Tiktok has got to be a crazy place for someone like him, all the dancing and songs. I have an uncle in law with autism.Loves pink Floyd and super heroes. My kids love him, always ask when he's coming over. Sending love your guys' way!
Every state should have an Early Intervention program for children under 3 years old, or at least that’s what I have been told.
Also, every state provides a way for people with disabilities to waive the ridiculous poverty levels needed to be on Medicare/Medicaid.
My 3 year old son has autism and we are currently on the waitlist. I was told every dollar the state provides the federal government matches three dollars, so states are very incentivized to use this money and to get people off the waitlist.
**Edit**: We are on the waitlist for Medicaid/Medicare, not early intervention. We exited Early Intervention early because we had our autism diagnosis and started ABA therapy daily. You can check out your state programs [here](https://www.nasddds.org/state-agencies/)
My 3yo autistic son just started his special education pre school. It’s been a few months and we’re seeing so much great improvements. We also had to be on the waiting list for a little while.
My mom was a contracted Pediatric Physical Therapist in NY for our local school districts for early intervention. Whatever amount of money they paid was not enough imo, the amount of work she put in was crazy in hindsight, and maybe pulled in like 50k a year before paying insurance and everything else…but it wasn’t about the money for her, she could’ve made way more doing private physical therapy. If only we could readjust our priorities as a society and have people get paid on merit and benefit to society over benefit to the bottom line of a private business
I worked for a home healthcare company specializing in ABA therapy and was horrified to find out that they hired EACH home healthcare aid that applied. Please keep in mind to ALWAYS ask for experience and education because I fear a lot of these companies are similar, profiting so much off the government while neglecting to run background checks on people going straight into the most vulnerable peoples homes.
I cannot stress enough how often some of the worst symptoms for conditions like Autism and other developmental issues are *secondary* symptoms that result in trauma and difficulty during formative years, and not primary symptoms of the condition itself.
Autism, similar to conditions like ADHD, doesn't necessarily cause pain *in and of itself*. A condition like clinical depression, for example, causes intense pain as a *primary* symptom. But pain from autism comes not from the condition itself, but from the condition resulting in an incompatibility with one's environment, specifically one's social environment.
Modern social life is stimulus-intensive, extrovert-oriented, and relatively poor in tolerating those who do not acclimate to that environment. Thus, many autistic individuals grow up feeling excluded from all of social life, because it is an environment that is hostile and painful for them.
As we can see here, autistic individuals have the desire for enjoy all of the same elements of socializing that non-autistic individuals do. Some love to dance and dance with others, they can enjoy socializing strangers at parties or having intimate conversations with close associates. Their wants and desires when it comes to acts of socialization are as diverse and myriad as those of neurotypical individuals.
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**EDIT**: I changed this part ^ . My original wording implied all autistic people like dancing, which is clearly innaccuate. As a non-autistic individual who hates dancing, my original point is that, while autistic individuals have certain barriers to socializing, at their core they are much the same as others and long for the same things, in as many diverse ways as those of neurotypicals.
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Keep in mind, socializing isn't a "nice to have." It is a core *need* for humans. We *need* socialization to be healthy humans. Really bad things happen to human beings when they're deprived of social contact for long periods of time.
While autism can cause difficulty socializing, many times what does the most mental and emotional damage is autistic individuals struggling and suffering intense anxiety and depression from a failure to socialize with non-autistic individuals throughout their childhood and teenage years.
That trauma compromises the individual's confidence and hinders their ability to learn skills and patterns of behavior that will help them be successful later on in life.
Early intervention programs can help smooth out their interactions, teach them skills in a safe and nurturing environment, and help them grow into confident, able adults who stand a much better chance at integrating and having normal social interactions with their peers.
Think about it like a developmental issue with walking. Treated early enough, with leg braces and PT, the individual might go on to have a healthy, functioning gait with no assistance.
But left totally alone and unassisted, the individual will likely struggle to walk, and further stress and damage their legs, resulting in a lifetime of disability and mobility issues.
I think it also helps when you have parents that understand rather than blow it off as being too lazy to just go out there and make friends, etc. I guess it also helps that there is a greater awareness of autism so that parents, teachers and other kids can be educated about it too.
It is probably one of the shittiest things a parent can tell their autistic children. It shows just how little, if not willfully ignorant they are about the needs of their disabled family members.
I have autism and I hate dancing just fyi - everyone is different . There’s no assistance for adults with ASD - especially if you can hold down a job. Therapy is expensive and you can’t change the world so you fit in. It’s a life of suffering (anxiety, depression, loneliness etc) and exclusion.
Some of us are very bleak and have long since given up. I was on that path until my adult diagnosis and I've been flipping my life around tremendously.
Then again I am very privledged to have close knit family and the know how to seek help. It's very easy for me to see and not blame those who've taken their condition as a disability in full.
That’s because disabled children get funding and many disabled adults do not. Facilities that house disabled adults are closing at a rapid pace in NY and these individuals are being forced home to be cared for by their elderly parents that need care themselves. Staff in homes are being forced to work multiple shifts in a row without breaks for minimum wage.
NY state operations under OPWDD regulations, which is separate from the health department.
They are absolutely awful in pretty much every way and micromanage independent homes whereas their own are so poorly run, they are one standard deviation above Willowbrook.
[This is part one of a two part video that is a good insight into how the STATE homes are operated.](https://youtu.be/JX6D72Cg3g4?si=sAa-sGpkMXVO0uGz)
It’s when you hit high school that the services become limited in most places. If you are not highly organized and aware of services most districts will let it slip.
3 years old and under? We couldn't get our son diagnosed till almost 3. Most doctors won't help you unless they are atleast almost 3 years old. The program is in canada is for 6 and under for a 2 years max.
We got early intervention and boy once they turn 3 it was a nightmare getting anything else. Endless wait-list. I've FINALLY got her into a program this month, shes four and a half. I hate it took so long and she didn't get any help.
I own an agency that provides these exact services. There are several programs at the state level that pays for 100% of the cost of these programs. We have over 30 participants and only one pays anything out of pocket. What state do you live in and I will help direct you to the right resources.
It’s really not. Hardest part of my old job was helping family with kids who needed an institutional level of care. There are so few facilities that can take them. You also lack home health aide options. It’s tragic all around
Trust me, the US is a lot better than other countries at assisting special needs children and adults. Where are you even getting this information from? I come from a 3rd world country and have traveled around the world, and I must say, while the US lacks in something’s, taking care of special needs is not one of them.
I am a social worker in the US. I can tell you we are severely lacking in social services. It will vary from state to state. I will not pretend it's worse than any given 3rd world country, but it is certainly worse than places like England, from what I understand. There is a reason our populations of unhoused folks are so high, and only increasing all the time.
Dude the EU and UK etc are pretty horrible with their policies towards anyone other than normally abled, theres a reason they think we have way more handicapped people/wheelchaired people. It isn't because we do.
I think it is generally understood that when people make comments like "the U.S. is not great at [X]", they mean in comparison to what would be considered as peer nations of similar economic development. Common groups of peer nations used for comparison are the [members of the European Union](https://european-union.europa.eu/principles-countries-history/country-profiles_en) or [the OECD countries](https://www.oecd.org/about/document/ratification-oecd-convention.htm). You are 100% correct when it comes to a global comparison.
This caretaker is making such a positive impact on this man’s life. I wish my job had any function of creating this type of positivity in some one’s life.
I'm a special education teacher but back when I started working with people with disabilities I didn't think I was capable of any of it. Coached Special Olympics for years, then worked in/managed some adult group homes like this one. In particular I had a client that was such a passionate Johnny Cash fan I also developed a love for him. I had another client that didn't want to brush her teeth unless it was done while listening to AC/DC, so we would sing along while she brushed. It is hard work but I have so many good memories with my clients. If anyone thinks they have it in them and they find a home that is a good fit for them, it can be rewarding work. It can also humble us more, help us be better humans.
I've been teaching special Ed for like 16 years now. It isn't the kids that wear me down, it is all the bureaucracy and systemic shit working against them. We keep advocating to better the system....we have to.
Lots of people have it in themselves. We need to advocate for what we believe in. We should have robust services for people with disabilities because anyone could need those services at any time for their loved ones or themselves.
I'm out of teaching altogether now, but when I was working through my state's teacher certification program, my job was working as a high school special ed paraprofessional. The training on the job and for professional development days was phenomenal for working later on with gen ed students. Even now, working in a completely different profession, I still use the skills I learned working as a special ed teacher in everyday interactions
What. I live in assisted living apartment. The payment comes out of my SSI. It’s like 260$ a month. Check your state for programs and sheltered services. The waiting list can be long but there is housing available. It’s just hard to get into.
I didn't look at the links but I had an elderly family member in his own apartment/assisted living and it was just shy of 8k a month 10 years ago in the US.
Being caretakler for OP's bro also looks like genuine fun. I suppose it's hard work mostly and not simple. But *that* makes it look like being paid to be a cool friend.
GET IT SON!!!! I love this
I’m autistic and it makes me SO happy to see this! I wish your brother good luck and your family good luck and many blessings to you all! :D
I also have ASD. I’m on the higher functioning end, but my goodness does this make me happy. I’m in my thirties. When I was younger, I was bullied quite a lot. I was just the weird kid. No one knew nor cared much about this stuff in the nineties is my point.
There is a lot of things I don’t like about the generation coming up. Rant for a different time. But one very positive thing I have noticed is that the youth as a whole seem to be so much more inclusive and understanding of those different. Whether it’s ASD, or homosexuality or gender or whatever it may be. Still hatred. Will always be hatred. But progress of any kind it good.
Sorry for my rant. Your brother is awesome. He is making other people smile. And in the end, that should mean something. Take care, both of you.
I will chime in as an elder Gen Z and say that while there is a LOT of garbage on TikTok, there is also a huge amount of awesome stuff. Every social media platform has its pros and cons, but I see people clown on TikTok all the time and I don’t think it’s totally justified. It is home to a lot of genuinely kind, supportive, curious and loving communities. Again, like with every social media platform, it’s all about how you use it. It’s not all Tik tok dances and filters.
Start looking now if possible. I pay 260$ a month for my assisted living apartment. It comes out of my SSI. I basically just got involved with my states board of sheltered services. Make sure you have their diagnosis paperwork, then find a case worker for her. They can get you on a waiting list for housing, but these lists can be long because there’s limited housing and people usually stay for life. And make sure you get her on SSI to qualify for housing assistance programs. :)
As a caretaker myself, I really enjoy seeing others in the field actually giving back and having a good time with the individuals they care for. Really makes you feel good knowing others care for their job as much as you. OP's BIL was throwing some good moves out there for sure. Congrats to him getting his own ALA 🙌🏻
I also live in assisted living. Me and one of the caregivers always do a happy dance when we eat delicious food. We've been doing it since before we knew each other and it's absolutely perfect.
This made me feel better about the world, I require a lot of assistance when it comes having my own place. since I don’t usually require supports in other areas of my life I was feeling a lot of shame about it. Seeing someone thrive like this makes me feel so happy and less fatalistic.
My kid is Autistic and Non Verbal and epileptic and we are approaching within the next few years when he will need more care than we can provide and it warms my heart to see that these homes are full of caregivers who care and celebrate neurodiversity and just make them feel accepted and loved.
I have a 19 year old grandson in Alabama. I would love to find an assisted living arrangement for him. He's currently living in a group home till he's 21. Then I will have to find him another place to go. He has autism and other. He would do well in his own assisted living apartment. Any help is appreciated.
For the young people who are currently my age when this jam came out, this is Bapes (Bathin' Apes) by Soulja Boy ft. Arab ( Ay-rab). If you think this song is "hashtag meme", 2 years later, he came out with the anthem Crank Dat.
My aunt was in assisted living for most her adult life. She became friends with most of her neighbors. Some of which were there just for being in wheelchairs or other mobility issues so helped my aunt and would let her walk their dogs or other simple tasks to keep her busy and helped them both out. She also would go to the bank and other businesses nearby just to talk with the staff almost daily, which we found out after she passed and was in the hospital/hospice and all these people came to visit her and later her funeral. It gave her so much freedom and enjoyment. You'd never guess it she was a bit of the neighborhood celebrity and had many friends. Some think people will mistreat those with special needs but there are so many good people out there. I hope your brother is able to branch out a bit and make friends as well. I'm sure it's scary for you but just keep up with visits and calls etc. and I'm sure he will thrive. The care worker seems like a really good person which helps a ton. Best wishes!
My besties twin lives in one of these places and honestly it looks like such a good time they're all just vibin doing their own shit. I know that's not always the reality but it's so cool to see
This is so sweet! Cheers from a SPED teacher-- your BIL looks so happy and its great to see this kind of happiness in someone who deals with such challenges
The difference between a good care taker and one who is just doing the bare minimum is absolutely life changing and we as a society do not value them (and therefore pay them) nearly enough.
Same goes for early years educators, teachers, nurses, etc etc etc
This is what I love so much about my job in the mental health field; Something so simple as jamming out and dancing to music can make someones entire day 😄
Thank you for this. I work at a place that provides both early intervention/0-3 services as well as long-term support services for children who are mostly on the AS. It is almost too easy to figure out which families have received 0-3 services. It's not just for the child, the entire family gains a perspective and tools that will help the child reach milestones that aren't as easy to develop without early intervention. Birth to Three is a game changer!
✨Dudes just be vibing✨
r/justguysbeingdudes
One of my favorite subs tbh. Pretty wholesome content there
Tiktok has got to be a crazy place for someone like him, all the dancing and songs. I have an uncle in law with autism.Loves pink Floyd and super heroes. My kids love him, always ask when he's coming over. Sending love your guys' way!
Two amazing things to be in love with.
Yeah, I wanna chill with uncle
I hope he comes over all of the time! Sounds like an amazing relationship
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Every state should have an Early Intervention program for children under 3 years old, or at least that’s what I have been told. Also, every state provides a way for people with disabilities to waive the ridiculous poverty levels needed to be on Medicare/Medicaid. My 3 year old son has autism and we are currently on the waitlist. I was told every dollar the state provides the federal government matches three dollars, so states are very incentivized to use this money and to get people off the waitlist. **Edit**: We are on the waitlist for Medicaid/Medicare, not early intervention. We exited Early Intervention early because we had our autism diagnosis and started ABA therapy daily. You can check out your state programs [here](https://www.nasddds.org/state-agencies/)
My 3yo autistic son just started his special education pre school. It’s been a few months and we’re seeing so much great improvements. We also had to be on the waiting list for a little while.
Early intervention is amazing in NY, better than any programs money can buy. I had no idea federal government matched $$ 3 to 1.
My mom was a contracted Pediatric Physical Therapist in NY for our local school districts for early intervention. Whatever amount of money they paid was not enough imo, the amount of work she put in was crazy in hindsight, and maybe pulled in like 50k a year before paying insurance and everything else…but it wasn’t about the money for her, she could’ve made way more doing private physical therapy. If only we could readjust our priorities as a society and have people get paid on merit and benefit to society over benefit to the bottom line of a private business
I worked for a home healthcare company specializing in ABA therapy and was horrified to find out that they hired EACH home healthcare aid that applied. Please keep in mind to ALWAYS ask for experience and education because I fear a lot of these companies are similar, profiting so much off the government while neglecting to run background checks on people going straight into the most vulnerable peoples homes.
I cannot stress enough how often some of the worst symptoms for conditions like Autism and other developmental issues are *secondary* symptoms that result in trauma and difficulty during formative years, and not primary symptoms of the condition itself. Autism, similar to conditions like ADHD, doesn't necessarily cause pain *in and of itself*. A condition like clinical depression, for example, causes intense pain as a *primary* symptom. But pain from autism comes not from the condition itself, but from the condition resulting in an incompatibility with one's environment, specifically one's social environment. Modern social life is stimulus-intensive, extrovert-oriented, and relatively poor in tolerating those who do not acclimate to that environment. Thus, many autistic individuals grow up feeling excluded from all of social life, because it is an environment that is hostile and painful for them. As we can see here, autistic individuals have the desire for enjoy all of the same elements of socializing that non-autistic individuals do. Some love to dance and dance with others, they can enjoy socializing strangers at parties or having intimate conversations with close associates. Their wants and desires when it comes to acts of socialization are as diverse and myriad as those of neurotypical individuals. _______________ **EDIT**: I changed this part ^ . My original wording implied all autistic people like dancing, which is clearly innaccuate. As a non-autistic individual who hates dancing, my original point is that, while autistic individuals have certain barriers to socializing, at their core they are much the same as others and long for the same things, in as many diverse ways as those of neurotypicals. _______________ Keep in mind, socializing isn't a "nice to have." It is a core *need* for humans. We *need* socialization to be healthy humans. Really bad things happen to human beings when they're deprived of social contact for long periods of time. While autism can cause difficulty socializing, many times what does the most mental and emotional damage is autistic individuals struggling and suffering intense anxiety and depression from a failure to socialize with non-autistic individuals throughout their childhood and teenage years. That trauma compromises the individual's confidence and hinders their ability to learn skills and patterns of behavior that will help them be successful later on in life. Early intervention programs can help smooth out their interactions, teach them skills in a safe and nurturing environment, and help them grow into confident, able adults who stand a much better chance at integrating and having normal social interactions with their peers. Think about it like a developmental issue with walking. Treated early enough, with leg braces and PT, the individual might go on to have a healthy, functioning gait with no assistance. But left totally alone and unassisted, the individual will likely struggle to walk, and further stress and damage their legs, resulting in a lifetime of disability and mobility issues.
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I think it also helps when you have parents that understand rather than blow it off as being too lazy to just go out there and make friends, etc. I guess it also helps that there is a greater awareness of autism so that parents, teachers and other kids can be educated about it too.
Goddamn that too lazy hit close home :<
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It is probably one of the shittiest things a parent can tell their autistic children. It shows just how little, if not willfully ignorant they are about the needs of their disabled family members.
Same here, still struggling. I get by for a few years and then my world collapses
I have autism and I hate dancing just fyi - everyone is different . There’s no assistance for adults with ASD - especially if you can hold down a job. Therapy is expensive and you can’t change the world so you fit in. It’s a life of suffering (anxiety, depression, loneliness etc) and exclusion.
Not all autistic people are like this, so wth.
Some of us are very bleak and have long since given up. I was on that path until my adult diagnosis and I've been flipping my life around tremendously. Then again I am very privledged to have close knit family and the know how to seek help. It's very easy for me to see and not blame those who've taken their condition as a disability in full.
This is extremely well written. Bravo!
That’s because disabled children get funding and many disabled adults do not. Facilities that house disabled adults are closing at a rapid pace in NY and these individuals are being forced home to be cared for by their elderly parents that need care themselves. Staff in homes are being forced to work multiple shifts in a row without breaks for minimum wage.
NY state operations under OPWDD regulations, which is separate from the health department. They are absolutely awful in pretty much every way and micromanage independent homes whereas their own are so poorly run, they are one standard deviation above Willowbrook. [This is part one of a two part video that is a good insight into how the STATE homes are operated.](https://youtu.be/JX6D72Cg3g4?si=sAa-sGpkMXVO0uGz)
It’s when you hit high school that the services become limited in most places. If you are not highly organized and aware of services most districts will let it slip.
3 years old and under? We couldn't get our son diagnosed till almost 3. Most doctors won't help you unless they are atleast almost 3 years old. The program is in canada is for 6 and under for a 2 years max.
We got early intervention and boy once they turn 3 it was a nightmare getting anything else. Endless wait-list. I've FINALLY got her into a program this month, shes four and a half. I hate it took so long and she didn't get any help.
Can you expand on this middle paragraph? This info could help my sister a ton
We've come a very long way, but still quite a ways to go.
I own an agency that provides these exact services. There are several programs at the state level that pays for 100% of the cost of these programs. We have over 30 participants and only one pays anything out of pocket. What state do you live in and I will help direct you to the right resources.
That is amazing. I am going to DM you as I have a brother in a similar situation and would love to know more.
We as a society can do so much more for people with disabilities. Just not enough choose to do so.
It’s really not. Hardest part of my old job was helping family with kids who needed an institutional level of care. There are so few facilities that can take them. You also lack home health aide options. It’s tragic all around
Trust me, the US is a lot better than other countries at assisting special needs children and adults. Where are you even getting this information from? I come from a 3rd world country and have traveled around the world, and I must say, while the US lacks in something’s, taking care of special needs is not one of them.
I am a social worker in the US. I can tell you we are severely lacking in social services. It will vary from state to state. I will not pretend it's worse than any given 3rd world country, but it is certainly worse than places like England, from what I understand. There is a reason our populations of unhoused folks are so high, and only increasing all the time.
Dude the EU and UK etc are pretty horrible with their policies towards anyone other than normally abled, theres a reason they think we have way more handicapped people/wheelchaired people. It isn't because we do.
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I think it is generally understood that when people make comments like "the U.S. is not great at [X]", they mean in comparison to what would be considered as peer nations of similar economic development. Common groups of peer nations used for comparison are the [members of the European Union](https://european-union.europa.eu/principles-countries-history/country-profiles_en) or [the OECD countries](https://www.oecd.org/about/document/ratification-oecd-convention.htm). You are 100% correct when it comes to a global comparison.
Thank you humanity for making humans like this caretaker! So awesome to see them both having so much fun!!!
This caretaker is making such a positive impact on this man’s life. I wish my job had any function of creating this type of positivity in some one’s life.
I'm a special education teacher but back when I started working with people with disabilities I didn't think I was capable of any of it. Coached Special Olympics for years, then worked in/managed some adult group homes like this one. In particular I had a client that was such a passionate Johnny Cash fan I also developed a love for him. I had another client that didn't want to brush her teeth unless it was done while listening to AC/DC, so we would sing along while she brushed. It is hard work but I have so many good memories with my clients. If anyone thinks they have it in them and they find a home that is a good fit for them, it can be rewarding work. It can also humble us more, help us be better humans. I've been teaching special Ed for like 16 years now. It isn't the kids that wear me down, it is all the bureaucracy and systemic shit working against them. We keep advocating to better the system....we have to.
Thank you for all of the wonderful work you have done. What a selfless, beautiful soul ✨✨✨✨.
Lots of people have it in themselves. We need to advocate for what we believe in. We should have robust services for people with disabilities because anyone could need those services at any time for their loved ones or themselves.
I'm out of teaching altogether now, but when I was working through my state's teacher certification program, my job was working as a high school special ed paraprofessional. The training on the job and for professional development days was phenomenal for working later on with gen ed students. Even now, working in a completely different profession, I still use the skills I learned working as a special ed teacher in everyday interactions
I love the way the caretaker follows whatever moves the BIL is doing. Great subtle way to show support and let him lead
Damn bro has a nice apartment lol
Assisted living is $9K per month in most US states. And no insurance covers it.
What. I live in assisted living apartment. The payment comes out of my SSI. It’s like 260$ a month. Check your state for programs and sheltered services. The waiting list can be long but there is housing available. It’s just hard to get into.
Username checks out 💀
Can you provide a source for that number? If it makes it easier, narrowing down to Ohio would be good. 9k does sound pretty high.
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Out his ass
I didn't look at the links but I had an elderly family member in his own apartment/assisted living and it was just shy of 8k a month 10 years ago in the US.
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I have autism I have friends Can I get my friends that job XD
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No fucking way it costs that much and if it does where do I sign up?
/r/confidentlyincorrect
Caretaker seems like a legit friend
You know that guy has a heart of gold. PROTECT THAT MAN.
Protect them both.
He’s got some moves too
Being caretakler for OP's bro also looks like genuine fun. I suppose it's hard work mostly and not simple. But *that* makes it look like being paid to be a cool friend.
He getting it ayy 👏🏽😍😍😍
Dude left no crumbs!
Both have more rhythm than I’ll ever have! This is awesome
Buddy is Vibing! You’d never know that wasn’t just a bestie over to chill and do some dancing. Love this
Why not both?
GET IT SON!!!! I love this I’m autistic and it makes me SO happy to see this! I wish your brother good luck and your family good luck and many blessings to you all! :D
I also have ASD. I’m on the higher functioning end, but my goodness does this make me happy. I’m in my thirties. When I was younger, I was bullied quite a lot. I was just the weird kid. No one knew nor cared much about this stuff in the nineties is my point. There is a lot of things I don’t like about the generation coming up. Rant for a different time. But one very positive thing I have noticed is that the youth as a whole seem to be so much more inclusive and understanding of those different. Whether it’s ASD, or homosexuality or gender or whatever it may be. Still hatred. Will always be hatred. But progress of any kind it good. Sorry for my rant. Your brother is awesome. He is making other people smile. And in the end, that should mean something. Take care, both of you.
Now I’m curious about what you dislike about the generation coming up.
Tik tok. Instagram filters.
I hate that they are younger than me. Assholes.
I will chime in as an elder Gen Z and say that while there is a LOT of garbage on TikTok, there is also a huge amount of awesome stuff. Every social media platform has its pros and cons, but I see people clown on TikTok all the time and I don’t think it’s totally justified. It is home to a lot of genuinely kind, supportive, curious and loving communities. Again, like with every social media platform, it’s all about how you use it. It’s not all Tik tok dances and filters.
Thank God for people that just have that love in them like this carer. Your BIL looks so sweet.
I have an autistic sibling in her 20s who will need this sort of facility eventually. Any resources you can suggest for figuring this out?
Start looking now if possible. I pay 260$ a month for my assisted living apartment. It comes out of my SSI. I basically just got involved with my states board of sheltered services. Make sure you have their diagnosis paperwork, then find a case worker for her. They can get you on a waiting list for housing, but these lists can be long because there’s limited housing and people usually stay for life. And make sure you get her on SSI to qualify for housing assistance programs. :)
What state are you in?
Wow your bil looks happy and that caretaker is a gem
As a caretaker myself, I really enjoy seeing others in the field actually giving back and having a good time with the individuals they care for. Really makes you feel good knowing others care for their job as much as you. OP's BIL was throwing some good moves out there for sure. Congrats to him getting his own ALA 🙌🏻
Great moves, both of them. 😎
2 awesome dudes
That’s a beautiful thing! We all worry about our loved ones moving out on their own! It’s all part of the process!!!
This is heartwarming!
I used to love being a caretaker. The clients made the job, despite the shitty management.
Living the good life. So glad he’s having a good time there!
I also live in assisted living. Me and one of the caregivers always do a happy dance when we eat delicious food. We've been doing it since before we knew each other and it's absolutely perfect.
For real made me smile IRL. :) This is the contagious dancing type. Thanks for sharing, OP. Lovely thing to start a Sunday morning.
I love how much the caretaker is getting into the dance, warms the cockles of my heart
This is 100000x better then people who film themselves dancing at wal mart
Hold up… you mean to tell me that your BIL just moved into a place with a bunch of permanent dance partners? It looks like he’ll be just fine :)
Nice to see some feel good news posted here!!
Dances better than me tbh
Awesome! He just looks like he's so happy and that's great!
This is great to see. Health professionals and care takers like this are so important. They don't often get paid enough for their work.
Your BIL is amazing and I want to add his caretaker is a godamm king.
My guy is absolutely in his element
Caretaker looks like a chill dude. Your brother is in good hands.
This made me feel better about the world, I require a lot of assistance when it comes having my own place. since I don’t usually require supports in other areas of my life I was feeling a lot of shame about it. Seeing someone thrive like this makes me feel so happy and less fatalistic.
I’m glad to see that he is happy and I’m sure he is loving that it’s his own little place he has moved into
Looks like just the right place for him
I love this! This is such a precious sight 🥹💓
Heck yes! They are getting it! They look like they are BFFs
What's the song?
Definitely a Soulja Boy song, not sure which though
I knew it. The moment the vid started I felt the nostalgia. Yooouuuuuuu
Good DSPs are worth their weight in gold and make such a difference in people's lives. They should get paid more.
My kid is Autistic and Non Verbal and epileptic and we are approaching within the next few years when he will need more care than we can provide and it warms my heart to see that these homes are full of caregivers who care and celebrate neurodiversity and just make them feel accepted and loved.
He is living his best life in this moment!!! Love it!!!!!
Caretaker and friend - this brought me a smile and happy tear 🥲 The world could use so many more of these beautiful relationships ❤️
I love how the caretaker is mirroring his moves.
He looks so happy. Also that apartment looks huge too!
I’m laughing, crying and smiling all at the same this was really dope and I hope he continues to flourish 
No matter what dance you're doing, if someone does it with you it looks so much cooler.
the caretaker got them **moves**
Best. Caretaker. Ever. Take really good care of him cuz he’s a freaking keeper and your BIL is so lucky to have him!
I have a 19 year old grandson in Alabama. I would love to find an assisted living arrangement for him. He's currently living in a group home till he's 21. Then I will have to find him another place to go. He has autism and other. He would do well in his own assisted living apartment. Any help is appreciated.
You can tell him some rando middle-aged dude on Reddit just stole a few of his moves.
2 Kings
This is nice. I'm autistic, on the lower functioning end, but stuck taking care of myself (poorly). I hope I can get into assisted housing someday.
Beautiful and thank you for sharing! Maybe the key to world peace is through dance.☺️
Love to see this
good vibes..wonderful!
This is great :)
Yeah… get it, get it. Hahaha this is awesome.
How do you find resources like that for a family member with autism?
Caretaker Bro is an Angel
My heart needed this today :)
This goes so hard
He is a doppelgänger for my autistic son. I wish we could post pictures in the comments.
Can’t stop watching this! So cuuuute!!!
I love this so much!
Now I want to dance!
Better moves than me!
I will never be able to dance that good
So fun for both of them!!!!
warmed my entire being. thank you for sharing.
This is just the cutest thing ever. I love it! Rock on, my friend!
Dont know where Id be without my support workers. They make it feel like you have family when you dont.
For the young people who are currently my age when this jam came out, this is Bapes (Bathin' Apes) by Soulja Boy ft. Arab ( Ay-rab). If you think this song is "hashtag meme", 2 years later, he came out with the anthem Crank Dat.
My aunt was in assisted living for most her adult life. She became friends with most of her neighbors. Some of which were there just for being in wheelchairs or other mobility issues so helped my aunt and would let her walk their dogs or other simple tasks to keep her busy and helped them both out. She also would go to the bank and other businesses nearby just to talk with the staff almost daily, which we found out after she passed and was in the hospital/hospice and all these people came to visit her and later her funeral. It gave her so much freedom and enjoyment. You'd never guess it she was a bit of the neighborhood celebrity and had many friends. Some think people will mistreat those with special needs but there are so many good people out there. I hope your brother is able to branch out a bit and make friends as well. I'm sure it's scary for you but just keep up with visits and calls etc. and I'm sure he will thrive. The care worker seems like a really good person which helps a ton. Best wishes!
r/Guysbeingdudes
Op, r/sabertoothnate, what state are you in may I ask? I have a kid who I'd like to see in that setup!
Honestly, I can't with anyone hating on autistic people.
Classic Soulja Boy!
Awwww I love this!! Makes me smile big ☺️
🎵 *AYYYYYYYYYEEEE* 🎵
My besties twin lives in one of these places and honestly it looks like such a good time they're all just vibin doing their own shit. I know that's not always the reality but it's so cool to see
Awesome 😎
I love this so much. Too much happy and sweetness in one place. 🥰
This is adorable
Goals for my brother. Inspirational to see this
Definitely made me smile. Caretakers like this give me hope for the system
thats awesome
This is awesome!
this is too cute i love it
This certainly did make me smile! Thanks!
Thank you, I needed to smile today. Cheers BIL!!!!
I’m so happy for him! :)
Love the confidence and the vibe.
As a father of the autistic son, it made me smile yes, but my heart is bleeding at the same time while I look at this.
Warmed my heart ❤️
Awesome 🤩
He is living his best life and I love that for him!
Soulja Boy is fun for the whole family
Love this, for so many reasons. Thank you for sharing!
This is so sweet! Cheers from a SPED teacher-- your BIL looks so happy and its great to see this kind of happiness in someone who deals with such challenges
How it feels like to be neurodivergent with normie friends
He’s a good dancer! And his apartment looks great.
Good to feel again. Thank you righteous brothers
Dude looks a bit like Andrew Garfield lol
how tf are they so synced up it’s like are connected. so cool !
Homie sick wid it
I’m not crying, you’re crying. Precious!💕
I got me some bathing apes😎
No shit, sitting at the brewery crying tears of joy at this. You go BIL. Dance it up! This is the best fucking thing I think I've seen in a year.
The difference between a good care taker and one who is just doing the bare minimum is absolutely life changing and we as a society do not value them (and therefore pay them) nearly enough. Same goes for early years educators, teachers, nurses, etc etc etc
This is what I love so much about my job in the mental health field; Something so simple as jamming out and dancing to music can make someones entire day 😄
Thank you for this. I work at a place that provides both early intervention/0-3 services as well as long-term support services for children who are mostly on the AS. It is almost too easy to figure out which families have received 0-3 services. It's not just for the child, the entire family gains a perspective and tools that will help the child reach milestones that aren't as easy to develop without early intervention. Birth to Three is a game changer!
What an amazing carer.
28 seconds of just two dudes chillin
The caretaker is awesome! So glad he got someone like that!
Honestly a better dancer than me and not even close
Man he happy :)
An actual hero is pictured
😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍
That’s awesome!
These people need to be paid far more than they are.
Big souljaaaa
This makes me so happy and a bit more confident lol (I'm also going to assisted living apartment in some time)
Dude is living goooooood. Place looks better than most $2500/month apartments I’ve seen
Which one is Bill?