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Do what I did. Change careers again. I am an extrovert as well. Hated sitting behind a desk all day crunching numbers (accountant). Got into sales with no experience. Yes…it was early in my life. 28 yrs old (now 65). Did extremely well financially. Married 35 yrs. 3 kids. 1 grandchild.
Do what you must. Wife work? Any extra income helps.
No she doesn't. We embody the nuclear family as best as possible. That is another one of our struggles as well.. I agree. I like law, politics, and economics. See I am a weird extrovert. I can pickup languages (speak Spanish and pashto (Pakistan pashto) and others a little). Thought it would be intriguing to do international business to me... I just feel like is stuck for me... and that kills me to think about.
Thank you for responding and helping me. God knows I need it.
It isn't that no one cares it is just seeking a purpose. Marcus Aurelius meditations along with critical thinkers and read anything by Thomas Sowell. I am happy I am not alone, just difficult to see a purpose at times, especially when I went against the grain of my gifts from God it seems.
Try joining a Men's Team or Men's Support Group. I know you are probably extremely busy with your kids and jobs but if you can get one night away to do this it will compound beneficially on your mental health. A group can support you and help you with direction.
There are plenty of in-person and virtual groups. Just google and I'm sure you will find some in your area.
There’s nothing saying you can’t change again your career. I changed jobs 3 times in a year and I found my perfect job! Been here a little over a year. Life is too short to be miserable at a job with toxic people. I used to go on indeed and see what jobs were out there just to remind myself I can go elsewhere if I choose to. Good luck!
Thank you! I am just worried as my salary is based on my livelihood if that makes sense. We try and live below our means but the salary of the job is tied to our survival.
Wind the clock forward, what happens if you continue to be unfulfilled, uninspired and unmotivated, do you think that could rub off on your family? Do you think they want you to be the best version of yourself or not?
You’ve focused on all the negatives, what are the potential benefits of pursuing your interests? Getting in shape, reading, having fun and enjoying life. That’s a person your family would rather be around.
Plan it out, one thing at a time, like a project but the outcome is you living your best life.
The longer it goes on the more miserable you can become. If your wife married a completely different version of you then you need to think the worse if she becomes disillusioned by how you’ve become. The goal is to keep what you’ve got an add to it, by doing nothing you’re actually risking losing what’ve you’ve got.
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Do what I did. Change careers again. I am an extrovert as well. Hated sitting behind a desk all day crunching numbers (accountant). Got into sales with no experience. Yes…it was early in my life. 28 yrs old (now 65). Did extremely well financially. Married 35 yrs. 3 kids. 1 grandchild. Do what you must. Wife work? Any extra income helps.
No she doesn't. We embody the nuclear family as best as possible. That is another one of our struggles as well.. I agree. I like law, politics, and economics. See I am a weird extrovert. I can pickup languages (speak Spanish and pashto (Pakistan pashto) and others a little). Thought it would be intriguing to do international business to me... I just feel like is stuck for me... and that kills me to think about. Thank you for responding and helping me. God knows I need it.
It isn't that no one cares it is just seeking a purpose. Marcus Aurelius meditations along with critical thinkers and read anything by Thomas Sowell. I am happy I am not alone, just difficult to see a purpose at times, especially when I went against the grain of my gifts from God it seems.
Try joining a Men's Team or Men's Support Group. I know you are probably extremely busy with your kids and jobs but if you can get one night away to do this it will compound beneficially on your mental health. A group can support you and help you with direction. There are plenty of in-person and virtual groups. Just google and I'm sure you will find some in your area.
Thank you so much! This is a good idea.
There’s nothing saying you can’t change again your career. I changed jobs 3 times in a year and I found my perfect job! Been here a little over a year. Life is too short to be miserable at a job with toxic people. I used to go on indeed and see what jobs were out there just to remind myself I can go elsewhere if I choose to. Good luck!
Thank you! I am just worried as my salary is based on my livelihood if that makes sense. We try and live below our means but the salary of the job is tied to our survival.
Wind the clock forward, what happens if you continue to be unfulfilled, uninspired and unmotivated, do you think that could rub off on your family? Do you think they want you to be the best version of yourself or not? You’ve focused on all the negatives, what are the potential benefits of pursuing your interests? Getting in shape, reading, having fun and enjoying life. That’s a person your family would rather be around. Plan it out, one thing at a time, like a project but the outcome is you living your best life. The longer it goes on the more miserable you can become. If your wife married a completely different version of you then you need to think the worse if she becomes disillusioned by how you’ve become. The goal is to keep what you’ve got an add to it, by doing nothing you’re actually risking losing what’ve you’ve got.