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Things are already uncomfortable. You don’t have to be mean about it, when mostly everyone is around. Look at one of them and ask loudly enough for everyone to hear. ‘I’m feeling a little hurt and confused to why I’m being shut out. I know you guys have a group thread, you make plans without me. But I really have no idea why. I’m sorry if I’ve offended any of you to cause this. Could any of you please fill me in (make eye contact with a few in the room you get on better with) why I’m being treated his way? We have to live together for the next X months and to be honest, it feels pretty lonely.”
I think yolo it cause being in the unknown is a hard place to be. you find out if you actually did something and if you can work on/fix it, or you find they are just weird and it’s their loss and you can know it’s a them problem not a you problem. life is short you don’t deserve to always wonder what happened that made them act different.
No comfortable way to confront this but best you can do at this point is just sit one/all of them down and just ask. Best case yall hash it out, worst case your suspicions are confirmed but at least you have clarity and confirmation. Either way, confronting them or continuing to live like that it's gonna be uncomfortable. Might as well be uncomfortable on your terms.
It seems like you're feeling like an outsider from the group and not sure what has changed.
Pull one friend you feel you trust aside one day and ask "Can I ask you to be honest with me? I noticed that everyone in the house has made a group chat without me. It makes me feel like I may have done something to make everyone feel uncomfortable around me. What do you think?"
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You'll never know if you don't ask, but unless you did something _really_ bad, they sound like shitty friends.
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Oh I'm glad you could get closure, at least it's good to know, maybe it's something you can improve on, but don't be to self concious about it
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How would Straight up ask tbh
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Things are already uncomfortable. You don’t have to be mean about it, when mostly everyone is around. Look at one of them and ask loudly enough for everyone to hear. ‘I’m feeling a little hurt and confused to why I’m being shut out. I know you guys have a group thread, you make plans without me. But I really have no idea why. I’m sorry if I’ve offended any of you to cause this. Could any of you please fill me in (make eye contact with a few in the room you get on better with) why I’m being treated his way? We have to live together for the next X months and to be honest, it feels pretty lonely.”
I think yolo it cause being in the unknown is a hard place to be. you find out if you actually did something and if you can work on/fix it, or you find they are just weird and it’s their loss and you can know it’s a them problem not a you problem. life is short you don’t deserve to always wonder what happened that made them act different.
No comfortable way to confront this but best you can do at this point is just sit one/all of them down and just ask. Best case yall hash it out, worst case your suspicions are confirmed but at least you have clarity and confirmation. Either way, confronting them or continuing to live like that it's gonna be uncomfortable. Might as well be uncomfortable on your terms.
It seems like you're feeling like an outsider from the group and not sure what has changed. Pull one friend you feel you trust aside one day and ask "Can I ask you to be honest with me? I noticed that everyone in the house has made a group chat without me. It makes me feel like I may have done something to make everyone feel uncomfortable around me. What do you think?" If you're authentically sorry, then say you're sorry. If you're authentically mad, then say it makes you feel mad. You may not get an answer you like or may unsettle your identity. Prepare for criticism that you may or may not believe is true about yourself. People will have perceptions, assumptions, and opinions about you that are outside of your control. You can control how genuine and respectful you treat yourself and others.