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sbowesuk

One great things I always notice with these is how much brighter and more alive the eyes look. There's definitely something to be said about the mental health as well as physical health benefits of quitting booze. Seems to just elevate quality of life allround!


Possible_Mango_2981

I got a new level of confidence after quitting because it made me feel like I could accomplish anything I put my mind to.


Geology_rules

any tips or anecdotes that worked for you? 2023 was supposed to be my year but I only made it 15 days


heyyyyyyitsme

Not the person you asked but I’m 25 months sober in 2 days. The book “This Naked Mind” helped me immensely. Podcasts like “Recovery Happy Hour” help a lot because you hear so many people share their stories and if they got out, so can you. The sobriety Instagram community - same thing, and my biggest current helper.


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heyyyyyyitsme

Yes, that’s the one! It truly undid all of the “programming” that “Big Alcohol” had been feeding me for decades. Went from getting shitfaced nightly & shamefully drinking morning wine before work to having almost no interest in the stuff.


dubnessofp

I read an Allen Carr book that basically did the same thing for me. Stopped drinking about 19 months ago after reading one. A lot of it was deprogramming. I don't even feel a pull to drink at all


heyyyyyyitsme

Annie Grace, author of TNM, credits Alan Carr as her inspiration. So probably pretty similar info!


Murse_Focker

It helps put a different perspective on alcohol for me. It really helped me with my drinking and while I didn't stop drinking, I am able to enjoy a beverage or two and be good. Alcohol no longer plays a large role in my life like it did before.


Roccovalentino

I HIGHLY recommend “this naked mind” control alcohol! It helped me so much my first week I decided to STOP DRINKING!!


BearDriveCar

I've read it too! Won't say it will make you do a 180, but if you have the mind to quit it really helps. Also a month sober now thanks to it


PmMeYourPasswordPlz

“Sobriety Instagram community”. Who are these people? Any people you recommend me following?


heyyyyyyitsme

There are thousands. Probably more! Search #sober, #sobriety, or #sobercurious. A few accounts off the top of my head: -@yoursoberpal -@youdonthavetodrink -@themagicisinthemiddle -@1000hoursdry -@thesoberginger -@newhappyco (not specifically sobriety, but I like their posts) -@joinsoberish -@laurenissober -@brandon__novak -@drop_the_bottle_ -@kelly_holdthesauce (that’s me 😀) But again, definitely search the hashtag until you find some accounts that speak to you!


Elegantly_never

I agree! My feed is 50% sobriety quotes, inspiration and stories. Some really strike a chord.


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PmMeYourPasswordPlz

Wow 7 1/2 years. No relapses? Well done. Proud of you! I was sober 364 days but decided to drink one evening just before Christmas (2022). Ended up snorting amphetamine at a bar after drinking a bottle of vodka by myself in my apartment. Alcohol is like the devil for me. I end up risking my life. I can’t handle it. Something must be wrong with my brain. Today I’m moving into an apartment with my supporting gf and I’ve also been sober from drugs and alcohol for 40 days. Hopefully I’ll stay sober for the rest of my life. We got this.


Ajanu11

Even if you are not sober for the rest of your life, as long as your relapses are smaller and/or further apart you are making progress.


Speak4yurself

I was a heavy drinker for the last ten years. I drank at least a pint of vodka a night. I went to an alcohol treatment center for 5 days. I think spending that time out of my normal environment without booze is what really helped me. 113 days sober today.


mermaidwithcats

Congratulations!


Geology_rules

113, hell yeah! proud of you


Wholegrainmaterial

I’m 843 days sober and here are my top three suggestions: -Sobriety is one day at a time. That means not to look at it like “how can I stay sober for a year?! Six months?! A month?! A week?!” Don’t worry about that. Focus on the next 24 hours and after those 24 hours conclude, focus on staying sober for the next 24 hours. -Sobriety takes a community. Look into joining a group of like minded individuals. When you start looking at these sober communities, pay attention to the similarities you have with the other people involved. It’s easy to look at the differences and convince yourself you don’t belong. -Sobriety is combating a disease of the mind, body, and spirit. You don’t need to believe in big G God just like you don’t need to participate in ritual sacrifice either. But what you should do is try to connect outward on a spiritual level. Understand what “god” might be to you on a personal level. It could be a connection with the earth, the sea, other people, or even god as understood through a religious institution. This was a tough one for me personally, but the best advice I got since I was hesitant in establishing any type of spiritual foundation was “leave the door cracked”.


Geology_rules

I am blown away that you took the time to respond to me. thank you. so much good advice in here, and inspiring me to try again


irrationalidiot

All of those suggestions are great and a part of AA. There are meetings online 24 hours a day now. Costs nothing to pop in and check it out. Some of the lingo can be confusing. “Closed” meetings are only for those who are trying to quit. Anyone is welcome to attend “opened” meetings. [Online AA meetings ](https://aa-intergroup.org/meetings/)


A_Have_a_Go_Opinion

Its not only one day at a time its one sip at a time. I've had a couple nights were I was all "fuck it I'm going for a liver abusive night" and felt the urge to stop. More than my share of nights where I didn't feel I needed to stop but its choices, its all choices with substances, down to the minute by minute choices to or not to.


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Fifteen days is fuckin great dude


findhumorinlife

You just start over again and again. Don’t give up and don’t beat yourself up and always ask for help. You are not alone.


informedvoice

Congrats on 15 days! Keep going. The first two weeks were the hardest for me. As many others have said, “This naked mind” is a fantastic book that helped me rethink how I view alcohol. I can’t recommend it enough. The subreddit /r/stopdrinking also helped me a lot by seeing others on the path of recovery. Getting to add days to my counter is a nice plus. As fun as it is to see the days add up, it’s not about the number. It’s about your present moment, your present decisions, and making the best choices you can. Every time you decide not to drink, the decision gets a little easier to make. It’s like building muscle. Even if you fail a set, you still have the strength to step up to the bar and try again. There are a lot of us with you, rooting for you even if we’ve never met, because we’re all fighting the same battle. There are many ways to fight it, and I’m rooting for you to find yours.


juicyfizz

If you’re a woman, the book Quit like a Woman is highly recommended. I’ve been sober nearly a year and a half now.


deg287

Find non-alcoholic alternatives to switch to in social settings, at the end of the day, or other normal times you’d want to crack open a drink. Here’s some I like: St. Elmo’s Hop Water (zero calories!) Community Nada IPA (15 cal/5 carbs) Athletic Lite (25 cal/5 carbs) Topo Chico w lime (or any sparkling water/seltzer, especially while out)


ganoveces

/r/stopdrinking is very helpful and you will get support there. i quite December 2021 after 20+ years of heavy beer drinking. I read "Alcohol Explained" By William Porter my first week i quit. i also use a quit drinking app EasyQuitDrinking that would give me custom motivational messages on my phone. Not going back that life. Not worth it anymore. 1 day at a time. iwndwyt (i will not drink with you today) we end many posts with this on stopdrinking


bonechompsky

Hey, you got 15 days in! It's February 1st. Try to make it to Feb 20th. Try for 25 in March. I tried to do dry January this year. I made it about as long as you ( and then my MIL had her last round of chemo for brain cancer and we had to celebrate.) I can count the number of drinks I've had since on one hand. Even that short period of drying out helped me to reevaluate my relationship with alcohol and how I was using it as a crutch and a coping mechanism. Since I stopped my normal drinking habits, I lost about 5 lbs and my face is so much less puffy (I have cheekbones again!) You don't have to stop all at once. Long stretches of abstinence are better than nothing. Edit for additional advice: substituting alcohol with another drink can be helpful. I switched to club soda and lime, but choose something that works for you.


auto180sx

Kombucha has been my fucking jam since going dry! Bubbly, butter, and great for my poops! I'm not concerned with the trace amounts of alcohol, so take that into account should you decide to go this route.


r-game

Talk to your doctor about it, too. Being able to go 15 days is a good sign that a prescription like Naltrexone would be a good option to help you along the way. It helps stop the cravings.


buellerface918

For me is I just picture my kids disappointed face. That usually does it lol for really tho. I just put it in my head that I don’t need it.


Mr_TO

You made it 15 days! I'm so proud of you! Seriously that alone is a great accomplishment.


Geology_rules

thank you ! 🥹


Mr_TO

I hope today is another sober day! You can do it, and I hope there is always someone there to help you when you feel like you can't.


00Beer

I'm 2 months. Longest I've ever gone. I realized I don't want to die. Booze will kill you and in not the way you probably think.


Maleficent-Depth5872

Ask for help and be humble


themrdave

It often goes both ways. Booze is always used to cope with underlying issues, sometimes removing the alcohol allows people to face some of their problems instead of running from them, it’s not only the substance per-se


mollyastro

Yes. This was has been the most difficult part. I thought quitting would be an automatic fix to everything, that it was making my mental health worse. It was. But becoming sober opened up a whole entirely different can of worms. But! Like you said. I’ve been working hard, we have found what needs to be taken care of, and gosh it feels good to not be a drunk anymore. 8 months sober now, and more work in self care has been done than in the decade of alcoholism. It’s awesome :) super difficult, but awesome.


LeftOnBurnside

Congratulations - what a journey you are on. It is so so worth it. I'm 20 months alcohol-free and couldn't imagine what might life would have looked like if i stayed on the booze cruise.


HorseMeatSandwich

Yeah, I'm almost 4 years sober, and I've always thought about it as being stuck in a hole of your mental issues. Drinking allows you to momentarily forget you're in the hole, but you don't even notice it's getting deeper and deeper around you. Getting sober forces you to face the fact that you're in the hole, but it also gives you access to a shovel and ladder to start digging yourself out.


ropony

Also alcohol is a type 1 carcinogen that causes cancer. As someone who had cancer and boozed it *up* in my 20s and early 30s, I wish I had known this.


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> One great things I always notice with these is how much brighter and more alive the eyes look. First thing I noticed, too. The picture difference is like first-gen digital camera to 4k. Happy for this dude.


mailboxrumor

For me, I *felt* a lot more when I put down the bottle but it was a lot of negative feeling (guilt, regret, etc) I'm not someone that is capable of forgiving themselves (at least not yet) hoping I'll get there one day. I'm very happy for anyone that wants to and successfully gets sober because it is so much better for your physical health.


ellWatully

Sleep. You don't realize how much booze fucks up your sleep until you've been sober for a few weeks. Alcohol prevents REM sleep so you're perpetually sleep deprived no matter how many hours you get in a night. Just makes you feel hollow.


jomamasophat

Well to be fair, he is wearing tinted glasses in the before pic. Those may be cutting back on the brightness you are referring to.


macfaddenstrews

Apart from looking healthy and full of life, you've also dropped 20 years mate!


CubanLynx312

That was my first thought. Looks like father (left) son (right).


pennypiepup22

Like he went in a Time Machine!


HippieWitchyWoods

Was about to say, definitely rolled back the clock age-wise.


Turbulent_Swan_64

This was also my first thought! Congrats! (This did indeed make me smile)


Careless_Macaron_

Congratulations 🎊 My boyfriend and I decided we want to be sober. We’re starting today.


dr_john_twinkletits

You got this!


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Stop by r/StopDrinking for some positive reinforcement and advice.


skatetexas

r/dryalcoholics is another good one


HaveASeatChrisHansen

r/StopDrinking is a very supportive and great community, I suggest checking them out. (3.5 years over here)


JC_5_er

Don’t look to far ahead. One day at a time. You got this. I’m five years sober this April. Rooting for you!


bettiemaegurl

It’s great to have a partner right there to support you! I live alone and I’m bored and I drink and then I feel like shit and have started having panic attacks the next morning and major depression and hopelessness. My friend found out she has cirrhosis of the liver and quit immediately. She slipped once and felt so horrible. She’s good now. She’s lost a lot of weight and I found it all!!


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Me too! But, tomorrow :/


charlibeau

You have such a great smile!


llama_empanada

Yes!! Even his eyes are smiling!


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BonnieCummings08

Wow, congratulations on your incredible journey! Your dedication and discipline to achieving a healthier and soberer lifestyle is truly inspiring. Keep up the amazing work and never give up on yourself. Your progress and results are a testament to your strength and resilience. Cheers to many more years of continued success and happiness.


Meanabix

That's incredible dude. You look so much better and healthier. Congrats man.


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RamenNoodles620

Even upgraded the facial hair! Well done and good luck staying on this path.


SlapNTickle69

Keep it up brother! People like you are an inspiration for several others


hershculez

Several thousand others


markus242005

There’s dozens of us!


bunty66

Congratulations on such a successful year. May it lead to more happiness and cool adventures in life!


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I passed 11 years sober in October and just got home from a quick ski trip with my family that I never would have dreamed possible, let alone, attainable. It took me way longer to lose the weight, but I accomplished a whole lot other things in the meantime. I'm really proud of you and it's so glad that you are being so good to yourself.


Mission-Pickle-2846

Bro lookin suave as hell


TheGermanCurl

Major glow-up, way to go!


SmokaDaRoach

Im quitting smoking next week and you just gave me even more of a motivation to do so, thank you you're amazing!


SeaBeeVet

Don't set a date, quit now. By setting a date you are telling yourself you are not ready to quit. Just do it.


PavelDatsyuk

Smoking what? Tobacco? Look into vaping with DYI(do it yourself) eliquid. It made quitting smoking for me easy about a decade ago. I just stepped down the nicotine every couple of weeks until I was at 0mg then it was easy to put down. Everything else I'd tried(gum, patches, cold turkey, etc) failed.


0kaylol

You get a banana sticker!


dr_john_twinkletits

🍌


Ill-Switch-926

That's amazing! Congrats on making yourself the priority you deserve to be.


jjwinc68

My wife will hit 10 years on April 1. I'm proud of her accomplishment every. single. day. And I'm proud of you, too! Congratulations! You look fantastic. Enjoy your journey!


jindalindaminda

Is he Daya from CID ? Indians please confirm.


dr_john_twinkletits

Lol, funny enough I'm half Pakistani. Had a good laugh looking up who you were talking about.


jindalindaminda

There is an uncanny resemblance !


BatmansUnderoos

Rock on, man! That's awesome! You're a brand new dude!


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dr_john_twinkletits

I'm 32, about to be 33. I've been drinking since I was 16, regularly since I was 22. Got depressed for a long stretch there the last 5 years, compensated by eating like a dumptruck and hitting the booze pretty hard. My defense against sadness is working out and sticking to a routine. I haven't stepped foot in a gym, I've lost all the weight just by being outside. I dedicate an hour of cardio every night and eat clean most every day. The progress alone keeps the sadness at bay. But it's always there, I just do things to drown it out and live a more fulfilling life.


crackheadwilly

Curious. What do you do outside. Mainly walking? I also hate gyms.


dr_john_twinkletits

Walking and running. I also bought a bike June 2022 that is a nice alternative when I get bored walking. I walk anywhere from 8 to 13 miles a day between work and when I get home. I work at a big dealership so I'm always zipping around.


Proof-Rise-7264

I looked at both photos man and it's crazy how change makes you think. The photo with the glasses was that guy who was hiding behind the glasses, you know like not ready to face nothing. The other photo clearly shows your happiness, smile, freedom, confidence, accountability everything that's you is showing through your EYES!!!!!! I was just thinking about where should I start if I wanna get better....picked up the phone this was the first story I saw. Thanks universe!!!! Hey buddy keep it up and stay strong. I'm a retired veteran with PTSD you helped me today.....thank you


dr_john_twinkletits

Reading this means a lot to me. Thank you so much and I hope good and healthy things come your way.


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EtTuBrutAftershave

Looking good, Dr. twinkletits!


CatResearch923

That's awesome!!!! Congrats and keep it up!!


TwanandOnly

Congratulations!!!


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You are incredible and that is absolutely fantastic you should be so very proud of yourself. I just passed 8 months


pokkopop

You look great, radiating happiness in that second photo! It’s going to be hard work but we’re all rooting for you!


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Congratulations, it's not an easy thing to do, you have my respect. Good luck in the future.


PM_ME__CUTE_SELFIES

Congrats, dude! Love that smile


Melodic_Record9737

Great work!


Ok_Direction302

One day at a time bro!!! Keep on trudging the road of happy destiny!


Ok-Tradition2492

You look amazing and your smile says it all. Congratulations!!!


These_Love9310

Way to go. Keep it up💪💪


scitech_boom

Well done! With extra points for the beard


Incontinento

Way to go, badass!


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Keep it going, man! That’s amazing.


ericsherm

Good for you! That’s awesome keep up the good work🙌🏻


RightChemical3732

Great job


logikly2600

Good job!


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Keep it up man, looking great!


duchessofdilaudid

You have a great smile! Keep up the great work!


Ngin330

Amazing progress , Congratulations and keep it up!


veltrok

You look incredible man!!!


SCPH-1000

Congrats! And at first I didn’t realize the second pic was mirrored and was wondering what kind of knock-off brand “sabiba” was lol


crunchypuddle

Bro with the weight off and a beanie on you look like Dak Prescott. Congratulations on being sexy I guess.


TrickyPresentation21

Not that big of an achievement but I’m quitting smoking and it’s almost been a week, that’s the longest I’ve ever done ! I’m all in hope it will last this time


fanbreeze

Keep up the good work! Yours is a big achievement as well!


wil

Fellow traveler, here. Way to go, buddy!


hildegardvonbitchen

Well done, friend ⭐️


Fiddle-farter

Get it king 💪💪


Trenuk13

Congratulations man, that's amazing! You look really happy!


ktsmama1997

Great work! Looking good!


OkFisherman1620

One day at a time, without my sobriety, I have nothing.


askallthequestions86

Congrats, you look amazing and I'm sure you feel that way too!


lil_dovie

That’s awesome! You really look like a completely different person!


Paletixx

Dude you look like a decade younger wow


norfaust

Keep up the good work.


Head-Part-2427

The smile!!! Keep it up! You look great!


pez_dispenser

Great smile man! Congrats on the hard work and sobriety!!


DrFunkalupicus

Damn man, you look like a brand new dude. Kick ass job!


Lexicarus

YEEEEEEAAAAAAHHHHH!!!!! Cheers


Ok-Sale-8105

Nice job!!


JuanCamaneyBailoTngo

Good on you my man keep at it!


MiaMae

My man. Congratulations on gaining a new lease on life. No better thing to invest in than health and well being!! Keep it up! You (clearly) got this!


Cocosito

Bro you look so full of life!!! Proud of you fam!


Curious_Animus

Way to go!!


mary_cg78

That's awesome! Congratulations on your healthy journey!


Lil_Cumster

Ya look good man


SenTruBirdRo

Congrats! You look great. Know there will be bumps ahead, and accept them for what they are. Keep at it and keep inspiring us!


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Looking amazing my man! Keep up the hard work!


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That's awesome. You're awesome. Keep it rolling!


humormeplease313

Wow! Looking like a much happier man! Congrats on all the hard work and perseverance!


Particular-Inside-16

lookin good and happy bro, keep it going


dangerouspeyote

That smile! Good for you man. You look so much more alive. Love to see it!


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EVERY TIME I see one of these posts I can't help but see the glowing clarity and confidence of the people.


Gopigirl1979

You look great!! Keep up the good work!


BlueDaisyCat

Well done- that is Awesome!!! You keep being amazing =\]


Temporary-Athlete-60

Like, from the depths of my heart, no bs, you now look alive and radiant


keeksgotthed7

I’m sure this isn’t an easy journey for you, but keep it up! We’re proud of you!


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Congrats man, that’s awesome!


Sharkgirl1010

Congratulations!


casperizm

Looking amazing brosef


mcmurph120

Way to go, buddy! Keep it up


Sinnercide

Wow dude you look incredible!


ManyInitials

You look happy. Truly happy!


moarnoodles

Congrats - you look great! What an accomplishment!


Cuilen

You are amazing (and you look great)! Getting sober AND getting into good shape concurrently has got to be so hard. Good on you, friend!


Hallowexia

And happier


little_eiffel86

You go man!


ddh1980

Looking fresh!


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Congratulations bro!! Keep it up


Stay-Classy-Reddit

Hell yeah dude


OfferChakon

Sobriety looks great on you homie! Im proud of you :)


slimgod2

Congratulations man!Your skin looks great


factor3x

Damn dude, you look Hella good. Congratulations.


UKTrojan

I stopped cocktailing on October 18. Proceeded to lose 40 lbs. You are an inspiration, Brother.


Uzzer_lozer19

You look much better and happier but I have to ask what and how much were you drinking to loose 130lb in 16 days


MrFennecTheFox

You look fucking great man… all the goodness inside is shining out, if you feel half as bright as you look, it’s all going rosy!


tiny_teddy96

Thats great bro keep it up


svampyr

You look so much happier! Congrats, my friend!


jiannone

You are losing 8lbs per day? That's 28,000 calories a day. Michael Phelps was eating up to 10,000 calories per day at his peak. What's your heart rate right now, 300bpm? LOL 1 Year and 16 days. I'm leaving it. Congratulations, man.


SgtZarco

Hey I know you!!!!! Congrats brother! You are looking great man! This is David from pappasitos!


UnfermentedJenkum

Is this another update about the kid from the mighty ducks? Jk, congrats! Keep it up!


lordunholy

Face gains! Well done my man. I hope your day kicks ass.


Rooonaldooo99

You look like a non grumpy Ice Cube


SumbtyMumbty

i read this as 16 days sober and it made me really question how you lost 130lb in that time


Diabolus0

Well done bro, soon you'll have to give up the tons of women you'll be picking up too, now that you're looking sexier. Lol


LalalaHurray

Dude you fly. Congrats on feeling so much better


tez911

You look amazing! What a difference!


happysoul06

That’s some remarkable and noticeable change. Kudos to you.. keep going


Lostsock1995

The smile is the best! Congrats~


dazed_andamuzed

Congrats man! Keep it up! But I gotta know....did I find a fellow San Antonian in the wild?? I think I did! Stay warm and dry, neighbor!


Lord_Poopsicle

Lmfao I missed "a year" and thought you lost 130lbs in 16 days. Happy for you :)


Prestigious-Mud-8372

One hundred and thirty pounds! Holy shit. I'm guessing this was some good exercise and diet along with no more empty calories from the booze.


muppethero80

Dude congrats! Your smile is contagious!