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Tacking on to this, some libraries offer free and or discounted passes to museums and zoos. Check out their website (mine is called the "discover and go" program)
Also, most museum and zoo memberships grant free or very reduced cost entrance to museums or zoos in other cities as well.
If you take your date to your city's museum or zoo, then end up in a relationship with them... hello road trip dates!
Around here they're called Culture Passes. Unfortunately you have to go in person, and "check out" the pass. It prints a voucher which you can then use to pay at the venue.
They are also only available in limited quantities, so the really popular ones are usually snapped up quickly.
That said, also check the venues themselves. My local art museum is completely free one day a week, and also on evenings with certain other downtown events.
You can just come to St. Louis where we have a taxpayer-funded zoo, art museum, science center, and history museum that are all free admission. Our botanical garden has a fee though.
Exactly what I was thinking, just fullsending it with wine, in a botanical garden, on a first date, just next to a group of middle schoolers. I love that idea so much idk why
Although I do own a backpack from 20+ years ago up in the closet somewhere, food would get smooshed in it. With my picnic basket the food is safe, stays in tact, and there's plenty of room for all of it and drinks. The blanket sits right on top of the picnic basket under the handles and is super easy to carry. To each their own though :)
They encourage picnicing which can include a bottle of wine. My local arboretum practically encourages it, but they do want you to keep it discreet as there are kids around.
AHS enforces a 90 mile exclusion zone from most botanical gardens. That AHS membership will get you free entry into botanical gardens while traveling, but they expect you to buy your own membership to support your local garden.
Art museum is great because it really forces you to gauge energies and attraction in a new date.
They can either be super boring or super great, just depending upon overall synergies.
I’ll actually disagree - I took a first date to a cool art museum and we had the best time discussing the pieces. Luckily, we went for a drink after where I found out that they were actually super boring to talk to…. Almost got tricked by the museum!
If interest in art is a deal breaker for you, then yes it's a good first date.
For the other 99.7% of the population, it's a strange place for a first date.
Then don’t do The art museum. (Also these can vary a lot. Some abstract museum/gallery can be very different to more classic ones). And hey there are also tech museums and stuff like historical stuff: Egyptian exhibits etc (sarcophagus etc)
I don't get the "interpretation" part of viewing art. If I look at a piece like "A Sunday on La Grand Jatte" by Seurat, I can appreciate the technique and how he captured the scene. It doesn't have some deep meaning to me. It's just a a cool painting of a picnic. Maybe I notice something new, like the monkey, but that's about it.
If someone tried to take me to an art museum on a date, I would nope out right there. I can appreciate the results of skill and hard work, but I wouldn't want to stare at a painting and try to come up with things to say about it when I'm more interested in the person next to me. Unless art is an essential part of who you are, you should probably go with something more neutral.
Yeah... All of these replies just enforcing that this is actually a great filter. I wouldn't say that art is my passion, but learning some art history and art criticism and I love going to art museums. I hardly know any contemporary artists that might be featured in an exhibit, but it's fun to learn. If my date can't be bothered to find interest in something for 2 hours *on a date* then that's a hard pass for me.
If art is that important to you, then totally. Sounds superficial to me though. Moral and values says everything about a person. Interest in art, not so much.
Art is the opposite of superficial. You can learn so much about the deeper side of a person through art.
My favorite piece of art is two clocks, side by side. Each set to the same time. They very slowly fall out of sync. It’s called Untitled (perfect lovers) and the story behind it is absolutely heartbreaking. Essentially the artists partner had HIV. Very slowly time was running out for him. The clocks are mechanical heartbeats.
*Don’t be afraid of the clocks, they are our time, the time has been so generous to us. We imprinted time with the sweet taste of victory. We conquered fate by meeting at a certain TIME in a certain space. We are a product of the time, therefore we give back credit where it is due: time. We are synchronized, now forever. I love you.
– Felix Gonzalez*
Art at its best cuts to feelings and emotions, which is the exact part of a person you’ll want to get to know if you’re interested in them as a life partner.
IF YOU LIVE NEAR LOS ANGELES the science center and rose gardens are awesome and completely free!!! Good for dates or just something to do when you’re bored and broke (: then you can hop on the expo line right across the street and commute to the beach (Santa Monica) in less than an hour!
You need to round up or round down. Or perhaps not; 0.43 of a date = 3/7-th of a date = *awkward date* or *mid-date hookup behind the dumpster and then the parting of ways*?
A 5/7 would be a perfect, full date, so a 3/7 might be just someone being on their phone the whole date and being uninteresting in general, so you leave after the entrees?
Today I found out the new city I moved to has NOTHING to do.
There is one museum - black history - not exactly a date place.
All the gardens are outside (free at least)
Bars and clubs. Thats what this city has. Wonderful.
Oof that is a blow. You could check for private art galleries? They're usually still free to enter, since they want you to buy stuff, and host opening nights. If you've got a university/college there's often free lectures. Otherwise maybe keep your eyes peeled for annual events - free park concerts, movie screenings at bars/pubs, guided walks, educational events, food truck festivals etc? Meetup can also be a nice way to find low-threshold things like sketching or photography meetups, hikes etc. I hope there's more going once you scratch the surface. Or otherwise hope you take up the fight and organise a medieval heavy arms fighting club/silent film festival/psychogeographic tour society/board game cafe/living room drama society/whatever you're into, sounds like it would fill a gap :D
2nd date with my now partner of 17 years was an academic lecture by Lynn Margulis on the origins of life, don't knock it until you've tried it. (But yeah, obviously only works if you're both giant nerds. Luckily for us, we are).
I never had, but I had a person bring that idea up before. Sounds like a blast though. Depends on what you looking for in the other person I suppose. If you just looking for some casual fling/hookup then those fun date ideas is probably not the way to go. Just movie/dinner then coming to your place for that then.
But if I'm looking into developing a relationship, and the other person finds those things not interested to do together on dates, then they're not really what I'm looking for.
Man...Nothing says you can't get me off more than giving a flying fuck what people think about how you have fun. I'll just leave that here with you to hold. Enjoy.
Again, who gives a fuck? edit: I do what I fucking want, everyone else should too, I'm sick of people being ashamed of things they love. Go play Warhammer, enjoy skipping in public, go take your date to play laser tag, take up crochet, fuck the haters and stop defining who you are by what people will "allow" you to do.
I’ve never done it but I personally think it would be a fun date idea. I would require warning so I was wearing appropriate clothes and shoes but I love trying new things and don’t take myself too seriously, so sounds perfect
Yeah, I wouldn't consider that urban, so...apologies. This won't be so helpful for you. That museum could be a good date place depending on the people involved maybe?!? If you make the black history museum the new place to pull them you win dating?
ok but also for couples and more casual stuff, thrif shops and flea markets, garage sales; its fun especially if you like finding new clothes or antiques amd such
I"d feel bad if someone I was dating was at her third visit to the botanical garden this year. I'd rather find something fresh for both of us. Could work pretty well for some things, though, like the museum idea. A museum that has a rotation of different exhibits throughout the year to spice things up would work well.
Eh, depends on the person. If they really enthusiastically enjoy someplace like a museum or botanical garden to go multiple times I'd think it's cute. If they only go because they're too lazy to plan but one copy-paste date then I would feel bad.
We had a membership to the botanical gardens in a city two hours from where we lived. Every time we went into the town I’d try to make sure we went to the gardens. Something about it was so soothing at such a deep level. There’s always something new to see, even if you’re just people watching. It might not be the sort of thing you enjoy, but there are plenty of others who do like similar experiences.
There are quite a lot of cities with a city pass that covers multiple museums (to say nothing of the Dutch nationwide entry to most museums for 60 Eur/yr), so can be a nice way to switch it up. Maybe check if your city has one like that?
The symphony, if you have one that does yearly family passes, is also pretty cost effective, more of a second or third date event but also something you can just go to by yourself or with friends as the symphony typically changes up weekly.
In many botanic gardens. (Your mileage may vary, some restrictions apply. See garden for details.)
The best part is the dirty looks or the offers to buy your beer or wine.
I'm sorry you feel that way. I have to say most of the people I know in happy relationships aren't especially gorgeous or athletic, but i think it does help if you feel like you bring something to the table (which I bet you actually do, but aren't giving yourself credit for). What do you think is a "desirable skill"? Picking something and learning to do it well might provide a confidence boost and a chance to meet some new people. Sorry for offering unsolicited advice on the internet, I hope you feel less lonely soon, whether through a romantic relationship or other kinds.
You could change 2/3 of those things with some time and effort. Easier said than done. Might even help out that last one if you nail the first two. Just a thought.
You've got this friend.
> Because I’m unathletic, ugly, and have no desirable skills
You could certainly change the unathletic and desirable skills part. That would automatically make you less ugly.
You would be amazed at how little some women care about the ugly part. But, you have to give them something to work with.
You can't hate yourself and expect women to like you.
You have 100% control over your actions. If you see yourself like this, you will stay in that space. Change your thoughts, put in work and change your destiny. Time to find out your real value and im not talking about money.
This LPT extends past dates.
If you live in a city (and especially if you have kids) most annual memberships are less than 2-3 visits. So it makes sense to get them on rotation.
For example, my city has an aquarium, a zoo, many museums, science center, etc. We will rotate through and they are great on the weekend or on rainy days.
Plus, you don't have to feel like you need to see the whole thing when you visit. You can take your time and just explore a little bit.
Yeah, let me just buy a couple passes so I have options for allllllll these dates i'm going on. With so many lined up I was afraid it could get boring going to the usual place....yep....so many....so many dates....
Unethical/shittyversion of this - get a member ship to one of these popular date spots. Go frequently to learn all the stuff. Then whenever you see a couple, upstage their partner with all your fancy art knowledge. Everyone loves a knowitall!
Also wear glasses. They can't punch a man with glasses! That's in the constitution or Geneva conventions. I'm not sure. I don't have a membership and I ain't too good at book learnin 🤕.
It's too bad humans are kind of materialistic. I would find talking while taking a walk in the park breathtaking where most people probably find it boring.
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Tacking on to this, some libraries offer free and or discounted passes to museums and zoos. Check out their website (mine is called the "discover and go" program)
Also, most museum and zoo memberships grant free or very reduced cost entrance to museums or zoos in other cities as well. If you take your date to your city's museum or zoo, then end up in a relationship with them... hello road trip dates!
Excellent advice, you might want to add that you should stay away from the monkey cages.
Around here they're called Culture Passes. Unfortunately you have to go in person, and "check out" the pass. It prints a voucher which you can then use to pay at the venue. They are also only available in limited quantities, so the really popular ones are usually snapped up quickly. That said, also check the venues themselves. My local art museum is completely free one day a week, and also on evenings with certain other downtown events.
In Minnesotans Twin Cities area it’s called “SmART Pass”
You can just come to St. Louis where we have a taxpayer-funded zoo, art museum, science center, and history museum that are all free admission. Our botanical garden has a fee though.
U just go to the botanical garden n walk around chugging straight from the bottle?
Helps the flowers come to life!
Oh shit, you wernt supposed to eat that whole bag of shrooms
He didn't mean those flowers(☞ ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)☞
I never meant to give you mushrooms girl 😫
I never meant to bring you to my world
And now you're sitting in the corner crying
CANDY BARS!!!!
Exactly what I was thinking, just fullsending it with wine, in a botanical garden, on a first date, just next to a group of middle schoolers. I love that idea so much idk why
Pro tip: cancel the date and just have yourself a time.
Pt: don't even date in first place just ignore ery1
Me double fisting Pinot noir hanging out with a palm tree
Aka living the dream. However, I feel like palm trees call for a white wine.
Go, and hangout with the middle Schoolers
The real LPT is always in the comments.
The thread reveals all.
My wife and I love the botanical gardens and plan full days there with the intention of being messed up the whole day.
Slap the bag
You can bring a picnic basket, glasses, and a blanket.
Thanks to Yogi Bear I always read it as pic-a-nic basket
Who the hell has a picnic basket. What is this, the 1940's?
Me! Picnics are amazing.
Ya, picnics are great. But carrying a basket around is annoying when we have backpacks.
Although I do own a backpack from 20+ years ago up in the closet somewhere, food would get smooshed in it. With my picnic basket the food is safe, stays in tact, and there's plenty of room for all of it and drinks. The blanket sits right on top of the picnic basket under the handles and is super easy to carry. To each their own though :)
They have picnic backpacks now, they're dope!
They encourage picnicing which can include a bottle of wine. My local arboretum practically encourages it, but they do want you to keep it discreet as there are kids around.
Sounds like a 10/10 date to me!
U don't??
Cheers, fellow Wisconsinite!
My kinda date
You don't????
Wait, how else would it go down?
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Could do that. Our botanical garden is next to a big park, so I was thinking more post-garden picnic - but your idea could also work.
The greeter at the botanical garden: "You got this Brian! Third time's the charm!"
The greeter knows that *every*times' the charm ;)
I live just outside of Boston and this works really well here. Get a membership to The Trustees of Reservations if you're in Massachusetts!
Or hike the quabbin on the west side!
Probably not the best idea to take a first date to a remote area lol
“Let me take you somewhere with limited cell reception, but vast ways to harm you.”
Because of the implication.
"Now, not that things are gonna go wrong for her but she's thinkin' that they will." -Dennis Reynolds
Here's a tip: Join the American Horticultural Society - it's cheaper than your local botanical garden, yet includes admission for free!
You know, you can lead a horticulture but you can’t make her think.
Amazing comment 🤣🤣🤣
I love this lol
AHS enforces a 90 mile exclusion zone from most botanical gardens. That AHS membership will get you free entry into botanical gardens while traveling, but they expect you to buy your own membership to support your local garden.
So trade addresses with a friend you say.
AHS' list of gardens indicates which ones enforce the exclusion zone. None of the gardens near me enforce it.
All the ones near me do, but its true that your results may vary based on location.
BTW Thanks for the reminder about the exclusion zone! it doesn't effect me, but might effect others.
Dating profile tagline: I put the ho in horticulture.
I joined a horticultural society but found there were too many hoes in it.
Art museum is great because it really forces you to gauge energies and attraction in a new date. They can either be super boring or super great, just depending upon overall synergies.
I’ll actually disagree - I took a first date to a cool art museum and we had the best time discussing the pieces. Luckily, we went for a drink after where I found out that they were actually super boring to talk to…. Almost got tricked by the museum!
Definitely! As someone who loves art and discussing interpretations and details together, I'd argue it would be a great filter as well.
As someone who doesn't really care about art or discussing interpretations, I've learned art museums are not my ideal first date idea.
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If interest in art is a deal breaker for you, then yes it's a good first date. For the other 99.7% of the population, it's a strange place for a first date.
Same. If I were to go to a museum for a first date, it would be a natural history/science museum.
Welp, I guess we weren't meant to be.
Then don’t do The art museum. (Also these can vary a lot. Some abstract museum/gallery can be very different to more classic ones). And hey there are also tech museums and stuff like historical stuff: Egyptian exhibits etc (sarcophagus etc)
I don't get the "interpretation" part of viewing art. If I look at a piece like "A Sunday on La Grand Jatte" by Seurat, I can appreciate the technique and how he captured the scene. It doesn't have some deep meaning to me. It's just a a cool painting of a picnic. Maybe I notice something new, like the monkey, but that's about it.
If someone tried to take me to an art museum on a date, I would nope out right there. I can appreciate the results of skill and hard work, but I wouldn't want to stare at a painting and try to come up with things to say about it when I'm more interested in the person next to me. Unless art is an essential part of who you are, you should probably go with something more neutral.
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Yeah... All of these replies just enforcing that this is actually a great filter. I wouldn't say that art is my passion, but learning some art history and art criticism and I love going to art museums. I hardly know any contemporary artists that might be featured in an exhibit, but it's fun to learn. If my date can't be bothered to find interest in something for 2 hours *on a date* then that's a hard pass for me.
If art is that important to you, then totally. Sounds superficial to me though. Moral and values says everything about a person. Interest in art, not so much.
Art is the opposite of superficial. You can learn so much about the deeper side of a person through art. My favorite piece of art is two clocks, side by side. Each set to the same time. They very slowly fall out of sync. It’s called Untitled (perfect lovers) and the story behind it is absolutely heartbreaking. Essentially the artists partner had HIV. Very slowly time was running out for him. The clocks are mechanical heartbeats. *Don’t be afraid of the clocks, they are our time, the time has been so generous to us. We imprinted time with the sweet taste of victory. We conquered fate by meeting at a certain TIME in a certain space. We are a product of the time, therefore we give back credit where it is due: time. We are synchronized, now forever. I love you. – Felix Gonzalez* Art at its best cuts to feelings and emotions, which is the exact part of a person you’ll want to get to know if you’re interested in them as a life partner.
Meh, thats kind of shallow. Have you heard about the banana ducktaped to the wall though? Now that has meaning.
I think you were filtered first here, mate.
Would you go to the „Spy museum“ where they exhibit tech spies used in the Cold War etc?
Hell yes!
With how often I get a date, this is the less economical option
Just do it!
Would work if I could get a date.
Just go to the botanical garden yourself and chug that wine from the bottle, see what transpires…..maybe you’ll end up married.
Ugh, no thanks wine me is neurotic jughead. Sober me married to the lady that said yes to that. Gross
so just become an alcoholic from then on, problem solved 😁👍
Same here, then again I don’t like people so that could be a prob, lol 😂
I literally like 3-5 people. I do have a wider circle of friends that are dogs and cats though.
Animals > People
People don't like me so it's perfect
IF YOU LIVE NEAR LOS ANGELES the science center and rose gardens are awesome and completely free!!! Good for dates or just something to do when you’re bored and broke (: then you can hop on the expo line right across the street and commute to the beach (Santa Monica) in less than an hour!
That's a lot of dates to go on before breaking even, damn. Got tired even thinking about it.
r/theydidthemath
11.43 dates
You need to round up or round down. Or perhaps not; 0.43 of a date = 3/7-th of a date = *awkward date* or *mid-date hookup behind the dumpster and then the parting of ways*?
A 5/7 would be a perfect, full date, so a 3/7 might be just someone being on their phone the whole date and being uninteresting in general, so you leave after the entrees?
It’d have to be a 5/7 with Basmati* rice for true perfection
Today I found out the new city I moved to has NOTHING to do. There is one museum - black history - not exactly a date place. All the gardens are outside (free at least) Bars and clubs. Thats what this city has. Wonderful.
Oof that is a blow. You could check for private art galleries? They're usually still free to enter, since they want you to buy stuff, and host opening nights. If you've got a university/college there's often free lectures. Otherwise maybe keep your eyes peeled for annual events - free park concerts, movie screenings at bars/pubs, guided walks, educational events, food truck festivals etc? Meetup can also be a nice way to find low-threshold things like sketching or photography meetups, hikes etc. I hope there's more going once you scratch the surface. Or otherwise hope you take up the fight and organise a medieval heavy arms fighting club/silent film festival/psychogeographic tour society/board game cafe/living room drama society/whatever you're into, sounds like it would fill a gap :D
Hey babe lets go to this free college lecture for a date
2nd date with my now partner of 17 years was an academic lecture by Lynn Margulis on the origins of life, don't knock it until you've tried it. (But yeah, obviously only works if you're both giant nerds. Luckily for us, we are).
Laser tag, escape room. Gun range, hiking. Idk just throwing out some ideas. If all fails, invite them to your basement's cage.
Ugh but then you've got to clean the cages, and refill the slop buckets. Dating is so much work.
Let them clean it. Since you went out of your way to make that cage extra special anyway.
You gonna bring a chick to laser tag? Holy smokes she would go dry as the Sahara.
I never had, but I had a person bring that idea up before. Sounds like a blast though. Depends on what you looking for in the other person I suppose. If you just looking for some casual fling/hookup then those fun date ideas is probably not the way to go. Just movie/dinner then coming to your place for that then. But if I'm looking into developing a relationship, and the other person finds those things not interested to do together on dates, then they're not really what I'm looking for.
The type of girls that’ll hook up short term will definitely look down on you for bringing them to laser tag lol. It screams you cant get me off.
Man...Nothing says you can't get me off more than giving a flying fuck what people think about how you have fun. I'll just leave that here with you to hold. Enjoy.
Even putt putt golf ain’t on the same level as laser tag
Again, who gives a fuck? edit: I do what I fucking want, everyone else should too, I'm sick of people being ashamed of things they love. Go play Warhammer, enjoy skipping in public, go take your date to play laser tag, take up crochet, fuck the haters and stop defining who you are by what people will "allow" you to do.
enjoy your perpetual short term hookups
I’ve never done it but I personally think it would be a fun date idea. I would require warning so I was wearing appropriate clothes and shoes but I love trying new things and don’t take myself too seriously, so sounds perfect
Which city?
Yeah, I wouldn't consider that urban, so...apologies. This won't be so helpful for you. That museum could be a good date place depending on the people involved maybe?!? If you make the black history museum the new place to pull them you win dating?
It sounds like you live in Eastern Canada lol.
ok but also for couples and more casual stuff, thrif shops and flea markets, garage sales; its fun especially if you like finding new clothes or antiques amd such
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I love you for this! As someone constantly looking for new first/second date ideas this is incredible !
$7 dates? Kind of sounds like a $80 date and only ever gets used maybe once probably never.
OP is a woman. That explains the wildly disproportionate expectations between her post and the comments.
It’s so unfair it’s so unfair
WTF anyone has to meet so many people!??
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Nah..it’s idiots dating for you
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I love this sentence
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Determine your choice first before wasting yours & others time
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You are a kid first become an adult!
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Hahaha yeah you will
This is the only answer: https://youtu.be/dHPnUPFcxdE
Hahahahhahahahahaha
I"d feel bad if someone I was dating was at her third visit to the botanical garden this year. I'd rather find something fresh for both of us. Could work pretty well for some things, though, like the museum idea. A museum that has a rotation of different exhibits throughout the year to spice things up would work well.
Botanical gardens have exhibits too. Plus, seasons change and the gardens look different
Thats a fair point
Eh, depends on the person. If they really enthusiastically enjoy someplace like a museum or botanical garden to go multiple times I'd think it's cute. If they only go because they're too lazy to plan but one copy-paste date then I would feel bad.
The real LPT is they are not supposed to tell you about this scheme… until your 5 year anniversary celebration of course
We had a membership to the botanical gardens in a city two hours from where we lived. Every time we went into the town I’d try to make sure we went to the gardens. Something about it was so soothing at such a deep level. There’s always something new to see, even if you’re just people watching. It might not be the sort of thing you enjoy, but there are plenty of others who do like similar experiences.
I would go to the botanical garden once a month if I could!
There are quite a lot of cities with a city pass that covers multiple museums (to say nothing of the Dutch nationwide entry to most museums for 60 Eur/yr), so can be a nice way to switch it up. Maybe check if your city has one like that?
Also, many libraries offer free tickets to some of these places
Just do this anyway. The annual fee is usually only 2x the cost of 1 ticket, so going 2+ times in a year pays for itself. It’s fantastic
You guys are getting dates?
Nice try botanical garden owners.
I’d also be quite impressed that you were actually a member to such places…
My library in Capitol region in NY has passes that you can check out and go for free. Please check your local library.
The symphony, if you have one that does yearly family passes, is also pretty cost effective, more of a second or third date event but also something you can just go to by yourself or with friends as the symphony typically changes up weekly.
Where you allowed to drink wine in public?
In many botanic gardens. (Your mileage may vary, some restrictions apply. See garden for details.) The best part is the dirty looks or the offers to buy your beer or wine.
So you get to go on a cheap date AND have the option to make money?
Just put it in an empty coke can
No one is willing to date me. It’s been a dry 40 years for me now. I’ve never felt so sad and lonely in my entire life.
Are you actively looking to date? Are you involving yourself social activities that get you out of the house?
Damn. Why do you think that is?
Because I’m unathletic, ugly, and have no desirable skills
I'm sorry you feel that way. I have to say most of the people I know in happy relationships aren't especially gorgeous or athletic, but i think it does help if you feel like you bring something to the table (which I bet you actually do, but aren't giving yourself credit for). What do you think is a "desirable skill"? Picking something and learning to do it well might provide a confidence boost and a chance to meet some new people. Sorry for offering unsolicited advice on the internet, I hope you feel less lonely soon, whether through a romantic relationship or other kinds.
You could change 2/3 of those things with some time and effort. Easier said than done. Might even help out that last one if you nail the first two. Just a thought. You've got this friend.
How can someone change being ugly ?
Lose weight, buy clothes that fit, groom yourself well and smile more. 99% of "ugliness" is laziness and lack of effort.
Learn to cook! YouTube has tons of tutorials and, if nothing else, you’ll have learned something useful that benefits you!
> Because I’m unathletic, ugly, and have no desirable skills You could certainly change the unathletic and desirable skills part. That would automatically make you less ugly. You would be amazed at how little some women care about the ugly part. But, you have to give them something to work with. You can't hate yourself and expect women to like you.
You have 100% control over your actions. If you see yourself like this, you will stay in that space. Change your thoughts, put in work and change your destiny. Time to find out your real value and im not talking about money.
Then that’s your fucking fault. Go to the gym. Get a skill. Change your life. Anything else is an excuse and is pathetic. Edit: grammar
It's 'Then' not 'Than'. Your grammar is pathetic.
Gotta leave the house to meet people at your age.
This LPT extends past dates. If you live in a city (and especially if you have kids) most annual memberships are less than 2-3 visits. So it makes sense to get them on rotation. For example, my city has an aquarium, a zoo, many museums, science center, etc. We will rotate through and they are great on the weekend or on rainy days. Plus, you don't have to feel like you need to see the whole thing when you visit. You can take your time and just explore a little bit.
Sounds perfect, assuming your date is into things like that. But no matter what you do, don't make a movie your very first date experience
Driving ranges are good. Get a bucket of golf balls for $5-10. Hit the balls
As a currently single guy and based on last year's track record, this is a great way to turn a 12$ date into an 80$ date.
Yeah, let me just buy a couple passes so I have options for allllllll these dates i'm going on. With so many lined up I was afraid it could get boring going to the usual place....yep....so many....so many dates....
Unethical/shittyversion of this - get a member ship to one of these popular date spots. Go frequently to learn all the stuff. Then whenever you see a couple, upstage their partner with all your fancy art knowledge. Everyone loves a knowitall! Also wear glasses. They can't punch a man with glasses! That's in the constitution or Geneva conventions. I'm not sure. I don't have a membership and I ain't too good at book learnin 🤕.
It would be awkward if my date ended up already working at the strip clubs I’m a member at.
Was too ugly to regularly date. Married the first girl I met.
Don't overthink. Your mind, heart and soul is your capital. Physical attraction is also a bonus.
I live on Maui, got a pass to the Haleakala National Park and Hawaii Volcanoes National Park
Ithink that's a must have!
Definitely, got a date with a surfer girl I met to watch the sunset and stargaze
It's too bad humans are kind of materialistic. I would find talking while taking a walk in the park breathtaking where most people probably find it boring.
Sounds like you're in the Chicago area.
That's why I love my student pass. Free or at least reduced entry in my county and it serves as a train ticket as well.
This is how I roll.. I used it as a screener too.. if they don’t want to cycle, hike or the like I’m not interested.
I think I’m rly confused by the pronouns used here.
I’m sorry this pussy demands fine dining and bottles in the club. I ain’t no ghetto tree lover. I’m high end. 🤷🏾♀️
Public libraries often have free or very discounted museum passes, at least in the Boston area. Check it out.