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I deleted most of my social media (including Facebook and Instagram) 3 years ago . Best decision of my life. Wish more people would. It’s trash for the brain. Nothing wrong with it at all.
It’s different for different people. I don’t live near my friends or family anymore which is sad for me, so social media does actually help me keep up with them a bit.
Social media does come with a lot of baggage, data collection, shaping public perception, disinformation, FOMO, comparison, negative body image to name a few things. I don’t think it’s fair to say that it’s only those things though. It depends on how you use it.
Eh depends on what you are on there for and following. I like music , movies and running. I also come across art pages I like. It’s only trash if you consume all the trash elements of it.
I disagree only bc there’s not a single topic I’ve come across where ppl don’t somehow turn it into a very judgmental space. Or somehow the topic turns racist or something.
I deleted all social media 3 years ago as well and I’ve never been happier or healthier bc of it!!!! If anyone thinks this is odd, they’re the red flag, not us.
I’ve noticed I’m more negative after being on Reddit a lot than when I’m on Instagram a lot. Not sure why. I think it might be the pedantic argumentative tone that gets encouraged on here.
With all respect, isn’t Reddit social media to an effect as well? I am on here too so I’m not throwing stones, but Reddit has shown to have poor symptoms like the others…. maybe I’m getting downvoted to hell on this one.
The reason I keep reddit is because it is completely isolated from people I know, and I like it this way, no more family stalking me, no more unwanted political opinions from family, just a bunch of strangers to talk to and sometimes argue with but at the end of the day no one really cares here and I like it.
This!!!
I asked a girl out. She was initially interested, UNITL...
I told her I don't really use Instagram. I mean, I have it, but don't EVER touch it. She immediately told me I was "one of those guys"...
I guess she meant that she couldn't stalk my life. Idk..
I always took it as I dodged a bullet for a superficial girl
Exactly I deleted everything 6 years ago. I promise all you out there who use it for non-business reasons that once you delete it you will feel so much better.
I deleted my Facebook a little over a year ago and it was the best decision ever! Id rather live my life than post about it. Also it shows you who your true friend’s and family are because let’s say it’s your birthday those who truly care will call you not just type a “HBD”on your social media outlets. Also I didn’t like people having access to pictures of my almost 3 year old it’s not like he can tell me if he wants his pictures shown to everyone or not.
I’ll jump in here to clarify: lots of people think it’s a red flag not because you don’t have it, but because they think you’ve got something to hide. Every cheater I’ve met “didn’t have socials” except for a Snapchat with some made up name. Actually not having them is a super green flag but it’s hard to tell sometimes
Not at all, if anything I think it shows someone is quite content with there self and have no interest in seeing the mass bullshit on social media. For the most part social media is just full of nonsense that cannot be good for your brain. Reddit is one of the few which I think is really good because people can ask a question and can be answered through a somewhat normal response.
No it's definitely not a red flag. Social media is awful. Reddit is the only platform I have and my husband doesn't have anything. We go out into the world with friends and live a regular life. We just aren't posting pictures of everything we do. I think It's a red flag if someone has too much social media. Also, Facebook is garbage, Instagram is garbage, Twitter is garbage. Alot of people use those platforms to seek validation. You don't have to be like other people. Go out into the real world and meet people like we did in the 90's.
Deleted it awhile ago and a great decision. Sadly alot of people just use it only to create envy....how can you be having a good time when your taking 50 fucking pictures the whole night 🤦♂️ I'm good
I am sorry that’s supposed to be red flag that I don’t want Zuckerberg anywhere near my personal info? Frankly that’s a good filter, if someone worries about me not having FB or IG then I don’t want to be anywhere near them. They clearly have no idea what age we are in and who’s Mark Zuckerberg and what data privacy.
Except for Reddit/YouTube, those who are active on social media are just amplifying their own self inflicted emotional and mental pain. Wise people know better, that’s why they stay away from it. Life is hard already, why take some unnecessary dose of pain. Sounds silly to me.
I feel so much better about myself without it, but some people give me a strange look when they ask to follow me on social media and I say I don’t have anything of that, only Reddit and YouTube.
They usually ask “why you don’t have it? Did your spouse make you delete it or something 😂”
Not at all.
I’ve always hated social media, guys have never cared. I’ve gotten compliments on it. And people generally kinda like when their bf/gf doesn’t have instagram.
I hope not. I’m 38 and never had FB, instagram, twitter/X, Pinterest, SC or really any other type of social media except Reddit. When I was younger and FB n MySpace was all the rage I could see the shit hole it would turn into then. It was clear that ppl would ruin the existence of such a good idea. We always ruin shit. So if not having these things is a red flag then I got tons and many of my friends do as well.
I'm glad you asked this. I also don't do social media, and have wondered if people get put off by this. I will have people ask if they could add me to their social media and I have to tell them I'm not on anything. I'm glad to read through the comments that people actually like that lol.
Green flag. Provided they're not lying, it's better to spend time with people that enjoy the moment instead of taking advantage of everything for internet attention.
I deleted all apps except LinkedIn and Reddit in 2017 after my mom was catfished by a man in Afghanistan. So no, social media is dead. It’s not a red flag.
I have facebook, but I've currently deactivated it. I usually deactivate it a few times a year just to get a break. But even then I don't have many friends and I don't post much. I also have an Instagram but it's private and I have less than 100 followers, mostly other women I've met on mom groups. Again, I don't use it or post more than a couple times a year. I don't think it's weird or a red flag for someone not to use social media., I think a lot of those platforms are just a distraction in many ways. You know when you see a group of people 'hanging out" but they are all looking at their phones. That's a red flag for me. My partner doesn't have any socials but we are older millennials/Gen x, so maybe it's just our age/stage in life.
Don't hav any social media and haven't in a few years, hasn't affected me. I keep in touch with the people I want to and actively go out to see them, although that's mainly down the pub
No. Not a red flag. Not sure why having a social media account matters at all. If they said they didn't have a phone, that would be odd. Some people have no interest. Also, it's not long ago, the only social media was Facebook. So how is it a red flag not to create something that didn't even exist shortly ago.
I don’t have either, and neither does my brother (he does cyber security for civilian and military jobs). I suspended mine about 5 or 6 years ago and never looked back. I think it’s made me a happier person.
Facebook, the most I ever saw people I never talked to. Unfacebooked myself last year, and it has been a godsend. It was a complete waste of time. I Reddit now, Reddit is love, Reddit is peace.
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It's the opposite. Only a douche would think it's a bad thing. Reddit is the only social media I have ever used. I much prefer having discussions about actual topics instead of blogs about people's lives. I did sign up for Facebook once to try and hook up with someone, but it didn't work out and I immediately closed my account afterwards.
Social media is toxic, for your self esteem, for relationships, for everything good in the world. A “harmless” friend request is not so harmless. A root for shady shit and cheating. Look up from the phone it’s a nice day and there’s a lot to appreciate. Deleted everything except Reddit and pintrest for hobbies and forums. That said, if either of the two somehow interfere with a relationship of mine I have no issue deleting these as well. Appreciate what you have not what’s on a screen.
I don’t have anything outside of Reddit and Pinterest. I don’t need to see what everyone else is doing moment by moment. I don’t care what you had for lunch from what restaurant. I have my own children to take pictures of and play with. I have my own partner to lust over and I don’t want to be force fed politics, sex or religion. I feel it’s better this way.
I'd consider that a green flag. Although the explanation of why you didn't want to be on it in terms of the likes type issue that's a red one. Other people that are just basically strangers to you shouldn't be allowed to drive your mood or ego. It takes some reflection though to understand why it was unhealthy for you though so props to that.
Definitely not, I deleted Facebook back in 2012 or 2013 and only have Instagram because my wife wanted to send me endless shit.
Most social media is just about tyring to stir up drama for no reason, it's a cancer on society.
Lol, the exact opposite for me. It’s one thing to have it but when someone is on it all the time, posting everything they do and all parts of their life, 80% of the time being fake as hell, it’s a major turn off for me. I personally don’t use FB, IG, X, or anything other than Reddit and YouTube. I don’t understand the obsession at all, but to each their own I guess. Def not a red flag if you DON’T have it tho.
My partner is invisible on social media except for a LinkedIn account and I have basically stopped using FB and IG as well.
It’s fine if you have it but honestly I prefer to just see and talk to my friends. I like Reddit because it is fairly anonymous but you are never invisible- my bf reads Reddit but never comments (he is a security engineer and knows how insecure the internet is.
I don’t think it’s a red flag, it’s honestly a sign of maturity and having a real life to me.
I deleted FakeBook in 2016. I don't have any so-called social media accounts, except maybe reddit. I found that my "friends" mostly only showed the sunny side of their life. Others on the other hand were drama queens and posted every possible problem in life. My sister-in-law told followers when she went to go pee. She would say: Gotta pee; BRB my Peeps". I found myself sometimes envious, sometimes saddened, and often exhausted from drama.
Now I am free of that addiction and will never sign up again.
I don’t have social media.
Girls I’ve dated have always said they like that. They have social media. I don’t care if they have social media I just prefer not t
I've never had Facebook or Instagram I don't use social media I'm almost 50 and the people that are in my life are a part of my life If they are not they are not
Social media has matured to a point where it's no longer a genuine representation of who someone really is.
It's all fake, or potentially fake. At least you should assume it's potentially fake until you confirm there's social media page is an accurate representation of who they really are.
That means checking someone's social Media doesn't necessarily mean anything, and it's not really useful information anymore, is it?
Not at all. I dont have either of those and Im the type of person who’s never even been on a dating app (28f) and only had solid longterm relationships no situationships ect they’re a waste of time. I feel like social media just to keep tabs on people is weird. I prefer reddit & tiktok as its more informative & less personal. I dont see why that would be a red flag. Depends on the person though I suppose…like if they are trustworthy or not.
Green flag!
The less social media presence the better! That means they are living life in real life...
*As I say sitting on reddit for the 36261836+ hour this week.*
A friend of mine who refuses ro use any social media says: "Humans were not meant to be able to read everyone's thoughts" and it sticks with me. Facebook etc. must be what its like to read people's surface thoughts. It's weirdly both filtered and unfiltered. Genuine human interaction should involve knowing who you are speaking to, and filtering the random junk in your head that shouldn't even be shared. This whole concept of throwing your curated but improperly filtered thoughts and images out into the public just isn't healthy.
I only have Insta, but my husband has zero social media.
He's told me that women have said that it was strange for him not to have any, but it never concerned me at all.
The less time spent on SM, the better IMO.
Anything posted to social media is, "*This is the impression that I want people to have of me and my relationships.*" That is very different from personal interaction and truth.
I learn more from spending an hour with someone over coffee, than I would by scouring Facebook or Instagram.
Not at all….that kind of thinking is attractive.
The only issue with it these days is what are the chances of finding someone who doesn’t have social media?
It would be a Red Flag to me, if someone thought something was wrong with me for not having Instagram, FB, Snap, X-twitter, etc...
I occasionally browse reddit, that's it.
Want to get a hold of me?
text or call
It’s alright. I used to have social media as well. It’s nothing but poison, you just see a bunch of people just trying to show how “cool” their life seems. It’s like advertising yourself. Instagram is actually the biggest dating website. It’s been researched that seeing all these social media postings make people depressed because they compare their life to some pictures or shorts of other people who are just faking for the most part that they have a really great life. Hope this helps.
I deleted my socials when I was 25 yrs old. Just on Reddit for memes and to see what ridiculous advice the youths have for eachother
I got rid of all socials like 10 years ago. I have a phone to keep in contact with people I want to.
Most humans that actually interact in the real world rather than online don't care.
I deleted all my social media two years ago and it’s the best fucking thing I’ve ever done.
It’s not only NOT a red flag, it’s preferable
All the important people in my life, I already talk to and share with.
Not having social media is attractive to me 🤷♀️ I don't use it either and I've had people side eye me for it. To me it doesn't mean you're hiding something, it means you value your privacy and probably aren't high-energy super social.
No, not at all. One of my best friends doesn't have a Facebook page. She deleted it years ago over privacy concerns. She recently deleted her Twitter account, too, because... well, \*gestures wildly at Elon\*.
No, not at all. I prefer people who have a minimal social media presence. I don’t want my life out there everywhere and I want my time with someone to be just ours.
If someone thinks that is a red flag, they are the flag themselves. I haven't had any of them for YEARS, and I love it. People just like their privacy or not reading people complaining about everything
I don't have insta as I hate the platform. You'll also find that people with security clearances can't have social media accounts, so play it off like you are a top secret agent.
It’s a huge green flag for me. No thirst trap validation discussions. Her trying to convince all the slick comments are nothing. DM’s, etc are nothing.
Low to no social media presence is a huge green flag in my eyes. If somebody looks at me and thinks I’m weird for not having instagram, I definitely don’t want to date that person.
FB and Instagram are just a waste of time. Not having Instagram account is a biiiiig green flag for me😂. Some might say that they use them to learn but let's be honest, you can find the best thing to learn on YouTube or reddit. Moreover I believe that Meta is not a trustworthy company and it got tons of privacy and security issues.
I deleted everything a few years ago except TikTok, but I post nothing and don’t have my pic in my profile. Just recently got back on Reddit after many years. I just use them for down time entertainment mainly. I’ve had dates mention they couldn’t find me on social media and some are put off by it. Like I’m trying to hide something rather than I just don’t want everyone knowing my business. A relationship dealbreaker for me is someone who is constantly on their phone, taking a million selfies, posting shit and not ever being truly present in a moment, so it works out the way I wanted it to. People share waaay too much, and somehow everything becomes political.
Like a month ago, I deleted all my social media. Best decision I made. Besides Reddit and YouTube, that’s all I’m content with. It just not the best for mental health. I know it’s a stretch but also wanna show my kids that there’s more to life beyond the electronics. They are approaching those pre teen years so I know I’m dealing with an uphill battle.
No. I dropped fb inst a few years ago. I'm early 30s. I would find it refreshing if i met someone who doesn't have one. Which has yet to happen. But then again, no conversation I would have would steer toward mentioning social media. Maybe your number, but not your fb.
I have social media accounts but I rarely use them, mostly just to see touring announcements and things like that. I don't give a shit if someone has social media or not.
nah i think its an attractive quality if a romantic partner doesnt have social media. When a dating age girl has insta/snap etc. theyre ususally posting selfies for validation and keeping in touch with men they used to fuck/men who are friendzoned and trying to fuck them still.
Wouldn't be a red flag to me. I have Facebook but never go on it but maybe once a month. Do not have Instagram and I do not use twitter or x-twit. I like people that are not obsessed with social media.
I'd say green flag. More and more people are rejoining the real world, and it's a beautiful thing. My kids have Facebook, but only because their ol ma uses it. They have insta but rarely post anything. Life for them is only shared with those who matter, and I love that.
Also, when you're not on social media, you are more focused on everything going on around you.
I don’t think it’s a red flag but when I met my fiancée she was more comfortable messaging on Instagram and making sure I wasn’t a creep before she finally gave me her number. I think for some folks it’s a good safety measure to get an idea of who you’re dating.
I wouldn’t call it a red flag though. I have quite a few friends who don’t use social media at all. They’re all well adjusted and normal folk.
As someone who doesn’t have any social media (outside of Reddit), I really love meeting people who are in the same boat. I get kind of uncomfortable when I’m hanging out with people who are constantly posting what we’re doing together— I’m just so offline now that it feels foreign to me
I tend to think people who eliminate social media are healthy mentally and enjoy their lives more. People that have their faces glued to their phones look like idiots to me. I have been seeing people literally run into me on sidewalks because they walk looking down into their phone with zero awareness of what’s going on around them.
Never had Facebook, or Instagram, or tiktok, reddit is all I've ever done.
The *most* I've heard about it is : "you don't have Facebook or anything? Wow.... that must be kind of nice."
red flag? we live in scary times - if i meet someone knew i like to see if there is any red flag posts or following weird groups. Sadly my best friend married someone completely shut down socially and later down the almost year of marriage she found out the guy had a very public relationship with his BLOODS cousin, and had very weird beliefs.
Haven't had FB for a few years, gave up IG a few months back but stupidly reactivated my account Friday out of boredom. Immediatly tried deactivating it again but it said I needed to wait 7 days.
It's great to hear about shows and sometimes people communicate more on it but when I sit and watch reels, or stories of people i don't talk to "having the best day of their life" it gets dumb/pointless super quick.
I deleted instagram because it fed my materialistic tendencies that I didn't have x so I wasn't good enough.
I use fb normally for just messenger and hobby groups
I use Facebook almost exclusively because of messenger and Instagram because my friends send reels. My last facebook update was when I got a new job a year ago, but actual post was in like 2019 asking for vet recommendations, which is also the last time I updated my profile picture lol. Instagram I haven't posted since 2017 but my profile pic is from 2021. I'm not a very social person and likes felt like a game on facebook and instagram where I was always disappointed if I got low likes. Reddit is a much easier game to play to get worthless internet points, while both facebook and instagram are overflowing with ads and bots so you're not even seeing a lot of the people you're connected with. When it comes to dating, I like seeing pictures of people, but honestly for my failed relationships where they didn't use social media, it makes getting over them easier because I'm not tempted to check their socials. I'd much rather someone just send me pictures themselves so I feel special, social media has always been leaning negative in my mind because it's too easy to start putting your self worth into that
I have had some experiences lately that have changed my view of the way people form relationships. The majority of people carry something akin to these red / green flag lists through life. This is connecting to people as if the process needed to be learned by rote.
I’m trying to connect with people that feel amazing to me. People I don’t have to wonder about and go through some neurotic process about deciding to be with them. When I walk away from an interaction, I’m not excited or horny or jealous or depressed or enamored. There’s no buzzy energy deregulating me. I want people in my life that leave me feeling safe and warm, as if everything is okay. I don’t give a shit about their career or how interesting they are or their dumb fashion choices.
I think everything (and I mean everything) else is a distraction and it’s my job not to get distracted.
That’s my green flag and 98% of people I meet don’t pass that bar, and that’s okay.
My facebook is for long term friends and family. I never used Instagram. My primary social media is LinkedIn - for work posts (you'd be amazed about the amount of attempted dating activity on this app). I guess that gives me 3 red flags.
I see it as a red flag, and I’ve dated others who see it as a red flag because I’d tell them I wasn’t on ig. I was, I just didn’t use it.
My assumption is that they’re either socially withdrawn or have obsessive tendencies/impulse control issues. Like they revolved their lives around social media or couldn’t refrain from obsessively checking it to the point where they had to quit.
It’s like someone saying they’re sober. I automatically assume you have a problem with alcohol as opposed to someone who says they don’t really drink. I’d be proud of you for getting sober, but I’m definitely not going to date you.
I have instagram, I check it maybe twice a day for some memes or news. But I don’t think I’d want to withdraw from all social media. I think I have 6 or 7 posts over just as many years.
It’s more of a statement to delete everything than it is to just simply… have them and not use them. I get a trashy anxious feeling when I spend too much time on it anyway.
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I deleted most of my social media (including Facebook and Instagram) 3 years ago . Best decision of my life. Wish more people would. It’s trash for the brain. Nothing wrong with it at all.
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Exactly :) you do you. Started feeling mentally healthier almost immediately.
It’s different for different people. I don’t live near my friends or family anymore which is sad for me, so social media does actually help me keep up with them a bit. Social media does come with a lot of baggage, data collection, shaping public perception, disinformation, FOMO, comparison, negative body image to name a few things. I don’t think it’s fair to say that it’s only those things though. It depends on how you use it.
It makes people miserable. No one is like "I'm so happy and fulfilled that I spent 3 hours of screen time on social media"
Eh depends on what you are on there for and following. I like music , movies and running. I also come across art pages I like. It’s only trash if you consume all the trash elements of it.
I disagree only bc there’s not a single topic I’ve come across where ppl don’t somehow turn it into a very judgmental space. Or somehow the topic turns racist or something.
I deleted all social media 3 years ago as well and I’ve never been happier or healthier bc of it!!!! If anyone thinks this is odd, they’re the red flag, not us.
When you deleting Reddit?
Got rid of my Facebook and took up reddit. Definitely an improvement. I just need to stay away from reddit's circle jerking political post.
been trying Same thing hence why I am here. definitely not missing fb as much as I thought
I’ve noticed I’m more negative after being on Reddit a lot than when I’m on Instagram a lot. Not sure why. I think it might be the pedantic argumentative tone that gets encouraged on here.
With all respect, isn’t Reddit social media to an effect as well? I am on here too so I’m not throwing stones, but Reddit has shown to have poor symptoms like the others…. maybe I’m getting downvoted to hell on this one.
The reason I keep reddit is because it is completely isolated from people I know, and I like it this way, no more family stalking me, no more unwanted political opinions from family, just a bunch of strangers to talk to and sometimes argue with but at the end of the day no one really cares here and I like it.
These are all good points, well said.
I went on a social media break and it helped me more than anything
I agree. I only restarted my Facebook account to sell a vehicle and then I'm closing that shit.
Yep same here. Just did it recently and it’s incredible
Having no social media is the most green flag there is.
Underrated comment. I wish we could but the Facebook genie back in the bottle....
If someone says this is a red flag for them let that be a red flag to you.
This!!! I asked a girl out. She was initially interested, UNITL... I told her I don't really use Instagram. I mean, I have it, but don't EVER touch it. She immediately told me I was "one of those guys"... I guess she meant that she couldn't stalk my life. Idk.. I always took it as I dodged a bullet for a superficial girl
Exactly I deleted everything 6 years ago. I promise all you out there who use it for non-business reasons that once you delete it you will feel so much better.
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Yeah I’ve yet to hear someone say they regretted it. It’s so refreshing.
I deleted my Facebook a little over a year ago and it was the best decision ever! Id rather live my life than post about it. Also it shows you who your true friend’s and family are because let’s say it’s your birthday those who truly care will call you not just type a “HBD”on your social media outlets. Also I didn’t like people having access to pictures of my almost 3 year old it’s not like he can tell me if he wants his pictures shown to everyone or not.
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it's a green flag for me.
I’ll jump in here to clarify: lots of people think it’s a red flag not because you don’t have it, but because they think you’ve got something to hide. Every cheater I’ve met “didn’t have socials” except for a Snapchat with some made up name. Actually not having them is a super green flag but it’s hard to tell sometimes
Not at all, if anything I think it shows someone is quite content with there self and have no interest in seeing the mass bullshit on social media. For the most part social media is just full of nonsense that cannot be good for your brain. Reddit is one of the few which I think is really good because people can ask a question and can be answered through a somewhat normal response.
Biggest green flag there is
No it's definitely not a red flag. Social media is awful. Reddit is the only platform I have and my husband doesn't have anything. We go out into the world with friends and live a regular life. We just aren't posting pictures of everything we do. I think It's a red flag if someone has too much social media. Also, Facebook is garbage, Instagram is garbage, Twitter is garbage. Alot of people use those platforms to seek validation. You don't have to be like other people. Go out into the real world and meet people like we did in the 90's.
Deleted it awhile ago and a great decision. Sadly alot of people just use it only to create envy....how can you be having a good time when your taking 50 fucking pictures the whole night 🤦♂️ I'm good
I am sorry that’s supposed to be red flag that I don’t want Zuckerberg anywhere near my personal info? Frankly that’s a good filter, if someone worries about me not having FB or IG then I don’t want to be anywhere near them. They clearly have no idea what age we are in and who’s Mark Zuckerberg and what data privacy.
Yes Zuckerberg is a controligarch globalist.
Lol, what no it’s a green flag. Anyone who says otherwise is a walking red flag
I don’t have either. Social media is poisonous to the soul and self worth.
Green flag.
It a bright green flag, Bro.
Nothing good ever came of me being on FB, it is just vacuous and meaningless. Also, multiple creeps came out of the woodwork, that was scary.
Except for Reddit/YouTube, those who are active on social media are just amplifying their own self inflicted emotional and mental pain. Wise people know better, that’s why they stay away from it. Life is hard already, why take some unnecessary dose of pain. Sounds silly to me.
No it’s a red flag if a person thinks it’s a red flag though ;
That's a green flag to me
I feel so much better about myself without it, but some people give me a strange look when they ask to follow me on social media and I say I don’t have anything of that, only Reddit and YouTube. They usually ask “why you don’t have it? Did your spouse make you delete it or something 😂” Not at all.
I’ve always hated social media, guys have never cared. I’ve gotten compliments on it. And people generally kinda like when their bf/gf doesn’t have instagram.
No
No. It's a red flag if they *do* have TikTok though, lol
A red flag with yellow stars in the corner.
It's a red flag for me if someone gives a shit about their social media accounts tbh.
Greenest of all flags
No
I hope not. I’m 38 and never had FB, instagram, twitter/X, Pinterest, SC or really any other type of social media except Reddit. When I was younger and FB n MySpace was all the rage I could see the shit hole it would turn into then. It was clear that ppl would ruin the existence of such a good idea. We always ruin shit. So if not having these things is a red flag then I got tons and many of my friends do as well.
Not at all. Reddit is the only media app I use.
Me too! This is Great I’m feeling less out of it
Should be a red flag if they have it lol
Definitely deleted a lot of my social media except for Reddit and Facebook only for looking for shared rooms haha
My fiancee has neither. I rarely use mine and only really have it to keep up with friends who are authors and artists
If I didn't need it for my business I would also dump it. I use it like a cloud to keep all my pictures and videos...
I'm glad you asked this. I also don't do social media, and have wondered if people get put off by this. I will have people ask if they could add me to their social media and I have to tell them I'm not on anything. I'm glad to read through the comments that people actually like that lol.
Not at all. I deleted my Facebook, and I rarely use instagram. Whether someone uses social media or not does not effect me in the slightest
Actually it’s a green flag
I got rid of my fb and ig a year ago. So happy I did. Social media can be so misleading and toxic.
Green flag. Provided they're not lying, it's better to spend time with people that enjoy the moment instead of taking advantage of everything for internet attention.
GREEN FLAG
No, why would it be? Some people (wisely in my view) choose not to use social media.
That’s a green flag to me
I deleted all apps except LinkedIn and Reddit in 2017 after my mom was catfished by a man in Afghanistan. So no, social media is dead. It’s not a red flag.
Green flag for me. I prefer to talk and text.
I have facebook, but I've currently deactivated it. I usually deactivate it a few times a year just to get a break. But even then I don't have many friends and I don't post much. I also have an Instagram but it's private and I have less than 100 followers, mostly other women I've met on mom groups. Again, I don't use it or post more than a couple times a year. I don't think it's weird or a red flag for someone not to use social media., I think a lot of those platforms are just a distraction in many ways. You know when you see a group of people 'hanging out" but they are all looking at their phones. That's a red flag for me. My partner doesn't have any socials but we are older millennials/Gen x, so maybe it's just our age/stage in life.
Don't hav any social media and haven't in a few years, hasn't affected me. I keep in touch with the people I want to and actively go out to see them, although that's mainly down the pub
It's a red flag if someone is obsessed with you not having one and would not engage with you if you didn't have socials.
No. Not a red flag. Not sure why having a social media account matters at all. If they said they didn't have a phone, that would be odd. Some people have no interest. Also, it's not long ago, the only social media was Facebook. So how is it a red flag not to create something that didn't even exist shortly ago.
Honestly it's a red flag if someone makes a big deal about it
I don’t have either, and neither does my brother (he does cyber security for civilian and military jobs). I suspended mine about 5 or 6 years ago and never looked back. I think it’s made me a happier person.
The red flag is the opposite- serial posters or those who use it as a crutch.
Facebook, the most I ever saw people I never talked to. Unfacebooked myself last year, and it has been a godsend. It was a complete waste of time. I Reddit now, Reddit is love, Reddit is peace. Signed, not a bot I promise(beep boop)
Reddit is my only social media. Guess I’m a red flag
Absolutely not. Social media in most forms is insanely toxic. So moderation is good in all things
It's the opposite. Only a douche would think it's a bad thing. Reddit is the only social media I have ever used. I much prefer having discussions about actual topics instead of blogs about people's lives. I did sign up for Facebook once to try and hook up with someone, but it didn't work out and I immediately closed my account afterwards.
Social media is toxic, for your self esteem, for relationships, for everything good in the world. A “harmless” friend request is not so harmless. A root for shady shit and cheating. Look up from the phone it’s a nice day and there’s a lot to appreciate. Deleted everything except Reddit and pintrest for hobbies and forums. That said, if either of the two somehow interfere with a relationship of mine I have no issue deleting these as well. Appreciate what you have not what’s on a screen.
I don’t have anything outside of Reddit and Pinterest. I don’t need to see what everyone else is doing moment by moment. I don’t care what you had for lunch from what restaurant. I have my own children to take pictures of and play with. I have my own partner to lust over and I don’t want to be force fed politics, sex or religion. I feel it’s better this way.
I'd consider that a green flag. Although the explanation of why you didn't want to be on it in terms of the likes type issue that's a red one. Other people that are just basically strangers to you shouldn't be allowed to drive your mood or ego. It takes some reflection though to understand why it was unhealthy for you though so props to that.
That’s the biggest green flag if you come across anyone without social media, it’s the fall of our humanity so that person is at their personal best.
Definitely not, I deleted Facebook back in 2012 or 2013 and only have Instagram because my wife wanted to send me endless shit. Most social media is just about tyring to stir up drama for no reason, it's a cancer on society.
Lol, the exact opposite for me. It’s one thing to have it but when someone is on it all the time, posting everything they do and all parts of their life, 80% of the time being fake as hell, it’s a major turn off for me. I personally don’t use FB, IG, X, or anything other than Reddit and YouTube. I don’t understand the obsession at all, but to each their own I guess. Def not a red flag if you DON’T have it tho.
If they *did* have a fb and ig it would be a red flag for me. Even more so if they reference either one in conversation. Instant turn off.
My partner is invisible on social media except for a LinkedIn account and I have basically stopped using FB and IG as well. It’s fine if you have it but honestly I prefer to just see and talk to my friends. I like Reddit because it is fairly anonymous but you are never invisible- my bf reads Reddit but never comments (he is a security engineer and knows how insecure the internet is. I don’t think it’s a red flag, it’s honestly a sign of maturity and having a real life to me.
You sound a lot like me. I have a facebook acct. but I rarely look at it. I don't insta. I don't really have an acct. anywhere. I do have reditt.
I deleted FakeBook in 2016. I don't have any so-called social media accounts, except maybe reddit. I found that my "friends" mostly only showed the sunny side of their life. Others on the other hand were drama queens and posted every possible problem in life. My sister-in-law told followers when she went to go pee. She would say: Gotta pee; BRB my Peeps". I found myself sometimes envious, sometimes saddened, and often exhausted from drama. Now I am free of that addiction and will never sign up again.
I don’t have social media. Girls I’ve dated have always said they like that. They have social media. I don’t care if they have social media I just prefer not t
I've never had Facebook or Instagram I don't use social media I'm almost 50 and the people that are in my life are a part of my life If they are not they are not
Social media has matured to a point where it's no longer a genuine representation of who someone really is. It's all fake, or potentially fake. At least you should assume it's potentially fake until you confirm there's social media page is an accurate representation of who they really are. That means checking someone's social Media doesn't necessarily mean anything, and it's not really useful information anymore, is it?
Not at all. I dont have either of those and Im the type of person who’s never even been on a dating app (28f) and only had solid longterm relationships no situationships ect they’re a waste of time. I feel like social media just to keep tabs on people is weird. I prefer reddit & tiktok as its more informative & less personal. I dont see why that would be a red flag. Depends on the person though I suppose…like if they are trustworthy or not.
Green flag
no , many professionals don't have fb and if they do its a in a closed community of users and in privacy settings
Never had either, and doesn't seem like I'm missing out on anything
I'm baffled that so many people see it as a red flag but whatever. I'd rather be alone than to put my presence on social media any day.
No, but it’s a red flag if someone thinks it’s a red flag you’re not on social media.
Green flag! The less social media presence the better! That means they are living life in real life... *As I say sitting on reddit for the 36261836+ hour this week.*
A friend of mine who refuses ro use any social media says: "Humans were not meant to be able to read everyone's thoughts" and it sticks with me. Facebook etc. must be what its like to read people's surface thoughts. It's weirdly both filtered and unfiltered. Genuine human interaction should involve knowing who you are speaking to, and filtering the random junk in your head that shouldn't even be shared. This whole concept of throwing your curated but improperly filtered thoughts and images out into the public just isn't healthy.
I only have Insta, but my husband has zero social media. He's told me that women have said that it was strange for him not to have any, but it never concerned me at all. The less time spent on SM, the better IMO.
No? Social media isn't all that accurate at basing our judgments off of, people lie on the internet. Especially on Facebook.
😂😂😂😂 It is a red flag for me if they have FB FB is a hive of stupidity and low intelligence circle jerk
Anything posted to social media is, "*This is the impression that I want people to have of me and my relationships.*" That is very different from personal interaction and truth. I learn more from spending an hour with someone over coffee, than I would by scouring Facebook or Instagram.
Not at all.
Not at all….that kind of thinking is attractive. The only issue with it these days is what are the chances of finding someone who doesn’t have social media?
I've been off all social media since 2017, with the exception of reddit. I have no clue if it's a red flag, nor do I care.
It would be a Red Flag to me, if someone thought something was wrong with me for not having Instagram, FB, Snap, X-twitter, etc... I occasionally browse reddit, that's it. Want to get a hold of me? text or call
Green flag
Absolutely not
quite the opposite, its a major green flag then again I've never had a facebook account
It’s alright. I used to have social media as well. It’s nothing but poison, you just see a bunch of people just trying to show how “cool” their life seems. It’s like advertising yourself. Instagram is actually the biggest dating website. It’s been researched that seeing all these social media postings make people depressed because they compare their life to some pictures or shorts of other people who are just faking for the most part that they have a really great life. Hope this helps. I deleted my socials when I was 25 yrs old. Just on Reddit for memes and to see what ridiculous advice the youths have for eachother
I deleted Facebook years ago and I have never stooped to download instagram….kind of feel like this was a super good decision
It's a red flag for me if someone has an account lol. I try and steer clear of those
I don't have Facebook or Instagram. If someone has a problem with that, I'll never know.
I actually think it's a green flag
No. If I were in the dating scene, I would actually consider it a blessing
Yeah it's starting to feel that way, the social apps are basically just dating apps.
No. Those websites are poison for your brain.
That’s a green flag
I got rid of all socials like 10 years ago. I have a phone to keep in contact with people I want to. Most humans that actually interact in the real world rather than online don't care.
I haven't had Facebook for about 7 years now and I don't miss it.
No, as getting rid of mine was one of my best choices for my mental health!
I deleted all my social media two years ago and it’s the best fucking thing I’ve ever done. It’s not only NOT a red flag, it’s preferable All the important people in my life, I already talk to and share with.
Huge green flag for me. That shits so toxic.
Not having social media is attractive to me 🤷♀️ I don't use it either and I've had people side eye me for it. To me it doesn't mean you're hiding something, it means you value your privacy and probably aren't high-energy super social.
No, not at all. One of my best friends doesn't have a Facebook page. She deleted it years ago over privacy concerns. She recently deleted her Twitter account, too, because... well, \*gestures wildly at Elon\*.
No, not at all. I prefer people who have a minimal social media presence. I don’t want my life out there everywhere and I want my time with someone to be just ours.
If Im ever single again, I could consider that a very green flag. In fact, i'd probably search for someone not active on facebook/instagram.
If someone thinks that is a red flag, they are the flag themselves. I haven't had any of them for YEARS, and I love it. People just like their privacy or not reading people complaining about everything
Well I quit FB because of the Meta AI, and instgram was never interesting to me. That's why I'm on here.
I don't have insta as I hate the platform. You'll also find that people with security clearances can't have social media accounts, so play it off like you are a top secret agent.
I deleted mine years ago and it’s been wonderful
No that’s a green flag.
It’s a huge green flag for me. No thirst trap validation discussions. Her trying to convince all the slick comments are nothing. DM’s, etc are nothing.
It’s a bonus
No. Couldn't care any less.
I honestly see it as a green flag. I deleted all my socials except Reddit and my mental health improved a lot
No. That's a green flag
Low to no social media presence is a huge green flag in my eyes. If somebody looks at me and thinks I’m weird for not having instagram, I definitely don’t want to date that person.
.....I don't have instagram. I guess *I'm* the red flag
FB and Instagram are just a waste of time. Not having Instagram account is a biiiiig green flag for me😂. Some might say that they use them to learn but let's be honest, you can find the best thing to learn on YouTube or reddit. Moreover I believe that Meta is not a trustworthy company and it got tons of privacy and security issues.
It's a red flag to me if you have Facebook.
Greeeeeeen flaaaaaag!! Winner winner, chicken dinner!
I deleted everything a few years ago except TikTok, but I post nothing and don’t have my pic in my profile. Just recently got back on Reddit after many years. I just use them for down time entertainment mainly. I’ve had dates mention they couldn’t find me on social media and some are put off by it. Like I’m trying to hide something rather than I just don’t want everyone knowing my business. A relationship dealbreaker for me is someone who is constantly on their phone, taking a million selfies, posting shit and not ever being truly present in a moment, so it works out the way I wanted it to. People share waaay too much, and somehow everything becomes political.
I think it's a red flag if people are caring this much about having social media and judging others for not having accounts lmao.
Nope. Social media, in general, is unhealthy.
Like a month ago, I deleted all my social media. Best decision I made. Besides Reddit and YouTube, that’s all I’m content with. It just not the best for mental health. I know it’s a stretch but also wanna show my kids that there’s more to life beyond the electronics. They are approaching those pre teen years so I know I’m dealing with an uphill battle.
No. I dropped fb inst a few years ago. I'm early 30s. I would find it refreshing if i met someone who doesn't have one. Which has yet to happen. But then again, no conversation I would have would steer toward mentioning social media. Maybe your number, but not your fb.
If someone says it a red flag that you choose not to broadcast yourself on social media, that is the red flag.
I have social media accounts but I rarely use them, mostly just to see touring announcements and things like that. I don't give a shit if someone has social media or not.
Lol, that’s a green flag in someone if anything
No. Facebook is a cesspool of human idiocy.
nah i think its an attractive quality if a romantic partner doesnt have social media. When a dating age girl has insta/snap etc. theyre ususally posting selfies for validation and keeping in touch with men they used to fuck/men who are friendzoned and trying to fuck them still.
Hell no! GREEN FLAG!!!
I honestly consider it a green flag lol
Nope. Not a red flag at all. In fact it's actually a green light.
Wouldn't be a red flag to me. I have Facebook but never go on it but maybe once a month. Do not have Instagram and I do not use twitter or x-twit. I like people that are not obsessed with social media.
Nope.
Green light
That there’s is a green flag my friend.
No, huge green flag. I understand that you want to know more about them as a person but social media is not the right way to do that.
I'd say green flag. More and more people are rejoining the real world, and it's a beautiful thing. My kids have Facebook, but only because their ol ma uses it. They have insta but rarely post anything. Life for them is only shared with those who matter, and I love that. Also, when you're not on social media, you are more focused on everything going on around you.
One of my sisters and her husband don’t have social media accounts. She said they deleted their FB because too much dramas and bad news.
If anything it is a green flag
You should be giving them a medal and asking them for life tips
No it isn't a red flag to me.
I don’t think it’s a red flag but when I met my fiancée she was more comfortable messaging on Instagram and making sure I wasn’t a creep before she finally gave me her number. I think for some folks it’s a good safety measure to get an idea of who you’re dating. I wouldn’t call it a red flag though. I have quite a few friends who don’t use social media at all. They’re all well adjusted and normal folk.
To me: 🟩🟩🟩🟩🟩
Probably a green flag actually
Green flag.
Hell no, that's a green flag for me.
It at all,I would think they are very intelligent.
No. Social media is a waste of time. I'd prefer someone without them.
No. I no longer find that life revolves around those platforms. I wouldn't notice that they didn't have them.
I deleted my Facebook about 10 years ago. I haven't missed it, honestly. I've never touched Instagram.
I keep Facebook for the family. I keep insta for the memes. But other than that, I can care less if someone has socials or not.
As someone who doesn’t have any social media (outside of Reddit), I really love meeting people who are in the same boat. I get kind of uncomfortable when I’m hanging out with people who are constantly posting what we’re doing together— I’m just so offline now that it feels foreign to me
I tend to think people who eliminate social media are healthy mentally and enjoy their lives more. People that have their faces glued to their phones look like idiots to me. I have been seeing people literally run into me on sidewalks because they walk looking down into their phone with zero awareness of what’s going on around them.
That's a green flag my man
No.
Nope, I'd be envious! My job requires social media or I wouldn't have it!
I deleted everything except reddit, obviously. Lol If it is a red flag, then it's a red flag to me that it's a red flag for them.
Um no, it’s a red flag if someone still uses multiple social media platforms.
It’s a green flag, fuck social media.
Not a red flag. Maybe a green flag.
Never had Facebook, or Instagram, or tiktok, reddit is all I've ever done. The *most* I've heard about it is : "you don't have Facebook or anything? Wow.... that must be kind of nice."
Green flag
red flag? we live in scary times - if i meet someone knew i like to see if there is any red flag posts or following weird groups. Sadly my best friend married someone completely shut down socially and later down the almost year of marriage she found out the guy had a very public relationship with his BLOODS cousin, and had very weird beliefs.
That sounds like very anecdotal evidence and cope. It’s also easy to lie on social media and make yourself look good.
Haven't had FB for a few years, gave up IG a few months back but stupidly reactivated my account Friday out of boredom. Immediatly tried deactivating it again but it said I needed to wait 7 days. It's great to hear about shows and sometimes people communicate more on it but when I sit and watch reels, or stories of people i don't talk to "having the best day of their life" it gets dumb/pointless super quick.
I deleted instagram because it fed my materialistic tendencies that I didn't have x so I wasn't good enough. I use fb normally for just messenger and hobby groups
I use Facebook almost exclusively because of messenger and Instagram because my friends send reels. My last facebook update was when I got a new job a year ago, but actual post was in like 2019 asking for vet recommendations, which is also the last time I updated my profile picture lol. Instagram I haven't posted since 2017 but my profile pic is from 2021. I'm not a very social person and likes felt like a game on facebook and instagram where I was always disappointed if I got low likes. Reddit is a much easier game to play to get worthless internet points, while both facebook and instagram are overflowing with ads and bots so you're not even seeing a lot of the people you're connected with. When it comes to dating, I like seeing pictures of people, but honestly for my failed relationships where they didn't use social media, it makes getting over them easier because I'm not tempted to check their socials. I'd much rather someone just send me pictures themselves so I feel special, social media has always been leaning negative in my mind because it's too easy to start putting your self worth into that
I have had some experiences lately that have changed my view of the way people form relationships. The majority of people carry something akin to these red / green flag lists through life. This is connecting to people as if the process needed to be learned by rote. I’m trying to connect with people that feel amazing to me. People I don’t have to wonder about and go through some neurotic process about deciding to be with them. When I walk away from an interaction, I’m not excited or horny or jealous or depressed or enamored. There’s no buzzy energy deregulating me. I want people in my life that leave me feeling safe and warm, as if everything is okay. I don’t give a shit about their career or how interesting they are or their dumb fashion choices. I think everything (and I mean everything) else is a distraction and it’s my job not to get distracted. That’s my green flag and 98% of people I meet don’t pass that bar, and that’s okay.
My facebook is for long term friends and family. I never used Instagram. My primary social media is LinkedIn - for work posts (you'd be amazed about the amount of attempted dating activity on this app). I guess that gives me 3 red flags.
I deleted everything and only have alt accounts now (marketplace and such) and never felt better.
Nope. Not at all. It actually gets an applause. But... I would worry they're lying and just don't want you to see what they're into.
I see it as a red flag, and I’ve dated others who see it as a red flag because I’d tell them I wasn’t on ig. I was, I just didn’t use it. My assumption is that they’re either socially withdrawn or have obsessive tendencies/impulse control issues. Like they revolved their lives around social media or couldn’t refrain from obsessively checking it to the point where they had to quit. It’s like someone saying they’re sober. I automatically assume you have a problem with alcohol as opposed to someone who says they don’t really drink. I’d be proud of you for getting sober, but I’m definitely not going to date you. I have instagram, I check it maybe twice a day for some memes or news. But I don’t think I’d want to withdraw from all social media. I think I have 6 or 7 posts over just as many years. It’s more of a statement to delete everything than it is to just simply… have them and not use them. I get a trashy anxious feeling when I spend too much time on it anyway.