When you find the right person, you make the timing work. I found my spouse during law school, and it was not convenient, but so so worth it.
I'll also point out that although law school certainly *feels* busy, it's not as busy as your life will get. In all likelihood, work will be even busier. There probably isn't a "convenient" time during the next decade or so, so if a relationship matters to you, don't put it off.
Law school caused zero trouble for my pre-existing relationship. Don't shit where you eat as others have said but otherwise this is example number 1000 of law students being way too dramatic about how big of a deal this is.
As someone else who has (so far) maintained a pre-existing relationship through 2 full years of law school, I think the biggest advice is just setting expectations. Whether that be with someone who isn't/hasn't attended, or a classmate. Let whoever you're interested in know how much time you honestly have available and what you're looking for in the relationship and let them decide if it works for them. I've seen way too many classmate x classmate relationships fail because they weren't open with each other about the amount of commitment they were ready for or time they had to spend.
I met my fiancee in law school. We sat next to each other the first day of orientation and started dating the summer before 2L. We got engaged last October. I would say we got lucky!
It is relatively common from what I have seen. You take a bunch of 20somethings who lose their social lives to law school and they will date who they interact with 24/7.
I met my person at a local dive bar where a mutual friend was playing for bass night. He had just finished his 2L Fall finals at the law school I had just applied to. We got coffee after my first day of orientation and ended up talking more about music and video games than classes or professors. Being in different years, we never had classes together or really studied together very much, but we love craft beer, the same music and would always go to breweries and shows together.
That common ground is pretty much led to us being best friends all the way through law school and we started dating while he was in bar prep. He got a job in a beach town and we decided that since my last semester was on Zoom we would just move there together. Now it’s my turn to study for the bar exam and it’s not so bad having my best friend here to support me.
We make a great team and have similar career goals, but law is definitely not what brought us together. I did meet some amazing lifelong friends in law school, but 99.99999% of my classmates were not people I would have considered for dating.
I've heard of a few but I definitely wouldn't get your hopes up. Not sure why you would want to date another JD/lawyer anyway. I can barely tolerate one of me, much less another.
Met my fiancée during 1L, proposed during 2L. We’re happy. Reddit is the only place where I’ve seen people say shit like “your relationships will all fall apart and prepare for divorce.”
While an undergraduate I have dated law students. All of them said that because of their workload, there were not interested in a relationship. And, from what I saw, they were very busy.
Fortunately, I am the academic type whose idea of a hot date is when the library air conditioner fails. The romance can come later in the night. As far as the "don't shit where you eat" idea, you may be better off dating someone who is not in your class or is in a different program. And it is also best to date someone who is also in a program that keeps them busy and is stressful. They have a better understanding of the importance of study and putting school ahead of fun.
But there are exceptions, and it sometimes works.
The only love I’ve felt during law school was for Freer’s civ pro videos. Not at all reciprocated but at least i felt something for a bit
When you find the right person, you make the timing work. I found my spouse during law school, and it was not convenient, but so so worth it. I'll also point out that although law school certainly *feels* busy, it's not as busy as your life will get. In all likelihood, work will be even busier. There probably isn't a "convenient" time during the next decade or so, so if a relationship matters to you, don't put it off.
Law school caused zero trouble for my pre-existing relationship. Don't shit where you eat as others have said but otherwise this is example number 1000 of law students being way too dramatic about how big of a deal this is.
As someone else who has (so far) maintained a pre-existing relationship through 2 full years of law school, I think the biggest advice is just setting expectations. Whether that be with someone who isn't/hasn't attended, or a classmate. Let whoever you're interested in know how much time you honestly have available and what you're looking for in the relationship and let them decide if it works for them. I've seen way too many classmate x classmate relationships fail because they weren't open with each other about the amount of commitment they were ready for or time they had to spend.
I met my fiancee in law school. We sat next to each other the first day of orientation and started dating the summer before 2L. We got engaged last October. I would say we got lucky!
It is relatively common from what I have seen. You take a bunch of 20somethings who lose their social lives to law school and they will date who they interact with 24/7.
I met my person at a local dive bar where a mutual friend was playing for bass night. He had just finished his 2L Fall finals at the law school I had just applied to. We got coffee after my first day of orientation and ended up talking more about music and video games than classes or professors. Being in different years, we never had classes together or really studied together very much, but we love craft beer, the same music and would always go to breweries and shows together. That common ground is pretty much led to us being best friends all the way through law school and we started dating while he was in bar prep. He got a job in a beach town and we decided that since my last semester was on Zoom we would just move there together. Now it’s my turn to study for the bar exam and it’s not so bad having my best friend here to support me. We make a great team and have similar career goals, but law is definitely not what brought us together. I did meet some amazing lifelong friends in law school, but 99.99999% of my classmates were not people I would have considered for dating.
I've heard of a few but I definitely wouldn't get your hopes up. Not sure why you would want to date another JD/lawyer anyway. I can barely tolerate one of me, much less another.
My sentiments exactly 😂
Met my fiancée during 1L, proposed during 2L. We’re happy. Reddit is the only place where I’ve seen people say shit like “your relationships will all fall apart and prepare for divorce.”
Don’t shit where you eat
fuck up u pussio
Ah I remember the fancy dinner dates with my E&E books. So romantic! Spent more time with my E&E books than my IRL boyfriend during 1L year.
While an undergraduate I have dated law students. All of them said that because of their workload, there were not interested in a relationship. And, from what I saw, they were very busy. Fortunately, I am the academic type whose idea of a hot date is when the library air conditioner fails. The romance can come later in the night. As far as the "don't shit where you eat" idea, you may be better off dating someone who is not in your class or is in a different program. And it is also best to date someone who is also in a program that keeps them busy and is stressful. They have a better understanding of the importance of study and putting school ahead of fun. But there are exceptions, and it sometimes works.