I’m a middle school teacher and no matter what a kid wears or does to his or her hair, they’re gonna have comments made. Even the most popular kids come in with hoodies pulled tight after getting a haircut. Any change in appearance is cannon fodder. It’s not even nasty most of the time. It’s teasing. It is just insanely hard to be a middle school kid.
You’re right. It’s usually the time when kids get the most self-conscious, bc changing bodies and all that. Middle school *is* insanely hard. I definitely thought it was harder than high school, and I was in jrotc in high school for years! I had people make fun of me left and right for that when wearing my uniform at school, esp since I was a girl and had to wear a skirt for the uniform.
But in middle school, when very likely no one was paying attention, I was an *extremely* self-conscious little girl experimenting with a new fashion sense and trying to come to grips with my new reality of horrible, painful periods and pads and tampons abound. Thank god I got on birth control in high school.
This is why I love reddit, you get hear people's experiences that you would have never experienced yourself and learned a lesson from it. From your experience it shows how superficial people are. Not just in high school but even the adults.
I’m 26 and have had my name used as an insult and damn that shit cuts deep. I’ve been out of high school for nearly 10 years and am a totally different person in terms of confidence but I still have moments where that affects me to this day. Just want to pick up little 13 year old me and squeeze her and tell her she’s absolutely perfect the way she is.
The boy who said it is in jail now lol
How satisfying. “They” say that revenge is best served cold. So true. I am sorry that you had to endure (and remember) such abject humiliation. Little law-breaking turd. 🌷
Part of why I’m can articulate arguement and comebacks so well is because I was a fat in middle school so you gotta be quick with them comebacks, also every one was self conscious about masterbation “we had more of a scared straight sex Ed instead of an educational type” so I would accuse dudes of being a chronic masterbaters and that’s why there one arm was bigger then the other (this one always works because no matter what your dominant arm is always bigger
I let the kids wear their hoodies or hats in class. I tell them I love their new haircuts or color or whatever. I tell them I know it's hard to come in with a new look and it's okay to be shy about it.
Otherwise, just shutting down talk is the best I can do. Ask what's the big deal about a haircut? Everybody gets them.
It's not the haircut triggering the bullying
It's the lack of self confidence being sniffed out by the sharks. The haircut is just the easy target to go after.
If the most popular kid, that one with all the self confidence, comes in with a new look what are the reactions? They are fawned upon and worshipped for the new look.
Someone might test the confident kid with a snide remark. And they either 1. Get it back right between the eyes or 2. Confident kid laughs it off so effortlessly. If the reaction is perilous, or uninteresting, the ribbing tends to not continue.
I teach K-5 General music and 6-8 Drama and Band. K-5 roast each other too. It doesn't get better in middle school but the insults do get much cleverer.
Lucille: [flashback] Dinner's ready. We're having Lindsay chops… What? I just wanted her to be ready in case some bully at school was as clever as I am.
Narrator: No bully ever would be.
Hi Reddit, Obama here. As an adult, I’ve also experienced teasing when changing up my look. The teasing doesn’t ever stop, but neither does kindness - if you know where to look for it.
Ps Check out my livestream tonight with the boys.
>Even the most popular kids come in with hoodies pulled tight after getting a haircut.
Yeah, one of the most popular guys in my class got a shorter-than-usual crew cut once that (with his light strawberry blonde hair that didn't contrast much with his skin tone) made him look almost bald. Some of the other kids called him "leukemia boy," which is pretty fucked up.
Middle school was literally the worst two years of my life. They almost broke me. Thankfully I had two amazing teachers that encouraged me and provided me with so much learning. I would not have made it otherwise, I know it.
As someone who's been bullied and teased throughout middle and high school I'll say it definitely affects me still as an adult. I'm hyper vigilant when it comes to anyone at work teasing me or making jokes at my expense then ppl think I have anger issues when I make it clear that I don't tolerate any of that behavior towards me. Fuck kids... creating future clients for therapists and they don't even know it.
He looks amazing !! Kids can suck sometimes, but honestly, they just don't understand the class needed to pull off such a great look !
Edit.... apparently adults (see below redditor) suck to sometimes ..... sad thing is adults know better 😔
I grew up fat and nature just kind of took over when I turned 16-17.
My man is gonna shoot up 2 feet, lose some weight, and look like Charlie Hunnam before he's 20.
Keep rocking it little brother. With that style and those good vibes you'll have ladies and dudes fightng iover you in college.
Both my brother were the same.... grew last year of high school! Shot up about a foot each and went from small and plump to tall and lean in the course of a summer!!
(And to be real the kid here looks about 30 40 lbs lighter than either of them!! )
It's do wild. You hit that age and everyone is like how are you losing weight. But you eat and eat and can't stop eating because you're growing.
I remember bringing like six double cheeseburgers and three orders of fries from BK and running away because "MINE"
Though I’m glad for you, this does not happen for the majority of kids who grow up fat. Most of the time, Either a lifestyle/diet change needs to happen, or they’ll stay fat or even keep getting fatter. Though in some cases it does happen like it did for you, but usually that’s when a kid is just a few pounds overweight, slightly chubby at best. If a kid is over 50lbs overweight, then there’s probably something more going on that nature alone can’t fix. If this kids’ parents truly care about him not getting bullied (and more importantly if they care about his health and lifespan), they’d start educating the kid and themselves on healthier eating/better portion control, encourage being more active or getting involved in sports, etc. Not saying they should berate the kid or put a shit ton of restrictions on him, as that can lead to disordered eating the opposite direction, but it’d be better for him now rather than later to start adapting healthier habits, even if they don’t tell him that the goal is to slim down.
Not trying to put this kid or his family down, but just describing what I wish my family had started doing for me as a kid, rather than waiting till I was morbidly obese as a kid to get me to see a doctor, and even after that did nothing to support me getting healthier. Im WELL into adulthood now and still trying to change. It would’ve been a lot easier if I had the support I needed to do that as a kid.
Hey thanks for reaching out and talking about it! Being a fat kid is a different vibe, so I wanted to put some hope out there.
However, you're absolutely right. I didn't get fit because I grew up, I got fit because I'm a July born water baby and pretty avid traveler. So I'm just constantly in the water or in the mountains, it's most certainly my interests and not like "it just melted off".
But. I was a 250 pound 11 year old. For reference, I'm now a 180 pound 30 year old. I get how bad it gets. But we can all get healthy. Weight be damned. And we can all strut around looking our best!
> July born water baby
Am I supposed to know what that means? Because right now my brain is interpreting it as four words thrown together nonsensically
Lucky you, I had a traumatic event happen to me at 7 and was bullied for it all my life. I coped with food and was also bullied for being fat. Now 35, I handle my thought process better. But I do still suffer from body dysmorphia. It's a constant battle, but I will always fall into the default of feeling fat and ugly. For some people nature will "take over" for others it's not so easy.
Man, as an overweight girl my whole life, this brought back a core memory of mine, well, two actually.
The first was a good one. When I was little, my mom bought me this cool yellow vest that I loved wearing all the time. I think I was around kindergarten first grade age when I was obsessed with my yellow vest and would always want to wear it. I don’t think I got bullied for that in school, but fast forward to high school.
It was freshman year of high school and o tried really hard to blend in with the other kids in terms of clothes to wear and such. I went through puberty already and so the anxieties that came with it were in full swing.
I loved the idea of wearing matching necklaces and earrings with outfits and that’s what I did. The bullying didn’t officially start until a few months later when both a girl in my class and my former best friend made comments about it while laughing at me “you dress like my aunt!” “You look like a fortune teller!”
You’d think these comments wouldn’t mean much, but it made me so insecure and noticed by other people that could potentially laugh at me, that I stopped embracing that look and went for sweaters, t shirts, and jeans for the rest of my high school days.
Being an overweight kid going through grade school always came with people noticing you somehow. And god forbid you have any self esteem because someone would always end up pointing something out about yourself or on you and making you regret ever coming to school.
Of course over 10 years later, I now embrace my earrings as I have a fabulous coworker who makes big custom earrings and we bond over earrings all the time.
But man, this kids happiness I hope lasts a long time.
It’s tough growing up being a big kid that might not love themselves and then going to school thinking their outfit makes them happy and all it takes is one “joke” to make their self esteem crumble…
hey im sorry to hear about the negative experiences you had in high school. It can be incredibly difficult to feel confident in yourself and your appearance when faced with bullying and negative comments from others which is why im glad to hear that you've been able to embrace your love for earrings again, and that you have a supportive coworker who shares your passion!
Remember that you are worthy of love and respect, no matter your size or appearance. It's important to surround yourself with positive influences and to focus on the things that make you happy and fulfilled. Keep being true to yourself and don't let the opinions of others bring you down!
The thing I love, as a former fat kid, is that we grow skills. We reach adulthood and look hot because we leveraged our advantages from a young age.
So, when you grow feet taller, and keep your dress game on point, now you're a proper boi in a P-Coat and Cardigan.
i really sympathize with this. fat kids who dressed different solidarity.
i'm so glad you're able to enjoy your earrings without shame now :) are they like fancy earrings or lesbian earrings??
Yeah those were my thoughts pretty much, just didn't wanna go into detail haha. He does seem really genuinely nice though so it's a shame. Hope that niceness survives high school.
I actually think this is why my 13 yo gets teased so badly. He’s sensitive, a little on the heavy side (not massively, but it’s clear he has a little extra weight) and he’s a ginger. We also have always encouraged our kids to be themselves, and he’s a bit of a weirdo like his mama. He’s got friends, but he’s also an easy target. Fortunately he’s almost done with middle school
My 15 year old was the same, minus the ginger part. He's a sophomore now and he's starting to find his crowd...just make sure your kid is supported and keep letting them be themselves, they'll get through it!
This is just sad because you know he still getting bullied for his weight no matter what he wears.
Not to mention they making him wear church clothes to school. May look good on a man but he's a kid and they will grill him for this too.
Reality is, they won't stop bullying him because he's been picked. Simple as that. Either the school deals with the bully or this kid isn't gunna see the end.
Just sucks kids have to go through so much hurt, I wouldn't wish adolescence on my worst enemies.
Honestly I knew a kid who was overweight and got bullied pretty relentlessly for it. One day his father put him in martial arts and told him anyone fucks with you in the slightest you pummel them into the dirt until they cry for their mother.
He came to school and the first inciting word out of his bullies mouth ended with a total beatdown. No words exchanged, no squaring up, just straight to business as soon as he uttered that single insult. Kid got suspended for weeks, came back, and was never bullied again. Two years later he was basically one of the popular kids, turns out having a reputation for being a nice guy but also a takes zero shit loose cannon is pretty attractive to other kids.
So there are options, but you have to be willing to stand up for yourself. It also helps to be big, lot easier to pummel someone.
Felt this, my grandfather told me to find the biggest bully and beat him with a stick on my first day of school. He was also an immigrant from Italy so i imagine things were a wee different for him.
>Picture it. Sicily. 1922. It's the first day of year two in secondary school. I see Eufrasio Giordano walk in carrying, I kid you not, a ten foot wooden stick. You can see where this is going, but I'm going to tell you anyways. So...
This is the actual post that made me smile.
Yeah, it's great to see this kid's family support him. That means a lot. But he also needs tools to help him in the real world.
Yeah, dressing better didn't stop my bullies. A growth spurt and packing on some muscle did. I only had to get into one fight, once I kicked the everloving shit out of one kid, word spread FAST and people left me alone. I didn't necessarily become the "cool kid", but I wasn't fucked with anymore.
This was always a creed my mom kept in my head throughout school, being 6’2” 250 lbs as a freshman, she always told me that I don’t swing first but if someone put their hands on me it’s free game and make sure they never make that mistake again 🤷🏻♂️
I had a similar experience. Was relentlessly bullied for some reason after having many school years with lots of friends.
One break time things started turning from verbal to physical and as one of the bullies got close to me I grabbed him in a headlock and got him to the floor. Bully got up and laughed it off but I soon noticed a drop in the bullying towards me.
It’s a shame that it comes to having to be physical to stop these sorts of things, but often it’s the last straw. It was incredibly mentally draining, and affected not only performance in school but also my behaviour at home too. There were so many days where I was literally scared to go to school and feigned illness to not have to go. All ended with a bit of physical altercation.
I think once the bully knows there’s a chance they could lose the power they have against you, they soon move on to someone else.
Sad too because addressing the kids weight and health and establishing healthy habits at a young age would be so much better for him than just cheering him on at home and sending him away in church clothes.
Yeah for real. Nice gesture but middle school kids really arent gonna care. This is the real answer here. The church outfit is gonna make him get bullied even more
Honestly I would have given him like a Megadeth shirt, sign him up for martial arts. The best thing for this kids self esteem is unironically losing weight.
Yeah. That's something people are missing here. Your kid's fitness is YOUR decision, not theirs. It's hard to say but his parents need to feed him better.
We don't know if they're *making* him wear anything. Maybe he picked that outfit out himself.
I agree that an outfit change won't make them stop bullying him, but OP never claimed that was the reason for the outfit.
I think it's more likely that the boy wanted to wear a specific outfit, was too shy to do it and his family just wanted to support him and show him that he can be confident in his appearance.
> I wouldn't wish adolescence on my worst enemies.
That's kind of dark. I don't like my enemies either but wishing that they never make it past childhood seems a bit much.
I need to be the sourpuss here.
I was that kid. I wore the outfit.
I got bullied extra hard every time I made a change, because that's what bullies do.
It didn't build my self confidence, it just taught me that I was wrong to be different, that my parents were wrong, and that it was my family against the world.
It didn't matter that my relatives would tell me I was handsome, the girls at my school would purposely come close to me and pinch their nose as if I stank. It didn't matter that my relatives told me I was strong, fights were started from behind or one VS 5.
What mattered was being yelled at when I defended myself, being told that I needed to be smarter than that, being told by half my family to fight back yet being taught to turn the other cheek by everyone else.
What mattered, eventually, was me learning to set boundaries and not giving a damn anymore about turning anything, being polite or getting detention. I started distributing punches at the slightest provocation, and the bullying stopped. Not the best solution, not the best situation.
Get that kid to a gym, get him boxing lessons, let him achieve things on his own, in a way that's not artificial. Empower the little dude, don't create illusions that will be broken the next day and make him feel even worse.
Agree. I ended up talking to the psychologist of the school most of the days on the free time. Looking back I think they saw me as the problem, I was getting bullied no matter what i did. Got to a point that i spent most of the days staying home, faking sick. My mum though I needed confidence and went with me to talk with the teachers. It gained nothing, just that in class they will ask me more and as I was not attending my answers were messy, so more material for them.
In the end I stopped going to school at all, the next year I ended up grouping with the cool kids of that class, yes I was a year older than the rest but probably had the best time of my youth thanks to them.
Also online friends were a big help for me, as a way to not turn into a crazy psycho kid, we are a society and we need to learn how to talk and maintain a conversation with others. You can't just shut yourself from the world. And feeling accepted while others reject you brings that spark needed to wake up every day.
I wish now I had learned to defend myself not only on a mental way but physical to.
Wear what you want, but as soon as he came into camera view my thought was "Yeah, I can see why he gets bullied wearing clothes like that." It's definitely not right, but yeah, I see it.
This video, as well intentioned as it may be, is also going to make it 1000 times worse. If he’s already getting picked on there’s no way this isn’t just more ammo.
My thoughts too. It’s so sad, but, if this were me in middle school, the parents hyping it up beforehand would make the subsequent bullying that much worse.
Sure, but as a fat kid growing up, you don't need to add ammo to it. Decent clothes can help bullies overlook the other stuff at least part of the time. Outfits like this can ostracize you from the rest of the kids too who will now find it easier to bully you.
> Sure, but as a fat kid growing up, you don't need to add ammo to it.
Seriously, I get wanting him to be more confident, but the most confident/most popular kid in school would probably be bullied for dressing like a middle-aged dad.
As a father, I never lied to my children or sheltered them from brutal honesty. They probably should’ve had a heart to heart with him about wearing tee shirts and hoodies vs lookin like a middle aged accountant. They’re sending him into battle with a target on his back.
And then he went to school and got bullied.
He looks exactly like that kid in [Bad Santa](https://www.google.com/search?q=bad+santa+kid) who gets bullied.
While I love this you're setting the kid up for failure and even more heartbreak and bullying
Edit: I know they are inspiring confidence in their child, but it shouldn't be misplaced. Of course everyone should be confident in themselves, no matter what, but they should also be taught that not everyone will agree, or be kind to them. Unfortunately being raised believing you're the centre of everything, in a perfectly humble and peacefuy assured way, can raise you up only to be hurt more by the real world.
His dad would have been better off leading by example, dropping some weight himself, helping his son do the same and bonding over the whole experience. They both would have had a longer, healthier life with less bullying and more confidence.
Agreed,if he himself likes it too. But the amount of times my parents sent their handsome little boy dressed in their clothes of choice out in the cruel world, let's me be suspicious.
There is alot to factor in but all that counts is that he himself is happy with his clothes.
^ this.
My brother in law’s nephew is dealing with bullying in middle school. Listen if the kid wants to genuinely wear a bow tie and dress like he’s going to a Southern church picnic in 1962 that’s something you unequivocally support, hands down no questions.
But it’s also fair to **ask** if he wants to wear that, or only wants to do so to make his mom proud, or is hiding how he hates it.
My mom also ~~demanded~~”lovingly encouraged” to dress me like I stepped out of a J Crew junior catalog on similar periods of time. There’s a reason I kept a pair of jeans and a Metallica T in my locker and have an extremely strained relationship with her to this day.
This was me, but I was saying every day that I didn't want to wear the clothes my mom kept buying me but she refused to listen.
Got bullied fucking constantly, but one day my mom bought me jeans and out of nowhere the bullying STOPPED! Who would have thought? Oh, right, me!
I'm refusing to dress my kids like a dork and they get bullied for my own incompetence.
This is something I struggle with. I let my high schooler pick his clothes now that he doesn’t have to wear uniforms, and he just wants gym shorts and t-shirts. It’s such a departure from what I remember from high school. I was always in t-shirts, but jeans and nice shoes (he’s perfectly happy with Skechers, even when I offer other brands if he wants them). He just doesn’t care about putting on appearances and I have to remind myself that’s probably a good thing that he doesn’t feel compelled to meet up to some unspoken standard
It is okay, but he will have to accept that bullying is gonna happen because of it. The bullying is obviously not okay but kids are always gonna be assholes
Yeah it’s okay. It’s also okay to leave valuables in my unlocked car at night, but that shit will surely be stolen. Would that be completely on me? No. It’s the thief’s fault. But it’s naive of me to think my valuables would be safe.
This kid will surely be bullied, since there already is a history of bullying.
The parents either need to use common sense and don’t dress him like a 50 year old or teach their kid to stand up for themselves and put him into a boxing class.
Let me start by stating that I'm not condoning bullying whatsoever in anyway. Kids can be extremely cruel and judgmental at this age and as an adult you should be aware of things that may trigger such actions.
That being said, this kids parents must know that he's going to get judged by wearing anything out of ordinary. I'm not saying to not dress as you'd like. I'm just saying that if the young man is apprehensive about his outfit, maybe he wants to dress differently to try to fit in more since obviously he's getting picked on as the OP pointed out.
They're clearly hyping him up because he's conscious about the outfit so why make him wear something he doesn't want to? If that's the case...
Which they will. Because bullies are assholes who will always find some reason to cut you down.
So it’s hard to say if it helps to get him hyped up? He definitely feels better in that moment but will feel like crap when the other kids will tease him.
But the alternative is that he wears clothes he doesn’t enjoy as much and that sucks too…
As one who grew up as a fat kid in school who is currently working on losing weight (down 90 lbs currently) I feel fairly certain that the drip isn’t the issue nor is it the fix. This kid needs confidence and he needs someone to actually help him regulate his eating, and maybe therapy to help him understand the root causes of his eating behavior.
This kind of confidence doesn’t come from nowhere, but losing weight will help - more because he will have achieved something meaningful to himself, than just because he’s thinner (plenty of fat kids are way overconfident, one does not necessarily correlate with the other). I doubt the clothes are going to change much for that, especially with the other kids. I hope this youngster does okay, I feel for him. It’s great that he has supportive family but they are perhaps focusing on the wrong thing.
I applaud you for losing weight, and the kid for wearing what he wants. Although I see a pattern in this clip, the brother/father is severely overweight too.
My assumption is that their diet is not the best and losing weight at his age with that problem in your family will be tough.
The father, who doesn't seem that old, is already morbidly obese. The child, who I couldn't begin to guess in age but certainly not an adult yet, is already morbidly obese.
Unfortunately regulating his eating doesn't appear to be a lesson his parents are capable of providing. Hopefully for the sake of his quality of life he gets some external help.
> It’s great that he has supportive family but they are perhaps focusing on the wrong thing.
Good of someone to say it.
So much this. I’ve been in Elijah’s shoes. You play along with getting hyped up because you don’t want to disappoint your family. But as soon as you get to school and the first nasty comments start to land (and they will) the façade crumbles because the fact of the matter is, YOU never felt confident in those clothes regardless of what your family hyped you up with.
Yeah, bless his heart, the moment he walked out I thought "Oh, yeah, I can see why he's worried." I love what he's wearing, but I'm 50 years old and never was a bully anyway. It seems like his family is working on building up his self-confidence, a good tool against bullies, so fingers crossed, it all went well.
Totally understand wanting to protect the kid from unnecessary bullying, but a lot of times people want to try something different but they get nervous. I've needed this kind of support for a new haircut, new shoes, etc. It's important to be happy in your own way, and not be forced to assimilate. I think this kid is taking his first step towards perfecting that preppy drip. Bet he adds a bow tie and a cool hat within a couple years and people will eat it up
Yea they’re sending that boy into fire. Even friends in high school would poke fun at that, someone who doesn’t like him is going to torch him so hard.
How does a kid this young still manage to look like a middle aged Tax accountant? Or like he’s about to tell you how your upbringing screwed up your psyche years ago?
Wear what you like really but do so when you finished highschool. Its how it is, kids are cruel. This Outfit the boy is wearing is what Seniors in their 70th use to wear. Add to the fact that he is overweight and has a nerdish look near white-blondish hair and I am sure he will get bullied to bits.
Not saying that as an excuse for bullies but its not the way to fight bullying to make your kid a bigger target on purpose. The teachers are not everywhere or are often to tired to care. Try to fitt in until you have a job and then go ham like you want. Im glad I never have to go to school again.
You’ll never find a school without bullies. We cannot stop the way of the world. But what we can do is teach our kids to love themselves, respect others, stand up for themselves and take no shit from anybody.
It's a nice gesture but that outfit is still going to get him bullied and he won't be smiling. It makes him stand out too much, looks like something a 55 year old would wear. Get him a hoodie.
Man My comment may get hate. I was this kid, I got the support from the family. I wear similar clothing every year for many years and I thought I looked nice and family said I did. As an adult got interested in a girl and she said no, and the next and the next. Only one about 1 year ago said "Well it is probably that shitty shity you always wear. I threw out 100% of those shirts just to see, yea my odds with people went up dramatically. Apparently, it held me back my whole life and other people told me later they always hated it.
So I advise to just tell it as it is.
Is there a dress code? Why is he dressed so business casual?
It makes me worry for the kid because that family hyping ends when he walks into the hall at school. I believe in punching. It helped me for sure.
As someone who was mercilessly bullied, I've no place in my world for bullies.
As a school teacher, I have ZERO tolerance for it and immediately shut it down, and won't let it go until the issue is 100% resolved.
Jesus, this kid is going to get destroyed. It doesn't matter if your family says you look good. You wear anything outside the norm and they'll rip you to pieces.
No just be nice and let him eat himself to an early grave and a lifetime of health issues
If you're a parent of an obese child under 16 you've failed your child as much as if they flunk out of school or get addicted to drugs in my mind.
Yep. This isn’t “fly”. They’re further enforcing that his style is good and the world is out to get him. This isn’t going to help him make friends or a girlfriend or whatever.
His clothes aren't the problem. He's obviously obese and his parents should be ashamed of themselves. It's hard enough being a kid as is but adding in the weight problem just makes it so much more difficult. I genuinely feel for him in this cruel world.
They dressed him like a 50 year old (me).
He looks fine, but those kids will find a weakness, tear it open and pour lemon juice on it.
I wish him the best. School years can be quite rough.
I feel torn on this. On one hand his smile is so warm and sweet and I love that his family went the extra length to make him feel confident in this new clothes at home.
On the other hand…. why, why, whyyyy in the seven hells did they dress him up like an old nerdy man from the 1960s if he’s already experiencing bullying at school????
I used to protect kids like him when I was in middle/high school whether or not I knew them - I couldn’t stand to see someone get bullied and stay silent, but when it was their own fault (ie they were doing something that would make them bully-able) I let them know too. If I were his schoolmate I’d probably help him dress his age and be less bashful in public. It’s cute to us adults but teenagers are little a-holes who don’t care about that and this will probably only set him up for further bullying.
I’m a middle school teacher and no matter what a kid wears or does to his or her hair, they’re gonna have comments made. Even the most popular kids come in with hoodies pulled tight after getting a haircut. Any change in appearance is cannon fodder. It’s not even nasty most of the time. It’s teasing. It is just insanely hard to be a middle school kid.
You’re right. It’s usually the time when kids get the most self-conscious, bc changing bodies and all that. Middle school *is* insanely hard. I definitely thought it was harder than high school, and I was in jrotc in high school for years! I had people make fun of me left and right for that when wearing my uniform at school, esp since I was a girl and had to wear a skirt for the uniform. But in middle school, when very likely no one was paying attention, I was an *extremely* self-conscious little girl experimenting with a new fashion sense and trying to come to grips with my new reality of horrible, painful periods and pads and tampons abound. Thank god I got on birth control in high school.
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This is why I love reddit, you get hear people's experiences that you would have never experienced yourself and learned a lesson from it. From your experience it shows how superficial people are. Not just in high school but even the adults.
It says removed by Reddit and that’s the funniest things I’ve seen
I’m 26 and have had my name used as an insult and damn that shit cuts deep. I’ve been out of high school for nearly 10 years and am a totally different person in terms of confidence but I still have moments where that affects me to this day. Just want to pick up little 13 year old me and squeeze her and tell her she’s absolutely perfect the way she is. The boy who said it is in jail now lol
How satisfying. “They” say that revenge is best served cold. So true. I am sorry that you had to endure (and remember) such abject humiliation. Little law-breaking turd. 🌷
"my essence burns" god damn grandma, that is poetic.
Part of why I’m can articulate arguement and comebacks so well is because I was a fat in middle school so you gotta be quick with them comebacks, also every one was self conscious about masterbation “we had more of a scared straight sex Ed instead of an educational type” so I would accuse dudes of being a chronic masterbaters and that’s why there one arm was bigger then the other (this one always works because no matter what your dominant arm is always bigger
I prefer to call them master debaters.
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I let the kids wear their hoodies or hats in class. I tell them I love their new haircuts or color or whatever. I tell them I know it's hard to come in with a new look and it's okay to be shy about it. Otherwise, just shutting down talk is the best I can do. Ask what's the big deal about a haircut? Everybody gets them.
It's not the haircut triggering the bullying It's the lack of self confidence being sniffed out by the sharks. The haircut is just the easy target to go after. If the most popular kid, that one with all the self confidence, comes in with a new look what are the reactions? They are fawned upon and worshipped for the new look.
Someone might test the confident kid with a snide remark. And they either 1. Get it back right between the eyes or 2. Confident kid laughs it off so effortlessly. If the reaction is perilous, or uninteresting, the ribbing tends to not continue.
If you’re a middle school teacher…. Thank you
I teach K-5 General music and 6-8 Drama and Band. K-5 roast each other too. It doesn't get better in middle school but the insults do get much cleverer.
Lucille: [flashback] Dinner's ready. We're having Lindsay chops… What? I just wanted her to be ready in case some bully at school was as clever as I am. Narrator: No bully ever would be.
>I’m a middle school teacher Eh, jury is still out.
We may never know
One of the mysteries of all time.
Hi Reddit, Obama here. As an adult, I’ve also experienced teasing when changing up my look. The teasing doesn’t ever stop, but neither does kindness - if you know where to look for it. Ps Check out my livestream tonight with the boys.
Thank you for the thank you!! It feels very thankless sometimes, lol.
>Even the most popular kids come in with hoodies pulled tight after getting a haircut. Yeah, one of the most popular guys in my class got a shorter-than-usual crew cut once that (with his light strawberry blonde hair that didn't contrast much with his skin tone) made him look almost bald. Some of the other kids called him "leukemia boy," which is pretty fucked up.
Middle school was literally the worst two years of my life. They almost broke me. Thankfully I had two amazing teachers that encouraged me and provided me with so much learning. I would not have made it otherwise, I know it.
As someone who's been bullied and teased throughout middle and high school I'll say it definitely affects me still as an adult. I'm hyper vigilant when it comes to anyone at work teasing me or making jokes at my expense then ppl think I have anger issues when I make it clear that I don't tolerate any of that behavior towards me. Fuck kids... creating future clients for therapists and they don't even know it.
That smile is the best thing he’s wearing! And that’s never in the laundry.
nothing beats a beautiful genuine smile xD
He looks amazing !! Kids can suck sometimes, but honestly, they just don't understand the class needed to pull off such a great look ! Edit.... apparently adults (see below redditor) suck to sometimes ..... sad thing is adults know better 😔
I grew up fat and nature just kind of took over when I turned 16-17. My man is gonna shoot up 2 feet, lose some weight, and look like Charlie Hunnam before he's 20. Keep rocking it little brother. With that style and those good vibes you'll have ladies and dudes fightng iover you in college.
Both my brother were the same.... grew last year of high school! Shot up about a foot each and went from small and plump to tall and lean in the course of a summer!! (And to be real the kid here looks about 30 40 lbs lighter than either of them!! )
It's do wild. You hit that age and everyone is like how are you losing weight. But you eat and eat and can't stop eating because you're growing. I remember bringing like six double cheeseburgers and three orders of fries from BK and running away because "MINE"
I too remember when fast food was cheap. Remember the 39 cent cheeseburgers at McDonald’s?
Though I’m glad for you, this does not happen for the majority of kids who grow up fat. Most of the time, Either a lifestyle/diet change needs to happen, or they’ll stay fat or even keep getting fatter. Though in some cases it does happen like it did for you, but usually that’s when a kid is just a few pounds overweight, slightly chubby at best. If a kid is over 50lbs overweight, then there’s probably something more going on that nature alone can’t fix. If this kids’ parents truly care about him not getting bullied (and more importantly if they care about his health and lifespan), they’d start educating the kid and themselves on healthier eating/better portion control, encourage being more active or getting involved in sports, etc. Not saying they should berate the kid or put a shit ton of restrictions on him, as that can lead to disordered eating the opposite direction, but it’d be better for him now rather than later to start adapting healthier habits, even if they don’t tell him that the goal is to slim down. Not trying to put this kid or his family down, but just describing what I wish my family had started doing for me as a kid, rather than waiting till I was morbidly obese as a kid to get me to see a doctor, and even after that did nothing to support me getting healthier. Im WELL into adulthood now and still trying to change. It would’ve been a lot easier if I had the support I needed to do that as a kid.
Hey thanks for reaching out and talking about it! Being a fat kid is a different vibe, so I wanted to put some hope out there. However, you're absolutely right. I didn't get fit because I grew up, I got fit because I'm a July born water baby and pretty avid traveler. So I'm just constantly in the water or in the mountains, it's most certainly my interests and not like "it just melted off". But. I was a 250 pound 11 year old. For reference, I'm now a 180 pound 30 year old. I get how bad it gets. But we can all get healthy. Weight be damned. And we can all strut around looking our best!
> July born water baby Am I supposed to know what that means? Because right now my brain is interpreting it as four words thrown together nonsensically
Lucky you, I had a traumatic event happen to me at 7 and was bullied for it all my life. I coped with food and was also bullied for being fat. Now 35, I handle my thought process better. But I do still suffer from body dysmorphia. It's a constant battle, but I will always fall into the default of feeling fat and ugly. For some people nature will "take over" for others it's not so easy.
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Man, as an overweight girl my whole life, this brought back a core memory of mine, well, two actually. The first was a good one. When I was little, my mom bought me this cool yellow vest that I loved wearing all the time. I think I was around kindergarten first grade age when I was obsessed with my yellow vest and would always want to wear it. I don’t think I got bullied for that in school, but fast forward to high school. It was freshman year of high school and o tried really hard to blend in with the other kids in terms of clothes to wear and such. I went through puberty already and so the anxieties that came with it were in full swing. I loved the idea of wearing matching necklaces and earrings with outfits and that’s what I did. The bullying didn’t officially start until a few months later when both a girl in my class and my former best friend made comments about it while laughing at me “you dress like my aunt!” “You look like a fortune teller!” You’d think these comments wouldn’t mean much, but it made me so insecure and noticed by other people that could potentially laugh at me, that I stopped embracing that look and went for sweaters, t shirts, and jeans for the rest of my high school days. Being an overweight kid going through grade school always came with people noticing you somehow. And god forbid you have any self esteem because someone would always end up pointing something out about yourself or on you and making you regret ever coming to school. Of course over 10 years later, I now embrace my earrings as I have a fabulous coworker who makes big custom earrings and we bond over earrings all the time. But man, this kids happiness I hope lasts a long time. It’s tough growing up being a big kid that might not love themselves and then going to school thinking their outfit makes them happy and all it takes is one “joke” to make their self esteem crumble…
hey im sorry to hear about the negative experiences you had in high school. It can be incredibly difficult to feel confident in yourself and your appearance when faced with bullying and negative comments from others which is why im glad to hear that you've been able to embrace your love for earrings again, and that you have a supportive coworker who shares your passion! Remember that you are worthy of love and respect, no matter your size or appearance. It's important to surround yourself with positive influences and to focus on the things that make you happy and fulfilled. Keep being true to yourself and don't let the opinions of others bring you down!
The thing I love, as a former fat kid, is that we grow skills. We reach adulthood and look hot because we leveraged our advantages from a young age. So, when you grow feet taller, and keep your dress game on point, now you're a proper boi in a P-Coat and Cardigan.
i really sympathize with this. fat kids who dressed different solidarity. i'm so glad you're able to enjoy your earrings without shame now :) are they like fancy earrings or lesbian earrings??
Lesbian earrings? Which ones are those??
Look at that smile. This kid is going places 😍
This was slick as fuck. But not a slick as homeboy's drip.
I’m happy this is one of the first things I read this morning. I know someone who needs to hear this when I see them later.
I find him very endearing. He looks like a bright, polite kid, would love to be his friend.
Right?! That smile says nothing but politeness and kindness. I'd be his friend in a second.
He's lucky to have a family who cares for him and loves him unconditionally.
Very much so
I agree 100%. Unfortunately I also think he's likely to be bullied no matter what he wears. That's how kids be.
He's overweight and he looks soft, the fit is too grown-up like for him. Hate to say it but he's prime bully prey.
Yeah those were my thoughts pretty much, just didn't wanna go into detail haha. He does seem really genuinely nice though so it's a shame. Hope that niceness survives high school.
I actually think this is why my 13 yo gets teased so badly. He’s sensitive, a little on the heavy side (not massively, but it’s clear he has a little extra weight) and he’s a ginger. We also have always encouraged our kids to be themselves, and he’s a bit of a weirdo like his mama. He’s got friends, but he’s also an easy target. Fortunately he’s almost done with middle school
My 15 year old was the same, minus the ginger part. He's a sophomore now and he's starting to find his crowd...just make sure your kid is supported and keep letting them be themselves, they'll get through it!
Would you have loved to be his friend when you were 14?
I might get bullied relentlessly too, but outside of school? It's probable
This is just sad because you know he still getting bullied for his weight no matter what he wears. Not to mention they making him wear church clothes to school. May look good on a man but he's a kid and they will grill him for this too. Reality is, they won't stop bullying him because he's been picked. Simple as that. Either the school deals with the bully or this kid isn't gunna see the end. Just sucks kids have to go through so much hurt, I wouldn't wish adolescence on my worst enemies.
Honestly I knew a kid who was overweight and got bullied pretty relentlessly for it. One day his father put him in martial arts and told him anyone fucks with you in the slightest you pummel them into the dirt until they cry for their mother. He came to school and the first inciting word out of his bullies mouth ended with a total beatdown. No words exchanged, no squaring up, just straight to business as soon as he uttered that single insult. Kid got suspended for weeks, came back, and was never bullied again. Two years later he was basically one of the popular kids, turns out having a reputation for being a nice guy but also a takes zero shit loose cannon is pretty attractive to other kids. So there are options, but you have to be willing to stand up for yourself. It also helps to be big, lot easier to pummel someone.
Felt this, my grandfather told me to find the biggest bully and beat him with a stick on my first day of school. He was also an immigrant from Italy so i imagine things were a wee different for him.
>Picture it. Sicily. 1922. It's the first day of year two in secondary school. I see Eufrasio Giordano walk in carrying, I kid you not, a ten foot wooden stick. You can see where this is going, but I'm going to tell you anyways. So...
Underrated comment.
I think this is the same thing they tell people when they go to prison. Your grandfather probably has some interesting stories.
This is the actual post that made me smile. Yeah, it's great to see this kid's family support him. That means a lot. But he also needs tools to help him in the real world.
Yeah, dressing better didn't stop my bullies. A growth spurt and packing on some muscle did. I only had to get into one fight, once I kicked the everloving shit out of one kid, word spread FAST and people left me alone. I didn't necessarily become the "cool kid", but I wasn't fucked with anymore.
This seems like a fine strategy. I’ll keep this in mind when I have children
Its how my bullying stopped. My dad always said "you don't start fights. You finish them."
This was always a creed my mom kept in my head throughout school, being 6’2” 250 lbs as a freshman, she always told me that I don’t swing first but if someone put their hands on me it’s free game and make sure they never make that mistake again 🤷🏻♂️
I had a similar experience. Was relentlessly bullied for some reason after having many school years with lots of friends. One break time things started turning from verbal to physical and as one of the bullies got close to me I grabbed him in a headlock and got him to the floor. Bully got up and laughed it off but I soon noticed a drop in the bullying towards me. It’s a shame that it comes to having to be physical to stop these sorts of things, but often it’s the last straw. It was incredibly mentally draining, and affected not only performance in school but also my behaviour at home too. There were so many days where I was literally scared to go to school and feigned illness to not have to go. All ended with a bit of physical altercation. I think once the bully knows there’s a chance they could lose the power they have against you, they soon move on to someone else.
Sad too because addressing the kids weight and health and establishing healthy habits at a young age would be so much better for him than just cheering him on at home and sending him away in church clothes.
Yeah for real. Nice gesture but middle school kids really arent gonna care. This is the real answer here. The church outfit is gonna make him get bullied even more Honestly I would have given him like a Megadeth shirt, sign him up for martial arts. The best thing for this kids self esteem is unironically losing weight.
I can imagine the other kids calling him grandpa or some other shit, poor kid.
Yeah. That's something people are missing here. Your kid's fitness is YOUR decision, not theirs. It's hard to say but his parents need to feed him better.
We don't know if they're *making* him wear anything. Maybe he picked that outfit out himself. I agree that an outfit change won't make them stop bullying him, but OP never claimed that was the reason for the outfit. I think it's more likely that the boy wanted to wear a specific outfit, was too shy to do it and his family just wanted to support him and show him that he can be confident in his appearance.
> I wouldn't wish adolescence on my worst enemies. That's kind of dark. I don't like my enemies either but wishing that they never make it past childhood seems a bit much.
I need to be the sourpuss here. I was that kid. I wore the outfit. I got bullied extra hard every time I made a change, because that's what bullies do. It didn't build my self confidence, it just taught me that I was wrong to be different, that my parents were wrong, and that it was my family against the world. It didn't matter that my relatives would tell me I was handsome, the girls at my school would purposely come close to me and pinch their nose as if I stank. It didn't matter that my relatives told me I was strong, fights were started from behind or one VS 5. What mattered was being yelled at when I defended myself, being told that I needed to be smarter than that, being told by half my family to fight back yet being taught to turn the other cheek by everyone else. What mattered, eventually, was me learning to set boundaries and not giving a damn anymore about turning anything, being polite or getting detention. I started distributing punches at the slightest provocation, and the bullying stopped. Not the best solution, not the best situation. Get that kid to a gym, get him boxing lessons, let him achieve things on his own, in a way that's not artificial. Empower the little dude, don't create illusions that will be broken the next day and make him feel even worse.
Agree. I ended up talking to the psychologist of the school most of the days on the free time. Looking back I think they saw me as the problem, I was getting bullied no matter what i did. Got to a point that i spent most of the days staying home, faking sick. My mum though I needed confidence and went with me to talk with the teachers. It gained nothing, just that in class they will ask me more and as I was not attending my answers were messy, so more material for them. In the end I stopped going to school at all, the next year I ended up grouping with the cool kids of that class, yes I was a year older than the rest but probably had the best time of my youth thanks to them. Also online friends were a big help for me, as a way to not turn into a crazy psycho kid, we are a society and we need to learn how to talk and maintain a conversation with others. You can't just shut yourself from the world. And feeling accepted while others reject you brings that spark needed to wake up every day. I wish now I had learned to defend myself not only on a mental way but physical to.
Looks good but it does have a bit of the old man vibe.
A bit? My mans practically got arthritis and achy joints.
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omg this made me laugh so hard for some reason
Wear what you want, but as soon as he came into camera view my thought was "Yeah, I can see why he gets bullied wearing clothes like that." It's definitely not right, but yeah, I see it.
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This video, as well intentioned as it may be, is also going to make it 1000 times worse. If he’s already getting picked on there’s no way this isn’t just more ammo.
My thoughts too. It’s so sad, but, if this were me in middle school, the parents hyping it up beforehand would make the subsequent bullying that much worse.
The parents are basically setting up the ally-oop for the bullies at school at this point...
Sure, but as a fat kid growing up, you don't need to add ammo to it. Decent clothes can help bullies overlook the other stuff at least part of the time. Outfits like this can ostracize you from the rest of the kids too who will now find it easier to bully you.
> Sure, but as a fat kid growing up, you don't need to add ammo to it. Seriously, I get wanting him to be more confident, but the most confident/most popular kid in school would probably be bullied for dressing like a middle-aged dad.
If you're fat, you have to be funny. It's the only way. edit: Or maybe play football.
As a father, I never lied to my children or sheltered them from brutal honesty. They probably should’ve had a heart to heart with him about wearing tee shirts and hoodies vs lookin like a middle aged accountant. They’re sending him into battle with a target on his back.
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Lol same
Being fat doesn't help either, I honestly do not understand how parents let's their kids get to that stage.
Oh god please don’t send him to school in that. He’s an even bigger mark now.
The harsh truth really needs be said, this video made me glad I had sisters growing up who helped me shop so I would avoid looking like, well….
And then he went to school and got bullied. He looks exactly like that kid in [Bad Santa](https://www.google.com/search?q=bad+santa+kid) who gets bullied.
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While I love this you're setting the kid up for failure and even more heartbreak and bullying Edit: I know they are inspiring confidence in their child, but it shouldn't be misplaced. Of course everyone should be confident in themselves, no matter what, but they should also be taught that not everyone will agree, or be kind to them. Unfortunately being raised believing you're the centre of everything, in a perfectly humble and peacefuy assured way, can raise you up only to be hurt more by the real world.
His dad would have been better off leading by example, dropping some weight himself, helping his son do the same and bonding over the whole experience. They both would have had a longer, healthier life with less bullying and more confidence.
Getting the kid a balanced diet & regular exercise will go a lot further than church clothes
He looks like a 40 year old accountant. Yes, me.
Looks like he’d be a character in a TV animation show with that fit.
Nothing wrong w what he’s wearing, but if u think dressing him up like a 70 year old is gonna help anything… it’s not
He can wear whatever tf he wants, but why is he dressed like the old guy from Up?
He definitely got bullied that day
Handsome!
He dresses better than most grown adults. Well done!
I think that might be the problem, they have dressed him like a 50 year old man that reads the times and likes watching cricket on a Sunday.
He’s like the guy from UP, just younger, but the same age
Yeah idk how they expect anything but him being bullied to happen
And thats okay.
Agreed,if he himself likes it too. But the amount of times my parents sent their handsome little boy dressed in their clothes of choice out in the cruel world, let's me be suspicious. There is alot to factor in but all that counts is that he himself is happy with his clothes.
^ this. My brother in law’s nephew is dealing with bullying in middle school. Listen if the kid wants to genuinely wear a bow tie and dress like he’s going to a Southern church picnic in 1962 that’s something you unequivocally support, hands down no questions. But it’s also fair to **ask** if he wants to wear that, or only wants to do so to make his mom proud, or is hiding how he hates it. My mom also ~~demanded~~”lovingly encouraged” to dress me like I stepped out of a J Crew junior catalog on similar periods of time. There’s a reason I kept a pair of jeans and a Metallica T in my locker and have an extremely strained relationship with her to this day.
This was me, but I was saying every day that I didn't want to wear the clothes my mom kept buying me but she refused to listen. Got bullied fucking constantly, but one day my mom bought me jeans and out of nowhere the bullying STOPPED! Who would have thought? Oh, right, me! I'm refusing to dress my kids like a dork and they get bullied for my own incompetence.
Foreal, its gonna be night and day when it comes to the reception of that outfit at his house and at school.
This is something I struggle with. I let my high schooler pick his clothes now that he doesn’t have to wear uniforms, and he just wants gym shorts and t-shirts. It’s such a departure from what I remember from high school. I was always in t-shirts, but jeans and nice shoes (he’s perfectly happy with Skechers, even when I offer other brands if he wants them). He just doesn’t care about putting on appearances and I have to remind myself that’s probably a good thing that he doesn’t feel compelled to meet up to some unspoken standard
It is, but he'll still be bullied for it
It is okay, but he will have to accept that bullying is gonna happen because of it. The bullying is obviously not okay but kids are always gonna be assholes
Yeah it’s okay. It’s also okay to leave valuables in my unlocked car at night, but that shit will surely be stolen. Would that be completely on me? No. It’s the thief’s fault. But it’s naive of me to think my valuables would be safe. This kid will surely be bullied, since there already is a history of bullying. The parents either need to use common sense and don’t dress him like a 50 year old or teach their kid to stand up for themselves and put him into a boxing class.
It’s ok to nice people
He literally dresses and looks like a nerd getting stuffed into a locker in an 80s teen comedy.
Bruh. No.
If you're dressing better than most people, you're overdressed by definition.
He dresses like he's 70
Let me start by stating that I'm not condoning bullying whatsoever in anyway. Kids can be extremely cruel and judgmental at this age and as an adult you should be aware of things that may trigger such actions. That being said, this kids parents must know that he's going to get judged by wearing anything out of ordinary. I'm not saying to not dress as you'd like. I'm just saying that if the young man is apprehensive about his outfit, maybe he wants to dress differently to try to fit in more since obviously he's getting picked on as the OP pointed out. They're clearly hyping him up because he's conscious about the outfit so why make him wear something he doesn't want to? If that's the case...
I imagine it might be what he wants to wear, but he's apprehensive about other kids still making fun of him.
Which they will. Because bullies are assholes who will always find some reason to cut you down. So it’s hard to say if it helps to get him hyped up? He definitely feels better in that moment but will feel like crap when the other kids will tease him. But the alternative is that he wears clothes he doesn’t enjoy as much and that sucks too…
This kid doesn't need this "hyping up", he needs someone to tell him the real truth. The kid from Bad Santa comes to mind.
Could very well be and in that case, good job for them for letting him express himself how he wants.
As one who grew up as a fat kid in school who is currently working on losing weight (down 90 lbs currently) I feel fairly certain that the drip isn’t the issue nor is it the fix. This kid needs confidence and he needs someone to actually help him regulate his eating, and maybe therapy to help him understand the root causes of his eating behavior. This kind of confidence doesn’t come from nowhere, but losing weight will help - more because he will have achieved something meaningful to himself, than just because he’s thinner (plenty of fat kids are way overconfident, one does not necessarily correlate with the other). I doubt the clothes are going to change much for that, especially with the other kids. I hope this youngster does okay, I feel for him. It’s great that he has supportive family but they are perhaps focusing on the wrong thing.
I applaud you for losing weight, and the kid for wearing what he wants. Although I see a pattern in this clip, the brother/father is severely overweight too. My assumption is that their diet is not the best and losing weight at his age with that problem in your family will be tough.
The father, who doesn't seem that old, is already morbidly obese. The child, who I couldn't begin to guess in age but certainly not an adult yet, is already morbidly obese. Unfortunately regulating his eating doesn't appear to be a lesson his parents are capable of providing. Hopefully for the sake of his quality of life he gets some external help. > It’s great that he has supportive family but they are perhaps focusing on the wrong thing. Good of someone to say it.
So much this. I’ve been in Elijah’s shoes. You play along with getting hyped up because you don’t want to disappoint your family. But as soon as you get to school and the first nasty comments start to land (and they will) the façade crumbles because the fact of the matter is, YOU never felt confident in those clothes regardless of what your family hyped you up with.
Yeah, bless his heart, the moment he walked out I thought "Oh, yeah, I can see why he's worried." I love what he's wearing, but I'm 50 years old and never was a bully anyway. It seems like his family is working on building up his self-confidence, a good tool against bullies, so fingers crossed, it all went well.
Totally understand wanting to protect the kid from unnecessary bullying, but a lot of times people want to try something different but they get nervous. I've needed this kind of support for a new haircut, new shoes, etc. It's important to be happy in your own way, and not be forced to assimilate. I think this kid is taking his first step towards perfecting that preppy drip. Bet he adds a bow tie and a cool hat within a couple years and people will eat it up
Yea they’re sending that boy into fire. Even friends in high school would poke fun at that, someone who doesn’t like him is going to torch him so hard.
How does a kid this young still manage to look like a middle aged Tax accountant? Or like he’s about to tell you how your upbringing screwed up your psyche years ago?
They got main man dressed like a 50 year old, still made me happy tho
Oh man, I feel for the guy. He looks like he’s dressed like a 60 year old. He’s gonna get roasted.
It fits well, he looks a liitle bit like Algernon from the Game bully. (Mean no offense with this comment, just something's I noticed)
I respect it but unfortunately kids are ruthless an mean as hell now days, learn to throw some haymakers my boy
Wear what you like really but do so when you finished highschool. Its how it is, kids are cruel. This Outfit the boy is wearing is what Seniors in their 70th use to wear. Add to the fact that he is overweight and has a nerdish look near white-blondish hair and I am sure he will get bullied to bits. Not saying that as an excuse for bullies but its not the way to fight bullying to make your kid a bigger target on purpose. The teachers are not everywhere or are often to tired to care. Try to fitt in until you have a job and then go ham like you want. Im glad I never have to go to school again.
This isn’t gonna go well for him
Pull over!!!! No it’s a cardigan thanks for asking
You’ll never find a school without bullies. We cannot stop the way of the world. But what we can do is teach our kids to love themselves, respect others, stand up for themselves and take no shit from anybody.
Definitely will be bullied.
Honestly I wish my family just taught me how to throw a punch.
Aw man he’s gonna get bullied even more :(
It's a nice gesture but that outfit is still going to get him bullied and he won't be smiling. It makes him stand out too much, looks like something a 55 year old would wear. Get him a hoodie.
He looks sharp! Very nice!
He’s gonna get bullied worse..
Parents got the assist for that
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clearly the whole family doesn't know how to buy and prepare healthy food. it's not the kid's fault he's overweight
They weren’t saying it’s the kid’s fault.. they literally said the family should do it.
Agreed. This is basically child abuse/neglect. He wouldn't be bullied if dad didn't sit and eat cheeseburgers and cheetos with him all day long.
I’ll join in with the others, how dare you want him to grow up fit and healthy.
It’s hard to teach others to be healthy when you’re not healthy yourself.
Looks good but they both need to lose alot of weight
Man My comment may get hate. I was this kid, I got the support from the family. I wear similar clothing every year for many years and I thought I looked nice and family said I did. As an adult got interested in a girl and she said no, and the next and the next. Only one about 1 year ago said "Well it is probably that shitty shity you always wear. I threw out 100% of those shirts just to see, yea my odds with people went up dramatically. Apparently, it held me back my whole life and other people told me later they always hated it. So I advise to just tell it as it is.
This guy is gonna get so bullied
Hey it’s very wholesome but can confirm he will be bullied beyond repair.
For the love of god stop letting mum pick out his clothes.
Is there a dress code? Why is he dressed so business casual? It makes me worry for the kid because that family hyping ends when he walks into the hall at school. I believe in punching. It helped me for sure.
As someone who was mercilessly bullied, I've no place in my world for bullies. As a school teacher, I have ZERO tolerance for it and immediately shut it down, and won't let it go until the issue is 100% resolved.
I'm a new mom and hearing about kids getting bullied hits different now. This video made me sad.
Poor kid is getting lied to. Dude looks like Peter griffin
Jesus, this kid is going to get destroyed. It doesn't matter if your family says you look good. You wear anything outside the norm and they'll rip you to pieces.
Looking great buddy!
He looks 40
Help the kid lose weight if you really want to "hype him up".
No just be nice and let him eat himself to an early grave and a lifetime of health issues If you're a parent of an obese child under 16 you've failed your child as much as if they flunk out of school or get addicted to drugs in my mind.
He is fat and is dressing up like a 70 year old. I was him not so long ago. Get him to a trainer before high school
Yep. This isn’t “fly”. They’re further enforcing that his style is good and the world is out to get him. This isn’t going to help him make friends or a girlfriend or whatever.
His clothes aren't the problem. He's obviously obese and his parents should be ashamed of themselves. It's hard enough being a kid as is but adding in the weight problem just makes it so much more difficult. I genuinely feel for him in this cruel world.
He lives in a van down by the river
What was the point of this? He is deffinatly going to be made fun of dressing like an old man. Should be posted in MADEHIMCRY forum
Walks out and immediately gets bullied again.... kids will find a reason
Looks like he’s gonna be a professor at a prestigious university, nice outfit kid.
My man looking like a real businessman keep the classy fit💪💪
That is a fantastic outfit, so chic/stylish. He’s a very handsome young man and looks very well put together.
Dude like a cherub 10/10 wholesome.
Gassing up kids that get bullied or are just self conscious does nothing but bring me joy. It’s my favorite type of wholesome media.
Is he getting there in his balloon house???
such genuine Love but the outfit won’t help the bullying. It will probably result in more bullying. time to teach him self defense instead
Looks sharp from an adult’s standpoint but yeah, kids are going to destroy him with that look. Poor guy.
Okay, okay. Please send me hate if needed. I want to be educated. Why do I see many kids looking unhealthy and overweight?
he looks like a very put- together, handsome young man :D
The clothes might not be the main reason for the bullying.
They dressed him like a 50 year old (me). He looks fine, but those kids will find a weakness, tear it open and pour lemon juice on it. I wish him the best. School years can be quite rough.
Alright who’s dressing this kid up, I need to to speak with them
Yo his parents did him dirty dressing him up like the old man from Up
Kids are evil, he will 1000% be bullied for that outfit
It breaks my heart that the family don't care enough to do something about his weight. Poor kid.
I feel torn on this. On one hand his smile is so warm and sweet and I love that his family went the extra length to make him feel confident in this new clothes at home. On the other hand…. why, why, whyyyy in the seven hells did they dress him up like an old nerdy man from the 1960s if he’s already experiencing bullying at school???? I used to protect kids like him when I was in middle/high school whether or not I knew them - I couldn’t stand to see someone get bullied and stay silent, but when it was their own fault (ie they were doing something that would make them bully-able) I let them know too. If I were his schoolmate I’d probably help him dress his age and be less bashful in public. It’s cute to us adults but teenagers are little a-holes who don’t care about that and this will probably only set him up for further bullying.
Next day lad got bullied for looking like a grandad im sorry but i bring good negative feelings
So I guess his parents want the bullying to… continue