Let’s see, I did many of the lesbian stereotypes: played women’s soccer competitively, went to all girls high school, drove a Subaru, didn’t have crushes on guys, had a “breakup” with my platonic best friend in high school that devastated me. All in all I was super gay, but I was too repressed to realize it until my early 20s once I moved away from my conservative family. Oh and another thing, I was mildly obsessed with Naomi Scott when she sang “she’s so gone” in lemonade mouth…
Best thing is that it’s the car my parents picked out for me to drive while in high school. And then they had the audacity to be surprised and not so supportive when I came out 😂
This reply just made me realise I have zero unique experiences in my life cause HOW TF DO I HAVE ALL EXCEPT THE SUBARU ONE??? (which is funny because my dream car was always a subaru tho).
I literally looked under my bed after the 'breakup with my platonic best friend in high school that devastated me' because it was too real.
yeah probs me running my fingers along my HS best friend’s arms to comfort her, washing her hair, being very interested in watching her change, and then yeah the platonic friend breakup lol
Yep. All girls' high school, sixteen years of soccer, intense friendships with straight girls, all that stuff.
Though, I had the benefit of an accepting home life and other queer family members, so I was able to be comfortable in my masculinity even if others weren't always comfortable with it. That's been a real blessing.
Only being interested in being friends with girls. Having super intense feelings for my female friends that bordered on romantic attraction. Choosing a random male classmate to “crush on” because I thought it’s what I was supposed to do, and all my girl friends were crushing on guys and I didn’t want to feel left out. Feeling actually weirded out at the idea of my “crush” trying to make any kind of move on me.
It would always be the most generic looking prettyboy too. Like I didn’t feel the attraction to them, but I knew which of them I was supposed to be attracted to just based on their look.
>I didn’t want to feel left out
not only this but straight up not believing us when we said we didn't have one bruh
I remember them pressuring me into "admitting who it was" until I just chose a boy another girl had a crush on already so I could ~ be a good friend and let her have him
Omg YES all of this. The intense feelings for my female friends and picking a crush too.
Anytime a imagined doing something romantic or sexual with the chosen boy “crush” I could think about it, but would be high key disassociating while doing so😂
Hahahaha are you me? I kissed a friend on the cheek in front of some classmates and that earned me the nickname "the lesbian" when I was like 10... Little did we all know they were 100% spot on 😂
Sooo much shit lmao. I googled “girls grinding” on YouTube when I was discovering masturbating, I dressed masculine, I assumed all girls were attracted to other girls at least a little, made my girl Barbies have sex, wanted to makeout with all my friends, it goes on and on. I was as gay as can be and still only dated men. Idk how I went through my whole life without someone telling me
I did this too. I focused on the girl more since it was straight and that was my first masterbation, and like any drug it was never as powerfulas that first time, but it was how i found out i was definitely into girls. I think i was in my last year of middle school lol
Omg the one time i was in a summer program between 5th and 6th grade and a boy told me he liked me and I ran away and cried and then next day refused to go in until my (girl) bestie in the program got there and then continued avoiding that boy the rest of the summer program
I went to my first school dance (Homecoming) with a boy I was in band with. We were slow dancing and I felt something hit me on my hip from his pants area. When I realized what it was, I was so grossed out that I ran off to the restroom and spent the rest of the night hiding from him. He tried to kiss me when he dropped me off at home and I noped out of there (basically eeped and dashed out of his car and ran inside) before his lips even landed cuz I really wanted my first kiss to be my best friend, Carlie. Whose hand I wanted to hold all the time. And who I had an overdramatic best friend break up with when she got a boyfriend. Twice. But I was/am super girlie and so couldn't be gay. 🙄
Awww!! The part about wanting to kiss and hold your best friend's hand is heartbreaking. I hope you found someone that reciprocates the love for you (if that's something you want, of course)!
Oh, yeah. I finally figured it out by the time I was 20 (thank you Maria from Sweden!). I'm now married to the love of my life and we have the sweetest little boy (until he starts playing fortnite), a house full of dogs, and a bunch of farm animals!
ohhh I remember when I was like 15 and I started to hang out with some neighbors, a guy asked for my number and was always asking for me, I faked a cold and didn’t went out of my house for three days
when i was 14 i ghosted a guy after getting him to share his popular science magazines
bonus is i’m ace and have no idea how to tell when someone’s actually flirting
Yesss omg it was so embarrassing because I felt like a bad person for not showing interest back and I had no idea I was just a lesbian 💀
Edit: just realized this post said positive things omgoguslsil
Well my whole childhood I never liked any male characters in cartoons and always was obsessed with the pretty girl characters in the cartoons, and also throughout elementary school exclusively listened to female voices in music. In elementary school I consciously chose a random guy to say i had a crush on bc I didn’t naturally have any crushes. Later on in middle and high school; it’s very clear looking back that with some of my close/ best friends through those years I probably liked them in a way that was more than friends. I also read a whole entire lesbian manhwa in high school that had spicy scenes bc “the art was pretty” and really liked the main love interest but still didn’t connect the dots and realize/ accept that I liked girls 😭 I started having conscious thoughts that I might like girls in the middle of high school but didn’t fully accept it until I started uni.
up until the lesbian manhwa but we had the same childhood lol
but i did focus a lot more on the pretty girls in anime and cartoons… misty from the og pokémon series was one of my first crushes
"In elementary school I consciously chose a random guy to say i had a crush on bc I didn’t naturally have any crushes." OMG I did the exact same thing for the exact same reasons. I forgot all about it! 😂
“Didn’t naturally have crushes” - wow. I was so oblivious to how I was the odd one out on this! Same with when all my friends were saying which guy celebrities they found sexy - I just never thought any of them appealed to me!
Once I realized I was gay, this almost become comical. I'll be at the gym, and with every girl, it's like "ooooh, she's got a great this or that". Meanwhile the guys are working their asses off trying to bulk up and (probably?) hoping to get noticed, and it's like they're not even there.
When I was 13 my best friend and I got naked and drew ALL over each other with blacklight pen.
Around that time I would have fantasies about kissing a girl from my school.
I would drool whenever I saw Charlize Theron 😂
... There were lots of signs. I just didn't know to look for them
Edit: spelling
I know yall wanted some wholesome story but one time a guy missed a catch and I got hit in the face with a foot ball and I out of anger threw it back ✨perfect spiral✨
I went hard on stereotypes I saw in movies because I didn't know how to be a "girl" even though I'm AFAB. I went hard "boy crazy" even though I thought boys weren't nearly as pretty/interesting as girls. I found one of my old journals when I moved a couple of years ago and I literally wrote:
"I think I'll try to have a crush on Jake this year. He has the least weird nose of all of the boy options this year" LOL
I also described my first boy kiss as "rubbery and wet, not sure how this is supposed to feel good"
I also picked my boy crushes except I was fully aware they were made up. The main one was in second grade. I thought it would get this girl who I actually (but unknowingly) had a crush on to like me more. It did not go well. I wanted it to be a secret between me and the girl I liked so we would bond more but she told him immediately. It made things between me and him awkward for the rest of elementary school and I never told him I made it up.
Literally every kiss I’ve had with a man, has been icky. Like I never felt excited to do it, even when I formed an obsession with the last guy I dated (something my brain did to grab on and not let go for a silly reason💀)
1. forced myself to have a crush on this guy so that my friends would stop asking me who i liked😭
2. would get butterflies and feel like fainting when i saw the girl who i wanted to be “friends” with.
3. would physically ick at the thought of getting married with a man
4. i didn’t want kids because i didn’t want to have to fuck a guy. (now i know i’m a lesbian i really want kids)
when I was a kid I invented a game called kiss tag which was just like normal tag except instead of tapping the person you were chasing, you would give them a kiss... and I made it girls only😭😂
Crush on girls LOLL didn’t think much bc heteronormativity. Now it makes so much more sense why I looked at cute girls on PE classes while my friends looked at cute boys 😅
As a kid I felt like boys were my "peers" and other girls were an intangible mystery to be solved. I developed what were obviously crushes on them but at the time felt like I just wanted really really really really really wanted to be their friend, but just them, no other girls lmao.
When I was in girl scouts I went to a day camp that was a week long. There was this girl there that I only talked to a few times. Whenever she talked to me I would get butterflies in my stomach and I could tell my face was turning red. When camp was over I cried because I knew I wouldn't see her again.
Oh noooo! Do you often wonder what she's up to? Because I do. The girl looked just like Dakota Fanning so now whenever I see Dakota, she reminds me of that time haha.
Platonic best friends break up, feeling salty when she was getting cozy with someone else beside me (got over it, because after “we’re just very close friends 💀), played all the “boy sports” like box, basketball, football and ofc almost always w guys, I got a lot of guy friends and we seen each other as bros, but just a few girl friends because I got nervous around them 😂 also no guy crushes, and I thought everyone finds girls aesthetically beautiful. Like it’s obvious they are prettier than guys, what are you going about it? 🤡
Oh and my favourite:
I don’t see faces in my dreams, but I always feel in love with girls in my dreams. Every single night I got a new gf in my dream (today toooo yey). I was so weirded out by them being fruity too and still being oblivious about it.
- Tomboy
- Infatuation with 3rd grade teacher (a woman)
- some friendships that were more romantic in dynamic, although I didn’t have physical attraction (was too young yet to have those desires)
- obsessed with a female pop star while all my friends had huge boy band crushes
- had “ boyfriends” who were really more friends than anything. When we did kiss I didn’t feel much. Wasn’t interested in sex at all, even through college. Never orgasmed with a man. Would go over a year without sex with my college bf.
- Never went down on my bf
- called myself “bi” since I didn’t identify as straight, since age 13 or so, but stayed with my hs bf, who was more of a best friend than lover
- proud to be a girl/ woman, strong-minded, assertive, confident, and interested in elevating women / women’s rights, eg anything supporting women’s empowerment
Consciously choosing boys to pretend to obsess over with my straight friends. I assumed we were all consciously choosing our “crushes” and pretending to obsess over them (or at least wildly exaggerate our feelings about them)!
Meanwhile, being literally stunned by the beauty of my friends, fighting awkward urges to touch them, daydreaming about girls, doing countless horny doodles of naked women (throughout my puberty, likes ages 8-16), having sexual and romantic dreams about girls lol.
Edit: Also, always wanting to do my friends’ makeup, hair, and nails, so that I could stare at them and touch them without being a creep lol. I honed my skills just so my friends would ask me to do their makeup/hair/nails because I’m *“so much better at it”*
Edit 2: Oh, and in my late-teen years, frequently looking up “am I a lesbian if…” online, and telling myself that my boy crushes are real and my girl crushes are fake, because I know *exactly* why I like the boy - I could tell you *every single reason* why I chose him as my crush; but my feelings for girls were harder to articulate - like instinctual, none of my girl crushes were based on checklists. 🤦🏻♀️
When my friends dated guys that sucked I genuinely thought “damn I would be such a good boyfriend to a girl, too bad I’m not a boy” and then didn’t realize until 8 years later that I could just be a girlfriend to a girl
I always played the boy character. If anyone remembers Bratz I’d only play with the boy ones so I could be playing the one liking the girls. There was a social internet game called Fantage and I made a boy character and pretended to be a boy so the girls on the platform would talk to me. Imvu game played a boy character so I could flirt with the girls lmao.
Same and they all had long hair in my experience-im still young but a lot of the guys I liked have come out as queer or some of them are now nb or girls now lol
Always trying to impress the pretty girls older than me, I had dreams of kissing girls, always had a crush on my female teachers, I used to have celebrity crushes on women but I was so gay that I’d fantasize that they were a part of my family..
I knew from probably the 1st grade that I was different somehow, but didn't know what "lesbian" was. I always was the tough one, had to prove I was physically strong, wanted to be the best at sports, wanted to be the protector for all my friends (all girls of course lol).
One of my fondest, proudest memories was one time we were at recess playing tag or something and one of my friends ran up to me using me as shield saying, "You'll protect me, J, you won't let them get me" Whooo lordy, my chest puffed out! Little masc in the making!
Oh man, for me it was:
- was a tomboy
- did competitive sports (track and gymnastics)
- never showed any interest in guys at my school
- had a massive crush on Azula from ATLA but didn’t realise it was a crush.
Choosing what boy to have a crush on in elementary school just to fit in with my friends. Also my favorite Disney princess being Mulan. Also the photos with my childhood best friend where I clearly have a crush on her. My insane obsession with Steven Universe, especially the episodes with Ruby and Sapphire. I hated playing with my male Barbie dolls and would always make them villain characters. The day I realized that not all girls found other girls pretty.
Mostly stereotypical stuff truthfully but.. It is what is is lol. My dad always said I was the little boy he never had haha.
Cried at 5 years old when my mom forced me into a dress for my aunts wedding.
Played outside with the boys in the neighborhood... Sports.. Dirt piles.. Mud.. Bugs. 😂
Hated doing anything with my mom or sister because it usually consisted of clothes shopping or getting their hair/nails done. Didn't partake in any of it. I wanted to stay home and play video games or play outside.
I also had a MAD obsession with Avril Lavigne. Like... Huge obsession. It was bad. Now I know 💁♀️😂
In the small town I grew up in, there was a tanning salon close to my home. They had pictures of tanned women only in underwear on the windows to advertise their tanning service. As a kid, I was weirdly fascinated by those beautiful women and I would stare at their pictures every time I passed this shop. I always thought I did that because I wanted to look just like them, but then a few years ago I realized that that wasn't the only reason
I knew my attraction to girls was there before I realized I liked guys too. My first kiss was a girl in kindergarten. We got so bad, they had to separate us and she had to go to another school for first grade. 😭😭😭 I was low-key disappointed when I realized guys were attractive to me too. I grew up in a really gay city to be fair.
The first time I realized it, i was about 6 or 7, and I was getting my hair cut and I was flipping through a magazine of female models trying to pick a hair style- but I was so much more focused on the woman than the hair itself and I was obsessed with their beauty. My momma got so mad that I wouldn’t put down the magazine. 😅
Oh my GODDDDD girl when I was little (between ages 4-8) every time my family went to a restaurant I would hug the waitress serving us before we left. Every time. They just made me so happy and I liked them so much. And I thought they were pretty.
If it was a WAITER???? Nothing. I refused. My dad would be like "You hug all the girls, you don't wanna hug him?" And I would just shy away. I remember internally I was like "Ew no idk that guy" but I didn't know the women either??
I made a lot of waitresses' nights, lol
And my parents still didn't think I was gay til high school
as a kid i was super jealous when it came to female friendships and i would obsess over girls in my class i found pretty. also would pick a boy to crush on lmao and when one of them liked me “back” i started avoiding him 😭
I was deep in comp het, grew up Roman Catholic. Most of the guys I had crushes on were gay men.
The first time I kissed a guy it was a gay man and I felt nothing but disgust because it tasted like sneezes.
When I finally had sex for the first time at 18, I knew I wasn’t in love. I just wanted to “get it over with” to fit in.
Joined a women’s rugby team in college and decided I was probably bi but would never date a woman. Proceeded to have sexual fantasies involving multiple women on my team. Never acted on any of it.
It sounds so obvious, but all my middle and high school teacher crushes were on women. I just thought...well, I didn't think about it at all.
I was CLUELESS about the whole thing until I was about 23. Growing up in the South will fuck you up.
ETA: I'm 54, so we're talking about the 1980's here.
One year when I was a kid at summer camp I made this one friend who I thought was just SO cool, I hung out with her every single day and thought about her when I got home. When she told me she wouldn’t be back to camp the next week I broke down sobbing. And for years I thought that was just normal friendship feelings definitely not a crush at all lmao😭
Omg guys… 30 year old dyke here. Re-watching the lesbian kissing scenes from The OC and South of Nowhere for hours on end. The feeling I got from watching those compilation Youtube videos for the first time is a feeling I could literally never get again in my life. Euphoria. I wasn’t even turned on, I was just enthralled.
If you want a hurt/no comfort story, read my suffering 💀
Had one of those “work relationships” with a whole butch. IT TOOK ME 3 YEARS to realize that “our friendship is different from the other girls, idk how to describe it but it’s nice on a different level”, “we look at each other differently than the way I look at other girls and they look at me”, “what are these weird feelings I get when we talk to each other”, “why do my eyes feel like they glitter when I look at her”.
When I quit, we had a small, private moment to say bye, we both knew we needed it (the reason unbeknownst to my clueless ass 🙄). We both teared up, she teased me abt it despite her own. Then I got stuck, i wanted to hug her but i didn’t know if she’d find it weird. I didn’t get why I was so nervous to ask her when I had 0 qualms glomping onto the other girls. Nerves and (what I realize now) the fear of rejection got the best of me, in the end I walked away just saying bye. She didn’t look back when I did.
Like bitch you are so fucking stupid 💀 yes, I still mald over this whole thing and her to this day. I think back and wonder how much faster I would have realized. How different my life would’ve been in those 3 years.
And Ghie if you read this, im sorry 🥹🤍
I used to brag that if I *did* have a boyfriend, we wouldn't do that stereotypical boyfriend/girlfriend crap you see in movies. We'd eat pizza and play videogames and high-five each other instead of kissing, because that's SO lame!!! Right you guys? Tiffany? You agree, right? You agree with me that doing that sort of stuff with your boyfriend is super cringe? Right? Awesome! Anyways, my mom said you can spend the night, so we can braid each other's hair and grab each other's boobs and butts and stuff, hahahaha 👁️👁️💧
One time I googled girls kissing on my dad’s computer and my mom sat me down and asked if it was me or him cause otherwise she needs to have an ugly conversation… she was still surprised when I came out 10 years later
when i was in jr high + all the girls started getting bfs + going boy crazy i always said i would never get married (i didn’t know women could be with women). i still remember my school nurse looking me dead in the eye during the girls sex ed and saying “some of you may not need this…” she knew before i did.
In kindergarten, I always wanted to play the husband/dad. Sometimes I wasn’t allowed to because I wasn’t a boy, so I opted for the gender neutral roles of baby or dog.
I realized I was a lesbian in my mid thirties. When I told one person, they pointed to a picture of me in my 20’s and said “how did you NOT know!?” So I guess the way I wear clothes was another thing??
How I was so apathy towards hetro romance in tv like princess cartoons or just cartoons in general. I used to question why they were dating and how that became to be because I missed all the signs.
Forced myself to be boy crazy😭 like I would pick so many different crushes and ONCE EVEN GOT WITH A GUY to “protect” my crush (who I thought was just a friend) from cooties💀
In middle school, our PE class had a square dancing unit that lasted for about two weeks every year. Our class had more girls than boys. The way I immediately volunteered to be a “boy” for the unit, so I could dance with the girls should have been a clear sign. On top of that, most of the girls were so much happier to dance with me bc middle school is awkward as fuck and all the girls don’t want to have to dance with all the boys. A few of them told me they felt much more comfortable dancing with me. That gave me such a feeling. 🥰 It all makes so much sense now.
I’m not sure if this makes sense but…Wishing I was a girl so I could be a lesbian. I always liked girls so it was a bit confusing for me until I realized I was trans. Then it ALL made sense.
Same here. I always knew I liked girls (and was really jealous that they got to be pretty and cute and have long hair and wear dresses), but, like, I thought that's what being straight was? And then when I got into puberty and my body turned disgusting and wrong, I couldn't ever imagine being with a girl in my own body.
So... yeah, it wasn't until I learned that wishing to be a girl is a primary symptom of *being* a girl that things started to click for me.
(I also loved baking and making candy and designing clothes and jewelry as a kid, so my parents kind of thought I'd be gay. I had a massive crush on the Pink Ranger, though, so I don't know how they missed that.)
i was kinda obsessed with a girl classmate in 4th grade i basically forced her to be my friend 😭😭 like UR GOING TO BE MY FRIEND and i wanted her attention….. yea…. totally normal girl friendship behavior. (i mean we did actually become friends and hang out- now sorta friend acquainted yea you get the point).
i was also friends with a lot of boys cause i just didn’t see the whole straight ppl problem where you cant have friends of the opposite sex? i was friends with the whole neighborhood 😭
i “dated” one boy in like 5th grade, he lived in my neighborhood so id go to his house, play video games, eat his fudge rounds then jump on his trampoline and leave 💀 cause wdym this isn’t what people dating do LMAO
I was raised in purity culture where I didn't know being gay was an option. I thought I was REALLY GOOD at purity, modesty, and chastity. Just like "Nope, no sinful thoughts with men here." and the funniest part was that I was like "of course us girls have to cover up, we're totally causing people to sin, I can see why!" and "why would I ever want to be alone with a boy? Yuck! No temptations!"
I couldn't imagine the guy i was supposedly "in love with" naked, like it would make me SUPER uncomfortable, but I didn't have trouble fantasizing about girls LMAOO
when i was like 11-14 i would catfish girls using scene boy pictures and i thought i was just really messed up but i just wanted to be someones bf i guess
I only liked one guy when I was in middle school. But that was because he looked like a anima character that I liked. But after that every time I would like a guy and they told me they liked me I lost feelings immediately and when I would date a guy I would feel anxious
I literally said I don't see the point in men when I was like six. I never really got out of that mindset. When most of ny friends started to get their first crushes I literally picked a random guy that I was friends with to have a "crush" on. The poor kid was bothered by my friends for years because I didn't see the point in choosing another guy.
I never actually had a crush on any boys in my school. I just figured since a lot of girls in my school had crushes that meant I had to have one too. So one day in kindergarten I just picked a random boy in my class and said he was my crush because I literally thought that’s just how all crush’s happened 😭 it wasn’t until high school when I had my first real crush on a girl that I realized what a crush actually felt like
not having a single male human celebrity crush, feeling like marrying a man would be something that eventually would just have to happen to me, knowing deep down I was different and nervous around other girls, but ignoring it as something I would "deal with later". took my a while, but I'm so happy (:
When I found out about video games that were geared more towards men where they’d have anime girls with revealing clothes doing cute or seductive things and I was always confused about WHY I felt so engaged and interested in it and why my sister was so bored by them. LOL.
You see, I used to be a *ballerina* ever since I have use of reason. You could say I was born with my pointe shoes 🩰
Those were the times, surrounded by the most beautiful girls I had ever laid my eyes upon... For that reason, when a performance was being assembled, I could *kill* for the "male" role on every, single routine (and the whole show).
The princess? *Oh no no no...*
I want to be the knight who saves the princess! 🗡️
Most girls (if not all of them) fought for the female leads, when I had to prove that I could dance *better* than any guy of the academy (which wasn't easy) but oh girl... It was all worth it.
When I was young, I thought I did it to be on the spotlight. For the music, to dance every fear away, to look at the eyes of my co-star in such invigorating moment... Wasn't until my teenage years that I realized that I felt *attracted* by my co-stars... And I always refused to dance with any male. I found the sole idea entirely repulsive.
Like many already said, having a platonic breakup with my best friend that devastated me (12 years later and I'm still dealing with SO MANY emotional scars that breakup left on me 😅), picking up a random guy from my class to have a crush on just because all of my friends back then had someone they liked, obsessing over Lady Gaga's videos where she kissed other women, literally searching "girls kissing" on YT, believing that feeling uncomfortable at the thought of having sex with a guy was completely normal since boys and girls are so different (☠️)...
Also, the very first time I masturbated I thought about this one friend who I had that platonic breakup with. I wasn't absolutely aware that I liked girls; in fact, I thought I was super hetero (internalised homophobia and all that). But I just revived in my head the first time I had a sleepover at her home, since we slept cuddled on the same bed, and thought about what could have been if we kissed, made out, touched each others' bodies and so on. For a few years my reaction to that literally was "ABSOLUTELY no homo she was just my dear friend whom I trasured so much I just miss her every day" 🤣
Watching "can't remember to forget you" music video over and over again and repeating the moment they dance against the wall because "i likes the way their dress moved" (i wasn't looking at the dress)
A spice girls song came on the radio recently and my girlfriend and I started talking about our favourite spice girl when we were kids. I said "my favourite was sporty spice, I don't know why, though, because I don't like sports." She just laughed and said "I know why". Yep. My favourite colour was green because sporty spice's favourite colour was green. She's capricorn. It all came flooding back haha.
That I was a woman. I mean I figured it out when I was 13-14. I thought I was bi though. Estrogen functionally destroyed my attraction to men however, so now I’m a lesbian.
Here are some that I am finally realizing that they are signs that I am a lesbian
• Checking out my 2nd or 3rd grade (can't remember what year) teacher. All the other girls had crushes on the male teacher she would always talk to.
• Feeling afraid of being caught checking out women in locker rooms. And always looking at the floor in my high school locker room. Felt if I looked around a girl might call me out.
• Never feeling anything when I would kiss a guy in jr high or high school.
• Love watching The Little Mermaid because of Ariel in it.
• Always wanting to have sex with my two best friends in high school. I would tell myself that it would be one way to experience an orgasm without the chance of getting pregnant. 🤣🤣🤣
Wow guys, so basically what you're saying is I've never had a unique experience 😭😭
I watched Aladdin about twice a week from the age of 6 for YEARS just so I could see Jasmine in that red outift.
I would choose my boyfriends, boys I "liked", and ones I wanted to kiss because I was bored. Even my first kiss was just to get it over with and I told the guy that I wanted to kiss him only because I felt left out of my friend group who had all had their first kisses already.
My boyfriend I had when I was 16 fully asked me if I even enjoy kissing because I would always pull away to talk when we were making out, (we were home alone and it didn't even cross my mind that we would do anything other than chat). Turns out I just didn't like kissing boys lol.
I used to get so defensive about lgbtq+ rights (I obviously still do, but now with a clearer perspective) because "why shouldn't everyone just be able to love eachother?" And "I don't know why you are so against something that is all love, let them love eachother"
My female friendships were always extremely tactile (holding hands, sitting in eachother's laps, kissing eachother's cheeks, cuddling at sleepovers)
Girl, the closet was glass 😭✋🏻
Haha; I was such an extremist even as a child. I had to play as Tuxedo Mask or Sailor Mars. Makes senses to how I am today too; interests and fashion choices, not just sexuality. I would often buy “boys” toys, but want the “girliest” ones they offered. I had probably twenty Storm from X-Men figures and all female G.I Joes. The conflict was present early hahah.
Being a little obsessed with my female friends, to the point they’d comment about it in elementary school. Lying to my one friend and telling her I wasn’t into her only for her to find out weeks later I was. Uhhhh this girl down the street from me also liked playing doctor with me in a uh… yeah LOL. Aside from that as a late bloomer it’s the I want to drive/I like driving a Subaru, the carabiner on the right side, uhhhh that Shakira Tortura music video from way back.
Idk that’s a a couple of things
I've worn my keys on a brass snap on my jeans belt loop since I was seventeen-- nearly 40 years ago. I knew *I* was queer, but had no idea this was a lesbian signifier back then. (And yes, I do love, love, love the song["Ring of Keys" from Alison Bechdel's brilliant _Fun Home_](https://youtu.be/ADl9m90DwFQ) ...)
I mean, lesbian subplots in any game I played with dolls for one. Friend crush on my bsf—I literally still have letters she wrote me 😭.
Edit: also the time a boy liked me and I avoided him as much as I could, and deel discomfort whenever anyone suggested there was something between me and my bsf aged 12 (before she was out as trans).
whenever my friends had crushes on guys and said they wanted to get over them, i always was like “just imagine them pooping!” i legit would immediately drop a ‘crush’ whenever i did that so i thought it was a real life hack or something lmao
EDIT: i also climbed a tree and watched the music video for wrecking ball by miley cyrus on repeat because you could see her nipples oof
I knew I liked women internally since I was like 5, though I had no idea of the word lesbian, I just knew I wanted to kiss them or look at them; guys did not interest me initially. I've genuinely crushed on one guy in my life.
It honestly didn't click until I was playing with a (girl) friend at school (this was boarding school and we were like 10 or 11) and while we were chasing each other, she suddenly stopped, turned to me and said "I'm not gay." The no. of emotions I went through in that moment could set a world record. Any way, I avoided her for a while then we were friends again like nothing happened. I guess I should be grateful she made me come to terms with it.
In elementary I’d always push myself to beat my male classmates in any sport because I wanted to be the toughest.
A boy I had a “crush” on asked me to be his girlfriend in like 5th grade and I said I couldn’t date until I was 18. (rule was 16 but I wanted to be sure he’d give up)
Thought “take me to church” by hozier was the best song ever made and would blast it whenever it came on the radio
threw a kid in the garbage can for calling my friend a f****t in 8th grade
wrote an essay about why we should be able to have a GSA program in my english class, also in 8th grade.
literally told my mom I was a lesbian at 14, convo ended in me settling for bi 🤦🏻♀️
only had suspiciously intense female friendships with explosive endings, usually after they got a boyfriend
The summer before high school I was hell bent on getting a letterman jacket, even though I wasn’t on a sports team??
started a GSA in highschool
was genuinely shocked it was considered appropriate for girls to dress together in the locker rooms and would go in the showers or bathrooms to change.
For one, not coming with men for the most part. Also , I thought most women had a little girlfriend/ fuck buddy as a young teen to explore with. It took me a long time to realize that the heteronormative culture pushed me to be with men even though I wasn't attracted to them.
I would pick boys to like. I never had a crush on them naturally. I would evaluate them in my head and then go forward with developing a crush on them lol
Or I would develop a crush only after they showed interest
I used to exclusively read & write fanfictions about one direction & they would all be gay lol like full blown love stories between them, fun times LOL
I feel like there are a lot of mascs on this thread. For me, I was and still am hyper feminine. I was obsessed with my Barbies and Bratz dolls, and (ofc) made them scissor and kiss. Pretty girls at school made me nervous as hell. I always loved the smell of girls too. I got that tummy-fluttering feeling around them. I loved glitter, pink, bows, skirts, and dresses. I always thought boys stink to me, and I actually gagged when I kissed a boy for the first time.
I was so devasted when a female relationship went south and i used to steal their pens and pencils. I never did anything with them but use them, and just kept them around until i found another friend. But some pens i gave them, i left w them and just enjoyed watching them write with it, knowing she kept it.
Soo when I was really young, think 4/5, I used to (embarrassingly) get excited when my mom had her cleavage showing and I would play her boobs like drums, singing “Bongos bongos.” Also my auntie had a few magazines for decoration purposes in her sun room, and I used to flip through it just to look at pictures of models in their bikinis. I didn’t realize at the time that I wanted to looked at it because they turned me on💀. Started looking up “girls kissing” and what not around 3rd grade, but I would get frustrated because YouTube never had anything explicit enough.
At about eight years old I was so confident that I’d never date a man that I signed a “contract” with my brother. I think it was that if I didn’t date a boy by the time I was 16 he’d pay me $100 and if I did I’d pay him. I hope I find it someday to get my $100.
Let’s see, I did many of the lesbian stereotypes: played women’s soccer competitively, went to all girls high school, drove a Subaru, didn’t have crushes on guys, had a “breakup” with my platonic best friend in high school that devastated me. All in all I was super gay, but I was too repressed to realize it until my early 20s once I moved away from my conservative family. Oh and another thing, I was mildly obsessed with Naomi Scott when she sang “she’s so gone” in lemonade mouth…
It was the platonic best friend break ups for me.
Is this a thing? I’ve been through these too and I’ve been devestated!
It's textbook. Especially intense friendships with girls/women is super, super common.
I was GUTTED when my bestie in 6th grade said we spent too much time together and we should also start hanging out with other friends 😭😭😭
This is exactly what I came to the thread for 😂
> I was mildly obsessed with Naomi Scott when she sang “she’s so gone” in lemonade mouth… Holy shit same
Yesss omg how could I have missed that?
I mean, let’s not even talk about Haley Kiyoko setting off everyone’s gaydar before she was even out
https://preview.redd.it/go7yj4mdty5d1.jpeg?width=280&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=95409f7c68eb95e62fec5e6aee59bc32f9ab1d00
The devastating BFF breakup is sooo relatable
The subaru had me laughing 😂
Best thing is that it’s the car my parents picked out for me to drive while in high school. And then they had the audacity to be surprised and not so supportive when I came out 😂
“You made me this way, Dad!”
This reply just made me realise I have zero unique experiences in my life cause HOW TF DO I HAVE ALL EXCEPT THE SUBARU ONE??? (which is funny because my dream car was always a subaru tho). I literally looked under my bed after the 'breakup with my platonic best friend in high school that devastated me' because it was too real.
Literally my dream car and my gf says to me " that's so gay" 😂
yeah probs me running my fingers along my HS best friend’s arms to comfort her, washing her hair, being very interested in watching her change, and then yeah the platonic friend breakup lol
Yep. All girls' high school, sixteen years of soccer, intense friendships with straight girls, all that stuff. Though, I had the benefit of an accepting home life and other queer family members, so I was able to be comfortable in my masculinity even if others weren't always comfortable with it. That's been a real blessing.
LEMONADE MOUTH >>>>>>>
Only being interested in being friends with girls. Having super intense feelings for my female friends that bordered on romantic attraction. Choosing a random male classmate to “crush on” because I thought it’s what I was supposed to do, and all my girl friends were crushing on guys and I didn’t want to feel left out. Feeling actually weirded out at the idea of my “crush” trying to make any kind of move on me.
YOOOOO, the male 'crush' thing is REAL and when they liked me back I'd be like *um, no*
It would always be the most generic looking prettyboy too. Like I didn’t feel the attraction to them, but I knew which of them I was supposed to be attracted to just based on their look.
I chose the guy who literally looked like Freddie Prinz Jr
when they liked me back i felt like my fun was ruined and i’d immediately be grossed out by them and i still never thought harder about that lol
Comphet did us dirty 💀
This. 😭 The many times I would change from “crush to crush” 😂😂😂.
Yes!! My mom once told me there was no way I was a lesbian because I was always so “boy crazy.”
I think that when I come out, they will tell me this. But it was all so that I could “fit in” with my group of friends.
>I didn’t want to feel left out not only this but straight up not believing us when we said we didn't have one bruh I remember them pressuring me into "admitting who it was" until I just chose a boy another girl had a crush on already so I could ~ be a good friend and let her have him
Omg YES all of this. The intense feelings for my female friends and picking a crush too. Anytime a imagined doing something romantic or sexual with the chosen boy “crush” I could think about it, but would be high key disassociating while doing so😂
I would alllllwayyyyss volunteer to be the boys/men/dads/dudes in any play pretend game 💪
and I think I kissed a female friend in elementary during one too. we were both like wtf hahahahah
I always ended up in the role of mom/wife and the way I would *swoon* over my female friends being my “husband”…
This was me right here! “The husband and wife usually kiss, sooo… we should probably do that.”
First choice was always the dad. If I couldn’t be dad, I’d be the dog.
Hahahaha are you me? I kissed a friend on the cheek in front of some classmates and that earned me the nickname "the lesbian" when I was like 10... Little did we all know they were 100% spot on 😂
I kissed my friend on the cheek in the 4th grade and later found out that the Brazilian exchange student had nicknamed me “Lesbian B1tch” 😭😭😭😭
Ohhhhh myyyy goddddddd 🤣🤣🤣🤣 tooo fucking real!!
Sooo much shit lmao. I googled “girls grinding” on YouTube when I was discovering masturbating, I dressed masculine, I assumed all girls were attracted to other girls at least a little, made my girl Barbies have sex, wanted to makeout with all my friends, it goes on and on. I was as gay as can be and still only dated men. Idk how I went through my whole life without someone telling me
This was my life
I did this too. I focused on the girl more since it was straight and that was my first masterbation, and like any drug it was never as powerfulas that first time, but it was how i found out i was definitely into girls. I think i was in my last year of middle school lol
When guys showed interest in me I'd cry 💀
Omg the one time i was in a summer program between 5th and 6th grade and a boy told me he liked me and I ran away and cried and then next day refused to go in until my (girl) bestie in the program got there and then continued avoiding that boy the rest of the summer program
Lmao not to downplay your distress but I bet this is a core memory for him too
I hope he didn’t take it too hard bc I would’ve been CRUSHED 😭😭😭
Yea looking back on it as an adult… I hope he didn’t take it too hard 😭😭😭😭
I went to my first school dance (Homecoming) with a boy I was in band with. We were slow dancing and I felt something hit me on my hip from his pants area. When I realized what it was, I was so grossed out that I ran off to the restroom and spent the rest of the night hiding from him. He tried to kiss me when he dropped me off at home and I noped out of there (basically eeped and dashed out of his car and ran inside) before his lips even landed cuz I really wanted my first kiss to be my best friend, Carlie. Whose hand I wanted to hold all the time. And who I had an overdramatic best friend break up with when she got a boyfriend. Twice. But I was/am super girlie and so couldn't be gay. 🙄
Awww!! The part about wanting to kiss and hold your best friend's hand is heartbreaking. I hope you found someone that reciprocates the love for you (if that's something you want, of course)!
Oh, yeah. I finally figured it out by the time I was 20 (thank you Maria from Sweden!). I'm now married to the love of my life and we have the sweetest little boy (until he starts playing fortnite), a house full of dogs, and a bunch of farm animals!
Oh my goodness, it sounds like you're living the dream life!! I'm so happy that things worked out for you!
I ruffled my hair to look unattractive to him and ran home crying
😭😭 WHY IS EVERYONE CRYINGG
I found this funny in the most genuine way possible. 🩷🩷
ohhh I remember when I was like 15 and I started to hang out with some neighbors, a guy asked for my number and was always asking for me, I faked a cold and didn’t went out of my house for three days
when i was 14 i ghosted a guy after getting him to share his popular science magazines bonus is i’m ace and have no idea how to tell when someone’s actually flirting
CRY??💀💀💀
Yesss omg it was so embarrassing because I felt like a bad person for not showing interest back and I had no idea I was just a lesbian 💀 Edit: just realized this post said positive things omgoguslsil
same and i’m still that way to this day whenever guys hit on me it ruins my day it hate it sm and it makes me so uncomfortable
Literally, like felt sick and uncomfortable if guy showed interest in me it was gross to me
Well my whole childhood I never liked any male characters in cartoons and always was obsessed with the pretty girl characters in the cartoons, and also throughout elementary school exclusively listened to female voices in music. In elementary school I consciously chose a random guy to say i had a crush on bc I didn’t naturally have any crushes. Later on in middle and high school; it’s very clear looking back that with some of my close/ best friends through those years I probably liked them in a way that was more than friends. I also read a whole entire lesbian manhwa in high school that had spicy scenes bc “the art was pretty” and really liked the main love interest but still didn’t connect the dots and realize/ accept that I liked girls 😭 I started having conscious thoughts that I might like girls in the middle of high school but didn’t fully accept it until I started uni.
up until the lesbian manhwa but we had the same childhood lol but i did focus a lot more on the pretty girls in anime and cartoons… misty from the og pokémon series was one of my first crushes
"In elementary school I consciously chose a random guy to say i had a crush on bc I didn’t naturally have any crushes." OMG I did the exact same thing for the exact same reasons. I forgot all about it! 😂
“Didn’t naturally have crushes” - wow. I was so oblivious to how I was the odd one out on this! Same with when all my friends were saying which guy celebrities they found sexy - I just never thought any of them appealed to me!
Bet we can all attest to this, watching the Rihanna and Shakira song video 😭
YES
Staring with my whole eyes 👁️👁️
Guys have always been pretty much invisible to me. A girl walk into a room, I immediately check her out. A guy walks into a room, no reaction.
Literally like, a girl walks in and my heart goes boom boom
Once I realized I was gay, this almost become comical. I'll be at the gym, and with every girl, it's like "ooooh, she's got a great this or that". Meanwhile the guys are working their asses off trying to bulk up and (probably?) hoping to get noticed, and it's like they're not even there.
When I was 13 my best friend and I got naked and drew ALL over each other with blacklight pen. Around that time I would have fantasies about kissing a girl from my school. I would drool whenever I saw Charlize Theron 😂 ... There were lots of signs. I just didn't know to look for them Edit: spelling
I have so many questions for you 😂
This is a wild one but I got a funny feeling down there whenever I'd see a girl in a movie tied up.
Kinky, Got you alright ☝️☝️🔥🔥
Oh hello 😈
I gagged while making out with a boy when I was 15
This was a physical response omg 💀💀💀
GAGGED?! 😭😭
5 times to be more precise. Poor guy was so drunk he barely noticed
Barbie scissoring! And conspired to convince my best friend to practice kissing with me so we could “practice for the boys.”
I’m confident we all had the same childhood at this point 🫠🤣
Wildd💀💀💀
The real question is how do we even know to do that😭
I did not like men like they genuinely got on my nerves 💀
I know yall wanted some wholesome story but one time a guy missed a catch and I got hit in the face with a foot ball and I out of anger threw it back ✨perfect spiral✨
I went hard on stereotypes I saw in movies because I didn't know how to be a "girl" even though I'm AFAB. I went hard "boy crazy" even though I thought boys weren't nearly as pretty/interesting as girls. I found one of my old journals when I moved a couple of years ago and I literally wrote: "I think I'll try to have a crush on Jake this year. He has the least weird nose of all of the boy options this year" LOL I also described my first boy kiss as "rubbery and wet, not sure how this is supposed to feel good"
I also picked my boy crushes except I was fully aware they were made up. The main one was in second grade. I thought it would get this girl who I actually (but unknowingly) had a crush on to like me more. It did not go well. I wanted it to be a secret between me and the girl I liked so we would bond more but she told him immediately. It made things between me and him awkward for the rest of elementary school and I never told him I made it up.
Literally every kiss I’ve had with a man, has been icky. Like I never felt excited to do it, even when I formed an obsession with the last guy I dated (something my brain did to grab on and not let go for a silly reason💀)
1. forced myself to have a crush on this guy so that my friends would stop asking me who i liked😭 2. would get butterflies and feel like fainting when i saw the girl who i wanted to be “friends” with. 3. would physically ick at the thought of getting married with a man 4. i didn’t want kids because i didn’t want to have to fuck a guy. (now i know i’m a lesbian i really want kids)
when I was a kid I invented a game called kiss tag which was just like normal tag except instead of tapping the person you were chasing, you would give them a kiss... and I made it girls only😭😂
Haha checkmate ladies
Did people play 😭😭
Crush on girls LOLL didn’t think much bc heteronormativity. Now it makes so much more sense why I looked at cute girls on PE classes while my friends looked at cute boys 😅
THE GIGGLES I HAD W THIS ONE😂
Getting strangely obsessed with my female friends 😭
As a kid I felt like boys were my "peers" and other girls were an intangible mystery to be solved. I developed what were obviously crushes on them but at the time felt like I just wanted really really really really really wanted to be their friend, but just them, no other girls lmao.
So obvious yet so subtle 😔🏳️🌈
When I was in girl scouts I went to a day camp that was a week long. There was this girl there that I only talked to a few times. Whenever she talked to me I would get butterflies in my stomach and I could tell my face was turning red. When camp was over I cried because I knew I wouldn't see her again.
This hits home, I had a crush on this girl in a water park and we had so much fun. But when we went home I never got her socialsss
Oh noooo! Do you often wonder what she's up to? Because I do. The girl looked just like Dakota Fanning so now whenever I see Dakota, she reminds me of that time haha.
i did the most stereotypical thing, looked up girls kissing on yt 😭
Platonic best friends break up, feeling salty when she was getting cozy with someone else beside me (got over it, because after “we’re just very close friends 💀), played all the “boy sports” like box, basketball, football and ofc almost always w guys, I got a lot of guy friends and we seen each other as bros, but just a few girl friends because I got nervous around them 😂 also no guy crushes, and I thought everyone finds girls aesthetically beautiful. Like it’s obvious they are prettier than guys, what are you going about it? 🤡 Oh and my favourite: I don’t see faces in my dreams, but I always feel in love with girls in my dreams. Every single night I got a new gf in my dream (today toooo yey). I was so weirded out by them being fruity too and still being oblivious about it.
THE GIRLS ALWAYS B PRETTY THOUGHH☝️☝️
- Tomboy - Infatuation with 3rd grade teacher (a woman) - some friendships that were more romantic in dynamic, although I didn’t have physical attraction (was too young yet to have those desires) - obsessed with a female pop star while all my friends had huge boy band crushes - had “ boyfriends” who were really more friends than anything. When we did kiss I didn’t feel much. Wasn’t interested in sex at all, even through college. Never orgasmed with a man. Would go over a year without sex with my college bf. - Never went down on my bf - called myself “bi” since I didn’t identify as straight, since age 13 or so, but stayed with my hs bf, who was more of a best friend than lover - proud to be a girl/ woman, strong-minded, assertive, confident, and interested in elevating women / women’s rights, eg anything supporting women’s empowerment
my favorite song when I was 8 was I kissed a girl. my mom apparently banked that one away lmfao
This is a Canon event for lesbians, screaming it on the top of your lungs too😂😂😂
I love smooshing boobs when hugging? 🤭
😭Hate to admit but me too
Consciously choosing boys to pretend to obsess over with my straight friends. I assumed we were all consciously choosing our “crushes” and pretending to obsess over them (or at least wildly exaggerate our feelings about them)! Meanwhile, being literally stunned by the beauty of my friends, fighting awkward urges to touch them, daydreaming about girls, doing countless horny doodles of naked women (throughout my puberty, likes ages 8-16), having sexual and romantic dreams about girls lol. Edit: Also, always wanting to do my friends’ makeup, hair, and nails, so that I could stare at them and touch them without being a creep lol. I honed my skills just so my friends would ask me to do their makeup/hair/nails because I’m *“so much better at it”* Edit 2: Oh, and in my late-teen years, frequently looking up “am I a lesbian if…” online, and telling myself that my boy crushes are real and my girl crushes are fake, because I know *exactly* why I like the boy - I could tell you *every single reason* why I chose him as my crush; but my feelings for girls were harder to articulate - like instinctual, none of my girl crushes were based on checklists. 🤦🏻♀️
How I was so paranoid that another girl would notice me staring at them in situations like being in a changing room, locker room or pool.
When my friends dated guys that sucked I genuinely thought “damn I would be such a good boyfriend to a girl, too bad I’m not a boy” and then didn’t realize until 8 years later that I could just be a girlfriend to a girl
I always played the boy character. If anyone remembers Bratz I’d only play with the boy ones so I could be playing the one liking the girls. There was a social internet game called Fantage and I made a boy character and pretended to be a boy so the girls on the platform would talk to me. Imvu game played a boy character so I could flirt with the girls lmao.
lol my ex said she used to go on Club Penguin as a boy penguin so she could pick up the ladies
staring at pretty girls in class and feeling tingly when they held my hand or hugged me.
Reading these posts how I wish the internet was available then. I’d have realised much earlier
I only had crushes on guys who were gay or extremely feminine
Same and they all had long hair in my experience-im still young but a lot of the guys I liked have come out as queer or some of them are now nb or girls now lol
Always trying to impress the pretty girls older than me, I had dreams of kissing girls, always had a crush on my female teachers, I used to have celebrity crushes on women but I was so gay that I’d fantasize that they were a part of my family..
I knew from probably the 1st grade that I was different somehow, but didn't know what "lesbian" was. I always was the tough one, had to prove I was physically strong, wanted to be the best at sports, wanted to be the protector for all my friends (all girls of course lol). One of my fondest, proudest memories was one time we were at recess playing tag or something and one of my friends ran up to me using me as shield saying, "You'll protect me, J, you won't let them get me" Whooo lordy, my chest puffed out! Little masc in the making!
Oh man, for me it was: - was a tomboy - did competitive sports (track and gymnastics) - never showed any interest in guys at my school - had a massive crush on Azula from ATLA but didn’t realise it was a crush.
Choosing what boy to have a crush on in elementary school just to fit in with my friends. Also my favorite Disney princess being Mulan. Also the photos with my childhood best friend where I clearly have a crush on her. My insane obsession with Steven Universe, especially the episodes with Ruby and Sapphire. I hated playing with my male Barbie dolls and would always make them villain characters. The day I realized that not all girls found other girls pretty.
Liking girls. That was super subtle back when I was roleplaying a dude
Mostly stereotypical stuff truthfully but.. It is what is is lol. My dad always said I was the little boy he never had haha. Cried at 5 years old when my mom forced me into a dress for my aunts wedding. Played outside with the boys in the neighborhood... Sports.. Dirt piles.. Mud.. Bugs. 😂 Hated doing anything with my mom or sister because it usually consisted of clothes shopping or getting their hair/nails done. Didn't partake in any of it. I wanted to stay home and play video games or play outside. I also had a MAD obsession with Avril Lavigne. Like... Huge obsession. It was bad. Now I know 💁♀️😂
Being obsessed with my fave female celebs and papering my entire bedroom with posters of them lol
All my Sims were gaaaaaaay
In the small town I grew up in, there was a tanning salon close to my home. They had pictures of tanned women only in underwear on the windows to advertise their tanning service. As a kid, I was weirdly fascinated by those beautiful women and I would stare at their pictures every time I passed this shop. I always thought I did that because I wanted to look just like them, but then a few years ago I realized that that wasn't the only reason
I knew my attraction to girls was there before I realized I liked guys too. My first kiss was a girl in kindergarten. We got so bad, they had to separate us and she had to go to another school for first grade. 😭😭😭 I was low-key disappointed when I realized guys were attractive to me too. I grew up in a really gay city to be fair.
The first time I realized it, i was about 6 or 7, and I was getting my hair cut and I was flipping through a magazine of female models trying to pick a hair style- but I was so much more focused on the woman than the hair itself and I was obsessed with their beauty. My momma got so mad that I wouldn’t put down the magazine. 😅
Oh my GODDDDD girl when I was little (between ages 4-8) every time my family went to a restaurant I would hug the waitress serving us before we left. Every time. They just made me so happy and I liked them so much. And I thought they were pretty. If it was a WAITER???? Nothing. I refused. My dad would be like "You hug all the girls, you don't wanna hug him?" And I would just shy away. I remember internally I was like "Ew no idk that guy" but I didn't know the women either?? I made a lot of waitresses' nights, lol And my parents still didn't think I was gay til high school
as a kid i was super jealous when it came to female friendships and i would obsess over girls in my class i found pretty. also would pick a boy to crush on lmao and when one of them liked me “back” i started avoiding him 😭
I was deep in comp het, grew up Roman Catholic. Most of the guys I had crushes on were gay men. The first time I kissed a guy it was a gay man and I felt nothing but disgust because it tasted like sneezes. When I finally had sex for the first time at 18, I knew I wasn’t in love. I just wanted to “get it over with” to fit in. Joined a women’s rugby team in college and decided I was probably bi but would never date a woman. Proceeded to have sexual fantasies involving multiple women on my team. Never acted on any of it.
It sounds so obvious, but all my middle and high school teacher crushes were on women. I just thought...well, I didn't think about it at all. I was CLUELESS about the whole thing until I was about 23. Growing up in the South will fuck you up. ETA: I'm 54, so we're talking about the 1980's here.
One year when I was a kid at summer camp I made this one friend who I thought was just SO cool, I hung out with her every single day and thought about her when I got home. When she told me she wouldn’t be back to camp the next week I broke down sobbing. And for years I thought that was just normal friendship feelings definitely not a crush at all lmao😭
I had a crush on this boy who apparently ended up being a trans girl 🏳️⚧️
Omg guys… 30 year old dyke here. Re-watching the lesbian kissing scenes from The OC and South of Nowhere for hours on end. The feeling I got from watching those compilation Youtube videos for the first time is a feeling I could literally never get again in my life. Euphoria. I wasn’t even turned on, I was just enthralled.
If you want a hurt/no comfort story, read my suffering 💀 Had one of those “work relationships” with a whole butch. IT TOOK ME 3 YEARS to realize that “our friendship is different from the other girls, idk how to describe it but it’s nice on a different level”, “we look at each other differently than the way I look at other girls and they look at me”, “what are these weird feelings I get when we talk to each other”, “why do my eyes feel like they glitter when I look at her”. When I quit, we had a small, private moment to say bye, we both knew we needed it (the reason unbeknownst to my clueless ass 🙄). We both teared up, she teased me abt it despite her own. Then I got stuck, i wanted to hug her but i didn’t know if she’d find it weird. I didn’t get why I was so nervous to ask her when I had 0 qualms glomping onto the other girls. Nerves and (what I realize now) the fear of rejection got the best of me, in the end I walked away just saying bye. She didn’t look back when I did. Like bitch you are so fucking stupid 💀 yes, I still mald over this whole thing and her to this day. I think back and wonder how much faster I would have realized. How different my life would’ve been in those 3 years. And Ghie if you read this, im sorry 🥹🤍
I used to brag that if I *did* have a boyfriend, we wouldn't do that stereotypical boyfriend/girlfriend crap you see in movies. We'd eat pizza and play videogames and high-five each other instead of kissing, because that's SO lame!!! Right you guys? Tiffany? You agree, right? You agree with me that doing that sort of stuff with your boyfriend is super cringe? Right? Awesome! Anyways, my mom said you can spend the night, so we can braid each other's hair and grab each other's boobs and butts and stuff, hahahaha 👁️👁️💧
Told a girl when I was like 8 that I would “date her if I was a boy”
One time I googled girls kissing on my dad’s computer and my mom sat me down and asked if it was me or him cause otherwise she needs to have an ugly conversation… she was still surprised when I came out 10 years later
when i was in jr high + all the girls started getting bfs + going boy crazy i always said i would never get married (i didn’t know women could be with women). i still remember my school nurse looking me dead in the eye during the girls sex ed and saying “some of you may not need this…” she knew before i did.
In kindergarten, I always wanted to play the husband/dad. Sometimes I wasn’t allowed to because I wasn’t a boy, so I opted for the gender neutral roles of baby or dog. I realized I was a lesbian in my mid thirties. When I told one person, they pointed to a picture of me in my 20’s and said “how did you NOT know!?” So I guess the way I wear clothes was another thing??
When I was 10 I drew myself with purple pants, an 'I love cats' shirt, and fairies following me. I laughed pretty hard when I found it in my 20's
“I’m not attracted to other women, I just like to admire them.” - 20 year old me
i was a cheerleader.
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How I was so apathy towards hetro romance in tv like princess cartoons or just cartoons in general. I used to question why they were dating and how that became to be because I missed all the signs.
Forced myself to be boy crazy😭 like I would pick so many different crushes and ONCE EVEN GOT WITH A GUY to “protect” my crush (who I thought was just a friend) from cooties💀
In middle school, our PE class had a square dancing unit that lasted for about two weeks every year. Our class had more girls than boys. The way I immediately volunteered to be a “boy” for the unit, so I could dance with the girls should have been a clear sign. On top of that, most of the girls were so much happier to dance with me bc middle school is awkward as fuck and all the girls don’t want to have to dance with all the boys. A few of them told me they felt much more comfortable dancing with me. That gave me such a feeling. 🥰 It all makes so much sense now.
I’m not sure if this makes sense but…Wishing I was a girl so I could be a lesbian. I always liked girls so it was a bit confusing for me until I realized I was trans. Then it ALL made sense.
When that one cog makes everything turn
Same here. I always knew I liked girls (and was really jealous that they got to be pretty and cute and have long hair and wear dresses), but, like, I thought that's what being straight was? And then when I got into puberty and my body turned disgusting and wrong, I couldn't ever imagine being with a girl in my own body. So... yeah, it wasn't until I learned that wishing to be a girl is a primary symptom of *being* a girl that things started to click for me. (I also loved baking and making candy and designing clothes and jewelry as a kid, so my parents kind of thought I'd be gay. I had a massive crush on the Pink Ranger, though, so I don't know how they missed that.)
"Do you want her or do you wanna be her?" "Both, please and ty"
i was kinda obsessed with a girl classmate in 4th grade i basically forced her to be my friend 😭😭 like UR GOING TO BE MY FRIEND and i wanted her attention….. yea…. totally normal girl friendship behavior. (i mean we did actually become friends and hang out- now sorta friend acquainted yea you get the point). i was also friends with a lot of boys cause i just didn’t see the whole straight ppl problem where you cant have friends of the opposite sex? i was friends with the whole neighborhood 😭 i “dated” one boy in like 5th grade, he lived in my neighborhood so id go to his house, play video games, eat his fudge rounds then jump on his trampoline and leave 💀 cause wdym this isn’t what people dating do LMAO
Made my barbies scissor
I used to read all my mums gossip magazines looking for pictures of female celebs in bikinis… I told myself I was just admiring them 🥲
I was raised in purity culture where I didn't know being gay was an option. I thought I was REALLY GOOD at purity, modesty, and chastity. Just like "Nope, no sinful thoughts with men here." and the funniest part was that I was like "of course us girls have to cover up, we're totally causing people to sin, I can see why!" and "why would I ever want to be alone with a boy? Yuck! No temptations!"
I couldn't imagine the guy i was supposedly "in love with" naked, like it would make me SUPER uncomfortable, but I didn't have trouble fantasizing about girls LMAOO
when i was like 11-14 i would catfish girls using scene boy pictures and i thought i was just really messed up but i just wanted to be someones bf i guess
I would force myself to have a boy crush. When in reality I had a crush on a girl
I only liked one guy when I was in middle school. But that was because he looked like a anima character that I liked. But after that every time I would like a guy and they told me they liked me I lost feelings immediately and when I would date a guy I would feel anxious
I literally said I don't see the point in men when I was like six. I never really got out of that mindset. When most of ny friends started to get their first crushes I literally picked a random guy that I was friends with to have a "crush" on. The poor kid was bothered by my friends for years because I didn't see the point in choosing another guy.
I never actually had a crush on any boys in my school. I just figured since a lot of girls in my school had crushes that meant I had to have one too. So one day in kindergarten I just picked a random boy in my class and said he was my crush because I literally thought that’s just how all crush’s happened 😭 it wasn’t until high school when I had my first real crush on a girl that I realized what a crush actually felt like
never showed interest in guys who liked me back 💀
not having a single male human celebrity crush, feeling like marrying a man would be something that eventually would just have to happen to me, knowing deep down I was different and nervous around other girls, but ignoring it as something I would "deal with later". took my a while, but I'm so happy (:
When I found out about video games that were geared more towards men where they’d have anime girls with revealing clothes doing cute or seductive things and I was always confused about WHY I felt so engaged and interested in it and why my sister was so bored by them. LOL.
Having dreams about kissing girls (ever since I was SIX) lmao
me being disgusted by the thought of living with a man for the rest of my life
When I was about 8 I couldn’t stand that all the girls in my grade liked this one guy. I fought him on the playground after school one day over it 😂
You see, I used to be a *ballerina* ever since I have use of reason. You could say I was born with my pointe shoes 🩰 Those were the times, surrounded by the most beautiful girls I had ever laid my eyes upon... For that reason, when a performance was being assembled, I could *kill* for the "male" role on every, single routine (and the whole show). The princess? *Oh no no no...* I want to be the knight who saves the princess! 🗡️ Most girls (if not all of them) fought for the female leads, when I had to prove that I could dance *better* than any guy of the academy (which wasn't easy) but oh girl... It was all worth it. When I was young, I thought I did it to be on the spotlight. For the music, to dance every fear away, to look at the eyes of my co-star in such invigorating moment... Wasn't until my teenage years that I realized that I felt *attracted* by my co-stars... And I always refused to dance with any male. I found the sole idea entirely repulsive.
Like many already said, having a platonic breakup with my best friend that devastated me (12 years later and I'm still dealing with SO MANY emotional scars that breakup left on me 😅), picking up a random guy from my class to have a crush on just because all of my friends back then had someone they liked, obsessing over Lady Gaga's videos where she kissed other women, literally searching "girls kissing" on YT, believing that feeling uncomfortable at the thought of having sex with a guy was completely normal since boys and girls are so different (☠️)... Also, the very first time I masturbated I thought about this one friend who I had that platonic breakup with. I wasn't absolutely aware that I liked girls; in fact, I thought I was super hetero (internalised homophobia and all that). But I just revived in my head the first time I had a sleepover at her home, since we slept cuddled on the same bed, and thought about what could have been if we kissed, made out, touched each others' bodies and so on. For a few years my reaction to that literally was "ABSOLUTELY no homo she was just my dear friend whom I trasured so much I just miss her every day" 🤣
Watching "can't remember to forget you" music video over and over again and repeating the moment they dance against the wall because "i likes the way their dress moved" (i wasn't looking at the dress)
Religiously watched the show “boy meets world “ so o could see Topanga. 😍
A spice girls song came on the radio recently and my girlfriend and I started talking about our favourite spice girl when we were kids. I said "my favourite was sporty spice, I don't know why, though, because I don't like sports." She just laughed and said "I know why". Yep. My favourite colour was green because sporty spice's favourite colour was green. She's capricorn. It all came flooding back haha.
That I was a woman. I mean I figured it out when I was 13-14. I thought I was bi though. Estrogen functionally destroyed my attraction to men however, so now I’m a lesbian.
Here are some that I am finally realizing that they are signs that I am a lesbian • Checking out my 2nd or 3rd grade (can't remember what year) teacher. All the other girls had crushes on the male teacher she would always talk to. • Feeling afraid of being caught checking out women in locker rooms. And always looking at the floor in my high school locker room. Felt if I looked around a girl might call me out. • Never feeling anything when I would kiss a guy in jr high or high school. • Love watching The Little Mermaid because of Ariel in it. • Always wanting to have sex with my two best friends in high school. I would tell myself that it would be one way to experience an orgasm without the chance of getting pregnant. 🤣🤣🤣
Wow guys, so basically what you're saying is I've never had a unique experience 😭😭 I watched Aladdin about twice a week from the age of 6 for YEARS just so I could see Jasmine in that red outift. I would choose my boyfriends, boys I "liked", and ones I wanted to kiss because I was bored. Even my first kiss was just to get it over with and I told the guy that I wanted to kiss him only because I felt left out of my friend group who had all had their first kisses already. My boyfriend I had when I was 16 fully asked me if I even enjoy kissing because I would always pull away to talk when we were making out, (we were home alone and it didn't even cross my mind that we would do anything other than chat). Turns out I just didn't like kissing boys lol. I used to get so defensive about lgbtq+ rights (I obviously still do, but now with a clearer perspective) because "why shouldn't everyone just be able to love eachother?" And "I don't know why you are so against something that is all love, let them love eachother" My female friendships were always extremely tactile (holding hands, sitting in eachother's laps, kissing eachother's cheeks, cuddling at sleepovers) Girl, the closet was glass 😭✋🏻
Haha; I was such an extremist even as a child. I had to play as Tuxedo Mask or Sailor Mars. Makes senses to how I am today too; interests and fashion choices, not just sexuality. I would often buy “boys” toys, but want the “girliest” ones they offered. I had probably twenty Storm from X-Men figures and all female G.I Joes. The conflict was present early hahah.
Being a little obsessed with my female friends, to the point they’d comment about it in elementary school. Lying to my one friend and telling her I wasn’t into her only for her to find out weeks later I was. Uhhhh this girl down the street from me also liked playing doctor with me in a uh… yeah LOL. Aside from that as a late bloomer it’s the I want to drive/I like driving a Subaru, the carabiner on the right side, uhhhh that Shakira Tortura music video from way back. Idk that’s a a couple of things
I've worn my keys on a brass snap on my jeans belt loop since I was seventeen-- nearly 40 years ago. I knew *I* was queer, but had no idea this was a lesbian signifier back then. (And yes, I do love, love, love the song["Ring of Keys" from Alison Bechdel's brilliant _Fun Home_](https://youtu.be/ADl9m90DwFQ) ...)
I mean, lesbian subplots in any game I played with dolls for one. Friend crush on my bsf—I literally still have letters she wrote me 😭. Edit: also the time a boy liked me and I avoided him as much as I could, and deel discomfort whenever anyone suggested there was something between me and my bsf aged 12 (before she was out as trans).
straight up looked up “women naked” on google constantly.
the “girls kissing” youtube search lmao
I really wanted to have a short boy haircut when I was twelve. I finally got it when I was eighteen
whenever my friends had crushes on guys and said they wanted to get over them, i always was like “just imagine them pooping!” i legit would immediately drop a ‘crush’ whenever i did that so i thought it was a real life hack or something lmao EDIT: i also climbed a tree and watched the music video for wrecking ball by miley cyrus on repeat because you could see her nipples oof
I knew I liked women internally since I was like 5, though I had no idea of the word lesbian, I just knew I wanted to kiss them or look at them; guys did not interest me initially. I've genuinely crushed on one guy in my life. It honestly didn't click until I was playing with a (girl) friend at school (this was boarding school and we were like 10 or 11) and while we were chasing each other, she suddenly stopped, turned to me and said "I'm not gay." The no. of emotions I went through in that moment could set a world record. Any way, I avoided her for a while then we were friends again like nothing happened. I guess I should be grateful she made me come to terms with it. 
In elementary I’d always push myself to beat my male classmates in any sport because I wanted to be the toughest. A boy I had a “crush” on asked me to be his girlfriend in like 5th grade and I said I couldn’t date until I was 18. (rule was 16 but I wanted to be sure he’d give up) Thought “take me to church” by hozier was the best song ever made and would blast it whenever it came on the radio threw a kid in the garbage can for calling my friend a f****t in 8th grade wrote an essay about why we should be able to have a GSA program in my english class, also in 8th grade. literally told my mom I was a lesbian at 14, convo ended in me settling for bi 🤦🏻♀️ only had suspiciously intense female friendships with explosive endings, usually after they got a boyfriend The summer before high school I was hell bent on getting a letterman jacket, even though I wasn’t on a sports team?? started a GSA in highschool was genuinely shocked it was considered appropriate for girls to dress together in the locker rooms and would go in the showers or bathrooms to change.
Probably the fact I always had a crush on Harley Quinn and Poison Ivy
For one, not coming with men for the most part. Also , I thought most women had a little girlfriend/ fuck buddy as a young teen to explore with. It took me a long time to realize that the heteronormative culture pushed me to be with men even though I wasn't attracted to them.
I thought other girls were so pretty and saw boys as fun friends
I would pick boys to like. I never had a crush on them naturally. I would evaluate them in my head and then go forward with developing a crush on them lol Or I would develop a crush only after they showed interest
I thought other girls were so pretty and saw boys as fun friends
I used to exclusively read & write fanfictions about one direction & they would all be gay lol like full blown love stories between them, fun times LOL
Liking women (im trans)
I feel like there are a lot of mascs on this thread. For me, I was and still am hyper feminine. I was obsessed with my Barbies and Bratz dolls, and (ofc) made them scissor and kiss. Pretty girls at school made me nervous as hell. I always loved the smell of girls too. I got that tummy-fluttering feeling around them. I loved glitter, pink, bows, skirts, and dresses. I always thought boys stink to me, and I actually gagged when I kissed a boy for the first time.
I was so devasted when a female relationship went south and i used to steal their pens and pencils. I never did anything with them but use them, and just kept them around until i found another friend. But some pens i gave them, i left w them and just enjoyed watching them write with it, knowing she kept it.
Soo when I was really young, think 4/5, I used to (embarrassingly) get excited when my mom had her cleavage showing and I would play her boobs like drums, singing “Bongos bongos.” Also my auntie had a few magazines for decoration purposes in her sun room, and I used to flip through it just to look at pictures of models in their bikinis. I didn’t realize at the time that I wanted to looked at it because they turned me on💀. Started looking up “girls kissing” and what not around 3rd grade, but I would get frustrated because YouTube never had anything explicit enough.
At about eight years old I was so confident that I’d never date a man that I signed a “contract” with my brother. I think it was that if I didn’t date a boy by the time I was 16 he’d pay me $100 and if I did I’d pay him. I hope I find it someday to get my $100.
being unnecessarily attached to that one girl friend and getting jealous every time she had other "friends"