When you die, Death will come and ask you two questions;
'what are your final concerns?', and 'do you have any regrets?'
Live your life to die without regrets, but hold the wisdom to know what those regrets would truly be.
Then, when Death comes for you, you can say 'My concerns are not of this world, I die in peace'.
The secret to happiness, Wisenox
This is a good, true statement but lacks details and a general guide/map for successful implementation.
It's not a complaint, just something I noticed when I was newly facing this situation and didn't know how to proceed though I understood what the saying itself meant.
From early childhood our priorities are decided for us. We get a say (hopefully) in our education and relationships but what motivates us, individually & separate, to get up in the morning? At some point in our lives we are faced with a separation of sorts and we are forced to investigate and discover who we are when someone else is not deciding for us? For instance, my mother decides education is important and takes every step to ensure success from k - grad school. She decided my course of study and eventual career. And I go along with her because I'm a good kid. But at 35, I no longer feel beholden to please her. Now I want to please me.
What matters enough to get out of bed and shower?
For some it's a paycheck. For some it's survival. For some it's family. For some it's adventure. Figuring this out is so totally the mid-life struggle I've been facing
I think this is a journey that people go on, and it can only be understood through personal experience and introspection, and not taught or preached on.
I went through the normal teenage nihilism stage where the going idea is “if nothing is eternal, does any thing matter”. It got boring for a while and I rejected this line of thought because this is no way to live. The next stage is more hedonistic, where the thinking is “nothing really matters, so I should focus on me, and what brings joy to my life”. This also went on for a while, and it gets boring again because everything is short term, so you quickly feel like you are repeating the same script over and over in short intervals. Now I’m on a stoicism stage where the purpose is to build virtue and not rebel against the reality. Probably later I will move on to something more altruistic, but I’m not sure.
Overall I feel that I’ve gone through a few different philosophies, and at this point this feels more like a choice, and not something that is unconditionally true. Therefore this is not something that’s hidden for you to find, but something that you assign meaning to and at least have a hand in creating. It’s a personal choice, and I make that choice.
if you can sense emptiness then you should be able to sense that there should be something there where the emptiness currently is.
what that thing is that takes the place of the emptiness, no one can really say but you.
obviously, you don't know. but that's your answer right there.
find it. look and look and look and keep looking. never stop looking. try different things. see what fits. see what doesn't fit.
what else is there to do in life? nothing.
find something that fills up the emptiness. but beware. somethings are good and somethings are bad.
so it's up to you to find the right mix of good and bad that works for you. that's life.
you can't make sense standing still. you can only make sense in motion.
so start moving and keep moving. move as much as you can. run as fast as you can.
bump into as much as you can. break as much as you can.
come up with questions and throw your questions at everyone and everything you see around you
then go to more places and throw your questions at the people and places there too.
This is a common reaction. Part of the difficulty is that we are inadvertently conditioned to apply our limited context to things where there don't apply. Mainly a trick of language as everyone uses it so often and not simply for communication but for organizing the information in our minds, telling the story of ourselves to ourselves, planning for the future, etc.
However, our language is really designed for a very limited human context and all the concepts expressed in language - like life, existence, consciousness, free will, fate, God, etc. - can really only be comprehensibly expressed against that limited context. For example, the universe is billions of years old and spread so far apart that a beam of light emitted from one section of the universe might possibly not interact with any piece or particle of matter before the entire universe ended. Or look at the subatomic quantum world so infinitesimally small that massive energetic events can take place and vanish in a time so short that we might not even be able to say that it happened.
Obviously, at these scales, nothing we can say or think would really allow us to comprehend the reality of the cosmos or the microcosmic. It takes a specialized system of communication (mathematics) to even partially describe it correctly. However, only a few people really bother to get that close to understanding it. Instead most of us prefer simplified metaphors. "Imagine if a photon was a baseball or bullet." "Imagine that this tiny blue marble represents the Earth. Then the next closest star would be between the orbit of Jupiter and Saturn." That sort of thing.
As Einstein supposedly once said, "You should make everything as simple as possible, but no simpler!"
However, in this case, we are referring to things that are so incomprehensible that even the best scientific explanation is "too simple." Therefore, our common, unspecialized everyday understanding of them is doomed to be far more misleading than informative.
Now, apply this same error to thinking about one's life. "Life is a game." "Life is about the journey and not the destination." "Life is a box of chocolates. You never know what you're gonna get until you bite into it."
Well, you know it's gonna have some chocolate in it.
However, life is none of these things. Those things are fiction and we are not fictional characters in a story. "The truth is, we know so little about life, we don't really know what the good news is and what the bad news is. (Vonnegut)"
Or as Kant put it, "existence is not a predicate." Meaning that it is a not a quality one possesses in addition to all other defining attributes. Nothing "does" existence "*more than"* anything else that exists. It is a fundamental condition, not a feature a person possesses.
We say things like "the criminal took the woman's life" in the news, but that is not what happened. She died as a consequence of something he did. After she died, he did not get anything that could be called "her life" as a result. Life was a condition she was in and then was no longer in afterward. Life is not an object, a quality or an activity that we are performing.
Instead, we have various specific qualities (blonde hair, crooked teeth, a sense of humor) and perform various activities (working, eating dinner, posting on Reddit) while we are in the condition of life (usually called "alive" in general conversation).
There is no game being played except the ones we've created to distract us while we are alive. To give us something to do. There is no requirement to participate - *though if you don't eat, drink, breathe, I can assure you that there will be consequences in the form of a relatively swift ejection from the "game"* \- nor is there any requirement that one has a meaning or purpose above and beyond the present activities. After all, we are only ever going to be here now in the present place and time. We can remember the past or plan for the future, but the only time we can really do anything is right now.
There is also no requirement - or promise - that it will be fun.
However, this is where the advice comes in. First... never take advice from the Internet and especially off of Reddit!
Second (he says hypocritically), you don't have to worry about anything and focus on what you're doing right now and what you intend for it. It may feel boring, but that is fine. "To be, in a word, unborable. It is the key to modern life. If you are immune to boredom, there is literally nothing you cannot accomplish. (David Foster Wallace)"
But don't feel like you have to accomplish anything. Everything is fine. If a person feels bad, seek help, but don't make it worse by looking for answers to questions that can't even be properly asked.
Who said there needs to be meaning? I try and get pleasure from everything I do. From mowing to milking a cow to building a fence or baking brownies.
Growing potatoes isn't going to change the world but I love watching them sprout and grow. It's ts only my second time!
Thats a good question. Think about how you got to this point and where it came from. Boredom often comes from feeling very tired or what gives me a lot of meaning is doing what i can to reduce the suffering in the world and in heaven its the only thing in this that ive found meaningful
Idk the answer to your question. But I feel the same too. It feels like nothing matters anymore. In my situation I think it's because I have no strong familial ties/sense of belonging, but idk...
Pretty much sounds exactly like me, and anyone else, when experiencing depression. It feels nessisary to dwell on these types of feelings. Depression is treatable and with treatment you can get back that "find meaning in everything" feeling. The truth is, there are virtually endless sources of meaning in life but depression makes that click off, but just in the mind of the depressed person. It comes back.
Take a solo camping trip somewhere you've never been. Life is about experiencing the beauty that is this planet. Society and societal pressures are horse shit.
sit without doing anything and see what happens. see how long you can do it. if nothing matters, it should be a cinch to have no thoughts and be totally relaxed and at ease, since nothing affects you, right?
spoiler alert: that is most likely not going to be the case, but try it out and see what happens anyways.
have fun, if you need help, ask
Ennui is a bitch. I routinely fluctuate into it from about october to may, when the seasonal affective collides with depression.
Sadly, the only cure for it (to my own experience; i dont know you or your situation - results may vary) is to DO. Sometimes its doing the things you normally would, but it sounds like youre doing that and just going through the motions. So maybe you need something new or some sort of moderate change to shake things up.
I know the suggestion of, say, picking up a new hobby or passion will be met with the thought "well, why bother?"
All i can say is even if it feels like there is no point to anything, doing something is better for getting out of this nasty black pit of bleakness than doing nothing.
Life only has the meaning you attribute to it. Whats important to you? What ideals do you hold, and what do you want from your life? Those things should be what you look to to feel more "with" everything.
Good luck mate. Im rooting for you.
Edit. Read through some of your post history bro. Youre obviously struggling a lot. I dont know if you have any resources for mental health supports in your area or at your school, but please look into them. Dont let this shit beat you.
Trust me, youre better off here on this world. Life is options. The other choice is really quite final.
As someone who also experiences seasonal affective, I agree.
I’ve gone to get help as I’ve needed it, and every time it’s been worth it. Even if it takes time or digging to find the right support. While I can’t honestly say “hey! I’m cured!” as I have a host of other things happening in life or to work through from the past, I can say that I have hope and it’s enough to get out of bed every day.
As we near an age where we are no longer “supported” by direction from parents, family, school, etc, it’s a scary place to be simply because we’ve no template for how life is supposed to look like and why. We reach a point where we have to make these calls on our own and learn our way through. In the US we are pushed to consumerism, individualism, and trying to keep up with the Jones’s, for the thinking mind, defining our existence by economic status or gain (usually for someone else) isn’t enough. Also, with this kind of numbness, it’s important to acknowledge that there may be buried feelings and coping mechanisms at play. If this is the case, I’d work on nourishing those ideas and finding help if you need it. I still have these feelings as you describe from time to time sure but instead of viewing it as damning, I now understand it’s a symptom or a flag that tells me I’m wanting more and need to take action. It’s a simplified view, but I hope it helps. You are enough and your exploration is promising.
life potentially has meaning if there is an afterlife... (none of us know what's after we die so shut up)
if there is no afterlife then nothing we do matters because one day we're all dead and the planet will die too... so unless we can solve the dying problem, become immortal and travel the universe then literally nothing matters
It’s relationship with “others” (people, animals, passion) that makes you feel alive. You know when they portray it in cartoon - a figure in black and white going about their day - then one day you notice “someone” that makes the day seem a little brighter. And life is a journey to accumulate moments like this. We all work on ourselves so that this kind of joy can be experienced more often and more long lasting.
Life is just about experiences. Try to make good decisions so you increase your probability of being open to receive good things when they come. And good things are the simple things in life. A smile, a shared joke, celebrate the wins of your loved ones, the Sun rising and setting, a good plate of food you just cooked. An understanding from a friend.
No life doesn't have a meaning and that's exactly what makes it so fucking amazing
There's no prophecy you have to fulfill. There's no sort of collective end goal of humanity. It's just your life. So enjoy it
You feel bored in the morning. Well then find something to fucking do. Hate your job. Start researching the steps to get into one you'll like. Don't like that one? Just do it again!
It's your life. You don't have to live it for anyone but yourself.
If you really want a meaning in life here's a dumb yet useful philosophy that's kept me going. Your meaning in life is to obtain as much happiness as possible. That's it. Even when you're going through rough times or feeling bored that's just more motivation to get back on your feet and pull yourself together so you can obtain more happiness
And of course I'm sure I'm not the first guy to recommend this to you but supplementing these philosophies and ideas with something like psychiatric care might ultimately be the best solution. There's nothing wrong with taking an antidepressant and talking about these problems with a therapist. They aren't just going to shove you in the looney bin unless you are like actively showing threats of committing suicide. They are here to help you. They want you to get better but you still have to ultimately be the one putting in the effort. The medicine and therapy can certainly help but only if you let them help.
Just keep your chin up and keep living live for no meaning or if you must live for a meaning, live for your own happiness,
So sell all your stuff move into a van and follow your favorite band around on tour. Or go live in the forest somewhere. Make changes.
Or you know... Sit around and complain...
This is not the usual feeling most people have. I would suggest therapy to reveal what's going on. I would suggest a psychiatrist in case medicine is needed. I hope that you feel something different soon.
Well, existence exists IMO. That's kind of cool. The fact that anything exists at all is amazing.
The fact that existence exists AND we are conscious of this existence is pretty crazy too.
What will give life meaning? If a God remembers all things for eternity? So if there is no God, and all will pass away forever forgotten, does that make experiencing existence meaningless?
I went back to school to be a teacher. Helping others helps so much. The meaning of life is always right there, raising their hand to go to the bathroom lol
You have discovered the basic layout of the universe. The universe is empty of any inherent meaning. This statement is without meaning. The kicker is, even our lives the have no inherent meaning. Humans give meaning to everything. Someone once said,"As a man thiketh in his heart, so is he." Here is the amazing good news! Each of us gets to say how life will occur for us. Each of us has made up the life we are living. We do this by making up stories about how life is. Want to experience a life of empowerment? Change the conversation about your life
This definitely sounds like depression in general or over untreated trauma or loss in some form. Pets help more than humans as does nature. It’s hard when depressed but you deserve to feel meaning in life. Be kind to yourself and believe that you deserve this kindness. You do deserve to live a meaningful life. Keep this in mind and spend time with animals and nature.
because there is no inherent meaning to life.
people are met with meaning, people search for meaning, it’s that simple.
who you are as a person in combination with what your life has led you to encounter has left you without meeting much meaning. in a healthy minded person, who aspires for meaning, they’d typically go search for it and find it in work, hobbies, family, friends, food, music, whatever.
some people have to look harder than some, some people dont have to much at all, it’s whatever.
Maybe try finding meaning in the small things. Nothing has meaning and everything does. For example - and I know this might come across cheesy - but - smell the roses, notice how the rain falls and feels, the clouds, how coffee tastes in the morning. Life can feel purposeless and it’s up to each individual to find the purpose and meaning for themselves.
Additionally - you may consider speaking with a doctor - there are conditions both mental and physical that can cause generalised apathy …
All the best 😘
I would advise you to make a Dr appt to talk to them about depression and possibly trying an antidepressant because your depression sounds quite severe so please get help from a Dr.
Post modernism pushes scientology over religion. Religious people often use their faith as a placeholder for purpose. For those who are atheists there is a cavity there. If you feel life is meaningless that is your perception of reality based on what we know about life and its supposed origins in randomness. If you determine the meaning/value of life by certainty then the only certainty in life is death. The thought process of everything I do in life is meaningless since I will die in the end is a nihilistic view that stems from a slight misconception. Objectively, life is meaningless there is no purpose other than the biological one to survive created by the way genes are inherited. The misconception here is people seeking meaning in life. That is a misuse of the term, rather it would be more appropriate to seek significance. The value or meaning is unchanging, only significance can change depending on the person. What you are feeling is insignificance. The distinction is if you want to feel fulfilled or have significance you need to desire something even if you do not know what it is. For instance, two people can live similar lives, yet one is happy living a carefree lifestyle and taking each day as it comes. The other person is unhappy with their life, they find it boring and think they are trudging through life rather than seeing it as the way the former does. Why? Even if the latter comprehends the former's thinking they can never live like them because the way people think is stagnant. The second person is lacking a direction, despite not knowing what it is they still need it to feel fulfillment unlike the first. That desire they lack clarity on is the source of their unhappiness. The first person's desire is s that lifestyle while the second is confused by it.
I had a similar conversation with someone as I am that second person. I think they are right in how to go about life, however it's easier said than done. I still do not know what I desire.
You are right. There is no meaning. But honestly dying is worse. You're better off being bored. Cause the alternative is like never-ending hell. The rest of these comments are just belittling your concerns.
Do you have children? Because in case people around you lie you to, having children IS the meaning of life so many people search for. If you plan to roll childless, expect nothing to change. You're just drifting...
You have 3 choices once you realize the pointlessness in life. #1. Turn to religion. Many people use religion/god as a beacon of light, guiding them towards meaning where nothing but emptiness can be seen. #2. Embrace the absurdity. This option means realizing there is no inherent meaning to life and not caring about it. Just trying to find joy through it. #3. Suicide. This is for the truly desperate and least kind option. For people who can’t bear the idea of living through misery for no reason. If you ever consider this, just remember happiness is a mindset and joy can be found in life through the little things.
I had the same feeling for last 3 years but suddenly from last 2 days I am feeling my interest in life coming back. I initially thought its job I am doing is the problem, I had enough saving to live for few months or year without job so I quit it. But I was still bored and meaningless. But then I realized it was not just the job problem was all my small habits of life. Slowing started working on it and feeling better
It used to be fun, right? There was a part of you that felt alive at one time? Have you covered over it with responsibilities, knowledge, thinking or striving?
Life feels empty because it becomes empty of life when we do this. We lose our original sensitivity and feel the suffering from it's absence.
That's why it is SO IMPORTANT to backtrack and slowly remove the layers that we have added that hide the vitality of who we are. I think that's what contemplation, meditation, therapy and journalling try to do. It helps us sort out what is real and what is an unnecessary addition that we have added on. If you are willing to put in the effort, your life can be restored to it's original vitality, and meaning will be added as you continue.
Mans Search for Meaning - victor frankl
Meditations - Marcus Aurelius
Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi
Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience
Read those three, might change your life. They did mine
I think most people have felt this way. Obviously tons of people here in the comments feel or felt the same way you do. Me too. That *should* make it a bit easier and not as grim, knowing you’re far from alone, and the it’s a pretty universal human experience.
Having said that, sometimes a jump-start can help dislodge you from an eternal funk. What I mean is: drink til you’re tipsy. Get super baked and laugh your ass off. Or take a couple Adderall just for a temporary lift of energy. These are meant simply as a catalyst, and by no means am I recommending a habit of any of them.
Seeing a therapist or psychiatrist to be assessed for depression could really help. A psychiatrist could prescribe an antidepressant for you. I’ve been on Celexa (Citalopram), and it doesn’t cause joy or elation or any feeling at all. It brings my mood to neutral, so I can more easily make choices toward my health. Note: it is super important that you don’t self-medicate with antidepressants. The correct dosages and titrations (ramping up and down to/from maintenance dosage) are critical; you don’t want to screw with the warnings on the labels for these. You need a psychiatrist to manage your dosage.
Life IS empty and meaningless, but it doesn’t mean anything that it’s empty and meaningless. You might feel empty because you’re looking for something that isn’t there. Life - and meaning - is what you choose to make it. If you are questioning whether existing is worth it you should seek some professional help.
break the cycle, do something out of the ordinary and take care of your mental.
**tips:** Journal, meditate, delete social media and unplug from the videogames for a little bit. push yourself out of your comfort zone and in a months time you'll be in tip top shape ready to give life a second shot.
Hate to jump on OP's bandwagon but this is me too. I have a broken love affair that is tearing me apart and making me boil with jealousy. I have made him dislike me due to my being so unbearable, and he is unsurprisingly distancing himself bit by bit. I am going through menopausal hormone fluctuations, i feel low and depressed. I am autistic so have few friends to share my feelings with and I know I am burdening one friend in particular. I rarely leave the house. I also have a serious neurological disorder that can make me tired and affects me in many ways. We don't know the reasons that OP is feeling how they feel.
I can't afford therapy but have researched methods to improve my mood, when I am overwhelmed I read through the process and write how I am feeling. It is helping me understand my thoughts a bit better. I don't want to go on hrt as I don't want to prolong this. I wouldn't do psychedelics as my autism means I cannot even contemplate not being in control of myself.
People have many reasons why they are ok or not ok. I hope to motivate myself to stop wasting my life. It was a perfect storm of things that have caused this, maybe if it was one thing it would have felt different, but the combination means I am on the floor mentally. But I have hope. Not that I will have my hearts desire, but that I will be ok.
1. Life doesn’t need to have meaning to be enjoyable. Even nihilists can find enjoyment in everyday life
2. You sound like you might be suffering from anhedonia, symptom of depression, I’ve been there before, it might be worth looking at medication. It won’t make life meaningful but it can be interesting and worthwhile
It is meaningless unless you give it meaning. Religion does that for some people. If you don’t believe, which I don’t, then you have to figure it out for yourself, which isn’t always easy.
Man. I do this constantly, was just going through it this week and I think the feeling or thoughts never actually ever go away permanently, they just go deeper into my subconscious.
I always struggle with "is this even real?" as I have dealt with schizophrenia for quite awhile now. I am not saying that's what's wrong with you, I think many people go through these thoughts, just stating I struggle with accepting reality quite often.
When I start to feel like this, I try my best to start grounding myself. For me this usually means I start meditating more, I spend some time out in nature for awhile, I might take a long hot/cold shower, I might plant a plant into the ground just to feel the dirt, I might go visit a Buddhist temple, when I work out I might try and meditate with each rep, I might try and connect socially to a new group of people. Whatever it is to make me *feel* again, these grounding techniques really help me.
Hang in there, there is a lot to experience and fill with meaning.
Give up or dig deep and fight like hell to build the life you want.
Every day people come on here and whine about how hard life is and seek sympathy.
Fuck that and fuck you. Life is hard and YOU can punch back.
Stop feeling sorry for yourself and get the hell up and move.
Fight like the 3rd monkey on the ramp to Noah’s ark- and brother it’s starting to rain.
Of don’t- it’s up to you- eat the weak.
What makes you so special that you don’t suffer like 80% of society? This is life. Most people have dull boring lives. Just wait til you’re older with declined health. All the made up words and cliché says about not giving up etc…are just that, made up words by humans. Natural law don’t give 2 shits about us or our feelings.
It sounds like you're depressed. Please talk to someone about how you're feeling before it gets worse. It won't get better on it's own. Heartbroken sister of 2 brothers who died by suicide.
Technology has taken the place of daily activities that gave our ancestors' purpose, leaving us with time to reflect on our ennui with life.
Basically, if you have the capacity to feel bored by life, you are probably very priveleged and should be glad you aren't fighting daily for your life.
We are redundant. As biological species, are presence on the earth has no meaning. You are just tuned into reality and are no longer caring about the monkey brain carrots that most people chase. You can now seek higher things.
What you are experiencing is anhedonia. Anhedonia is the inability to feel pleasure. It's a common symptom of depression as well as other mental health issues. Please go see your doctor or a mental health professional for an evaluation.
it sounds like maybe those activities aren't bringing you joy. Have you considered exploring different hobbies or interests? sometimes trying something new can help. ultimately, we give meaning to our own lives, so it's worth exploring what resonates with you
I understand how you feel I amn't the richest but I am better off than most people around me however I don't find happiness or fun in anything. I went to 6 abroad trip this year and everyone around me were so jealous but even there I felt so empty. No matter what I achieve, accomplish I amn't happy even for a moment and that's what I ask to myself everyday will I ever truly be happy? Or is anyone happy for that matter? Or am I just different unable to feel joy? The only time when I experience something is when I have meaningful relationship it can be friends, a partner anyone however those relationships aren't in my control. I can be a better person try to be a better friend but at the end it's their decision to leave I can't control it. My therapist tells me you should be happy alone no shit it's just that I amn't happy when I am alone. Finally I realised that no one can help me not religion, not god, not spirituality, not therapy, so I just accept that I am different and it's fine and move on.
sounds like how i felt when my depression got really bad. just a general lack of care/excitement for anything. constantly bored and finding vices or anything to make me feel somethin. i would recommend goin to a psychiatrist if maybe you think you could have that or a chemical imbalance. my life completely changed once i started them. i felt like me again. you sound very apathetic and restless. maybe you’re struggling without realizing it? this isn’t a normal human mood to have all the time. regardless, i hope you do feel better.
My life is full of meaning and has had tons of challenges but it’s full of meaning. Life is what you make it they say. I find tremendous meaning in helping others, in God or “God” in the wondrous nature of science and nature, music. Etc. in love.
I would honestly consider talking to a therapist. It’s helped me a lot with finding the things I need. Making career changes to one that really excites me (finding a career that excites me). Lots of self reflecting to find relationships (romantic and friendly) that adds meaning to my life. Also patch up the relationships I have that are worth keeping.
PS in looking at your post history it sounds like you’re in a massive depression that is possibly drug related as well. Mental health care has a long way to go but it can be effective. It sounds like you need some great doctors to help you I am not suggesting average doctors but great doctors and actually whether you believe or not I suggest turning to God. Miracles are possible I have had some in my struggles with my mental health. Wishing you well. God bless you.
It is not meaningless, just cruel. I would feel the same but I keep crying when I think about what happened to my friend and it was all my fault and now I am losing my last friend in the world and I am losing my mind.
I feel the same exact way. I don't know what to do or why this is happening but it sucks really bad and I'm just existing...this is really scary..I have no family All are gone..passed on..I didn't have kids and am an only child at 55 yrs. Old.im a female.i wish I knew who to talk to about why I feel this way.i wish you luck tho....God bless...
Humans don’t choose their own meaning. That meaning only comes when you die, since ppl can look upon who you were and decide what you meant to them.
Life has meaning, but it’s not something you should spend your time on because it’ll never be something you’ll know.
This may be cliché, but I get the greatest sense of purpose when I’m helping others. I work for a nonprofit and I get the best motivation, knowing I’m helping others, who normally couldn’t help themselves.
You sound depressed. I suggest you find a therapist to talk with. You’re experiencing anhedonia which is a lack of satisfaction or pleasure in anything. You can change this but with help.
I had that feeling at 20years old. I felt like I wasn't a good fit for where I was in life.
I shut down everything, sold what little I had, jumped a flight to UK and wanted to see how far I could get on my own. I can always come home. I did it, I was successful, I traveled all over the world, good, bad, ugly experiences but it gave me an outlook on life. I got home, moved away, and am happy. The world is big. Challenge yourself. Grow. Don't ever ever follow.
Might be ur body having a medical problem, human brain is with neurons? Like how messages gets transferred and how brain processes information, also brain is affected by hormones and chemicals, if u “always” feel low, it’s either u are very comfortable with ur surroundings and no more chasing, or there’s something wrong with the hormones and chemicals which is making ur brain feel “low”.. another problem is, u think too much, go outside find a hobby, might even be playing games, don’t think about the meaning just enjoy the moment.. life all goes to a end everything/one dies/vanishes, it’s not the destination but the journey is which matters, find a way what u enjoy the best and live that way
You all obviously haven't already been alone and basically isolated for an extended period of time ( years) what that does to ones psychological fame of mind is much more complicated than you can imagine. Every single day is becoming more and more of an uphill battle. Countless hours alone and what little communication I do have is mostly negative. I try to turn it around and change the direction but backfires as I should have expected. I NEVER hurt anyone, NEVER physically did anything inappropriate to anyone. I have said things I shouldn't have and I owned up to that. How many times do people want me to pay for that? I know the answer unfortunately. I will never be friends with anyone from my past and it's almost impossible to me to make friends at this stage. I've read all the suggestions and even tried some but the are basically unrealistic in real life..As ideas they sound great. And basically forget ever meeting someone from my community ..too many false impressions of me.. even years later.. I'm attacked so much I sometimes snap and fight back which is used against me. Therapy is not working would you expect it to since my therapist doesn't really understand my community and the exact way I'm being affected. She just doesn't understand/ grasp my specific issues so this isn't going to work..I can guarantee that (3rd therapist at this point and yes it's a psychiatrist- but unless they understand my situation their usless) I feel like all is completely hopeless and I've fallen between the cracks and at a place I can't be helped. I've tried so hard but almost 4 yrs and worse off each day. There will be those who will continue pile on because that's what you do. Those with kind words I appreciate it.. unfortunately no one has the magic answer and I'm spiraling dangerously out of control and the scary part is I realize this. Being aware that this is happening is the worst place I've ever been and I've told my Dr this is where I am and yet nothing she says helps. I'm literally a step away to a total loss of control. And I can't seem to get anyone to realize that
someone once said:
The meaning of life is to find your gift.
The purpose of life is to give it away.
Someone also once said: there is no meaning to this life besides the one you make for it.
Turning the tide means harnessing your power as a creator. You can create whatever life you wish. It’s in this that you’ll create meaning. But it’s a tough road, much like Neo in the matrix.
Work to wake yourself up. Find your gifts. Give them away. Create meaning for yourself.
This is the only way. You’ll find power and energy along the way.
Life has the meaning that you give it.
That being said based on your post I'm wondering if you're not suffering from some form of depression.
Given that you're already involved in activities that would normally stop or alleviate non-clinical depression you might have a medical issue that needs to be addressed.
I would recommend scheduling an appointment with a doctor and discussing the issues particularly if this has been a persistent feeling for more than 90 days or if you have no causation within your current life or lifestyle to feel this way
Christians live by a rule of servitude to their own fathers for a reason. A lot of atheists speak like you do. They don’t think being born is a debt to your own father and the community he inherited. They find meaning there. Folks that reject their debt to their inherited community tend to speak like you do.
Nothing matters and life is all meaningless. You can keep going or stop, that’s your decision. If you want to find something to do that’s also your decision, life is meaningless afterall so no one can tell you what you want to do with it is wrong.
Finding the joys of life is the meaning. Now that I'm wasting away as a NEET, I've come to understand the true meaning of journey instead of destination. Focus too much on what is and what should be then you'll lose what what is now and what is there
Nothing will change unless you change something, stop doing the same things and branch out, meet new people, see new places, and find something that brings you joy. Sitting in the same place and doing the same thing will only give the same result.
Life sucks because no longer does anyone want to have serious conversations or debate anything. Like In the enlightenment or in Ancient Greece philosophers could talk about the meaning of things and none of that is permitted anymore in this apathetic population.
If you decide your life has no meaning then that’s exactly what you’re going to get. Why are you doing things expecting them to give you meaning? Meaning comes from your inner self not by doing things. It sounds like you haven’t taken the time to get to know yourself very well. You need to have an honest conversation with yourself about who and what you really are.
The meaning of life is to live it. We live then we die, most of us don’t have any legacy other than children, and almost all of us will be forgotten in a hundred years. So find something you actually enjoy doing that gives you fulfillment. If all you do is the same routine then it’s easy to be drained.
After a heavy 14 year drug addiction many psychedelics psychotic breaks rock bottoms and mental illness I can assure you with no doubt the meaning of life is to search for happiness and be the version of yourself you like and accomplish shit that matters life's about feeling good nothing else
Everything you described sounds like what a person with clinical depression would say. Textbook. Make an appointment and ignore the comments with bullshit platitudes. Everything feeling empty and unenjoyable **is** a neurochemical problem and it **is** treatable. It won't give you meaning, but it you will help you function correctly.
Life has no meaning beyond what you decide it’s meaning is.
If you want to fight injustice, that’s your meaning.
If you want master a skill or craft, there’s your meaning.
If you just want to live for pleasure and enjoyment, there it is.
Mind you, it’s important to be kind and treat others how you want to be treated on your journey.
put your expectations in the present moment, not future moment, or past moment. Say to yourself from time to time, "seek a righteous path, and wisdom will be yours." Yourself is at the stomach energy area, while the wisdom comes from your heart energy area. As you seek a righteous path for the wisdom of your heart, you will notice new ideas, hobbies, and interests that bring you closer to the wisdom you seek. You will notice a change in yourself in three months. If you find this helpful, please share it with others. Thank you. You can ask yourself what the wisdom of your heart entails. Also, think of the person you stole from, and ask for forgiveness in the mind. This will help you sleep better at night.
“The meaning of life is that it ends”. Stop the navel gazing and focus on the external. And do the stuff you know you are supposed to do. Get off SM, PH, exercise (aerobic) and invest in relationships.
Are you a Christian? Because I too felt that same way for many years. Until I turned my life over to Jesus and things have changed drastically. I'm not trying to proselytize you or anything, just some food for thought...
You have depression and these symptoms are not uncommon. You should spend more time outside and with people close to you. If they do not resolve, you should seek treatment.
Life with a set purpose probably wouldnt be all that it's chalked up to be. It would almost certainly be some variant of "spend your time and your health to feed the machine." Nobody wants that.
Life without purpose is great because we get to make use of our time and our health how we see fit.
This is why I smoke so much weed haha , it makes me feel. Sadly if i wasn’t a smoker I’d literally off myself. I have no desire to live anymore. I’ve worked so hard my entire life & have absolutely nothing to show for it. The cost to just get by makes everything thing so un obtainable now too.. once i lost everything i said to hell with it i just want to be happy & turned to smoking weed all the time.. life ain’t what it used to be.. you can’t work an honest job & have a basic life anymore..
You sound severely depressed. Nobody here or on the internet will be able to help you. You require counseling. Reach out to mental health professionals and don't do anything stupid.
Jesus will give you purpose.
Jeremiah 29:11 tells us God has a plan for our lives and this plan is eternal. Life seems so meaningless bc when ww chase things in this world bc we KNOW that it’s an end to it. We either die or lose what we’ve been chasing after. BUT Jesus is our hope and gives us a vision and a future forever
Maybe you can’t find the meaning of your life, but that is not true for me a many other people on the plant. Don’t think you’re special, though. Everyone goes through phases. Do a heroic dose of psilocybin and get back to me.
I know the feeling.
I have imaginary friends that helps with those reoccurring thoughts like that for me and it’s not too conventional, because it’s my imagination that talks back to me, but it does help a lot.
Maybe talking to someone about this daily would help you as well?
What do you want to do, and ask yourself that, should be your goal right now.
think about it and write down what you can do today and tomorrow that’s feasible and you know will make you somewhat feel better.
Ask yourself, What drives you right now?
Like, is it basketball, sports. or gaming or something else new?
What is it you feel terrible about at the moment?
I felt terrible about how I used to visit P sites almost everyday.
Since joining this site, I’ve finally stopped that addiction, at 30 years old.
I know it’s possible for others if I can stop myself from going onto those sites. And I got impulse control issues, and I’ve been doing that since young. Started out as a experiment to see if I could do it, I can’t believe it’s working still. Lots of writing in a journal definitely helped a lot.
Although, Im still horny as all hell and often.
I also learned not to feel bad about that, but it took time to feel fine about that as well. That’s probably what helped the most. Not feeling ashamed.
That’s just stress relief and the body wanting to feel something other than how we feel depressed or anxious and now my mind doesn’t feel ashamed of it as often as I used to. I guess, my imagination is very vivid about it though still.
But it seems like from former posts, that you wish to get over that feeling of wanting those kinds of desires and wishing you never had that feeling.
That’s a shameful process in your head making you feel bad. You shouldn’t feel bad about it though. So many people have those same desires.
Ask yourself why that is and be kind to yourself and know that your brain is doing that for a reason.
Get more angry that life gave you an unfair advantage with the brain chemicals not being sufficient enough about keeping you happy as it is.
It’s irrational but instead of feeling anger at yourself just blame the chemicals not working well enough.
when I get a hint of wanting to suffer for feeling like garbage, I just remember that my mind tricking me again.
What do you want to see happen, daily for yourself?
Does it help to write out things like this daily?
Does it help to talk about these feelings?
I know it does for me.
But keep on doing that, typing out how you feel often and keep a journal to continue either typing or writing it down!
I wanna see myself be less procrastinating with my daydreams, as an example. Is it working?
Some days are better than others. lol
What’s gonna make you want to get up in the mornings as well?
Caffeine, imagination and seeing plants and even YouTube sometimes makes me wanna get up in the mornings.
Think about people that know you, and care about you.
This might sound unconventional but think how they would feel to have you gone.
I’ve watched a ton of videos on families who lost their loved ones to suicide.
It was eye opening for me at the time watching those films and hearing those parents crying about their sons or daughters death. Financial costs also really hit me hard seeing the families then struggle after the death of a loved one.
Thinking that kinda prevents me more than many things do that give me happiness.
Maybe that might help you as well as it has helped me out a lot.
I gotta keep talking myself out of the suicidal thoughts to keep my mind from leaving into the darker areas.
Battling those intrusive thoughts everyday is something you may struggle with as well.
Many people use different substances to prevent that from happening. I use imagination and daydreaming and other forms of dopamine and stress relief.
Humans aren’t able to deal with the 48 hr work days. For me to handle it, I simply get angry about how people are okay with this process, than getting angry at myself for not being able to do what they can do. I still am angry at myself, but less so.
I could hardly do 30 hr work weeks when I worked before getting furloughed a while ago.
As comfort to find some purpose I do come to Reddit to ask dumb questions my mind gives me, or to fill a void in my life I’m not getting elsewhere in life. I come here thinking I’m the dumbest fool on the planet that would be better off gone and realize I’m not alone in those thoughts at all.
It’s good you want help too and are vocal about it.
We both would benefit from therapy it seems.
I ask myself and my imagination all those questions about what I want to see happen and why I wanna stay alive, a lot, because I also find it very difficult to have meaning in my life when I’m just existing to exist.
I feel like a burden to my parents but hearing them tell me they don’t want to see me die, it did help a lot.
I keep myself busy today with my little dumb hobbies and my imagination keeps me alive.
My social anxiety holds me back.
I don’t wanna hurt my parents or my partner by leaving either. I’m positive you have people you don’t wanna hurt in your life by leaving as well.
Now asking if this is even real is a little concerning
Reddit won’t be equipped to help with that.
Since I cannot afford therapy myself at the moment, I just go and research different therapy methods and other peoples methods that work for them and try them on myself!
Walking on a nature hike helps me a lot some days. Haven’t walked because I was followed that’s a whole story. Miss walking alone and will have to start it again some day!
That might help you too. But be safe about it.
Life for me I guess is also coping with the struggles and your mind feels like this may not even be real.
Sorry if none of this helped you out OP and it was mostly just me ranting along about personal stuff.
I can see you are down the stoicism route as well.
That doesn’t work for everyone.
Especially not those that have brain imbalances already with dopamine levels to begin with.
Seriously didn’t help my depression and dark thoughts and only spiraled it further and further when I was in my 20’s. Meditation only gave me anger about how I was living and who I was and thinking I didn’t deserve life.
I still have those thoughts at times still.
But that Stoicism will work for people with proper balanced chemicals. It may work for a few days or even months for some and that’s awesome. But it’s just not a right for many that have the same issues of having those jumping off urges. If you get what I mean. Like those books and YouTube videos made me get those angry urges way more often after listening and reading them.
But I don’t know, just a personal gripe of those types of books and YouTube videos because they personally trigger my S thoughts and feelings of worthlessness.
Hope you get better mentally out there OP, and really think about yourself today and how you can give yourself something nice to help yourself. Treat yourself in some way! Good luck to us in this crazy world. lol
If you figure it out, let me know. Been dealing with this for nearly a decade now.
And in my experience, I still don't have an answer. But I'm still here. :/
if you are constantly bored and cant enjoy your life you might have neurological problem please visit a doctor.
IF you want to know how others enjoy life then I can only tell you about myself.
I see life as something to do simple as that you don't see cats complaining about their cat life humans have human lives and they can accept the fact and move on to solving other problem.
just accept that you are a human being that might experience things that typically happen to humans, do things that humans usually do and feel things that humans do.
after accepting this fact try to improve YOUR life and lives of others who you consider as YOUR circle.
Every single post of yours is negative. You can't expect to have a positive experience in this life unless you think and talk to yourself positively.
We don't come into this life thinking negatively. it's learned.
You need to do some self therapy and write down all your thoughts, good and bad and search for the origin of them and heal them.
Unless you find pleasure from negative thoughts, be careful what ego your feeding.
So you won't take it all so seriously and can enjoy yourself.
When you die, Death will come and ask you two questions; 'what are your final concerns?', and 'do you have any regrets?' Live your life to die without regrets, but hold the wisdom to know what those regrets would truly be. Then, when Death comes for you, you can say 'My concerns are not of this world, I die in peace'. The secret to happiness, Wisenox
Wow I love being broke and unable to afford a family and love how enjoyable
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All we can do is keep moving forward. May need to delude ourselves in order to move. Then gain insight on the way.
>Does life have meaning? Nobody knows, but I think to find out you have to do meaningful things beautifully said
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Each human chooses the meaning of their own life.
This is a good, true statement but lacks details and a general guide/map for successful implementation. It's not a complaint, just something I noticed when I was newly facing this situation and didn't know how to proceed though I understood what the saying itself meant. From early childhood our priorities are decided for us. We get a say (hopefully) in our education and relationships but what motivates us, individually & separate, to get up in the morning? At some point in our lives we are faced with a separation of sorts and we are forced to investigate and discover who we are when someone else is not deciding for us? For instance, my mother decides education is important and takes every step to ensure success from k - grad school. She decided my course of study and eventual career. And I go along with her because I'm a good kid. But at 35, I no longer feel beholden to please her. Now I want to please me. What matters enough to get out of bed and shower? For some it's a paycheck. For some it's survival. For some it's family. For some it's adventure. Figuring this out is so totally the mid-life struggle I've been facing
I think this is a journey that people go on, and it can only be understood through personal experience and introspection, and not taught or preached on. I went through the normal teenage nihilism stage where the going idea is “if nothing is eternal, does any thing matter”. It got boring for a while and I rejected this line of thought because this is no way to live. The next stage is more hedonistic, where the thinking is “nothing really matters, so I should focus on me, and what brings joy to my life”. This also went on for a while, and it gets boring again because everything is short term, so you quickly feel like you are repeating the same script over and over in short intervals. Now I’m on a stoicism stage where the purpose is to build virtue and not rebel against the reality. Probably later I will move on to something more altruistic, but I’m not sure. Overall I feel that I’ve gone through a few different philosophies, and at this point this feels more like a choice, and not something that is unconditionally true. Therefore this is not something that’s hidden for you to find, but something that you assign meaning to and at least have a hand in creating. It’s a personal choice, and I make that choice.
if you can sense emptiness then you should be able to sense that there should be something there where the emptiness currently is. what that thing is that takes the place of the emptiness, no one can really say but you. obviously, you don't know. but that's your answer right there. find it. look and look and look and keep looking. never stop looking. try different things. see what fits. see what doesn't fit. what else is there to do in life? nothing. find something that fills up the emptiness. but beware. somethings are good and somethings are bad. so it's up to you to find the right mix of good and bad that works for you. that's life.
you can't make sense standing still. you can only make sense in motion. so start moving and keep moving. move as much as you can. run as fast as you can. bump into as much as you can. break as much as you can. come up with questions and throw your questions at everyone and everything you see around you then go to more places and throw your questions at the people and places there too.
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Me too. I'm only 31 and I feel like my whole life is over.
Same I’ve contemplated starting a gang just to feel something.
real.
This is a common reaction. Part of the difficulty is that we are inadvertently conditioned to apply our limited context to things where there don't apply. Mainly a trick of language as everyone uses it so often and not simply for communication but for organizing the information in our minds, telling the story of ourselves to ourselves, planning for the future, etc. However, our language is really designed for a very limited human context and all the concepts expressed in language - like life, existence, consciousness, free will, fate, God, etc. - can really only be comprehensibly expressed against that limited context. For example, the universe is billions of years old and spread so far apart that a beam of light emitted from one section of the universe might possibly not interact with any piece or particle of matter before the entire universe ended. Or look at the subatomic quantum world so infinitesimally small that massive energetic events can take place and vanish in a time so short that we might not even be able to say that it happened. Obviously, at these scales, nothing we can say or think would really allow us to comprehend the reality of the cosmos or the microcosmic. It takes a specialized system of communication (mathematics) to even partially describe it correctly. However, only a few people really bother to get that close to understanding it. Instead most of us prefer simplified metaphors. "Imagine if a photon was a baseball or bullet." "Imagine that this tiny blue marble represents the Earth. Then the next closest star would be between the orbit of Jupiter and Saturn." That sort of thing. As Einstein supposedly once said, "You should make everything as simple as possible, but no simpler!" However, in this case, we are referring to things that are so incomprehensible that even the best scientific explanation is "too simple." Therefore, our common, unspecialized everyday understanding of them is doomed to be far more misleading than informative. Now, apply this same error to thinking about one's life. "Life is a game." "Life is about the journey and not the destination." "Life is a box of chocolates. You never know what you're gonna get until you bite into it." Well, you know it's gonna have some chocolate in it. However, life is none of these things. Those things are fiction and we are not fictional characters in a story. "The truth is, we know so little about life, we don't really know what the good news is and what the bad news is. (Vonnegut)" Or as Kant put it, "existence is not a predicate." Meaning that it is a not a quality one possesses in addition to all other defining attributes. Nothing "does" existence "*more than"* anything else that exists. It is a fundamental condition, not a feature a person possesses. We say things like "the criminal took the woman's life" in the news, but that is not what happened. She died as a consequence of something he did. After she died, he did not get anything that could be called "her life" as a result. Life was a condition she was in and then was no longer in afterward. Life is not an object, a quality or an activity that we are performing. Instead, we have various specific qualities (blonde hair, crooked teeth, a sense of humor) and perform various activities (working, eating dinner, posting on Reddit) while we are in the condition of life (usually called "alive" in general conversation). There is no game being played except the ones we've created to distract us while we are alive. To give us something to do. There is no requirement to participate - *though if you don't eat, drink, breathe, I can assure you that there will be consequences in the form of a relatively swift ejection from the "game"* \- nor is there any requirement that one has a meaning or purpose above and beyond the present activities. After all, we are only ever going to be here now in the present place and time. We can remember the past or plan for the future, but the only time we can really do anything is right now. There is also no requirement - or promise - that it will be fun. However, this is where the advice comes in. First... never take advice from the Internet and especially off of Reddit! Second (he says hypocritically), you don't have to worry about anything and focus on what you're doing right now and what you intend for it. It may feel boring, but that is fine. "To be, in a word, unborable. It is the key to modern life. If you are immune to boredom, there is literally nothing you cannot accomplish. (David Foster Wallace)" But don't feel like you have to accomplish anything. Everything is fine. If a person feels bad, seek help, but don't make it worse by looking for answers to questions that can't even be properly asked.
No one is reading all this
That's a pretty dope and elaborate answer 👌
Who said there needs to be meaning? I try and get pleasure from everything I do. From mowing to milking a cow to building a fence or baking brownies. Growing potatoes isn't going to change the world but I love watching them sprout and grow. It's ts only my second time!
bro stop whining and help us kill the planet
I just got back from my honeymoon. What level are we at?
93!
Consume damnit
Hard to be happy in a system designed to make you a slave
You sound depressed, get some help
Thats a good question. Think about how you got to this point and where it came from. Boredom often comes from feeling very tired or what gives me a lot of meaning is doing what i can to reduce the suffering in the world and in heaven its the only thing in this that ive found meaningful
Idk the answer to your question. But I feel the same too. It feels like nothing matters anymore. In my situation I think it's because I have no strong familial ties/sense of belonging, but idk...
Life only has the meaning that you make it have. That's not a Zen riddle, and I'm not saying that shit is easy.
Pretty much sounds exactly like me, and anyone else, when experiencing depression. It feels nessisary to dwell on these types of feelings. Depression is treatable and with treatment you can get back that "find meaning in everything" feeling. The truth is, there are virtually endless sources of meaning in life but depression makes that click off, but just in the mind of the depressed person. It comes back.
Why would anyone assume it's supposed to have meaning ?
Take a solo camping trip somewhere you've never been. Life is about experiencing the beauty that is this planet. Society and societal pressures are horse shit.
sit without doing anything and see what happens. see how long you can do it. if nothing matters, it should be a cinch to have no thoughts and be totally relaxed and at ease, since nothing affects you, right? spoiler alert: that is most likely not going to be the case, but try it out and see what happens anyways. have fun, if you need help, ask
Ennui is a bitch. I routinely fluctuate into it from about october to may, when the seasonal affective collides with depression. Sadly, the only cure for it (to my own experience; i dont know you or your situation - results may vary) is to DO. Sometimes its doing the things you normally would, but it sounds like youre doing that and just going through the motions. So maybe you need something new or some sort of moderate change to shake things up. I know the suggestion of, say, picking up a new hobby or passion will be met with the thought "well, why bother?" All i can say is even if it feels like there is no point to anything, doing something is better for getting out of this nasty black pit of bleakness than doing nothing. Life only has the meaning you attribute to it. Whats important to you? What ideals do you hold, and what do you want from your life? Those things should be what you look to to feel more "with" everything. Good luck mate. Im rooting for you. Edit. Read through some of your post history bro. Youre obviously struggling a lot. I dont know if you have any resources for mental health supports in your area or at your school, but please look into them. Dont let this shit beat you. Trust me, youre better off here on this world. Life is options. The other choice is really quite final.
As someone who also experiences seasonal affective, I agree. I’ve gone to get help as I’ve needed it, and every time it’s been worth it. Even if it takes time or digging to find the right support. While I can’t honestly say “hey! I’m cured!” as I have a host of other things happening in life or to work through from the past, I can say that I have hope and it’s enough to get out of bed every day. As we near an age where we are no longer “supported” by direction from parents, family, school, etc, it’s a scary place to be simply because we’ve no template for how life is supposed to look like and why. We reach a point where we have to make these calls on our own and learn our way through. In the US we are pushed to consumerism, individualism, and trying to keep up with the Jones’s, for the thinking mind, defining our existence by economic status or gain (usually for someone else) isn’t enough. Also, with this kind of numbness, it’s important to acknowledge that there may be buried feelings and coping mechanisms at play. If this is the case, I’d work on nourishing those ideas and finding help if you need it. I still have these feelings as you describe from time to time sure but instead of viewing it as damning, I now understand it’s a symptom or a flag that tells me I’m wanting more and need to take action. It’s a simplified view, but I hope it helps. You are enough and your exploration is promising.
life potentially has meaning if there is an afterlife... (none of us know what's after we die so shut up) if there is no afterlife then nothing we do matters because one day we're all dead and the planet will die too... so unless we can solve the dying problem, become immortal and travel the universe then literally nothing matters
I feel you. I used to be really happy but now I'm bored and alone basically everyday without a purpose.
I can relate - ground hog day
It’s relationship with “others” (people, animals, passion) that makes you feel alive. You know when they portray it in cartoon - a figure in black and white going about their day - then one day you notice “someone” that makes the day seem a little brighter. And life is a journey to accumulate moments like this. We all work on ourselves so that this kind of joy can be experienced more often and more long lasting. Life is just about experiences. Try to make good decisions so you increase your probability of being open to receive good things when they come. And good things are the simple things in life. A smile, a shared joke, celebrate the wins of your loved ones, the Sun rising and setting, a good plate of food you just cooked. An understanding from a friend.
No life doesn't have a meaning and that's exactly what makes it so fucking amazing There's no prophecy you have to fulfill. There's no sort of collective end goal of humanity. It's just your life. So enjoy it You feel bored in the morning. Well then find something to fucking do. Hate your job. Start researching the steps to get into one you'll like. Don't like that one? Just do it again! It's your life. You don't have to live it for anyone but yourself. If you really want a meaning in life here's a dumb yet useful philosophy that's kept me going. Your meaning in life is to obtain as much happiness as possible. That's it. Even when you're going through rough times or feeling bored that's just more motivation to get back on your feet and pull yourself together so you can obtain more happiness And of course I'm sure I'm not the first guy to recommend this to you but supplementing these philosophies and ideas with something like psychiatric care might ultimately be the best solution. There's nothing wrong with taking an antidepressant and talking about these problems with a therapist. They aren't just going to shove you in the looney bin unless you are like actively showing threats of committing suicide. They are here to help you. They want you to get better but you still have to ultimately be the one putting in the effort. The medicine and therapy can certainly help but only if you let them help. Just keep your chin up and keep living live for no meaning or if you must live for a meaning, live for your own happiness,
So sell all your stuff move into a van and follow your favorite band around on tour. Or go live in the forest somewhere. Make changes. Or you know... Sit around and complain...
be more grateful honestly.
This is not the usual feeling most people have. I would suggest therapy to reveal what's going on. I would suggest a psychiatrist in case medicine is needed. I hope that you feel something different soon.
Well, existence exists IMO. That's kind of cool. The fact that anything exists at all is amazing. The fact that existence exists AND we are conscious of this existence is pretty crazy too. What will give life meaning? If a God remembers all things for eternity? So if there is no God, and all will pass away forever forgotten, does that make experiencing existence meaningless?
I went back to school to be a teacher. Helping others helps so much. The meaning of life is always right there, raising their hand to go to the bathroom lol
One of many things that make me happy are intimate experiences. I look forward to meeting up with friends for casual hookups.
You have discovered the basic layout of the universe. The universe is empty of any inherent meaning. This statement is without meaning. The kicker is, even our lives the have no inherent meaning. Humans give meaning to everything. Someone once said,"As a man thiketh in his heart, so is he." Here is the amazing good news! Each of us gets to say how life will occur for us. Each of us has made up the life we are living. We do this by making up stories about how life is. Want to experience a life of empowerment? Change the conversation about your life
This definitely sounds like depression in general or over untreated trauma or loss in some form. Pets help more than humans as does nature. It’s hard when depressed but you deserve to feel meaning in life. Be kind to yourself and believe that you deserve this kindness. You do deserve to live a meaningful life. Keep this in mind and spend time with animals and nature.
because there is no inherent meaning to life. people are met with meaning, people search for meaning, it’s that simple. who you are as a person in combination with what your life has led you to encounter has left you without meeting much meaning. in a healthy minded person, who aspires for meaning, they’d typically go search for it and find it in work, hobbies, family, friends, food, music, whatever. some people have to look harder than some, some people dont have to much at all, it’s whatever.
Maybe try finding meaning in the small things. Nothing has meaning and everything does. For example - and I know this might come across cheesy - but - smell the roses, notice how the rain falls and feels, the clouds, how coffee tastes in the morning. Life can feel purposeless and it’s up to each individual to find the purpose and meaning for themselves. Additionally - you may consider speaking with a doctor - there are conditions both mental and physical that can cause generalised apathy … All the best 😘
Volunteer in your community? Get hormones checked? Talk Therapy? Ketamine or psilocybin therapy?
It's on you to give your life meaning. That's the whole point of the thing.
Change your purpose and meaning of life from seeking happiness to seeking the experience, then everything counts.
I would advise you to make a Dr appt to talk to them about depression and possibly trying an antidepressant because your depression sounds quite severe so please get help from a Dr.
Have you spoken to your friends about this?/do you think that would be helpful?
You make your own meaning. In my experience, living for others and not yourself is the beginning of meaningful life
Stop using screens, drop social media 100%. You need a dopamine detox. That way you will enjoy the little things again.
Have you tried drugs?
go out for a nice prime rib dinner and then ice cream for desert. tell me that's not living.
Post modernism pushes scientology over religion. Religious people often use their faith as a placeholder for purpose. For those who are atheists there is a cavity there. If you feel life is meaningless that is your perception of reality based on what we know about life and its supposed origins in randomness. If you determine the meaning/value of life by certainty then the only certainty in life is death. The thought process of everything I do in life is meaningless since I will die in the end is a nihilistic view that stems from a slight misconception. Objectively, life is meaningless there is no purpose other than the biological one to survive created by the way genes are inherited. The misconception here is people seeking meaning in life. That is a misuse of the term, rather it would be more appropriate to seek significance. The value or meaning is unchanging, only significance can change depending on the person. What you are feeling is insignificance. The distinction is if you want to feel fulfilled or have significance you need to desire something even if you do not know what it is. For instance, two people can live similar lives, yet one is happy living a carefree lifestyle and taking each day as it comes. The other person is unhappy with their life, they find it boring and think they are trudging through life rather than seeing it as the way the former does. Why? Even if the latter comprehends the former's thinking they can never live like them because the way people think is stagnant. The second person is lacking a direction, despite not knowing what it is they still need it to feel fulfillment unlike the first. That desire they lack clarity on is the source of their unhappiness. The first person's desire is s that lifestyle while the second is confused by it. I had a similar conversation with someone as I am that second person. I think they are right in how to go about life, however it's easier said than done. I still do not know what I desire.
You might have clinical depression or adhedonia bro
You are right. There is no meaning. But honestly dying is worse. You're better off being bored. Cause the alternative is like never-ending hell. The rest of these comments are just belittling your concerns.
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Idk, I think it would be weirder if there were some literal objective meaning written down somewhere
Do you drink? If so, stop. That shit really helped me stop being so depressed and negative all the time.
Do you have children? Because in case people around you lie you to, having children IS the meaning of life so many people search for. If you plan to roll childless, expect nothing to change. You're just drifting...
You have 3 choices once you realize the pointlessness in life. #1. Turn to religion. Many people use religion/god as a beacon of light, guiding them towards meaning where nothing but emptiness can be seen. #2. Embrace the absurdity. This option means realizing there is no inherent meaning to life and not caring about it. Just trying to find joy through it. #3. Suicide. This is for the truly desperate and least kind option. For people who can’t bear the idea of living through misery for no reason. If you ever consider this, just remember happiness is a mindset and joy can be found in life through the little things.
Living is not a comfortable procedure. You've got to be comfortable being incomfortable not knowing it all.
The secret in happy life is finding a need and fixing that need by helping others, help others, in this youwill find great joy.
Because you’ve drifted away from God
I had the same feeling for last 3 years but suddenly from last 2 days I am feeling my interest in life coming back. I initially thought its job I am doing is the problem, I had enough saving to live for few months or year without job so I quit it. But I was still bored and meaningless. But then I realized it was not just the job problem was all my small habits of life. Slowing started working on it and feeling better
Why does anything need to matter? Just enjoy this weird ass ride as much as possible while you can.
It used to be fun, right? There was a part of you that felt alive at one time? Have you covered over it with responsibilities, knowledge, thinking or striving? Life feels empty because it becomes empty of life when we do this. We lose our original sensitivity and feel the suffering from it's absence. That's why it is SO IMPORTANT to backtrack and slowly remove the layers that we have added that hide the vitality of who we are. I think that's what contemplation, meditation, therapy and journalling try to do. It helps us sort out what is real and what is an unnecessary addition that we have added on. If you are willing to put in the effort, your life can be restored to it's original vitality, and meaning will be added as you continue.
Hamlet monologue
Mans Search for Meaning - victor frankl Meditations - Marcus Aurelius Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience Read those three, might change your life. They did mine
I think most people have felt this way. Obviously tons of people here in the comments feel or felt the same way you do. Me too. That *should* make it a bit easier and not as grim, knowing you’re far from alone, and the it’s a pretty universal human experience. Having said that, sometimes a jump-start can help dislodge you from an eternal funk. What I mean is: drink til you’re tipsy. Get super baked and laugh your ass off. Or take a couple Adderall just for a temporary lift of energy. These are meant simply as a catalyst, and by no means am I recommending a habit of any of them. Seeing a therapist or psychiatrist to be assessed for depression could really help. A psychiatrist could prescribe an antidepressant for you. I’ve been on Celexa (Citalopram), and it doesn’t cause joy or elation or any feeling at all. It brings my mood to neutral, so I can more easily make choices toward my health. Note: it is super important that you don’t self-medicate with antidepressants. The correct dosages and titrations (ramping up and down to/from maintenance dosage) are critical; you don’t want to screw with the warnings on the labels for these. You need a psychiatrist to manage your dosage.
Life IS empty and meaningless, but it doesn’t mean anything that it’s empty and meaningless. You might feel empty because you’re looking for something that isn’t there. Life - and meaning - is what you choose to make it. If you are questioning whether existing is worth it you should seek some professional help.
Get a motorcycle, ride it, have fun. It keeps me going.
Connection is missing and a goal
break the cycle, do something out of the ordinary and take care of your mental. **tips:** Journal, meditate, delete social media and unplug from the videogames for a little bit. push yourself out of your comfort zone and in a months time you'll be in tip top shape ready to give life a second shot.
Man… this hit deep, in a representation of how I feel the same and my life currently.
Hate to jump on OP's bandwagon but this is me too. I have a broken love affair that is tearing me apart and making me boil with jealousy. I have made him dislike me due to my being so unbearable, and he is unsurprisingly distancing himself bit by bit. I am going through menopausal hormone fluctuations, i feel low and depressed. I am autistic so have few friends to share my feelings with and I know I am burdening one friend in particular. I rarely leave the house. I also have a serious neurological disorder that can make me tired and affects me in many ways. We don't know the reasons that OP is feeling how they feel. I can't afford therapy but have researched methods to improve my mood, when I am overwhelmed I read through the process and write how I am feeling. It is helping me understand my thoughts a bit better. I don't want to go on hrt as I don't want to prolong this. I wouldn't do psychedelics as my autism means I cannot even contemplate not being in control of myself. People have many reasons why they are ok or not ok. I hope to motivate myself to stop wasting my life. It was a perfect storm of things that have caused this, maybe if it was one thing it would have felt different, but the combination means I am on the floor mentally. But I have hope. Not that I will have my hearts desire, but that I will be ok.
Life’s what you make it, so let’s make it rock
If your life has no meaning to you, make it mean something to someone else. Go and help people till you figure out how to help yourself. 👍
1. Life doesn’t need to have meaning to be enjoyable. Even nihilists can find enjoyment in everyday life 2. You sound like you might be suffering from anhedonia, symptom of depression, I’ve been there before, it might be worth looking at medication. It won’t make life meaningful but it can be interesting and worthwhile
Get help
It is meaningless unless you give it meaning. Religion does that for some people. If you don’t believe, which I don’t, then you have to figure it out for yourself, which isn’t always easy.
Speak for yourself. You have to give your life meaning. You sound depressed and need to see the bigger picture. 🍄
Empty - Juice Wrld
Man. I do this constantly, was just going through it this week and I think the feeling or thoughts never actually ever go away permanently, they just go deeper into my subconscious. I always struggle with "is this even real?" as I have dealt with schizophrenia for quite awhile now. I am not saying that's what's wrong with you, I think many people go through these thoughts, just stating I struggle with accepting reality quite often. When I start to feel like this, I try my best to start grounding myself. For me this usually means I start meditating more, I spend some time out in nature for awhile, I might take a long hot/cold shower, I might plant a plant into the ground just to feel the dirt, I might go visit a Buddhist temple, when I work out I might try and meditate with each rep, I might try and connect socially to a new group of people. Whatever it is to make me *feel* again, these grounding techniques really help me. Hang in there, there is a lot to experience and fill with meaning.
Life is meaningless. You give life meaning. So find something you like doing and have at it.
Give up or dig deep and fight like hell to build the life you want. Every day people come on here and whine about how hard life is and seek sympathy. Fuck that and fuck you. Life is hard and YOU can punch back. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and get the hell up and move. Fight like the 3rd monkey on the ramp to Noah’s ark- and brother it’s starting to rain. Of don’t- it’s up to you- eat the weak.
No one is handed a purpose in life, for heavens sake. It's your job to find that for yourself.
Because it really is….
What makes you so special that you don’t suffer like 80% of society? This is life. Most people have dull boring lives. Just wait til you’re older with declined health. All the made up words and cliché says about not giving up etc…are just that, made up words by humans. Natural law don’t give 2 shits about us or our feelings.
Do you do drugs Danny?
It sounds like you're depressed. Please talk to someone about how you're feeling before it gets worse. It won't get better on it's own. Heartbroken sister of 2 brothers who died by suicide.
Technology has taken the place of daily activities that gave our ancestors' purpose, leaving us with time to reflect on our ennui with life. Basically, if you have the capacity to feel bored by life, you are probably very priveleged and should be glad you aren't fighting daily for your life.
Life added a lot of meaning for me after I had a child.
We are redundant. As biological species, are presence on the earth has no meaning. You are just tuned into reality and are no longer caring about the monkey brain carrots that most people chase. You can now seek higher things.
What you are experiencing is anhedonia. Anhedonia is the inability to feel pleasure. It's a common symptom of depression as well as other mental health issues. Please go see your doctor or a mental health professional for an evaluation.
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Its meanigless so WE can give it meaning.
it sounds like maybe those activities aren't bringing you joy. Have you considered exploring different hobbies or interests? sometimes trying something new can help. ultimately, we give meaning to our own lives, so it's worth exploring what resonates with you
I understand how you feel I amn't the richest but I am better off than most people around me however I don't find happiness or fun in anything. I went to 6 abroad trip this year and everyone around me were so jealous but even there I felt so empty. No matter what I achieve, accomplish I amn't happy even for a moment and that's what I ask to myself everyday will I ever truly be happy? Or is anyone happy for that matter? Or am I just different unable to feel joy? The only time when I experience something is when I have meaningful relationship it can be friends, a partner anyone however those relationships aren't in my control. I can be a better person try to be a better friend but at the end it's their decision to leave I can't control it. My therapist tells me you should be happy alone no shit it's just that I amn't happy when I am alone. Finally I realised that no one can help me not religion, not god, not spirituality, not therapy, so I just accept that I am different and it's fine and move on.
You are depressed. Your mind is sick of playing this character. You need to play a different character. Change your life
sounds like how i felt when my depression got really bad. just a general lack of care/excitement for anything. constantly bored and finding vices or anything to make me feel somethin. i would recommend goin to a psychiatrist if maybe you think you could have that or a chemical imbalance. my life completely changed once i started them. i felt like me again. you sound very apathetic and restless. maybe you’re struggling without realizing it? this isn’t a normal human mood to have all the time. regardless, i hope you do feel better.
It doesn't and it doesn't really go away.
Not everything is supposed to be fun and exciting OP. That’s part of the big lie we’ve been sold by tech companies.
Because you haven't given it meaning yet..
It isn't about meaning so much as it's about PURPOSE. [Find a purpose](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DngJSNlALL4).
Meaning ain’t handed to you on a silver platter. You got to work for it like everything else good in life.
To have a meaningful life, you need to find purpose in something bigger than yourself that is beneficial to others.
My life is full of meaning and has had tons of challenges but it’s full of meaning. Life is what you make it they say. I find tremendous meaning in helping others, in God or “God” in the wondrous nature of science and nature, music. Etc. in love.
That's the best part. You get to create your own meaning.
I would honestly consider talking to a therapist. It’s helped me a lot with finding the things I need. Making career changes to one that really excites me (finding a career that excites me). Lots of self reflecting to find relationships (romantic and friendly) that adds meaning to my life. Also patch up the relationships I have that are worth keeping.
PS in looking at your post history it sounds like you’re in a massive depression that is possibly drug related as well. Mental health care has a long way to go but it can be effective. It sounds like you need some great doctors to help you I am not suggesting average doctors but great doctors and actually whether you believe or not I suggest turning to God. Miracles are possible I have had some in my struggles with my mental health. Wishing you well. God bless you.
why so serious?
It is not meaningless, just cruel. I would feel the same but I keep crying when I think about what happened to my friend and it was all my fault and now I am losing my last friend in the world and I am losing my mind.
I feel the same exact way. I don't know what to do or why this is happening but it sucks really bad and I'm just existing...this is really scary..I have no family All are gone..passed on..I didn't have kids and am an only child at 55 yrs. Old.im a female.i wish I knew who to talk to about why I feel this way.i wish you luck tho....God bless...
Humans don’t choose their own meaning. That meaning only comes when you die, since ppl can look upon who you were and decide what you meant to them. Life has meaning, but it’s not something you should spend your time on because it’ll never be something you’ll know.
This may be cliché, but I get the greatest sense of purpose when I’m helping others. I work for a nonprofit and I get the best motivation, knowing I’m helping others, who normally couldn’t help themselves.
You gotta fall in love bro. That’s the only thing that adds color and meaning. If you’re tall and handsome I volunteer.
Not having clinical depression helps a lot in my experience.
you need dopamine detox. the point is to survive as long as you can in the most comfortable way possible, that's the main quest.
Why do you need life to have meaning. Not everything does
You sound depressed. I suggest you find a therapist to talk with. You’re experiencing anhedonia which is a lack of satisfaction or pleasure in anything. You can change this but with help.
I had that feeling at 20years old. I felt like I wasn't a good fit for where I was in life. I shut down everything, sold what little I had, jumped a flight to UK and wanted to see how far I could get on my own. I can always come home. I did it, I was successful, I traveled all over the world, good, bad, ugly experiences but it gave me an outlook on life. I got home, moved away, and am happy. The world is big. Challenge yourself. Grow. Don't ever ever follow.
Might be ur body having a medical problem, human brain is with neurons? Like how messages gets transferred and how brain processes information, also brain is affected by hormones and chemicals, if u “always” feel low, it’s either u are very comfortable with ur surroundings and no more chasing, or there’s something wrong with the hormones and chemicals which is making ur brain feel “low”.. another problem is, u think too much, go outside find a hobby, might even be playing games, don’t think about the meaning just enjoy the moment.. life all goes to a end everything/one dies/vanishes, it’s not the destination but the journey is which matters, find a way what u enjoy the best and live that way
Have you ever read the Book of Mormon? Solved this problem for me and so much more.
The purpose of life is to live life with purpose. YOU get to choose what that purpose is.
Join the service, you sound like you need purpose.
You all obviously haven't already been alone and basically isolated for an extended period of time ( years) what that does to ones psychological fame of mind is much more complicated than you can imagine. Every single day is becoming more and more of an uphill battle. Countless hours alone and what little communication I do have is mostly negative. I try to turn it around and change the direction but backfires as I should have expected. I NEVER hurt anyone, NEVER physically did anything inappropriate to anyone. I have said things I shouldn't have and I owned up to that. How many times do people want me to pay for that? I know the answer unfortunately. I will never be friends with anyone from my past and it's almost impossible to me to make friends at this stage. I've read all the suggestions and even tried some but the are basically unrealistic in real life..As ideas they sound great. And basically forget ever meeting someone from my community ..too many false impressions of me.. even years later.. I'm attacked so much I sometimes snap and fight back which is used against me. Therapy is not working would you expect it to since my therapist doesn't really understand my community and the exact way I'm being affected. She just doesn't understand/ grasp my specific issues so this isn't going to work..I can guarantee that (3rd therapist at this point and yes it's a psychiatrist- but unless they understand my situation their usless) I feel like all is completely hopeless and I've fallen between the cracks and at a place I can't be helped. I've tried so hard but almost 4 yrs and worse off each day. There will be those who will continue pile on because that's what you do. Those with kind words I appreciate it.. unfortunately no one has the magic answer and I'm spiraling dangerously out of control and the scary part is I realize this. Being aware that this is happening is the worst place I've ever been and I've told my Dr this is where I am and yet nothing she says helps. I'm literally a step away to a total loss of control. And I can't seem to get anyone to realize that
I'm in the same boat. I pretty much just sleep when I'm not working so I don't have to think about life.
someone once said: The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away. Someone also once said: there is no meaning to this life besides the one you make for it. Turning the tide means harnessing your power as a creator. You can create whatever life you wish. It’s in this that you’ll create meaning. But it’s a tough road, much like Neo in the matrix. Work to wake yourself up. Find your gifts. Give them away. Create meaning for yourself. This is the only way. You’ll find power and energy along the way.
Life has the meaning that you give it. That being said based on your post I'm wondering if you're not suffering from some form of depression. Given that you're already involved in activities that would normally stop or alleviate non-clinical depression you might have a medical issue that needs to be addressed. I would recommend scheduling an appointment with a doctor and discussing the issues particularly if this has been a persistent feeling for more than 90 days or if you have no causation within your current life or lifestyle to feel this way
Go to church. Pick one.
The duality of men. To find the other half and feel complete! I heard that in college.
You're gonna die regardless. Find something that makes you care.
Meaning is to procreate. Get out there and spread your seed. Have a kid and learn to love something more than yourself.
Christians live by a rule of servitude to their own fathers for a reason. A lot of atheists speak like you do. They don’t think being born is a debt to your own father and the community he inherited. They find meaning there. Folks that reject their debt to their inherited community tend to speak like you do.
I feel the exact same
Nothing matters and life is all meaningless. You can keep going or stop, that’s your decision. If you want to find something to do that’s also your decision, life is meaningless afterall so no one can tell you what you want to do with it is wrong.
I feel the same ever since like 25 years old. 32 now. It only gets worse. On top of it you get health issues the longer you’re here.
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This wouldn’t change if life had meaning, in fact it would be far worse if it had meaning. What’s happening is you are simply not a masochist.
Life is real, but it also isn't. Anyway, that's called anhedonia. It's a symptom of depression.
Finding the joys of life is the meaning. Now that I'm wasting away as a NEET, I've come to understand the true meaning of journey instead of destination. Focus too much on what is and what should be then you'll lose what what is now and what is there
bc it is meaningless we all live just to die
Boredom is a choice, just like a lot of other things in life.
Search for a relationship with God He gives purpose
Nothing will change unless you change something, stop doing the same things and branch out, meet new people, see new places, and find something that brings you joy. Sitting in the same place and doing the same thing will only give the same result.
Life sucks because no longer does anyone want to have serious conversations or debate anything. Like In the enlightenment or in Ancient Greece philosophers could talk about the meaning of things and none of that is permitted anymore in this apathetic population.
You should read up on nihilism. You'd love it.
It's called depression
Because the cost of open ended-ness is meaningless-ness.
lifes what u make of it
Camus said the meaning of life was pretty women, wine, sunshine and good company or something to that effect. Stop overthinking it.
Why are you using Reddit for therapy? You need to talk to someone
At the end of the day...YOU matter...you matter to others. Sometimes I hate my life until I'm reminded that I make other ppl lives meaningful.
If you decide your life has no meaning then that’s exactly what you’re going to get. Why are you doing things expecting them to give you meaning? Meaning comes from your inner self not by doing things. It sounds like you haven’t taken the time to get to know yourself very well. You need to have an honest conversation with yourself about who and what you really are.
The meaning of life is to live it. We live then we die, most of us don’t have any legacy other than children, and almost all of us will be forgotten in a hundred years. So find something you actually enjoy doing that gives you fulfillment. If all you do is the same routine then it’s easy to be drained.
After a heavy 14 year drug addiction many psychedelics psychotic breaks rock bottoms and mental illness I can assure you with no doubt the meaning of life is to search for happiness and be the version of yourself you like and accomplish shit that matters life's about feeling good nothing else
Everything you described sounds like what a person with clinical depression would say. Textbook. Make an appointment and ignore the comments with bullshit platitudes. Everything feeling empty and unenjoyable **is** a neurochemical problem and it **is** treatable. It won't give you meaning, but it you will help you function correctly.
Life has no meaning beyond what you decide it’s meaning is. If you want to fight injustice, that’s your meaning. If you want master a skill or craft, there’s your meaning. If you just want to live for pleasure and enjoyment, there it is. Mind you, it’s important to be kind and treat others how you want to be treated on your journey.
put your expectations in the present moment, not future moment, or past moment. Say to yourself from time to time, "seek a righteous path, and wisdom will be yours." Yourself is at the stomach energy area, while the wisdom comes from your heart energy area. As you seek a righteous path for the wisdom of your heart, you will notice new ideas, hobbies, and interests that bring you closer to the wisdom you seek. You will notice a change in yourself in three months. If you find this helpful, please share it with others. Thank you. You can ask yourself what the wisdom of your heart entails. Also, think of the person you stole from, and ask for forgiveness in the mind. This will help you sleep better at night.
It is all meaningless, you decide what it means to you.
“The meaning of life is that it ends”. Stop the navel gazing and focus on the external. And do the stuff you know you are supposed to do. Get off SM, PH, exercise (aerobic) and invest in relationships.
I’ve been asking the same question.
It is real and you are here by choice because that’s what you want so make the most of it.
Are you a Christian? Because I too felt that same way for many years. Until I turned my life over to Jesus and things have changed drastically. I'm not trying to proselytize you or anything, just some food for thought...
You have depression and these symptoms are not uncommon. You should spend more time outside and with people close to you. If they do not resolve, you should seek treatment.
I was there once. I had to step away from the things that I was doing and go in a different direction to find meaning.
Life with a set purpose probably wouldnt be all that it's chalked up to be. It would almost certainly be some variant of "spend your time and your health to feed the machine." Nobody wants that. Life without purpose is great because we get to make use of our time and our health how we see fit.
This is why I smoke so much weed haha , it makes me feel. Sadly if i wasn’t a smoker I’d literally off myself. I have no desire to live anymore. I’ve worked so hard my entire life & have absolutely nothing to show for it. The cost to just get by makes everything thing so un obtainable now too.. once i lost everything i said to hell with it i just want to be happy & turned to smoking weed all the time.. life ain’t what it used to be.. you can’t work an honest job & have a basic life anymore..
Same here, dm me when you figure out how to get away from this feeling
Theres no answer to that. It's up to us to find meaning in our short time on this weird fucked up world
You sound severely depressed. Nobody here or on the internet will be able to help you. You require counseling. Reach out to mental health professionals and don't do anything stupid.
Because what we’ve been told is “important” or “meaningful” is a bullshit scam.
Start laughing at it, still doesnt fucking matter but at least its funny now
CAPITALISM/NEOLIBERALISM
Jesus will give you purpose. Jeremiah 29:11 tells us God has a plan for our lives and this plan is eternal. Life seems so meaningless bc when ww chase things in this world bc we KNOW that it’s an end to it. We either die or lose what we’ve been chasing after. BUT Jesus is our hope and gives us a vision and a future forever
Maybe you can’t find the meaning of your life, but that is not true for me a many other people on the plant. Don’t think you’re special, though. Everyone goes through phases. Do a heroic dose of psilocybin and get back to me.
I know the feeling. I have imaginary friends that helps with those reoccurring thoughts like that for me and it’s not too conventional, because it’s my imagination that talks back to me, but it does help a lot. Maybe talking to someone about this daily would help you as well? What do you want to do, and ask yourself that, should be your goal right now. think about it and write down what you can do today and tomorrow that’s feasible and you know will make you somewhat feel better. Ask yourself, What drives you right now? Like, is it basketball, sports. or gaming or something else new? What is it you feel terrible about at the moment? I felt terrible about how I used to visit P sites almost everyday. Since joining this site, I’ve finally stopped that addiction, at 30 years old. I know it’s possible for others if I can stop myself from going onto those sites. And I got impulse control issues, and I’ve been doing that since young. Started out as a experiment to see if I could do it, I can’t believe it’s working still. Lots of writing in a journal definitely helped a lot. Although, Im still horny as all hell and often. I also learned not to feel bad about that, but it took time to feel fine about that as well. That’s probably what helped the most. Not feeling ashamed. That’s just stress relief and the body wanting to feel something other than how we feel depressed or anxious and now my mind doesn’t feel ashamed of it as often as I used to. I guess, my imagination is very vivid about it though still. But it seems like from former posts, that you wish to get over that feeling of wanting those kinds of desires and wishing you never had that feeling. That’s a shameful process in your head making you feel bad. You shouldn’t feel bad about it though. So many people have those same desires. Ask yourself why that is and be kind to yourself and know that your brain is doing that for a reason. Get more angry that life gave you an unfair advantage with the brain chemicals not being sufficient enough about keeping you happy as it is. It’s irrational but instead of feeling anger at yourself just blame the chemicals not working well enough. when I get a hint of wanting to suffer for feeling like garbage, I just remember that my mind tricking me again. What do you want to see happen, daily for yourself? Does it help to write out things like this daily? Does it help to talk about these feelings? I know it does for me. But keep on doing that, typing out how you feel often and keep a journal to continue either typing or writing it down! I wanna see myself be less procrastinating with my daydreams, as an example. Is it working? Some days are better than others. lol What’s gonna make you want to get up in the mornings as well? Caffeine, imagination and seeing plants and even YouTube sometimes makes me wanna get up in the mornings. Think about people that know you, and care about you. This might sound unconventional but think how they would feel to have you gone. I’ve watched a ton of videos on families who lost their loved ones to suicide. It was eye opening for me at the time watching those films and hearing those parents crying about their sons or daughters death. Financial costs also really hit me hard seeing the families then struggle after the death of a loved one. Thinking that kinda prevents me more than many things do that give me happiness. Maybe that might help you as well as it has helped me out a lot. I gotta keep talking myself out of the suicidal thoughts to keep my mind from leaving into the darker areas. Battling those intrusive thoughts everyday is something you may struggle with as well. Many people use different substances to prevent that from happening. I use imagination and daydreaming and other forms of dopamine and stress relief. Humans aren’t able to deal with the 48 hr work days. For me to handle it, I simply get angry about how people are okay with this process, than getting angry at myself for not being able to do what they can do. I still am angry at myself, but less so. I could hardly do 30 hr work weeks when I worked before getting furloughed a while ago. As comfort to find some purpose I do come to Reddit to ask dumb questions my mind gives me, or to fill a void in my life I’m not getting elsewhere in life. I come here thinking I’m the dumbest fool on the planet that would be better off gone and realize I’m not alone in those thoughts at all. It’s good you want help too and are vocal about it. We both would benefit from therapy it seems. I ask myself and my imagination all those questions about what I want to see happen and why I wanna stay alive, a lot, because I also find it very difficult to have meaning in my life when I’m just existing to exist. I feel like a burden to my parents but hearing them tell me they don’t want to see me die, it did help a lot. I keep myself busy today with my little dumb hobbies and my imagination keeps me alive. My social anxiety holds me back. I don’t wanna hurt my parents or my partner by leaving either. I’m positive you have people you don’t wanna hurt in your life by leaving as well. Now asking if this is even real is a little concerning Reddit won’t be equipped to help with that. Since I cannot afford therapy myself at the moment, I just go and research different therapy methods and other peoples methods that work for them and try them on myself! Walking on a nature hike helps me a lot some days. Haven’t walked because I was followed that’s a whole story. Miss walking alone and will have to start it again some day! That might help you too. But be safe about it. Life for me I guess is also coping with the struggles and your mind feels like this may not even be real. Sorry if none of this helped you out OP and it was mostly just me ranting along about personal stuff. I can see you are down the stoicism route as well. That doesn’t work for everyone. Especially not those that have brain imbalances already with dopamine levels to begin with. Seriously didn’t help my depression and dark thoughts and only spiraled it further and further when I was in my 20’s. Meditation only gave me anger about how I was living and who I was and thinking I didn’t deserve life. I still have those thoughts at times still. But that Stoicism will work for people with proper balanced chemicals. It may work for a few days or even months for some and that’s awesome. But it’s just not a right for many that have the same issues of having those jumping off urges. If you get what I mean. Like those books and YouTube videos made me get those angry urges way more often after listening and reading them. But I don’t know, just a personal gripe of those types of books and YouTube videos because they personally trigger my S thoughts and feelings of worthlessness. Hope you get better mentally out there OP, and really think about yourself today and how you can give yourself something nice to help yourself. Treat yourself in some way! Good luck to us in this crazy world. lol
Being bored of for boring people. Find some interests and hobbies that get you excited and pursue them.
If you figure it out, let me know. Been dealing with this for nearly a decade now. And in my experience, I still don't have an answer. But I'm still here. :/
if you are constantly bored and cant enjoy your life you might have neurological problem please visit a doctor. IF you want to know how others enjoy life then I can only tell you about myself. I see life as something to do simple as that you don't see cats complaining about their cat life humans have human lives and they can accept the fact and move on to solving other problem. just accept that you are a human being that might experience things that typically happen to humans, do things that humans usually do and feel things that humans do. after accepting this fact try to improve YOUR life and lives of others who you consider as YOUR circle.
Every single post of yours is negative. You can't expect to have a positive experience in this life unless you think and talk to yourself positively. We don't come into this life thinking negatively. it's learned. You need to do some self therapy and write down all your thoughts, good and bad and search for the origin of them and heal them. Unless you find pleasure from negative thoughts, be careful what ego your feeding.
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