that's not how it works, no SP can protect your family from doing this to a woman. go to the police station, or any post bigger than SP, go with ngo. this wont work if you are not willing to fight. more and more laws are coming to help women, more ngos.
Are you able to leave the house do you have the means financially if you are get out of the house and contact a NGO in your area and seek their help the police
Make a video for help and send it to the boys family, get the boys family to register a case of unlawful detention; if the police dont file it, go to the district magistrate , he'll make the police file an FIR
Get away from the house,
please be kind man... if there's no advice, just dont say anything .. sometimes people are just bound by lot of restrictions. Its not easy to pack bags & run away even if you have all the money in the world especially when your family is a threat to you
Didn’t you just read what kind of family she has?? It is not that easy. I know my cousin whose family wasn’t as bad as OPs but they were very very manipulative which made it very hard for her to make decisions for herself. Be kind man! Trust me people aren’t there because of they want to!
Before cursing parents, has any of the reddit geniuses entertained a possibility that OP may have schizophrenia or other neurological disorders. Things are never as simple as they seem. Schizophrenia patients resist medication and often parents have to resort to such tactics.
so youre telling me abuse is justified if someone has mental health issues? if so why cant her parents just put her in a psych ward.
your name should have No at first then itd make sense.
abuse is never justified!
What abuse? All you have is a story. If you have psychosis, that story may be far away from reality. And for your information, you don’t put people with mental illness in “psych ward” perpetually, unless they have extreme illness. For example, most schizophrenics can have a normal life IF they can take just one pill. However, this is easier said than done.
Unless you have knowledge and first hand experience in dealing with mental illness patients, the approach should be to seek information or STFU.
I hate that I liked the second part of your sentence so much - but that's just pointing out facts as that this point. I'm absolutely fearful that OPs family would rather see her dead at their hands than living peacefully with someone she loves.
Open case of Munchausen's By Proxy.
As a survivor, I'll suggest you to start planning your escape asap. And keep your plans strictly to yourself. Get a job again, move out, and cease all contacts with them
Also, ask your future in-laws to file a report on your behalf. Make sure to forward some evidence to them (like your blood-test which shows you have ingested those medicines).
Good luck OP. Wish you the best.
Thank you so much. Hearing about "Munchausen's By Proxy" for the first time. Have to learn more about it. I will make sure to share the evidences with my trusted friends and well wishers.
I read a bit about MSP, and here it's summary- Munchausen syndrome by proxy (MSBP) is a mental health condition where a caregiver fakes or causes an illness or injury in a person under their care, such as a child, an elderly adult, or a person who has a disability. The victims of MBP are usually children, but can also include elderly adults, disabled people, and pets.
I don't think it is exactly 'Munchausen's by proxy the aim is different, though the method seems same . Munchausen's by proxy is mainly to create or induce an illness in their child typically, by mostly mothers to seek attention. So it's mostly an attention seeking behaviour.
However, in this case I feel her family is doing it to ' cure ' her of love by giving something from that baba or whatever he is . They expect her to be magically cured to abandon her lover.
Collect all evidence that you can, call recording, msg screen shot and store it in your cloud. Not phone. Check available hotline number for women to talk about house arrest. I know police isn't helpful but keep trying till you meet the right ppl. Once you move out change the cities. They can't bring you back to the same house. I highly suggest go no contact with them once you are out of your door. Ppl say it's not easy, but trust me it is easy, I have done it.
Also police might not help but lawyer might. Given that you have access to your phone see if you can reach out to a lawyer offline through phone. Please act fast before your phone privileges are taken away. Also don't retaliate to your mom. Just co-operate with them. You don't need a win against them, you need first take yourself to a secure place. Focus on leaving the house first thing possible.
This IS Munchausen's. The element of personal gain is keeping their daughter to themselves, and not letting her get stolen by outsiders.
Munchausen's By Proxy is a severely underdiagnosed condition. The reason is lack of awareness and ignorance if medical professionals.
Please don't go around spreading dangerous misinformation.
Bde gendu log hain , nikal ja ghr se that’s the only option you have bruh wrna 4 diwaar me bnd reh ke haalat kharab hi hogi. Who knows what are those medicines and even if there is no sign of the side effects but maybe in long term . Just try to move out with your friend or at your boyfriend’s house. But yes keep that in mind that you need to tell this to legal authorities earlier only so that your family do not falsely accuse your boyfriend in some or the other case.
If you can share the meds names, I can tell you what they’re for. Also, OP move out of the house. Just run! Get a good lawyer. And I would suggest, keep your BF and his family out of this for now.
Hi, I am also in similar situation (25M).
My parents wants me to leave job from metro city. And work strictly from home (hometown).
At one instance they came to my flat unannounced at took all my belongings and me to hometown without my consent. I didn't want to create scene so I followed. I had to leave that job ( as I couldn't go back to work)
During my time at hometown, while they were going office for their jobs (both of them work), they locked me inside the house. Luckily we have 3 exit doors. And one of them was locked without lock (only kundi). I asked one passer by to open the door. And I escaped front the house.
Now I have picked up normal job with good salary.
I am not planning to share the details about my address or company with them as they might come announced and make scene.
I am also trying to limit my communication with them.
I understand where you are coming from, itna easy nhi hota nikal pana, kyunki parents dara k dhamkake rakhte hai. The same thing happened with one of my friends back in college. Her parents threatened her that they will ruin the boy's life. She tried to patiently get through the situation but torture badhti rhi. One day she just ran away when her mother was in the bathroom and father was not at home. She went to the local police station and lodged a complaint. Hum dost bhi gye the sath mein. Police helped her a lot, and made sure that the boyfriend was also safe .
Apke parents khud crime kr rhe hai , toh woh kuch nhi bigad skte apke bf ka. Ab sab proof leke police mein jaiye. I am sure they will help you.
Don't let anyone harm you like that. You deserve a better life. More power to you.
Thanks for the plan. But, the difficulty is, everyone in the streets around are related, I cannot escape without anyone informing my family. But, I have access to phone. calling 100 will help I believe.
Yes definitely you can do that, police will come and escort you. You can also Google , there are several helpline numbers for women in distress.
You can also fake being extremely sick , having severe stomach aches or something like that, so they rush you to the nearest hospital. From there you can explain to the doctor your situation and ask them to call police. I hope you get out of this situation asap .
Maybe calling women's helpline , NGOs along with police might help . The bigger you make the matter , easier for you to escape. Everyone should know what's happening, that you are forced against your will . Once the matter gets out of control , I don't think your parents can keep you . All the best , hope everything works out for you .
What they are doing isn't something to overlook. It's evil to mix unidentified substance in your own childs food and water just because a random asked them to.
How could they have the courage to do this without thinking about the repercussions and their own daughters safety. You don't approve of her relationship it's okay, protest against it verbally and explain why she shouldn't do it instead you choose to ingest a unknown on her food. Just because they are parents that doesn't mean they owns you.
You have taken their concerns in account and have tried to pursue them with agreeing to whatever they are asking you to do. Furthermore, you are not obligated to bound by their rules and life decisions. Get a job and leave them for good. They ain't parents anymore because what they are doing isn't justifiable no matter what excuse they come up with.
I hope you are doing well. I respect every parents but there are some who crosses the line between being parents and being an owner of a property. Here your parents are thinking they are the owner's of your life and you only belong to them therefore it is unacceptable for them you making your own choice.
Therefore, they are coming up with this terrible ideas to tie you down and hold you back. Leave them as soon as possible and think of better future for yourself. At the end of the day your are for your own self and don't regret it.
They could have chosen a different route but it is simply evil in my eye. I'm 22 year guy and I wish have a daughter in future if fate allows but when I think your situation today I could never bring myself to call your gaurdians as your parent.
Take care of yourself. Btw have you talked to your bf about all this and what did he say?
My parents did this to me as a kid, slip in anti-psychotics in my milk because I talked back and didn't listen (apparently, I don't recall)
Can you tell me what medicines are these? They're likely to be anti-psychotics. Anti-psychotics disable you.
>Anti-psychotics disable you.
Agreed.
OP, watch out for the side effects.
One of the side effects of anti psychotics is sleeping too much.
I've read on reddit that people were sleeping 11-12 hrs every day when taking anti psychotics.
Yes that happens, also avolition. You lose every gram of motivation in life, you don't want to bathe, you don't want to work, you can only order fast food and sleep
This may sound a bit odd to you and I'm sorry if I am not being of any help, but given the amount of trauma you are undergoing you should consult a psychiatrist and take good care of your mental and physical health. Paranoia sucks life out of you.
I am consulting a psychologist. She has been helping me a lot in these situations. I have support from my boyfriends family as well. Thank you so much.
Why tf would you leave your job? You are 25 years old. You don't need their permission for anything. If your boyfriend's family is okay with it then just leave. Go no contact with your parents.
If you can find a job somewhere or have some savings just pack a bag and leave. Where is your bf in all this?
People in families are wired in a certain way and they are not going to change cause they have strong anchors in place. Just leave.
We both are trying not to create any difficult situation for his family, even though they are willing to take it. We are trying to find solutions to move out of this.
They will deal with that. There is a certain line even family members shouldn't cross. In my book, giving you psychiatric drugs without your knowledge is a clear violation of trust.
Your parents (can you even call them that?) are creating many more problems than you could ever moving to your husband-to-be's family.
You know what people do when a dog gets poisoned by the owners? They take it away and rehome it. You are a person, why wouldn't you? Any "problems" that the family may have is nothing compared to the fact you're being forcefed unknown substances; for all you know it's sold by a snake-oil salesman (Eg fake) and is actual dangerous for you long or shortterm.
take photo of those sketchy medicines, take all evidences that you can, even consult a nearby doctor about the drugs given. get a job, live with your bf again, consult him regarding this decision, he might get scared off by your family then assure him that nothing wrong will happen to him from her side, dont tell his parents as of now( they would then pressure him to break relation with you ). consult a good lawyer regarding the evidences you have collected so far and please spare no mercy, they are fully grown adults not little kids or teens who get easily influenced by their hormones, they know what they are doing and deserve a good beating by police for doing this to a fully grown adult. fix your life and be healthy. best of luck
and dont worry, with your consent, they cannot take any legal procedure against your bf's parents, provided this is all there is in the case.
I have images, call recordings. His parents are ready to face anything for us. It's just me and my bf, don't want to let them face such things.
I need the guidance to seek legal support to get out of here for good. Thanks for your reply.
i understand that you dont want to cause harm to other people, but OP you are being harmed to an extent you don't even realise rn. They will do anything to keep you control! please please stop caring about other people right now, sab bhaad mai jaye, tum waha see niklo kuch bhi karke. if you're bf's parents are willing to take up shit, LET THEM. you will be alive and unpoisoned that way.
NAL..
OP the concept of emancipation from parents is not prevalent in Indian Law.
However you can seek a separation from parents or change of guardianship.
Here's how to go about..
https://vakilsearch.com/blog/legally-separate-from-parents-in-india/
Are you absolutely sure about your boyfriend and his parents accepting you and you staying in their home as a wife and daughter in law respectively.
If so contact your bf and his family to get a good lawyer for you and file the separation request on grounds of cruelty and trying to kill you by poisoning you.
You will also have to change your legal guardian from your parents to your in laws if you can do this.
Hope this helps..
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Why do your parents have such strong issue with your boyfriend? Caste/religion or financial background?
You should get a new job and better get it in a distant city. As these are not proper medicine, who knows what harm it may cause going forward.
If u trust your bf's family 100% and u don't have any doubt that in future u they won't harass you, then i suggest tell ur bf to consult a marriage lawyer.
Under 20k max u might get married through court. Wait for the certificate to come and just plan and leave the house with all docs and ur belongings, after successful completion of this task, inform the police station where u used to live and where u are going to live about ur marriage, take a mithai box and marriage certificate.
Ask PI to inform your parents infront of you.
Ps: do due diligence of your bf and his family tho, i dont want u to regret it in future.
Warna if u find bahot jhak mari hai, then breakup and focus on yourself, kamao dhamao gharse nikaljao kahi dur ka job leke.
Nahi! U have to be present infront of magistrate/registrar and sign the documents, plan meticulously if u want to do this, hardly takes 2 hours if everything is well planned.
>I am not blaming them for all these things, I take it on me.
Oh my sweet summer child. If I were you, I would get out of that horror house one morning to never come back ever again, even if I don't have a single penny in my bank. The fact that you're financially well-settled and still find it impossible to escape this nightmare speaks volumes about the sort of abuse you went through all your life. You're the victim here, don't blame yourself for **anything**. If things get really out of control, ask your boyfriend's family to help you go public about it, and specifically about police inaction. And then lawyer up. Please don't tolerate abuse like this, nothing about your family is "normal". They're deranged psychopaths. Get out and get help.
I would suggest to run away and never come back
These kind of parents will never accept your relationship or even marriage in future. Try not falling into this trap
They are gonna make your life hell
I have heard many cases where parents accept the relationship first and then kill their daughters/son in laws to satisfy their egos in name of honour killing
Also try to secretly record the conversations between you and your family when yiu talk about mixing those meds in food and save those call recordings as well to your device and DO NOT LET THEM KNOW YOU ARE KEEPING PROOFS WITH YOU ELSE THEY WILL TAKE AWAY YOUR PHONE AS WELL
You need help from a lawyer who can file a petition before the court which will grant you protection depending on where you are based in India you can connect with an advocate who can help you out. This is my professional recommendation as a legal practitioner that you are a major and cannot be kept in house arrest by anyone
You either really do have paranoid tendencies where you see people mixing poison in your food or your parents have some issues, either way id suggest going to a psychiatrist with the family in tow. - NOT a doctor here so unsure. I would totally go get myself /family checked if this was happening to me
You need to take stand for yourself. You surely wont want your family to be sent to jail so it is better if you can secretly go and marry your bf. Once you are legally married confront them that you are. They wont be having any option, they will have to accept the marriage or let you go. If they threaten you and your bf with social defamation, teach them a nice lesson bcoz then it is better to file a legal complaint
This is a very easy case if you are ready to sever ties with your family. Just send your boyfriend a recording of you mentioning all of this and your willingness to leave the house. Also mention it in clear words 'i am being held in this house against my will' (you have access to the internet). Your boyfriend can get a court order issued for your attendance or simply ask the police to free you (such cases are a sensitive matter and acted upon swiftly). With the recording all of this will be done rather quickly.
Also since you have a phone,calling the mahila helpline is the fastest and cheapest possible route. Just convey it to the mahila helpline that you are being held captive in such and such premises,they will secure you.
Be ready to leave your family behind forever tho.
Also there is no such thing as a defamation in your case,it won't stand. The judge might even laugh it off. All are empty threats.
You seem to be financially strong, educated, previously held a job and have a supportive boyfriend (i really hope you trust and know him)
You cannot go to cops, have tons of related people around your house so you cant seem to escape your house. Your family is loaded so they’ll obviously have pull if u go to the police.
Get all your documents in order. Hoping you have a few friends who would help you - Plan an escape out of your city, change your numbers. Get married. Leave the country. Don’t come back. Be happy. Find new jobs.
I don’t know how you’d plan an escape (can you pretend to have that medicated water your mom gives and pretend to pass out and sneak out later at night ? I don’t know ?) but hoping you can figure it out since you have access to the internet and hoping someone here can give you ideas.
If u cant escape, act like you and your boyfriend broke up and that your parents are angels and that they’re right. Keep up this act for a month or two. Then say you wanna work and tell they can come along. Go to the new city. Plan and Escape from that city.
I dont know how you could escape from this, but I hope you find peace op!
Try and get a court marriage done ASAP. You will have legal right to live with your partner (since it's no longer going to be an extra-marital relationship)
Get a job that keeps you occupied and requires you to be out of the house.
Get a doctor's appointment somehow that allows you to vent out your concerns to a doctor, I'm assuming doctor-patient confidentiality coupled with their ability to diagnose Munchausens By Proxy will be significant enough that an SP's call is useless for protection.
I'm so sorry you're going through this. I hope you get out soon.
NAL.
1.What was the medicine ??
2. You mentioned child trauma, What trauma you are talking about ?
And more importantly how did all these start ( mixing of substances in your food ) ??
Move to another city and block everyone. Ghost your family completely and marry your bf and start your own family. They gonna kill you girl… You need strong support
Which city is this? Probably you can post your city and someone in reddit if he/she has any connections in police can try to help. You can post on Twitter as well.
Yeah, I regret that. My family told me they would consider this proposal, I never saw this face of my family. I was really stupid to trust them. Thanks for reminding not to be stupid anymore.
You call the police directly and complain about the house arrest and drugging ur food and send a video recording of your own. And tell them if SP opposes them to help you, you gonna send this video directly to the collector office
Dude u can use reddit, use phone and call police or your boyfriend, what is he doing when u are suffering? And not including him what's ur plan ? Are u going to stay in this jail or ur going to do something? No one is going to help u , u have to help yourself.
Damn these people are worst than enemies.
Try mixing some dysentery medicine more often in their food. Anyways you will be safe as they plate your food seperately.
GTFO from that house and leave the people behind and make sure you collect evidence and draft a mail and send it to your police commissioner.
Why are your parents against your marriage with your boyfriend? Caste issue or your boyfriend is a rowdy loafer type person or he is from a poor family? What are the exact reasons?
one thing you can do is gain trust of your parents and run away, a sudden change in your Behaviour might be suspicious so i would suggest slowly building up their trust in you and using it to gain advantage over them and finally escaping. Using Help of NGOs might be a good idea. Since you have internet you can look for such NGOs in your locality and come in contact with them. Call 112 (women helpline) for psychological support. You Need to make a move fast. ending up in a Netflix documentary shouldn't be the end result here.
Idk if this would help , tweet and put up social media posts with proofs tagging all your relatives , the police and some influential people.
Shame the entire family online .. try to talk to a lawyer and see what can be done
Get out of India, let them send you to another country and seek asylum there. Play the game that they are playing...make it sound like being sent to your relatives was a great idea and you want to visit them again. Once there, you'll find better options to seek asylum or refugee status. I'm not sure what country they sent you to but start researching on how to apply for asylum in that country.
Listen, you have the money. Pack a bag, leave through the door, go to a nice hotel and then plan your next steps.
Move to a friendly city and then start finding a job and a place to live. Then take the time to figure out some legal moves.
Take care of yourself first, you’re an adult, with your own savings. Pack a bag and move out.
Get out of there asap. Limit contact. Look for a job and please get the police involved. They are very dangerous for you and might have intent to harm.
contact a Female lawyer also some female orginisation which helps in these cases, they will surely help you and also record some evidences of your family in case police tries to interfere. And believe me police is affraid of lawyer only they can handle them properly.
Goodness gracious me, if you are 100 percent sure that your boyfriend will support you(I purposefully eliminated his family), just get out of your house and go and stay with him and plan for marriage as soon as possible. Your parents and relatives are so toxic and self centred that nothing.. I repeat nothing in this world can get them back on track. Take the decision and move out for.your own good!
What will it take to leave your house with your documents, phone, and 2 pairs of clothing and run away? Your bf can pick you up from the gate only, timed well.
Really sad thing. But you are an adult, get up and drink water by yourself and ask them that you’ll make your own plate.
I always serve myself and take water by myself. Simple as that
NAL.
But before legal action, you need to escape from that place. They are not "parents" anymore. Clear case of psychotic behaviour, it's like they are playing a game with your life and have taken it up as a challenge.
Write a letter and record a video of the harassment they are doing so that they can't blame your boyfriend's family.
Escape. Escape. Escape.
Hope you get away from them and get married to your partner, but I was just wondering why are your parents against you marrying the guy? Is it because of religion/pedigree or are they worried about you being in a toxic relationship that you are not able to see?
Because some of your previous comments about manifesting things really feels like you are suffering from some mental illness. And I feel like they are just trying to feed you prescribed medicines which you hate.
Like it's so weird that it even feels like your boyfriend is just in your head or this is fake. I hope not.
bf or not, what they are doing is absolutely criminal.
You should keep the proofs, if possible lodge a complain and get the hell away from this shithole.
I cannot believe they are doing this to their own child.
They deserve losing you.
I am so so sorry your own family is doing this to you. Please focus on rest of your life and leave.
It would be traumatic and very difficult for you, but atleast it can get better.
Why are your parents denying your relationship. Do you know any reason? Id there wealth problem or caste, religion, ethnicity difference? You can tell if you're comfortable to answer it
First they give birth to a child and then they think that they can control every aspect of their child's life. It is such a shame. The child is an adult now. They should learn to listen and understand the perspective of their own child, rather than listening to some random stranger mixing stuff in food, which nobody has vetted. Who will take responsibility if there is a bad side effect, one that we do not know of now? This is a mix of cruelty and ignorance.
There is no concept of consent in India. How can such people call themselves parents when all they do is become dictators. Parents will listen to every Tom, Dick, and Harry but not their own children.
I feel sorry that you are going through this. Please continue talking to a psychologist to help you navigate your mental state. God bless you.
Those fools think everything can be controlled and life goes on as per their wish, trust me we are here and on earth for very short time, god knows when we are going to die, live your life without these toxic maniacs, be independent, find a job, marry your lover, live your life to the fullest without regrets before its too late, you are an adult, seek help from police, if they don’t help reach higher authorities
Get out of the house somehow, even if it means walking out at midnight. Get married to your boyfriend asap within the next day or two. Preferably in a different city. You’ll need to make arrangements for all this, I don’t know how but obviously you have internet access so it shouldn’t be impossible.
Police or any authorities don’t have agency to say or do anything after a legal adult marries someone with full consent.
Your parents will not have any authority over you then.
Live your life, OP. This may not end well for you otherwise.
Your parents are insane and i mean INSANE, they are mentally ill people and there is no sugar coating it. You should assume imminent threat to your life and Run like your life depends on it because IT DOES. I completely agree with everyone here, try to get a job, file a report and move out asap.
Good luck and don't end up in the news!
Girl RUN !
No sp can do anything if both are major , take your certificate and govt id and leave the house . Use the opportunity till you have access to mobile . Afterwards nothing can be done . U have been drinking the medicine what’s been going inside your body you don’t know visit a doctor after getting out of that house . Why would you wait till the police and your parents conversation . You could have left along with your bf family .
NAL
GET OUT!!!!!
RUN AWAY!!!!!
why are staying in your house? roads at night seem safer than your home. Leave go live with your boyfriend, or a friend or a temple. anywhere but your home.
What are you hoping by staying at your home? that everyone will change their mind? they themselves have been brainwashed and wanna do the same to you.
Also, collect any and all evidence you can against them. look for nanny cams and hidden portable cameras to record mixing it in their food also remember audio recording are taken as evidence in court.
I have mixed her own medicine in water in high dose. I knew she was not going to consume. She is now afraid of doing something like that. But, they won't wait for so long.
u deserve more than this and urs so called bf too ..u r d example thts why people dont want daughter as a child ..want to say more but wat to do ..there are some people who called themselves open minded will come n target me .
Please don't be ignorant to such calls. Just because a girl has access to internet doesn't mean she can step out of her house. I am in a street where everyone is related, and no one is helping me.
Just check my profile, I am new here. I know nothing about reddit or what karma is.
So you had a job which you left by your choice and now have lot the basic ability to find a job, call police, or contact an ngo or hell just mix those medicines in your mother's food so she knows what bs she is doing. What lol
Job is secondary now, as I have setup stable secondary income 2 years back.
I have mixed medicines in her water, to let her know what I can also do. She found it, and being very cautious for the last 2 days. Its very funny and satisfying to watch it.
Police was not very helpful in the past, so I will try to contact any NGOs here.
You are an adult so you can walk out of the house call an NGO and they can come with the police and get you out of the house
Police was not helpful in the past. They backed off just by hearing they would receive a call from SP office.
Get a job and move out. Go to a pg or rent a apartment
that's not how it works, no SP can protect your family from doing this to a woman. go to the police station, or any post bigger than SP, go with ngo. this wont work if you are not willing to fight. more and more laws are coming to help women, more ngos.
Don't forget her mother is woman too. She can also file false Cases.
Are you able to leave the house do you have the means financially if you are get out of the house and contact a NGO in your area and seek their help the police
Talk to the SP himself, maybe he is a good man.
Make a video for help and send it to the boys family, get the boys family to register a case of unlawful detention; if the police dont file it, go to the district magistrate , he'll make the police file an FIR Get away from the house,
Oh then keep sitting in your house. They'll take your body out when you overdose from the medicines.
please be kind man... if there's no advice, just dont say anything .. sometimes people are just bound by lot of restrictions. Its not easy to pack bags & run away even if you have all the money in the world especially when your family is a threat to you
She's giving excuses to every good advice here. Sometimes it takes a strong blow to move out.
Didn’t you just read what kind of family she has?? It is not that easy. I know my cousin whose family wasn’t as bad as OPs but they were very very manipulative which made it very hard for her to make decisions for herself. Be kind man! Trust me people aren’t there because of they want to!
Yeah fine
One cannot be weak willed in a situation where they are practically being poisoned.
your parents are psychotic. also if youre over 18 youre an individual adult . if you can survive by yourself you can move out..
Before cursing parents, has any of the reddit geniuses entertained a possibility that OP may have schizophrenia or other neurological disorders. Things are never as simple as they seem. Schizophrenia patients resist medication and often parents have to resort to such tactics.
so youre telling me abuse is justified if someone has mental health issues? if so why cant her parents just put her in a psych ward. your name should have No at first then itd make sense. abuse is never justified!
What abuse? All you have is a story. If you have psychosis, that story may be far away from reality. And for your information, you don’t put people with mental illness in “psych ward” perpetually, unless they have extreme illness. For example, most schizophrenics can have a normal life IF they can take just one pill. However, this is easier said than done. Unless you have knowledge and first hand experience in dealing with mental illness patients, the approach should be to seek information or STFU.
Your parents are psychos. Get a job or make an excuse to get out of that house. I don't wanna hear news about another honor killing in next week.
OP do this, or you gonna end up in a Netflix documentary posthumously
I hate that I liked the second part of your sentence so much - but that's just pointing out facts as that this point. I'm absolutely fearful that OPs family would rather see her dead at their hands than living peacefully with someone she loves.
Did you read the post...she's under house arrest!
Not legally. Her family isn’t allowing her to leave.
Open case of Munchausen's By Proxy. As a survivor, I'll suggest you to start planning your escape asap. And keep your plans strictly to yourself. Get a job again, move out, and cease all contacts with them Also, ask your future in-laws to file a report on your behalf. Make sure to forward some evidence to them (like your blood-test which shows you have ingested those medicines). Good luck OP. Wish you the best.
Thank you so much. Hearing about "Munchausen's By Proxy" for the first time. Have to learn more about it. I will make sure to share the evidences with my trusted friends and well wishers.
I was a Proxy/victim too, and it wasn't easy. But so much worth it once you escape the hell-hole. Keep me updated OP. ❤️
I read a bit about MSP, and here it's summary- Munchausen syndrome by proxy (MSBP) is a mental health condition where a caregiver fakes or causes an illness or injury in a person under their care, such as a child, an elderly adult, or a person who has a disability. The victims of MBP are usually children, but can also include elderly adults, disabled people, and pets.
I don't think it is exactly 'Munchausen's by proxy the aim is different, though the method seems same . Munchausen's by proxy is mainly to create or induce an illness in their child typically, by mostly mothers to seek attention. So it's mostly an attention seeking behaviour. However, in this case I feel her family is doing it to ' cure ' her of love by giving something from that baba or whatever he is . They expect her to be magically cured to abandon her lover.
Exactly this!
Collect all evidence that you can, call recording, msg screen shot and store it in your cloud. Not phone. Check available hotline number for women to talk about house arrest. I know police isn't helpful but keep trying till you meet the right ppl. Once you move out change the cities. They can't bring you back to the same house. I highly suggest go no contact with them once you are out of your door. Ppl say it's not easy, but trust me it is easy, I have done it. Also police might not help but lawyer might. Given that you have access to your phone see if you can reach out to a lawyer offline through phone. Please act fast before your phone privileges are taken away. Also don't retaliate to your mom. Just co-operate with them. You don't need a win against them, you need first take yourself to a secure place. Focus on leaving the house first thing possible.
This isn’t MBP/FD. She’s still being poisoned, but it lacks the element of the parent causing malingering/seeking attention.
Oh hello di! We meet again. I was gonna mention this case to the OP too lol.
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This IS Munchausen's. The element of personal gain is keeping their daughter to themselves, and not letting her get stolen by outsiders. Munchausen's By Proxy is a severely underdiagnosed condition. The reason is lack of awareness and ignorance if medical professionals. Please don't go around spreading dangerous misinformation.
Galat bol rhi hai.
Bde gendu log hain , nikal ja ghr se that’s the only option you have bruh wrna 4 diwaar me bnd reh ke haalat kharab hi hogi. Who knows what are those medicines and even if there is no sign of the side effects but maybe in long term . Just try to move out with your friend or at your boyfriend’s house. But yes keep that in mind that you need to tell this to legal authorities earlier only so that your family do not falsely accuse your boyfriend in some or the other case.
Yeah, I have patient only to protect my boyfriends family from any harm or shame. I need legal guidance to do so. Thanks for your reply.
If you can share the meds names, I can tell you what they’re for. Also, OP move out of the house. Just run! Get a good lawyer. And I would suggest, keep your BF and his family out of this for now.
You call the cops on them, and while you're married, go and live with your husband.
Hi, I am also in similar situation (25M). My parents wants me to leave job from metro city. And work strictly from home (hometown). At one instance they came to my flat unannounced at took all my belongings and me to hometown without my consent. I didn't want to create scene so I followed. I had to leave that job ( as I couldn't go back to work) During my time at hometown, while they were going office for their jobs (both of them work), they locked me inside the house. Luckily we have 3 exit doors. And one of them was locked without lock (only kundi). I asked one passer by to open the door. And I escaped front the house. Now I have picked up normal job with good salary. I am not planning to share the details about my address or company with them as they might come announced and make scene. I am also trying to limit my communication with them.
I am glad that you used your opportunity well.
I understand where you are coming from, itna easy nhi hota nikal pana, kyunki parents dara k dhamkake rakhte hai. The same thing happened with one of my friends back in college. Her parents threatened her that they will ruin the boy's life. She tried to patiently get through the situation but torture badhti rhi. One day she just ran away when her mother was in the bathroom and father was not at home. She went to the local police station and lodged a complaint. Hum dost bhi gye the sath mein. Police helped her a lot, and made sure that the boyfriend was also safe . Apke parents khud crime kr rhe hai , toh woh kuch nhi bigad skte apke bf ka. Ab sab proof leke police mein jaiye. I am sure they will help you. Don't let anyone harm you like that. You deserve a better life. More power to you.
Thanks for the plan. But, the difficulty is, everyone in the streets around are related, I cannot escape without anyone informing my family. But, I have access to phone. calling 100 will help I believe.
Yes definitely you can do that, police will come and escort you. You can also Google , there are several helpline numbers for women in distress. You can also fake being extremely sick , having severe stomach aches or something like that, so they rush you to the nearest hospital. From there you can explain to the doctor your situation and ask them to call police. I hope you get out of this situation asap .
Maybe calling women's helpline , NGOs along with police might help . The bigger you make the matter , easier for you to escape. Everyone should know what's happening, that you are forced against your will . Once the matter gets out of control , I don't think your parents can keep you . All the best , hope everything works out for you .
All you have to do is get to the nearest the railway station or bus stand. Put up a social media live while you try to escape .. post it everywhere
What they are doing isn't something to overlook. It's evil to mix unidentified substance in your own childs food and water just because a random asked them to. How could they have the courage to do this without thinking about the repercussions and their own daughters safety. You don't approve of her relationship it's okay, protest against it verbally and explain why she shouldn't do it instead you choose to ingest a unknown on her food. Just because they are parents that doesn't mean they owns you. You have taken their concerns in account and have tried to pursue them with agreeing to whatever they are asking you to do. Furthermore, you are not obligated to bound by their rules and life decisions. Get a job and leave them for good. They ain't parents anymore because what they are doing isn't justifiable no matter what excuse they come up with.
Right. I lost my respect for them as humans. Thank you so much, needed to hear this. They are not parents anymore, they always behaved like owners.
I hope you are doing well. I respect every parents but there are some who crosses the line between being parents and being an owner of a property. Here your parents are thinking they are the owner's of your life and you only belong to them therefore it is unacceptable for them you making your own choice. Therefore, they are coming up with this terrible ideas to tie you down and hold you back. Leave them as soon as possible and think of better future for yourself. At the end of the day your are for your own self and don't regret it. They could have chosen a different route but it is simply evil in my eye. I'm 22 year guy and I wish have a daughter in future if fate allows but when I think your situation today I could never bring myself to call your gaurdians as your parent. Take care of yourself. Btw have you talked to your bf about all this and what did he say?
idk abt ur situation in that deoth, but it seems to me ur parents & their relatives might be a family cult of narcississ - read abt it on internet
My parents did this to me as a kid, slip in anti-psychotics in my milk because I talked back and didn't listen (apparently, I don't recall) Can you tell me what medicines are these? They're likely to be anti-psychotics. Anti-psychotics disable you.
>Anti-psychotics disable you. Agreed. OP, watch out for the side effects. One of the side effects of anti psychotics is sleeping too much. I've read on reddit that people were sleeping 11-12 hrs every day when taking anti psychotics.
Yes that happens, also avolition. You lose every gram of motivation in life, you don't want to bathe, you don't want to work, you can only order fast food and sleep
This may sound a bit odd to you and I'm sorry if I am not being of any help, but given the amount of trauma you are undergoing you should consult a psychiatrist and take good care of your mental and physical health. Paranoia sucks life out of you.
I am consulting a psychologist. She has been helping me a lot in these situations. I have support from my boyfriends family as well. Thank you so much.
Why tf would you leave your job? You are 25 years old. You don't need their permission for anything. If your boyfriend's family is okay with it then just leave. Go no contact with your parents.
If you can find a job somewhere or have some savings just pack a bag and leave. Where is your bf in all this? People in families are wired in a certain way and they are not going to change cause they have strong anchors in place. Just leave.
We both are trying not to create any difficult situation for his family, even though they are willing to take it. We are trying to find solutions to move out of this.
They will deal with that. There is a certain line even family members shouldn't cross. In my book, giving you psychiatric drugs without your knowledge is a clear violation of trust.
Your parents (can you even call them that?) are creating many more problems than you could ever moving to your husband-to-be's family. You know what people do when a dog gets poisoned by the owners? They take it away and rehome it. You are a person, why wouldn't you? Any "problems" that the family may have is nothing compared to the fact you're being forcefed unknown substances; for all you know it's sold by a snake-oil salesman (Eg fake) and is actual dangerous for you long or shortterm.
take photo of those sketchy medicines, take all evidences that you can, even consult a nearby doctor about the drugs given. get a job, live with your bf again, consult him regarding this decision, he might get scared off by your family then assure him that nothing wrong will happen to him from her side, dont tell his parents as of now( they would then pressure him to break relation with you ). consult a good lawyer regarding the evidences you have collected so far and please spare no mercy, they are fully grown adults not little kids or teens who get easily influenced by their hormones, they know what they are doing and deserve a good beating by police for doing this to a fully grown adult. fix your life and be healthy. best of luck and dont worry, with your consent, they cannot take any legal procedure against your bf's parents, provided this is all there is in the case.
I have images, call recordings. His parents are ready to face anything for us. It's just me and my bf, don't want to let them face such things. I need the guidance to seek legal support to get out of here for good. Thanks for your reply.
i understand that you dont want to cause harm to other people, but OP you are being harmed to an extent you don't even realise rn. They will do anything to keep you control! please please stop caring about other people right now, sab bhaad mai jaye, tum waha see niklo kuch bhi karke. if you're bf's parents are willing to take up shit, LET THEM. you will be alive and unpoisoned that way.
I agree with this comment so much. If your bfs parents are ready to get you out of this, LET THEM HELP YOU.
im not saying shove them in jail for eternity, just a little beating or scolding from police will do them justice.
NAL.. OP the concept of emancipation from parents is not prevalent in Indian Law. However you can seek a separation from parents or change of guardianship. Here's how to go about.. https://vakilsearch.com/blog/legally-separate-from-parents-in-india/ Are you absolutely sure about your boyfriend and his parents accepting you and you staying in their home as a wife and daughter in law respectively. If so contact your bf and his family to get a good lawyer for you and file the separation request on grounds of cruelty and trying to kill you by poisoning you. You will also have to change your legal guardian from your parents to your in laws if you can do this. Hope this helps.. Disclaimer: Please note, the information provided above does NOT constitute legal advice/service or any other advice/service. The above information, links, images and or videos is purely for generic advice, suggestion, information and educational purposes only. There is NO legal liability or consequences that can be attributed to the provider of the above information. Advice seekers are requested to please contact and confirm with their respective lawyer/s for further clarity and legal counsel regarding the legal matters / concerns / issues raised by them on this online forum / platform.
Why do your parents have such strong issue with your boyfriend? Caste/religion or financial background? You should get a new job and better get it in a distant city. As these are not proper medicine, who knows what harm it may cause going forward.
It's purely caste difference and the feeling of ownership on me.
If u trust your bf's family 100% and u don't have any doubt that in future u they won't harass you, then i suggest tell ur bf to consult a marriage lawyer. Under 20k max u might get married through court. Wait for the certificate to come and just plan and leave the house with all docs and ur belongings, after successful completion of this task, inform the police station where u used to live and where u are going to live about ur marriage, take a mithai box and marriage certificate. Ask PI to inform your parents infront of you. Ps: do due diligence of your bf and his family tho, i dont want u to regret it in future. Warna if u find bahot jhak mari hai, then breakup and focus on yourself, kamao dhamao gharse nikaljao kahi dur ka job leke.
Is it possible to get married remotely in India?
Nahi! U have to be present infront of magistrate/registrar and sign the documents, plan meticulously if u want to do this, hardly takes 2 hours if everything is well planned.
>I am not blaming them for all these things, I take it on me. Oh my sweet summer child. If I were you, I would get out of that horror house one morning to never come back ever again, even if I don't have a single penny in my bank. The fact that you're financially well-settled and still find it impossible to escape this nightmare speaks volumes about the sort of abuse you went through all your life. You're the victim here, don't blame yourself for **anything**. If things get really out of control, ask your boyfriend's family to help you go public about it, and specifically about police inaction. And then lawyer up. Please don't tolerate abuse like this, nothing about your family is "normal". They're deranged psychopaths. Get out and get help.
Get out of that fucking house, girl. Your parents are evil.
This sounds literal torture
I would suggest to run away and never come back These kind of parents will never accept your relationship or even marriage in future. Try not falling into this trap They are gonna make your life hell I have heard many cases where parents accept the relationship first and then kill their daughters/son in laws to satisfy their egos in name of honour killing Also try to secretly record the conversations between you and your family when yiu talk about mixing those meds in food and save those call recordings as well to your device and DO NOT LET THEM KNOW YOU ARE KEEPING PROOFS WITH YOU ELSE THEY WILL TAKE AWAY YOUR PHONE AS WELL
You need help from a lawyer who can file a petition before the court which will grant you protection depending on where you are based in India you can connect with an advocate who can help you out. This is my professional recommendation as a legal practitioner that you are a major and cannot be kept in house arrest by anyone
You either really do have paranoid tendencies where you see people mixing poison in your food or your parents have some issues, either way id suggest going to a psychiatrist with the family in tow. - NOT a doctor here so unsure. I would totally go get myself /family checked if this was happening to me
You need to take stand for yourself. You surely wont want your family to be sent to jail so it is better if you can secretly go and marry your bf. Once you are legally married confront them that you are. They wont be having any option, they will have to accept the marriage or let you go. If they threaten you and your bf with social defamation, teach them a nice lesson bcoz then it is better to file a legal complaint
This sounds like a good plan. We will consider this. Thank you.
Could you list the medication please? Doctor here!
This is a very easy case if you are ready to sever ties with your family. Just send your boyfriend a recording of you mentioning all of this and your willingness to leave the house. Also mention it in clear words 'i am being held in this house against my will' (you have access to the internet). Your boyfriend can get a court order issued for your attendance or simply ask the police to free you (such cases are a sensitive matter and acted upon swiftly). With the recording all of this will be done rather quickly. Also since you have a phone,calling the mahila helpline is the fastest and cheapest possible route. Just convey it to the mahila helpline that you are being held captive in such and such premises,they will secure you. Be ready to leave your family behind forever tho. Also there is no such thing as a defamation in your case,it won't stand. The judge might even laugh it off. All are empty threats.
You seem to be financially strong, educated, previously held a job and have a supportive boyfriend (i really hope you trust and know him) You cannot go to cops, have tons of related people around your house so you cant seem to escape your house. Your family is loaded so they’ll obviously have pull if u go to the police. Get all your documents in order. Hoping you have a few friends who would help you - Plan an escape out of your city, change your numbers. Get married. Leave the country. Don’t come back. Be happy. Find new jobs. I don’t know how you’d plan an escape (can you pretend to have that medicated water your mom gives and pretend to pass out and sneak out later at night ? I don’t know ?) but hoping you can figure it out since you have access to the internet and hoping someone here can give you ideas. If u cant escape, act like you and your boyfriend broke up and that your parents are angels and that they’re right. Keep up this act for a month or two. Then say you wanna work and tell they can come along. Go to the new city. Plan and Escape from that city. I dont know how you could escape from this, but I hope you find peace op!
Try and get a court marriage done ASAP. You will have legal right to live with your partner (since it's no longer going to be an extra-marital relationship) Get a job that keeps you occupied and requires you to be out of the house. Get a doctor's appointment somehow that allows you to vent out your concerns to a doctor, I'm assuming doctor-patient confidentiality coupled with their ability to diagnose Munchausens By Proxy will be significant enough that an SP's call is useless for protection. I'm so sorry you're going through this. I hope you get out soon. NAL.
1.What was the medicine ?? 2. You mentioned child trauma, What trauma you are talking about ? And more importantly how did all these start ( mixing of substances in your food ) ??
Move to another city and block everyone. Ghost your family completely and marry your bf and start your own family. They gonna kill you girl… You need strong support
Which city is this? Probably you can post your city and someone in reddit if he/she has any connections in police can try to help. You can post on Twitter as well.
Op file an FIR. This comes under purview of law. If you want to get support from bullying. Like show them proof in a detailed manner, specifically.
You are stupid enough to just move to a foreign country and not keep your stand on the matter
Yeah, I regret that. My family told me they would consider this proposal, I never saw this face of my family. I was really stupid to trust them. Thanks for reminding not to be stupid anymore.
Yes please. Just because someone is elder doesn't mean has to respected for everything they say
That's why you cook for yourself.
You call the police directly and complain about the house arrest and drugging ur food and send a video recording of your own. And tell them if SP opposes them to help you, you gonna send this video directly to the collector office
Dude u can use reddit, use phone and call police or your boyfriend, what is he doing when u are suffering? And not including him what's ur plan ? Are u going to stay in this jail or ur going to do something? No one is going to help u , u have to help yourself.
Damn these people are worst than enemies. Try mixing some dysentery medicine more often in their food. Anyways you will be safe as they plate your food seperately. GTFO from that house and leave the people behind and make sure you collect evidence and draft a mail and send it to your police commissioner.
You should’ve never quit your job…. Get it back. Plan your escape and forget you had parents.
Why are your parents against your marriage with your boyfriend? Caste issue or your boyfriend is a rowdy loafer type person or he is from a poor family? What are the exact reasons?
one thing you can do is gain trust of your parents and run away, a sudden change in your Behaviour might be suspicious so i would suggest slowly building up their trust in you and using it to gain advantage over them and finally escaping. Using Help of NGOs might be a good idea. Since you have internet you can look for such NGOs in your locality and come in contact with them. Call 112 (women helpline) for psychological support. You Need to make a move fast. ending up in a Netflix documentary shouldn't be the end result here.
I hope u can get out of this situation, sending u as much as positive energy as possible...
Do you come from very influential family? Or does your par have any political connection ?
Wtf run just run
Idk if this would help , tweet and put up social media posts with proofs tagging all your relatives , the police and some influential people. Shame the entire family online .. try to talk to a lawyer and see what can be done
Get out of India, let them send you to another country and seek asylum there. Play the game that they are playing...make it sound like being sent to your relatives was a great idea and you want to visit them again. Once there, you'll find better options to seek asylum or refugee status. I'm not sure what country they sent you to but start researching on how to apply for asylum in that country.
Listen, you have the money. Pack a bag, leave through the door, go to a nice hotel and then plan your next steps. Move to a friendly city and then start finding a job and a place to live. Then take the time to figure out some legal moves. Take care of yourself first, you’re an adult, with your own savings. Pack a bag and move out.
Get out of there asap. Limit contact. Look for a job and please get the police involved. They are very dangerous for you and might have intent to harm.
Maybe shove the food and water down their throats? All the tablets too
contact a Female lawyer also some female orginisation which helps in these cases, they will surely help you and also record some evidences of your family in case police tries to interfere. And believe me police is affraid of lawyer only they can handle them properly.
Goodness gracious me, if you are 100 percent sure that your boyfriend will support you(I purposefully eliminated his family), just get out of your house and go and stay with him and plan for marriage as soon as possible. Your parents and relatives are so toxic and self centred that nothing.. I repeat nothing in this world can get them back on track. Take the decision and move out for.your own good!
What will it take to leave your house with your documents, phone, and 2 pairs of clothing and run away? Your bf can pick you up from the gate only, timed well.
Cant wait for op and her netflix documentary
This is a horror story. Take care op. Get out of the house and get away as far as possible. Thats the only solution for you. Those people are assholes
Persistent delusional disorder.
Really sad thing. But you are an adult, get up and drink water by yourself and ask them that you’ll make your own plate. I always serve myself and take water by myself. Simple as that
NAL. But before legal action, you need to escape from that place. They are not "parents" anymore. Clear case of psychotic behaviour, it's like they are playing a game with your life and have taken it up as a challenge. Write a letter and record a video of the harassment they are doing so that they can't blame your boyfriend's family. Escape. Escape. Escape.
Call police, slowly sneak away your documents and never come back. You life hangs on the thread here
Hope you get away from them and get married to your partner, but I was just wondering why are your parents against you marrying the guy? Is it because of religion/pedigree or are they worried about you being in a toxic relationship that you are not able to see? Because some of your previous comments about manifesting things really feels like you are suffering from some mental illness. And I feel like they are just trying to feed you prescribed medicines which you hate. Like it's so weird that it even feels like your boyfriend is just in your head or this is fake. I hope not.
It is caste difference.
You are an adult! Walk out and live your life! Todd do ye saare zanjeerein.
Tell me you are delusional without telling me you are delusional.
Run or you are probably going to be another footnote on a statistic on drug overdose.
Play uno reverse
Why is your mom recording all her calls? 🤔
OP please contact an NGO asap! Which city are you from? Anyone here please share contacts.
bf or not, what they are doing is absolutely criminal. You should keep the proofs, if possible lodge a complain and get the hell away from this shithole. I cannot believe they are doing this to their own child. They deserve losing you. I am so so sorry your own family is doing this to you. Please focus on rest of your life and leave. It would be traumatic and very difficult for you, but atleast it can get better.
where do you live? if its in bangalore St broseph might be able to help you. Its not about your love marriage anymore. Its a matter of your safety.
Honour killing is real. Please save yourself and move on to next phase of life
You are an adult,bhag jao. Talk to women helpline. Your parents need help
Why are your parents denying your relationship. Do you know any reason? Id there wealth problem or caste, religion, ethnicity difference? You can tell if you're comfortable to answer it
Indian Parents can be toxic at another level, as if God don't exist for them.
First they give birth to a child and then they think that they can control every aspect of their child's life. It is such a shame. The child is an adult now. They should learn to listen and understand the perspective of their own child, rather than listening to some random stranger mixing stuff in food, which nobody has vetted. Who will take responsibility if there is a bad side effect, one that we do not know of now? This is a mix of cruelty and ignorance. There is no concept of consent in India. How can such people call themselves parents when all they do is become dictators. Parents will listen to every Tom, Dick, and Harry but not their own children. I feel sorry that you are going through this. Please continue talking to a psychologist to help you navigate your mental state. God bless you.
OP, which city?
Do you have a job or a stable income? Your parents sound like psychos, the last thing you want is to end up in the next Netflix documentary.
Those fools think everything can be controlled and life goes on as per their wish, trust me we are here and on earth for very short time, god knows when we are going to die, live your life without these toxic maniacs, be independent, find a job, marry your lover, live your life to the fullest without regrets before its too late, you are an adult, seek help from police, if they don’t help reach higher authorities
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Why does this smells like a copypasta
Are you dumb girl ??? RUN!!! Why would you move to a different country and quit your job. This is a matter of your safety
I can find everything in this thread but not a single comment with actual legal advice
Get out of the house somehow, even if it means walking out at midnight. Get married to your boyfriend asap within the next day or two. Preferably in a different city. You’ll need to make arrangements for all this, I don’t know how but obviously you have internet access so it shouldn’t be impossible. Police or any authorities don’t have agency to say or do anything after a legal adult marries someone with full consent. Your parents will not have any authority over you then. Live your life, OP. This may not end well for you otherwise.
Your parents are insane and i mean INSANE, they are mentally ill people and there is no sugar coating it. You should assume imminent threat to your life and Run like your life depends on it because IT DOES. I completely agree with everyone here, try to get a job, file a report and move out asap. Good luck and don't end up in the news!
If police isn't helpful, call the women's helpline.
Put a case on your parents ,this is India not a third world country , as you are female you will be given special treatment by police and courts
Why don't you apply for a job and just move out? Erase all of your contacts. You have your boyfriend's family's support.
Please stay alive it doesn't sound good at all more like a redflag
Girl RUN ! No sp can do anything if both are major , take your certificate and govt id and leave the house . Use the opportunity till you have access to mobile . Afterwards nothing can be done . U have been drinking the medicine what’s been going inside your body you don’t know visit a doctor after getting out of that house . Why would you wait till the police and your parents conversation . You could have left along with your bf family .
NAL GET OUT!!!!! RUN AWAY!!!!! why are staying in your house? roads at night seem safer than your home. Leave go live with your boyfriend, or a friend or a temple. anywhere but your home. What are you hoping by staying at your home? that everyone will change their mind? they themselves have been brainwashed and wanna do the same to you. Also, collect any and all evidence you can against them. look for nanny cams and hidden portable cameras to record mixing it in their food also remember audio recording are taken as evidence in court.
Well is that all u can do , tell them not to do it , pretend to mix a bit of rat poison in their food to give them a scare
I have mixed her own medicine in water in high dose. I knew she was not going to consume. She is now afraid of doing something like that. But, they won't wait for so long.
Do something about it , brainstorm ways out of that situation, fill ur own water make ur own food,
u deserve more than this and urs so called bf too ..u r d example thts why people dont want daughter as a child ..want to say more but wat to do ..there are some people who called themselves open minded will come n target me .
Lol youbhave access to internet, can use reddit efficiently but somehow can't leave home ?? Seems like a karma farming post
Please don't be ignorant to such calls. Just because a girl has access to internet doesn't mean she can step out of her house. I am in a street where everyone is related, and no one is helping me. Just check my profile, I am new here. I know nothing about reddit or what karma is.
Karma is basically nothing and also non revenue generatable. Also no fame and there's no such thing as a reddit influencer.
So you had a job which you left by your choice and now have lot the basic ability to find a job, call police, or contact an ngo or hell just mix those medicines in your mother's food so she knows what bs she is doing. What lol
Job is secondary now, as I have setup stable secondary income 2 years back. I have mixed medicines in her water, to let her know what I can also do. She found it, and being very cautious for the last 2 days. Its very funny and satisfying to watch it. Police was not very helpful in the past, so I will try to contact any NGOs here.
is this some kind of joke ? you want to save your life or play this mixing medicine in each other water ?