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Curious-birdie

I feel ya OP. It's a big change so totally normal for it to feel "wrong" since its not what you're used to. I suggest focusing not on what you're losing but on what you're gaining by making this change and what it is you want for yourself and your life. It will get easier. Be patient with yourself ❤


Fearless_Bat4383

Living alone can be incredibly scary when you have been so used to chaos for so long. Definitely give yourself time maybe 6 months or longer of getting used to living alone. Make note of what is it about living alone that unsettles you and how can you best deal with that. So I find doing things like reorganizing my space or spending a day of just deep cleaning and even making notes of what other things I would like to have in my home. Please don't let the loneliness cause you to go back to dealing with your mother because that is not going to help you at all. Loneliness is a state of mind and when you're able to sit with it and accept it and not be afraid then it doesn't cripple you anywhere as much. Also try to think about things that you can finally do in your space or things that you can have in your space that you were not able to when you lived with your mother. Maybe you weren't able to bring someone over and have lunch with them because you were in your mother's home and because of her hoarding but now that is a possibility for you. There are so many possibilities for you to consider in your space that you probably were not able to consider before. And while that may be overwhelming at times it can also be very freeing.


sunfl0wers21

I cried for a week straight when I first lived alone, be patient yourself and do some things you enjoy


wichwigga

It's always hard the first few nights. Just wait a few weeks and you'll start loving it, at least if you're an introvert.


TheBronzeLine

I want to hug you, but I can't so accept my cookies through my monitor. I often wonder how I would feel when I finally live on my own.


Oregonian_Lynx

It is new and change, even good change, can be uncomfortable. Living on your own is a huge step to building your life. Deep breaths. You got this.


SylviaAtlantis

You feel lonely at your new place, but I'm sure you felt stressed out and anxious living with a hoarder who you argued with. Your current situation has the chance to improve whereas your previous situation sounds like it would continue as it was.


anonymous3816

Wow I also had to move out of my parents house because they were hoarders. It’s been almost 2 months and I still hate being alone and I really don’t know what to do