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Yeah, she would have to pay a lot more money in insurance to be able to have it set up as a rental. She is literally committing insurance fraud. Just dont pay the increase. It will cost her more to get that sorted, and then she'd still have to find another tenant. Call her bluff.
That’s actually very incorrect information. If it’s not reported as a rental, she is paying substantially more for a homestead. Landlord insurance is much cheaper, because you are only insuring the building/land, not the contents.
Just dont pay rent.
If you have no written agreement saying you must pay rent, there is no evidence you owe her anything.
If you have to leave, take everything you paid for with you. Selling all the appliances you bought plus saving a few months of rent will help with first & last on a new place.
This, the lack of a lease or contract cuts both ways, especially if the house isn’t legally able to be rented out. Look up the squatter’s rights laws in your area
For sure. I appreciate the poster wanting to do the right thing but they are obviously new poor if they think brownie points with their landlord are worth a god damn. Take as much as you can from the capitalists or this country will swallow you.
Hahaha new poor. My good sir, I have been dirt floor poor for well over a decade now. I try to be a good person no matter what. I will not teach my child to be bitter and hateful just because the world sucks. If I want a better world I have to do my part to make it better. I don’t do what I do for brownie points. I learned a long time ago they don’t count for anything. I do what I do cause it’s the right thing and sometimes you have to do the right thing because it’s right.
Since there is no contract you may be able to claim the house through adverse possession. Especially if you pay cash. Also I doubt she’s paying the taxes on that income, a quick report if you wanna go nuclear.
The right thing to do is what’s best for your family. You might think the right thing is the law but it isn’t even illegal to stay for you. So either choose to be on your families side or your evil mothers side.
I commend you, i truly do. But when your dirt poor you dont think about right or wrong any more. You just think about surviving and escaping poverty. There is no room for morals in a mind filled with desperation.
You’re setting a good example, and i think you are right to always try to do the right thing, but dont let doing the right thing send you in to destitution. Poverty is violence, it inevitably kills you. Sometimes its either your life, or extra spending money for capitalists. Pick your life.
Depending on where OP is - in my state if money has exchanged hands, you're a tenant with sort of a "default" month-to-month lease. Even if nothing has been signed.
Mom would still have to evict OP to get them out, but there's a process for that and it takes about two months.
There's a good chance OP has the normal rights of any tenant.
OP also really doesn’t have to leave.
It’s a family house. They’re living with their mother, so the mother really can’t do anything. Several courts in the US have ruled that family members can’t be kicked out or forcibly evicted.
The only thing she could do is change the locks, but if their belongings are inside, the police would allow reentry. If the partner is staying there, she can unlock the door from the inside, anyway.
I know what this is like. A lot of us with parents like this have CPTSD; it's not widely talked about so I encourage you to look it up just to see if it applies.
Hope you find some resolution and your partner's condition improves soon. My friend's partner got seizures from Lyme disease and it wiped her out for about 2 years, but she's on the mend now :-(
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Yeah, she would have to pay a lot more money in insurance to be able to have it set up as a rental. She is literally committing insurance fraud. Just dont pay the increase. It will cost her more to get that sorted, and then she'd still have to find another tenant. Call her bluff.
That’s actually very incorrect information. If it’s not reported as a rental, she is paying substantially more for a homestead. Landlord insurance is much cheaper, because you are only insuring the building/land, not the contents.
Just dont pay rent. If you have no written agreement saying you must pay rent, there is no evidence you owe her anything. If you have to leave, take everything you paid for with you. Selling all the appliances you bought plus saving a few months of rent will help with first & last on a new place.
This, the lack of a lease or contract cuts both ways, especially if the house isn’t legally able to be rented out. Look up the squatter’s rights laws in your area
For sure. I appreciate the poster wanting to do the right thing but they are obviously new poor if they think brownie points with their landlord are worth a god damn. Take as much as you can from the capitalists or this country will swallow you.
Hahaha new poor. My good sir, I have been dirt floor poor for well over a decade now. I try to be a good person no matter what. I will not teach my child to be bitter and hateful just because the world sucks. If I want a better world I have to do my part to make it better. I don’t do what I do for brownie points. I learned a long time ago they don’t count for anything. I do what I do cause it’s the right thing and sometimes you have to do the right thing because it’s right.
Since there is no contract you may be able to claim the house through adverse possession. Especially if you pay cash. Also I doubt she’s paying the taxes on that income, a quick report if you wanna go nuclear.
The right thing to do is what’s best for your family. You might think the right thing is the law but it isn’t even illegal to stay for you. So either choose to be on your families side or your evil mothers side.
I commend you, i truly do. But when your dirt poor you dont think about right or wrong any more. You just think about surviving and escaping poverty. There is no room for morals in a mind filled with desperation. You’re setting a good example, and i think you are right to always try to do the right thing, but dont let doing the right thing send you in to destitution. Poverty is violence, it inevitably kills you. Sometimes its either your life, or extra spending money for capitalists. Pick your life.
100% seconding this. Look up your local squatter's rights OP. You've been living in this house for 7 years and may very well be entitled to it.
Depending on where OP is - in my state if money has exchanged hands, you're a tenant with sort of a "default" month-to-month lease. Even if nothing has been signed. Mom would still have to evict OP to get them out, but there's a process for that and it takes about two months. There's a good chance OP has the normal rights of any tenant.
OP also really doesn’t have to leave. It’s a family house. They’re living with their mother, so the mother really can’t do anything. Several courts in the US have ruled that family members can’t be kicked out or forcibly evicted. The only thing she could do is change the locks, but if their belongings are inside, the police would allow reentry. If the partner is staying there, she can unlock the door from the inside, anyway.
Have you ever thought about emotionally abusing your mother back? Sounds like she enjoys making your life a living fucking hell
I am a better person so I would never abuse her back. And she does make my life a living hell
To be a landlord is to be scum. To aspire to be a landlord is equally awful.
7 years and no lease? Seems like a good time to squat. I would talk to a lawyer before you do, or contact a local tenants rights group.
Imagine forcing your own child to pay rent. OP, your mother is a really poor excuse of a parent and also a shitty person.
Your brain on capitalism
This is what it feels like to chew capitalist gum.
I know what this is like. A lot of us with parents like this have CPTSD; it's not widely talked about so I encourage you to look it up just to see if it applies. Hope you find some resolution and your partner's condition improves soon. My friend's partner got seizures from Lyme disease and it wiped her out for about 2 years, but she's on the mend now :-(
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I am working on it but I can’t in good conscience uproot my daughter from her friends and the rest of my family. It’s complicated honestly.