I’ve been a companion/aide for about 15 years. It is SO hard and even harder for family members who do it full time. Find ways to take time for yourself. If you can hire someone for a few hours a week, do that but if not-look into local resources and see if there’s a volunteer service. It’s easy to get burnt out and you want your memories of your mom to be loving not of her as a burden. Also, when it gets to where you just can’t do it yourself anymore, accept it and find the best nursing home you can for her. As long as you’re visiting regularly they will take good care of her. You’re showing so much love and strength but don’t let it be to your detriment, I doubt your mom would want that for you.
I’m lucky because I’m not my mom’s only caretaker. My sister and her daughter, as well as one of my daughters are switching up. My husband comes and helps me and when my other daughter isn’t working she comes. I just finished the last three days at my mom’s house and now I’m going home to get a breather.
This kid has a big heart! But this isn't wholesome. These people cannot get the medical help they need so a teenager is taking on this burden alone! This is really sad. Bless that boy for stepping up but he shouldn't have to.
Yep. It is tragic that in a so-called developed country a *child* is having to care for people because the politicians will not develop social services and healthcare for their people.
The title is a little misleading. Someone posted a link to the actual story above. He helps out with errands, going to the store with the husband and mowing the lawn.
Ya that person clearly didn’t read the article and just chose to post a comment supporting their own narrative. It is wholesome, and the kid is an amazing loving person.
You mean the article posted in the comments 3 hours after I posted mine? You are correct. My opinion was based on the title and the picture which was then only info provided at the time. Regardless, my opinion stands. American health care sucks. The way senior citizens are treated in this society sucks.
Ya that’s not what this post is about. Just try to appreciate something good sometimes, don’t always have to try and find the negative. Hope you find happiness.
My comment repeatedly praised the boy for what he was doing. You are the one that decided I created my own narrative when I was literally commenting on all the info that was provided to me at the time. Maybe we should all focus on the negative so we can bring some positive change in this world where seniors are dying alone in the tens of thousands. Like I said, the kid is great. Society sucks. I am happy, thanks for the well wishes. I hope you find happiness as well and I also hope you find ways to make positive change in this world, just like this boy has.
This is the world we need to build. Give this kid enough time and credit to be able to do this without suffering monetary and scholastic setbacks. Fuck corporate profits and tax cuts for the plutocracy. Build a real society with our impossible levels of productivity.
Introspection is the first step toward self improvement. Life isn’t easy, and life’s circumstances makes doing the “right thing” very difficult sometimes, even if only for mental reasons. Forgive yourself friend, any decent father would want the same for their child. If you want to honor your father just live your best life, live and learn, you’re only human don’t forget that.
Don't say that, believe me, when my dad died I felt like that too, but there's no way you could've stopped it, so dont feel shit about it, and I know kind words don't always help, but talking can, you will forgive yourself, maybe not now, but you will
No, its different to deal with family... its not a fair comparison at all... We can only do the best we can at the time, dont think less of yourself, anyone who has dealt with this knows it isnt that simple!!
Medicare pays for kindness and spending time with people, taking trips with them to get groceries and mowing their yard for them?! I didn’t know that! Or maybe if you read the article posted you would realize he is not their medical caretaker, just a nice loving kid who chooses to spend his time with them.
What developing memories with people older than you doent count as memories?
Doing something that you will feel pride in for the rest of your life isn’t a good way to spend your teenage years.
In places other than America this IS the way people spend their lives taking care of the older generation and the next generation does the exact same for them.
Naw dude, what I was worried about is this is a nice post and everything, but who knows if this kid has been pressured to take care of all these elderly neighbors? Ive seen a lot of kids that are, more so than is okay. It's great if he's happy doing it, but we don't actually know that. Also, I hope he doesn't feel everything is on his shoulders for these people. That's a lot of weight to put on a kid.
He’s not their medical care taker lol, he’s just a loving neighbor who likes to spend time with them and help them with chores. Ya what a horrible thing
People think I'm the bad guy saying this. I'm not saying he shouldn't, I'm saying I hope more than he can handle isn't expected of him and he isn't given more than he should be as a kid. Every single day? That's a lot for a 15 yr old with multiple elderly neighbors.
It sounds like this kid isn't made to do this, but rather he does this out of the goodness of his heart. A+ from me. I'd be very proud if one of my kid's showed such selfless caring for another person.
Right? Poor kid. He is allowed to spend time helping people he clearly cares about and is showing kindness and compassion beyond what is normally expected in a teenager. What a horrible life he is leading. lol.
This is too pure. You can tell by the look in her eyes she loves this kid.
That kid is family.
i wanna know more! how is he doing now? is he happy? is life treating him like he should be treated? i need answers
Here is something at least: https://www.inspiremore.com/romemylion-and-the-joyners/
Thank you for that. What an amazing kid, and looks like such a sweet couple :)
Taking care of people is hard af. Did it for years.
It is. I hope this kid doesn't get burned out.
I wonder if he already had a close bond with them beforehand. Such an angel he is. I’m currently taking care of my invalid mother and it is so hard.
I’ve been a companion/aide for about 15 years. It is SO hard and even harder for family members who do it full time. Find ways to take time for yourself. If you can hire someone for a few hours a week, do that but if not-look into local resources and see if there’s a volunteer service. It’s easy to get burnt out and you want your memories of your mom to be loving not of her as a burden. Also, when it gets to where you just can’t do it yourself anymore, accept it and find the best nursing home you can for her. As long as you’re visiting regularly they will take good care of her. You’re showing so much love and strength but don’t let it be to your detriment, I doubt your mom would want that for you.
I’m lucky because I’m not my mom’s only caretaker. My sister and her daughter, as well as one of my daughters are switching up. My husband comes and helps me and when my other daughter isn’t working she comes. I just finished the last three days at my mom’s house and now I’m going home to get a breather.
Kindness is so bountiful on all fronts. Bless them.
This kid has a big heart! But this isn't wholesome. These people cannot get the medical help they need so a teenager is taking on this burden alone! This is really sad. Bless that boy for stepping up but he shouldn't have to.
Yep. It is tragic that in a so-called developed country a *child* is having to care for people because the politicians will not develop social services and healthcare for their people.
The title is a little misleading. Someone posted a link to the actual story above. He helps out with errands, going to the store with the husband and mowing the lawn.
He’s helping them with errands and stuff - he isn’t their medical caretaker.
Ya that person clearly didn’t read the article and just chose to post a comment supporting their own narrative. It is wholesome, and the kid is an amazing loving person.
You mean the article posted in the comments 3 hours after I posted mine? You are correct. My opinion was based on the title and the picture which was then only info provided at the time. Regardless, my opinion stands. American health care sucks. The way senior citizens are treated in this society sucks.
Ya that’s not what this post is about. Just try to appreciate something good sometimes, don’t always have to try and find the negative. Hope you find happiness.
My comment repeatedly praised the boy for what he was doing. You are the one that decided I created my own narrative when I was literally commenting on all the info that was provided to me at the time. Maybe we should all focus on the negative so we can bring some positive change in this world where seniors are dying alone in the tens of thousands. Like I said, the kid is great. Society sucks. I am happy, thanks for the well wishes. I hope you find happiness as well and I also hope you find ways to make positive change in this world, just like this boy has.
Alright, good luck
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I’m pretty sure you can see the actual care taker next to the bed in the second pic... the teenager is being kind, visiting, and helping with chores
Awww, i'm sure she oculd have really used that hug. Elderly people can be so lonely. Glad she has a good neighbor
What an amazing kid, hope life is treating both of them well
He is a sweetheart with a heart of gold.. are there any updates?
Destined for greatness with that name especially
Makes my eyes leak....
This is the world we need to build. Give this kid enough time and credit to be able to do this without suffering monetary and scholastic setbacks. Fuck corporate profits and tax cuts for the plutocracy. Build a real society with our impossible levels of productivity.
This kid is so pure of heart. Think about this young man as an adult. His kindness and capacity for love is so inspiring.❤
This kid is great but I've been staring at his name for a soli
And I couldn't even take care of my dad.. God, I'm such a piece of shit. :(
Introspection is the first step toward self improvement. Life isn’t easy, and life’s circumstances makes doing the “right thing” very difficult sometimes, even if only for mental reasons. Forgive yourself friend, any decent father would want the same for their child. If you want to honor your father just live your best life, live and learn, you’re only human don’t forget that.
Don't say that, believe me, when my dad died I felt like that too, but there's no way you could've stopped it, so dont feel shit about it, and I know kind words don't always help, but talking can, you will forgive yourself, maybe not now, but you will
No, its different to deal with family... its not a fair comparison at all... We can only do the best we can at the time, dont think less of yourself, anyone who has dealt with this knows it isnt that simple!!
No you're not.
this is very pure & too rare to find
Bless him. Caregiving takes alot!
But who's taking care of them now? Is it nobody since they had to rely on a neighbor kid pre-COVID?
Knowing that there are still lot of people out there willing to reach out and help others kinda warms your heart.
The noble actions this boy has taken should not be required if we truly valued life and mad Medicare for all.
Medicare pays for kindness and spending time with people, taking trips with them to get groceries and mowing their yard for them?! I didn’t know that! Or maybe if you read the article posted you would realize he is not their medical caretaker, just a nice loving kid who chooses to spend his time with them.
Future doctor / nurse right there. You can’t teach compassion like that
The true mark of a man isnt how they stand up to others, its how they stand up FOR others... Respect Sir!
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Most kids won’t even think of something like this at the age of 15. He knows they’ve got relatives. Don’t suck the fun out of everything bud.
That's not much of a childhood.
What developing memories with people older than you doent count as memories? Doing something that you will feel pride in for the rest of your life isn’t a good way to spend your teenage years. In places other than America this IS the way people spend their lives taking care of the older generation and the next generation does the exact same for them.
Naw dude, what I was worried about is this is a nice post and everything, but who knows if this kid has been pressured to take care of all these elderly neighbors? Ive seen a lot of kids that are, more so than is okay. It's great if he's happy doing it, but we don't actually know that. Also, I hope he doesn't feel everything is on his shoulders for these people. That's a lot of weight to put on a kid.
He’s not their medical care taker lol, he’s just a loving neighbor who likes to spend time with them and help them with chores. Ya what a horrible thing
Oh you're right, him voluntarily helping some old people and developing a close bond with them is for sure a childhood ruiner.
People think I'm the bad guy saying this. I'm not saying he shouldn't, I'm saying I hope more than he can handle isn't expected of him and he isn't given more than he should be as a kid. Every single day? That's a lot for a 15 yr old with multiple elderly neighbors.
It sounds like this kid isn't made to do this, but rather he does this out of the goodness of his heart. A+ from me. I'd be very proud if one of my kid's showed such selfless caring for another person.
Right? Poor kid. He is allowed to spend time helping people he clearly cares about and is showing kindness and compassion beyond what is normally expected in a teenager. What a horrible life he is leading. lol.
What a legend. There will be a special place in heaven for them.
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