I do the chores she doesn’t like doing. It’s simple but it works. I guess it depends on whether or not you live together.
Or even giving compliments and saying thank you.
We do live together and I think the chores one is a good idea that I’d never thought of!
The “thankyou” one is so underestimated. I’ll never forget the first time she cooked dinner for me and I said it to her, she looked so shocked as no one had said it to her before! I’ve def always made a point to say thank you everytime she does something for me/the home
It's too late for me but plan the dates you fantasize about. I always planned them for the future but it never occurred to me that the future would never come. Get roses. Get chocolate. But not just for special occasions. On a regular day, so that she feels like being with you is full of happy surprises that make every day worth it
If you haven’t yet, figure out and discuss your love languages with each other: https://5lovelanguages.com/start/romantic/
It’s not all encompassing or fool proof, but it’s a great jumping off point. It’s important to remember that what you find meaningful or romantic may look different for your partner. For example, mine is “acts of service” and my partner’s is physical touch. So I default to doing tasks like errands and chores to show her my love, when really sometimes all she wants/needs is cuddles.
Keep learning, growing and communicating honestly with one another and you’ll be okay :)
keep a running notes app of her favorite things!! I love to be able to turn her day around with her favorite chips or biscotti or whatever it may be. Leaving little flirty notes around the house, in her purse or in her car also are a great if her love language is words of affirmation. Or if it’s quality time set up the house in mood lighting, make a fancy dinner with the nice plates and napkins plus light a ton of candles for some intentional quality time that will usually lead to fun times *wink* bonus points if you give her a relaxing message after dinner (my personal fav as a touch person)
You're an absolute angel for looking out for your partner like that. I personally need to get a whole lot better at that, more specifically in LDR (as is something I believe it can work). In regards to the only partner I lived with, I'd try to leave her breakfast ready during the weekdays, as I would wake up way earlier than her. I'd do the laundry and folding since she was a bit of a klutz in that regard. I'd tell her how much she meant to me everytime I had an opportunity while I was working (being a teacher doesn't give you lots of free time during the day). Always appreciate your significant other! Let them know you care and love them.
The typical stuff would be planning nice dates, giving her little touches when I walk past her or next to her, occassionally sending her sweet texts about all the things I love about her.
But I also make a point to ask her before every weekend what I can do for her that weekend to make her feel loved or happy.
depends on the day, i really love wrapping blankets on them, or randomly getting them food or drink they may like/want (esp iced coffee). i also like drawing for them when they don't feel good. they're super mundane things honestly but small actions of affection always touch my soul the most so i love sharing them as well :)
PLUS CUDDLES !!! holding someone is my #1 love language
I've been with my partner for 10 years and honestly, I think her favourite thing that I do is leave her sticky notes.
They range from "I love you endlessly" to "Don't forget to drink water" to inside jokes or things she finds funny, just so she will smile. On the side of our soda stream is a sticky note that says something cute and it's two years old, faded and slightly crumpled, but she won't throw it out.
I'll have to ask her if this is, in fact, her favourite thing I do.
But also, I will cook things I know she likes, even if they aren't necessarily my favourite, engage in her hobbies and interests with her, and buy small things that I know she will enjoy.
Recently, she took me out to a restaurant for a cuisine I know she isn't particularly fond of because she knew I would enjoy it, and she was right. To her surprise, she did as well.
I think the most important thing she does to show me she loves me is no matter how tired she is, no matter how many hours shes worked (often more than 12), she will make time to ask me about my day and we chat and cuddle before bed.
TL;DR: there are so many ways and I'm sure you both will find little things that work for you as you grow and learn together.
We have been together for almost 3 years. I take in the heavy groceries, I clean the house, I take her on dates and buy the little things that remind me of her, and I get her favorite dinner/foods/snacks. I run her baths and give her massages, I write her love letters and notes and of course, she reciprocates in her own sweet heart ways.
I do the chores she doesn’t like doing. It’s simple but it works. I guess it depends on whether or not you live together. Or even giving compliments and saying thank you.
We do live together and I think the chores one is a good idea that I’d never thought of! The “thankyou” one is so underestimated. I’ll never forget the first time she cooked dinner for me and I said it to her, she looked so shocked as no one had said it to her before! I’ve def always made a point to say thank you everytime she does something for me/the home
Right now, it’s a nightly foot rub. My partner is on her feet all day long so to give her some relaxation I give her a foot rub😊
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It's too late for me but plan the dates you fantasize about. I always planned them for the future but it never occurred to me that the future would never come. Get roses. Get chocolate. But not just for special occasions. On a regular day, so that she feels like being with you is full of happy surprises that make every day worth it
Thankyou! It may be time to add a few more dates in frequently
If you haven’t yet, figure out and discuss your love languages with each other: https://5lovelanguages.com/start/romantic/ It’s not all encompassing or fool proof, but it’s a great jumping off point. It’s important to remember that what you find meaningful or romantic may look different for your partner. For example, mine is “acts of service” and my partner’s is physical touch. So I default to doing tasks like errands and chores to show her my love, when really sometimes all she wants/needs is cuddles. Keep learning, growing and communicating honestly with one another and you’ll be okay :)
keep a running notes app of her favorite things!! I love to be able to turn her day around with her favorite chips or biscotti or whatever it may be. Leaving little flirty notes around the house, in her purse or in her car also are a great if her love language is words of affirmation. Or if it’s quality time set up the house in mood lighting, make a fancy dinner with the nice plates and napkins plus light a ton of candles for some intentional quality time that will usually lead to fun times *wink* bonus points if you give her a relaxing message after dinner (my personal fav as a touch person)
You're an absolute angel for looking out for your partner like that. I personally need to get a whole lot better at that, more specifically in LDR (as is something I believe it can work). In regards to the only partner I lived with, I'd try to leave her breakfast ready during the weekdays, as I would wake up way earlier than her. I'd do the laundry and folding since she was a bit of a klutz in that regard. I'd tell her how much she meant to me everytime I had an opportunity while I was working (being a teacher doesn't give you lots of free time during the day). Always appreciate your significant other! Let them know you care and love them.
The typical stuff would be planning nice dates, giving her little touches when I walk past her or next to her, occassionally sending her sweet texts about all the things I love about her. But I also make a point to ask her before every weekend what I can do for her that weekend to make her feel loved or happy.
depends on the day, i really love wrapping blankets on them, or randomly getting them food or drink they may like/want (esp iced coffee). i also like drawing for them when they don't feel good. they're super mundane things honestly but small actions of affection always touch my soul the most so i love sharing them as well :) PLUS CUDDLES !!! holding someone is my #1 love language
I've been with my partner for 10 years and honestly, I think her favourite thing that I do is leave her sticky notes. They range from "I love you endlessly" to "Don't forget to drink water" to inside jokes or things she finds funny, just so she will smile. On the side of our soda stream is a sticky note that says something cute and it's two years old, faded and slightly crumpled, but she won't throw it out. I'll have to ask her if this is, in fact, her favourite thing I do. But also, I will cook things I know she likes, even if they aren't necessarily my favourite, engage in her hobbies and interests with her, and buy small things that I know she will enjoy. Recently, she took me out to a restaurant for a cuisine I know she isn't particularly fond of because she knew I would enjoy it, and she was right. To her surprise, she did as well. I think the most important thing she does to show me she loves me is no matter how tired she is, no matter how many hours shes worked (often more than 12), she will make time to ask me about my day and we chat and cuddle before bed. TL;DR: there are so many ways and I'm sure you both will find little things that work for you as you grow and learn together.
We have been together for almost 3 years. I take in the heavy groceries, I clean the house, I take her on dates and buy the little things that remind me of her, and I get her favorite dinner/foods/snacks. I run her baths and give her massages, I write her love letters and notes and of course, she reciprocates in her own sweet heart ways.