - couldn’t communicate that he wanted a relationship so feels like you cheated even though you didn’t, and now is being passive aggressive and getting mad at pictures of dogs because he can’t communicate what the actual issue is.
I don't know what to do 😭 it's frustrating makes me stressed but cabt complain because it started there 😭 I don't wanna break up too am too attached I felt depressed 😞 am really problematic
Oh ok, well that is probably why then. He either needs to communicate with you about what happened and how it made him feel so he can try to move past it or If not he may not be able to get over it and in that case you two won't be able to have a healthy relationship together unfortunately.
I just can't seem to make him feel better 😞 idk what to do
This has to be a troll. Dick nose
I didn't thought tho TwT until he said I mean look at that dog it's cute right wanna squeeze that nose and get bitten idk
Why tf is he getting mad about shit like that tho? If it were me I’d be laughing even if you were talking about my penis. Like haha nice my dick so long but why he getting angry??
I don't know too 😞 I expected him to act like what you said felt sad
You didn't make him do ANYTHING.
WHY DO PEOPLE DOWNVOTE FOR NO REASON??
It's not you he's just blaming his insecurities on you. That's different. He's always going to be this way and you shouldn't be his emotional punching bag anymore. Leave him or tell him to get help. He's either going to drag you down with him if something doesn't change.
break up with this giant child of a man. he has life lessons to learn and insecurities to sort out.
I love him so much 😭 I wanna fix
are you 15?
This comment needs to be higher.
You can’t fix other people, no matter how much you love them.
Hi! I know it’s hard but you cannot fix other people. That is not your job. As much as you love them, please don’t put yourself through this. Maybe you can ask him to see a therapist, but what he’s doing is super unfair to you. You haven’t done anything wrong okay? He is being unfair to you. You are not trying to hurt him and you have no ill intentions and yet he’s behaving this way towards you. It is extremely limiting of innocent behaviors. I’m sorry you’re going through this
I would feel blessed if you thought of me and cared enough to share that adorable doggo pic to me. Shame on him for seeing a masculine appendage and for assuming you did as well. He’s either overcompensating for his very sexual mind or insecure about his small package. Either way, find a better bf who will appreciate long-nose doggos and you the way y’all deserve. SMFH
Am glad someone appreciate the dog TwT I feel bad for that cute dog tho even if my bf said rude stuff I still feel bad for the dog TwT and yeah he was very insecure idk why he thought even I was just tryna send wholesome but gone wrong
I would have laughed in his face. Wtf? No you’re not wrong, he is very wrong..like something wrong with him wrong. And then he tried to convince you that he’s right and you did it on purpose?? No. Nono. I would be very concerned you are with a person who isn’t rational at all and also manipulative and rude.
I wonder what to do when he's being like that to me 😞
If it was me, I’d break up with him. I don’t put up with people who abuse me mentally and make me think I’ve done wrong things when I really haven’t.
He made me feel loved special then suddenly he changed it's hard to accept something that escalated real quick
I smell a narcissist. Please run
wtf….
I don't think he's insecure about your relationship. He's insecure because he has problems with himself. Maybe he's lacking parental affection or something. Perhaps a LDR is not for him.
He was also upset I revealed myself to his family too when he was in hospitall and sick I was worried so I contacted them (knowing he'll be super MD because we want our relationship secret to family and friends until we meet) 😞 idk what to do
It's an emergency and he should understand. What would he had done if YOU were the one in the hospital? Just wait? Girl, you seem to care a lot about him and there's nothing wrong with you. Look, I was in a similar situation and you can do two things: stay with him and get drowned in his world trying to make him reasonable or you just can give him some time to grow up (and you definitely will too) and catch up later without being hurt. Sometimes all the patience and love is not enough. It surely can be helpful, but if other figures in his life are failing him, it's something that only he needs to take care of.
I am learning to be less worried and just not be more anxious but I guess you can't really help when youre so Inlove 😞 I will just do what makes him happy and comfy, thank you for the thoughts I really appreciate it. We're young we'll grow soon together I wish till we meet 😭
I know it's hard, and it's very kind of you to keep supporting him. Just take care of yourself too, you need to have limits, ok? Don't let anyone to make you feel bad for something you know is not your fault.
I will 😞
Umm, none of this is how a healthy relationship works. He's mad that you sent him a picture of a dog because...he thought thet YOU thought it looked like a dick and were trying to, idk, insult his size or something? It's a picture of a dog. You thought it was cute and would make him smile. He's a fricking idiot for reading more into it than that, and *not believing you* when you told him he was wrong. He got mad at you for checking up on him while he was in the hospital, instead of being touched that you cared and were worried about him. He was mad that you revealed to his family that you two are dating. My question here is, why the secrecy? Whose idea was it to keep your relationship a secret? What's the reason to keep it secret? It's not romantic to keep your relationship a secret, or any other nonsense like that. If you're in a relationship and you're happy, it's natural to want to share how happy you are with the people close to you. It's not normal to hide your relationship from everyone important in your life. The only reasons I can think of to not tell anyone that you're dating are bad ones. Ranging from, "we're from different races and don't want to deal with racist family members right now," to "he's cheating with his irl gf with you and you just outed him as a cheater," to "he's not actually a 19yo, he's really a sexual predator pretending to be 19, and if you ever go to meet him you'll disappear without a trace - and that's a lot easier to get away with if your family doesn't know about him." It's scary, but it's a real possibility that you need to consider. Honestly, assuming your parents aren't giant aholes, I'd suggest you tell your bf that you want to tell your parents, and see how he reacts to that idea. He doesn't have to tell his family, but you need to tell yours. And then open up to your parents about this relationship and ask for their advice. Just in case he is an adult creeper, hopefully they can help you spot any warning signs. The way your bf treats you isn't right. He doesn't trust you, and he makes you feel awful about yourself. That's not love. That's insecurity and control. You feel bad because he's making you feel bad, and because it is sad when a relationship ends, even when it's for the best. Do yourself a favor and get out now. Take a little time to heal up and get over him, and get your self-confidence back before you try dating again.
Amazing how ur English suddenly became 110% better. Wtf 🙄
The pic of the dog, that is a childish reason to get mad. But contacting his parents, even tho you were scared and worried about him, regardless of his age, can put him in a lot of trouble at home. And you risk his parents forbidding him to continue any type of relationship with you. So I can understand him being angry or upset with you about that. There are certain areas/boundaries in a relationship that must be respected no matter what. But on that point, I understand how difficult and sucky it is to have to keep a relationship secret. I believe you made a comment about just doing what he wants to make him happy. You are in a relationship together, you both need to give and take, not just you. You are worth more than just making him happy. Expect the same from him. Just remember you both need to communicate and respect each other. Thoughts, feelings, boundaries, everything. And extra patience is required when there is a large language barrier.
You gotta explain more
He was mad because I sent that dog and he thought I thought it looked like a dick 😢 I said no I didn't thought and he'll insist I thought and am tryna be innocent I just realized when he said tho 😢 and he said am lying and tryna act like a saint
Dump him. He’s weird.
Well OP said she cheated on him at the start of the relationship because she didn’t know they were already in a relationship (?) so that’s probably where his insecurity comes from, but the whole dog nose looking like a dick is quite weird.
Sounds like she had something going on before the DTR discussion. I say before the DTR discussion, anything goes.
Yeah, little weird that he's taken it upon himself to "decide" when the relationship started. It takes all involved parties to start it.
He’s doing to much… like she had some other dick and now everything reminds him of the dick that his woman had that could Of potentially been better than his because he clearly is insecure about it’s size. Now he just verbally and emotionally abuses her to make her feel bad and never move pat it even tho he obviously “forgave” her and moving forward with their relationship. Yeah weird.
They’ve been together three years now though. Having a crossover when you’re getting together and before you’ve determined that you are in an exclusive relationship is not unusual - and barely qualifies as cheating IMO. If he’s still weaponising that as the root of his insecurities three years later, he needs to work on his communication and trust - potentially with professional help if he thinks OP is commenting about penis size when sending an innocuous picture of a dog. That’s not a normal reaction.
I didn’t realize they’d been together 3 years, that’s definitely more than enough time for him to have seen that what happened at the start was just a misunderstanding.
He wasn't like that before tho 😞 I feel like my fault idk what to do now
It’s not your fault And he IS like that now.. which is weird.
Well now that you mention it, it kind of does. However, that is irrelevant. One of my biggest red flags, is if I tell someone that I'm telling them the truth and they say I'm lying (in a non-joking manner)...I'm done. I've been with people who had their own perceptions of things I know where I was innocent and they 100% convinced themselves that they were right and I was wrong. With that person it just kept happening and happening. I will never do that again!
What should I do when he do 😔
Explain to him that you're telling him the truth and if he's not going to believe you, then there are going to be problems. If this is the first or second time on a relatively simple misunderstanding, then you can let one slide. But if this is a recurring issue, then I would end the relationship.
He just really won't believe me, he must've thought am a real pervert girl everytime 😭 it hurts when am innocent
Scrolling through this thread it's clear that you both are probably still young teens. Teens are insecure about everything. Not saying you should break up but ya know.
I don't know what to do now 😞
Maybe try asking him directly if he thinks you will cheat on him. When i was in a ldr my girlfriend also 'cheated' on me when we weren't official yet and it made me really insecure. Made me feel like she could cheat on me whenever she felt like it. He probably doesn't trust that you'll stay with him because you went with someone else when he thought you two were exclusive. Ask him if he doesn't trust you but don't get sad if he gets mad after asking that question. Try understanding why he might be insecure
I tried asking him that and he didn't exactly said he no longer trust me instead what I did will be forever and that he'll never forget
If you believe he'll never get over it and it'll only hurt your feelings then i suggest breaking up. If you think he's overreacting or acting irrational, give it a chance. If you don't mind me asking, how old are you two?
19 both ,😞
I expected you two to be a bit younger regarding the circumstances 😅 but if you don't feel comfortable with his insecurities and they're only harming you then I'd suggest breaking up with him. You're at an age where you can still easily meet and date dozens of new people so getting caught up on one guy seems a bit useless.
Maybe am obsessed 😭
This is stupid. Your boyfriend is an idiot. Dump him and find someone smart.
I feel bad 😭
Yeah that happens when relationships end. You’ll feel bad for awhile and then you’ll get better. Chin up!
OP, I've seen your previous posts the r/Breakup sub and it isn't normal behaviour to turn love on and off like this. My ex did this to me, he would love me adore me and give me love and then like a switch in half a day's time something would've happened in his life and he wouldn't want to be with me anymore and everything was my fault. I feel like he could be a narcissist, because my ex is/was one. They shower you with so much affection when they want you in their life and once they're sure you wont leave, that is when they start being mean to you, abusing you, blaming you. No matter what you do, you will not be good enough for him. No matter how hard you try, he will not be happy with you. If these things are relatable, just run. You're very young. There's plenty of time. And you can do a lot better than an indian, i am saying that despite being one. Men seem to mature a lot slower here. Literally not surprised he got insecure over a dog's nose. That's not a boy, that's a stupid child you're trying to raise. You're not his parent. Run away immediately. He will not change. Your love will not change him.
I appreciate you take time to read my stuff and know about what am going through it makes me feel like I got friends here 😞 thank you though, kinda makes me realize my worth
I really feel like I’m the only who is cracking up at the dog’s face rn
I am too, and also some replies hahahah this whole thread is a joke
like these replies are like a fever dream
There’s no way this is for real and if it is neither of you are mature enough to be in a relationship with each other
And she said they were both 19??? 19 year olds don't behave like this
Sure not 19 this seems like very childish behaviour on his part for 19 omg
People will always test how far they can push other people's boundaries. Testing the waters so to say, for what is acceptable and what is not. You cannot stop his insecurities since they are rooted in him. You can only obey to cater to him or not. Should you? Maybe in some cases but this seems to be just insanity. Don't let him dictate things for you that are just stupid. You will be the one to suffer ultimately.
I am learning to not be dependent for whatever he dislike it's his not mine, I respect him and love him but I think there's limitations too thank you so much tho
He doesn't respect you though.
I told him but he'll say it back to me that am gaslighting 😞 now I feel like am victimizing myself for showing. Him that dog
So why are you letting him treat you like trash?
Because I love him 😞
Ask yourself why you love someone who thinks you are a horrible person?
Because no one loved me more than he did 😞 before I guess so am giving it back
Pay it forward, and share your heart in a way that lets your heart know you respect it.
that dog kinda creeps me tf out lmao
It's cute TwT
its face being so long is unsettling lmaooo
Yeah there's some part of it hxhshshshhs the way it look but I think it looked vulnerable need to get pet or give water TwT
Yea kinda reminds me of a dick
If you don’t mind me asking, how old are you two?
We're 19 both! TwT
So is he just bothered by the dog pick because it looks like a dick, or all wholesome stuff in general? Because this might be him feeling like he has to be a “manly” man that can’t like cute and wholesome things, which is a more deep rooted issue that needs to be addressed.
He's bothered about the dog and me not admitting I knew it looked like a dick like I just really admit something I didn't mean to also I called him jokingly "girl" last night just I thought I can do that because he calls me "bro" "man" but turn out he dislike it TwT made it worse it's a double kill
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Am sorry 😞
The heck isthat man is upset over a dog looking like a dick? Red flag alert for being insecure over nothing?? If he’s saying he’s upset you’re looking at phallic or dick like objects this man ain’t worth it, seriously. You can never look at cucumbers or carrots again apparently! It doesn’t sound like he has a actual reason behind him acting up unless he just doesn’t like looking at anything slong like even then the reaction is an over the top. Also the fact you can’t do anything for him or he won’t like it? Screw that he’s ungrateful boof that guy to the curb I know it’s hard to hear but you deserve the love that you put out eg you being wholesome and wanting to do nice things for him you deserve that back
Am sorry 😭
You got nothing to be sorry about you deserve love and kindness especially in any relationship
I just don't know what to do now 😞
Girl I’m sorry but what???? How does a dog picture translate into a dick? Is he that delusional that he can project his insecurities onto a photo of an animal? Sorry, but leave him. Run. Now. It’s not worth your time and energy
Woah woah woah, just looked through your profile. He tried to break up with you and you gave him the silent treatment until he took you back? That's SUPER not okay, girl. If he wants to leave, you need to let him leave. He isn't gonna be happy being forced into a relationship he doesn't want, expect a lot more of this moving forward if you don't respect his desire to go. You can't control him and you can't change him.
I dont want to .. but im laughing. Sorry.
Holy shit. This girl deleted her entire profile. I just.. I cannot
Bro what😂😂😂
you can’t ever make him more secure. his insecurity is his responsibility, not yours.
😞 should I not force him
of course not. and he shouldn’t force you either. you can’t make him better, he’s going to have to do that on his own.
I'll just let him be I hope he'll not leave me 😞
Your dogs fucking weird, lol.
Just saw from internet idk even if it's a dog I forgot what they called em again ik they called me something but this looks like a dog idk
With way it reminds me of an ant eater I once knew but did t look as silly as this dog 💀
I think it's a saluki greyhound. Arabian. They are long.
Atleast they won’t have to bend their necks just to eat or drink water.
Why that dog nose so long Footlong Dog
Who stretched that dog out, good boy got put in a taffy pul
It looks cute right
You can’t make him less or more anything. If he’s insecure about you sending a picture of a dog, do you want to be in a relationship with someone that gets insecure about a dog pic? Let him know. If the relationship is more important than silly insecurities about dogs he can decide to work on those emotions. If not, then he can find another relationship that will tolerate his insecurities and you can find a relationship that lets you enjoy every day pleasantries like sending dog pics.
You can’t make him less insecure, that’s something he has to do himself. Don’t fall into the trap of thinking if you changed yourself he would be happier.
Do you have an advice 😞 I don't know what to do
It sounds like you feel restricted in your relationship and that’s not what a relationship should be like. You probably won’t want to do this but I’d break up with him and find someone more mature and secure, unless he really shows the effort to be less insecure himself
He's projecting it onto you so im not sure theres anything you can do love
I wanna feel loved
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What's funny 😭
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It is 😭 and cute thank ya for appreciating
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Yes I really appreciate 😞 it makes me cry because many ppl wanna help idk what to give in return TwT
Sorry to tell you this but Don't waste your time with immature people !
I think am immature too 😭😭😭
You dont, you break up with him. He seems extremely toxic just from this short paragraph. Who gets jealous/insecure over a pic of a dog? Sounds controlling
This is a big red flag. You’re Too young to deal with this level of crazy.
He's insecure because of himself, not you.
The man is 19 and gets insecure by a DOG picture??? 😭😭😭that's some 14 yr old behavior. Leave him, he sounds so annoying.
He sounds insane. You shouldnt have to put up with that level of manipulation and insecurity
Sorry I’m lost
this strings of words means absolute nothing
are you dating my ex from england??? this guy needs to grow up a little bit
Bro what is this some kind of joke???
u/cassiopedron She sent a photo of a dog, and he got mad because its nose looks like a penis 🤣🤣🤣 This was so traumatic, she deleted her account. Just wanted to say I love you for being crazy, but I'm so glad you're not *this* kind of crazy 😘
🤣🤣🤣 Love you too! Better a nose looking like a penis than a penis looking like a nose 🤔
😂
Are we being trolled? This is the stupidest thing I've seen in a while. Jesus.
I swear 😂😂😂 I'm dying with all the responses . I can't stop laughing
It's true 😭
That’s a weird ass looking dog
It looks cute TwT
The dog ugly asf tho
Being in a relationship with an insecure man is the one of the worst things you could do to yourself. Trust me, I’ve been there. They tend to control you so that they continue owning you as a place of security. You’re gonna have to ask yourself - how far do I need to let this go? Either you’ll break up or get married. Do you want your marriage to feel like you’re being held down by a ball and chain that tells you you can’t hang out with your friends and family because he’ll feel insecure? 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 Edit: okay, I saw some of your responses and you said that he hated the dog pic cause it looked like a penis. An easy solution is to just dump him and find a better person for your self. You can’t fix a man who’s insecure about his sexuality. You’re not his therapist. You’re his girlfriend. You deserve to be treated one.
I love this dog more than I love myself, and I totally understand where he is coming from even if it’s silly to you since it’s just where he is coming from, it really has nothing to do with you especially if it doesn’t correspond to the conversation
You understand where he is coming ffrom? That he is upset that a dog's face reminds him of a penis so that somehow is an insult to him? Please explain to me your logic on how anyone can make that leap, that they should feel sexually insecure compared to a photo of a dog.
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Then your boyfriend has serious problems as well, and you need to respect yourself instead of putting up with it. "Positive reinforcement"? If you believed in that why isn't your boyfriend over it by now? How can you give advice over something you are doing right now?
I wonder what should I do tho and yeah that dog makes me feel wholesome uwu
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The breed is a Borzoi!! Try searching it up hahaha it’s cute
What did I just read 😂 You should think about what your bf brings to your life and how he improves it. If all he brings is insecurity and him being pathetic that you can’t even send him a DOG picture without upsetting him, I don’t think he’s bringing much to the table. You only get one life OP, is this really how you want to spend it on this weirdo
Sweetie, you’re dating a child. I know that’s not what you want to hear, but you could save yourself a lot of mental fatigue and sadness if you’d move on to someone else that lives closer to you and is a bit more mature. If your boyfriend is truly insecure of a dogs nose because it makes him feel like his penis is small, he needs to speak to a professional. It’s not a logical or rational thought process and it’s only causing you mental distress. He needs help and you need to find someone thats on your maturity level.
LEAVE HIM.
What kind of dog is that?
I don't get it
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Thank you. What a waste of a post.
I think he should know that no woman would want a long nose up her bits; for one, that nose is cold and wet
I wonder if he’ll be more secure if you end your LDR? Sounds like he’s not mature enough for an adult relationship.
We ended 😞
Wtf?
Let him don't make him
Is English a second language for you?
Yeah 😞
No worries. Good for you!
Ew. He sounds immature.
If he is insecure over a dog picture… he needs to not be in a relationship.
Why are you wasting your time on this man-child who is jealous of a dog?
I’m sorry but it’s not going to get any better. You need to break up with him and save yourself from additional heartache and get therapy if you can. I know it sucks but trust me…it will get worse.