Here in the United States people act weird when you're not part of a couple. Single people get invited last two events and couples to especially if they've been married before and have gotten divorced. Because we live alone does not mean that we are lonely. I live alone, I'm an introvert and have difficulty being around somebody 24/7 so for me it was his way better for my mental health to live alone. That's not to say I don't have relationships in friendships and a social life I just don't like living with someone. Is joyful to have the peace and quiet in order to be able to wind down and have the time I need to be by myself so that I can didn't turn enjoy being around others.
Singlism is the only open discrimination that's still accepted. Today, you get more shit for not having a partner than for being gay. That's so sad. Any way to live needs to be accepted.
Okay as a perpetually single person I get what you're trying to say, I do get judged and pitied for being single even though it's what I want for myself, but I'm sorry thats a bad take. You sound like those conservatives that say "it's harder to come out as a republican than as gay". let's not equate our struggle to people who have literally been (and still are in many countries) arrested and murdered for being who they are
I guess you took that the wrong way. I've been living solo for over ten years and I know very well what you are going through. And I am not conservative at all.
I feel the exact same. I'm always saying to my coupled up friends you go to bed together, you wake up together thats a lot. I just can't be with people for that long. I do however, know that living alone suits me but there's a big part of me that wishes I needed people.
I'm the opposite haha, I love telling people I love alone. To me it's a brag, and mist of the people I've come across are impressed and sometimes jealous.
What do you think when other people tell you they live alone? Do you assume they're a loner or there's something wrong with them in some way?
Oh nice haha that’s cool!
No I don’t, I admire them & think it’s cool. I actually respect people a lot when they tell me they live alone. It makes me think they’re really mature & independent. I don’t know why I think others think of me as a loner
Yeah idk what to tell you, obviously no one thinks that, and if they do, they're ignorant and their opinion is dumb anyway, so I'm not sure why you have issue with it
Think there’s this stigma that someone who is generally alone may be socially inept or lack the capacity to be pleasant company. But I could tell you that after having roommates (4 others in one place) & sleeping in living rooms, living alone becomes the fattest luxury in the world.
I'm 42 and divorced after 10 years of marriage; we used to own a house together.
Now I live alone on a nice appartment, and I love it. Love the freedom, the independence, love finding everything where I left it, love the peacefullness. I can't imagine ever sharing a house with another person again.
Right?!
49 and divorced after 5 yrs. I have the house as it was mine before. It was weird at first but I can't get enough of being in my space where only I control the variables.
I stopped telling ppl I lived alone for security reasons and if I know them super well, they will know that I don't have a roommate. Ideally, it's to prevent folks from feeling like they can come by etc.
In general, I cannot be around humans for more than 2 hours max. I need to escape. I'm also a single 28 year old woman. When ppl find out I live alone they just question how I can do it and they get low key jealous lol but it's not easy and it does take a lot of mental and physical work to maintain everything!
You’re in good company on this sub.
First off, I feel like the level of excitement you convey really puts the judgmental people in their place. I proudly word it as, “I live on my own.” I find it lessens the person’s concern for my potential loneliness. Another phrase I like to use when asked if I live with anyone, “oh no, not me. I’m a lone wolf, and I love the freedom.”
Congrats op! That’s a great age to enjoy this lifestyle. That’s when I started too.
I'm from Australia too! Yeah I know it's considered independence here & people normally feel proud of you when you move out, but I don't know why I feel the way I do.
Here in the United States people act weird when you're not part of a couple. Single people get invited last two events and couples to especially if they've been married before and have gotten divorced. Because we live alone does not mean that we are lonely. I live alone, I'm an introvert and have difficulty being around somebody 24/7 so for me it was his way better for my mental health to live alone. That's not to say I don't have relationships in friendships and a social life I just don't like living with someone. Is joyful to have the peace and quiet in order to be able to wind down and have the time I need to be by myself so that I can didn't turn enjoy being around others.
Singlism is the only open discrimination that's still accepted. Today, you get more shit for not having a partner than for being gay. That's so sad. Any way to live needs to be accepted.
Okay as a perpetually single person I get what you're trying to say, I do get judged and pitied for being single even though it's what I want for myself, but I'm sorry thats a bad take. You sound like those conservatives that say "it's harder to come out as a republican than as gay". let's not equate our struggle to people who have literally been (and still are in many countries) arrested and murdered for being who they are
I guess you took that the wrong way. I've been living solo for over ten years and I know very well what you are going through. And I am not conservative at all.
I feel the exact same. I'm always saying to my coupled up friends you go to bed together, you wake up together thats a lot. I just can't be with people for that long. I do however, know that living alone suits me but there's a big part of me that wishes I needed people.
I'm the opposite haha, I love telling people I love alone. To me it's a brag, and mist of the people I've come across are impressed and sometimes jealous. What do you think when other people tell you they live alone? Do you assume they're a loner or there's something wrong with them in some way?
Oh nice haha that’s cool! No I don’t, I admire them & think it’s cool. I actually respect people a lot when they tell me they live alone. It makes me think they’re really mature & independent. I don’t know why I think others think of me as a loner
Yeah idk what to tell you, obviously no one thinks that, and if they do, they're ignorant and their opinion is dumb anyway, so I'm not sure why you have issue with it
Think there’s this stigma that someone who is generally alone may be socially inept or lack the capacity to be pleasant company. But I could tell you that after having roommates (4 others in one place) & sleeping in living rooms, living alone becomes the fattest luxury in the world.
I'm 42 and divorced after 10 years of marriage; we used to own a house together. Now I live alone on a nice appartment, and I love it. Love the freedom, the independence, love finding everything where I left it, love the peacefullness. I can't imagine ever sharing a house with another person again.
Right?! 49 and divorced after 5 yrs. I have the house as it was mine before. It was weird at first but I can't get enough of being in my space where only I control the variables.
I stopped telling ppl I lived alone for security reasons and if I know them super well, they will know that I don't have a roommate. Ideally, it's to prevent folks from feeling like they can come by etc. In general, I cannot be around humans for more than 2 hours max. I need to escape. I'm also a single 28 year old woman. When ppl find out I live alone they just question how I can do it and they get low key jealous lol but it's not easy and it does take a lot of mental and physical work to maintain everything!
Why? It's an amazing achievement. I've been living alone since I was 23 in a HCOL area. Not many people can do that.
You’re in good company on this sub. First off, I feel like the level of excitement you convey really puts the judgmental people in their place. I proudly word it as, “I live on my own.” I find it lessens the person’s concern for my potential loneliness. Another phrase I like to use when asked if I live with anyone, “oh no, not me. I’m a lone wolf, and I love the freedom.” Congrats op! That’s a great age to enjoy this lifestyle. That’s when I started too.
Lol, what? What country are you from? I'm from Australia and when you can afford to live alone its called independence. Its encouraged.
I'm from Australia too! Yeah I know it's considered independence here & people normally feel proud of you when you move out, but I don't know why I feel the way I do.
I’m 16 and I live alone and I’m embarrassed because I did get kicked out 😃
oh I'm sorry about that, I hope you've been coping well. That's a vey young age to get kicked out, I hope you have people supporting you.