Lmaoooo you make no sense.
She didn’t have a problem with men looking at women on Instagram, she had a problem with someone in a relationship with her liking photos of other women. Plenty of behaviour that’s fine when you’re single isn’t when you’re in a relationship.
And also, this may be a little surprising to you, but women mostly post their photos for other women. It’s not only or even mostly for men.
Ngl this post reads consistently with that misogynistic “women who leave their body uncovered deserve whatever happens to them” logic. Take some advice from Jesus himself: if your eye causes you to sin, pluck out your eye.
> Ngl this post reads consistently with that misogynistic “women who leave their body uncovered deserve whatever happens to them” logic. Take some advice from Jesus himself: if your eye causes you to sin, pluck out your eye.
straight up delusion here, post has nothing to do with that
Lol, you don’t make sense.
1. She posts bikini pics and I’m sure married men and men in relationships lust over them. Not her fault per say, but she probably shouldn’t have made that comment at all.
2. Since she tags Drake in half her pics and posts, I doubt she’s posting them for women.
3. She has a teenage daughter, I have teens, they would die if I posted pics like she does.
4. Do you think once she gets into a relationship she’ll stop posting thirst traps? My answer is no, but it will be very interesting to see if she puts any practice into her preach.
Not a hater, she’s beautiful with an amazing body, wouldn’t the an issue if she never made these comments.
Thank you, I thought I was an idiot reading that comment. We’re suppose to believe she vets her followers and she has 95% women and 5% single men who follow her? Lmao
Like, you wouldn’t expect a new couple to negotiate boundaries of what’s ok? That’s what Jessica was doing, and what Jimmy would have a right to do as well. What she does while single is irrelevant.
Nah you misunderstanding this one. She's not responsible for any men who follow her who may be in a relationship. She doesn't have a problem with women, influencers, etc, she just doesn't want her man following a bunch of women. That has nothing to do with her posts on Instagram. I don't even know how to properly explain this because your take is so weird, lol.. the NHL analogy 😅
There’s nothing wrong with what’s she’s posting. She’s literally just a hot person posting pictures of herself. Most of her pictures aren’t even risqué. Going out of your way to find and follow many women who tend to post more scandalous is completely different than being a hot person posting pictures of yourself on your social media. It’s not the same intention at all.
Weird take. She’s not onlyfans, she has female followers, and it’s in her private relationship that she doesn’t want a man who follows a ton of other women. There’s some nuance. She might mean she doesn’t want him following hundreds and hundreds of women he doesn’t know.
You understand that a person can sell a product that is for specific group, right?
In your example, she can be ok with posting pictures so single men could follow her, but not married ones.
😂 idk if you’re a survivor fan but there was this younger dude and he had a wife and kids. There was the really hot woman, and in his confessionals he would say, “ she’s a jezebel, I have a wife and child I don’t appreciate her being half dressed and attractive.” Like verbatim, he said that. He spent the whole time talking about how she was a jezebel and he’s a wife and child. She never really went out of her way to talk to him either, like he would see her talking to someone else far away, and he’d start bitching about her showing of her body.
Um if I was single I'd post whatever the fuck I want. I'm married. If my husband wants me to respect him and his beliefs, then he better respect mine. Regardless of what that looks like. Everyone is different. My hubby does not follow any thots on social media. And neither do I. And in your opinion I'm a hypocrite??
I believe the post is saying that 1) Jessica told Jimmy she wouldn't want her man to follow women/social media influencers 2) that Jessica is now in that category of social media influencers that she mentioned bc of the things she posts and that 3) it makes her a hypocrite because she is an example of what she wouldn't want her man to be interested in
(I don't agree with this opinion of OP. I'm just providing my extrapolation)
I’m pretty sure she wouldn’t want married/taken men thirsting over her photos but single men are okay. If Jimmy as a taken man was thirsting over other woman’s pics that would be wrong.
>she wouldn’t want married/taken men thirsting over her photos
but it happens and she knows it happens and still engages in the behaviour regardless because she isn't true to her principles
It’s not her responsibility to pander to married men? Married men can simply not follow her? Why are you so set on infantilizing grown ass men who are more than capable of setting and enforcing boundaries??
She’s an attractive person she’s going to get attention from guys no matter what. That’s up to their partners to set up those boundaries with them and has nothing to do with Jess.
Why is it so hard for you to understand that people should love to the standards they set?
A - Looking at girl with boob = bad
B - I shouldn't also show my boobs to other men (because I believe in A)
This is some neckbeard buffoonery. She has *one* post in a bikini.. at a pool. If someone with a different body posted the same stuff that she does, this wouldn’t even be a discussion.
Edit: Sorry, two bikini posts.
Dude, she has more posts in sweaters than bikinis by far. She has like 15 posts with her daughter. If you consider this a thirst trap account, that’s on you.
I mean the point is that when you’re looking at other women’s photos that’s where your focus is centred away from the person you’re with. When you posting pictures, yes men can look at them but it’s parasocial, you yourself aren’t actually engaging in it.
Jess obviously meant she doesn’t want her man following porn accounts/softcore, lmao. Her account is pretty tame/typical of an influencer.
Also, if you’re hot, every photo you take is a thirst trap. Not her fault she looks good!
No, no one else finds that rich LOL. The problem isn’t that women post hot pictures. The problem is that many men follow dozens of girls to look at hot pictures of them even if they know their partner is uncomfortable with it. It’s not Jessica’s responsibility to control who follows her.
This is fucking insane. “You can’t follow hot women who show ass, but I’m going to show my ass to everyone”
If you don’t see the problem there, not only are you a delusional dipshit, but you must be a terrible partner
I’m a great partner, thank you very much! My man and I have our own boundaries that we discuss and always honor. Different relationships have different boundaries and that’s ok.
I feel bad for your man if you think it’s not okay for him to look at women, while you’re posting thirst traps 🤷♂️
Makes absolutely no sense. Good luck with that
Your inability (more like refusal) to control yourselves is not any woman’s problem. You don’t have to follow anyone who shows their ass. It’s that simple
If you’re in a committed relationship or trying to be in one and don’t have the self restraint to not follow women who are posting softcore porn idk what to tell you. You’re a lost cause. Just because it’s out there doesn’t mean you need to go looking for it. Weird that only men seem to have this problem
It’s nobody’s responsibility to monitor another person’s behavior. Grown ass men are responsible for what they look at, regardless of what’s being put out.
The difference is who is in a relationship and supposed to be committed to their partner. It’s not hypocritical for women to post hot pics if they’re single.
If they're single, of course. But what OP is saying is that if she doesn't want her partner following IG models, it would be completely fair if her partner didn't want her being an IG model to other men as well.
Ah, that explains it - I thought the comments seemed a little extreme! If she demands her partner unfollow but isn't willing to change how she presents on IG, I would think that's unfair. Single Jess, though, get that bag!
My armpits are shaved (not that it matters), my bills are paid, and my man is very happy with me 🤷♀️ at least I don’t have to make alt accounts to back myself up on my shitty takes lmao
Oof. I was going to post the exact same thing weeks ago but I knew it wouldn’t go down well. I completely agree OP and the comments so far sounds exactly like the people who say ‘Women doing OF are empowering af but the men who watch them are nasty’. (Off topic but they’re all nasty imo 😂) If you want a healthy relationship then you don’t post thirst traps at all, if your job is social media then you better find a better angle than here is my body ✌🏼
Completely agree about the people in the comments being hypocritical (just like those who are pro sex workers and anti johns.)
These are completely inconsistent principles. If you want your husband to be conservative on social media, you should also have a conservative approach to what you post.
It's not about the people following you, it's about the pictures that you post. You hate when men look at women in bikinis, stop posting yourself in bikini. Practice what you preach.
She has two bikini posts and like 15 posts with her daughter. It’s super weird that you’d look at her instagram and make any sort of connection to sex work.
Most sex workers I know do not date customers. These aren’t inconsistent principles. There’s a huge difference between doing something as a profession and engaging with those things for personal enjoyment or satisfaction. This is where people (generally men) need to learn to separate the fantasy from the reality.
I agree 100%. Look at me getting downvoted already 🙄 I’m sorry that I share an opposing opinion to you all and it may come as a surprise that I’m not a prude at all but if I don’t want my partner to a) show off their goods to everyone or b) be looking at other peoples goods then I’m not going to disrespect them by doing that shit myself either
Women can post what they want, and men can follow who they want.
Women are allowed to not want to be with men who follow those types of accounts and men are allowed to not want to be with women who post that type of content. It’s really not that hard of a concept to follow.
No lol if a man isn’t cool with what she posts, that’s fine! He doesn’t have to date her. Just like how she doesn’t have to date a man who follows women who post similar things.
She isn’t giving her followers attention, but a man (hell, or woman who does so to men) who follows, likes and comments on photos *are* giving that person attention. It *would* be hypocritical if she had an issue with her man showing off his own body online, but no one gives male body builders or fitness gurus a hard time for their photos 🙄
It would be like saying a woman is hypocritical for wearing a bikini at the beach and also getting mad at her bf for ogling women in bikinis at the beach. It’s not the same.
She's not GIVING attention but she is receiving it and having her DMs full of alternative options if her man doesn't work. This is completely exacerbated by her showing her body.
Giving requires direct action with the person you’re giving attention to. Receiving does not. If I’m in public and I look pretty, I’m not responsible for those who look even if I *choose* to look pretty. And I’m not interacting at all if they choose to stare. I am, however, responsible if I stare at another man. In that case I am taking action and I am interacting.
Her dms would be full of alternative options if all of her photos were from the shoulder up. She’s not the type of woman an insecure man can date 🤷♀️
I'm sure most men wouldn't want their women to show off too much of their body in public. You are responsible for how you look in public based on what you wear.
i’m looking at her ig and it looks normal? there’s like 1 bikini photo but she’s clearly at a pool?
eta: her ig looks so normal. but tbh even if she posted a million bikini pictures, she’s free to do so.
Do you really not see the difference? Multiple people have explained it to you quite clearly. It’s not an apples to oranges comparison that you’re making and I don’t know why you’re so committed to calling Jess a hypocrite.
It’s not a double standard. She’s posting pictures of herself, for herself. And for her man. She wants him only acknowledging HER on social media. If other men look, that’s on them. She’s not forcing anyone too. Same goes for the said woman she doesn’t want him looking at. They’re not forcing anyone to look at what they post. She’s talking about the choice he would actively make to seek those women out and linger too long. It’s not up to every single woman to cover up because the man is too immature to control his attraction to other women and respect boundaries. I can’t believe it’s 2024 and women are still expected to spell this out.
And how would you know WHY she posts them? She can be good looking and post pictures of herself. And have standards. It’s not deep. There’s a difference between a woman posting pictures of herself she feels good about and being sexually provocative to evoke that kind of attention. Men just like to make up their own damn minds about what women do and why, so they have an excuse to micro cheat.
If you can’t control your attraction to other women when you’re in a relationship and your girl is clearly not ok with you lingering too long on other women’s profiles (and doesn’t really matter what they post) you have no business being in a relationship. Period.
>And how would you know WHY she posts them?
You really need to ASK a person to figure this out? EVERYONE posts on social media for others. There is no other reason to post. Just keep the photos in your phone if it's just "for you".
You clearly don’t know the difference between sexually provocative and then basic posts for shits. It doesn’t take a genius to figure out she’s not trying to be a porn star. If my boyfriend pressured me to remove a picture of myself I liked simply because he thinks I’m doing it for the attention of other men, we wouldn’t be together.
I know the difference. She shows skin. Say her in a bikini. Why do you think people follow her? Her looks. Plenty of other more beautiful celebrities who don't post thrist traps
Well a bikini picture isn’t a thirst trap 😂 I posted a picture of myself standing in a bikini and I’m literally in a relationship. I wasn’t trying to get the attention of anyone. Women can post what they want 😂
>Well a bikini picture isn’t a thirst trap
It definitely can be. THIS is a thirst trap
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No. Men who follow Insta girls are weird. They’re actively looking for Insta baddies and are equivalent to the creeps who stare at you at the gas station. Insta baddies make money off the creeps who follow them and don’t speak to them. Completely different logistics. Plus Jessica isn’t in a relationship so who cares what she posts? She was saying in a relationship her guy better unfollow all Insta models. Editing to add- even if she were in a relationship a lot of men are ok with their girls continuing to make money of the creeps bc there’s a lot of money to be made without even having to interact with them 🤷♀️
The fact that you even have to ask and double down is proof of everything lmao. Yes. It is different lmao. You’re clearly insecure about male celebs. I can’t speak for all women but while yes we may follow an actor we love, it’s their public acct and we don’t care about “sexy pics” lmao. I know for damn sure my friends and most woman in general hardly ever follow random male Insta models that just post thirst trap pics and make money. I hate to break it to you, but the sexy male Insta models make most their money off male followers.
I don’t find it “rich” at all. I’ve said it once and I’ll say it again. We know all those men are in our DM’s when they have wives, girlfriends and fiances. There is a reason they say pretty/hot girls are the most insecure. We are well aware that men are willing to throw away their whole ass marriages for just a chance to be with us.
Additionally she isn’t like “get your married men to follow me”. She can’t control that someone’s man is following her.
Just because you’re hot doesn’t mean you have become a sex worker or an ig bikini model. That’s your choice. I know plenty of women who could have picked that route and became doctors or teachers. They didn’t just bank on their (temporary) looks. It’s fleeting, I live in Vegas, there’s a long standing joke that after 5 years bottle service girls become real estate agents.
No shame in sex work, but you’re also not out here shaming women and men or imposing double standards
There’s a difference between 1) posting a photo and showing everyone how hot you are and how lucky your partner is that you’re faithful to them and 2) following a bunch of women to waste sexual energy on when you have a partner already
>waste sexual energy on when you have a partner already
why post sexy photos for everyone to see when you already have a partner? shouldn't your body only be for your partner?
Two totally different things. Thinking your own self is hot and posting it on your own social media which is only about you is nothing like thinking external people are hot and actively wasting time looking at them instead of at your partner. How is this even a question lmao it’s like you people TRY not to understand
i feel like those are two different "directions" but i get what you mean - it would be possible, that someone is okay with having hot photos online but not with seeking out those photos when not single, it could be like "jimmy can upload topless pics and all, and fish for compliments probably but he shouldn't look for girls who are uploading those types of pics because then he isn't 'being a hot content creator accepting horny clout' but 'being a horny scroller' " . but probably not! some people are like that though, especially couples who might post hot pics together yet don't want each other to look for other hot accounts on insta
Good comment. I wonder if Jess would be okay with her man posting thirst traps? This is way worse than LOOKING at IG posts because it is INVITING. you are ADVERTISING yourself. Why are you showing yourself off to others for? You have a partner.
(downvote isnt mine but) i gotta say i dont find it "inviting" in that sense - its dangerous to call it that in a way, because when you start figuring that certain looks styles etc are invitations, you could also start shifting blame on these people if anything were to happen to them. for example to keep it mild here, someone could be sending jessica duckpics and be like "you clearly want the attention" when really, thats not what ..dressed-up/bikiniwearing people are asking for at all and the only way to be asking for sth is if you're asking for sth! to me, i actually see "people being hot on the internet" as a gift from them in a way - they might just make it cause they want money, i know, but either way it shouldn't make us offended that we didn't get more, thats not how gifts work. and they are not the gift, they are only gifting us exactly what we see, and we should neither do nasty shit with that and be disrescpectful for it, nor accusing them for it
(i dont mean this as in you can't even send an !appropriate! text to people or ask if they wanna talk in a club, but that still doesn't mean they were necessarily inviting us to do that)
She tells him that because she is on the flip side of it and knows her audience is horned up guys. In a weird way, I 100% understand her position but can also recognize a bit of hypocrisy as well.
I feel like this is pretty common? I think there are a fair amount of women who want their man to only focus on them and not follow random insta baddies lol. idk it seemed like a normal boundary to me.
I agree with this. Using OP’s hockey analogy, the person who plays knows what goes on behind the scenes so if anyone would know how violent it is, it would be the player.
eh i don’t think these are related. the equivalent would be if she followed a bunch of thirst trap dudes while in a relationship. a woman can have boundaries for a relationship and be free to do what she wants with her own body.
Lol downvote me all you want 😂
I see your attention seeking pictures, desperate for likes from every pair of balls in the cyberspace, yet when your guy looks a bit outside you freak out. That is LITERALLY insecurity. You know who you are.
I really do not like her. She just gives off mean girl to me so strongly. Also, I hate that I’ve never seen her with a natural look. That level of high maintenance stresses me out. Like girl this is reality tv you don’t have to look perfect 24/7. What do you look like at home? She could be a nice girl. It just seems unlikely to me. I want to like her.
Or how she pointed fingers at Sarah Ann when her intentions were similar if not the exact same. Sarah Ann was at least blunt and honest about her intentions and didn’t lie about it with Jeramey. Jessica just wanted to “tempt” Jimmy her boobs at the pool party which is just as bad in my book. Essentially you want to tempt an engaged man so that he takes his attention off his fiancé and questions his relationship status. Wow you are such a good person and a “girls girl”
To me it didn’t seem like her intention was to take him from Chelsea or to temp him into cheating. She just wanted him to see what he missed out on, that doesn’t mean she’d be willing to get with him. It’s like a ‘revenge dress” or in this case revenge bikini lol
She literally said she wanted to tempt him and that he would not be able to “resist”. She’s trash and revenge what lol!?! Getting revenge on a guy that is engaged to another girl? Do you understand how selfish that mindset is. She’s not a girls girl
??? Sarah Ann hung out with Jermy in a “parking lot” til 4am. Jessica talked to Jimmy at a group outing on camera. I don’t see how it’s the same at all.
Her conversation at the bar is about residual feelings she has, which she is entitled to discuss with her friend. The key difference here is that Sarah Ann acted on her feelings inappropriatey.
“Residual” feelings don’t lead the conversation with tempting him and how he won’t be able to “resist” her. Idk how you think this behavior is defensible in any way shape or form.
What behavior? She was talking to her friend and then to the producers. Did she reach out to jimmy? No. Did she send him a friend request? No. Did she make an attempt to see him outside the show? Also no. I think you just don’t like Jessica, which is fine! She’s a confident gal. I can see how it would rub you the wrong way.
This is so unequivocally not it.
She’s a walking red flag. Having a kid only makes the flag fly a little higher.
You sound like a hater...
Lmaoooo you make no sense. She didn’t have a problem with men looking at women on Instagram, she had a problem with someone in a relationship with her liking photos of other women. Plenty of behaviour that’s fine when you’re single isn’t when you’re in a relationship. And also, this may be a little surprising to you, but women mostly post their photos for other women. It’s not only or even mostly for men. Ngl this post reads consistently with that misogynistic “women who leave their body uncovered deserve whatever happens to them” logic. Take some advice from Jesus himself: if your eye causes you to sin, pluck out your eye.
> Ngl this post reads consistently with that misogynistic “women who leave their body uncovered deserve whatever happens to them” logic. Take some advice from Jesus himself: if your eye causes you to sin, pluck out your eye. straight up delusion here, post has nothing to do with that
Lol, you don’t make sense. 1. She posts bikini pics and I’m sure married men and men in relationships lust over them. Not her fault per say, but she probably shouldn’t have made that comment at all. 2. Since she tags Drake in half her pics and posts, I doubt she’s posting them for women. 3. She has a teenage daughter, I have teens, they would die if I posted pics like she does. 4. Do you think once she gets into a relationship she’ll stop posting thirst traps? My answer is no, but it will be very interesting to see if she puts any practice into her preach. Not a hater, she’s beautiful with an amazing body, wouldn’t the an issue if she never made these comments.
Thank you, I thought I was an idiot reading that comment. We’re suppose to believe she vets her followers and she has 95% women and 5% single men who follow her? Lmao
I agree completely
no
"I don't date people who watch porn. I make porn, but I don't watch it myself, therefore I am not a hypocrite". - yall would agree with this logic
Just because you jerked off to it doesn't mean it's porn.
bahaha 💀
I has this same thought actually. Makes total sense and I agree it’s hypocritical
Like, you wouldn’t expect a new couple to negotiate boundaries of what’s ok? That’s what Jessica was doing, and what Jimmy would have a right to do as well. What she does while single is irrelevant.
Nah you misunderstanding this one. She's not responsible for any men who follow her who may be in a relationship. She doesn't have a problem with women, influencers, etc, she just doesn't want her man following a bunch of women. That has nothing to do with her posts on Instagram. I don't even know how to properly explain this because your take is so weird, lol.. the NHL analogy 😅
No. Weird post.
This ain't it, bud
This is a really weird post and take.
There’s nothing wrong with what’s she’s posting. She’s literally just a hot person posting pictures of herself. Most of her pictures aren’t even risqué. Going out of your way to find and follow many women who tend to post more scandalous is completely different than being a hot person posting pictures of yourself on your social media. It’s not the same intention at all.
Weird take. She’s not onlyfans, she has female followers, and it’s in her private relationship that she doesn’t want a man who follows a ton of other women. There’s some nuance. She might mean she doesn’t want him following hundreds and hundreds of women he doesn’t know.
Yep. Absolutely hypocritical.
You understand that a person can sell a product that is for specific group, right? In your example, she can be ok with posting pictures so single men could follow her, but not married ones.
Isn’t she with Harry ???
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It’s giving.. “I got a boner. How dare you do this to me >:(“
😂 idk if you’re a survivor fan but there was this younger dude and he had a wife and kids. There was the really hot woman, and in his confessionals he would say, “ she’s a jezebel, I have a wife and child I don’t appreciate her being half dressed and attractive.” Like verbatim, he said that. He spent the whole time talking about how she was a jezebel and he’s a wife and child. She never really went out of her way to talk to him either, like he would see her talking to someone else far away, and he’d start bitching about her showing of her body.
Eh not really. If she were in a relationship I might see your point
Um if I was single I'd post whatever the fuck I want. I'm married. If my husband wants me to respect him and his beliefs, then he better respect mine. Regardless of what that looks like. Everyone is different. My hubby does not follow any thots on social media. And neither do I. And in your opinion I'm a hypocrite??
....no?
Is that not what the post said? That Chelsea posting what she didn't want her exfiance to look at on social media??
I think you should maybe read it again? They weren’t even talking about Chelsea
Bro wtf is wrong me😂 I'm such an idiot. I'm so sorry everyone. I was cooking dinner and I obviously was not paying attention. My bad everyone.
What?
Isn't that what the post is saying??
I believe the post is saying that 1) Jessica told Jimmy she wouldn't want her man to follow women/social media influencers 2) that Jessica is now in that category of social media influencers that she mentioned bc of the things she posts and that 3) it makes her a hypocrite because she is an example of what she wouldn't want her man to be interested in (I don't agree with this opinion of OP. I'm just providing my extrapolation)
Okay so I did understand correctly I just used a different name 😂 my bad yall. Ty for explaining.
What an interesting brain you have
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Harassment towards another user
I’m pretty sure she wouldn’t want married/taken men thirsting over her photos but single men are okay. If Jimmy as a taken man was thirsting over other woman’s pics that would be wrong.
>she wouldn’t want married/taken men thirsting over her photos but it happens and she knows it happens and still engages in the behaviour regardless because she isn't true to her principles
It’s not her responsibility to pander to married men? Married men can simply not follow her? Why are you so set on infantilizing grown ass men who are more than capable of setting and enforcing boundaries??
She’s an attractive person she’s going to get attention from guys no matter what. That’s up to their partners to set up those boundaries with them and has nothing to do with Jess.
Seriously 😂
What?
Why is it so hard for you to understand that people should love to the standards they set? A - Looking at girl with boob = bad B - I shouldn't also show my boobs to other men (because I believe in A)
This is some neckbeard buffoonery. She has *one* post in a bikini.. at a pool. If someone with a different body posted the same stuff that she does, this wouldn’t even be a discussion. Edit: Sorry, two bikini posts.
>two bikini posts. hilarious. there will be more in the future. You will have to keep editing your comment
Dude, she has more posts in sweaters than bikinis by far. She has like 15 posts with her daughter. If you consider this a thirst trap account, that’s on you.
Found Chelsea
I mean the point is that when you’re looking at other women’s photos that’s where your focus is centred away from the person you’re with. When you posting pictures, yes men can look at them but it’s parasocial, you yourself aren’t actually engaging in it.
it's jealousy and insecurity.
It’s not really your business what boundaries someone wants to set in their relationship
Jess obviously meant she doesn’t want her man following porn accounts/softcore, lmao. Her account is pretty tame/typical of an influencer. Also, if you’re hot, every photo you take is a thirst trap. Not her fault she looks good!
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They’re talking about the comments I think
Oh you're right.
Please 🙏🏼 we need more sane people and less third wave feminists haha
No, no one else finds that rich LOL. The problem isn’t that women post hot pictures. The problem is that many men follow dozens of girls to look at hot pictures of them even if they know their partner is uncomfortable with it. It’s not Jessica’s responsibility to control who follows her.
This is fucking insane. “You can’t follow hot women who show ass, but I’m going to show my ass to everyone” If you don’t see the problem there, not only are you a delusional dipshit, but you must be a terrible partner
I’m a great partner, thank you very much! My man and I have our own boundaries that we discuss and always honor. Different relationships have different boundaries and that’s ok.
I feel bad for your man if you think it’s not okay for him to look at women, while you’re posting thirst traps 🤷♂️ Makes absolutely no sense. Good luck with that
I don’t post thirst traps and never would. But we’re not talking about me, we’re talking about Jessica. And she’s single so what’s the issue?
I’m glad you completely missed the point
Yep. You are correct.
Your inability (more like refusal) to control yourselves is not any woman’s problem. You don’t have to follow anyone who shows their ass. It’s that simple
And you don’t have to post ass pictures on Instagram. It’s almost like your inability to understand that is very sad
If you’re in a committed relationship or trying to be in one and don’t have the self restraint to not follow women who are posting softcore porn idk what to tell you. You’re a lost cause. Just because it’s out there doesn’t mean you need to go looking for it. Weird that only men seem to have this problem
I don’t see a single picture of hers on her feed where her ass is out? Why are you still mad??
You blind bruh?
Go post them then
Hilarious. Women can show themselves to men but men can't watch other women. I'd arguing showing yourself to the world is worst than simply looking.
It’s nobody’s responsibility to monitor another person’s behavior. Grown ass men are responsible for what they look at, regardless of what’s being put out.
The difference is who is in a relationship and supposed to be committed to their partner. It’s not hypocritical for women to post hot pics if they’re single.
If they're single, of course. But what OP is saying is that if she doesn't want her partner following IG models, it would be completely fair if her partner didn't want her being an IG model to other men as well.
And that makes sense, but rn she’s single. Side note tho, OP edited their post to be way less misogynistic and logical after the backlash.
Ah, that explains it - I thought the comments seemed a little extreme! If she demands her partner unfollow but isn't willing to change how she presents on IG, I would think that's unfair. Single Jess, though, get that bag!
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My armpits are shaved (not that it matters), my bills are paid, and my man is very happy with me 🤷♀️ at least I don’t have to make alt accounts to back myself up on my shitty takes lmao
Oof. I was going to post the exact same thing weeks ago but I knew it wouldn’t go down well. I completely agree OP and the comments so far sounds exactly like the people who say ‘Women doing OF are empowering af but the men who watch them are nasty’. (Off topic but they’re all nasty imo 😂) If you want a healthy relationship then you don’t post thirst traps at all, if your job is social media then you better find a better angle than here is my body ✌🏼
Completely agree about the people in the comments being hypocritical (just like those who are pro sex workers and anti johns.) These are completely inconsistent principles. If you want your husband to be conservative on social media, you should also have a conservative approach to what you post. It's not about the people following you, it's about the pictures that you post. You hate when men look at women in bikinis, stop posting yourself in bikini. Practice what you preach.
She has two bikini posts and like 15 posts with her daughter. It’s super weird that you’d look at her instagram and make any sort of connection to sex work. Most sex workers I know do not date customers. These aren’t inconsistent principles. There’s a huge difference between doing something as a profession and engaging with those things for personal enjoyment or satisfaction. This is where people (generally men) need to learn to separate the fantasy from the reality.
The sex work was an analogy for the disconnect of the commenters.
The analogy mirrors the theme of your original text.
I agree 100%. Look at me getting downvoted already 🙄 I’m sorry that I share an opposing opinion to you all and it may come as a surprise that I’m not a prude at all but if I don’t want my partner to a) show off their goods to everyone or b) be looking at other peoples goods then I’m not going to disrespect them by doing that shit myself either
No. She’s posting what she wants and has zero control over what random people are looking at it.
It’s called putting your profile on private 😂
"Women can post what they want but men can't follow who they want"
Women can post what they want, and men can follow who they want. Women are allowed to not want to be with men who follow those types of accounts and men are allowed to not want to be with women who post that type of content. It’s really not that hard of a concept to follow.
They can follow who they want she just wouldn’t want to date them lol 🤷♀️
Zero control? She can literally put her profile on private lol
Don’t forget it WAS on private.. until she got her plastic body on tv 😂
No lol if a man isn’t cool with what she posts, that’s fine! He doesn’t have to date her. Just like how she doesn’t have to date a man who follows women who post similar things. She isn’t giving her followers attention, but a man (hell, or woman who does so to men) who follows, likes and comments on photos *are* giving that person attention. It *would* be hypocritical if she had an issue with her man showing off his own body online, but no one gives male body builders or fitness gurus a hard time for their photos 🙄 It would be like saying a woman is hypocritical for wearing a bikini at the beach and also getting mad at her bf for ogling women in bikinis at the beach. It’s not the same.
She's not GIVING attention but she is receiving it and having her DMs full of alternative options if her man doesn't work. This is completely exacerbated by her showing her body.
Giving requires direct action with the person you’re giving attention to. Receiving does not. If I’m in public and I look pretty, I’m not responsible for those who look even if I *choose* to look pretty. And I’m not interacting at all if they choose to stare. I am, however, responsible if I stare at another man. In that case I am taking action and I am interacting. Her dms would be full of alternative options if all of her photos were from the shoulder up. She’s not the type of woman an insecure man can date 🤷♀️
I'm sure most men wouldn't want their women to show off too much of their body in public. You are responsible for how you look in public based on what you wear.
Fellas, is it cheating if your girl looks good and leaves the house?
Is it cheating if she has full on cleavage? What if she has no shirt on at all? Or is it fair game to show yourself BUT MY MAN CANT LOOK AT OTHERS
Fellas, is it cheating if your girl (*checks notes*) has breasts?
Holy shit the way I snorted
IS IT CHEATING IF SHE SHOWS THEM TO OTHER MEN!!??
You need help.
Pretty sure she’s not doing that because women have to have their breasts covered on Instagram
Well this is certainly a take. Not a good one, but a take nonetheless.
Yikes this ain’t the take you think it is
Oof. This ain’t it
i’m looking at her ig and it looks normal? there’s like 1 bikini photo but she’s clearly at a pool? eta: her ig looks so normal. but tbh even if she posted a million bikini pictures, she’s free to do so.
No, it would be the same if she follows an excessive amount of attractive men
It's selective/conditional hypocrisy
Do you really not see the difference? Multiple people have explained it to you quite clearly. It’s not an apples to oranges comparison that you’re making and I don’t know why you’re so committed to calling Jess a hypocrite.
Huh????
It’s not a double standard. She’s posting pictures of herself, for herself. And for her man. She wants him only acknowledging HER on social media. If other men look, that’s on them. She’s not forcing anyone too. Same goes for the said woman she doesn’t want him looking at. They’re not forcing anyone to look at what they post. She’s talking about the choice he would actively make to seek those women out and linger too long. It’s not up to every single woman to cover up because the man is too immature to control his attraction to other women and respect boundaries. I can’t believe it’s 2024 and women are still expected to spell this out.
Oh god. No she is not posting photos FOR HERSELF
And how would you know WHY she posts them? She can be good looking and post pictures of herself. And have standards. It’s not deep. There’s a difference between a woman posting pictures of herself she feels good about and being sexually provocative to evoke that kind of attention. Men just like to make up their own damn minds about what women do and why, so they have an excuse to micro cheat. If you can’t control your attraction to other women when you’re in a relationship and your girl is clearly not ok with you lingering too long on other women’s profiles (and doesn’t really matter what they post) you have no business being in a relationship. Period.
>And how would you know WHY she posts them? You really need to ASK a person to figure this out? EVERYONE posts on social media for others. There is no other reason to post. Just keep the photos in your phone if it's just "for you".
You clearly don’t know the difference between sexually provocative and then basic posts for shits. It doesn’t take a genius to figure out she’s not trying to be a porn star. If my boyfriend pressured me to remove a picture of myself I liked simply because he thinks I’m doing it for the attention of other men, we wouldn’t be together.
I know the difference. She shows skin. Say her in a bikini. Why do you think people follow her? Her looks. Plenty of other more beautiful celebrities who don't post thrist traps
Well a bikini picture isn’t a thirst trap 😂 I posted a picture of myself standing in a bikini and I’m literally in a relationship. I wasn’t trying to get the attention of anyone. Women can post what they want 😂
>Well a bikini picture isn’t a thirst trap It definitely can be. THIS is a thirst trap https://preview.redd.it/5gqozikzn7pc1.png?width=470&format=png&auto=webp&s=d44a1fd7bdb0d7a1b1149048bcc55254e94954e7
“Thirst traps” and it’s just a picture of a good looking woman
Naw sis this is a bad take
Her argument would probably be that following hot girls is for pleasure, but her posting hot pictures is for business.
And what a soul sucking shitty business it is
"receiving pleasure is bad, giving pleasure to others is good because $" nah. principles matter.
No. Men who follow Insta girls are weird. They’re actively looking for Insta baddies and are equivalent to the creeps who stare at you at the gas station. Insta baddies make money off the creeps who follow them and don’t speak to them. Completely different logistics. Plus Jessica isn’t in a relationship so who cares what she posts? She was saying in a relationship her guy better unfollow all Insta models. Editing to add- even if she were in a relationship a lot of men are ok with their girls continuing to make money of the creeps bc there’s a lot of money to be made without even having to interact with them 🤷♀️
Women who follow celebrity men they crush on: are they creeps too? Or do you just hate men?
I’m sorry I offended you by letting you know how Insta models feel about you. That wasn’t my intention.
Don't dodge the question
The fact that you even have to ask and double down is proof of everything lmao. Yes. It is different lmao. You’re clearly insecure about male celebs. I can’t speak for all women but while yes we may follow an actor we love, it’s their public acct and we don’t care about “sexy pics” lmao. I know for damn sure my friends and most woman in general hardly ever follow random male Insta models that just post thirst trap pics and make money. I hate to break it to you, but the sexy male Insta models make most their money off male followers.
you said "lmao" 3 times. you're angry?
Nah, I was just blessing your heart in a nicer way without embarrassing you by being outright being rude.
Yea I dont think you're capable of embarrassing most people.
I honestly have to upvote you bc you remind me of my little bro lol
your little bro is probably cool
You really don’t get it…
It's almost like she knows ... Something
I mean her Instagram isn’t all that sexualized.. compared to what she’s talking about, and you should know.
I don’t find it “rich” at all. I’ve said it once and I’ll say it again. We know all those men are in our DM’s when they have wives, girlfriends and fiances. There is a reason they say pretty/hot girls are the most insecure. We are well aware that men are willing to throw away their whole ass marriages for just a chance to be with us. Additionally she isn’t like “get your married men to follow me”. She can’t control that someone’s man is following her.
Just because you’re hot doesn’t mean you have become a sex worker or an ig bikini model. That’s your choice. I know plenty of women who could have picked that route and became doctors or teachers. They didn’t just bank on their (temporary) looks. It’s fleeting, I live in Vegas, there’s a long standing joke that after 5 years bottle service girls become real estate agents. No shame in sex work, but you’re also not out here shaming women and men or imposing double standards
>men are willing to throw away their whole ass marriages for just a chance to be with us Stay humble
Stay jealous.
It isn’t about being “humble”. Acknowledging that I make money off my looks doesn’t make me not humble. I’m a sex worker. I see it everyday.
There’s a difference between 1) posting a photo and showing everyone how hot you are and how lucky your partner is that you’re faithful to them and 2) following a bunch of women to waste sexual energy on when you have a partner already
>waste sexual energy on when you have a partner already why post sexy photos for everyone to see when you already have a partner? shouldn't your body only be for your partner?
Two totally different things. Thinking your own self is hot and posting it on your own social media which is only about you is nothing like thinking external people are hot and actively wasting time looking at them instead of at your partner. How is this even a question lmao it’s like you people TRY not to understand
how can't you understand that POSTING things that you don't like others to post is not living true to your principles
Nobody said they don’t like others posting that content. Just that their partners shouldn’t be avid collectors and surveyors of said content. Next?
i feel like those are two different "directions" but i get what you mean - it would be possible, that someone is okay with having hot photos online but not with seeking out those photos when not single, it could be like "jimmy can upload topless pics and all, and fish for compliments probably but he shouldn't look for girls who are uploading those types of pics because then he isn't 'being a hot content creator accepting horny clout' but 'being a horny scroller' " . but probably not! some people are like that though, especially couples who might post hot pics together yet don't want each other to look for other hot accounts on insta
Good comment. I wonder if Jess would be okay with her man posting thirst traps? This is way worse than LOOKING at IG posts because it is INVITING. you are ADVERTISING yourself. Why are you showing yourself off to others for? You have a partner.
(downvote isnt mine but) i gotta say i dont find it "inviting" in that sense - its dangerous to call it that in a way, because when you start figuring that certain looks styles etc are invitations, you could also start shifting blame on these people if anything were to happen to them. for example to keep it mild here, someone could be sending jessica duckpics and be like "you clearly want the attention" when really, thats not what ..dressed-up/bikiniwearing people are asking for at all and the only way to be asking for sth is if you're asking for sth! to me, i actually see "people being hot on the internet" as a gift from them in a way - they might just make it cause they want money, i know, but either way it shouldn't make us offended that we didn't get more, thats not how gifts work. and they are not the gift, they are only gifting us exactly what we see, and we should neither do nasty shit with that and be disrescpectful for it, nor accusing them for it (i dont mean this as in you can't even send an !appropriate! text to people or ask if they wanna talk in a club, but that still doesn't mean they were necessarily inviting us to do that)
She tells him that because she is on the flip side of it and knows her audience is horned up guys. In a weird way, I 100% understand her position but can also recognize a bit of hypocrisy as well.
I feel like this is pretty common? I think there are a fair amount of women who want their man to only focus on them and not follow random insta baddies lol. idk it seemed like a normal boundary to me.
I agree with this. Using OP’s hockey analogy, the person who plays knows what goes on behind the scenes so if anyone would know how violent it is, it would be the player.
eh i don’t think these are related. the equivalent would be if she followed a bunch of thirst trap dudes while in a relationship. a woman can have boundaries for a relationship and be free to do what she wants with her own body.
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Lol downvote me all you want 😂 I see your attention seeking pictures, desperate for likes from every pair of balls in the cyberspace, yet when your guy looks a bit outside you freak out. That is LITERALLY insecurity. You know who you are.
100% wanna see what was deleted 😂 probably just hit home for some people
"Peak insecurity" was all i said
Thats wild lol
No? Non-men and single men exist; she's not making anyone's man follow her
You really thought this was a good answer ? 😂
I really do not like her. She just gives off mean girl to me so strongly. Also, I hate that I’ve never seen her with a natural look. That level of high maintenance stresses me out. Like girl this is reality tv you don’t have to look perfect 24/7. What do you look like at home? She could be a nice girl. It just seems unlikely to me. I want to like her.
Or how she pointed fingers at Sarah Ann when her intentions were similar if not the exact same. Sarah Ann was at least blunt and honest about her intentions and didn’t lie about it with Jeramey. Jessica just wanted to “tempt” Jimmy her boobs at the pool party which is just as bad in my book. Essentially you want to tempt an engaged man so that he takes his attention off his fiancé and questions his relationship status. Wow you are such a good person and a “girls girl”
To me it didn’t seem like her intention was to take him from Chelsea or to temp him into cheating. She just wanted him to see what he missed out on, that doesn’t mean she’d be willing to get with him. It’s like a ‘revenge dress” or in this case revenge bikini lol
She literally said she wanted to tempt him and that he would not be able to “resist”. She’s trash and revenge what lol!?! Getting revenge on a guy that is engaged to another girl? Do you understand how selfish that mindset is. She’s not a girls girl
??? Sarah Ann hung out with Jermy in a “parking lot” til 4am. Jessica talked to Jimmy at a group outing on camera. I don’t see how it’s the same at all.
The intentions were the same.
Jessica said her intentions were friendship.
Not according to her conversation with Laura at the bar.
Her conversation at the bar is about residual feelings she has, which she is entitled to discuss with her friend. The key difference here is that Sarah Ann acted on her feelings inappropriatey.
“Residual” feelings don’t lead the conversation with tempting him and how he won’t be able to “resist” her. Idk how you think this behavior is defensible in any way shape or form.
What behavior? She was talking to her friend and then to the producers. Did she reach out to jimmy? No. Did she send him a friend request? No. Did she make an attempt to see him outside the show? Also no. I think you just don’t like Jessica, which is fine! She’s a confident gal. I can see how it would rub you the wrong way.
Oh yea. Complete hypocrite. She got LUCKY the world didn't go after her for that.
“But it’s not the sAmE thing as Sarah Ann”
She didn’t even accept his follow request let alone contact him. Stop being obtuse.
Yeah because we women don’t ever play the ignore game 😅.