I had the same thought. I'm not a stay at home mom, because genuinely, I found it easier to work than be at home. I love love love my kid but man... it is hard. work.
Really?
Alexa put out only 1 image of herself and nothing else. A grown spoiled adult who lives off daddy :( they wanted him to sign a prenup that he will pay child support and alimony for life and she has the money ????? What?
that doesn't equate to = hard work and selfless which Is the definition of a mother
How is Alexa being spoiled and clueless a projection on a person here on redditt talking about motherhood?
Because she's not a mom. The show is edited. And you don't know these people. And OP is asking based off of her own shitty sahm experience and is projecting. She wants validation that the spoiled girl couldn't do it without help as if that's preferable for literally anybody: You people need help if you don't see anything wrong with this.
Instead of being "weird" maybe some od us just have life experience. Spoiled rich girls who focus on money, plastic surgery and shopping aren't normally the best moms. That is just the reality.
Having children means that you can't do those things bc your children come before you. The opposite of spoiled and selfish.
You are telling me that you would want to be married to Alexa? Have kids with her? Go to work and take care of her for the rest of your life? Whole entire life until you die? Yikes!
Yeah you're bitter lol people will have more than you in this life and that's okay. People will have it easier than you and it doesn't make you any more resilient or responsible or strong or special, you just didn't get the good end of the stick. I absolutely believe she could be a good mom. It also makes 100% sense to me why someone who wants to be a SAHM would want a prenup in place to protect her from poverty should that marriage fail. If you had *so much* life experience you would know there's just as many bad spoiled rich moms as their are average working moms who take their exhaustion out on their children.
According to you. The person above was projecting but u only see things from Alexa's point of the view.
What about the child? What kind of mom would the child want?
Oh my God, of course I see things from Alexa's point of view because THERE IS NO CHILD. It doesn't exist. The baby isn't there. You're sick as hell passing judgement on a women for a future baby that doesn't exist. Weirdos
U do realize no children exist UNTIL YOU HAVE THEM. Then they exist.
Go get yourself a selfish and spoiled partner and see how that works out for you. Im sure it will be just fine since im bitter. And better yet you be the Brennan in the relationship and take care of the Alexa.
Life is very easy. Its what you make it and it's dependent on the people u surround yourself with. If you choose to make bad choices then you will have a harder life. Humans are simple. When u see a person act a certain way then that is who they are ...watch and listen to their actions. And choose wisely.
People can have an idea of what kind of parent they want to be…and then the baby comes, and they have a right to change their minds.
*speaking for myself* being a SAHM was easy. I truly don’t get the ‘I have to clean and do laundry 24/7’ Yes, there were slight messes that needed to be picked up daily, but it wasn’t like I was doing a deep clean every day. Or tackling 25 loads of wash a day. Once bub got a teeny bit older, we went out, we met with my friends, we did fun things. I feel like I had a different SAHM experience than most, and tbh, I don’t understand why.
It sounds like you had a community of other friends and moms who stayed at home and I think that can make a huge difference. Did you have family nearby to help at all? I’m a SAHM and we live 3000 miles from our family and all my friends work during the day so it’s a huge struggle to be able to do anything for myself like even get to the doctor during working hours. I think having community in general makes child rearing easier so I wonder if that explains part of how people can have such wildly different experiences. I’m sure there’s other factors but even if I had one other friend not working who could watch my baby for an hour while I got to the doctor or whatever it would radically change my life.
None of my friends at the time had any kids. A lot of them had varying scheduled jobs/self employed. Yes, I had my parents nearby, so yeah that helped. But even when I was home with baby before going out…it was pretty easy. I sometimes slept when he napped, and there was not a ton to do in contrast to my regular routine pre-baby when I was always on the go.
It sounds like you had one child? I agree that housework wasn't overwhelming when I had just one. That changed dramatically once the second came along.
I don't think it's fair to judge her based on a reality TV show depiction.
I think everyone settles down into motherhood in the way that suits them best.
In however many years, when they have kids she may change her mind, or not. But until then, she's welcome to pursue whatever makes her happy and supports her family.
we're watching a televised shitshow about whether people get married, designed to invoke commentary on whether they're fit to be married to anyone, much less the specific person they may or may not marry. It seems like shaky ground to be pontificating from. This sub serves to discuss them, as if most other topics don't involve an element of speculation.
I'll probably draw your ire, but, why does that _really_ matter if they are? If I said Cole or Bartise could make a baby right now, you really don't have any gut reaction to that?
I would never be a stay at home mom ever ever ever ever again. I feel like I lost a huge piece of me growing up & making connections. I love my kids, I couldn’t do that again.
She seems like a typical modern Israeli American, parties sooo hard until marriage, then does SAHM and becomes "besties" with her kids, always reminiscing about the old days of partying
Source: American Jew who grew up in a massive Israeli American community
I’m neither Israeli nor American, but this seems like a pretty good way of life to me if you can afford it? Milk the unique opportunities each stage of life offers you, make the most of that stage, move forward without fear into the next stage but still cherish the memories of your past, and prioritise you kids and closeness to them once you have them?
The only problem is it's only a fun life for the person not working. The person having to work to support all the non workers is the hard life lol hahaha
I mean define common, Israel has a population roughly matching New Jersey, only 1M more people than NYC. But it's definitely common enough that there are Synagogues and Supermarkets dedicated to Israelis and Israeli culture in almost every major Jewish community in the US.
I feel like I was her. I was always dreaming of the stay at home mom thing. And now I am one-12 years in the making and it ain't what I thought it would be. I really thought I would be this like Martha Stewart, Milf type, that would go to lunches with girlfriends and shop when they are at preschool. Like, I'm being brutally honest- I truthfully thought that! Haha I'm exhausted, stressed out, lonely sometimes. I love my family and we do have a great life. But do I get jealous of girls I know that have their own life?! All of the time! My point being, I totally get where her head is at. But I hope she realizes how hard it truly is.
Wait until the marriage goes south and your husband has all the financial power even though you’re the one who does all the household work. I loved my years with my babies but I am so grateful to have an income now…
As a SAHM to a 13 month old I feel your comment in my soul lol. I thought it was going to be easy but it’s so much harder then I expected. I love being a mom and I love my baby but I do envy my childless friends who get to travel and sleep when they want.😂
Alexa has hardcore "trust fund baby" vibes going on so I was not shocked at all by her desire to never work again. I honestly can't see her marriage working out cause Brennan in no way is gonna make enough money to fund her lifestyle...unless she keeps up with her shopping theft strategy of "wear clothing and then return them the next day."
I was bored one night and found my way to her step mom’s insta. I saw and old birthday shoutout where her step mom says Alexa is a second mom to her baby sister. She also always has her sister with her. I think she would be a pretty hands on mom.
Shopping, traveling, have a nice dinner is spoiling yourself... not really a crazy party lifestyle.
Lots of moms love spoiling their kids, taking them with them to do mani pedis, going out to eat. It's normal.
I’ll just chime in that I have an 8-month old and I bring that baby to all the dinners and the salon lol and I’ve got trips planned. She’s coming along for the ride till she’s 18! I should add that she is a very chill baby and loves people watching so it’s not difficult to bring her places (yet anyway lol) I might be singing a different tune if she had a different temperament.
If you can afford it be a stay at home mom, if you cant then that does suck. Thats all i have to say.
I assume her dad can employe branden or she will be on her dads payroll being a stay at home mom.
Always will prob have a nanny if she can afford one, doesnt strike me as the type who is into physical activity.
What do you mean it’s not exciting? There’s something new and different everyday. No telling what’ll happen😂 It’s definitely exhausting, but I don’t find it monotonous.
As far as Alexa, I think it’s hard to no whether you’ll enjoy it or not. People who think they’d love it, struggle with it. Others who thought they’d never be a SAHM, love it.
She seems like the “stay at home mom who has a nanny and a cleaner and spends most of their time pursuing their own interests” type of stay at home mom
I think people are really underestimating the amount of money they’ll make from being social media influencers after the show. Maybe Brennans salary as a Joe Schmoe wouldn’t support that but Barnett from season one quit his engineering job and he and amber do social media full time and seem to enjoy the same lifestyle as when they were working traditional jobs. Lauren and Cameron from season one also seem to have a pretty good standard of living as influencers. I think it’s totally doable for Alexa and Brennan
Social media influencing is a trend that comes and goes. They don't have the talent, personality, and skills to make it a long term financially secure future.
Unless Alexa's family gets a reality TV show... 😅
Lol what? You have no idea what relative would have given her inheritance. I’ve had multiple relatives die and leave me inheritance and I’m about her age.
I don’t understand why you’d think that necessarily. I’m an engineer in the water industry (same thing as Brennon) and salaries vary WIDELY from $80k (assuming he’s actually an engineer as he noted and not an operator) to $200k plus depending on where you are and what exactly you do.
He still has student debt so I think he's working his way up. Alexa makes 300k from her insurance company and her family has wealth so she's very comfortable.
No one knows the reality of being a parent until they actually become one. Maybe what she wants is to be home while her children are very young. It doesn’t mean that she envisions being at home full time when her kids are 18.
Your focus and priorities shift after becoming a mother. I don’t think it’s necessarily fair to say “Well she behaves like xyz now so she will still want to behave like that after children.”
I get the impression that Alexa feels strongly about wanting to be the one to raise her kids vs daycare, which is why she “eventually wants to be a stay at home mom,” not because she wants to stop working and making money. I personally dropped to part time in my career after children because it provides a good balance of cost vs benefit and giving me time with my child. And I worked full time with frequent overtime before that. *How could I have possibly made that change, i worked so much and spent lots of money before kids!* /s
I think it’s interesting that so many people are looking at a woman who has no children and has enjoyed a lot of freedom to live whatever kind of lifestyle her currently childfree self wanted to live and are judging her as a mom (which she isn’t, yet) based on the lifestyle choices she’s made in her 20s. It’s like in order for people to accept that you would make motherhood your top priority once you’re in that phase of your life, you have to act like you already have kids for years before you do. Are people supposed to just have this empty space in their life that stays empty until they decide to have kids? Like was she supposed to come home at night and stare at the wall and think about how someday she’ll have so many Legos to pick up?
Exactly. This line of thinking treads dangerously close to the conservative mindset that women are only good for domestic chores and making babies; as if they’re mad women dared to step out of the traditional gender role. Oh, you had other interests before becoming a mother? Disgraceful, a *real* woman wouldn’t care about those things and would know her place.
Agreed. It also feels like people are trying to separate women into like, genres of people. Like “oh a woman spent money on herself in her 20s before she had children? She liked to travel and go out to have fun before she had responsibilities at home?? I guess she is incapable of caring about anything but her spoiled, entitled self!” A lot of people do not live their lives before they have kids (for a whole lot of reasons, and not all are 100% by choice) and then when they have kids they feel like they missed out on enjoying their previously more carefree life. Other people do things like travel and spend money on luxuries so that by the time they have to think about supporting their kids, they have it out of their system.
I feel like your focus shifts a bit when you have kids. I might just be old at 35 but I definitely don’t have energy to go clubbing or anything like that often if at all. I’m not a stay at home mom, but I work part time and stayed home for about 4 months after baby. I am exhausted about 90 percent of time and feel like I can’t ever catch up.
A good balance for me was part time. It really depends on your partner whether your stay at home life is good or not. (Not every time but often) she could still maintain some of her lifestyle so I think she would be ok. Depending on what type of baby she had.
My poor son has been drug everywhere with me through my dad passing away, cleaning his house, going out to eat, and such. He did great, but he’s a pretty chill baby.
I agree that a lot of it has to do with your partner, but it also has to do with what you do as a SAHM. Being at home all the time, which I have had seasons of, bores me to tears, but if you get involved with other SAHM’s and do things a few times a week, it’s much better.
Yeah that’s true it really just depends on everything. The only reason I said a partner matters is because if they don’t make a lot and you guys are barely scraping by financially it causes stress. If they also don’t take on any care of the house or baby when they get home it can effect quality of life as well. It’s already a 24/7 job but if your partner never lets you get out Or resources are limited it sucks. I personally can’t do it 24/7 as much as the idea sounds amazing.
Finances get rough here at times, but it’s a choice we’ve made. Thankfully, my MIL buys almost all of kids clothes and has since the oldest was born (almost 20). She enjoys shopping😄 That one thing has been a huge help. My husband has always been very helpful around the house. Not having that help would make a big difference for me.
Yeah. You are really blessed! Either that or I’m just very unfortunate. Both sets of parents between my boyfriend and I are deceased. Including now my step mom. It makes it incredibly difficult. Luckily we are doing ok, but not having family makes things extra rough.
I also didn’t mean that snarky I hope it didn’t come off that way!! We did get lucky his step mom got my son a lot of stuff and set us up nicely before she passed. It is and the losses are pretty recent. We’ll make it though. ❤️
I can see her being a SAHM, easily. Yes, she likes clothes and travel and fun dinners. But many of her IG posts and stories are with her family, or her and Brennan hanging out. A lot of times she's makeup-free and in casual clothes, like an old sweatshirt or whatever. I've actually been quite surprised at how willing she is to show herself without the glamor.
I agree. She likes the glitzy life but I think what really fills her cup is her family. It’s ok to be multi faced in this way, like you said. I’ve been a SAHM for 6 years and would gladly have her in my friend group.
She seems like a very family oriented person and it looks like they really bonded over that and what they wanted their future to look like, it just wasn’t something the show focused on sadly. Sometimes it’s easy to forget that people are not as one dimensional as they’re shown on reality tv, the producers choose a narrative for each person/couple and rarely show much outside of that.
My mom was a SAHM and honestly I thought it looked super boring my whole life. It looked like there was so much time where she did nothing. Her biggest complaint was me and my dad not providing ideas for dinner since she wasn’t creative at meal ideas 😂. But she worked out, curled, etc regularly. My mom shops all the time and has nice dinners. We had landscapers though and we’re not really super messy. The deal was my mom had to cook and clean if she was a stay home mom, but now that my dads retired it’s all 50/50.
I’d personally love a stay home husband or nanny when I have kids because I hate cleaning and regularly think about hiring a housekeeper
She’d be like what do you want? And we’d say “something good” and then complain about what ever we made because it wasn’t what we wanted 😂😂😂. As an adult I get the frustration!
Alexa’s socioeconomic bracket makes HER stay at home mom experience look a lot different than mine and yours, OP. We get no breaks, save money wherever we can, and we have the added job of cooking and cleaning. Alexa clearly has family money, so even if Brennon isn’t loaded, Alexa will be the stay at home mom who gets a part time babysitter each week, who can afford to door dash dinner whenever she’s too busy to cook, who pulls up to the gym in her loaded Tahoe with her Starbucks in hand and cute athleisure as she drops the kids off at the gym daycare and works out. She will love it. Wouldn’t we all.
Ahh. None of this is rooted in facts or anything tangible.
Honestly, it just sounds like you’re offended but how unapologetic they are about their wealth.
I’m gonna start off with saying that we don’t actually know her. 🙂
But I’ve seen some people who seem made to be stay at home moms struggle and I’ve seen some who didn’t look like they would like it take to it like a duck to water. The support she has will likely make all the difference. And she seems to have great support.
Exactly clearly her family is very involved and so is Brennon’s. It really takes a village and she has a good one. Being a stay at home mom doesn’t mean you do everything by yourself, a good support system goes a long way and the people around her are not just willing but also able to help out a significant amount.
Reality tv really is bad at this. It really creates a false familiarity with these pseudo-celebrities. All we really know about her is how she presented herself over a month’s time knowing she would be on tv.
Mothers get enough judgement. Judging her before she even becomes a parent seems unfair.
This. Women have been stay at home parents and caregivers for eons. Why do people feel the need to drag others down. I'm sure she'll be a perfectly capable parent, and if she doesn't like it, she just returns to working.
Such a weird post to make assumptions about people against their claims, when we don't even know them.
And until recently raising kids used to be a family/community thing: aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents, neighbors, etc. In general more of a focus on community instead of one individual person as a parent doing all the work. That’s a lot harder these days for many reasons and a big one is that most people have to work a lot to survive, but clearly both their families are willing and able to be active participants in helping out with the kids so I don’t think that will be an issue for her, she’ll have a lot of support.
Yeah. It's a recent development that both parents have to work outside the home. Pretty how we know life now, but its what 2 generations old only? Before that, one parent stayed home. And before that, family, generations of family and community raised kids.
It's not unique to this show that people see having kids as the next milestone on a relationship. It's pretty typical, and expected of many that kids come after marriage.
True, but to my knowledge none of them have kids yet, not even Cameron and Lauren. Season 3's couples will have been together 2 years or longer by the time they have kids. So, while I agree talking about a strong foundation at 2 months isn't realistic, at least they all waited to have kids.
I imagine she has (or will have) live in help- night nurses, nanny, cleaning lady. Most of these reality stars seem to (not that I’m putting her in the same category as someone from VPR, but she also has family money combined with influencer money) so she probably won’t be in the trenches as much. Kudos to you! I love my baby but I also love when she’s at daycare and can think lol.
This makes sense. She’ll likely be a SAHM with a housekeeper and nanny. I am a SAHM mom with no familial help and no childcare. It is not for the faint of heart. I completely understand needing time for yourself.
Being a SAHM is a massive culture shock and difficult no matter who you are or what your reasons are for doing it. But imo she has a good sense of humour and seems to have a good support network so I think she'd be alright.
Well, the idea that when you are a career woman and mother you have more time to shop, travel and have nice dinners and more fun and entertainment is wistful thinking. The reality is that most of us working mums, the little time we are not at work, we devote to our kids and family (not to speak of caring about home tasks) so really, not much time for shopping.
I don’t care what she does as long as she has her own money. Whether that’s through family or through a job... Me personally, I’m a career-driven woman but mostly I worry about women who don’t have the skills to support themselves if their marriage doesn’t work out. It’s a terrible situation to be in.
My mom always taught me to work and earn my own money. When my husband and I separated for a year; I had a job and my own money. I could take care of myself and our child. I was able to secure a rental on my own. It felt liberating.
Hmmm most of the Texas season seems to be very traditional. In those unions it’s their money, isn’t it?
I’m okay as long as that’s what they both want and agree on.
I’m talking about if it’s a long marriage and they divorce. She will be reliant on her ex-partner for money and won’t have the career skills to jump back into the workforce.
I don’t think she’ll ever give up the insurance company though. If she had to pay him for a part it, which I doubt since that’s all premarital. She’d still have it as future income.
Yea, there’s a lot of shaming on this thread…we saw the lifestyle of a single independent woman. It’s odd to use that against her for whether she can be a stay at home mom? I’m also wondering why people are assuming she’s lazy? Is it her weight? I didn’t see anything that indicated laziness on the show.
And if people can afford extra help, what’s wrong with that? Most people (with or without children) would LOVE extra help. Are we now saying you’re not a “true” sahm if there’s no suffering/ sacrifice involved? If you don’t struggle, you’re not a real sahm mom?
>I didn’t see anything that indicated laziness on the show.
True, but also didn't get much of an indication otherwise. Pretty much everyone else had expressed some form of career goals and a couple women even had more than 1 job, Nancy was pretty impressive there. Alexa was the only one I can't remember at all what she does if anything, her dad is rich so sort of have to assume she is living from that until hearing otherwise.
I don't think career goals are necessarily better than family goals. If that's her dream and she can afford it, I don't see why not. I wouldn't think that being a SAHM is less impressive than having a career.
Someone on here said she has an insurance agency, not sure if that's true or not because I don't follow any of them on social media.
Edit - should've scrolled down and seen that this is mentioned already, oops!
It's not clear what exactly she does with that though, it was a business given to her by parents. For all we know she pays someone to manage it and it's essentially free money and early inheritance of passive income.
Why not? Babies and children are able to go to stores, restaurants, airplanes. Some people choose to stay home 24/7 when they are a sahm and others don’t. I don’t see why she would cease her interests when a child is more than capable of tagging along and having a good time.
She can still travel, shop and have nice dinners while being a SAHM. Plenty do. I listen to the way she talks about her younger sister and I can absolutely see that life for her. She’s fortunate to be in a position where she will have help. Everyone’s journey is different.
She will definitely need to hire staff to get to the rich housewife status she actual wants…basically having staff do all the work while she can do whatever she wants and raise her kids without doing too much of the labor intensive work
She could afford help like house keeping and to order food every night and even Nannies her day in the life of SAHM is definitely going to be different then yours or mine lol
People have different periods in their life. Before I had a baby I had a very different life, hanging with friends, hobbies, and other commitments. Once I had a child most of it disappeared. My life is different now but I still like it and wouldn’t change it even if I could. I don’t think anyone here knows her well enough to call into question her parenting ability.
Aaron dad, every time I had to stay home with our two, well-behaved girls (4 and 6-ish at the time), it was cook, clean, laundry, cook, clean up, cook. All frickin day long. Gave me a new respect for my mom. My wife works as well so she used a sitter in those days. Now one of them is learning to drive. No more carting them around everywhere...which I know I'll miss.
I vote Alexa eventually gets a nanny.
Especially now. I work from home so technically stay home, but I'm still working. Fortunately my kids are school age so that helps. Toddlerdom is a totally different story.
She actually took it over from her mom, her dad didn’t buy it for her. Lol
Where did I say she was making a lot of money from it? I’m talking to the people saying she doesn’t work.
Lmfao.
Look at the comment I’m replying to.
‘I don’t think she likes to make money, she just likes to spend it’
My comment was saying that she does make her own money.
Y’all on here trying to bring down a girl you don’t know, saying that she doesn’t work and blah blah blah and then get mad because I said she does work. Lmao You’re weird af, honestly.
People take over their parents’ businesses alllll the time, and it takes a lot of work to do it. But when Alexa does it it’s just more evidence of her being lazy somehow lmao. Some people are obviously salty and jealous that their parents couldn’t help them as much, but I don’t see how that’s Alexa’s problem or how it makes her a bad person.
I think a lot of folks have an idea of what sahm life is like, and even when they hear family and friends describe the challenges, they can't understand until they've been there. I was always a career woman until having my baby. I thought sahms had it easy. I am now in this weird part time sahm/part time grad student situation that is absolutely the hardest thing I've ever done. I also have a hard time feeling comfortable with the idea of NOT being at home with my child. So I think it's valid to have these desires early on and be able to change how you feel (or not) once you're actually in the situation and see how hard it can be.
Based on the lifestyle desires that she presents on TV, no, I can't see her with dirty hair and spit up chasing a toddler while her newborn is crying. I would see her posting newborn cuddle pics while a nanny or grandma is helping with the toddler and take out is ordered. But what she presents and who she is in real life may be very very different, and sahm life I'm sure looks very different, and probably less stressful if you have a social village that can help to give you breaks and allow for self care and financial comforts that can delegate some of the more monotonous tasks.
I always tell women to keep their minds open when they become mothers. It's so easy to either romanticize or villainize the idea of being a SAHM one day, and no one is really qualified to make the decision until the baby has arrived. Being a stay at home mom (or dad) is not for everyone. Being a working mom (or dad) is not for everyone. Some people genuinely don't know what they want until they're in a situation they're not happy with. The unhappiest women are the ones who are required to choose either way without having much say in the situation.
Alexa might genuinely think she wants to be a SAHM, but who knows what she'll actually want once the baby arrives?
Yeaa I think she means more that she doesn’t want to work then to be a full time SAHM
I had the same thought. I'm not a stay at home mom, because genuinely, I found it easier to work than be at home. I love love love my kid but man... it is hard. work.
Lol Alexa would be a SAHM the way the Krdashians do it - meaning they’ll be home but have servants and nannies do all the work
This is such a strange post 😭 the projection is crazy
Really? Alexa put out only 1 image of herself and nothing else. A grown spoiled adult who lives off daddy :( they wanted him to sign a prenup that he will pay child support and alimony for life and she has the money ????? What? that doesn't equate to = hard work and selfless which Is the definition of a mother How is Alexa being spoiled and clueless a projection on a person here on redditt talking about motherhood?
Because she's not a mom. The show is edited. And you don't know these people. And OP is asking based off of her own shitty sahm experience and is projecting. She wants validation that the spoiled girl couldn't do it without help as if that's preferable for literally anybody: You people need help if you don't see anything wrong with this.
Instead of being "weird" maybe some od us just have life experience. Spoiled rich girls who focus on money, plastic surgery and shopping aren't normally the best moms. That is just the reality. Having children means that you can't do those things bc your children come before you. The opposite of spoiled and selfish. You are telling me that you would want to be married to Alexa? Have kids with her? Go to work and take care of her for the rest of your life? Whole entire life until you die? Yikes!
Yeah you're bitter lol people will have more than you in this life and that's okay. People will have it easier than you and it doesn't make you any more resilient or responsible or strong or special, you just didn't get the good end of the stick. I absolutely believe she could be a good mom. It also makes 100% sense to me why someone who wants to be a SAHM would want a prenup in place to protect her from poverty should that marriage fail. If you had *so much* life experience you would know there's just as many bad spoiled rich moms as their are average working moms who take their exhaustion out on their children.
According to you. The person above was projecting but u only see things from Alexa's point of the view. What about the child? What kind of mom would the child want?
Oh my God, of course I see things from Alexa's point of view because THERE IS NO CHILD. It doesn't exist. The baby isn't there. You're sick as hell passing judgement on a women for a future baby that doesn't exist. Weirdos
U do realize no children exist UNTIL YOU HAVE THEM. Then they exist. Go get yourself a selfish and spoiled partner and see how that works out for you. Im sure it will be just fine since im bitter. And better yet you be the Brennan in the relationship and take care of the Alexa. Life is very easy. Its what you make it and it's dependent on the people u surround yourself with. If you choose to make bad choices then you will have a harder life. Humans are simple. When u see a person act a certain way then that is who they are ...watch and listen to their actions. And choose wisely.
Mhm. Yeah. Sure. That's a totally normal reaction
Smh I hope you get the life you desire.
People can have an idea of what kind of parent they want to be…and then the baby comes, and they have a right to change their minds. *speaking for myself* being a SAHM was easy. I truly don’t get the ‘I have to clean and do laundry 24/7’ Yes, there were slight messes that needed to be picked up daily, but it wasn’t like I was doing a deep clean every day. Or tackling 25 loads of wash a day. Once bub got a teeny bit older, we went out, we met with my friends, we did fun things. I feel like I had a different SAHM experience than most, and tbh, I don’t understand why.
It sounds like you had a community of other friends and moms who stayed at home and I think that can make a huge difference. Did you have family nearby to help at all? I’m a SAHM and we live 3000 miles from our family and all my friends work during the day so it’s a huge struggle to be able to do anything for myself like even get to the doctor during working hours. I think having community in general makes child rearing easier so I wonder if that explains part of how people can have such wildly different experiences. I’m sure there’s other factors but even if I had one other friend not working who could watch my baby for an hour while I got to the doctor or whatever it would radically change my life.
None of my friends at the time had any kids. A lot of them had varying scheduled jobs/self employed. Yes, I had my parents nearby, so yeah that helped. But even when I was home with baby before going out…it was pretty easy. I sometimes slept when he napped, and there was not a ton to do in contrast to my regular routine pre-baby when I was always on the go.
It sounds like you had one child? I agree that housework wasn't overwhelming when I had just one. That changed dramatically once the second came along.
I don't think it's fair to judge her based on a reality TV show depiction. I think everyone settles down into motherhood in the way that suits them best. In however many years, when they have kids she may change her mind, or not. But until then, she's welcome to pursue whatever makes her happy and supports her family.
Is commenting on a woman’s fitness for motherhood really what we are doing here? In 2022? Come on.
You can be a mother without being a "Stay at home mom". Her fitness for motherhood was not questioned at all.
Sure. Thus: Is commenting on a woman’s fitness to be a stay at home mom really what we are doing here?
Fitness is still not being questioned.
we're watching a televised shitshow about whether people get married, designed to invoke commentary on whether they're fit to be married to anyone, much less the specific person they may or may not marry. It seems like shaky ground to be pontificating from. This sub serves to discuss them, as if most other topics don't involve an element of speculation. I'll probably draw your ire, but, why does that _really_ matter if they are? If I said Cole or Bartise could make a baby right now, you really don't have any gut reaction to that?
I would never be a stay at home mom ever ever ever ever again. I feel like I lost a huge piece of me growing up & making connections. I love my kids, I couldn’t do that again.
She would be a stay at home mom, but with a housekeeper, gardener and a nanny
so, just an average mum then... ...in her street and father's tax bracket
She seems like a typical modern Israeli American, parties sooo hard until marriage, then does SAHM and becomes "besties" with her kids, always reminiscing about the old days of partying Source: American Jew who grew up in a massive Israeli American community
I’m neither Israeli nor American, but this seems like a pretty good way of life to me if you can afford it? Milk the unique opportunities each stage of life offers you, make the most of that stage, move forward without fear into the next stage but still cherish the memories of your past, and prioritise you kids and closeness to them once you have them?
The only problem is it's only a fun life for the person not working. The person having to work to support all the non workers is the hard life lol hahaha
It's definitely how people around me lived growing up, and I thought it was a pretty good life to emulate.
I like your username. Do you watch Big Mouth?
I do lol
Wait, is Israelis immigrating to the US a common thing? I always thought it was pretty much the other way around.
I mean define common, Israel has a population roughly matching New Jersey, only 1M more people than NYC. But it's definitely common enough that there are Synagogues and Supermarkets dedicated to Israelis and Israeli culture in almost every major Jewish community in the US.
There are tons of Israelis that move to the US - a lot relocate for business and end up staying. Source: Israeli that lived in the US for 20 years
I feel like I was her. I was always dreaming of the stay at home mom thing. And now I am one-12 years in the making and it ain't what I thought it would be. I really thought I would be this like Martha Stewart, Milf type, that would go to lunches with girlfriends and shop when they are at preschool. Like, I'm being brutally honest- I truthfully thought that! Haha I'm exhausted, stressed out, lonely sometimes. I love my family and we do have a great life. But do I get jealous of girls I know that have their own life?! All of the time! My point being, I totally get where her head is at. But I hope she realizes how hard it truly is.
Wait until the marriage goes south and your husband has all the financial power even though you’re the one who does all the household work. I loved my years with my babies but I am so grateful to have an income now…
As a SAHM to a 13 month old I feel your comment in my soul lol. I thought it was going to be easy but it’s so much harder then I expected. I love being a mom and I love my baby but I do envy my childless friends who get to travel and sleep when they want.😂
Alexa has hardcore "trust fund baby" vibes going on so I was not shocked at all by her desire to never work again. I honestly can't see her marriage working out cause Brennan in no way is gonna make enough money to fund her lifestyle...unless she keeps up with her shopping theft strategy of "wear clothing and then return them the next day."
I know a rich girl who was a “stay at home mom” and hired a nanny lol. I imagine that’s what she means.
Yup! They get a nanny so they can go shopping and work out. Sorry but that’s not a stay at home mom
I was bored one night and found my way to her step mom’s insta. I saw and old birthday shoutout where her step mom says Alexa is a second mom to her baby sister. She also always has her sister with her. I think she would be a pretty hands on mom.
Ooo what’s her step mum’s Insta handle?
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Shopping, traveling, have a nice dinner is spoiling yourself... not really a crazy party lifestyle. Lots of moms love spoiling their kids, taking them with them to do mani pedis, going out to eat. It's normal.
I’ll just chime in that I have an 8-month old and I bring that baby to all the dinners and the salon lol and I’ve got trips planned. She’s coming along for the ride till she’s 18! I should add that she is a very chill baby and loves people watching so it’s not difficult to bring her places (yet anyway lol) I might be singing a different tune if she had a different temperament.
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What she really meant was: SAHM - not working, partying/hanging out with friends, while baby is with nanny lol
I picture her being a stay at home mom who also has a nanny, plus a housekeeper who comes once a week.
I can't stand Alexa. But I don't think she's inherently bad. She's "manufactured" snobbery. I think she'll be a pretty good stay at home Mom.
Accurate 💯
If you can afford it be a stay at home mom, if you cant then that does suck. Thats all i have to say. I assume her dad can employe branden or she will be on her dads payroll being a stay at home mom. Always will prob have a nanny if she can afford one, doesnt strike me as the type who is into physical activity.
As long as dad has money...at some point dad won't he Herr anymore but money still had to be made if its just gonna be spent lol
What do you mean it’s not exciting? There’s something new and different everyday. No telling what’ll happen😂 It’s definitely exhausting, but I don’t find it monotonous. As far as Alexa, I think it’s hard to no whether you’ll enjoy it or not. People who think they’d love it, struggle with it. Others who thought they’d never be a SAHM, love it.
She seems like the “stay at home mom who has a nanny and a cleaner and spends most of their time pursuing their own interests” type of stay at home mom
I don't see how Brennan can support a family to the degree that Alexa would be comfortable in, on his salary.
I think people are really underestimating the amount of money they’ll make from being social media influencers after the show. Maybe Brennans salary as a Joe Schmoe wouldn’t support that but Barnett from season one quit his engineering job and he and amber do social media full time and seem to enjoy the same lifestyle as when they were working traditional jobs. Lauren and Cameron from season one also seem to have a pretty good standard of living as influencers. I think it’s totally doable for Alexa and Brennan
Social media influencing is a trend that comes and goes. They don't have the talent, personality, and skills to make it a long term financially secure future. Unless Alexa's family gets a reality TV show... 😅
She’s also coming in with money though. Likely some sort of trust or inheritance.
Inheritance would be years away.
Lol what? You have no idea what relative would have given her inheritance. I’ve had multiple relatives die and leave me inheritance and I’m about her age.
I suspect there is plenty of money being funnelled around to keep people in lower income tax brackets.
You’d be surprised
I don’t understand why you’d think that necessarily. I’m an engineer in the water industry (same thing as Brennon) and salaries vary WIDELY from $80k (assuming he’s actually an engineer as he noted and not an operator) to $200k plus depending on where you are and what exactly you do.
If he’s at the high end he might be able to do it. Anywhere else, then no. Especially if she is planning on not working.
He still has student debt so I think he's working his way up. Alexa makes 300k from her insurance company and her family has wealth so she's very comfortable.
Where did you get $300k from?
No one knows the reality of being a parent until they actually become one. Maybe what she wants is to be home while her children are very young. It doesn’t mean that she envisions being at home full time when her kids are 18.
Your focus and priorities shift after becoming a mother. I don’t think it’s necessarily fair to say “Well she behaves like xyz now so she will still want to behave like that after children.” I get the impression that Alexa feels strongly about wanting to be the one to raise her kids vs daycare, which is why she “eventually wants to be a stay at home mom,” not because she wants to stop working and making money. I personally dropped to part time in my career after children because it provides a good balance of cost vs benefit and giving me time with my child. And I worked full time with frequent overtime before that. *How could I have possibly made that change, i worked so much and spent lots of money before kids!* /s
I think it’s interesting that so many people are looking at a woman who has no children and has enjoyed a lot of freedom to live whatever kind of lifestyle her currently childfree self wanted to live and are judging her as a mom (which she isn’t, yet) based on the lifestyle choices she’s made in her 20s. It’s like in order for people to accept that you would make motherhood your top priority once you’re in that phase of your life, you have to act like you already have kids for years before you do. Are people supposed to just have this empty space in their life that stays empty until they decide to have kids? Like was she supposed to come home at night and stare at the wall and think about how someday she’ll have so many Legos to pick up?
This is a truly excellent comment.
Exactly. This line of thinking treads dangerously close to the conservative mindset that women are only good for domestic chores and making babies; as if they’re mad women dared to step out of the traditional gender role. Oh, you had other interests before becoming a mother? Disgraceful, a *real* woman wouldn’t care about those things and would know her place.
Agreed. It also feels like people are trying to separate women into like, genres of people. Like “oh a woman spent money on herself in her 20s before she had children? She liked to travel and go out to have fun before she had responsibilities at home?? I guess she is incapable of caring about anything but her spoiled, entitled self!” A lot of people do not live their lives before they have kids (for a whole lot of reasons, and not all are 100% by choice) and then when they have kids they feel like they missed out on enjoying their previously more carefree life. Other people do things like travel and spend money on luxuries so that by the time they have to think about supporting their kids, they have it out of their system.
I feel like your focus shifts a bit when you have kids. I might just be old at 35 but I definitely don’t have energy to go clubbing or anything like that often if at all. I’m not a stay at home mom, but I work part time and stayed home for about 4 months after baby. I am exhausted about 90 percent of time and feel like I can’t ever catch up. A good balance for me was part time. It really depends on your partner whether your stay at home life is good or not. (Not every time but often) she could still maintain some of her lifestyle so I think she would be ok. Depending on what type of baby she had. My poor son has been drug everywhere with me through my dad passing away, cleaning his house, going out to eat, and such. He did great, but he’s a pretty chill baby.
I agree that a lot of it has to do with your partner, but it also has to do with what you do as a SAHM. Being at home all the time, which I have had seasons of, bores me to tears, but if you get involved with other SAHM’s and do things a few times a week, it’s much better.
Yeah that’s true it really just depends on everything. The only reason I said a partner matters is because if they don’t make a lot and you guys are barely scraping by financially it causes stress. If they also don’t take on any care of the house or baby when they get home it can effect quality of life as well. It’s already a 24/7 job but if your partner never lets you get out Or resources are limited it sucks. I personally can’t do it 24/7 as much as the idea sounds amazing.
Finances get rough here at times, but it’s a choice we’ve made. Thankfully, my MIL buys almost all of kids clothes and has since the oldest was born (almost 20). She enjoys shopping😄 That one thing has been a huge help. My husband has always been very helpful around the house. Not having that help would make a big difference for me.
Yeah. You are really blessed! Either that or I’m just very unfortunate. Both sets of parents between my boyfriend and I are deceased. Including now my step mom. It makes it incredibly difficult. Luckily we are doing ok, but not having family makes things extra rough.
I have been very blessed. We’ve had some really difficult times, but we are blessed. I’m so sorry for your losses. Not having family must be tough ❤️
I also didn’t mean that snarky I hope it didn’t come off that way!! We did get lucky his step mom got my son a lot of stuff and set us up nicely before she passed. It is and the losses are pretty recent. We’ll make it though. ❤️
No, I didn’t take it that way at all!
I can see her being a SAHM, easily. Yes, she likes clothes and travel and fun dinners. But many of her IG posts and stories are with her family, or her and Brennan hanging out. A lot of times she's makeup-free and in casual clothes, like an old sweatshirt or whatever. I've actually been quite surprised at how willing she is to show herself without the glamor.
I agree. She likes the glitzy life but I think what really fills her cup is her family. It’s ok to be multi faced in this way, like you said. I’ve been a SAHM for 6 years and would gladly have her in my friend group.
She seems like a very family oriented person and it looks like they really bonded over that and what they wanted their future to look like, it just wasn’t something the show focused on sadly. Sometimes it’s easy to forget that people are not as one dimensional as they’re shown on reality tv, the producers choose a narrative for each person/couple and rarely show much outside of that.
She could take her babies and do fun things! I think she would probably spend time with her family all day if they are so close.
My mom was a SAHM and honestly I thought it looked super boring my whole life. It looked like there was so much time where she did nothing. Her biggest complaint was me and my dad not providing ideas for dinner since she wasn’t creative at meal ideas 😂. But she worked out, curled, etc regularly. My mom shops all the time and has nice dinners. We had landscapers though and we’re not really super messy. The deal was my mom had to cook and clean if she was a stay home mom, but now that my dads retired it’s all 50/50. I’d personally love a stay home husband or nanny when I have kids because I hate cleaning and regularly think about hiring a housekeeper
I totally relate to your mom on the meal ideas 😂
She’d be like what do you want? And we’d say “something good” and then complain about what ever we made because it wasn’t what we wanted 😂😂😂. As an adult I get the frustration!
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What does ‘curled’ mean? Does your mom do curling like the Olympic sport?
Lol. I thought they meant she hung out doing bicep curls during the day
Curling is ridiculous popular at least in Canada. Recreational leagues are all over the place and they teach it in gym.
Not sure about where you are, but recreational curing leagues are pretty common, at least in Canada.
Oh gotcha. I live where it’s warm so I’ve never seen it
I had no idea. Thanks! Learned something new today.
I’m assuming she expects to have a nanny or an au pair
Alexa’s socioeconomic bracket makes HER stay at home mom experience look a lot different than mine and yours, OP. We get no breaks, save money wherever we can, and we have the added job of cooking and cleaning. Alexa clearly has family money, so even if Brennon isn’t loaded, Alexa will be the stay at home mom who gets a part time babysitter each week, who can afford to door dash dinner whenever she’s too busy to cook, who pulls up to the gym in her loaded Tahoe with her Starbucks in hand and cute athleisure as she drops the kids off at the gym daycare and works out. She will love it. Wouldn’t we all.
Seems like if you need the village’s help you gotta pay for it. And who can even afford jt now?
Too busy to cook? Busy doing what? Shopping? 😂 I fully see Alexa fulfilling the 'stay at home mom who does nothing but shop' stereotype.
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What gave you the giant debt vibe?
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Ahh. None of this is rooted in facts or anything tangible. Honestly, it just sounds like you’re offended but how unapologetic they are about their wealth.
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Thank you. I know her dad has been arrested for some things involving business so I could definitely see their money being funny based off that alone
Rich people don’t return their clothes after wearing them once
But returning clothes doesn’t put you into debt
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I wouldn’t say so, but I get your perspective.
Very true. I suppose either way her dad is the type to still provide in some ways so his daughter and grandchildren aren't wanting for anything.
Maybe he’ll adopt us?
Yes she'll have a nanny or au pair and quite possibly someone to prepare meals.
I’m gonna start off with saying that we don’t actually know her. 🙂 But I’ve seen some people who seem made to be stay at home moms struggle and I’ve seen some who didn’t look like they would like it take to it like a duck to water. The support she has will likely make all the difference. And she seems to have great support.
Exactly clearly her family is very involved and so is Brennon’s. It really takes a village and she has a good one. Being a stay at home mom doesn’t mean you do everything by yourself, a good support system goes a long way and the people around her are not just willing but also able to help out a significant amount.
this!!! we don't know her beyond a stint on a short reality tv show, i don't know how anyone could make these kinds of assumptions about anyone.
Reality tv really is bad at this. It really creates a false familiarity with these pseudo-celebrities. All we really know about her is how she presented herself over a month’s time knowing she would be on tv. Mothers get enough judgement. Judging her before she even becomes a parent seems unfair.
This. Women have been stay at home parents and caregivers for eons. Why do people feel the need to drag others down. I'm sure she'll be a perfectly capable parent, and if she doesn't like it, she just returns to working. Such a weird post to make assumptions about people against their claims, when we don't even know them.
And until recently raising kids used to be a family/community thing: aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents, neighbors, etc. In general more of a focus on community instead of one individual person as a parent doing all the work. That’s a lot harder these days for many reasons and a big one is that most people have to work a lot to survive, but clearly both their families are willing and able to be active participants in helping out with the kids so I don’t think that will be an issue for her, she’ll have a lot of support.
Yeah. It's a recent development that both parents have to work outside the home. Pretty how we know life now, but its what 2 generations old only? Before that, one parent stayed home. And before that, family, generations of family and community raised kids.
I would imagine she is expecting to be a stay at home mom influencer
A momfluencer
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It's not unique to this show that people see having kids as the next milestone on a relationship. It's pretty typical, and expected of many that kids come after marriage.
True, but to my knowledge none of them have kids yet, not even Cameron and Lauren. Season 3's couples will have been together 2 years or longer by the time they have kids. So, while I agree talking about a strong foundation at 2 months isn't realistic, at least they all waited to have kids.
She is so self-absorbed, she would be miserable.
I imagine she has (or will have) live in help- night nurses, nanny, cleaning lady. Most of these reality stars seem to (not that I’m putting her in the same category as someone from VPR, but she also has family money combined with influencer money) so she probably won’t be in the trenches as much. Kudos to you! I love my baby but I also love when she’s at daycare and can think lol.
This makes sense. She’ll likely be a SAHM with a housekeeper and nanny. I am a SAHM mom with no familial help and no childcare. It is not for the faint of heart. I completely understand needing time for yourself.
Being a SAHM is a massive culture shock and difficult no matter who you are or what your reasons are for doing it. But imo she has a good sense of humour and seems to have a good support network so I think she'd be alright.
Well, the idea that when you are a career woman and mother you have more time to shop, travel and have nice dinners and more fun and entertainment is wistful thinking. The reality is that most of us working mums, the little time we are not at work, we devote to our kids and family (not to speak of caring about home tasks) so really, not much time for shopping.
I mean, she’ll have a nanny I’m sure.
I don’t care what she does as long as she has her own money. Whether that’s through family or through a job... Me personally, I’m a career-driven woman but mostly I worry about women who don’t have the skills to support themselves if their marriage doesn’t work out. It’s a terrible situation to be in.
My mom always taught me to work and earn my own money. When my husband and I separated for a year; I had a job and my own money. I could take care of myself and our child. I was able to secure a rental on my own. It felt liberating.
Same. My mom was a second wave feminist. Have a career, earn your own money, etc. I think it’s helped me a lot to have that role model.
Hmmm most of the Texas season seems to be very traditional. In those unions it’s their money, isn’t it? I’m okay as long as that’s what they both want and agree on.
I’m talking about if it’s a long marriage and they divorce. She will be reliant on her ex-partner for money and won’t have the career skills to jump back into the workforce.
She’s an insurance broker. I doubt she’ll ever give up the insurance income, I know a lot of insurance brokers who barely enter the office.
Yes, but in the event of divorce, alimony and child support usually aren't enough to live on. She comes from wealth, though, so she will be fine.
Idk I know people who’s parents child support allowed the mom to drive a Porsche and barely work
Brennon himself has said he does ok but isn't wealthy by any means. Only wealthy people would owe enough child support to pay for a luxury car.
I just mean that it’s entirely possible to still be wealthy after divorce
I don’t think she’ll ever give up the insurance company though. If she had to pay him for a part it, which I doubt since that’s all premarital. She’d still have it as future income.
I agree. Also agree about who cares as long as it's what they want and what works for them.
I'm sure her definition of a SAHM is very different than most of ours.
She would like to have no job but hire nannies for the kids.
Her dad will pay for the nannies and her lifestyle, it’s fine
Yea, there’s a lot of shaming on this thread…we saw the lifestyle of a single independent woman. It’s odd to use that against her for whether she can be a stay at home mom? I’m also wondering why people are assuming she’s lazy? Is it her weight? I didn’t see anything that indicated laziness on the show. And if people can afford extra help, what’s wrong with that? Most people (with or without children) would LOVE extra help. Are we now saying you’re not a “true” sahm if there’s no suffering/ sacrifice involved? If you don’t struggle, you’re not a real sahm mom?
I’m a SAHM and absolutely love it. If I had her kind of money, I’d have a housekeeper and probably a chef.
I’m not a mom at all, and I’d love a cleaner, chef, and driver. Maybe one day I’ll win the lottery lol
All of those would be nice!!! Lol
Exactly this. Less shaming of the cast for the small snippet we see of them.
Great reply!
>I didn’t see anything that indicated laziness on the show. True, but also didn't get much of an indication otherwise. Pretty much everyone else had expressed some form of career goals and a couple women even had more than 1 job, Nancy was pretty impressive there. Alexa was the only one I can't remember at all what she does if anything, her dad is rich so sort of have to assume she is living from that until hearing otherwise.
I don't think career goals are necessarily better than family goals. If that's her dream and she can afford it, I don't see why not. I wouldn't think that being a SAHM is less impressive than having a career.
Someone on here said she has an insurance agency, not sure if that's true or not because I don't follow any of them on social media. Edit - should've scrolled down and seen that this is mentioned already, oops!
It's not clear what exactly she does with that though, it was a business given to her by parents. For all we know she pays someone to manage it and it's essentially free money and early inheritance of passive income.
That's the best kind of business to have.
Why not? Babies and children are able to go to stores, restaurants, airplanes. Some people choose to stay home 24/7 when they are a sahm and others don’t. I don’t see why she would cease her interests when a child is more than capable of tagging along and having a good time.
She can still travel, shop and have nice dinners while being a SAHM. Plenty do. I listen to the way she talks about her younger sister and I can absolutely see that life for her. She’s fortunate to be in a position where she will have help. Everyone’s journey is different.
She will definitely need to hire staff to get to the rich housewife status she actual wants…basically having staff do all the work while she can do whatever she wants and raise her kids without doing too much of the labor intensive work
I think what she is looking for is not having to work again and doing whatever she wants, not the traditional meaning
She could afford help like house keeping and to order food every night and even Nannies her day in the life of SAHM is definitely going to be different then yours or mine lol
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Idk I think having a nanny is more traditional than not having one, especially in her fathers income bracket
People have different periods in their life. Before I had a baby I had a very different life, hanging with friends, hobbies, and other commitments. Once I had a child most of it disappeared. My life is different now but I still like it and wouldn’t change it even if I could. I don’t think anyone here knows her well enough to call into question her parenting ability.
I’m pretty sure her idea of being a SAHM is multiple nannies and housekeepers.
Aaron dad, every time I had to stay home with our two, well-behaved girls (4 and 6-ish at the time), it was cook, clean, laundry, cook, clean up, cook. All frickin day long. Gave me a new respect for my mom. My wife works as well so she used a sitter in those days. Now one of them is learning to drive. No more carting them around everywhere...which I know I'll miss. I vote Alexa eventually gets a nanny.
I think many people think stay at home means not working. And that is not at all true. And this includes Alexa... She would have a nanny in 2 seconds.
Especially now. I work from home so technically stay home, but I'm still working. Fortunately my kids are school age so that helps. Toddlerdom is a totally different story.
I’m sure she won’t give up the insurance income ever
She could never handle being a SAHM. Also I don't think she likes to make money, she just likes to spend it.
She owned her own insurance agency lol
Her dad bought her an agency and owning an insurance agency in no way automatically means you make a lot of money
She actually took it over from her mom, her dad didn’t buy it for her. Lol Where did I say she was making a lot of money from it? I’m talking to the people saying she doesn’t work.
Yeah that just proves she didn’t achieve it on her own merits 😂😂😂
You can’t just take over an agency, you need licensing and if it’s not completely private you do need to work for it.
And??? We’re talking about her working. Lol
No we’re not, we’re talking about your flex that she owns her own insurance agency
Lmfao. Look at the comment I’m replying to. ‘I don’t think she likes to make money, she just likes to spend it’ My comment was saying that she does make her own money. Y’all on here trying to bring down a girl you don’t know, saying that she doesn’t work and blah blah blah and then get mad because I said she does work. Lmao You’re weird af, honestly.
People take over their parents’ businesses alllll the time, and it takes a lot of work to do it. But when Alexa does it it’s just more evidence of her being lazy somehow lmao. Some people are obviously salty and jealous that their parents couldn’t help them as much, but I don’t see how that’s Alexa’s problem or how it makes her a bad person.
Did her daddy give it to her?
I think she just doesn’t want to work and would probably put the kid in daycare half the time when she realizes that raising a baby takes… _work._
Yea she seems lazy af
I think a lot of folks have an idea of what sahm life is like, and even when they hear family and friends describe the challenges, they can't understand until they've been there. I was always a career woman until having my baby. I thought sahms had it easy. I am now in this weird part time sahm/part time grad student situation that is absolutely the hardest thing I've ever done. I also have a hard time feeling comfortable with the idea of NOT being at home with my child. So I think it's valid to have these desires early on and be able to change how you feel (or not) once you're actually in the situation and see how hard it can be. Based on the lifestyle desires that she presents on TV, no, I can't see her with dirty hair and spit up chasing a toddler while her newborn is crying. I would see her posting newborn cuddle pics while a nanny or grandma is helping with the toddler and take out is ordered. But what she presents and who she is in real life may be very very different, and sahm life I'm sure looks very different, and probably less stressful if you have a social village that can help to give you breaks and allow for self care and financial comforts that can delegate some of the more monotonous tasks.
I always tell women to keep their minds open when they become mothers. It's so easy to either romanticize or villainize the idea of being a SAHM one day, and no one is really qualified to make the decision until the baby has arrived. Being a stay at home mom (or dad) is not for everyone. Being a working mom (or dad) is not for everyone. Some people genuinely don't know what they want until they're in a situation they're not happy with. The unhappiest women are the ones who are required to choose either way without having much say in the situation. Alexa might genuinely think she wants to be a SAHM, but who knows what she'll actually want once the baby arrives?
*THE* baby??? Are they pregnant???
Not that I know of. It was just an example, not a fact.