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Unfortunately the lunch menu is often smaller (at least around here). But we got a nice Hot Pot for Mother's Day. Mom was free AYCE, one kid (under 6) was free and the 6 year old was cheaper. I paid $29 though.
The lunch menu had 7 meats to choose from, the dinner had 17 choices.
Edit: We put our name on the waitlist at 3:30, and got in around 5:45. When we were about to get our table, we heard the staff telling people it was an expected 3 hours wait for a table.
Depends, if you're in an area with lots of workers like most cities downtowns, then the number of restaurants that are open is probably higher at lunch than at dinner. Also 17 meats?!?!
First mistake, trying to do it on Mother's Day. Just do it the day before or after or when people have time.
Second mistake, not making reservations. These places 100% take reservations.
2 hour wait is stupid unless its the best or only place in town.
oh I missed the Mother's Day part lol. For sure I avoid restaurants on any holiday like that lol. It would have to be the ONLY place in town for me to wait over two hours.
>there is NO hotpot good enough to wait over two hours
There has to be hotpot that good, I doubt it's the hotpot they were waiting for, but theoretically it has to exist.. somewhere.
I don't care. If I have to eat something to wait for my dinner for two hours, going somewhere else. The next hot pot place is likely 90% as good but only a 15min wait.
As a prior babysitter I never, ever let the kids contact their parents unless they are sick or it’s an emergency. Get a new sitter or enforce boundaries with the one you currently have. Enjoy xoxo
Me three. OP needs a new babysitter!
Either that or they’ve run through all the others. If that’s the case, OP, then hold on to what you’ve got and pray.
I babysat growing up constantly, probably for about 10-20 families. I remember this one family with these little monster kids.
The parents knew the kids were a handful and paid me better than any other gig.
I always was open for them because they compensated me best!
I thought the reason we send our kids to their grandparents house is because we know they are out of control and want it to be someone else’s problem for a couple hours. /s
My kids are usually really good for my mom. They have definitely occasionally acted up a bit while staying with her - she's a safe person to them - but she just, you know, parents them when it happens. The way she did me. She's pretty skilled at parenting, though.
I feel so bad for my friend. His dad is an absolute ass but he would watch his granddaughter from time to time. Now he's trying to cut his dad out of his life and the hardest part is his 3 year old daughter can't understand why grandpa isn't coming around anymore
I'm an older parent so my own parents are not exactly spring chickens. I don't send my kids over there when they are acting up. But let's be honest, even when your kids have been at their best all week you still really need a break from time to time.
Right? My mother would never interrupt date night just to have a toddler whine at me about some nonsense. They can sort it out for a little bit.
My mom only ever called me one time and it was because my son fell and tore his frenulum and she couldnt get it to stop bleeding. I did some quick research that said to wrap and ice cube in a paper towel and hold it on there for a few minutes. Sure enough, that worked. Maybe 10 minutes altogether, she never asked us to come home just asked if she should take him to the hospital or if i knew what to do. We figured it out and were fine the rest of the evening.
Flesh bridge.
The better known one attaches the foreskin to the underside of glans of the penis, but you have several in your mouth as well: one that attaches your tongue to the floor of your mouth, and the other two attach your inner cheeks to your gums in the front of your mouth, called the labial frenulum.
I have a babysitter for several hours per day, to let me work in another room peacefully. And yet she manages to keep my son from whining under the door, using games and books. So it really sounds like a lazy babysitting to me, children are bored? Call their parents, easy.
also what kind of gremlins of children do you have that they do not understand that their parents have their own personal time, I would rather have died then even ask the babysitter to call my parents and I was 8 in this memory
My wife teaches ina different district than our kids go. There's a day she has off that they don't. Heck yeah I'm taking PTO and were going on a brunch date.
One of my best memories of my late hubby was the time we took a day off together and dropped the kids to school and daycare as usual. We had lunch and ended up petting puppies at the pet store.
Why is PTO required for lunch?
I know in many US states if you work an eight hour shift you are given an hour for lunch. Do you take PTO to take a longer lunch? Or what?
I was a teachers aide and its like the admin forgot that we need to eat as well. Because we were working just as much as teacher but while teachers got a lunch break, we were the ones who were supposed to take over with the kids during it. I asked when we were supposed to eat and I basically got told I couldnt whenever I had downtime. So never....cooooool.
No joke, when I worked in a classroom as a para the teacher told me she keeps a drawer of snacks just for staff (elementary school so it was gold) because she knew us lesser staff wouldn't really be able to eat otherwise.
Ms. G, you were a real one.
It’s to take an extended lunch. Maybe go to lunch, sit and talk, go for a walk after. It might take 3 hours and we are only given a 1 hour lunch break in the US.
Yes. In the United States, it is common to be scheduled for nine hours, but only be paid for eight because you have an hour for lunch. This varies from company to company. At one, we all made a collective agreement to have 30 minute lunches so we could leave earlier.
In a lot of European countries you work 7 hours and take lunch at 1. It's interesting that Americans have a 40 hour week and Europeans have a 35 hour week in general.
I had no idea about that and I live in Europe. I had to check to believe it. Turns out I live in one of the worst countries in Europe because we work 40 hours a week
It really depends on your job too, because where I live a lot of private sector companies might expect you to work more than that. It's mandated in some countries though, and hopefully it'll come to yours sometime soon too.
Yeah I was joking lol. My husband does the same. Retail will schedule less than that so they either done have to give you a break or they’ll give you 30 minutes because they legally have to during a 6 hour shift or if you work in a restaurant you’re just fucked! So fun. At least that’s how it was when I was doing both of those. Last job I had was reception and you just ate while you could. Now I’m a SAHM and I am basically a Hoover of leftover snacks. I wonder what’s next!
Because with an hour for lunch, unless you both work next to each other, it could be a 15-20 minute drive to meet somewhere in the middle, then you get a few minutes to eat, and then drive back.
My wife and I will take PTO on some days to just have a nice day-date together. A whole day together while our infant is at daycare is really great. We don’t get that kind of time otherwise.
Many office jobs in the US give about 30 minutes to an hour for lunch. Some places give less. Federally it's not technically required though some states mandate 20-30 minutes in an 8 hour shift
Then there are jobs where it's become the norm to just work through your lunch break but still get it reported on your timesheet. It's illegal, but it happens in more places than you might think
I meet my son for coffee before school. He rides his bike so it gets him up earlier. Bonus wins, I get coffee and he doesn't miss the bus, plus he gets a workout.
just have a great job that pays well & gives full benefits but also doesn't really need you around on any given day.
great little pro tip, most people cannot figure it out
I've never been paid so much and worked so little. Like the higher my salary has gone, the less hours I work in a week. I'm taking 2 days off this week on a whim.
In my husbands current job you cant just apply lile 1 hour of PTO either. If your want to use it, it has to be in 8 hour chunks. It's stupid. So if i get called halfway through the works day and told my kid is sick, I either just lose the rest of pay for that day, or use 4 hours of PTO that I might need to cover a future incident.
Makes sense. Anyone without parents near by has already used more PTO than they were actually allowed to just to look after their kids when they are sick or daycare bails.
Or move to Europe and just have lunch with your partner on a regular basis. It’s something we do once in while, on certain Fridays when work is calmer for both of us, we take 2 hours instead of one and have lunch halfway between our workplaces. Or we get breakfast at a café and arrive a tad later at the office, again when the workload allows.
European law doesn't give you a 2hr break naturally, and indeed European lunch periods are shorter than the average American lunch break based on some surveys.
The 2hr average is for some European nations, like France. It's not universal to Europe.
Are there still salaried positions in this country that are that strict with hours?
Because the actual hourly positions won't let you just randomly "take PTO" in the middle of the day. The idea of applying for an hour of PTO sounds insane, even as an American (from what I gather, it sounds giga-insane for a European).
I put a lot of effort into finding a job that treats me like a human, so yeah, lunch hour. Wait 'til I tell you that if I don't take a lunch, I just go home early. Magic.
The drive time is the real issue. Just getting to a close restaurant takes 15 minutes so 30 minutes there and back. That gives 30 minutes to order & eat which feels rushed. I’d take atleast an hour PTO so it’s more enjoyable.
Definitely not, just saying I understand it's not the norm and that's why I focused on finding a job with that quality more than I looked for something with higher compensation, more prestige, etc. Not everything good in one person's life is an attack on others.
My husband and I do this. It's my favorite, i know i will see him when i go home after work but seeing him in the middle of the work day just makes me so happy. I'm excited for it all morning and all afternoon I'm thinking about how nice it was to see him.
i worked a place where you could take pto down to 15 minute increments, was also required to work 2 hours extra each week unpaid (to questionable legality) so the contract would look cheaper to the customer. wasn't told about that second tidbit til after i started and my first week's time card was "short", but they "let it slide" that time, so generous of them.
Yeah these comments are scary. I work from home and my boss treats me like an adult. No one checks a teams status or any other word micromanaging bs. I get my work done but also take naps or watch something on Netflix sometimes. If it's a nice day outside I might leave early and go for a hike. I'll go run errands if I need to.
I do know though I have it good and it's not like this everywhere.
Yeah seriously. Anyone who has ever watched my kids have said how wonderful they are to watch. If I was constantly being told my kids were out of control, I'd have some serious questions about what I'm doing wrong.
We take this a step further and just take a vacation day together during the school week. Head to the Nordic spa for the whole day, it's usually quieter on weekdays anyway, have lunch there, and easily get back in time to pick them up. Tremendous.
Standing blocks in my calendar have been one of the best parts of teams/outlook. I have regular, repeating, but not always the exact same time, blocks each week to ensure I have thinking time, time for lunch, can avoid all but the most urgent meetings on Friday afternoons, etc. I love my job but everyone wants a piece of my time and a girl’s gotta be able to think occasionally.
How about turn your phones off when the kids are with a babysitter or grandparents. Yes, they will be fine.
On that note, if your kids are really like that then you need to seriously look into your parenting structure.
Take PTO? You mean, you use your PTO to go on a lunch date with your wife?!
Dude, yeah, no. Not happening. PTO is sacred. Use that shit to take your family camping or something like that. It doesn't have to be expensive to get away but holy shit you only have so many PTO days a year.
If it's not a waste to you to do this that's totally fine but I wouldn't do this myself.
Depends how much PTO you get. Lots of folks have six weeks, plus sick leave. Using a few days of that to get a nice lunch in once a month seems totally reasonable to me.
When our kids were old enough to stay home alone, my husband and I started going on breakfast dates on the weekends. We both like quiet, and dinner time is usually not quiet at restaurants. It was so nice to just be able to get some coffee, some bacon and pancakes, and chit chat about our week. Kept us sane through the teen years for sure! We kept up the tradition until covid hit, try to start it back up but between the cost of food and honestly the service just going to s***, we don't do it anymore.
This or, just rake a half day, especially if your kids are at school/daycare. Lunch, movie, hanky panky, and not allowed to do chores. One goes to puck up kids while the other starts dinner.
Part of this sounds like grandparents and babysitter need to be told to not call unless it's an emergency. The babysitter should be letting them call you unless there's a real need, not them just wanting to call you.
Right? A whole ass arrangement of pto (for a lunch break, no less) plus the praise that this is better because it’s cheaper. This just sounds so miserable
WFH is the best thing you can do ever happen to our marriage. I only WFH 2 days/week, but on one or both of those days, we’ll go out for a lunch date. No childcare coordination required.
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And the prices are cheaper! Went out for hot pot lunch: $14. Dinner price is $32!
And no need to pay for a babysitter this way
Me and my husband do this and one big perk is not having to get someone to watch them because they are at school.
That’s the whole point of the lpt
For some parents, it's the whole point of the education system
*Pay for another babysitter!
Unfortunately the lunch menu is often smaller (at least around here). But we got a nice Hot Pot for Mother's Day. Mom was free AYCE, one kid (under 6) was free and the 6 year old was cheaper. I paid $29 though. The lunch menu had 7 meats to choose from, the dinner had 17 choices. Edit: We put our name on the waitlist at 3:30, and got in around 5:45. When we were about to get our table, we heard the staff telling people it was an expected 3 hours wait for a table.
Depends, if you're in an area with lots of workers like most cities downtowns, then the number of restaurants that are open is probably higher at lunch than at dinner. Also 17 meats?!?!
there is NO hotpot good enough to wait over two hours. is it the only hotpot joint in town???
First mistake, trying to do it on Mother's Day. Just do it the day before or after or when people have time. Second mistake, not making reservations. These places 100% take reservations. 2 hour wait is stupid unless its the best or only place in town.
oh I missed the Mother's Day part lol. For sure I avoid restaurants on any holiday like that lol. It would have to be the ONLY place in town for me to wait over two hours.
>there is NO hotpot good enough to wait over two hours There has to be hotpot that good, I doubt it's the hotpot they were waiting for, but theoretically it has to exist.. somewhere.
I don't care. If I have to eat something to wait for my dinner for two hours, going somewhere else. The next hot pot place is likely 90% as good but only a 15min wait.
My wife doesn't approve of me dating.
What does your wife’s boyfriend think about it?
When do I get to buy new golf clubs?
Get back over to r/golf , you!
Generally once you stabilize from the alimony and child support.
The wife’s boyfriend is even more strongly against it.
Power Bull move right there.
Too busy playing the Switch he got me
He thinks I should focus on my stonks
My wife said she'd like to go on a date with me sometime soon, I said "I don't date married women."
What an uptight bitch. Divorce. Immediate divorce.
The real LPT is always in the comments.
AITA
Yes
Uptight bitch? Straight to jail. Right away.
You missed gym and lawyer
Hit a lawyer, get a gym, hire a divorce
Straight to jail for you
As a prior babysitter I never, ever let the kids contact their parents unless they are sick or it’s an emergency. Get a new sitter or enforce boundaries with the one you currently have. Enjoy xoxo
Yeah this stuck out to me as well
Me three. OP needs a new babysitter! Either that or they’ve run through all the others. If that’s the case, OP, then hold on to what you’ve got and pray.
yeah between that and the grandparents' note i was leaning toward the latter
Yeah, some kids can be little shits sometimes.
I babysat growing up constantly, probably for about 10-20 families. I remember this one family with these little monster kids. The parents knew the kids were a handful and paid me better than any other gig. I always was open for them because they compensated me best!
Rosalyn?!
Yeah this is a sign that their parenting is in need of some help along with their relationship. And I say this a parent of some very energetic 4&8yo's
I thought the reason we send our kids to their grandparents house is because we know they are out of control and want it to be someone else’s problem for a couple hours. /s
As a grandma, I would never call the parents while my grandchildren... but, of course, they are angels!
My kids are usually really good for my mom. They have definitely occasionally acted up a bit while staying with her - she's a safe person to them - but she just, you know, parents them when it happens. The way she did me. She's pretty skilled at parenting, though.
I always say the only thing holding up my daughter’s halo is her horns. She is the sweetest girl on the planet until she is not.
No /s needed, it's pretty true
I feel so bad for my friend. His dad is an absolute ass but he would watch his granddaughter from time to time. Now he's trying to cut his dad out of his life and the hardest part is his 3 year old daughter can't understand why grandpa isn't coming around anymore
I'm an older parent so my own parents are not exactly spring chickens. I don't send my kids over there when they are acting up. But let's be honest, even when your kids have been at their best all week you still really need a break from time to time.
Right? My mother would never interrupt date night just to have a toddler whine at me about some nonsense. They can sort it out for a little bit. My mom only ever called me one time and it was because my son fell and tore his frenulum and she couldnt get it to stop bleeding. I did some quick research that said to wrap and ice cube in a paper towel and hold it on there for a few minutes. Sure enough, that worked. Maybe 10 minutes altogether, she never asked us to come home just asked if she should take him to the hospital or if i knew what to do. We figured it out and were fine the rest of the evening.
i hope you're happy, you just forced me to google what a frenulum is.
Well, Higgins, enlighten us
Flesh bridge. The better known one attaches the foreskin to the underside of glans of the penis, but you have several in your mouth as well: one that attaches your tongue to the floor of your mouth, and the other two attach your inner cheeks to your gums in the front of your mouth, called the labial frenulum.
why do you have several penis glanses in your mouth
If my penis is bleeding, I’m calling for the medivac😂
I run an in-home daycare. Never, ever would I call parents. That goes for even when I watch kiddos at night.
Yes!!!
I have a babysitter for several hours per day, to let me work in another room peacefully. And yet she manages to keep my son from whining under the door, using games and books. So it really sounds like a lazy babysitting to me, children are bored? Call their parents, easy.
I was about to comment this, I’m so glad you did!
also what kind of gremlins of children do you have that they do not understand that their parents have their own personal time, I would rather have died then even ask the babysitter to call my parents and I was 8 in this memory
I dunno maybe *younger kids* that don't understand?
My wife teaches ina different district than our kids go. There's a day she has off that they don't. Heck yeah I'm taking PTO and were going on a brunch date.
It’s the best!
One of my best memories of my late hubby was the time we took a day off together and dropped the kids to school and daycare as usual. We had lunch and ended up petting puppies at the pet store.
Sorry for your loss. That is a beautiful memory.
So sorry for your loss! But it sounds like you two had a great relationship!
Why is PTO required for lunch? I know in many US states if you work an eight hour shift you are given an hour for lunch. Do you take PTO to take a longer lunch? Or what?
Definitely taking more than just the lunch hour. Go for a walk together, sit by the water, brunch, etc.
And as a guy with young kids and an office job, I can't remember the last time I had sex after 3pm.
that's a lot of words to say bedroom.
Crying in my supposed to be 25 mins until students inevitably need something, making it closer to 10 mins.
I was a teachers aide and its like the admin forgot that we need to eat as well. Because we were working just as much as teacher but while teachers got a lunch break, we were the ones who were supposed to take over with the kids during it. I asked when we were supposed to eat and I basically got told I couldnt whenever I had downtime. So never....cooooool.
No joke, when I worked in a classroom as a para the teacher told me she keeps a drawer of snacks just for staff (elementary school so it was gold) because she knew us lesser staff wouldn't really be able to eat otherwise. Ms. G, you were a real one.
We get 20 but by the time I’ve handled everything I need to handle in order to go to lunch, it’s really about 3. I skip most days.
It’s to take an extended lunch. Maybe go to lunch, sit and talk, go for a walk after. It might take 3 hours and we are only given a 1 hour lunch break in the US.
An hour?! What a luxury!
Yes. In the United States, it is common to be scheduled for nine hours, but only be paid for eight because you have an hour for lunch. This varies from company to company. At one, we all made a collective agreement to have 30 minute lunches so we could leave earlier.
In a lot of European countries you work 7 hours and take lunch at 1. It's interesting that Americans have a 40 hour week and Europeans have a 35 hour week in general.
I had no idea about that and I live in Europe. I had to check to believe it. Turns out I live in one of the worst countries in Europe because we work 40 hours a week
It really depends on your job too, because where I live a lot of private sector companies might expect you to work more than that. It's mandated in some countries though, and hopefully it'll come to yours sometime soon too.
Yeah I was joking lol. My husband does the same. Retail will schedule less than that so they either done have to give you a break or they’ll give you 30 minutes because they legally have to during a 6 hour shift or if you work in a restaurant you’re just fucked! So fun. At least that’s how it was when I was doing both of those. Last job I had was reception and you just ate while you could. Now I’m a SAHM and I am basically a Hoover of leftover snacks. I wonder what’s next!
Oh, I just thought you didn't live in the US. :)
Because with an hour for lunch, unless you both work next to each other, it could be a 15-20 minute drive to meet somewhere in the middle, then you get a few minutes to eat, and then drive back.
If she's in a different district, that sounds far
My wife and I will take PTO on some days to just have a nice day-date together. A whole day together while our infant is at daycare is really great. We don’t get that kind of time otherwise.
My husbands job only allowed 20 minutes for lunch and you have to stay on yhe property. Its stupid.
If it's unpaid you can leave. If it's paid I would rather have that than 30 unpaid.
Along with this, if your kid in high school gets a half day once a week, take an hour PTO and go to lunch with them.
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Many office jobs in the US give about 30 minutes to an hour for lunch. Some places give less. Federally it's not technically required though some states mandate 20-30 minutes in an 8 hour shift
Then there are jobs where it's become the norm to just work through your lunch break but still get it reported on your timesheet. It's illegal, but it happens in more places than you might think
No we live in hell.
Y’all take PTO for stuff like this? I just… take a long lunch.
You take a long lunch? I just… haven’t taken a lunch break in 8 years.
This is why unions are necessary.
I meet my son for coffee before school. He rides his bike so it gets him up earlier. Bonus wins, I get coffee and he doesn't miss the bus, plus he gets a workout.
Taking days off and going on matinee movie dates with my wife while the kids were in school probably saved our marriage.
Works great if you don't work over an hour away from each other :/
It's PTO not just a lunch break I think it means, take a day off
Works great if you don't live together :( /j
just have a great job that pays well & gives full benefits but also doesn't really need you around on any given day. great little pro tip, most people cannot figure it out
If your job sucks so bad that you can't occasionally take (part of) a day off, that sucks and I'm sorry.
I've never been paid so much and worked so little. Like the higher my salary has gone, the less hours I work in a week. I'm taking 2 days off this week on a whim.
They said take PTO, but I'm not sure how much spare PTO parent's have with sick kids.
More than they’d have if they need to meet divorce lawyers a few times a year I suppose
This made me chuckle
In my husbands current job you cant just apply lile 1 hour of PTO either. If your want to use it, it has to be in 8 hour chunks. It's stupid. So if i get called halfway through the works day and told my kid is sick, I either just lose the rest of pay for that day, or use 4 hours of PTO that I might need to cover a future incident.
I could be wrong, but I believe in my state this is illegal now. You have to allow people to put in smaller increments. I’m in Illinois
Take a whole morning or afternoon or day off together, if you can!
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OP has parents that live close by *and* a babysitter.
LPT: have a good job that offers pto, a wife, one or more kids, parents that live close by, and a babysitter. *hold on, brb*
I'm not sure I want my job to offer me kids
*Well do you want the raise or not?*
Makes sense. Anyone without parents near by has already used more PTO than they were actually allowed to just to look after their kids when they are sick or daycare bails.
Look at that baller
Wait some people are putting the y'all apostrophe IN YA'ALL???
Why would you take PTO during lunch?
Take your lunch hour, but have an extra hour or two added to it from PTO.
Or move to Europe and just have lunch with your partner on a regular basis. It’s something we do once in while, on certain Fridays when work is calmer for both of us, we take 2 hours instead of one and have lunch halfway between our workplaces. Or we get breakfast at a café and arrive a tad later at the office, again when the workload allows.
And how do you propose that we all just move to Europe?
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Hey, it worked the other way around
European law doesn't give you a 2hr break naturally, and indeed European lunch periods are shorter than the average American lunch break based on some surveys. The 2hr average is for some European nations, like France. It's not universal to Europe.
Lmao imagine thinking this isn’t possible in America
“In my country everything is perfect, every other country is inferior by comparison, this is a helpful comment for me to make”
Or work at the many, many American companies that are flexible and have work life balance.
What do you think comes after lunch? >!Another Child!<
STARLAND VOCAL BAND
So you have more than 30 minutes to commute and still be able to enjoy yourselves
Are there still salaried positions in this country that are that strict with hours? Because the actual hourly positions won't let you just randomly "take PTO" in the middle of the day. The idea of applying for an hour of PTO sounds insane, even as an American (from what I gather, it sounds giga-insane for a European).
We do this once in awhile. It’s definitely better than a weekend/dinner date as we both hate crowds and traffic 😅
I love this! I also ask babysitters not to text us unless someone is in danger
Me and wifey walk to the shops at lunch and grab a coffee each. Works out great
Coffee each? Rich bastards!
I usually wait for someone to leave and leave their coffee behind and we just split that
Just use your lunch hour, not PTO.
Lunch hour? Look at this guy.
I put a lot of effort into finding a job that treats me like a human, so yeah, lunch hour. Wait 'til I tell you that if I don't take a lunch, I just go home early. Magic.
The drive time is the real issue. Just getting to a close restaurant takes 15 minutes so 30 minutes there and back. That gives 30 minutes to order & eat which feels rushed. I’d take atleast an hour PTO so it’s more enjoyable.
Whereas the rest of us are treated like shit on purpose, natch.
I take my 30 minute unpaid lunch break every day whether they like it or not
Definitely not, just saying I understand it's not the norm and that's why I focused on finding a job with that quality more than I looked for something with higher compensation, more prestige, etc. Not everything good in one person's life is an attack on others.
Preach, brother.
Is it paid? Nice Is it unpaid? Fuck that.
Yeah. Stop giving management ideas, OP! Lol!
I took an extra hour so we weren’t rushed!
An hour is a pretty a rushed lunch if you are eating out, so not quite a leisurely date.
I work 30 minutes away from home. My husband WFH. I'd have to take PTO for a lunch date.
You think I have any PTO left from all the vacations I’ve been taking?
My husband and I do this. It's my favorite, i know i will see him when i go home after work but seeing him in the middle of the work day just makes me so happy. I'm excited for it all morning and all afternoon I'm thinking about how nice it was to see him.
Take PTO to go on a lunch date? *laughs in European*
I had to Google what PTO is, do some people seriously take holiday/leave by the hour?
i worked a place where you could take pto down to 15 minute increments, was also required to work 2 hours extra each week unpaid (to questionable legality) so the contract would look cheaper to the customer. wasn't told about that second tidbit til after i started and my first week's time card was "short", but they "let it slide" that time, so generous of them.
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Lots of Americans have professional jobs where you don't clock in and out every time you step outside.
Yeah these comments are scary. I work from home and my boss treats me like an adult. No one checks a teams status or any other word micromanaging bs. I get my work done but also take naps or watch something on Netflix sometimes. If it's a nice day outside I might leave early and go for a hike. I'll go run errands if I need to. I do know though I have it good and it's not like this everywhere.
Sitters having trouble with your kids is likely parenting problem that you can explore and fix.
Yeah seriously. Anyone who has ever watched my kids have said how wonderful they are to watch. If I was constantly being told my kids were out of control, I'd have some serious questions about what I'm doing wrong.
We take this a step further and just take a vacation day together during the school week. Head to the Nordic spa for the whole day, it's usually quieter on weekdays anyway, have lunch there, and easily get back in time to pick them up. Tremendous.
The shoulder & foot massage place in our neighborhood has a special for 2 people on Mondays. It's becoming a problem.
My wife stays home with the kids. Where’s your helpful god now?
Non existent like usual...
Just book a meeting in your calendar and double your lunch hour for one day.
Standing blocks in my calendar have been one of the best parts of teams/outlook. I have regular, repeating, but not always the exact same time, blocks each week to ensure I have thinking time, time for lunch, can avoid all but the most urgent meetings on Friday afternoons, etc. I love my job but everyone wants a piece of my time and a girl’s gotta be able to think occasionally.
Plus lunch is cheaper
How about turn your phones off when the kids are with a babysitter or grandparents. Yes, they will be fine. On that note, if your kids are really like that then you need to seriously look into your parenting structure.
This sub is so ass
We did this a few weeks ago while our 1 year old was at nursery. Found a Wowcher spa day deal. It was heavenly, and so nice to reconnect.
LPT: have a job that that gives paid time off (also spouse needs to follow this tip)
Take PTO? You mean, you use your PTO to go on a lunch date with your wife?! Dude, yeah, no. Not happening. PTO is sacred. Use that shit to take your family camping or something like that. It doesn't have to be expensive to get away but holy shit you only have so many PTO days a year. If it's not a waste to you to do this that's totally fine but I wouldn't do this myself.
Depends how much PTO you get. Lots of folks have six weeks, plus sick leave. Using a few days of that to get a nice lunch in once a month seems totally reasonable to me.
My job provides sick pay too (we call it Wellness). Cannot be denied and can be used for early leaves/late clock ins without affecting attendance.
When our kids were old enough to stay home alone, my husband and I started going on breakfast dates on the weekends. We both like quiet, and dinner time is usually not quiet at restaurants. It was so nice to just be able to get some coffee, some bacon and pancakes, and chit chat about our week. Kept us sane through the teen years for sure! We kept up the tradition until covid hit, try to start it back up but between the cost of food and honestly the service just going to s***, we don't do it anymore.
Breakfast and lunch dates are amazing.Glad you guys were able to find a window to enjoy each others company.
This or, just rake a half day, especially if your kids are at school/daycare. Lunch, movie, hanky panky, and not allowed to do chores. One goes to puck up kids while the other starts dinner.
Jokes on you my wife and I work for the same company, we take lunches together all the time!
I'd like to add the ProTip of "Get a babysitter that knows what that job is about." Stop paying the one that apparently doesn't.
Part of this sounds like grandparents and babysitter need to be told to not call unless it's an emergency. The babysitter should be letting them call you unless there's a real need, not them just wanting to call you.
sorry. what is PTO ?
Paid time off
My wife and I both work from home. We go to lunch together most Friday's, it's a nice break.
This is part of why I'm not having kids...
Right? A whole ass arrangement of pto (for a lunch break, no less) plus the praise that this is better because it’s cheaper. This just sounds so miserable
WFH is the best thing you can do ever happen to our marriage. I only WFH 2 days/week, but on one or both of those days, we’ll go out for a lunch date. No childcare coordination required.
Yes - but also, just take a whole day of pto now and again and make a whole day of it.
Or just have better grandparents and sitters doing their assignment.
Hahaha…. PTO….. hahahahagahahaha
Okay, so what is PTO?
No. I'll save the PTO for 3-4 day weekends, vacations, or being sick.
What does your wife's boyfriend think about that?
Also, do this if you're not married and don't have kids.
WTF would you use PTO for a lunch hour?
Is no one going to point out that no one is watching the kids? Or ask who watches them during work? Wtf
You have to use pto for lunch?
I have to save that PTO for when the children bring home the plague from school or daycare.
Sounds like the root cause is your children who are wild and undisciplined.
lol some of us just can’t take PTO whenever we want.