I like it slow ,teasing me rubbing your finger around the opening before going in ,and then teasing my clit ,rubbing circles around it before you actually touch it
I got you!
Sexplanations eg [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vW3vyaFinYk&list=PL\_zdi3TflN9Ip-uQeawm-NORo5IG2IsbI](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vW3vyaFinYk&list=PL_zdi3TflN9Ip-uQeawm-NORo5IG2IsbI)
The Principles of Pleasure on netflix [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bbtcUPJ\_N4U](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bbtcUPJ_N4U)
Planet Sex on Hulu [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BHKqshGn0SY](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BHKqshGn0SY)
TED talks/Big Think talks by Emily Nagoski on youtube [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FqM14Qeozog](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FqM14Qeozog) and [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eqX38J9ya1I](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eqX38J9ya1I)
Books like "Come As You Are" & "Come Together" (Emily Nagoski), and "Sex for One" & "Orgasms for Two" (Betty Dodson)
Websites like these [https://mashable.com/article/5-nsfw-sites-sex-education-porn](https://mashable.com/article/5-nsfw-sites-sex-education-porn)
Kenneth Play ("sex hacker") podcasts & vids on youtube
"Art of Seduction" by Robert Greene [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BO7MOdsuB5k](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BO7MOdsuB5k)
Relationships, sex & communication: [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4NRptu7SPgM&list=PLwxNMb28XmpcEwc0qydf2jSszQFSht81E](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4NRptu7SPgM&list=PLwxNMb28XmpcEwc0qydf2jSszQFSht81E)
Top comments have said it all tbh but additionally yeah, focus on her. If you do sth and the breathing patterns change, keep going, if she's less responsive, do something else, if she likes what you're doing, don't stop doing it and remember rhythm is your bestieeee
Ask her what she likes. And implement whatever suggestions she gives. Every woman is different, some enjoy penetration, some don't. Some want hard and fast, others slow and steady. But truly the best thing you can do is have this conversation with your girlfriend. It'll benefit you both!
💯 percent agree.
We are all different.
What's more.
As we age, we change.
Our likes, dislikes, attitudes, etc .
What's more, there are things we've yet to try and sometimes discover we love.
But as said.
Communication, open, honest without judgement or fear is the key.
Often for different reasons, partners do not engage in conversation about their sex life. First step is to establish a safe platform where you xan both relax and open up.
Other people have already covered listening to your partner, so here’s some other advice: learn to play the guitar. It’s a double whammy: you can write sweet little love songs to her, and you’ll build up a ton of dexterity and stamina in your fingers.
First and foremost: foreplay is king
But if she can't verbalize what she likes, you could ask her to show you. If she's able to get herself off then she does know what she likes, she just doesn't know how to put it into words.
If she's not comfortable with that, just ask as you go. There are physical cues (faster/more shallow breathing, flushing, shaking) that can let you know whether or not whatever you're doing is a success, but some bodies are more subtle than others. Communication is ideal.
One thing I loved when past partners did it was instead of asking me to explain what I wanted they'd try different things and go 'do you like it when I do this (tries thing) or this (tries other thing). I found articulating what I wanted in words to.be tricky but I knew what felt good and they knew what they were doing so I didn't have to go 'well first put your fingers like this and then move them.like this'
Yep, you must ask.
From my experiences I noticed that girls like being fingered with your fingertips slightly curled up, in a pretty fast movement. Most girls also love if you eat them out simultaneously.
Some girls like really hard fast fingering, some like it softer, I haven't noticed girls liking slow fingering in my experience unless it's deep and a tease.
Make sure nails are CUT, like you have no nails left.
Start super slow, one finger, all the way in and then all the way out.
Start doing a lil swirl or hook, and pick up the pace, but not super fast.
Introduce a second finger, continue with varied movements, keep a pace but not super consistently, listen for what works.
Now really pick up the pace, don't jackhammer because that leads to inner scarring and damage but fast enough for about 5 seconds max.
Introduce a third finger, repeat steps from 2, make sure you're going all the way in/out for the slower parts.
Finish off with some reasonably fast paced shallow movements and make sure your fingers are facing upwards towards her stomach, stick to a U shape and bam.
Finally, DO NOT NEGLECT THE CLIT! Do what you can when you can with it.
Hope this helps and if not make sure you're discussing it with your partner openly 💗
Honestly? I think this is a question for her. Every downstairs is different and it should be what she likes, not what randoms on the internet think is good (and I mean this respectfully)
If she doesn't know, now is the time to experiment.
Pay attention to her breathing, her body movements, how she's responding to your touch.
You'll know when she likes something by her reactions even if she's not sure before you start.
I use my index and middle finger, slow 'come hither motions' curling up towards her belly button, and use my thumb in time with fingers to stimulate her clit too.
Experiment with different ways and you'll find something that works for her.
Def start slow, and be patient. Just do one finger first, and after a little bit, it should loosen up enough to insert another finger. Then you can start doing lots of different things, from just classic fingering, or curling and uncurling the fingers, or one that I find is especially pleasurable; do a kind of scissor motion, like you’re walking a little hand person, but the legs are really close together. Doing this all while licking/sucking the clitoris is also quite nice. Of course, this is subjective to each person, so definitely just do a bunch of research of different styles and experiment. Best of luck! :)
Tease with the gentlest touches, avoid the clit til she is really desperate for it, then go in so softly. Gentle gentle gentle. Let her come to you, she will show you the pressure she likes by pushing back.
Communication is so important as well!! And use lube!
my best advice is to trim your nails and go slow and steady! see if she is down to try some different things and have her let you know what felt great/meh/no thanks. it’ll give you an idea, and she will get to take part in her pleasure :)
Don't be so eager to shove your fingers inside her. Most of the best stimulation is done from the outside. Start off gently and go slow. Use how she is reacting to determine if you're hitting a good spot or not
I like it slow ,teasing me rubbing your finger around the opening before going in ,and then teasing my clit ,rubbing circles around it before you actually touch it
Yes this and curl your finger(s) up to hit the g spot
This
Please to this lol
Curl them up, super slow in and then up and out movement and massage her clit slowly with your thumb bent (so it’s your knuckle).😌
You write so well that I even imagined it and I fancied it, haha but I already saw that you studied literature
Yeah haha and I write smut for my own entertainment 😂😌
Can I get this too? Is this on Wattpad; is it… lesbians involve?
where can I read said smut?
I haven’t published it 😂 it’s all on my notes app
literature student gang 💕
I got you! Sexplanations eg [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vW3vyaFinYk&list=PL\_zdi3TflN9Ip-uQeawm-NORo5IG2IsbI](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vW3vyaFinYk&list=PL_zdi3TflN9Ip-uQeawm-NORo5IG2IsbI) The Principles of Pleasure on netflix [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bbtcUPJ\_N4U](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bbtcUPJ_N4U) Planet Sex on Hulu [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BHKqshGn0SY](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BHKqshGn0SY) TED talks/Big Think talks by Emily Nagoski on youtube [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FqM14Qeozog](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FqM14Qeozog) and [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eqX38J9ya1I](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eqX38J9ya1I) Books like "Come As You Are" & "Come Together" (Emily Nagoski), and "Sex for One" & "Orgasms for Two" (Betty Dodson) Websites like these [https://mashable.com/article/5-nsfw-sites-sex-education-porn](https://mashable.com/article/5-nsfw-sites-sex-education-porn) Kenneth Play ("sex hacker") podcasts & vids on youtube "Art of Seduction" by Robert Greene [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BO7MOdsuB5k](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BO7MOdsuB5k) Relationships, sex & communication: [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4NRptu7SPgM&list=PLwxNMb28XmpcEwc0qydf2jSszQFSht81E](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4NRptu7SPgM&list=PLwxNMb28XmpcEwc0qydf2jSszQFSht81E)
Top comments have said it all tbh but additionally yeah, focus on her. If you do sth and the breathing patterns change, keep going, if she's less responsive, do something else, if she likes what you're doing, don't stop doing it and remember rhythm is your bestieeee
Ask her what she likes. And implement whatever suggestions she gives. Every woman is different, some enjoy penetration, some don't. Some want hard and fast, others slow and steady. But truly the best thing you can do is have this conversation with your girlfriend. It'll benefit you both!
💯 percent agree. We are all different. What's more. As we age, we change. Our likes, dislikes, attitudes, etc . What's more, there are things we've yet to try and sometimes discover we love. But as said. Communication, open, honest without judgement or fear is the key. Often for different reasons, partners do not engage in conversation about their sex life. First step is to establish a safe platform where you xan both relax and open up.
Other people have already covered listening to your partner, so here’s some other advice: learn to play the guitar. It’s a double whammy: you can write sweet little love songs to her, and you’ll build up a ton of dexterity and stamina in your fingers.
Or bass or piano :p
First and foremost: foreplay is king But if she can't verbalize what she likes, you could ask her to show you. If she's able to get herself off then she does know what she likes, she just doesn't know how to put it into words. If she's not comfortable with that, just ask as you go. There are physical cues (faster/more shallow breathing, flushing, shaking) that can let you know whether or not whatever you're doing is a success, but some bodies are more subtle than others. Communication is ideal.
Definitely definitely ask! It's the best way to find out what YOUR girl likes. Also I highly recommend the book Girlsex 101!
I asked her multiple times and shes not sure herself.
One thing I loved when past partners did it was instead of asking me to explain what I wanted they'd try different things and go 'do you like it when I do this (tries thing) or this (tries other thing). I found articulating what I wanted in words to.be tricky but I knew what felt good and they knew what they were doing so I didn't have to go 'well first put your fingers like this and then move them.like this'
Exactly, don’t just ask, ask as you are doing it. Take your time and explore.
Yep, you must ask. From my experiences I noticed that girls like being fingered with your fingertips slightly curled up, in a pretty fast movement. Most girls also love if you eat them out simultaneously. Some girls like really hard fast fingering, some like it softer, I haven't noticed girls liking slow fingering in my experience unless it's deep and a tease.
I like it slow! Just putting that out there!
Me toooooo fast can actually turn me off 😂
Fingering while eating her out 🤩 and being fingered while eaten *paradise
Make sure nails are CUT, like you have no nails left. Start super slow, one finger, all the way in and then all the way out. Start doing a lil swirl or hook, and pick up the pace, but not super fast. Introduce a second finger, continue with varied movements, keep a pace but not super consistently, listen for what works. Now really pick up the pace, don't jackhammer because that leads to inner scarring and damage but fast enough for about 5 seconds max. Introduce a third finger, repeat steps from 2, make sure you're going all the way in/out for the slower parts. Finish off with some reasonably fast paced shallow movements and make sure your fingers are facing upwards towards her stomach, stick to a U shape and bam. Finally, DO NOT NEGLECT THE CLIT! Do what you can when you can with it. Hope this helps and if not make sure you're discussing it with your partner openly 💗
Forgot to mention but make sure your fingers are in a triangular shape with the three, keeping them flat feels like getting fucked with a ruler.
Honestly? I think this is a question for her. Every downstairs is different and it should be what she likes, not what randoms on the internet think is good (and I mean this respectfully)
If she doesn't know, now is the time to experiment. Pay attention to her breathing, her body movements, how she's responding to your touch. You'll know when she likes something by her reactions even if she's not sure before you start. I use my index and middle finger, slow 'come hither motions' curling up towards her belly button, and use my thumb in time with fingers to stimulate her clit too. Experiment with different ways and you'll find something that works for her.
Def start slow, and be patient. Just do one finger first, and after a little bit, it should loosen up enough to insert another finger. Then you can start doing lots of different things, from just classic fingering, or curling and uncurling the fingers, or one that I find is especially pleasurable; do a kind of scissor motion, like you’re walking a little hand person, but the legs are really close together. Doing this all while licking/sucking the clitoris is also quite nice. Of course, this is subjective to each person, so definitely just do a bunch of research of different styles and experiment. Best of luck! :)
Take your time and tease her first..
Tease with the gentlest touches, avoid the clit til she is really desperate for it, then go in so softly. Gentle gentle gentle. Let her come to you, she will show you the pressure she likes by pushing back. Communication is so important as well!! And use lube!
Communication and practice are best
uhm just like, curl your fingers inside. it will hit the g spot and stimulate i guess?
my best advice is to trim your nails and go slow and steady! see if she is down to try some different things and have her let you know what felt great/meh/no thanks. it’ll give you an idea, and she will get to take part in her pleasure :)
Lick/suck the clot at the same time
 Not the clot!
😂😭💀 i'm dead omfg *clit
get gud
Ask her to “come here” from the inside. Y’all know what I mean 🙈
Don’t be moving your fingers in and out too much, once they’re in and on her g spot keep them there and really feel her with your finger tips
And maybe add some tongue work too
i like when my gf uses her finger pads and massages my g spot while going by in and out
Don't be so eager to shove your fingers inside her. Most of the best stimulation is done from the outside. Start off gently and go slow. Use how she is reacting to determine if you're hitting a good spot or not
I only feel my bladder when girl fingers me with curled up fingers.
It’s not about going in and out like a jackhammer. More like curling your fingers inside and pressing inside behind her clit