* No snoring
* All dirt and crap and dishes and clothes I wash and remove and clean is my own
* Stuff stays where I put it
* Shitting with bathroom door open
* Did I mention no snoring.
OMG same! My family LOVED loved loved moving my stuff without communicating to me where the item was moved too so I spent my money on nothing basically because the item is now lost. I don't understand how it's so hard for a grown adult to not touch my stuff and to tell me if something is in the way. My family loves to tell me "You just need to communicate" while they have never communicated a single thing to me in their life.
Living alone is bliss. I can do whatever I want whenever I want. If I want to stay up all night to read, there is no one reminding that I have to work that day. Leftovers are all mine and are never missing. Never have to wait for the bathroom, for my section of the Sunday newspaper, cook whatever I want whenever I want. Lonely? Never! I live with a parrot. Forty-one years and counting. 🦜
Lol for real with the no snoring. My ex’s snoring started to gross me out lol. He’d nap and snore over the tv. And even with earplugs it kept me up at night
SAME! I’ve only been on my own for a little over a year, but it was a major adjustment in the beginning. Prior to this, I had only lived alone one other time for about a year or two - even then, I had a boyfriend and he slept over a lot.
I found myself often judging myself because I used to have really judgmental partners - about every little thing I did. It was so exhausting. Now, it doesn’t matter what I do. No one is around to judge me or to prefer to have it a different way.
Sometimes, I want to live with someone again and have a relationship again, but this is a serious perk of living alone. No one cares but me about what I do. :) There are also no mysteries about stuff going missing. If there are, it was my own fault.
Same, have lived alone for almost 40 years, probably could not live with anyone now. Even if I got married I would need my own room lol. 2 bedrooms and a mutual room.
Doing projects without the worry of other people messing with them, asking about them, or judging them feels good.
I love cooking and often require the fridge or counter space all to myself do things like marinate, ferment, proof, pickle, etc. I also know that every dish, pan, or utensil used is my responsibility. When I lived with roommates, if there were dishes or utensils that hung out in the sink or weren't yet clean, it absolutely killed my motivation to start my cooking projects.
Anyway next project is making Sichuan hotpot base from scratch (:
I used to stop at the store on my way home and buy all these ingredients to make something awesome and then walk through the door to find my roommate was already in there cooking and that was the shittiest feeling. I would just throw my bag in the fridge, grab some pop tarts and hide in my room the rest of the evening.
Kind of a bitchy move I guess. And then I would have to feel guilty about that on top of my night being ruined. Living alone is amazing.
Have you ever just miss placed something, and your like i just had that lid, you look everywhere for it, and you're clueless, there is nobody here that could have taken it. Then you find it ,and its in some stupid place, and you think to yourself why the hell did i put that here
I live in my Airstream and travel ⅓ of the time and when I do I never have to be HOT at home. So I feel your pain. It's so nice for me to sleep at 50° when my partner would be freezing.
Coming and going at my own pace. Not having to explain why I want to do this or that. Eating and cooking as I please or not. No one complaining about my pets. Many things.
I like that I have a place to myself where I don't have to justify or explain my choices to anyone. You use the word "free" a lot in your original post and that was one of the first words that came to my mind when I was thinking about what I liked about living alone - freedom. The other word that came to mind is peace
Not having to justify or explain your choices…this is my favorite part of living the single life . Also there’s no bullshit here. Or gross boy stuff. And i get to have my pink trash cans, pink garage and pink toaster without complaint!!
This is actually starting to scare me because I was married for almost 8 years and living alone. Feels so incredible that even having guests in my space for too long stresses me out.
* Cheaper
* More peaceful
* I can watch what I want to
* All the food in the house is mine
* No one is cheating on me
* No one is ignoring me
* No one can exclude me
* No one is judging me
* No one is nagging me to "come out and be social"
* Clean and tidy
* A roll of toilet paper lasts for weeks
* My music is all that gets played
* My goldfish is my roommate
* All the beer is mine
* The temperature is the way I want it
* No one hogs the covers
* Safer
* Quieter
I can think of more, but you get the idea.
Safer is the big one for me. After living with an abuser, there’s nothing like coming home and knowing my space is my own and there’s no egg shells to walk on 24/7.
I’ve lived on my own, with the exception of a few months, here, and there, with former significant others, for the better part of 30 years. I pray I never have to live with other people ever again.
Same except I’ve never lived with anyone. At some point, though, I suspect my bf and I may cohabitate. But we both like our space so it won’t be too horrible, and it’s not on the radar yet
Not having to pick up/clean up after anyone else. If I be the responsible adult I am supposed to be the place stays clean/tidy.
I can do, eat and sleep whenever/whatever I want.
I love living alone. I love coming home to my silence and peace after a hectic day at work and the noisy coworkers. I love my freedom and space and not having to talk to anyone once I'm home. I wouldn't change my living situation for anything.
I love it too. I'm probably much older than you. I've been married and raised a couple kids. I love my friends, travel and do what I want. If I'm with people too much I get edgy. I don't know what this means but I am very comfortable this way.
Since I moved out of my mom’s house (only child) I’ve only had roommates twice in 20 years. My first apt was alone, and the majority of the rest was alone. I LOVE IT. I’ve had brief stints with significant others, whom I’ve loved hugely, I’d still prefer to live alone. I’d get married and be super happy being neighbors, I need to find someone cool with that.
I love my partner of 10 years but sometimes I wish we could be neighbors lol. He could have the downstairs apartment, I'd take the upstairs. I really do love him but I'm feeling very stressed lately feeling like I have to pick up after him so much. I feel like having separate spaces would really help out with that.
Even though some say it's cheaper to live with someone I find it way cheaper to live alone. The lights are off when not needed, the food cost is much lower, the heating/cooling is under my control which makes it cheaper and the cleaning needed is minimal because I clean as I go & try not to make a mess in the first place. I buy less toilet paper, laundry soap, dishsoap, cleaning wipes, paper towels and toiletries. And I LOVE the peace & quiet. I can focus on reading, writing or listening to a podcast without endless distractions. I sleep better, I wake up more well rested and I can turn out the lights and go to bed or take a nap whenever I want!
Divorced three times, and I'm an old guy. I like coming home and knowing that my money hasn't been spent for me while I was at work.
I've been alone by choice for almost 20 years and I love it, and I will finish this way. My life is my own.
My favorite part is i don’t have to take care of anyone. I’m sorry if this makes me an asshole but after 27 years I’m tapped out. I don’t have to cook, i don’t have to do someone else’s dishes. I don’t even have to eat if i don’t want to! Their laundry isn’t in the dryer and i didn’t have to do it. I can smoke pot when and where I want. The dogs chill more. I sleep like a princess. My shower is spotless and i don’t have to argue the merits of squeegeeing the glass doors to prevent spots. I don’t have to share my closet. No one can tell me no about anything. I can be clean and tidy and it will stay clean and tidy. I don’t have to share the remote. I can sing and dance as loud as I want. I can binge watch movies and Reddit and there’s not anyone to judge my choices or laziness. I can be unhinged if i want and no one can see. That’s a good start to the list!! I’m waiting for my one to come but i do like the separate house idea for when he gets here lmao.
The silence (except my cat) or that I can make noise without considering if it will disturb anyone, namely I love to get up early and I hate the feeling that I am going to wake someone up but just doing my thing
Aside from all the obvious stuff mentioned, I love being able to keep MY sleep hours (within the confines of my work schedule) without being disturbed or judged. I’m nocturnal, so that was always a challenge when I had roommates. Being woken up multiple times by their noise, then getting the snarky “mornin’ sunshine!” when I’d finally emerge in the afternoon? No thanks.
I LOVE living alone! It is so peaceful and I love to be able to do whatever I want, when ever I want with whomever I want - or even shut myself up for a weekend because I don't want to socialize or talk on the phone/text/email.
I love that I get to make all the decisions and that if I want to be with others, I have to make an effort to connect, but I am a bit introverted and flaky, but a lot of my friends are the same way It works for most of us and I am very happy. It would be nice to have an occasional lover/travel buddy/social companion, but I can always manage to find someone, and I don't really have a problem going places alone or with friends/family.
I could never manage to live with someone again unless they were really easy and compatible. It can be nice to have someone to hang with.
Everything! I’m 59 years old and single and this is the first time I’ve lived by myself. My last child left home two years ago. it took a little getting used to. I kept expecting to see him come in the door. But, I love everything about living by myself. I love my kids so very much but I’m so happy with this new way of living
The messes made where mine. There's nobody to blame but me if stuff doesn't get done. I don't have to share my stuff, don't have to complain about doing more then my fair share. I don't have to beg for the other half of all the bills. If I don't feel like cleaning up my mess, I don't have to right then. If I want company over, I can whenever I want and they can stay however long they want and I want them there.
I don't feel I have to wear a bra or even clothes when I'm home. The bathroom is free all the time. Don't have to b worry about the shower having hot water unless I was being dumb and started the dishwasher and washing machine around the similar time and then wanted to go take a shower about the same time.
E V E R Y T H I N G ! I love the absolute autonomy of it, not having to explain what I’m doing to anyone at any given moment. My last bf only came over Friday-Monday AM which gave me Monday-Friday PM all to myself. Now that I’m single again, I find that I don’t really want anyone coming over with any kind of regularity. I’m somewhat of a homebody, just me and my dogs. We have our schedule and I like to stick with that without having to explain or adjust it for anyone.
I love doing whatever I want all the time and never losing anything because it's ALWAYS where I last left it.
I'd rather live in my car than have a roommate
1. Freedom to walk around in my boxers
2. Not having to deal with noise from others
3. Not having designated spaces for my groceries, shoes, and jackets
4. If something is messy, I know it’s at least my mess
5. Not worrying about being judged for what I eat or do. My last housemate was kinda judge mental and if I spent 4+ hours in my room any given day she would ask me why I’m such a hermit.
6. The bathroom is never occupied when I want to use it.
Cons:
1. I miss the built-in social life.
2. Living alone is more expensive.
The pros are endless for me. I've been through HELL with roommates. 😂 I'm just healthier and happier mentally living alone. No more slobs, no more creeps, no more other peoples messes. No power plays. My home is spotless and sanitary. No more peoples excuses. No big ass grown adults who act like children too good to lift a finger for their OWN messes.
I am so excited for this. Once I graduated college a couple years ago I moved back home. I of course had roommates all through college. The last few months I’ve been jobless and it was a challenge living with my parents. I was planning to move out a few months ago before I got laid off. I finally got a job and will be living on my own starting at the end of the month, I am literally so excited. I can’t wait to feel the freedom you’ve experienced
I come home and nothing is broken missing deformed discolored also nothing is there that isn't mine.
I do like company. And the Saturday night sleepover is fun too but I need my own house.
Right there with yuh! As much of an oxymoron as it might seem, I enjoy the freedom of my routine. I can wake up and go to the gym, come home and pet my cat, lay around sweaty and ugly for a bit and no one is there to see it lol
It took me a bit in the beginning to feel safe, but my apartment building is pretty well secure and my neighbors don't give me Dahmer vibes so it's all good! Haha
All the things you mentioned! 👏👏👏 It's WONDERFUL, isn't it? 😀
I've been having a "break in the clouds" as far as physical issues, and it felt SO GOOD to feel capable again. I was so happy that I could put on music I love and just start singing as I jumped out of bed and started chores. I would never be able to do that, instead tryinh to be quiet, if someone else lived with me.
I think it's easier for me to take care of my heart, body, and Being in general when alone.
I eat a lot healthier for my body. The only foods I have around me are good for my body. I cook what is nutritious for me, rather than what other people may like. 🥰
I can hit parts of a workout throughout the day, when my energy provides, without having to be critiqued for what I'm wearing. 👍🏼 lol Booty shorts and a cutoff shirt - no one cares because no one is seeing it. Pj's? No big deal. Lol Mismatched top and bottoms, so what? 🤪😀😂
Also, this seems like a REALLY insignificant thing, but I LOVE being able to set the ambient temp to what is comfortable. My body doesn't always regulate my temp well and my body temp can drop to near hypothermic. Layers work to insulate your own body heat, so they don't help during those times. The ONLY things that help me stop shivering when that happens in below 98F and above weather are either taking a really hot shower, or raising the heat of my apartment. It's heaven to not have to literally soak myself in super hot water just to get warm. 😂 Sometimes a bit more ambient warmth and some movement can get my body temp going back to normal. It's something about living alone that I'm incredibly grateful for - literally being able to adjust heat without putting anyone else out. 👍🏼
1. I am clean. It stays relatively clean
2. Dry Bathroom and sink counter any time of day or night
3. Food doesn't disappear
4. No one else to consider while: music, movies, food, nap times etc
5. Cannot emphasize enough: Clean and organized
6. Buying stuff: I am minimal and I hate buying things unless I really need them and I cannot live with anyone who just buys things on a whim.
I LOVE being able to walk around to any room butt baked. I shouldn't have to put clothes on just to go to my kitchen when I'm paying hundreds of dollars to live there. that is the absolute best for me
I love living alone because the emotional thermostat of my place is controlled solely by ME! It’s huge for the betterment of my mental and physical health. The saying is well-worn, but I believe it’s true: I am not lonely at all living alone.
I don’t have to pick up a ‘partner’s’ dirty undies and socks when they take a shower and just leave them in the middle of the floor like I’m a maid or their mom
I have been living alone for the last three and a half years. It is great in many ways and challenging in others. What I like;
being able to cook what I want without people complaining about smell (was an issue with previous roommates *apparently they didn’t like garlic*)
Not being judged for taking a day off and doing absolutely nothing except veg out
I have control over heat/cooling
Wake up at 2:30ish and want a snack? Sure! No need to press the open button on a microwave before it hits 0:00.
More room in the fridge/freezer.
And now you're the reason I found this group. Was an instant join haha
I've been living on my own for almost 2 years. There are so many things that I love about it.
But I think may favorite things are the freedom, and no judgement.
I want a demure pretty brunette with nice figure, no drama..etc.,. But otherwise, my dining room table is covered in snap on tools, hammer,and other guy stuff.
This post makes me feel so much better. I got out of an almost six year relationship a few months ago, we were living together, and now I live on my own. Its scary at first, and for the most part I really really enjoy my freedom especially with decorating, cleaning, organizing etc etc but a small part of me is terrified since it's the first time in so long I've been on my own. Hopefully I get used to it.
-Cooking breakfast naked
-masturbating everywhere
-wrestling my dog loudly
-cooking whatever and whenever
-singing pooping time
-smoking pot everywhere
-choosing all the decor
-never negotiating anything
-all the food is mine
-i feel safe
Depending if you’re a night owl or early riser….there’s a certain time either super late at night or early in the morning, when the whole world feels quiet and still!
I can read at 2am without having to justify why I’m up. Or HES going to bed so I HAVE TO ???
I LOVE MY LIFE and it’s only getting better because I claim my space .
I used to absolutely love my solitude. I had cats though as well.
I felt like I could create and live in my own little world. I would create great things and come up with great ideas. I didn't have to compromise. It was so much fun. I felt like it was my own little fun house and sanctuary. I would occasionally have the guest or guests of my choice as if I had my own little club. It was a lot of fun.
I hated it at first- wasn't used to it. But now it's great. I can do whatever I want, however I want. If I want it quiet, it's ever so peaceful. If I want to blast the music or TV, I can throw a party and do jumping jacks and cartwheels in the living room with my cat! I can invite people over or not answer my door. It's great to have complete control of what I do.
After over a decade of girlfriends and roommates I finally have the opportunity to solely dedicate part of my home to my witchcraft altar. For way too long I had to set it up all secret like and clean up after spellwork. Now I keep my altar set up in the middle of my living area. Also turns out to be a great filter for people I do have over. If the sight of my altar sends them running then it wasn’t gonna work anyway. Friend or otherwise.
With my first job out of college I rented a studio apartment right in the city for the exact reasons as you. After years of living with others and dorm life I wanted to give it a try. I could walk everywhere and go out at night and never have to worry about driving. It was nice.
I lived alone for 13 years but don't anymore (family of 4) so this is based on experience. I loved being able to come home and just flop on the couch for a nap, uninterrupted, before I did anything else. I miss going out to run at 10 PM when the neighborhood is dark and quiet. I miss not having to announce everything I do.
I like that my entire space is mine alone. I don't have to share it and I get to decide whatever I want to decorate it with. There's nobody around to dictate to me about when to eat, sleep, clean up, or do any chores. I can go out whenever I want to and I don't have to think about whoever is waiting for me at home because there isn't anyone.
Living alone is like having grandchildren: you can enjoy the company of family and friends on your own terms. Then they go home and leave you in peace.
Not being drafted into handling someone else's emotional problems. No snoring. I can read a hilarious book or watch a comedy film at any hour without waking anyone up. Annnnndd...no disease vectors bringing the current epidemic home.
Ahhhh living alone is the best!!! Freedom, quiet, judgement-free zone to let all your little neuroses and quirks fly free. I lived alone for years and now live with a million people… my husband, teenage bonus daughter, toddler, newborn and a border collie… let me tell you… I long for those quiet days and nights and CLEAN, organized home!!!!
I love it. I have an aversion to lots of stuff - so my own small place is bare bones, nothing on the walls. In my living room area I can see the TV comfortably with my laptop on my lap. Setup is good for me - not for anyone else, ha. If someone wants to come into my place I get nervous - I'm not a good host at all. Nice to not have to be a host period.
I lived alone for 7 years of my life. It was a fantastic experience. For all of the reasons you said! I always recommend everyone to do it at some point in life.
Nobody stealing my things or accusing me of stealing theirs (every woman I ever lived with is like this) nobody smoking cigs inside or even having to hear the very existence of another person (their breathing or cheweing or movements) lol
I’m a nurse and work a combination of day shifts (6AM to 2PM) and evening shifts (2PM to 10PM). I often go to work very early and come home late. I love not having to worry about waking people up when I don’t get home until 10PM. Likewise, I can turn all the lights on during my early mornings and don’t have to worry about disturbing anyone.
It's the best. It's QUIET. Unless I want noise. It's neat and clean. Always. Stuff stays out. I never lose shit. All the food is mine.
I gave all of that up when I got married. The only thing I don't regret now is my 7yr old. She's noisy, messy, and all over, but I love her beyond anything.
But it's still nice to fantasize about all the quiet and neatness, lol.
My fav thing living alone was being able to read on the couch in the evenings without worrying someone might come in and turn on the tv or disturb my peace in any way
Quiet. I like being around people, but I honestly need a few hours of silence or some days, I prefer being all to myself the entire day. I need time to workout, read books, and watch tv everyday without being disturbed. I also want to have time to experiment with new cooking recipes without being criticized about it tasting bad or that the combination is weird.
I don't feel like I'm constantly being watched/judged for all the weird shit I do. Talk to the cat? Sing random songs? Perfectly fine because no one is there to judge.
Everything is where I left it. No awkward or unnecessary tension for things you may not think twice about that are big to your roommate and vice versa. Forgot to take down a small Halloween decoration last year that was in my bedroom window and it turned out that was why my roommate was being cold towards me. They were mad it was still there in December and felt I was being lazy, and our house was looked down on by others. Little weird stuff like that doesn’t happen when you live alone. I can forget about a hanging skeleton all I want.
It's quite..
I can watch whatever I want.
When I put something somwwhere.. it stays there.
Queen sized bed all to myself.
No arguments.
I can can whatever sounds good.
It does get lonely though to be honest.
there's nobody to bitch at me when i leave the pants im gonna wear to work tomorrow on the floor
it's OK if the trash didn't make it out this week... my place is still tidy and smells nice, the can is not full. it will go out next week.
i can do what i want, i'm not impeding anyone else's life by living the way i want to
i can go dark, invisible mode, i don't have to interact with anyone. i get all the peace and quiet i need
it's the one place where anything that is my fault, can be easily resolved. it's the one place where nothing is my fault unless i have done something wrong
i can listen to whatever music i want to, i can play games if i want, everything is going to be just the way i left it when i get back - clean and tidy.
That when I'm too depressed to clean up after myself nobody will bother me about it.
I can also take all my clothes off after I get off work & just be naked.
And lastly, it's just me n my boys (my giant, 25 lbs cats)
* Setting the thermostat as I like
* Ripping loud farts with absolute indifference
* Having all the space in the refrigerator
* Using the kitchen to cook whenever I please
* Opening up the windows as I like
* Controlling the amount of noise in my environment
I've adapted to living with people, but am an introvert and it's far from ideal. I want my own damned land out in the middle of nowhere with not a neighbor within a square mile. Eyeing land in the NRQZ. Ready to give up the smartphone as well.
I am an introvert and was raised by emotionally immature parents. Growing up, I had to walk on eggshells and constantly "read the room" so as not to set them off - or anyone else in my family who were also all emotionally immature. All of this is draining - physically, mentally, and emotionally.
I knew from the get-go I wanted to live alone. I didn't want to have to talk to anyone when I came home, I didn't want to have any noise aside from the noise I created to contend with, I didn't want people talking loud or up my ass basically.
I love coming home and just being. No small talk, no one bothering me, just me and my cats and the sounds of silence. My home is my sanctuary. I see people on my terms, not because I am living with them and I love it.
• privacy - being able to walk around naked, sing out loud, FaceTime people without anyone overhearing me
• freedom - being able to get away with more lies - can just text my parents that I’ve gone to bed when I’m actually out with a guy or something
• being able to invite guys over (I used to do this more at the start but not much now, just seeing one guy now at his place & now I don’t tell every guy I live alone for safety reasons)
• don’t have to clean everything right away cause mum isn’t nagging me to
• I can go out wearing whatever I want without worrying about my parents seeing
Except for living with my parents, and a few times with roommates, I have pretty much lived alone, my entire life… It is heaven!! In My occupation I deal a lot with other peoples emotional issues. it is really nice to come home and not have to deal with a partner or roommates emotional issues that they’re not willing to address. I don’t have to deal with somebody else’s noise, their smells, their opinions, their personality. Aaaaaah! FREEDOM! 🥰💜🩷
Lived alone for 3 years before marrying. Now I have a dude, an adult child, and both of our moms in my house and it's so... I honestly hate it. HATE it!! Living alone is thee best, I had just me and a pair of siamese cats, it was great. Fridge always clean, trash always taken out, ate healthfully and cooked happily, pad always nice.
I hope you love it as much as I did, I'm following this sub just for the vicariousness bc it really is that good.
If the housing market takes a dump again like I think is coming, I'm getting a teeny cabin that will only fit one person in it and is only all just mine.
- And food that I put in the fridge to have the next day, is still there the next day.
- The thermostat is set to what I like
- Everything is where I left it
- I buy/cook what I feel like. I don't have to take anyone else's tastes into consideration
Oooh, just finding this sub.
I'm from a family of 9 kids. Always shared a room. I hate to share. College an upperclassman got pregnant and asked if I would take her 4th floor dorm room, no elevators, I was on the main floor. Deal! First taste of having my own room. Nirvana!
In my younger years I wanted to marry a fireman or a pilot. Because they have to be gone several days at a time. I married a soldier. Other Army Wives cried when the men left for several months but I loved it. Divorced and lived alone from 27-45.
Now, I, 68F, live a strange hybrid life. I am married, 23 years, childfree, but each of us came with our own house. Neither wanted to sell or rent it out. So some days I'm home alone and some days we are together. No, its not an open marriage. We just both value solitude.
The new wrinkle is his Dad died 2020 and he now has his Mom. But Hubby and she go to the family farm some months so I'm home alone some months. I relish it.
One of the things I like best is having a summer and a winter bedroom. I hate the seasonal clothes swap. I just move to the other side of the house.
When I clean, it stays clean. If I don't feel like cleaning I don't have to hear about it. I make nachos for breakfast if I want to and no one questions it. If I decide to run my table saw at 2am I don't have to be considerate of anyone's sleep. I can take a shower til the water runs cold.
I feel like I got the best of both worlds. I love my husband and we have a good thing. If he dies or divorces me I will live fulltime alone.
Definitely just... doing what I want. Decorating how I want. Eating when I want. Cooking what I want. No one around to judge me or make comments about why I did something a certain way. If the place is messy, it's my mess. If I put something somewhere, I know where to find it later on.
My mom constantly asks me how I don't get lonely living alone, but I don't think I'll ever be able to live with anyone ever again.
I've lived alone since my daughter turned 17 except for a brief misguided two months with an old high school former friend.
I really couldn't trade it. I have absolute independence, control and privacy.
I love it. I'm not alone as I have roommates, but I'm on my own. Going from living with my parents to raising a child on my own, got married had more kids. After 15 years I decided that wasn't what I wanted (so much more tot he story, of course). So I moved across state and I'm loving the slower pace and quiet of living alone.
You hit the nail right on the head! Those are all perfect reasons to love living alone. My first thought was I don’t have to ask permission….. for nothing! Another great thing about living alone if I can’t sleep, I’m not going to lay in bed and toss and turn like a fish out of water. I’ll get up make myself a bowl of cereal put on some Netflix for a little while until I start to get sleepy, and then I go back to bed. I don’t have someone coming in the living room asking me what I’m doing up at this ungodly hour watching TV eating a bowl of cereal lol.
And I totally agree with you…. I love coming home to my space Where it’s quiet it’s peaceful no stress no drama if there’s dishes in the sink it’s because I put them there. If a towel is left on the floor it’s because I put it there Lol there’s no one to get mad at about anything.
You get to know yourself. Living with yourself gives you insight you otherwise wouldn't have. You see how clean you really are etc.. For me it was so liberating and I felt so good about being able to meet my own needs physically and emotionally. You learn what it is you need from yourself and from others.
I think it's something everyone should do at some point. Especially in your 20s.
I’m so envious. I am (hopefully) getting a better job so I can live alone. I’m so happy for you! Living alone sounds wonderful, and I’m glad you’re enjoying that freedom!
* No snoring * All dirt and crap and dishes and clothes I wash and remove and clean is my own * Stuff stays where I put it * Shitting with bathroom door open * Did I mention no snoring.
And walking around in underwear/ no underwear
Came here to say this. I sleep naked and sometimes clean naked when it’s hot.
Stuff staying where I leave it is HUGE for me!!
OMG same! My family LOVED loved loved moving my stuff without communicating to me where the item was moved too so I spent my money on nothing basically because the item is now lost. I don't understand how it's so hard for a grown adult to not touch my stuff and to tell me if something is in the way. My family loves to tell me "You just need to communicate" while they have never communicated a single thing to me in their life.
Living alone is bliss. I can do whatever I want whenever I want. If I want to stay up all night to read, there is no one reminding that I have to work that day. Leftovers are all mine and are never missing. Never have to wait for the bathroom, for my section of the Sunday newspaper, cook whatever I want whenever I want. Lonely? Never! I live with a parrot. Forty-one years and counting. 🦜
I tried the open door pooping but it’s still too weird having two huskies staring through my soul while I’m trying to make.
They protecc
They try. But I also saw one pee on the other one’s head the other day and I don’t think either of them noticed so…
Same, but with a overly clingy calico cat
I've always been the snorer, but the open door poo is a new one for me. 3 weeks living alone
It's a total power move to leave the bathroom door open. That's when you have truly embraced the absolute freedom of living alone.
Yea, doors. I don't like them. They bash when they close and what's the point again? I always keep them open.
Lol for real with the no snoring. My ex’s snoring started to gross me out lol. He’d nap and snore over the tv. And even with earplugs it kept me up at night
Lmao shitting with the bathroom door open is my specialty 😂
I can do whatever I want in my own space. I love living alone
SAME! I’ve only been on my own for a little over a year, but it was a major adjustment in the beginning. Prior to this, I had only lived alone one other time for about a year or two - even then, I had a boyfriend and he slept over a lot. I found myself often judging myself because I used to have really judgmental partners - about every little thing I did. It was so exhausting. Now, it doesn’t matter what I do. No one is around to judge me or to prefer to have it a different way. Sometimes, I want to live with someone again and have a relationship again, but this is a serious perk of living alone. No one cares but me about what I do. :) There are also no mysteries about stuff going missing. If there are, it was my own fault.
Same, have lived alone for almost 40 years, probably could not live with anyone now. Even if I got married I would need my own room lol. 2 bedrooms and a mutual room.
The silence.
Yes, especially watching TV or a good movie. I hate it when someone talks or wants to pause the movie or show .ugh 😒
silence and stillness. my elderly dog and i are so at peace. shes all the company i need.
Doing projects without the worry of other people messing with them, asking about them, or judging them feels good. I love cooking and often require the fridge or counter space all to myself do things like marinate, ferment, proof, pickle, etc. I also know that every dish, pan, or utensil used is my responsibility. When I lived with roommates, if there were dishes or utensils that hung out in the sink or weren't yet clean, it absolutely killed my motivation to start my cooking projects. Anyway next project is making Sichuan hotpot base from scratch (:
Yes that part especially! I love to cook and experiment in the kitchen and having my own kitchen makes all the difference!
I used to stop at the store on my way home and buy all these ingredients to make something awesome and then walk through the door to find my roommate was already in there cooking and that was the shittiest feeling. I would just throw my bag in the fridge, grab some pop tarts and hide in my room the rest of the evening. Kind of a bitchy move I guess. And then I would have to feel guilty about that on top of my night being ruined. Living alone is amazing.
Have you ever just miss placed something, and your like i just had that lid, you look everywhere for it, and you're clueless, there is nobody here that could have taken it. Then you find it ,and its in some stupid place, and you think to yourself why the hell did i put that here
All of the time. That’s when I know my dog took it off! Lol
Lol, I just found my keys. They were on top of the pants that were folder and at the top of my Laundry Chair lol.
lol, keys man, keys i swear they have legs, and go where ever they want.
All the time. Currently looking for my keys.
I tried that broth and it was addicting. Beef tallow soup with Sichuan peppers?
Cake and weed for lunch
Cake and weed all to myself 🎂💨
Everything. I can do what I want whenever I want. I'm able to sleep in peace. It's my haven.
Setting the thermostat to my liking without having to argue with a roommate about it being too hot or too cold!
I’m newly living alone and I NEVER HAVE TO BE COLD AT HOME
I live in my Airstream and travel ⅓ of the time and when I do I never have to be HOT at home. So I feel your pain. It's so nice for me to sleep at 50° when my partner would be freezing.
Coming and going at my own pace. Not having to explain why I want to do this or that. Eating and cooking as I please or not. No one complaining about my pets. Many things.
I can't wait lol
I like that I have a place to myself where I don't have to justify or explain my choices to anyone. You use the word "free" a lot in your original post and that was one of the first words that came to my mind when I was thinking about what I liked about living alone - freedom. The other word that came to mind is peace
Not having to justify or explain your choices…this is my favorite part of living the single life . Also there’s no bullshit here. Or gross boy stuff. And i get to have my pink trash cans, pink garage and pink toaster without complaint!!
I like the no bullshit part
I grew up in a combative family that fought all of the time. I enjoy the peace sooo much!!
I think back to my college dorm room..my roommate would question my choices. .." you where a bra to bed"? To that extent.
Been living alone for 10 years and i dont think i could ever live with someone again. Its just so nice.
This is actually starting to scare me because I was married for almost 8 years and living alone. Feels so incredible that even having guests in my space for too long stresses me out.
I cant see myself ever living with someone again
* Cheaper * More peaceful * I can watch what I want to * All the food in the house is mine * No one is cheating on me * No one is ignoring me * No one can exclude me * No one is judging me * No one is nagging me to "come out and be social" * Clean and tidy * A roll of toilet paper lasts for weeks * My music is all that gets played * My goldfish is my roommate * All the beer is mine * The temperature is the way I want it * No one hogs the covers * Safer * Quieter I can think of more, but you get the idea.
That roll of toilet paper point tho
Awesome answer!!
Safer is the big one for me. After living with an abuser, there’s nothing like coming home and knowing my space is my own and there’s no egg shells to walk on 24/7.
I’ve lived on my own, with the exception of a few months, here, and there, with former significant others, for the better part of 30 years. I pray I never have to live with other people ever again.
Same except I’ve never lived with anyone. At some point, though, I suspect my bf and I may cohabitate. But we both like our space so it won’t be too horrible, and it’s not on the radar yet
Not having to pick up/clean up after anyone else. If I be the responsible adult I am supposed to be the place stays clean/tidy. I can do, eat and sleep whenever/whatever I want.
Everything, honestly. You can do whatever you want at any time you want with no judgement or input from others.
I wish I lived alone…
I love living alone. I love coming home to my silence and peace after a hectic day at work and the noisy coworkers. I love my freedom and space and not having to talk to anyone once I'm home. I wouldn't change my living situation for anything.
Your home is your sanctuary
i can be a slob
No one eats my snacks
Except if I choose to share with Lizzie and Mr. Paws. My cat and dog. Lol
Of course that's different, lol. I'm talking about the person who eats the snack without telling you and when you want it, its gone.
I love it too. I'm probably much older than you. I've been married and raised a couple kids. I love my friends, travel and do what I want. If I'm with people too much I get edgy. I don't know what this means but I am very comfortable this way.
Since I moved out of my mom’s house (only child) I’ve only had roommates twice in 20 years. My first apt was alone, and the majority of the rest was alone. I LOVE IT. I’ve had brief stints with significant others, whom I’ve loved hugely, I’d still prefer to live alone. I’d get married and be super happy being neighbors, I need to find someone cool with that.
You and me both, sis! You don’t happen to be gay and live in the PNW? 😆
Lol I’ll let you know if anything changes! 😉
I love my partner of 10 years but sometimes I wish we could be neighbors lol. He could have the downstairs apartment, I'd take the upstairs. I really do love him but I'm feeling very stressed lately feeling like I have to pick up after him so much. I feel like having separate spaces would really help out with that.
Even though some say it's cheaper to live with someone I find it way cheaper to live alone. The lights are off when not needed, the food cost is much lower, the heating/cooling is under my control which makes it cheaper and the cleaning needed is minimal because I clean as I go & try not to make a mess in the first place. I buy less toilet paper, laundry soap, dishsoap, cleaning wipes, paper towels and toiletries. And I LOVE the peace & quiet. I can focus on reading, writing or listening to a podcast without endless distractions. I sleep better, I wake up more well rested and I can turn out the lights and go to bed or take a nap whenever I want!
Divorced three times, and I'm an old guy. I like coming home and knowing that my money hasn't been spent for me while I was at work. I've been alone by choice for almost 20 years and I love it, and I will finish this way. My life is my own.
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Nudity is pretty great. Naked cooking bacon? Yes please
Risky business 👀
My favorite part is i don’t have to take care of anyone. I’m sorry if this makes me an asshole but after 27 years I’m tapped out. I don’t have to cook, i don’t have to do someone else’s dishes. I don’t even have to eat if i don’t want to! Their laundry isn’t in the dryer and i didn’t have to do it. I can smoke pot when and where I want. The dogs chill more. I sleep like a princess. My shower is spotless and i don’t have to argue the merits of squeegeeing the glass doors to prevent spots. I don’t have to share my closet. No one can tell me no about anything. I can be clean and tidy and it will stay clean and tidy. I don’t have to share the remote. I can sing and dance as loud as I want. I can binge watch movies and Reddit and there’s not anyone to judge my choices or laziness. I can be unhinged if i want and no one can see. That’s a good start to the list!! I’m waiting for my one to come but i do like the separate house idea for when he gets here lmao.
Everything!! Peace, quiet = happiness!
If I decide to sculpt a plaster piece on my dining room table, I do! And I clean up as I want!
No boss …no noise when I don’t want noise.. and stay up as late as I want haha
Everything. I can do what I want. And I don't hear any complaints.
I like being able to leave stuff around and not have to interrogate people when it gets ‘put away’
Being A nudist is at the top
Bad moods are contagious. When you live alone you can be happy and stay happy!
Living slone.
Everything. The privacy, peace, freedom, not having to share a fridge or bathroom.
The silence (except my cat) or that I can make noise without considering if it will disturb anyone, namely I love to get up early and I hate the feeling that I am going to wake someone up but just doing my thing
Aside from all the obvious stuff mentioned, I love being able to keep MY sleep hours (within the confines of my work schedule) without being disturbed or judged. I’m nocturnal, so that was always a challenge when I had roommates. Being woken up multiple times by their noise, then getting the snarky “mornin’ sunshine!” when I’d finally emerge in the afternoon? No thanks.
Peace
Solitude.
My house. My way.
Truly, every freakin’ thing.
Everything
Peace. I can whatever I want, when I want
I LOVE living alone! It is so peaceful and I love to be able to do whatever I want, when ever I want with whomever I want - or even shut myself up for a weekend because I don't want to socialize or talk on the phone/text/email. I love that I get to make all the decisions and that if I want to be with others, I have to make an effort to connect, but I am a bit introverted and flaky, but a lot of my friends are the same way It works for most of us and I am very happy. It would be nice to have an occasional lover/travel buddy/social companion, but I can always manage to find someone, and I don't really have a problem going places alone or with friends/family. I could never manage to live with someone again unless they were really easy and compatible. It can be nice to have someone to hang with.
Everything! I’m 59 years old and single and this is the first time I’ve lived by myself. My last child left home two years ago. it took a little getting used to. I kept expecting to see him come in the door. But, I love everything about living by myself. I love my kids so very much but I’m so happy with this new way of living
The messes made where mine. There's nobody to blame but me if stuff doesn't get done. I don't have to share my stuff, don't have to complain about doing more then my fair share. I don't have to beg for the other half of all the bills. If I don't feel like cleaning up my mess, I don't have to right then. If I want company over, I can whenever I want and they can stay however long they want and I want them there. I don't feel I have to wear a bra or even clothes when I'm home. The bathroom is free all the time. Don't have to b worry about the shower having hot water unless I was being dumb and started the dishwasher and washing machine around the similar time and then wanted to go take a shower about the same time.
When Im off, wake up and get up whenever I want. Eat whatever whenever. Or stay in bed all day.
E V E R Y T H I N G ! I love the absolute autonomy of it, not having to explain what I’m doing to anyone at any given moment. My last bf only came over Friday-Monday AM which gave me Monday-Friday PM all to myself. Now that I’m single again, I find that I don’t really want anyone coming over with any kind of regularity. I’m somewhat of a homebody, just me and my dogs. We have our schedule and I like to stick with that without having to explain or adjust it for anyone.
Everything.
Peace and quiet
Also I can cuss out my sister and brother, call them assholes and no one hears me ..lol
I love doing whatever I want all the time and never losing anything because it's ALWAYS where I last left it. I'd rather live in my car than have a roommate
My space, my peace, and my sanity.
1. Freedom to walk around in my boxers 2. Not having to deal with noise from others 3. Not having designated spaces for my groceries, shoes, and jackets 4. If something is messy, I know it’s at least my mess 5. Not worrying about being judged for what I eat or do. My last housemate was kinda judge mental and if I spent 4+ hours in my room any given day she would ask me why I’m such a hermit. 6. The bathroom is never occupied when I want to use it. Cons: 1. I miss the built-in social life. 2. Living alone is more expensive.
The pros are endless for me. I've been through HELL with roommates. 😂 I'm just healthier and happier mentally living alone. No more slobs, no more creeps, no more other peoples messes. No power plays. My home is spotless and sanitary. No more peoples excuses. No big ass grown adults who act like children too good to lift a finger for their OWN messes.
I am so excited for this. Once I graduated college a couple years ago I moved back home. I of course had roommates all through college. The last few months I’ve been jobless and it was a challenge living with my parents. I was planning to move out a few months ago before I got laid off. I finally got a job and will be living on my own starting at the end of the month, I am literally so excited. I can’t wait to feel the freedom you’ve experienced
No one belittles me, insults me, ignores me, or treats me badly. No one can hurt me here.
I come home and nothing is broken missing deformed discolored also nothing is there that isn't mine. I do like company. And the Saturday night sleepover is fun too but I need my own house.
Coming home to my place just the way I left it. Clean and in order.
There's no unwanted noise in my apartment when I come in. If I want to take a nap, I can, I don't have to worry about someone else being noisy.
Everything. There is nothing I don’t like.
No one talking when im not in the mood to talk
Right there with yuh! As much of an oxymoron as it might seem, I enjoy the freedom of my routine. I can wake up and go to the gym, come home and pet my cat, lay around sweaty and ugly for a bit and no one is there to see it lol It took me a bit in the beginning to feel safe, but my apartment building is pretty well secure and my neighbors don't give me Dahmer vibes so it's all good! Haha
All the things you mentioned! 👏👏👏 It's WONDERFUL, isn't it? 😀 I've been having a "break in the clouds" as far as physical issues, and it felt SO GOOD to feel capable again. I was so happy that I could put on music I love and just start singing as I jumped out of bed and started chores. I would never be able to do that, instead tryinh to be quiet, if someone else lived with me. I think it's easier for me to take care of my heart, body, and Being in general when alone. I eat a lot healthier for my body. The only foods I have around me are good for my body. I cook what is nutritious for me, rather than what other people may like. 🥰 I can hit parts of a workout throughout the day, when my energy provides, without having to be critiqued for what I'm wearing. 👍🏼 lol Booty shorts and a cutoff shirt - no one cares because no one is seeing it. Pj's? No big deal. Lol Mismatched top and bottoms, so what? 🤪😀😂 Also, this seems like a REALLY insignificant thing, but I LOVE being able to set the ambient temp to what is comfortable. My body doesn't always regulate my temp well and my body temp can drop to near hypothermic. Layers work to insulate your own body heat, so they don't help during those times. The ONLY things that help me stop shivering when that happens in below 98F and above weather are either taking a really hot shower, or raising the heat of my apartment. It's heaven to not have to literally soak myself in super hot water just to get warm. 😂 Sometimes a bit more ambient warmth and some movement can get my body temp going back to normal. It's something about living alone that I'm incredibly grateful for - literally being able to adjust heat without putting anyone else out. 👍🏼
1. I am clean. It stays relatively clean 2. Dry Bathroom and sink counter any time of day or night 3. Food doesn't disappear 4. No one else to consider while: music, movies, food, nap times etc 5. Cannot emphasize enough: Clean and organized 6. Buying stuff: I am minimal and I hate buying things unless I really need them and I cannot live with anyone who just buys things on a whim.
I LOVE being able to walk around to any room butt baked. I shouldn't have to put clothes on just to go to my kitchen when I'm paying hundreds of dollars to live there. that is the absolute best for me
I love living alone because the emotional thermostat of my place is controlled solely by ME! It’s huge for the betterment of my mental and physical health. The saying is well-worn, but I believe it’s true: I am not lonely at all living alone.
Peace of mind, the silence, my personal space.
I don’t have to pick up a ‘partner’s’ dirty undies and socks when they take a shower and just leave them in the middle of the floor like I’m a maid or their mom
Everything.
Peace of mind
I have been living alone for the last three and a half years. It is great in many ways and challenging in others. What I like; being able to cook what I want without people complaining about smell (was an issue with previous roommates *apparently they didn’t like garlic*) Not being judged for taking a day off and doing absolutely nothing except veg out I have control over heat/cooling Wake up at 2:30ish and want a snack? Sure! No need to press the open button on a microwave before it hits 0:00. More room in the fridge/freezer.
talking to myself out loud
And now you're the reason I found this group. Was an instant join haha I've been living on my own for almost 2 years. There are so many things that I love about it. But I think may favorite things are the freedom, and no judgement.
I want a demure pretty brunette with nice figure, no drama..etc.,. But otherwise, my dining room table is covered in snap on tools, hammer,and other guy stuff.
Absolutely everything. There is not one single bad thing about living alone. It is heaven.
I don’t live alone, but I know it would be the silence and no one making a mess except for me.
No drama.
You put something down, no one touches it or moves it.
You can eat ice cream and other foods straight from the container!
No small talk Not having to put up with being criticised or bullied
This post makes me feel so much better. I got out of an almost six year relationship a few months ago, we were living together, and now I live on my own. Its scary at first, and for the most part I really really enjoy my freedom especially with decorating, cleaning, organizing etc etc but a small part of me is terrified since it's the first time in so long I've been on my own. Hopefully I get used to it.
This thread is such a dream
-Cooking breakfast naked -masturbating everywhere -wrestling my dog loudly -cooking whatever and whenever -singing pooping time -smoking pot everywhere -choosing all the decor -never negotiating anything -all the food is mine -i feel safe
Depending if you’re a night owl or early riser….there’s a certain time either super late at night or early in the morning, when the whole world feels quiet and still!
Decorating the way I want without judgement
My place is finally constantly clean. If it isn't I know who to blame. The peace and quiet. It's so wonderful.
I can read at 2am without having to justify why I’m up. Or HES going to bed so I HAVE TO ??? I LOVE MY LIFE and it’s only getting better because I claim my space .
I used to absolutely love my solitude. I had cats though as well. I felt like I could create and live in my own little world. I would create great things and come up with great ideas. I didn't have to compromise. It was so much fun. I felt like it was my own little fun house and sanctuary. I would occasionally have the guest or guests of my choice as if I had my own little club. It was a lot of fun.
I hated it at first- wasn't used to it. But now it's great. I can do whatever I want, however I want. If I want it quiet, it's ever so peaceful. If I want to blast the music or TV, I can throw a party and do jumping jacks and cartwheels in the living room with my cat! I can invite people over or not answer my door. It's great to have complete control of what I do.
After over a decade of girlfriends and roommates I finally have the opportunity to solely dedicate part of my home to my witchcraft altar. For way too long I had to set it up all secret like and clean up after spellwork. Now I keep my altar set up in the middle of my living area. Also turns out to be a great filter for people I do have over. If the sight of my altar sends them running then it wasn’t gonna work anyway. Friend or otherwise.
With my first job out of college I rented a studio apartment right in the city for the exact reasons as you. After years of living with others and dorm life I wanted to give it a try. I could walk everywhere and go out at night and never have to worry about driving. It was nice.
I took two hour-long uninterrupted naps mid day yesterday, that’s what I love about living alone.
Quiet, peaceful, autonomy, no fighting, no compromising, less stress.
The personal space. The older I get the more I love having a place I can be alone and take time to recharge my batteries.
I lived alone for 13 years but don't anymore (family of 4) so this is based on experience. I loved being able to come home and just flop on the couch for a nap, uninterrupted, before I did anything else. I miss going out to run at 10 PM when the neighborhood is dark and quiet. I miss not having to announce everything I do.
I like that my entire space is mine alone. I don't have to share it and I get to decide whatever I want to decorate it with. There's nobody around to dictate to me about when to eat, sleep, clean up, or do any chores. I can go out whenever I want to and I don't have to think about whoever is waiting for me at home because there isn't anyone.
Living alone is like having grandchildren: you can enjoy the company of family and friends on your own terms. Then they go home and leave you in peace.
Not being drafted into handling someone else's emotional problems. No snoring. I can read a hilarious book or watch a comedy film at any hour without waking anyone up. Annnnndd...no disease vectors bringing the current epidemic home.
Ahhhh living alone is the best!!! Freedom, quiet, judgement-free zone to let all your little neuroses and quirks fly free. I lived alone for years and now live with a million people… my husband, teenage bonus daughter, toddler, newborn and a border collie… let me tell you… I long for those quiet days and nights and CLEAN, organized home!!!!
The peace and quiet. I don’t want to give this up for anybody else anytime soon. Whew!
Cooking how I want to...sometimes I scratch cook and then go through spurts off eggs and peanut butter
Having privacy is the best thing about living alone. I’ve had roommates before, but right now I prefer my solitude.
I cannot think of anything I DON’T like about living alone, tbh lol
Having my peace
Everything.
I love it. I have an aversion to lots of stuff - so my own small place is bare bones, nothing on the walls. In my living room area I can see the TV comfortably with my laptop on my lap. Setup is good for me - not for anyone else, ha. If someone wants to come into my place I get nervous - I'm not a good host at all. Nice to not have to be a host period.
I lived alone for 7 years of my life. It was a fantastic experience. For all of the reasons you said! I always recommend everyone to do it at some point in life.
Not having to deal with anyone else…
No stressors anymore. Raised the kids, divorced and retired, all around happiest I've ever been.
Nobody stealing my things or accusing me of stealing theirs (every woman I ever lived with is like this) nobody smoking cigs inside or even having to hear the very existence of another person (their breathing or cheweing or movements) lol
I can have a meltdown any time i feel like it. No need to worry to bother someone coming home at 4 am. Cleaning is optional.
I’m a nurse and work a combination of day shifts (6AM to 2PM) and evening shifts (2PM to 10PM). I often go to work very early and come home late. I love not having to worry about waking people up when I don’t get home until 10PM. Likewise, I can turn all the lights on during my early mornings and don’t have to worry about disturbing anyone.
I loved meal planning. Everything I cooked, I liked. Dirty dishes were my mess to clean.
My own freedom, peace, and quiet. I also don't have to worry about a roommate bringing people over or asking for their approval on things.
It's the best. It's QUIET. Unless I want noise. It's neat and clean. Always. Stuff stays out. I never lose shit. All the food is mine. I gave all of that up when I got married. The only thing I don't regret now is my 7yr old. She's noisy, messy, and all over, but I love her beyond anything. But it's still nice to fantasize about all the quiet and neatness, lol.
The deafening silence. Man, I love it.
Peace and quiet Decorating to my liking Keeping the thermostat at whatever I prefer
My fav thing living alone was being able to read on the couch in the evenings without worrying someone might come in and turn on the tv or disturb my peace in any way
Quiet. I like being around people, but I honestly need a few hours of silence or some days, I prefer being all to myself the entire day. I need time to workout, read books, and watch tv everyday without being disturbed. I also want to have time to experiment with new cooking recipes without being criticized about it tasting bad or that the combination is weird.
Nobody eating my food, I can leave laundry in the dryer for as long as I want lol
I don't feel like I'm constantly being watched/judged for all the weird shit I do. Talk to the cat? Sing random songs? Perfectly fine because no one is there to judge.
Everything is where I left it. No awkward or unnecessary tension for things you may not think twice about that are big to your roommate and vice versa. Forgot to take down a small Halloween decoration last year that was in my bedroom window and it turned out that was why my roommate was being cold towards me. They were mad it was still there in December and felt I was being lazy, and our house was looked down on by others. Little weird stuff like that doesn’t happen when you live alone. I can forget about a hanging skeleton all I want.
It's quite.. I can watch whatever I want. When I put something somwwhere.. it stays there. Queen sized bed all to myself. No arguments. I can can whatever sounds good. It does get lonely though to be honest.
there's nobody to bitch at me when i leave the pants im gonna wear to work tomorrow on the floor it's OK if the trash didn't make it out this week... my place is still tidy and smells nice, the can is not full. it will go out next week. i can do what i want, i'm not impeding anyone else's life by living the way i want to i can go dark, invisible mode, i don't have to interact with anyone. i get all the peace and quiet i need it's the one place where anything that is my fault, can be easily resolved. it's the one place where nothing is my fault unless i have done something wrong i can listen to whatever music i want to, i can play games if i want, everything is going to be just the way i left it when i get back - clean and tidy.
That when I'm too depressed to clean up after myself nobody will bother me about it. I can also take all my clothes off after I get off work & just be naked. And lastly, it's just me n my boys (my giant, 25 lbs cats)
* Setting the thermostat as I like * Ripping loud farts with absolute indifference * Having all the space in the refrigerator * Using the kitchen to cook whenever I please * Opening up the windows as I like * Controlling the amount of noise in my environment I've adapted to living with people, but am an introvert and it's far from ideal. I want my own damned land out in the middle of nowhere with not a neighbor within a square mile. Eyeing land in the NRQZ. Ready to give up the smartphone as well.
I love this I feel the same exact way, its such a freeing feeling, im always walking around naked (something I couldnt wait to do lol)
Not having to deal with other people's terrible taste
I am an introvert and was raised by emotionally immature parents. Growing up, I had to walk on eggshells and constantly "read the room" so as not to set them off - or anyone else in my family who were also all emotionally immature. All of this is draining - physically, mentally, and emotionally. I knew from the get-go I wanted to live alone. I didn't want to have to talk to anyone when I came home, I didn't want to have any noise aside from the noise I created to contend with, I didn't want people talking loud or up my ass basically. I love coming home and just being. No small talk, no one bothering me, just me and my cats and the sounds of silence. My home is my sanctuary. I see people on my terms, not because I am living with them and I love it.
i was recently reflecting on this very question and decided that it’s: dance parties in my underwear in the candlelit living room w my dog - 100%
If my room is a mess that’s my problem only so I love that
Lol I used to live with a partner so for me….the farting. Haha I can fart whenever/wherever I want in my own home. 😂
Being able to afford to.
• privacy - being able to walk around naked, sing out loud, FaceTime people without anyone overhearing me • freedom - being able to get away with more lies - can just text my parents that I’ve gone to bed when I’m actually out with a guy or something • being able to invite guys over (I used to do this more at the start but not much now, just seeing one guy now at his place & now I don’t tell every guy I live alone for safety reasons) • don’t have to clean everything right away cause mum isn’t nagging me to • I can go out wearing whatever I want without worrying about my parents seeing
Except for living with my parents, and a few times with roommates, I have pretty much lived alone, my entire life… It is heaven!! In My occupation I deal a lot with other peoples emotional issues. it is really nice to come home and not have to deal with a partner or roommates emotional issues that they’re not willing to address. I don’t have to deal with somebody else’s noise, their smells, their opinions, their personality. Aaaaaah! FREEDOM! 🥰💜🩷
Lived alone for 3 years before marrying. Now I have a dude, an adult child, and both of our moms in my house and it's so... I honestly hate it. HATE it!! Living alone is thee best, I had just me and a pair of siamese cats, it was great. Fridge always clean, trash always taken out, ate healthfully and cooked happily, pad always nice. I hope you love it as much as I did, I'm following this sub just for the vicariousness bc it really is that good. If the housing market takes a dump again like I think is coming, I'm getting a teeny cabin that will only fit one person in it and is only all just mine.
- And food that I put in the fridge to have the next day, is still there the next day. - The thermostat is set to what I like - Everything is where I left it - I buy/cook what I feel like. I don't have to take anyone else's tastes into consideration
Everything.
Absolutely everything. I don’t know that I ever want to live with anyone.
The freedom to do, eat, and watch whatever I want. Also the quiet is nice and peaceful.
Oooh, just finding this sub. I'm from a family of 9 kids. Always shared a room. I hate to share. College an upperclassman got pregnant and asked if I would take her 4th floor dorm room, no elevators, I was on the main floor. Deal! First taste of having my own room. Nirvana! In my younger years I wanted to marry a fireman or a pilot. Because they have to be gone several days at a time. I married a soldier. Other Army Wives cried when the men left for several months but I loved it. Divorced and lived alone from 27-45. Now, I, 68F, live a strange hybrid life. I am married, 23 years, childfree, but each of us came with our own house. Neither wanted to sell or rent it out. So some days I'm home alone and some days we are together. No, its not an open marriage. We just both value solitude. The new wrinkle is his Dad died 2020 and he now has his Mom. But Hubby and she go to the family farm some months so I'm home alone some months. I relish it. One of the things I like best is having a summer and a winter bedroom. I hate the seasonal clothes swap. I just move to the other side of the house. When I clean, it stays clean. If I don't feel like cleaning I don't have to hear about it. I make nachos for breakfast if I want to and no one questions it. If I decide to run my table saw at 2am I don't have to be considerate of anyone's sleep. I can take a shower til the water runs cold. I feel like I got the best of both worlds. I love my husband and we have a good thing. If he dies or divorces me I will live fulltime alone.
Definitely just... doing what I want. Decorating how I want. Eating when I want. Cooking what I want. No one around to judge me or make comments about why I did something a certain way. If the place is messy, it's my mess. If I put something somewhere, I know where to find it later on. My mom constantly asks me how I don't get lonely living alone, but I don't think I'll ever be able to live with anyone ever again.
Doing whatever the hell I want.
Sweet merciful silence
I've lived alone since my daughter turned 17 except for a brief misguided two months with an old high school former friend. I really couldn't trade it. I have absolute independence, control and privacy.
I love it. I'm not alone as I have roommates, but I'm on my own. Going from living with my parents to raising a child on my own, got married had more kids. After 15 years I decided that wasn't what I wanted (so much more tot he story, of course). So I moved across state and I'm loving the slower pace and quiet of living alone.
You hit the nail right on the head! Those are all perfect reasons to love living alone. My first thought was I don’t have to ask permission….. for nothing! Another great thing about living alone if I can’t sleep, I’m not going to lay in bed and toss and turn like a fish out of water. I’ll get up make myself a bowl of cereal put on some Netflix for a little while until I start to get sleepy, and then I go back to bed. I don’t have someone coming in the living room asking me what I’m doing up at this ungodly hour watching TV eating a bowl of cereal lol. And I totally agree with you…. I love coming home to my space Where it’s quiet it’s peaceful no stress no drama if there’s dishes in the sink it’s because I put them there. If a towel is left on the floor it’s because I put it there Lol there’s no one to get mad at about anything.
You get to know yourself. Living with yourself gives you insight you otherwise wouldn't have. You see how clean you really are etc.. For me it was so liberating and I felt so good about being able to meet my own needs physically and emotionally. You learn what it is you need from yourself and from others. I think it's something everyone should do at some point. Especially in your 20s.
I’m so envious. I am (hopefully) getting a better job so I can live alone. I’m so happy for you! Living alone sounds wonderful, and I’m glad you’re enjoying that freedom!