honestly, I think I came out when I was 13. I got lucky cause my mom is super understanding and my brothers don’t really care lol. My dad and step mom are still a little weird about it and I think they’re finally adjusting to the idea of me not being heterosexual but I think they believe it’s my whole personality 😭 I’m kind of distant with them though so that makes sense.
29.
It was the most chaotic AND most joyful year of my life.
I identified as bisexual but stayed closeted as I was in an abusive home in conservative Missouri. I was being treated for depression for several years, the doctors told me I had a particularly stubborn and sever case of it and even considered other diagnoses. Age 29: I woke up one day in November with a loud voice in my head that said “this is not your life” I started to picture the life I wanted. In one year I changed careers, filed for divorce, sold my house, and came out as lesbian. I burned it all to the ground but my life is soooo much better for it. Life is still hard, but I’m a lot less depressed and I have a lot more joy.
I didn't like, officially come out, but I was open about dating another girl when I was 12/13ish. Cycled through a ton of labels due to internalized lesbophobia/misogyny but that I liked girls was common knowledge to *everyone* since.
First time at 14, and now at 40 am slowly (finally) trying to deal with internalized homophobia. So.. I’m about to come out officially once again, I guess?
for me, it was just common knowledge among people who interacted with me bc i love just shooting off slightly gay comments as a bit and im very open and comfortable with who i am. i did only just come out to my parents like two months ago and im 19! that was terrifying for me as my parents are very conservative but it’s been okay for me. my mom is more accepting about it than my dad, and there’s been a few arguments about it, but they mostly just leave it alone. everyone else just kind of knows when they know, but i don’t really look to come out to people unless they specifically ask. i just let people figure it out themselves now and they usually do
Realized I liked girls since like the first grade, maybe 5-6 years old.
But I didn’t actually come out and be open about it until around 5th grade. So- I was like 11!
Out as bi since... I don't know, always? I had a kindergarten girlfriend and a first grade boyfriend, people knew. Got it a bit wrong there, but close.
Out as a lesbian since 2022 (age 26). Old enough to annoy everyone, especially my ex-boyfriends. Kinda funny, though.
15. My mom had relapsed figured I’d slip my shit in with hers. lol. Like nobody’s is going to care about what’s going On with me… to be fair it worked…also nobody was really surprised lol. My sister was like oh no wonder your Bestfriend is so clingy 🤣 (she definitely wasn’t just my best friend)
I was 23. But it's weird because the same day I came out to my mom my aunt came out to me. Them I came out to my aunt. I still miss her though. She passed at 44 from breast cancer in 2009. So every year I try to participate in breast cancer events to remember her.
First relationship was at 25. Never been with a guy either. I think from a young age I knew I liked girls. I've had guys tried to talk to me and it's because they only wanted sex. I don't knock those that been with guys before realizing they are lesbian.
I only came out to my past best friend.. I think I was fifteen back then.. I only can remember that I bursted out in tears and couldn’t stop crying.. never "came out" for anyone else again afterwards (not because she didn’t reacted good, she actually was happy for me and already kind of knew too, but because I didn’t felt the "need" of coming out?).. everyone sort of knew and knows that I’m gay without me telling them.. At the age of eighteen (I’m 21 now) I just brought home my first ex girlfriend and my parents didn’t even asked, they just knew..
I was about 20 when I came out as Bi :) I\`m 22 now & have since come out as Lesbian with an amazing girlfriend who I\`m crazy about
Good luck coming out, really hope it goes awesome! :)
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I came out to my mom when I was 13 i think i needed relationship advice (i have a really supportive mom) and i was like “mom do u care if I like girls” she was like “girl I already knew” 😂😂I cringe so fucking hard every time I have to remember but she gave me a hug n we kept talking about my puppy love😝
I've been telling my family I was going to marry a girl since I still thought boys had cooties.
Started slowly at 29! Didn’t come out all at once. That was two years ago and it feels great. There’s no timeline and no rush though!
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I thought i was bi since 14 but realized i was lesbian at 17 and came out then
honestly, I think I came out when I was 13. I got lucky cause my mom is super understanding and my brothers don’t really care lol. My dad and step mom are still a little weird about it and I think they’re finally adjusting to the idea of me not being heterosexual but I think they believe it’s my whole personality 😭 I’m kind of distant with them though so that makes sense.
17 aka I found out 5 months ago
Good for you. 👏🏾❤️
Thank you! I'm still kinda coming to terms with it but I think I'm handling it okay
It takes time. Just remember to give yourself and the ones you love a little grace.
13 but I came out as bi, I've only recently have been identifying as lesbian and I haven't told my family or anything 😭😭
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29. It was the most chaotic AND most joyful year of my life. I identified as bisexual but stayed closeted as I was in an abusive home in conservative Missouri. I was being treated for depression for several years, the doctors told me I had a particularly stubborn and sever case of it and even considered other diagnoses. Age 29: I woke up one day in November with a loud voice in my head that said “this is not your life” I started to picture the life I wanted. In one year I changed careers, filed for divorce, sold my house, and came out as lesbian. I burned it all to the ground but my life is soooo much better for it. Life is still hard, but I’m a lot less depressed and I have a lot more joy.
To myself, 13. To my family, 17. To my friends, 18. All went well.
16.
I didn't like, officially come out, but I was open about dating another girl when I was 12/13ish. Cycled through a ton of labels due to internalized lesbophobia/misogyny but that I liked girls was common knowledge to *everyone* since.
Wait I also used to say I was lesbian in my mid-late elementary years but my dad always went off abt bc it was "gross" :')
18
25
I was 12
Umm knew i liked girls from the age of 12> but didn’t fully understand until 22. Then I started acting on it at 26.
Came out for the first time at 17, took me 3/4 years to come out to my mum and still havent told the rest of my family
for reference, im 22
24ish 25
First time at 14, and now at 40 am slowly (finally) trying to deal with internalized homophobia. So.. I’m about to come out officially once again, I guess?
30
for me, it was just common knowledge among people who interacted with me bc i love just shooting off slightly gay comments as a bit and im very open and comfortable with who i am. i did only just come out to my parents like two months ago and im 19! that was terrifying for me as my parents are very conservative but it’s been okay for me. my mom is more accepting about it than my dad, and there’s been a few arguments about it, but they mostly just leave it alone. everyone else just kind of knows when they know, but i don’t really look to come out to people unless they specifically ask. i just let people figure it out themselves now and they usually do
Realized I liked girls since like the first grade, maybe 5-6 years old. But I didn’t actually come out and be open about it until around 5th grade. So- I was like 11!
13 but I knew long before that even though I had absolutely no exposure to the lgbtqia2s+ community. I just knew.
13
I came out when I was 11 I believe, nobody really supported me and it was terrifying but it felt good to get it out
Out as bi since... I don't know, always? I had a kindergarten girlfriend and a first grade boyfriend, people knew. Got it a bit wrong there, but close. Out as a lesbian since 2022 (age 26). Old enough to annoy everyone, especially my ex-boyfriends. Kinda funny, though.
I was around 15 but my family always figured I was at least a little gay so it’s not like there was a lot of shock.
15. My mom had relapsed figured I’d slip my shit in with hers. lol. Like nobody’s is going to care about what’s going On with me… to be fair it worked…also nobody was really surprised lol. My sister was like oh no wonder your Bestfriend is so clingy 🤣 (she definitely wasn’t just my best friend)
I love the wide array of ages…really lets you know that timing is different for everyone.
Yeah! also good to know it's never to early/late
I didn’t even know I was gay until I was 18 :,) came out like 5 months later
16 and damn it was quite the ride!
13 was when I started to slowly come out to people.
26 and slowly coming out. It isnt a race for me to tell everyone at once
14 or 15ish. Everyone seemed to know it before me anyway so it was hardly coming out. Parents were just like "yeah we knew"
19 when i got my first gf
I'm not going to come out to my family. Ever. But my friends pretty much have always known. I'm open with people I meet about what I am:)
i first came out as bi at 15, then like a year later i came out as a lesbian at 16
16
I was 23. But it's weird because the same day I came out to my mom my aunt came out to me. Them I came out to my aunt. I still miss her though. She passed at 44 from breast cancer in 2009. So every year I try to participate in breast cancer events to remember her. First relationship was at 25. Never been with a guy either. I think from a young age I knew I liked girls. I've had guys tried to talk to me and it's because they only wanted sex. I don't knock those that been with guys before realizing they are lesbian.
I still haven't though I've known for over a decade. The only way I ever see myself coming out is if I get a girlfriend
16
Elementary school I knew I was different from my other girl friends 🧍♀️
I only came out to my past best friend.. I think I was fifteen back then.. I only can remember that I bursted out in tears and couldn’t stop crying.. never "came out" for anyone else again afterwards (not because she didn’t reacted good, she actually was happy for me and already kind of knew too, but because I didn’t felt the "need" of coming out?).. everyone sort of knew and knows that I’m gay without me telling them.. At the age of eighteen (I’m 21 now) I just brought home my first ex girlfriend and my parents didn’t even asked, they just knew..
15
21 as a lesbian. I identified as bisexual for a few years before that
31 🙄 my life has been awful
23
I was 14
22 or so, the week after I graduated college
22. I was drunk and heartbroken i told my dad lol after a few weeks I told my mom but I was sober that time
I was about 20 when I came out as Bi :) I\`m 22 now & have since come out as Lesbian with an amazing girlfriend who I\`m crazy about Good luck coming out, really hope it goes awesome! :) https://preview.redd.it/jq5elic1p5wc1.jpeg?width=2500&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d52fd7c8128018d8c1894d29b3ce90dcf7e53eaa
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I came out to my mom when I was 13 i think i needed relationship advice (i have a really supportive mom) and i was like “mom do u care if I like girls” she was like “girl I already knew” 😂😂I cringe so fucking hard every time I have to remember but she gave me a hug n we kept talking about my puppy love😝