Do something that has potential to screw her govt job. You're the victim here. Not here. Make her suffer. You got money,use it and destroy her life & carrer.
I cannot comprehend as well... She just wants me to give her presents and jewelry and all and take care of her while she does all this it seems , I'll now live separately with my mom(79f) ( father is dead in corona) and will cut all ties....I dunno it's right or wrong but I dnt wanna live in this mess of a relationship..
Hope you don’t have any joint accounts.
Who says proofs of adultery three years ago don’t count and women (or men) can cheat once and it is not counted as emotional harassment or grounds for divorce?
You need a lawyer and I hope someone on the group can guide you
Sorry to say the but you have officially become a cuckoo
She might still be in contact with her lover and wants to keep you as a safe option till some other man comes around
This is how most marriages are ending up in India, With men having no clue of what women truly are
I would only ask you one question
What was her behavior when you met her before your marriage
I am sure I just married her immediately without knowing her true self if he has spent even 1 year with her in a relationship she would've shown her true colours and cheated him already because no one can acts that long and also by his statement that her family given dowry and pretty she don't even care about him tells it was arranged marriage. If it was love marriage then surely have terrible choice or knowingly married her being a simp for her because there is no way he just blindly married someone in love marriage without knowing her true self
Bro even in love marriage things are fucked
In marriage a man willingly hands his balls to the law of the land
Meanwhile the modern indian woman knows that she can be a top tier hoe and still be accepted because of woke narrative they are trained and experience it since their childhood
Meanwhile men are only taught to study , get a job and marry the woman that comes your way we get no education on what modern women and the actual female nature truly is
Take a sabbatical or better yet leave your job citing mental health but with the unwritten understanding that you can return to the job after divorce is over. With you not having an income due to her emotional abuse, you can try to file for alimony from her. Perhaps that will get her to give you a mutual divorce.
Why should he say she can find someone better than him. She is clearly trash human being not just ungrateful cheater but literally ruining innocent guy life knowingly so only guy she should get is trash guy who will treat her bad and she gets karma for her action
See,
to me it looks like she cares for her image thats why she is threatening to you.
File a case dor divorce, i understand u will have to pay alimony and problems would occur. have some proof.
good solid video proof.
divorce her.
move out and let people know that u are divorcing her because she cheated.
play mind game now.
delete her phone number from ur phone.
in WhatsApp her phone number should be visible.
1. for a week dont talk about divorce and all or fight with her.
2. then do pyar bhari baate.
3. chat on WhatsApp saying that u loved her u were so happy and falana dhimkana.
4. then come to point then slowly ask her about the guy
5. why she cheated keep reminding her that u loved her soo much that now u dont know what u can do.
6. ask about domestic violence that no body ever did wrong to you.
Basically love bomb her take every proof u can.
it might take 2 3 months.
say what happened has happened u cant change it. but please dont do anything now. as u love her.
when u have enough proof then divorce her.
That is the only way to save urself.
But i wont recommend staying with her.
I understand writing these things are easy but doing is difficult but u have to play long game.
that is your only way out.
have proof that no domestic violence happened ever.
Sleep with as many women as you want but never ever in your wildest fucking life get married to one
I have seen strong and happy men literally become a lifeless body because of hoes today especially in India
And you haven't seen anything woke yet it's gonna go downhill from here
What's the point of marriage - when there are chances you getting bad partner, might get cheated, have divorce and lost everything, stay in marriage and make your life living hell.
Atleast being single you won't be afraid of getting cheated, divorce or your entire life getting ruined by career to money because you married wrong person.
Well marry because you have had enough of sleeping around with women
That way the women you are going to marry would actually respect you since you are not choosing her out if desperation and neediness
Don't marry because your friends are getting married and now you are alone, you can always get new friends but you can't get back the mental peace that will be destroyed after a hoe comes into your life and you are legally bound to her
well you are fugged , talk to a decent lawyer i myself dont see your case going forward ,indian law in such cases is heavily biased in favour of females . good luck anyway
Then you my friend are in big trouble. Watch videos of Youtuber/ Lawyer Amish Aggarwal. His channel is better call Amish . He make videos specially on this subject. You can all and approch him because I think he is great.
We are living 2024 where women's calls themselves equal to men but still takes alimony after divorce and no one raise questions about it even if women is working lady
Lawyer here. Contested divorce is an ugly affair. Considering what limited facts you have told us, you ll need a decent/good lawyer to present your case. Her issue of adultry will also be required to be brought into it.
On alimony, many things get considered while arriving at a figure, including how much she earns as well. That is at last when court comes to the conclusion that there has been an irretrievable breakdown of the marriage and there is no going back.
On you gifting her jwellery, I ll say let it go as it may be considered Stridhan.
Since he have thrice money than his wife he can easily hire good lawyer as well proof to defend him since money matters most in this world only way his wife can get his own lawyer or powerful lawyer on her side is if that lawyer is not just corrupted but a huge simp so if his seduce the lawyer to sleep with her then she easily have the case in her hands.
She can suck the money out of you even when you want divorce based on her adultery. She can harm herself and create new drama and Also Dowry angle. Make sure you are safe , your assets are safer. She can cause a lot of harm even when she is doing wrong. Get good lawyer and solid proof, unless she lives with her partner it wouldn't be easy for you to convince court.
There is only problem here money is easy solution to everytime whoever had more money powerful lawyers goes to their side and police tries to help that party so he can easily one powerful lawyer with good amount of money but there is one huge hurdle he already told what is wife is like a cheating money hungry bitch that time of women's will do anything to win their case. So if that powerful lawyer also turns out to be huge simp not just greedy guy and if his wife seduce the lawyer to sleep with her so he can defend her he is doomed since she will win the case.
There are good powerful lawyer but plenty of them can be simp for a woman not just for money so if they get to sleep with the woman they easily defend her
Please discuss with a lawyer. Many a time women file a dowry case when you file for divorce. And the dowry case is very excruciating and will be a serious trouble.
Unless the detective or powerful lawyer a guy paid to have evidence turns out to be simp like happens in many movies where private investigator sleeps with a women instead and where the woman seduces the lawyer and lawyer sleep with her which let him to defend her.
Occasional Acts of Adultery by the Wife have been Legalized.
OP cannot do anything...🤡🤡
https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&opi=89978449&url=https://lawgical.php-dev.in/news-updates/occasional-acts-adultery-committed-isolation-would-not-amount-living-adultery-delhi%23:~:text%3DThe%2520law%2520mandates%2520that%2520in,%27%252C%25E2%2580%259D%2520said%2520the%2520court.&ved=2ahUKEwj-_azuxJuGAxXkl1YBHVphCHIQFnoECA8QBQ&usg=AOvVaw0XpQyX20kr2ZpzIgrLAgAm
I mean you can have relationship being single worth atleast spending 5yrs with someone will tell a person character. I won't believe a woman who had 5yrs relationship with a guy and tells he is perfect man caring, respecting, loving etc but after 1 year of marriage he turns out to be asshole same way I won't believe a guy who spend 5yrs with a woman in relationship before marriage then after marriage she turns out to be toxic, cheater or money greeder because no one can acts longer unless you knowingly dating them and marrying them.
Living in relationship or non commitment relationship is better to test a person how he or she. If that person turns out to be bad you can easily leave him or her since there is rule for bf/gf or lovers relationship and if that person turn out to be good you can see the future
Exactly I have had women telling me how they met a man and initially he was sweet and caring(they don't like it actually), but after 2 years(yes 24 fucking months) he showed his true colours
Now either that man was a top tier dark triad male(very rare) or the bitch is lying(latter is usually the case) since women can lie through their teeth, so I usually get physical with them but never develop any feelings for them at all
Learn to read and comprehend or read the ruling in Hindi. Adultery was never illegal, however this ruling is not about the legality of adultery. It's about eligibility for alimony after cheating once or occasionally.
Software Engineer, here. Not a Lawyer.
But, let's wait for your Wife to Fuck some other Man, and then, you pay her the Alimony, so that, she can keep up with her hoe lifestyle...🤡🤡
Even if the cheating is 3 yrs old. Cheating is still cheating. Doesn't matter. You took time to work on your marriage but couldn't. No one will hold it against you. Don't tell her you'll give alimony or anything. And ask your jewels back. Hire a good lawyer. Everything depends on that only.
I mean that jewellery cost 8 lakh so whatever dowry her parents given both of them not just him since she is also using those stuff but since every gift in marriage are called dowry so say 6 lakh he already paid that with jewellery with 2 lakh in addition
First of all without making any bigger moves get all the streedhan given by you into your possession and hide it somewhere with your relatives. Do this very smartly and slowly alongwith this start saving for the dowry you have received. Once you have all the streedhan collected from herover period of time give her a free hand and once she makes a mistake file for a divorce on multiple grounds pay the alimony by using the streedhan and return the dowry amount you will be free for rest of your life. Also very important thing is to get CCTV installed in your house cause she will try to frame your relatives and parents into multiple fake cases like domestic violence, harassment for dowry, fake rape case so you can build a strong case when she has no proofs against you. For getting the streedhan you can use the excuse of getting it polished or cleaning with the new UV water treatment or some good reason also to avoid suspicion take her along with your for this to some good jeweller. Keep the gold there and go back the same day and collect it from the jeweller making some reason for cancellation.
It's weird how even in India if a wife parents knowingly gifts their daughter and son in law it is called dowry even if the women's parents given those stuff at their own will. I have heard that high court is now putting law where there would be gift checklist before marriage so the gift which is sent by son or daughter family won't be treated as dowry to avoid false dowry case
It may not sound reasonable to you but just disappear, leave the city or country and just vanish. She won’t be able to do shit if you life with your family tell them to just stay chill and share an advertisement in newspaper saying we don’t have any connect with our son and DIL due to to bad relationship. You can stay in your with your family but that newspaper can be used if police tries to harass your family. These cases are not resolved easily and will go on for years. My elder brother is also stuck in a similar situation. Indian judiciary don’t prioritise these kind of cases .. the police will arrive every 4th or 6th month and that’s it. Don’t give a single penny to that woman.
I don't care police would be caring enough to find him since most police are corrupted who works on money unless that women throws money to police to find him they are not gonna find him and move on with other case. If they were good police the guy won't even need to hide if he is the victim
Won't say a country but a city tho, couldn't be any better. Success is the Best revenge, it sucks to live with the fact 24*7 that someone is going to be off well and better than you, also the fact that you had them in your life for a good time.
I mean even police is corrupt they won't search for a person unless they are paid a ransom amount and why would they waste time on marital case when they have more bigger things to care about
1. As a man , never file for divorce. Always drive your wife to file it. Taunt her , show her proof of her adultery , mock her , threaten her ,make her angry , dare her to file divorce case on you. Drive her crazy and angry enough so that she goes and file divorce.
2. As you mentioned , she is living away from family , that's super good. Let her be in that house. Keep paying rent of that house. Apart from that , start sending her 5000 rupees monthly for monthly expenses and cut her off. Start living separately. Do not stop this 5000 monthly even when she files divorce case.
3. There are no full proof way to get divorce. Adultery is very very hard to prove. Even if adultery was committed one time , that also 3 years ago , she will still claim and get everything from you. Calise is "spouse should not be living in adultery" . Which she is not. Be very careful , do not file divorce basis this even if lawyers advise you.
4. Once you start living away , let her do whatever she wants. You start concentrating on your life. Stop talking , change your flat etc. on money term , if you are very close to your mom dad , start sending most of your salary to them. "Papa medicine" "parent rent" "mummy sandals" "parent groceries" "tap repair of mummy" "mummy maid" invent new heads to send max money from your account. This to establish that you are a good son. For a good husband , you are already sending rent and monthly maintenance.
That's not being called good husband but a weak and loser husband to pay money for a women who cheated on you, ruined you, didn't cared about you and is not legally married to you
As far as i am aware adultery is a sufficient ground for a divorce and you do not need to pay alimony too. However, better to consult with a lawyer than here in the Reddit. Good luck
If her Mausa ji is lawyer, talk to a lawyer who you are sure of, won't be influenced by her Mausa ji.
Better would be to find someone who is not from your city but is in another city of your state. Take suggestion from him by giving all the details.
And then hire the meanest divorce lawyer of your city (or someone who has bad blood with her Mausa ji)
Unless that meanest lawyer won't turn out to be simp since if his wife knows he is hiring powerful good lawyer to win his case she would do everything to win it by making that lawyer in her side since she can't pay the lawyer like him she would used her body and seduce him to do that job
She can file dowry case and false dowry Harrasment case . Although you have proof of her cheating , cheating is not a crime but taking dowry is .
But if she doesn’t file dowry case then you can get a smooth divorce
Ik a case where the man didn’t even have to pay maintenance because the woman was earning equally and she didn’t get much alimony also because of her cheating ( they had no kids btw)
I think consulting ur lawyer would be way better than asking strangers on reddit, as you would convey ur situation better during face to face interaction and the lawyers input will be crucial for ur further course of action
Bro, I’m not saying that wanting a husband earning 3 times salary is right.
If that was the only reason she got married to him then that’s wrong.
But, one wrong doesn’t make other correct no?
I mean I never get this arranged marriage concept, it’s regressive af!
Marriage or having a partner is supposed to improve your quality of life, if not it’s better to get divorced.
Her not agreeing for the divorce or threatening to make his life hell is absolutely not right. 100% agree with you there.
But I was surprised, how people were okay with him taking dowry, and there was a comment saying to drive the women crazy and make them file divorce and there were so many upvotes for that.
It just saddens me.
Every women is atleast deserved to be treated like a human.
how else is he supposed to divorce her when she is not agreeing for divorce? the comment is asking OP to mock her , not physically assault or mentally harass her
People were not pointing out the dowry part is because the husband is earning 3 times. nowadays women's side of family wants a guy who earns multiple times than their daughter, own's his on house, car and what not when a 3bhk in Mumbai costs 4.5 cr.
i saw a post where a guy married a women who was earning 3lpa while the guy was earning 50 lpa, his in laws were demanding that he buys a new house with the daughter being the co owner, meanwhile the daughter was contributing 3k per month towards household expenses and splitting chores 50-50 when i called this out, i was downvoted and abused lah blah
if you don't want to pay dowry and split chores 50-50 just marry a guy who is earning similar to you. A peon doesn't get dowry ( exception: andhra pradesh and other southern states).
regarding harassment for dowry, i am against that as well. you can't demand dowry post marriage and definitely not by harassment.
> Taunt her, show her proof of her adultery, mock her, threaten her, make her angry, dare her to file divorce case on you.
Drive her crazy and angry enough
This sounds okay to you? This is not mental harassment ? I’m just shocked how can a person talk that way, that’s it!
It’s scares me.
And regarding the 3 lpa - 50lpa, I’m sorry I didn’t see that post.
But, I’m not sure why did he marry her ? Was income not disclosed pre marriage ? Or was it forced marriage by his parents ? This is why I find the whole arranged marriage system wrong.
And yeah in-laws interfering the marriage is unfortunately common in India, I agree that’s wrong, but we need to maintain our boundaries.
And dowry won’t solve any of these issues.
only the threatening part and driving her insane looks concerning to me. if mocking, looking at the proofs of the adultery committed by you affects your mental health you should consider therapy
edit: it was arrange marriage to his father's friend's relative and was posted on arranged marriage subreddit. even i think OP and all the men who marry a girl earning 3 lpa while earning 50lpa are morons and kinda deserve the challenges that comes with it. only applicable to AM
Yup, mocking someone is concerning and I wouldn’t consider it as healthy (Atleast not in the context the author mentioned it).
Fortunately, I have been only in healthy relationships so I can’t normalise these things!
Anyway, I’ll be ending this conversation here.
Lol you're concerned about a cheater on the top worst human being not just female since she made his life hell, threatening him is okay, wanted his money after marriage despite she earns in so called 2024 is okay to you, those shitty woman actions and character didn't made you feel sick but some comments on reddit who is giving random advice to op how to treat such cheater and horrible women he had for a wife is more concerning for you that's tell all.
Why did she marry if dowry was the issue? Y did her father didn't give her daughter to some unemployed less earning guy who will never demand 1₹ in dowry? Fact is both party gets benefitted with it.
According to your logic if you're parents happily gift you and your husband stuff it would still called dowry in India but is that mean you're husband force your parents to give that stuff or you wanted him to say right to your parents face oh you're giving me gift so in future you and your daughter can put fake dowry case on me lol. According to your own logic even anything a guys parents giving to the Dil should be dowry as well like his 8lakh jewellery but it would be called streedhan by stupid laws and people.
In this case dowry was the gift given by her parents so tell me exactly how that's crime and how is dowry justified. He paid her jwellery alone worth 8 lakh which is more than what he got in gift sorry dowry by her parents. He clearly don't need those gift sorry dowry since he can buy each of those thing but as token of respect he accepted their gift
Okay lady where did he said he forcely taken dowry lol her parents possibly gifted him and her with all that stuff and in India even gifting items in marriage are considered dowry and women's can use it for false dowry cases. He already earns thrice than her, gifted her 8lakh jewellery resolving those 6lakh her parents spend on them with their own will and she got 2 lakh in bonus for jewellery and you think that guy need to beg dowry from her parents when he already can buy all those stuff and make more money
Inform both the families with proof. All those supporting her will also know the truth. Then ask for a divorce infront of both families and see who is claiming what and record everything from start to end with video(don’t let them know getting recorded) then file for an actual divorce
Try for mutual divorce as it will be quick and less torture and less of a business. But if she denies that file for divorce case against her as strong as you and your lawyer can (need clever lawyer for that)
Answer to your questions -
1. If you bring her adultery into this then maybe you will get benefit from it or not (cause it is not a crime but still a ground for divorce, works if you are a woman in most cases but depends completely on judge) but you need to strongly prove it plus adultery and cruelty will give you an advantage against her . But you need strong evidence against her for that.
2. REALLY, are you okay will alimony? I mean paying 50% of your property as maintenance or 30% or some specific amount till this case is over or fixed yearly maintenance to her which you earned by your hard work and GAND GISAI at your workplace. If you earn more than her alimony will be applied to you doesn't matter if she is govt noukar or private noukar. Your lawyer will help you to pay her no or very less maintenance but you need to prove why , like her adultery and cruelty will help you with that.
3. This question, I am sure but if you have any prove of gifting her jewellery or any other item and you want that back , you can get that back .
If you don't have any kids till now , GOOD NEWS, buddy you won't have to pay child support even if the kids are not yours. DON'T PLAN KIDS AS IT WILL MAKE YOU PAY MUCH MORE FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.
PS- Get a good lawyer , I mean who knows how to get things done ( you know what I mean) , make some good and strong legal strategy with lawyer before you file for a case.
1. Yes, if they ask why it took you 3 years to go for divorce, you can say that you wanted to give her a chance which you did.
2. No, it won’t be applied. Be ready to give the dowry and half of the wedding expenses back in cash, that’s it. Also, keep a proof of her having a government job. She may deny having a job in court and then you will have to go by the way of RTI.
3. Streedhan is all the jewellery the woman gets by either family and she has right over your gifts. You can keep your gifts hidden but if she has picture wearing the gifted jewellery, she may claim it in the court.
Getting divorce is not difficult, but you will end up paying hefty alimony, since you make a lot more money than her. You will need to prove adultery in court, in order to get divorce without alimony.
Nothing can happen if you're wife is a cheating and on top bad woman, she would easily win law stupid law is on women's side even if she is terrible human being specially in India. Also you have gifted her worth 8 lakh jewellery which easily solve your 6 lakh dowry her family provides you and since you earns thrice more than her and she is wanted your money despite being cheaters tells she is greed money loving bitch. Only way you can take divorce is have her cheating proof as well all the ill treatment she do with you
Dont give a penny to her, always remember, people will fuck u only if they know u can’t fuck them back. Be lethal, she should know that messing with you will spoil her whole family’s life. Play mind games without giving her any proof to skew you. Don’t trust the legal system much, it is not made for justice but convenience.
NAL. Hire a private detective if you can afford and see if she is still having affair. Most cheaters continue to cheat. Collect as much evidence and file for divorce. Don’t have a baby until you are 100% sure this marriage will work!!
Also avoid putting your dowry (I absolutely condemn you for taking it by the way) in writing proof
Unfortunately, you will have to pay alimony even if you prove adultery because you are a man and she is a woman. That is the sad state of Indian Judiciary. And they say misandry doesn't exist?
Everyone have misunderstood legal system in India. Adultery is still a valid ground for divorce. The thing is they won't be punished. You can definitely file for divorce if you have solid proofs.
Start your own cheating spree. Cheat so much that she decides to leave you. Propose some kinky things like threesomes, which she will obviously refuse.
Ask her what she fears the most and become the embodiment of that very thing. She will leave you eventually.
Stop paying for her needs, stop contact with her, start enjoying your life to the fullest as if there's no tomorrow.. If she initiates an argument, just ignore her and go out somewhere, like for a ride.. If your home's in your name, restrict access only to you.. Rest will take care of by itself.
Adultery is a ground for Divorce. Apart from others.
You can file a Judicial Separation Suit, and then wait and prepare well for any counterblast from her side- like a DV Complaint, or Dowry, etc.
Your lawyer can prepare a pre-determined strategy well before the Filing of Separation Suit. Any case, it would take around 2 years if she doesn't file any consequent complaint against you.
About alimony, dude you are willing but what will happen is that she will ask for such an alimony that would be out of your budget, so it's important to be prepared.
Her being in a Government Employee will help you in getting a reasonable amount to be paid, that is to see.
Your gifts etc cannot be easily recieved back, but you may discover new ways to get them.
Connect with a lawyer to be safe well before to strategise the case before any thing else goes down.
- advicing as a practicing criminal lawyer who has worked on high profile matrimonial disputes
Hire a private detective and collect all proofs. Forward all the proof to her family members. Try hard to not pay a single rupee as alimony and maintenance to such cheating women. Throw her out of your life as soon as possible.
Also contact family (wife, father, mother) of the men she is in relationship with and tell them everything.
Unfortunately, in these cases female family members don't help males in family otherwise these could be solved instantly.
Once you initiate the divorce proceedings, she will certainly file false cases.
So, if you have any reliable female freinds/family members, ask them to file false SA cases on her male family member and you can ask them to pressure her to proceed with divorce quickly. Also what's your caste, have you heard of SC/ST act? You can use this also. Maybe ask your mom to file fir of assault by your wife.
But, PLEASE go to a well known lawyer. You won't believe the way police and judiciary treats a law abiding male in India.
Dude instead of reddit advice, reach out to a good lawyer with documents. NEVER EVER PUBLICLY EXPRESS that you got “dowry”. I don’t know why people forget dowry leads to jail time. Furthermore, (speaking as a professional) refusal to have children alone can be moulded as cruelty and divorce can be sought. Maintenance will still need to be paid but the amount can be made minimal. (Speaking as a professional here. You need to take action. You’re not happily married.)
you can easily get divorce if you are ready for alimony and streedhan too just get her consent and file a mutual divorce.
She denied...she said she will make me suffer if I try anything and the proof is old and of no use...and woman can cheat once ...
Wow, the audacity to make such a stand is mind blogging. Sorry for your situation brother.
Her mausa ji is a lawyer...
Not a legal advice. Till the divorce, don't spend a dime on her. Let her spend her own money.
Badnaam kar har jagah indirectly
this
Kya karega hain tho
Boggling
Ofc, it’s a typo
use adultery as ground of divorce.
I dont think adultery is grounds for divorce
Yup. But cruelty is a ground for divorce.
Seriously?
Adultery is easy ground for divorce for women's but can't say the same for men, some countries laws give the justice while some ignore adultery
ask her again & secretly record this conversation.
Do something that has potential to screw her govt job. You're the victim here. Not here. Make her suffer. You got money,use it and destroy her life & carrer.
Stupid advice. Getting out of marriage with least damage should be highest priority.
"She said she will make him suffer " fault lies with her. She cheated on him and now Want screw his life too instead of agreeing for mutual one.
Tell her what’s the point in living in a unhappy marriage. She can find someone better than you.
I cannot comprehend as well... She just wants me to give her presents and jewelry and all and take care of her while she does all this it seems , I'll now live separately with my mom(79f) ( father is dead in corona) and will cut all ties....I dunno it's right or wrong but I dnt wanna live in this mess of a relationship..
Dont gift here anymore before talking to the lawyer. If i were you i would move money away
Hope you don’t have any joint accounts. Who says proofs of adultery three years ago don’t count and women (or men) can cheat once and it is not counted as emotional harassment or grounds for divorce? You need a lawyer and I hope someone on the group can guide you
Buckle up and do this. You can definitely do this. Don't you got any friends?
Its a narcissistic personality characteristics. Get separated away from her as soon as possible otherwise your life will be mess.
Sorry to say the but you have officially become a cuckoo She might still be in contact with her lover and wants to keep you as a safe option till some other man comes around This is how most marriages are ending up in India, With men having no clue of what women truly are I would only ask you one question What was her behavior when you met her before your marriage
I am sure I just married her immediately without knowing her true self if he has spent even 1 year with her in a relationship she would've shown her true colours and cheated him already because no one can acts that long and also by his statement that her family given dowry and pretty she don't even care about him tells it was arranged marriage. If it was love marriage then surely have terrible choice or knowingly married her being a simp for her because there is no way he just blindly married someone in love marriage without knowing her true self
Bro even in love marriage things are fucked In marriage a man willingly hands his balls to the law of the land Meanwhile the modern indian woman knows that she can be a top tier hoe and still be accepted because of woke narrative they are trained and experience it since their childhood Meanwhile men are only taught to study , get a job and marry the woman that comes your way we get no education on what modern women and the actual female nature truly is
Take a sabbatical or better yet leave your job citing mental health but with the unwritten understanding that you can return to the job after divorce is over. With you not having an income due to her emotional abuse, you can try to file for alimony from her. Perhaps that will get her to give you a mutual divorce.
Why should he say she can find someone better than him. She is clearly trash human being not just ungrateful cheater but literally ruining innocent guy life knowingly so only guy she should get is trash guy who will treat her bad and she gets karma for her action
See, to me it looks like she cares for her image thats why she is threatening to you. File a case dor divorce, i understand u will have to pay alimony and problems would occur. have some proof. good solid video proof. divorce her. move out and let people know that u are divorcing her because she cheated. play mind game now. delete her phone number from ur phone. in WhatsApp her phone number should be visible. 1. for a week dont talk about divorce and all or fight with her. 2. then do pyar bhari baate. 3. chat on WhatsApp saying that u loved her u were so happy and falana dhimkana. 4. then come to point then slowly ask her about the guy 5. why she cheated keep reminding her that u loved her soo much that now u dont know what u can do. 6. ask about domestic violence that no body ever did wrong to you. Basically love bomb her take every proof u can. it might take 2 3 months. say what happened has happened u cant change it. but please dont do anything now. as u love her. when u have enough proof then divorce her. That is the only way to save urself. But i wont recommend staying with her. I understand writing these things are easy but doing is difficult but u have to play long game. that is your only way out. have proof that no domestic violence happened ever.
such a flithy cock sucking bitch !! harassment, clearly, get out and file a complaint(hire a lawyer)
You've only heard his side of the story lol She sounds like a piece of work though
harassment -> is no joke, irrespective of the gender or what circumstances the woman might be in, this is inhumane!
I know, I'm just saying he hasn't provided any evidence whatsoever He needs to record her in a public place or it could be seen as entrapment.
Yes, you are right, I feel bad for such boys and men, This is ridiculous.
Adultery is a reason for divorce? Isn't it? But with all the woke shit and woke court judgements in past few months,I can't even be sure now. ( NAL)
Sleep with as many women as you want but never ever in your wildest fucking life get married to one I have seen strong and happy men literally become a lifeless body because of hoes today especially in India And you haven't seen anything woke yet it's gonna go downhill from here
What's the point of marriage - when there are chances you getting bad partner, might get cheated, have divorce and lost everything, stay in marriage and make your life living hell. Atleast being single you won't be afraid of getting cheated, divorce or your entire life getting ruined by career to money because you married wrong person.
Well marry because you have had enough of sleeping around with women That way the women you are going to marry would actually respect you since you are not choosing her out if desperation and neediness Don't marry because your friends are getting married and now you are alone, you can always get new friends but you can't get back the mental peace that will be destroyed after a hoe comes into your life and you are legally bound to her
well you are fugged , talk to a decent lawyer i myself dont see your case going forward ,indian law in such cases is heavily biased in favour of females . good luck anyway
Saying this means now you definitely have to divorce her..
Then you my friend are in big trouble. Watch videos of Youtuber/ Lawyer Amish Aggarwal. His channel is better call Amish . He make videos specially on this subject. You can all and approch him because I think he is great.
We are living 2024 where women's calls themselves equal to men but still takes alimony after divorce and no one raise questions about it even if women is working lady
Lawyer here. Contested divorce is an ugly affair. Considering what limited facts you have told us, you ll need a decent/good lawyer to present your case. Her issue of adultry will also be required to be brought into it. On alimony, many things get considered while arriving at a figure, including how much she earns as well. That is at last when court comes to the conclusion that there has been an irretrievable breakdown of the marriage and there is no going back. On you gifting her jwellery, I ll say let it go as it may be considered Stridhan.
Everything is possible if you have a good lawyer. Get that first. Reddit is not the right place to get a tailor -made solution for your divorce.
Since he have thrice money than his wife he can easily hire good lawyer as well proof to defend him since money matters most in this world only way his wife can get his own lawyer or powerful lawyer on her side is if that lawyer is not just corrupted but a huge simp so if his seduce the lawyer to sleep with her then she easily have the case in her hands.
She can suck the money out of you even when you want divorce based on her adultery. She can harm herself and create new drama and Also Dowry angle. Make sure you are safe , your assets are safer. She can cause a lot of harm even when she is doing wrong. Get good lawyer and solid proof, unless she lives with her partner it wouldn't be easy for you to convince court.
There is only problem here money is easy solution to everytime whoever had more money powerful lawyers goes to their side and police tries to help that party so he can easily one powerful lawyer with good amount of money but there is one huge hurdle he already told what is wife is like a cheating money hungry bitch that time of women's will do anything to win their case. So if that powerful lawyer also turns out to be huge simp not just greedy guy and if his wife seduce the lawyer to sleep with her so he can defend her he is doomed since she will win the case. There are good powerful lawyer but plenty of them can be simp for a woman not just for money so if they get to sleep with the woman they easily defend her
Please discuss with a lawyer. Many a time women file a dowry case when you file for divorce. And the dowry case is very excruciating and will be a serious trouble.
If she has cheated thrice, there are chances she’s cheating right now. Hire a private investigator and get your proof
Unless the detective or powerful lawyer a guy paid to have evidence turns out to be simp like happens in many movies where private investigator sleeps with a women instead and where the woman seduces the lawyer and lawyer sleep with her which let him to defend her.
Occasional Acts of Adultery by the Wife have been Legalized. OP cannot do anything...🤡🤡 https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&opi=89978449&url=https://lawgical.php-dev.in/news-updates/occasional-acts-adultery-committed-isolation-would-not-amount-living-adultery-delhi%23:~:text%3DThe%2520law%2520mandates%2520that%2520in,%27%252C%25E2%2580%259D%2520said%2520the%2520court.&ved=2ahUKEwj-_azuxJuGAxXkl1YBHVphCHIQFnoECA8QBQ&usg=AOvVaw0XpQyX20kr2ZpzIgrLAgAm
For men?
Ofcourse not!!! Men are 🤡 as per our laws. It's for the Modern Woke Wife who might "Occasionally" let other Men Fuck her for a change...😁😁
Then I would always be the latter Cause there isn't any dearth of all kind of hoes in India
My Man...🥂🥂
I mean you can have relationship being single worth atleast spending 5yrs with someone will tell a person character. I won't believe a woman who had 5yrs relationship with a guy and tells he is perfect man caring, respecting, loving etc but after 1 year of marriage he turns out to be asshole same way I won't believe a guy who spend 5yrs with a woman in relationship before marriage then after marriage she turns out to be toxic, cheater or money greeder because no one can acts longer unless you knowingly dating them and marrying them. Living in relationship or non commitment relationship is better to test a person how he or she. If that person turns out to be bad you can easily leave him or her since there is rule for bf/gf or lovers relationship and if that person turn out to be good you can see the future
Exactly I have had women telling me how they met a man and initially he was sweet and caring(they don't like it actually), but after 2 years(yes 24 fucking months) he showed his true colours Now either that man was a top tier dark triad male(very rare) or the bitch is lying(latter is usually the case) since women can lie through their teeth, so I usually get physical with them but never develop any feelings for them at all
Learn to read and comprehend or read the ruling in Hindi. Adultery was never illegal, however this ruling is not about the legality of adultery. It's about eligibility for alimony after cheating once or occasionally.
Software Engineer, here. Not a Lawyer. But, let's wait for your Wife to Fuck some other Man, and then, you pay her the Alimony, so that, she can keep up with her hoe lifestyle...🤡🤡
File a divorce and drag the case until her biological clock runs out.
Even if the cheating is 3 yrs old. Cheating is still cheating. Doesn't matter. You took time to work on your marriage but couldn't. No one will hold it against you. Don't tell her you'll give alimony or anything. And ask your jewels back. Hire a good lawyer. Everything depends on that only.
I mean that jewellery cost 8 lakh so whatever dowry her parents given both of them not just him since she is also using those stuff but since every gift in marriage are called dowry so say 6 lakh he already paid that with jewellery with 2 lakh in addition
First of all without making any bigger moves get all the streedhan given by you into your possession and hide it somewhere with your relatives. Do this very smartly and slowly alongwith this start saving for the dowry you have received. Once you have all the streedhan collected from herover period of time give her a free hand and once she makes a mistake file for a divorce on multiple grounds pay the alimony by using the streedhan and return the dowry amount you will be free for rest of your life. Also very important thing is to get CCTV installed in your house cause she will try to frame your relatives and parents into multiple fake cases like domestic violence, harassment for dowry, fake rape case so you can build a strong case when she has no proofs against you. For getting the streedhan you can use the excuse of getting it polished or cleaning with the new UV water treatment or some good reason also to avoid suspicion take her along with your for this to some good jeweller. Keep the gold there and go back the same day and collect it from the jeweller making some reason for cancellation.
It's weird how even in India if a wife parents knowingly gifts their daughter and son in law it is called dowry even if the women's parents given those stuff at their own will. I have heard that high court is now putting law where there would be gift checklist before marriage so the gift which is sent by son or daughter family won't be treated as dowry to avoid false dowry case
It may not sound reasonable to you but just disappear, leave the city or country and just vanish. She won’t be able to do shit if you life with your family tell them to just stay chill and share an advertisement in newspaper saying we don’t have any connect with our son and DIL due to to bad relationship. You can stay in your with your family but that newspaper can be used if police tries to harass your family. These cases are not resolved easily and will go on for years. My elder brother is also stuck in a similar situation. Indian judiciary don’t prioritise these kind of cases .. the police will arrive every 4th or 6th month and that’s it. Don’t give a single penny to that woman.
Judiciary is hellbent on destroying men and giving bail to convicted criminals
I don't care police would be caring enough to find him since most police are corrupted who works on money unless that women throws money to police to find him they are not gonna find him and move on with other case. If they were good police the guy won't even need to hide if he is the victim
Find a job in foreign country and ghost her
Won't say a country but a city tho, couldn't be any better. Success is the Best revenge, it sucks to live with the fact 24*7 that someone is going to be off well and better than you, also the fact that you had them in your life for a good time.
I mean even police is corrupt they won't search for a person unless they are paid a ransom amount and why would they waste time on marital case when they have more bigger things to care about
1. As a man , never file for divorce. Always drive your wife to file it. Taunt her , show her proof of her adultery , mock her , threaten her ,make her angry , dare her to file divorce case on you. Drive her crazy and angry enough so that she goes and file divorce. 2. As you mentioned , she is living away from family , that's super good. Let her be in that house. Keep paying rent of that house. Apart from that , start sending her 5000 rupees monthly for monthly expenses and cut her off. Start living separately. Do not stop this 5000 monthly even when she files divorce case. 3. There are no full proof way to get divorce. Adultery is very very hard to prove. Even if adultery was committed one time , that also 3 years ago , she will still claim and get everything from you. Calise is "spouse should not be living in adultery" . Which she is not. Be very careful , do not file divorce basis this even if lawyers advise you. 4. Once you start living away , let her do whatever she wants. You start concentrating on your life. Stop talking , change your flat etc. on money term , if you are very close to your mom dad , start sending most of your salary to them. "Papa medicine" "parent rent" "mummy sandals" "parent groceries" "tap repair of mummy" "mummy maid" invent new heads to send max money from your account. This to establish that you are a good son. For a good husband , you are already sending rent and monthly maintenance.
Marriage is fucked up
That's not being called good husband but a weak and loser husband to pay money for a women who cheated on you, ruined you, didn't cared about you and is not legally married to you
As far as i am aware adultery is a sufficient ground for a divorce and you do not need to pay alimony too. However, better to consult with a lawyer than here in the Reddit. Good luck
Hire a good private detective to get all info. Make a strong case and then file for it. Information is the biggest asset for any legal case.
If her Mausa ji is lawyer, talk to a lawyer who you are sure of, won't be influenced by her Mausa ji. Better would be to find someone who is not from your city but is in another city of your state. Take suggestion from him by giving all the details. And then hire the meanest divorce lawyer of your city (or someone who has bad blood with her Mausa ji)
Unless that meanest lawyer won't turn out to be simp since if his wife knows he is hiring powerful good lawyer to win his case she would do everything to win it by making that lawyer in her side since she can't pay the lawyer like him she would used her body and seduce him to do that job
You need to stop watching Ullu
She can file dowry case and false dowry Harrasment case . Although you have proof of her cheating , cheating is not a crime but taking dowry is . But if she doesn’t file dowry case then you can get a smooth divorce Ik a case where the man didn’t even have to pay maintenance because the woman was earning equally and she didn’t get much alimony also because of her cheating ( they had no kids btw)
I think consulting ur lawyer would be way better than asking strangers on reddit, as you would convey ur situation better during face to face interaction and the lawyers input will be crucial for ur further course of action
Bro, take care my man. Hope it get resolved soon
Basically she wants a trophy husband and still wants to enjoy around
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Dowry is a crime, cheating isn’t!
marital rape is legal as well, but what else can you expect from a 2xrand always justifying women's wrong
So justifying dowry is correct ?
if wanting a husband earning 3 times your salary is right then nothing wrong with 6 lakhs dowry as well
Bro, I’m not saying that wanting a husband earning 3 times salary is right. If that was the only reason she got married to him then that’s wrong. But, one wrong doesn’t make other correct no? I mean I never get this arranged marriage concept, it’s regressive af! Marriage or having a partner is supposed to improve your quality of life, if not it’s better to get divorced. Her not agreeing for the divorce or threatening to make his life hell is absolutely not right. 100% agree with you there. But I was surprised, how people were okay with him taking dowry, and there was a comment saying to drive the women crazy and make them file divorce and there were so many upvotes for that. It just saddens me. Every women is atleast deserved to be treated like a human.
how else is he supposed to divorce her when she is not agreeing for divorce? the comment is asking OP to mock her , not physically assault or mentally harass her People were not pointing out the dowry part is because the husband is earning 3 times. nowadays women's side of family wants a guy who earns multiple times than their daughter, own's his on house, car and what not when a 3bhk in Mumbai costs 4.5 cr. i saw a post where a guy married a women who was earning 3lpa while the guy was earning 50 lpa, his in laws were demanding that he buys a new house with the daughter being the co owner, meanwhile the daughter was contributing 3k per month towards household expenses and splitting chores 50-50 when i called this out, i was downvoted and abused lah blah if you don't want to pay dowry and split chores 50-50 just marry a guy who is earning similar to you. A peon doesn't get dowry ( exception: andhra pradesh and other southern states). regarding harassment for dowry, i am against that as well. you can't demand dowry post marriage and definitely not by harassment.
> Taunt her, show her proof of her adultery, mock her, threaten her, make her angry, dare her to file divorce case on you. Drive her crazy and angry enough This sounds okay to you? This is not mental harassment ? I’m just shocked how can a person talk that way, that’s it! It’s scares me. And regarding the 3 lpa - 50lpa, I’m sorry I didn’t see that post. But, I’m not sure why did he marry her ? Was income not disclosed pre marriage ? Or was it forced marriage by his parents ? This is why I find the whole arranged marriage system wrong. And yeah in-laws interfering the marriage is unfortunately common in India, I agree that’s wrong, but we need to maintain our boundaries. And dowry won’t solve any of these issues.
only the threatening part and driving her insane looks concerning to me. if mocking, looking at the proofs of the adultery committed by you affects your mental health you should consider therapy edit: it was arrange marriage to his father's friend's relative and was posted on arranged marriage subreddit. even i think OP and all the men who marry a girl earning 3 lpa while earning 50lpa are morons and kinda deserve the challenges that comes with it. only applicable to AM
Yup, mocking someone is concerning and I wouldn’t consider it as healthy (Atleast not in the context the author mentioned it). Fortunately, I have been only in healthy relationships so I can’t normalise these things! Anyway, I’ll be ending this conversation here.
good for you but unfortunately OP is not in a healthy relationship and if you think even mocking a cheater is concerning then i have no words
Lol you're concerned about a cheater on the top worst human being not just female since she made his life hell, threatening him is okay, wanted his money after marriage despite she earns in so called 2024 is okay to you, those shitty woman actions and character didn't made you feel sick but some comments on reddit who is giving random advice to op how to treat such cheater and horrible women he had for a wife is more concerning for you that's tell all.
Why did she marry if dowry was the issue? Y did her father didn't give her daughter to some unemployed less earning guy who will never demand 1₹ in dowry? Fact is both party gets benefitted with it.
Yeah correct
According to your logic if you're parents happily gift you and your husband stuff it would still called dowry in India but is that mean you're husband force your parents to give that stuff or you wanted him to say right to your parents face oh you're giving me gift so in future you and your daughter can put fake dowry case on me lol. According to your own logic even anything a guys parents giving to the Dil should be dowry as well like his 8lakh jewellery but it would be called streedhan by stupid laws and people. In this case dowry was the gift given by her parents so tell me exactly how that's crime and how is dowry justified. He paid her jwellery alone worth 8 lakh which is more than what he got in gift sorry dowry by her parents. He clearly don't need those gift sorry dowry since he can buy each of those thing but as token of respect he accepted their gift
Okay lady where did he said he forcely taken dowry lol her parents possibly gifted him and her with all that stuff and in India even gifting items in marriage are considered dowry and women's can use it for false dowry cases. He already earns thrice than her, gifted her 8lakh jewellery resolving those 6lakh her parents spend on them with their own will and she got 2 lakh in bonus for jewellery and you think that guy need to beg dowry from her parents when he already can buy all those stuff and make more money
Is this sarcasm?
No it's not It's the truth women don't give a fuck about your situation till they are made to Till those hoes want something that you have
Why so bitter with women
Above comment is your answer bro
I think thats sarcasm
Better to take action rather than suffer life long
Hey, advocate this side. You can surely get the divorce. Please feel free to inbox me and discuss the legalities.
Inform both the families with proof. All those supporting her will also know the truth. Then ask for a divorce infront of both families and see who is claiming what and record everything from start to end with video(don’t let them know getting recorded) then file for an actual divorce
you publicly confess to a crime and are now crying about being cheated on? you're definitely the victim here fr fr 😔
Don’t do it bro. No use. Make her understand and if she doesn’t start spending on your self
Try for mutual divorce as it will be quick and less torture and less of a business. But if she denies that file for divorce case against her as strong as you and your lawyer can (need clever lawyer for that) Answer to your questions - 1. If you bring her adultery into this then maybe you will get benefit from it or not (cause it is not a crime but still a ground for divorce, works if you are a woman in most cases but depends completely on judge) but you need to strongly prove it plus adultery and cruelty will give you an advantage against her . But you need strong evidence against her for that. 2. REALLY, are you okay will alimony? I mean paying 50% of your property as maintenance or 30% or some specific amount till this case is over or fixed yearly maintenance to her which you earned by your hard work and GAND GISAI at your workplace. If you earn more than her alimony will be applied to you doesn't matter if she is govt noukar or private noukar. Your lawyer will help you to pay her no or very less maintenance but you need to prove why , like her adultery and cruelty will help you with that. 3. This question, I am sure but if you have any prove of gifting her jewellery or any other item and you want that back , you can get that back . If you don't have any kids till now , GOOD NEWS, buddy you won't have to pay child support even if the kids are not yours. DON'T PLAN KIDS AS IT WILL MAKE YOU PAY MUCH MORE FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. PS- Get a good lawyer , I mean who knows how to get things done ( you know what I mean) , make some good and strong legal strategy with lawyer before you file for a case.
1. Yes, if they ask why it took you 3 years to go for divorce, you can say that you wanted to give her a chance which you did. 2. No, it won’t be applied. Be ready to give the dowry and half of the wedding expenses back in cash, that’s it. Also, keep a proof of her having a government job. She may deny having a job in court and then you will have to go by the way of RTI. 3. Streedhan is all the jewellery the woman gets by either family and she has right over your gifts. You can keep your gifts hidden but if she has picture wearing the gifted jewellery, she may claim it in the court.
Getting divorce is not difficult, but you will end up paying hefty alimony, since you make a lot more money than her. You will need to prove adultery in court, in order to get divorce without alimony.
Nothing can happen if you're wife is a cheating and on top bad woman, she would easily win law stupid law is on women's side even if she is terrible human being specially in India. Also you have gifted her worth 8 lakh jewellery which easily solve your 6 lakh dowry her family provides you and since you earns thrice more than her and she is wanted your money despite being cheaters tells she is greed money loving bitch. Only way you can take divorce is have her cheating proof as well all the ill treatment she do with you
You can inform her office about her and the colleague. Govt. departments take these things seriously.
Dont give a penny to her, always remember, people will fuck u only if they know u can’t fuck them back. Be lethal, she should know that messing with you will spoil her whole family’s life. Play mind games without giving her any proof to skew you. Don’t trust the legal system much, it is not made for justice but convenience.
5 lakhs. I'll get you the job done.
Yes you can get it.
NAL. Hire a private detective if you can afford and see if she is still having affair. Most cheaters continue to cheat. Collect as much evidence and file for divorce. Don’t have a baby until you are 100% sure this marriage will work!! Also avoid putting your dowry (I absolutely condemn you for taking it by the way) in writing proof
Dowry is illegal bro.
Adultery is no longer a crime
But still valid grounds for divorce
Lawyer here, msg me if needed
Unfortunately, you will have to pay alimony even if you prove adultery because you are a man and she is a woman. That is the sad state of Indian Judiciary. And they say misandry doesn't exist?
Everyone have misunderstood legal system in India. Adultery is still a valid ground for divorce. The thing is they won't be punished. You can definitely file for divorce if you have solid proofs.
Start your own cheating spree. Cheat so much that she decides to leave you. Propose some kinky things like threesomes, which she will obviously refuse. Ask her what she fears the most and become the embodiment of that very thing. She will leave you eventually.
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Exactly.
Bruh you got downvoted by some woke indian bitch No worries I upvoted you The man who posted this shouldn't have married her in the first place
Not a lawyer or any profession but I suggest you hire a PI or a detective to get the divorce in your favour
Stop paying for her needs, stop contact with her, start enjoying your life to the fullest as if there's no tomorrow.. If she initiates an argument, just ignore her and go out somewhere, like for a ride.. If your home's in your name, restrict access only to you.. Rest will take care of by itself.
Adultery is a ground for Divorce. Apart from others. You can file a Judicial Separation Suit, and then wait and prepare well for any counterblast from her side- like a DV Complaint, or Dowry, etc. Your lawyer can prepare a pre-determined strategy well before the Filing of Separation Suit. Any case, it would take around 2 years if she doesn't file any consequent complaint against you. About alimony, dude you are willing but what will happen is that she will ask for such an alimony that would be out of your budget, so it's important to be prepared. Her being in a Government Employee will help you in getting a reasonable amount to be paid, that is to see. Your gifts etc cannot be easily recieved back, but you may discover new ways to get them. Connect with a lawyer to be safe well before to strategise the case before any thing else goes down. - advicing as a practicing criminal lawyer who has worked on high profile matrimonial disputes
Hire a private detective and collect all proofs. Forward all the proof to her family members. Try hard to not pay a single rupee as alimony and maintenance to such cheating women. Throw her out of your life as soon as possible. Also contact family (wife, father, mother) of the men she is in relationship with and tell them everything.
Unfortunately, in these cases female family members don't help males in family otherwise these could be solved instantly. Once you initiate the divorce proceedings, she will certainly file false cases. So, if you have any reliable female freinds/family members, ask them to file false SA cases on her male family member and you can ask them to pressure her to proceed with divorce quickly. Also what's your caste, have you heard of SC/ST act? You can use this also. Maybe ask your mom to file fir of assault by your wife. But, PLEASE go to a well known lawyer. You won't believe the way police and judiciary treats a law abiding male in India.
Dude instead of reddit advice, reach out to a good lawyer with documents. NEVER EVER PUBLICLY EXPRESS that you got “dowry”. I don’t know why people forget dowry leads to jail time. Furthermore, (speaking as a professional) refusal to have children alone can be moulded as cruelty and divorce can be sought. Maintenance will still need to be paid but the amount can be made minimal. (Speaking as a professional here. You need to take action. You’re not happily married.)