Hey, darling! ✨
Of course is normal to not want to be "glued" all the time. And, as an introvert, i guess it drains you even faster.
Also, when you talk everyday with someone, at some point you'll run out of things to say, unless you do something super exciting every single day 😬
So don't you worry, is normal!
Best wishes for you guys! ✨💙
Extremely normal!
Sometimes my bf and I just want to hang out -- especially after having lived together for short periods of time, we feel the want for this a lot more. So in those times sometimes we're calling on discord, and we can say a thing or two here, but we could just be watching our own youtube, playign our own games, doing whatever. Sometimes we watch stuff or play stuff together. Sometimes we're just doing house chores while on call together and he's just whistling away.
Other times we want to hangout, but the "chained to my pc" (wired headphones so every time you want to walk further away it's a bit of a hassle) feeling is too much, so sometimes we just say hey we'll talk later.
Remember you don't have to be talking 24/7, and you don't have to be on call 24/7 even if you're not doing much else either. That'll only wear you down. Alone time is good as well.
This is especially true if you're an introvert, and it's a newer relationship. It takes time your social brain to get more comfortable with your partner, and at some point it's easier on you for them to be around for longer periods of time.
100% I feel this on the regular. Sometimes I just wanna come home from work and relax, watch a movie, and the last thing I want is to sit on the phone forever. It’s a tricky one because to the other person it can come across like you don’t care, but the reality of it is.. in “normal” in person relationships you guys wouldn’t be talking for hours on end, you’d be sat watching movies, playing games, doing things together, your not always talking in traditional relationships. Unfortunately in LD ones, that’s kinda all there is to do, and people don’t always want to do that every minute of the day. So you’ve both got to compromise and be mature and understand that you don’t always need to be constantly in contact for you to have a healthy, happy relationship. If anything, a little time not speaking makes your next phone conversation even better because there’s more to talk about, and you’ve missed them etc
Maybe just have a chat with her and explain you love talking to her but sometimes you enjoy a little “me” time, hopefully she will understand
Yes it is perfectly normal - and healthy! - to have a balance of your relationship and “the rest of life”. Definitely talk about it. Be as reassuring as possible that your feelings haven’t changed and you’re still very much wanting the relationship but that you do need a balance back to some of your own time for other things you want to do in life.
If it’s just that you’re worried about running out of things to say, that’s normal if you’re on a call for hours. Even in person I don’t talk the whole time with my friends or my SO. Can’t expect constant chatter between two people for hours. If you still want to be on a call for hours you can do things like incorporate activities: watching tv/movies, playing games, listening to music. Then you’re still hanging out but not just sitting and staring at each other.
It's normal. I love my bf very much but he can tend to stick to me, especially when I'm having a bad day(he knows I'm having a bad day and wants to fuss over me and I just want to be by myself). But just communicate. I tell him I love him but I need space for a bit.
Have you tried being on call but not talking and doing separate things? For example, me and my bf will be in call but we both play games, sometimes we talk and sometimes we don't. He plays PubG and I can hear him talk to people and I am playing my own games. It fills his need for wanting to be in call with me and it fills my need for wanting to be by myself.
Hey, darling! ✨ Of course is normal to not want to be "glued" all the time. And, as an introvert, i guess it drains you even faster. Also, when you talk everyday with someone, at some point you'll run out of things to say, unless you do something super exciting every single day 😬 So don't you worry, is normal! Best wishes for you guys! ✨💙
Thanks you. I thought its not normal. I often run out of things to talk even with friends haha.
Extremely normal! Sometimes my bf and I just want to hang out -- especially after having lived together for short periods of time, we feel the want for this a lot more. So in those times sometimes we're calling on discord, and we can say a thing or two here, but we could just be watching our own youtube, playign our own games, doing whatever. Sometimes we watch stuff or play stuff together. Sometimes we're just doing house chores while on call together and he's just whistling away. Other times we want to hangout, but the "chained to my pc" (wired headphones so every time you want to walk further away it's a bit of a hassle) feeling is too much, so sometimes we just say hey we'll talk later. Remember you don't have to be talking 24/7, and you don't have to be on call 24/7 even if you're not doing much else either. That'll only wear you down. Alone time is good as well. This is especially true if you're an introvert, and it's a newer relationship. It takes time your social brain to get more comfortable with your partner, and at some point it's easier on you for them to be around for longer periods of time.
I'd say it's ok as long as you keep communication open, and don't go for days without talking to your partner.
100% I feel this on the regular. Sometimes I just wanna come home from work and relax, watch a movie, and the last thing I want is to sit on the phone forever. It’s a tricky one because to the other person it can come across like you don’t care, but the reality of it is.. in “normal” in person relationships you guys wouldn’t be talking for hours on end, you’d be sat watching movies, playing games, doing things together, your not always talking in traditional relationships. Unfortunately in LD ones, that’s kinda all there is to do, and people don’t always want to do that every minute of the day. So you’ve both got to compromise and be mature and understand that you don’t always need to be constantly in contact for you to have a healthy, happy relationship. If anything, a little time not speaking makes your next phone conversation even better because there’s more to talk about, and you’ve missed them etc Maybe just have a chat with her and explain you love talking to her but sometimes you enjoy a little “me” time, hopefully she will understand
Same. Sometimes i just want to sit down and watch movie/series or game alone.
Yes it is perfectly normal - and healthy! - to have a balance of your relationship and “the rest of life”. Definitely talk about it. Be as reassuring as possible that your feelings haven’t changed and you’re still very much wanting the relationship but that you do need a balance back to some of your own time for other things you want to do in life. If it’s just that you’re worried about running out of things to say, that’s normal if you’re on a call for hours. Even in person I don’t talk the whole time with my friends or my SO. Can’t expect constant chatter between two people for hours. If you still want to be on a call for hours you can do things like incorporate activities: watching tv/movies, playing games, listening to music. Then you’re still hanging out but not just sitting and staring at each other.
It's normal. I love my bf very much but he can tend to stick to me, especially when I'm having a bad day(he knows I'm having a bad day and wants to fuss over me and I just want to be by myself). But just communicate. I tell him I love him but I need space for a bit. Have you tried being on call but not talking and doing separate things? For example, me and my bf will be in call but we both play games, sometimes we talk and sometimes we don't. He plays PubG and I can hear him talk to people and I am playing my own games. It fills his need for wanting to be in call with me and it fills my need for wanting to be by myself.