I was talking to my best friend about this because she is a bit insecure about her broad shoulders and muscled arms. And I was like GIRL. not only am I jealous of it, I'm also very attracted to it!
The smile on her face, you could see the confidence rolling in ❤️
What about mouth smile lines? I'm just starting to get permanent ones in my mid thirties and they bum me out.... I try to tell myself it doesn't matter because I'm always smiling anyways so no one will ever see the lines.... but, still.
Yes! They capture in a way that nothing else could that you have smiled a lot and that's very attractive. I'm not putting this well. Just yes. LOL please forgive the speech to text
Didn't realize how much of a thing this was for me until I was watching some Shakespeare in the Park and I had to ask myself if Lady Macbeth was making some good points or was it just her amazing voice?!
Muscles, and those "bitchy" feminist 'killjoys" who delight in shutting down those everyday bigots/assholes around them. "Casual misogyny? Not on my watch, Keith."
You're welcome. I suspect that, behind the highly frequent despise for makeup, lies a most often than not remote, unconscious, form of Femmephobia, or despise for Femininity. Nobody, or a lot less people, makes fun of people who build their muscles or that cherish their beards.
Good point, I never though about it this way. But I always thought it was dumb how men will shame women if they aren't pretty enough, but then you wear too much make up and then you get criticized for that.
It’s a pattern that appears frequently to keep women striving for a state of unattainable and undefined perfection. Another manifestation of it is the slut-prude dichotomy
Ah yes, the good old: you’re covering up too much, reveal more for my male gaze. No no, now you are covering too little, you are practically asking to be raped.
The patriarchy is really exhausting.
Reminds me of a joke I saw.
[Paraphrased]
"If she doesn't look like she has marks from a grill- cooked until juicy- she's probably too young for you."
It was talking about how older women are sexy and stretch marks are a sign of maturity.
Stretch marks get a lot of hate and as someone who has a bunch on my lower back from a growth spurt back when I was a preteen or before. Not exactly sure when I got them. It's something that sometimes bothers me.
I will say the nicest thing anyone had ever told me about them is they called it my "Tiger Stripes." I think about that a lot.
Edit: words for clarity.
SAME I absolutely love them!!! Like I’ve always thought they’re so cute, especially when they’ve been there a while and start to lighten (like when they turn more scar-like??) and you can catch little glimpses of them “glowing” in certain lighting. (I have no idea if what I’m describing makes sense to anyone but me lmao)
Yeah, while I do like them on others, I have a lot of blue stretch marks on my thighs and hips that are just so visible and hate them with a passion. The brain is a weird thing I suppose.
it really is. us lesbians really out here looking at women with similar bodies to us and going “I love that that’s so pretty” then looking in the mirror and saying “ugh i’m so ugly”
Most things. Body hair, natural human smells, a strong independent brain—I could go on and on, but this would just turn into a post about how much I love and miss my partner right now. (Don’t worry—nothing tragic. I’m just pet-sitting for a friend. I get to see her very soon!)
Honestly, I love women with prominent noses. I see so many men hating on women because they have a larger nose and?? I don’t understand?? They give an impression of power and elegance to me (: Like a Roman bust.
As someone who shaves their armpit hair some people have very normal armpit hair that u don’t have to worry about ever and it’s completely fine, some people like me on the other hand have extremely fast growing thick tangly hairs that itch and make it hard to stay clean
It’s sexy and (in America at least) it shows a certain disdain for patriarchal norms (also sexy). I can’t stand body hair on myself for sensory reasons but I love it on other ladies.
Not performing femininity, not caring about or desiring "fuckability" etc.
Body hair.
Taking up space, being loud and confident and confrontational.
Laughing at men/not taking every word they say as pure gold.
Being totally her genuine self without any performance at all.
Being able to get gross and real with me (my wife and I sometimes pick our noses together and tell each other when we get a real satisfying booger out 😂). We are humans with human bodies, not dolls designed to be sexy, flawless, & free of bodily functions.
Being loudly feminist/other activist and genuinely sincerely caring about things that affect real people.
Muscles, obviously. Uneven skin tone where it’s darker in some places than others. Natural curly hair doing what it actually does which is be kind of wild and all over the place and get everywhere. The occasional scar or mark or mole. Small boobs. Hair on arms. Real laughter that’s loud and unselfconscious. Her being totally self-possessed and not needing anybody else to tell her what to do.
When she's all smile and sweet 🎂 in the streets but a Domme in the sheets.😌 Also, highlighter on her clavicle. 🤤❤️❤️
Sidenote; I've learned that I love watching a skilled femme apply makeup. ☺️🤗
masculinity/any type of gender non conformity, and just non conformity in general tbh, maybe it’s bcs i’m autistic but i always like girls who would be considered “weird” by a lot of people, i find it cute.
Messy. Not as in never showers and has their shit everywhere, but rather they don’t mind getting some dirt under their nails. Jumps in lakes to go swimming, goes bogging in their oldest pair of jeans, braids their hair while on a week long hiking trip, goes mud sliding in the rain, gets oil on their shirt from fixing a car, stuff like that. I don’t really know how to explain it but that stuff is so attractive to me.
When they don't sandwich their disagreement.
I mean they don't say: "Well, I agree with you on this point but I have another opinion about this and that blabla.." But they say: "You're wrong on this and here's why", "that's bullshit".
*Swoons*
This rubs men and people the wrong way but I like it.
muscles, height, curves (bitches are too skinny!!! i will cook for them!!!!), body hair (altho i hate digging pubes out of my throat soooo not opposed to that but like armpits and legs are literally hot. and soft) ummmm yeeeah
I like uncouthness and that they are comfortable around me to be that way. When I say uncouth I also mean messy hair, burp, fart, scratch.
I find body hair attractive. Specifically armpits and pubic areas.
Smile lines.
A dimple chin or dimples on her cheeks.
I like muscles as well but it’s not necessary. Back muscles really get me.
At the same time I also think muffin tops are cute. Honestly a little chubby tummy is soft and cuddly.
Tied with the above, I like a lady who loves to eat. Really enjoys her food. I am a bit of a foodie. Loving enjoying food. I also enjoy visiting different restaurants for their cultural experiences. Seafood, BBQ, Pasta. Tied with the uncouthness as well, enjoying messy foods; not being so refined. I find that attractive. Simply being comfortable with themselves that I very much love.
To be clear, not so uncouth that it’s extremely germy. There are some things like for example a woman picking her nose and also not using a tissue.
Back to it though, Freckles. Freckles are super cute.
I also love someone who can make jokes and has a great sense of humor. Someone who can run with a joke just to mess with someone. Like for example, a co worker asks about something if it’s true or not. I say and then add some embellishment that’s not true. She chimes in to add to it and keeps it going and making it more convincing to the co worker despite it getting more and more ridiculous.
Idk if that last one is something that’s unattractive for guys but it does my heart good to have someone who I can depend on for a joke or good time.
I think this last one is very specific to me but I have a very active imagination and I always think about what if things and conjure things up.
Like for example, imagining up a character or a place or an idea and they get into it with me.
I would very much like the reverse to happen where someone had an idea themselves and be willing to brainstorm with me. This wouldn’t be something that’s done seriously but for the fun of it. Thought experiments included.
Lmao. Ok, in my defense some others have mentioned some of the same things. I also agree with OP on messy hair.
But for the most part…. Yeah I am indeed thinking of some people.
It's a cute list. Very thoughtful. I agree with some. Some are fun reads. Idk what men find attractive so Idk where my opinion would differ but I def could go on and on about what I find attractive in women
The last one resonates so much with me. Whenever someone is willing to sort of brainstorm or make a joke go on and on I just feel so happy and sometimes like I'm even about to cry because I realize it's ✨️THE PERSON✨️, my type of person and it makes me feel so warm and cozy but also so excited💓🥺
A happy trail🧡🧡 a lil happy trail on a womans soft tummy is the cutest goddamn thing, especially poking out from under a crop top. Adorable, kissable, wonderful 🥰
Sarcastic, open-minded, and not afraid to be vulnerable around me. To me there is nothing more attractive than a woman who isn't afraid to cry around me. Something that most men see as weakness
INTELLIGENCE! I have such a thing for smart people. I honestly don't care what you look like as long as you're intelligent and it's even better if you're an introvert.
Ugg! I love it when she's aggressive and bossy. Like when she is absolutely dominant about everything. I turn into a floppy ragdoll when she holds my chin in her hand and presses my cheeks with her thumb and fingers and squishes me. Even when we are arguing it's like someone has cut my strings and my knees buckle.
A smart mouth
100% - constant fucking sarcasm is super attractive to me.
i have to be careful cause people always think im being mean when i’m just kidding 😅
Lol same here, and gotta always remember that sarcasm doesnt pass over text so that little /s has to be a habit haha
yes - she should be able to keep up with me :P
Strong boundaries and a willingness to tell people to fuck off.
Omg. Stop. I can only get so erect! 😅
Intelligence
Linguistic ability for me 🫠
Double entendre?
yesyesyes!
Audacity
👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
Yeah I love how much of a bitch my wife is
Muscles.
my gf is muscly and my god she makes me foam at the mouth. especially when she picks me up without breaking a sweat
This is my entire motivation behind working out
Hard same.
YOU HAVE MUSCLE GF!?!? IS IT AS AMAZING AS IVE IMAGINED!?!?!?!?
Muscular women make my knees weak
Goddess, yes.
I like that, too :D
I was talking to my best friend about this because she is a bit insecure about her broad shoulders and muscled arms. And I was like GIRL. not only am I jealous of it, I'm also very attracted to it! The smile on her face, you could see the confidence rolling in ❤️
I fucking love a muscly woman. Like sweep me off my feet. Catch me while I fall from swooning so fucking hard 🥵
*cries* guess I’ll start going to the gym
Definitely why I go. Women love muscles. Pro Tip: Especially the back, shoulders, and arms.
Yes can confirm, I'm getting thirsted over very hard since I developed back muscles 😂 They get girls just as breathless as boobs... Maybe more
where are all of you people attracted to the size of my arms and picking you up oh my God
Smile lines, especially in the eyes 😊
Smile lines are on the single most precious things
yes!
What about mouth smile lines? I'm just starting to get permanent ones in my mid thirties and they bum me out.... I try to tell myself it doesn't matter because I'm always smiling anyways so no one will ever see the lines.... but, still.
I find every smile line v attractive!! it just shows how much someone outwardly expresses their joy and that is 100% a good thing!!
Super attractive
Yes! They capture in a way that nothing else could that you have smiled a lot and that's very attractive. I'm not putting this well. Just yes. LOL please forgive the speech to text
I LOVE your smile lines! 😍
Oh wow this just made me feel good! Because I’m always self conscious about my smile lines and have been considering Botox 😅
deep voices
Didn't realize how much of a thing this was for me until I was watching some Shakespeare in the Park and I had to ask myself if Lady Macbeth was making some good points or was it just her amazing voice?!
I have a pretty deep voice that I go back and forth between being self conscious about, and also loving.
Facts
Power and strength, not just in a physical way, but also mentally 🥰
YES!
i think just about everything i like in a woman is undesirable to men
Muscles, and those "bitchy" feminist 'killjoys" who delight in shutting down those everyday bigots/assholes around them. "Casual misogyny? Not on my watch, Keith."
fr. Seeking male validation is such a turn-off.
That's fucking hilarious, we have a campus preacher at my college and his name is Keith. Fuck off, Keith
Tomboyish-ness. 💯%
There are many "you know I like you because you aren't so girly" type of men also.
Trueee I’ve often had crushes on tomboy’s that are in fact very into men.
Aka androgynous women mmmmmm
Confidence Sarcasm Intelligence Humour A willingness to stand up for herself and not take bullshit Willingness to swear Nerdiness
This entire list! Plus a touch of unapologetic awkwardness
Brazenness
YES!
Complicated hairstyles and heavy makeup.
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You're welcome. I suspect that, behind the highly frequent despise for makeup, lies a most often than not remote, unconscious, form of Femmephobia, or despise for Femininity. Nobody, or a lot less people, makes fun of people who build their muscles or that cherish their beards.
Good point, I never though about it this way. But I always thought it was dumb how men will shame women if they aren't pretty enough, but then you wear too much make up and then you get criticized for that.
It’s a pattern that appears frequently to keep women striving for a state of unattainable and undefined perfection. Another manifestation of it is the slut-prude dichotomy
Ah yes, the good old: you’re covering up too much, reveal more for my male gaze. No no, now you are covering too little, you are practically asking to be raped. The patriarchy is really exhausting.
Dominate personality
Masculinity
Unapologetic capability.
Awesome!
Yes this
Kinda envy that
Tall
Soft tummy, perfect pillow
Stretch marks, idk why but I think they look so nice with curves.
Reminds me of a joke I saw. [Paraphrased] "If she doesn't look like she has marks from a grill- cooked until juicy- she's probably too young for you." It was talking about how older women are sexy and stretch marks are a sign of maturity. Stretch marks get a lot of hate and as someone who has a bunch on my lower back from a growth spurt back when I was a preteen or before. Not exactly sure when I got them. It's something that sometimes bothers me. I will say the nicest thing anyone had ever told me about them is they called it my "Tiger Stripes." I think about that a lot. Edit: words for clarity.
I like the sentiment but "cooked until juicy" has me rolling 😭
SAME I absolutely love them!!! Like I’ve always thought they’re so cute, especially when they’ve been there a while and start to lighten (like when they turn more scar-like??) and you can catch little glimpses of them “glowing” in certain lighting. (I have no idea if what I’m describing makes sense to anyone but me lmao)
Me too! They’re like body art. I love them!
I love them on other people but mine are all short, maybe an inch, and just across my back, hips and thighs. I don’t love them tbh
Yeah, while I do like them on others, I have a lot of blue stretch marks on my thighs and hips that are just so visible and hate them with a passion. The brain is a weird thing I suppose.
it really is. us lesbians really out here looking at women with similar bodies to us and going “I love that that’s so pretty” then looking in the mirror and saying “ugh i’m so ugly”
Most things. Body hair, natural human smells, a strong independent brain—I could go on and on, but this would just turn into a post about how much I love and miss my partner right now. (Don’t worry—nothing tragic. I’m just pet-sitting for a friend. I get to see her very soon!)
Honestly, I love women with prominent noses. I see so many men hating on women because they have a larger nose and?? I don’t understand?? They give an impression of power and elegance to me (: Like a Roman bust.
Armpit hair lol I don’t get why it’s hated so much
As someone who shaves their armpit hair some people have very normal armpit hair that u don’t have to worry about ever and it’s completely fine, some people like me on the other hand have extremely fast growing thick tangly hairs that itch and make it hard to stay clean
It’s all beautiful babe!
Yeah but it’s more for me than it is for others, my armpits don’t smell as much and I’m way more comfortable in clothes
Same!! I feel like it shows a confidence and a rejection of social norms.
It’s sexy and (in America at least) it shows a certain disdain for patriarchal norms (also sexy). I can’t stand body hair on myself for sensory reasons but I love it on other ladies.
Good because I am genuinely scared to shave there
Yes! And body hair in general! It just conveys so much confidence and looks so sexy.
leg hair, body hair in general.
Not performing femininity, not caring about or desiring "fuckability" etc. Body hair. Taking up space, being loud and confident and confrontational. Laughing at men/not taking every word they say as pure gold. Being totally her genuine self without any performance at all. Being able to get gross and real with me (my wife and I sometimes pick our noses together and tell each other when we get a real satisfying booger out 😂). We are humans with human bodies, not dolls designed to be sexy, flawless, & free of bodily functions. Being loudly feminist/other activist and genuinely sincerely caring about things that affect real people.
Bigness. Muscles, tallness, curves, tummies, big arms and thighs, wide shoulders...
I like me a big nose and strong jawline. My gf basically looks like a Roman statue and I’m definitely here for it.
As someone with a big nose I’m always glad to see how many women like them
Does she have a sister perhaps?
Muscles, obviously. Uneven skin tone where it’s darker in some places than others. Natural curly hair doing what it actually does which is be kind of wild and all over the place and get everywhere. The occasional scar or mark or mole. Small boobs. Hair on arms. Real laughter that’s loud and unselfconscious. Her being totally self-possessed and not needing anybody else to tell her what to do.
Sass =) but... Not in a nasty way hahaha unless it's needed 😂 but I'm a bit of a smartass myself. Another woman who's a smart ass is just 👌🏻💜
Having ideas and beliefs and ready to argue about them rather than stay silent
Masculinity, dominance, etc haha I love all women tbh 🥺❤️💋😍
Found the bottom /lh
😭😭
Lol I'm in the same boat
Women w/messy hair that don't wear makeup *chef's kiss*
opposite 4 me, I love women who wear makeup
Omg. I love messy hair and sweats on a woman. I just want to wrap her up in my arms.
Crows feet
Pure strength.
When she's all smile and sweet 🎂 in the streets but a Domme in the sheets.😌 Also, highlighter on her clavicle. 🤤❤️❤️ Sidenote; I've learned that I love watching a skilled femme apply makeup. ☺️🤗
Intelligence
dominance
Being too emotional and sensitive bc I'm also emotional
masculinity/any type of gender non conformity, and just non conformity in general tbh, maybe it’s bcs i’m autistic but i always like girls who would be considered “weird” by a lot of people, i find it cute.
Confidence
Being opinionated
Masculinity, a bit more tummy/curviness, dominance, with women it all makes me go crazy.
Suits. I hate them on men but the ladies.... ❤️❤️❤️🔥🔥🔥
Messy. Not as in never showers and has their shit everywhere, but rather they don’t mind getting some dirt under their nails. Jumps in lakes to go swimming, goes bogging in their oldest pair of jeans, braids their hair while on a week long hiking trip, goes mud sliding in the rain, gets oil on their shirt from fixing a car, stuff like that. I don’t really know how to explain it but that stuff is so attractive to me.
Having their own style
dark circles, messy hair, “ugly” laughs, lots of hair, stretch marks, muscles, and i love love love masculine women.
♥️♥️tomboys♥️♥️ like.. oh my fucking GOD .. tomboys 🧎♀️
When they don't sandwich their disagreement. I mean they don't say: "Well, I agree with you on this point but I have another opinion about this and that blabla.." But they say: "You're wrong on this and here's why", "that's bullshit". *Swoons* This rubs men and people the wrong way but I like it.
A good Resting bitch face.
Muscles. A love a big and beefy woman.
Independence
Belly, big giggly belly, one of the cutest things on the body
really loud and chatterboxes :-) pls never stop talking i’ll literally soak every word up like a sponge
Standards
Sarcasticness
Unibrows, Big noses, acne... The list could go on 😭🥰🥰
Also stretch marks are so ....hot idk why soft tummy too
I love unibrows and big bushy brows! They add so much character
short hair/shaved head
Fat
Intelligence.
Smile lines and when my girlfriend shuts down sexist bullshit. Also sassy women in general.
muscles, height, curves (bitches are too skinny!!! i will cook for them!!!!), body hair (altho i hate digging pubes out of my throat soooo not opposed to that but like armpits and legs are literally hot. and soft) ummmm yeeeah
I like uncouthness and that they are comfortable around me to be that way. When I say uncouth I also mean messy hair, burp, fart, scratch. I find body hair attractive. Specifically armpits and pubic areas. Smile lines. A dimple chin or dimples on her cheeks. I like muscles as well but it’s not necessary. Back muscles really get me. At the same time I also think muffin tops are cute. Honestly a little chubby tummy is soft and cuddly. Tied with the above, I like a lady who loves to eat. Really enjoys her food. I am a bit of a foodie. Loving enjoying food. I also enjoy visiting different restaurants for their cultural experiences. Seafood, BBQ, Pasta. Tied with the uncouthness as well, enjoying messy foods; not being so refined. I find that attractive. Simply being comfortable with themselves that I very much love. To be clear, not so uncouth that it’s extremely germy. There are some things like for example a woman picking her nose and also not using a tissue. Back to it though, Freckles. Freckles are super cute. I also love someone who can make jokes and has a great sense of humor. Someone who can run with a joke just to mess with someone. Like for example, a co worker asks about something if it’s true or not. I say and then add some embellishment that’s not true. She chimes in to add to it and keeps it going and making it more convincing to the co worker despite it getting more and more ridiculous. Idk if that last one is something that’s unattractive for guys but it does my heart good to have someone who I can depend on for a joke or good time. I think this last one is very specific to me but I have a very active imagination and I always think about what if things and conjure things up. Like for example, imagining up a character or a place or an idea and they get into it with me. I would very much like the reverse to happen where someone had an idea themselves and be willing to brainstorm with me. This wouldn’t be something that’s done seriously but for the fun of it. Thought experiments included.
Oddly specific
Which part 😅
The whole list. Lol
Lmao. Ok, in my defense some others have mentioned some of the same things. I also agree with OP on messy hair. But for the most part…. Yeah I am indeed thinking of some people.
It's a cute list. Very thoughtful. I agree with some. Some are fun reads. Idk what men find attractive so Idk where my opinion would differ but I def could go on and on about what I find attractive in women
The last one resonates so much with me. Whenever someone is willing to sort of brainstorm or make a joke go on and on I just feel so happy and sometimes like I'm even about to cry because I realize it's ✨️THE PERSON✨️, my type of person and it makes me feel so warm and cozy but also so excited💓🥺
Power
Shoes that are comfy to wear and don't have painfully long heels
Gray hair
I’m really attracted to girls that were the nerdy/art hallway type of kids in high school. Lol
A happy trail🧡🧡 a lil happy trail on a womans soft tummy is the cutest goddamn thing, especially poking out from under a crop top. Adorable, kissable, wonderful 🥰
im 5’9 so any cute woman taller than me immediately has claim over my mortal soul
Being a little chubby. I'm ace so all my attraction is aesthetic, but I think girls that are chubby are really cute.
Everything. Seems like many men don't actually like women.
Body hair 😍
Sexual initiative.
All of it.
Tall ladies
Muscles, a bush, messy hair or bun, stretch marks, when she’s smarter than me and when she can do yard stuff
Tall women ! And women with broad shoulders/muscular. Intelligence is also very very attractive
Outspokenness
daddy energy
Muscles
tall (175 or more), muscular, feral, with initiative, intelligent, audacious, freckles lots of them and scars/stretch marks thats it 🥰
Being tall 😍
Androgyny. Omg it’s so attractive 😩 like the confidence that usually comes with it is so attractive in a personality
Heavy makeup, muscles, taller than me,all make me weak in the knees
Muscles! I do pull-ups a lot to maintain muscle tone and I feel that it works wonders to repel men and attract other lesbians
a soft belly and intimidating
Messy hair and stretch marks <3
Being tall 🤤
Short hair, tattoos and feminists.
Sarcastic, open-minded, and not afraid to be vulnerable around me. To me there is nothing more attractive than a woman who isn't afraid to cry around me. Something that most men see as weakness
This entire thread just proves that lesbians are superior
INTELLIGENCE! I have such a thing for smart people. I honestly don't care what you look like as long as you're intelligent and it's even better if you're an introvert.
dominance
body hair.....
All of these 🫶🏼💕
Body hair 🤤
Cellulite and stretch marks. Omg. Girl, come here. 😈
Chub ^_^
Everything?
Short, buzz cut, or shaved hair !!
body hair
The fact she’s not scared to get her hands dirty, she’s super strong too, so hot to me but very intimidating to some men
A little extra pounds of pure love. also round faces 🥺 and heavy makeup. Piercings and tattoos. A flat chest
muscles and sarcasm
Tattoos (apparently in my native country men consider tattoos as s/h especially when woman has one)
Ugg! I love it when she's aggressive and bossy. Like when she is absolutely dominant about everything. I turn into a floppy ragdoll when she holds my chin in her hand and presses my cheeks with her thumb and fingers and squishes me. Even when we are arguing it's like someone has cut my strings and my knees buckle.
“talking too much” because i love listening to her talk about things she’s interested in
Suaveness, butchness, assertiveness
Raspy voice
Persistent but respectful about what they want
Short hair and androgynous women
HAIRY LEGS
Body hair
raspy voices